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Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,

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Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Concer podcast. This is

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Speaker 1: the podcast where we ch have mindset, self development and

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Speaker 1: becoming your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,

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Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses

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Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo

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Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No

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Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, we're here to

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Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical

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Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's

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Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting life pass

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Speaker 1: you by, then you're in the right place.

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Speaker 2: Hello everyone, and welcome back to the podcast. Today's episode

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Speaker 2: is a follow up from last week's EP where we

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Speaker 2: spoke about the f boy theory. So if you haven't

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Speaker 2: listened to that, i'd highly suggest listening to that one

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Speaker 2: this episode, g is actually contradicting herself, so remember to

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Speaker 2: use some discernment when listening to this, but we do

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Speaker 2: think it'll be super valuable. Nonetheless, if you're someone who

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Speaker 2: are so excited. The whole team is so excited. We're

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Speaker 2: all going to be sharing what we're manifesting in the

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Speaker 2: Facebook group. It is the last live round we will

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Speaker 1: So in this episode, I know in a couple of

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Speaker 2: And the fact that it's almost like do they fill

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Speaker 2: I'm feeling x y Z when you talk about this topic,

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Speaker 2: what's going on? Like can we be a bit more positive?

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Speaker 2: I would want that conversation to be had to give

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Speaker 1: And I think that's what makes you like a more

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Speaker 1: the one, you're like, nah, you're out. Like again, I

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Speaker 1: think there is obviously a time and space, time and

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Speaker 1: space for that, and again use your discernment in this podcast,

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Speaker 1: but totally the harder option is having those hard conversations

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Speaker 1: and is making those moves. But like you said to you,

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Speaker 1: it's like, wow, what would you want? Especially if it

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Speaker 1: is like a good relationship and it is like a

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Speaker 1: good person and you know they've got a good heart.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, hope you enjoyed that thought provoking episode.

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Speaker 1: Bye Ron, Thank you so much for listening to another

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Speaker 1: episode of the Rise and Conquer Podcast. If you enjoyed

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