Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the
Speaker 1: land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen Bear region.
Speaker 1: We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land,
Speaker 1: sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders
Speaker 1: past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal
Speaker 1: and terrestrid Islander peoples today. Hello and welcome back to
Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for
Speaker 1: ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. For sure,
Speaker 1: Look Tim was a billionaire, I'd definitely stay at home
Speaker 1: with Ivy, let's be honest. But also I probably still
Speaker 1: do the pod as my little side hustle. Hello and
Speaker 1: welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast. It is your host,
Speaker 1: Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner, new mum all
Speaker 1: the things. Today, we have a very fun episode for
Speaker 1: you all. Your favorite Timothy, my husband, is on the show.
Speaker 1: We recorded this EPP a while back because honestly, you
Speaker 1: guys just had too many questions for him to cover
Speaker 1: about our relationship and our parenthood journey together. So we
Speaker 1: have divided it up and this one is just more
Speaker 1: of like a quick fire, A bit of fun and
Speaker 1: kind of like a hotline, but on a Tuesday, because
Speaker 1: we like to do things a bit crazy.
Speaker 2: Here it's December. What even is time?
Speaker 1: Actually, we're so rogan December and I love it. So
Speaker 1: today we answer all your quick fire questions, like Tim
Speaker 1: have an allowance? How can you communicate your frustrations in
Speaker 1: a relationship? I think that was about him being frustrated
Speaker 1: with me? And are you allowed to go to strip
Speaker 1: clubs or magic mic shows? Plus Tim goes into if
Speaker 1: we have any rules for each other? So much more.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of fun. You guys literally loved him
Speaker 1: and yeah, he's bringing the fun to this episode. But
Speaker 1: before we get into the episode, of course, attire a
Speaker 1: quick week update you guys, because you've had a busy weekend.
Speaker 2: I've had such a busy weekend. I don't think. I
Speaker 2: think I fit more into this weekend than I did
Speaker 2: in the last month. I just felt like a bit
Speaker 2: of a scatter brain. But I had so much fun.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 2: Bessie's twenty first, So we went to see the new
Speaker 2: Avatar had a birthday.
Speaker 1: It was amazing. Oh, I'm so excited to see it.
Speaker 2: Like I know it's Tuesday, and we're not supposed to
Speaker 2: give recommendations, but I.
Speaker 1: Highly recommend okay noted on the list.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then went to the it on Sunday, which
Speaker 2: was a bit of fun.
Speaker 1: You're a bit of a social butterfly. Your social bucket
Speaker 1: is very well full now it is.
Speaker 2: I need a bit of an introverted time now to
Speaker 2: reach out.
Speaker 1: And what perfect time with the holidays going on. What
Speaker 1: about you? How is your week?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: Good. I had a bit of an exciting shoot last
Speaker 1: week and the Thursday I flew to Sydney to do
Speaker 1: a shoot with a very it's a household brand. I
Speaker 1: can't say too much until the campaign comes out, but
Speaker 1: it's like it's somewhere me and Mum would have shopped
Speaker 1: my whole entire childhood. So oh, that's so beautiful. It
Speaker 1: was very like full circle moment and I shopped there
Speaker 1: for Ivy and the reason why it was so I
Speaker 1: guess like a bit of a milestone for me. Of
Speaker 1: course working with an amazing brand that like that, but
Speaker 1: also I think I'll go into this a bit more
Speaker 1: on another podcast, but it got to Ivy's first birthday
Speaker 1: and I think I really did you know I think
Speaker 1: I was actually holding my breath in regards to my
Speaker 1: old body coming back. And even though I am someone
Speaker 1: who've done I've done a lot of work on myself
Speaker 1: and I've done a lot of work with my self
Speaker 1: worth and you know, not falling into the trap of
Speaker 1: postpartum bounce back or anything like that. But it kind
Speaker 1: of dawned to me on her first birthday of being like, oh,
Speaker 1: I think I have you know, kind of fallen into it,
Speaker 1: and then having that realization and then an opportunity like
Speaker 1: this coming up where I would be half naked shooting
Speaker 1: and that being seen a lot, and it was like
Speaker 1: kind of this moment of I couldn't think of fucking
Speaker 1: anything worse because of how I feel about myself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that's when I knew I had to do it.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I love that and I just had
Speaker 1: to be like, no, fuck it, I need to you know,
Speaker 1: I need to embrace exactly who I am at at
Speaker 1: the moment. I need to embrace my body. I need
Speaker 1: to stop like you know, hiding it and like face
Speaker 1: face it full on. And so I did it by
Speaker 1: like doing something that scared the shit out of me,
Speaker 1: and it was super liberating.
Speaker 2: I love that so much.
Speaker 1: It was so like I think it was, yeah, like
Speaker 1: it happened all in like a big you know, realization
Speaker 1: and yeah doing it, Like I just feel incredibly proud
Speaker 1: of myself, and I'm like, yeah, I just feel like
Speaker 1: I've tackled you know, that sort of I don't want
Speaker 1: to say negative voice, but yeah, that sort of you know,
Speaker 1: negative voice that was coming up about my body and
Speaker 1: you know, bouncing back and that sort of thing. So
Speaker 1: I feel incredibly proud and I cannot wait for you
Speaker 1: guys to see the campaign. And it was just like
Speaker 1: a cool opportunity, a cool thing to you know, tick
Speaker 1: off the list.
Speaker 2: That's so exciting and I can't wait for us to
Speaker 2: a whole podcast episode and well what you can speak.
Speaker 1: About it, we will. But yeah, so that happened. I
Speaker 1: was very drained from that. I had a very chill weekend.
Speaker 1: I saw I saw a girlfriend, I got a massage,
Speaker 1: a little family time. So it was really really beautiful.
Speaker 1: But yeah, in saying that, let's get into the show.
Speaker 2: Okay, cool, So our first quick fire question is number one.
Speaker 2: If Tim was the breadwinner, would Georgie have stayed been
Speaker 2: the stay at home parent? Or has this always been
Speaker 2: the plan regardless of earning capacity.
Speaker 3: I would I would be probably at work if I
Speaker 3: was a breadwinner, like, I'd just be at work, and
Speaker 3: then you'd be a mum at home. But so weird
Speaker 3: to think about.
Speaker 1: Well, I know, but we've always spoken about me going
Speaker 1: back to work. I do sometimes have fantasies of being
Speaker 1: a stay at home mum. And I'm like, if I
Speaker 1: was married to like.
Speaker 3: Like her prince, a bazillionaire, not only then and I
Speaker 3: wouldn't have to do anything, and then I have a
Speaker 3: babysit all the time, so I wouldn't be looking.
Speaker 1: Up for I'd probably go work. I think literally from
Speaker 1: the start, we've always had the conversation, and Tim has
Speaker 1: always been such a like you've always wanted to be
Speaker 1: a dad. Yeah, sure, look Tim was a billionaire. I
Speaker 1: definitely stay at home with Ivy, let's be honest. But
Speaker 1: also I probably still do the potty as my little
Speaker 1: side hustle. Yeah, it would just be a hobby.
Speaker 3: You need to do something.
Speaker 1: I just I love what I do. I love I
Speaker 1: love you know, doing things.
Speaker 2: Next question, does Tim get an allowance each week or
Speaker 2: are all cards shared.
Speaker 3: So it's exactly. A funny conversation and topic, isn't it. Well, Like,
Speaker 3: so my mom and dad have like separate money. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so that's how I was brought up. So I was like,
Speaker 3: everything like.
Speaker 1: Separate right right, where's my parents? Everything has shed?
Speaker 3: Everything is together. But I'm like I'm happy. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: do get an allowance each week, but it's only just
Speaker 3: happened because I just try to, like, say a bit
Speaker 3: of money because.
Speaker 1: Get an allowance. We both get an allowance and it's
Speaker 1: the same amount of money. Yeah, so we are trying
Speaker 1: to budget right now. Previously we've never budgeted and it's
Speaker 1: just we have one we both have cards from the
Speaker 1: same account, and Tim just bought whatever he wanted at
Speaker 1: any time.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't say whatever I wanted, you did what you
Speaker 3: bought him rogue thing.
Speaker 2: That was just like you didn't ask, you just went
Speaker 2: you did it.
Speaker 3: Oh jeez, I don't think maybe like a new golf
Speaker 3: club or something. It's like a thousand.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is like all one golf club, one golf
Speaker 1: club and one thousand dollars And I just like look
Speaker 1: at my card and I'm like, what the.
Speaker 3: Just claiming on tax? We cart?
Speaker 2: Oh my god?
Speaker 1: Before what has recently happened because I have our financial
Speaker 1: advisor was like, you guys need a budget. We had
Speaker 1: two cards, one account, Tim bought whatever he wanted. Now
Speaker 1: we both have allowances where we get a set money
Speaker 1: deposited every single week. That is the same. And then
Speaker 1: there's also so we have separate cards where it's Tim's money,
Speaker 1: my money, and then we have a family card. And
Speaker 1: so the just is this of the allowance that we
Speaker 1: have that is the same is like money where we
Speaker 1: do whatever we want with it, where it's like I
Speaker 1: don't know what Tim does with it. He doesn't know
Speaker 1: what I do in it, and we don't care. It's
Speaker 1: your fun money. Yeah, And then we had.
Speaker 3: But we like we would like we've got the same
Speaker 3: app like we can all see can actually see.
Speaker 1: What it looks like at the strippers or something. We'll
Speaker 1: get into that letter. And then we have a family card,
Speaker 1: which is like groceries bills, a bill's account. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what we do. But in saying that, Tim will
Speaker 1: often be like, there's no money in the family card
Speaker 1: and we'll just use another card because there's numerous guards.
Speaker 3: But we're definitely we're.
Speaker 1: Trying to be better better. Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2: Number Three. Do you have times and this one's for
Speaker 2: Tim Do you ever have times where you'd rather be
Speaker 2: the working parent?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Remember sometimes I I'm like, I just want to get
Speaker 3: back to work. Like even the other day when I
Speaker 3: was helping Dan all day and Mum and Dad had
Speaker 3: IVY because I had to help him on our renovations
Speaker 3: on our house. I finished the day and I was
Speaker 3: like I could keep going. I'm good to go, Like
Speaker 3: I wasn't drained, and I was just like wow, like
Speaker 3: this is what I used to feel like even after work,
Speaker 3: but like I don't Yeah, I don't know, so much
Speaker 3: has changed.
Speaker 1: Like now, so is like what you're probably not understanding
Speaker 1: is you would then if we both worked, you would
Speaker 1: work and then you would come home and we'd both
Speaker 1: do IVY, whereas I do majority of IVY when I
Speaker 1: come home. So you'd be pretty exhausted if you were
Speaker 1: doing physical labor all day out.
Speaker 3: But then like, but then I'd be doing like gym
Speaker 3: as well, Like I have him in the gym in
Speaker 3: a little while now, but like you get your gym
Speaker 3: in the.
Speaker 1: Morning and then get up and do gym too, because
Speaker 1: IVY doesn't wake up till.
Speaker 3: Six point thirty in the morning. I just can't do it.
Speaker 1: He just he wakes up the same time as me,
Speaker 1: but he just sits on his phone.
Speaker 3: I don't research.
Speaker 1: That's still on your phone. Research?
Speaker 3: What? Just like things at the minute, like what I read,
Speaker 3: research and had to respray roof because we go to
Speaker 3: respray and just like.
Speaker 1: That, it's just quiet time. In saying that, though I
Speaker 1: often fanasize about being a state home mum.
Speaker 2: I'll go back to work lives for a week.
Speaker 1: It's like Tims on the podcast. Tim's on My Stories.
Speaker 3: Guys, wear my pedal and press in the dress. This
Speaker 3: is my makeup tutorial.
Speaker 1: Quick keep.
Speaker 2: Next question, best and worst thing state home?
Speaker 1: Shut the funk up?
Speaker 3: What was the question? Oh?
Speaker 1: Sorry?
Speaker 2: Best and worst than you're being a stay at home parents.
Speaker 1: Best thing is like most afternoons they come, they're sitting
Speaker 1: on the couch watching TV.
Speaker 3: Together.
Speaker 1: That you mean we're talking about fun things. I watch
Speaker 1: her grow up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, don't put what Yeah, hanging out with her
Speaker 3: all day is pretty fun and just mucking around.
Speaker 1: We just muck around all the time, feeding her all
Speaker 1: the time. She just eats continuously. Yeah, and they just
Speaker 1: have snacks all day and worse.
Speaker 3: Worst thing would be like being in charge of another
Speaker 3: small human. It's like it's.
Speaker 1: Exhausting.
Speaker 3: It's exhausting.
Speaker 2: Number five thoughts on either spouse going to strip clubs,
Speaker 2: slash magic mic events for women.
Speaker 3: I couldn't care. Like maybe back in the day, I
Speaker 3: would be like, what do you want to go? But
Speaker 3: like now I'm just like I feel.
Speaker 1: Like even back in the day, you don't lie like.
Speaker 3: You do you Like I feel like we wouldn't you can't.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, don't you think It's like the whole
Speaker 3: thing is like a bit like why would you want
Speaker 3: it anyway?
Speaker 1: Anyway, So how I feel about this is no, you're
Speaker 1: not going to strip club, but.
Speaker 3: They're like I don't. I don't like to feel I just.
Speaker 1: Be like no. But in saying that, like I obviously
Speaker 1: know you go to Bucks and you know we all
Speaker 1: know what happens at Barks, and it's like I don't
Speaker 1: love it. But also I'm not gonna say you can't
Speaker 1: go to all Bucks, just like I go to Hens,
Speaker 1: and because it's.
Speaker 3: Like we like not like pretty good. I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like there's no, there's no if it.
Speaker 1: Was like a Wednesday afternoon and Tim's going to a
Speaker 1: strip club or I'm like, yeah, I think it's like
Speaker 1: open communication. If anything was to happen, it's like you've
Speaker 1: just got to have that trust and open communication, of
Speaker 1: which it wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, next question, how can you better communicate and deal
Speaker 2: with frustration? For example, this lady's partner hasn't done something
Speaker 2: that she would do without thinking, for example, cleaning up
Speaker 2: the kitchen after making a mess folding clothes straight away.
Speaker 2: His response is always I'll do it later, which half
Speaker 2: the time turns into me doing it three days later.
Speaker 2: I love him, but man, he does my head in.
Speaker 3: Me.
Speaker 1: It's literally so funny because this is me and Tim's like,
Speaker 1: just do the dishes now, and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like ten years doing this and I've just given up.
Speaker 3: I'll just do it and I don't win.
Speaker 1: You've just accepted it.
Speaker 3: I've just accepted it and just like it's all good.
Speaker 1: This is my opinion.
Speaker 3: But like, so I've accepted it because it's like George
Speaker 3: is so busy, and like, I get it that you're
Speaker 3: always doing stuff, but if like the if he's like
Speaker 3: just being slack and he's at the pub instead of
Speaker 3: folding the clothes or doing whatever that she's us and
Speaker 3: that's ship.
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like me and Tim are
Speaker 1: quite equal where you know, I work all day and
Speaker 1: then I come home and I, you know, do Ivy
Speaker 1: in the afternoon because I want to. And Tim obviously
Speaker 1: has Ivy all day and he still helps with Ivy
Speaker 1: in the afternoon. Like we're pretty equal on that sort
Speaker 1: of stuff. But in saying that, he's definitely the cleaner one.
Speaker 1: I have the view of you have dinner, you make dinner,
Speaker 1: you eat dinner, and then you clean on clean up after.
Speaker 1: Tim has the view that you make dinner, you clean up,
Speaker 1: and then you go have dinner, even if it's cold.
Speaker 3: Only sometimes we have used to be pretty bad, but
Speaker 3: now I'm like I can ever. I'm just like used
Speaker 3: to have like such an O C D think about
Speaker 3: him like I'm gotten a lot more. Yeah, chill, I
Speaker 3: Reckon tell us humans in general become a lot more
Speaker 3: relaxed when they have a kid. Well, not relaxed, but
Speaker 3: in a way it's like it's more like it's.
Speaker 1: Your control that you kind of just get.
Speaker 3: Before Ivy, I was like's going to be like this
Speaker 3: because Ivy is like such a whirlwind. It's like now
Speaker 3: it's like, oh, I'm just tak care like whatever.
Speaker 1: That's like sometimes I see Tim so Ivy has this
Speaker 1: little like a bunch of toys in our lounge room,
Speaker 1: so she plays with toys while we're watching TV or something,
Speaker 1: and I see Tim like clean it up most now,
Speaker 1: and I just think, but she's just going to come
Speaker 1: and play with it tomorrow. But little stuff like that.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, it doesn't bother me. If it bothers you,
Speaker 1: you clean it up?
Speaker 2: Do you mean?
Speaker 1: Otherwise? I'm not going to sit there and pack away
Speaker 1: toys that she's just going to get out tomorrow unless
Speaker 1: there's visitors coming over and then I'll be like clean
Speaker 1: and Tim's like what do you? But yeah, look I
Speaker 1: can be a little bit bad with cleaning things up,
Speaker 1: but I have other great traits. This person, what's your advice?
Speaker 1: Communication Like, be like this really bothers me? Like if
Speaker 1: you said that to me, and you're like, I will
Speaker 1: divorce you if you don't start cleaning up, I'm obviously gonna.
Speaker 3: I think that's a bit like that's pretty you shouldn't
Speaker 3: have to come to that conversation though, Like the other
Speaker 3: person should respect you enough to be like, all right,
Speaker 3: I'll just pick up the act a little bit more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like Tim, I'm so busy and can you
Speaker 1: clean up my plate?
Speaker 2: Next question, what are some ways to reconnect if you're
Speaker 2: feeling distant from each other?
Speaker 3: Put in.
Speaker 2: That's a good quick it you go first, There, you
Speaker 2: go first.
Speaker 1: I think just prioritizing time together. So I will often
Speaker 1: have this dilemma where I'm in a huff and a
Speaker 1: puff and I'm like, I just don't feel connected to
Speaker 1: you in terms like rolls his eyes. And then we're like, okay,
Speaker 1: well this weekend, why don't we have a beach day together?
Speaker 1: You know obviously with Ivy or you know, I'll be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I really want to go see this new movie, like
Speaker 1: let's go have a date night, or you know, it's
Speaker 1: just prioritizing time together and deciding that it's just as
Speaker 1: as important as other things like your child or your career.
Speaker 3: MM. Love that. But if like it even like little
Speaker 3: spontaneous like gifts and stuff, that's quite sweet as well.
Speaker 1: When do you ever get me spontaneous gifts? Actually you
Speaker 1: do bring home treats.
Speaker 3: Yes, little things like that he brought the other day.
Speaker 1: He's like.
Speaker 3: It was like fresh cinnamon.
Speaker 1: Donuts, and he's like, I've got you a tree.
Speaker 3: Just like just like little last little things like that.
Speaker 1: You know, Yeah, I guess that's a good thing of
Speaker 1: like putting yourself in Well, it's even like remember when
Speaker 1: we did the love language quiz and I found out
Speaker 1: like yours just like physical touch and like affirmations. And
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've noticed, but I've been like
Speaker 1: a bit more prominent of like giving you a little
Speaker 1: stroke on the shoulder.
Speaker 3: Good morning. Then read your book.
Speaker 1: I love a good book reading. I would take the
Speaker 1: love language test and then boast, pry and do you love.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be a good thing. That's probably the
Speaker 3: best idea.
Speaker 2: Like yeah, the next question, do you have any rules
Speaker 2: for each other, like, for example, like no strip clubs
Speaker 2: or no friends of the opposite gender, stuff like that.
Speaker 3: There's no rules really, just behave. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think like there's no actual strict rules in our relationship.
Speaker 1: I think, you know, we kind of know the lines
Speaker 1: of things. I think with any relationship, it's kind of like,
Speaker 1: you know, treat the person how you would want to
Speaker 1: be treated.
Speaker 3: Probably like the biggest rule would be like no spontaneous
Speaker 3: things cannot be spontaneous, more like without each other.
Speaker 1: Glad our biggest like a big fight that you know
Speaker 1: we've had this year. The one that I can remember
Speaker 1: is when Tim came home and was like, I'm going
Speaker 1: out tonight, and it it wasn't so much him going out,
Speaker 1: but I was like, well, it would have been nice
Speaker 1: to know because I would have invited a girlfriend around
Speaker 1: and we could have a wine with our babies, or
Speaker 1: I would have planned something in this time. Yeah, Or
Speaker 1: it's just because I.
Speaker 3: Changed my mind about it. It wasn't it. It was like
Speaker 3: I wasn't going. I'm like, I am going, and then
Speaker 3: at last minute I was like, no, I'm going to go.
Speaker 3: And George was stuck with Ivy sort of thing.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, but it's not about being
Speaker 1: stuck with Ivy. It's about me mentally going, Okay, I've
Speaker 1: got tonight with Ivy, so you know, on the way home,
Speaker 1: I'll grab some takeout and you know, it's just I'm
Speaker 1: a control freak, so I've got to mentally prepare.
Speaker 3: Anyway because I'm the opposite.
Speaker 1: And let's just put it on record, literally this whole
Speaker 1: week I said, I know you've got this thing on Friday.
Speaker 1: That's all good, You've just got to tell me because
Speaker 1: I was planning my weekend and the whole week he goes, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't want to go. I do not. It was
Speaker 1: really stressed, he does not want to go, and I went, okay,
Speaker 1: planning my weekend, and then literally I got home and
Speaker 1: he's like, I'm going.
Speaker 3: Oh, so excellent, I'm going to go.
Speaker 1: And we had the biggest fire relationship because I just
Speaker 1: so like, for me, that's so disrespectful to my time,
Speaker 1: because I did not have any thoughts about me in
Speaker 1: this decision. You went an act and like you have
Speaker 1: no responsibilities, but you do, and it's called Ivy and
Speaker 1: it's called Georgie. And I think Tim obviously didn't realize that.
Speaker 1: And then after that he was like, I.
Speaker 3: Guess I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: So yeah, we just plan things and communication awesome.
Speaker 2: Our next question are you going to be the parent
Speaker 2: that drives Ivy to the house party and make sure
Speaker 2: she's safe, or are you going to be the parent
Speaker 2: that doesn't want to know, that doesn't want to know,
Speaker 2: but like won't let her go to parties.
Speaker 3: Because then I feel like she'll be like you and
Speaker 3: just rebel and like be like I'm sleeping my but
Speaker 3: my best friends the house, but then they just sneak
Speaker 3: out go to the party and.
Speaker 1: A boy's car, an older person's car, so bad. So
Speaker 1: I mean to spoken about this, but we both were
Speaker 1: quite rebel not rebell yus, but we just we did
Speaker 1: things quite early on, like we were both you know,
Speaker 1: happy to It was more me actually was a sweet little.
Speaker 3: Boy, not like the whole rebelling thing where it's like
Speaker 3: you won't have to do this so strictly when you'd
Speaker 3: be like, I just want to do it. So they're
Speaker 3: like almost.
Speaker 1: And this is probably the way we have no rules
Speaker 1: because he literally has the personality if I tell him
Speaker 1: he can't do something, he wants to do it, just
Speaker 1: tell me you can't do anything because there's just no point.
Speaker 3: Basically the same thing like with parties, mum and day,
Speaker 3: like you're going, I'm like, okay, let's go to sleep
Speaker 3: from my mate's place, and then we're just the bikes there.
Speaker 1: I'm of the opinion too of like my childhood was
Speaker 1: the same where I then just had to lie and
Speaker 1: sneak out and I didn't have that sense of, you know,
Speaker 1: trust with my parents because I just felt like I
Speaker 1: got no no trust. So I was like, well fuck
Speaker 1: you o'yeah what I want and I don't want that
Speaker 1: with Ivy. I kind of want to meet in the
Speaker 1: middle where it's like, Okay, you want to do things.
Speaker 1: I'm not really keen on you going to this random
Speaker 1: ass party from this grade twelve, but I'll drive you
Speaker 1: there and i'll pick you up. Make good choices, call
Speaker 1: me if you need anything.
Speaker 3: I think trust would be the biggest thing, because like
Speaker 3: the whole like lying. I feel like I lied to
Speaker 3: my parents a lot. Yeah, and you feel guilty. I
Speaker 3: didn't want to have a lot of my parents.
Speaker 1: I kind of like, I I want to be Ivy's
Speaker 1: friend and I want to guide her and I want
Speaker 1: to help her. And it's interesting because my parents have
Speaker 1: always said you can't be your child's friend. That's not
Speaker 1: the relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're a parent, not a friend kind of thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm like, so I feel like you can
Speaker 3: be both. Yeah, you can definitely be I.
Speaker 1: Feel like I want, Yeah, I want to be both,
Speaker 1: and I want to I want her to come to
Speaker 1: me and be like, you know, this is happening in
Speaker 1: my life. My friends have treated me like this. What
Speaker 1: would you do not? Oh, I can't talk to mum.
Speaker 2: About this because she'll get mad at me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I want for the relation. And I
Speaker 1: feel like you're on the same page. So let it
Speaker 1: go to the party.
Speaker 2: Not fun.
Speaker 1: Here's a cruiser.
Speaker 2: Our next question, how do you feel about screen time
Speaker 2: for Ivy?
Speaker 3: Oh this is a good question. Oh man, I don't know. Hey,
Speaker 3: like she's she already has like like she'll pick this
Speaker 3: up and be like I loved it. And it's because
Speaker 3: it does shove him.
Speaker 1: Every time I come home, you're watching TV of Ivy.
Speaker 1: TV is screen time I get literally every time I
Speaker 1: come home, and then as soon as you bring her
Speaker 1: up in the morning, you put the TV on. So
Speaker 1: this is something you need to think about. I am
Speaker 1: an opinion of I enjoy it. Like if I'm home
Speaker 1: alone with Ivy, I don't put it on unless for example, well, no,
Speaker 1: not so much feeding her because I then turn it
Speaker 1: off and I like to take her outside because I
Speaker 1: don't agree she should be watching TV when she's eating,
Speaker 1: because then she can't understand if she's full, because you know,
Speaker 1: when you're in front of the TV and you just
Speaker 1: keep eating because you're watching something anyway. So what I
Speaker 1: do is if I need to distract her because I'm
Speaker 1: making food or I need to make myself breakfast, that's
Speaker 1: when I will use the TV.
Speaker 2: As a distraction or like a time little saver.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because like Tim says, you put her down and
Speaker 1: she cries. She wants that with you know you, and
Speaker 1: so I will use that. But then I'll try and like,
Speaker 1: you know, take her outside to eat and that sort
Speaker 1: of thing.
Speaker 3: And Tim, it's the biggest lie ever, what are you
Speaker 3: talking about? You never take her outside for the TV.
Speaker 1: You're not there, I'm talking about it's just me and Ivy.
Speaker 1: But I think I don't know.
Speaker 3: She gets older obviously.
Speaker 1: Yeah, how are you going to feel about it? It's
Speaker 1: kind of hard because like screen time's my job. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I can't be like, no, you can't have screen time,
Speaker 1: but I'll be here. I think I do want to
Speaker 1: be very conscious about how much me and Tim are
Speaker 1: on our phone when we're with IP two.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like I try to just yeah, even though
Speaker 3: the TV is and I'll still be like playing with
Speaker 3: her and she only be watching, Like she's almost like
Speaker 3: on the background, but she'll be playing with her toys
Speaker 3: or a doll or like this or that. But then
Speaker 3: sometimes she will just be like she literally goes she
Speaker 3: knows her like favorite like song, and it'll come on.
Speaker 3: She'll be like over there and she'll be like she'd
Speaker 3: be like, watched the TV's hilarious.
Speaker 2: What's her favorite song?
Speaker 1: She's had the same favorite.
Speaker 3: Song since the Muppets.
Speaker 1: Now she loves a good muppet, loves the bullets. It's
Speaker 1: called Simple Songs on New Gym and it's a little
Speaker 1: muppet Red Knight, Green Night.
Speaker 2: Our next question, what are you going to do when
Speaker 2: Ivy goes on her first date?
Speaker 3: Oh? Good question? You know what's that movie? Is it?
Speaker 1: Tim?
Speaker 3: What's that movie? Anyway? Yeah?
Speaker 1: What what movie?
Speaker 3: Hell? Like the dads are like they're anyway, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I'll be sweet, I reckon. I'll just be like it
Speaker 3: is what it is. It's that time of their life.
Speaker 3: She's developing.
Speaker 1: How old is she? No, like like first actual proper
Speaker 1: date and interesting.
Speaker 3: I don't know, it's like it's just a given note
Speaker 3: Like I'm not going to be you know, yeah.
Speaker 1: First love such like a weird time.
Speaker 3: But like the breakup is the hardest thing. I think,
Speaker 3: like the first date will be not as hard.
Speaker 1: You really feel.
Speaker 3: Who's you know, unless it's your mum and dad like
Speaker 3: no one.
Speaker 1: My parents have been together since I was sixteenth.
Speaker 3: Ridiculous, Like the hardest thing would be to see her
Speaker 3: through the breakup.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I hope we parent well enough that
Speaker 1: she knows her worth, that she is able to see
Speaker 1: you know, friends or people around her who treat her well,
Speaker 1: who she then can, like you know, navigate that situation.
Speaker 1: I just hope we give her those tools previous to
Speaker 1: those situations. So of course she's going to make her
Speaker 1: own mistake and do her own thing. But she, like
Speaker 1: you know, has a real sense of self and an
Speaker 1: inner compass. That's what I hope for her.
Speaker 3: I love that answer.
Speaker 2: I love it. Next question, best and worst gift you've
Speaker 2: given each other? Tim you go.
Speaker 1: First, Tim stopped picking your nails.
Speaker 3: Worst gift I've probably ever given you is I think
Speaker 3: I got excited when I proposed to George. No, when
Speaker 3: when I bought the ring for George and then Craig,
Speaker 3: Me and Craig picked the ring, and then we went
Speaker 3: out and went to the went to the shops and
Speaker 3: then he's like, oh, is he needs a new jumper
Speaker 3: because it.
Speaker 1: Was remember this?
Speaker 3: And then he's like, oh, she loves like oversized jumpers
Speaker 3: and he's like George one of love on two. I'm excited,
Speaker 3: and I was like, yeah, I'll get one.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. It was like a two for one
Speaker 1: deals and.
Speaker 3: I brought home just like jumper and she's like what
Speaker 3: the fuck is that? I'm never gonna wear that thing?
Speaker 1: But it's like he had picked something that I had
Speaker 1: never shown interest in or.
Speaker 3: Worn in my life, big oversized.
Speaker 1: He bought it because like someone else's girlfriend liked it.
Speaker 1: I thought it Where was the stupid ass?
Speaker 2: And what's the best gift?
Speaker 1: Also, that's also another worst GIFs you've ever gotten? Me
Speaker 1: just put on a record. This one time he had
Speaker 1: left getting a Christmas present for me till the last minute,
Speaker 1: went to some chemists and like got me a perfume,
Speaker 1: but it didn't have the bigger size, so he just
Speaker 1: got me two smaller perfumes that were the same And
Speaker 1: I was.
Speaker 2: Like, what is this?
Speaker 1: What is this? Do you mean? Like such a little
Speaker 1: CURTI mil such little effort that he bought two thirty
Speaker 1: mil perfumes.
Speaker 3: You know what I did maybe effort of going to
Speaker 3: the chemist, see.
Speaker 1: The chemist Temaya. That was early on in our relationship,
Speaker 1: and I had to explain to him that that wasn't
Speaker 1: enough for me.
Speaker 2: That'ous And then he learned, Georgie, what's the worst?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: What's the worst gift I've given you? Like, maybe just
Speaker 1: not getting you a gift.
Speaker 3: You just wouldn't get me a gift.
Speaker 1: Well, sometimes we're like, should we just not do gifts
Speaker 1: for certain things? Saving money?
Speaker 3: He bought me a random Sam Smith ticket.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I bought Sam Smith tickets cost me so
Speaker 1: much money because he said he likes Sam.
Speaker 3: Smith like Spotify for a week.
Speaker 1: I misread the situation. That's like a nice thought still
Speaker 1: and he was like, and so I had to sell them.
Speaker 3: No, I'm going to do a Sam Smith concert. I
Speaker 3: don't like him that much.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I know I misread the situation. So what's the
Speaker 1: best gift I've given you? She was not a gift
Speaker 1: to you for fighter jet?
Speaker 3: Yeah that is that is the best gift. But I
Speaker 3: guess I've used a gift but like not really gifts.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so fucking sweet, Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3: I probably would have to say it probably topped it,
Speaker 3: hasn't it? Fire Jet? Yes, the fier Jet experience we
Speaker 3: just had last week so good. And then what's the
Speaker 3: best gift I've ever given you?
Speaker 1: Probably Bear?
Speaker 3: I was going to say Bear. Then I was going
Speaker 3: to say, like, your cardier, oh, your.
Speaker 1: Cardia bracelet, and then also my new engagement ring, and
Speaker 1: what were they sing?
Speaker 3: Bear? That I was going to say Bear, that's probably so.
Speaker 1: Bear was my birthday present when we had been dating
Speaker 1: for six months. But dog dog, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Dog never stuck with him.
Speaker 1: Dog we still got a sweet little dog. We literally
Speaker 1: weren't living together, so broke worked out though. Yeah, Cardia
Speaker 1: bracelet was my twenty six birthday. And I think the
Speaker 1: reason why that was such a good gift is because
Speaker 1: I'm someone who you can't really pull a surprise on me.
Speaker 1: Let's be honest, and I have so much control. I
Speaker 1: don't like surprises. But he had kind of yeah, he
Speaker 1: ages I'd wanted it for ages, years and years, and
Speaker 1: then he had kind of put like thoughts that he
Speaker 1: wasn't He's like I thought he was getting me a
Speaker 1: shit gift because he kind of said what it was,
Speaker 1: and I was like hinted to what it was, and
Speaker 1: I thought, oh my god, he's like not even trying
Speaker 1: at all. So I was like a bit off him.
Speaker 1: And then he put me and I was like, you sneaky.
Speaker 3: Even like filmed it and everything. I know.
Speaker 1: I just I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 3: Probably Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then for my twenty seventh, Tim got my engagement ring.
Speaker 1: Well it's a whole new one. So the whole story
Speaker 1: was he said, I used to wear silver. My old
Speaker 1: ring was in silver white gold, sorry, and then I
Speaker 1: now just wear all gold. So I was like, I
Speaker 1: want to get my ring remade in gold so it
Speaker 1: suits my jewelry. Yeah, and so he was like I'll
Speaker 1: handle it and I'll do it. And when we went
Speaker 1: to a store in Sydney, I tried on because my
Speaker 1: old ring was a square, a princess cut sorry, and
Speaker 1: I tried on an oval and I was like my
Speaker 1: dream ring blah blah blah. Anyway, he bought and then
Speaker 1: just surprised me.
Speaker 3: So sweet.
Speaker 1: So yeah, pretty good gifts.
Speaker 3: I'm actually a gift giver.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's very thoughtful and also surprising even though I
Speaker 1: had surpridus.
Speaker 2: And then next question, do you guys have an equal, say,
Speaker 2: when it comes.
Speaker 3: To money, that was a good question.
Speaker 2: What like spending it?
Speaker 1: He just goes and get a gold a thousand dollars.
Speaker 3: Anything over five hundred we have to confirm.
Speaker 1: Yeah, anything over five hundred we have to have a discussion.
Speaker 3: And I feel like, what what do you want this for? Yeah,
Speaker 3: and then you're generally like I wouldn't even say, oh,
Speaker 3: you can't get it. You just gonna get it anyway.
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 1: But I'm not that rogue. I never kind of go
Speaker 1: and buy myself random thing. So it's always for a reason.
Speaker 3: Like like a like a like a milestone or something
Speaker 3: like a milestone.
Speaker 1: But I feel like it's very you know, recently we've
Speaker 1: done Renault's on the House, and it's a conversation that
Speaker 1: we both have to agree or get a quote, which
Speaker 1: Tim sometimes doesn't do. But that's a whole lot of conversation.
Speaker 1: But generally, yes, we're going to have the discussion about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you would.
Speaker 3: Hope sneak it on the bank account speeding in the Bahamas.
Speaker 2: Next question, has your success as a couple impacted any
Speaker 2: of the relationships in your life, as in not with
Speaker 2: each other, but like have friends been nice? People tried
Speaker 2: to be your friend and all that stuff.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, not really hate.
Speaker 1: We've kind of had the same friends since we.
Speaker 3: Everyone's so we're used to it all brilliantly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like we've fallen out with anyone.
Speaker 3: But I guess like if I, like, say, maybe before
Speaker 3: we started Naked Harvest and then you were still quite
Speaker 3: beyond social media and I like meeting you guys, they'd
Speaker 3: be like your George Stephenson's husband, like, yeah, he's like
Speaker 3: your famous man. My missus loves your missus. That's what
Speaker 3: the whole conversation would be like all the time. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 3: cool man, Like every time he was you're pretty normal,
Speaker 3: Like yeah, pretty normal. Hate just a normal guy doing
Speaker 3: my thing.
Speaker 1: That is so funny. Yeah, Like I don't think.
Speaker 3: So, but yeah, not really hate. And like we haven't
Speaker 3: really had people like to been like trying to Like,
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 1: Think we've changed that much as people, so that might
Speaker 1: be you know, a factor too. Also, we don't have
Speaker 1: a lot of time for friends. We just want enough
Speaker 1: time for each other.
Speaker 3: We don't actually get friends.
Speaker 2: And our lucky last question was did you guys move
Speaker 2: out together young and were there any issues transitioning into
Speaker 2: adulthood together.
Speaker 3: No, not at all. Guys, is a sneak into Georgie's room?
Speaker 3: Dim didn't. I I was so young when we weren't
Speaker 3: allowed to.
Speaker 1: I hope I'm a dad. Don't listen to this episode
Speaker 1: when we very first started dating, I I knew what
Speaker 1: was going on. I was seventeen, and it was a
Speaker 1: real no boys in your bed?
Speaker 2: And how old are you?
Speaker 1: Twenty twenty one?
Speaker 3: Twenty oh, twenty one, twenty one?
Speaker 1: You were twenty one, that's disgusting. And Tim would like
Speaker 1: be sleeping in the other room and then he'd sneak
Speaker 1: in my room, and.
Speaker 3: Then we got to where they were just like, well.
Speaker 1: No, I turned eighteen. Yeah, and I don't know, you
Speaker 1: kind of just started sleeping in there, do you.
Speaker 2: I moved in And when did you move out together?
Speaker 1: When I was nineteen oh?
Speaker 3: So pretty quickly, so we were that west End.
Speaker 1: Yeah, moved out to West End and apartment with another couple.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't really remember any teething issues
Speaker 1: of moving out together, do you.
Speaker 3: No, It's so natural, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Because we we had like kind of lived together at
Speaker 1: my house before moving out together. Yeah, and we kind
Speaker 1: of started like he just started kind of living at
Speaker 1: my house after six months because we were together all
Speaker 1: the time. Hey, yeah, so yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: Any like we were just excited to like get away
Speaker 3: from your mom and dad.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just well you have your own Yeah, I think.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Our relationship has always felt very easy though,
Speaker 1: Like everything just feels very easy. Our second last question,
Speaker 1: how did you keep a positive attitude and relationship during
Speaker 1: your trying to conceive journey? Oh? It was so hard,
Speaker 1: wasn't it. We're so a bit sad.
Speaker 3: Every month, like each month you'd be you'd be like
Speaker 3: and be like and you'd be like, oh, you almost
Speaker 3: like got used to it a bit, didn't you. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but every month, like you sort of got used to it,
Speaker 3: and every month we'll get hard or hard.
Speaker 1: You feel like it just made us so much closer.
Speaker 3: Because then you just you sort of think, just doesn't
Speaker 3: this just happen? Actually? Yeah, just like that because your
Speaker 3: mom and dad were like, so you just like look
Speaker 3: at your mind to be pregnant. So we're just like,
Speaker 3: that's like.
Speaker 1: What we're really our woman, like I thought it would
Speaker 1: be like, but yeah, my brothers were kind of the same.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I think it's it's hard, but I think
Speaker 1: if you can kind of lean on each other because
Speaker 1: communicate about it and almost see this time as a
Speaker 1: it's confirming what you both want, you know obviously, and
Speaker 1: it also makes you want to have kids more. And
Speaker 1: do you not agree, Tim, Like sometimes if we're having
Speaker 1: a hard day with Ivy or when she was a newborn,
Speaker 1: what would help is thinking, oh my god, remember how
Speaker 1: much we wanted this, Yeah, exactly, and it's like beautiful. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I think during that time it's really hard, but
Speaker 1: be like, trust me, you'll use this time later on
Speaker 1: as like, you know, a positive thing and you just
Speaker 1: got to stick together and like get through it and
Speaker 1: like know that baby will come at perfect time for you.
Speaker 3: Guys.
Speaker 2: Our last question, how did you both decide when you
Speaker 2: were finally ready to start a family.
Speaker 3: For years before you I was like, come on, babe,
Speaker 3: I'm not getting the younger.
Speaker 1: So Tim's whole thing I remember asked when we had
Speaker 1: the actual conversation about children, Tim was like, I want
Speaker 1: a child before I'm thirty.
Speaker 3: While I'm thirty, and so you know.
Speaker 1: When it kind of got closer to him being thirty,
Speaker 1: I also was like I you know, I'm happy to
Speaker 1: try as long as you're happy to be at the
Speaker 1: stay home dad, And he was like, all good. And
Speaker 1: then it's crazy because I feel like I didn't want
Speaker 1: kids that much, and then when we started trying and
Speaker 1: when it wasn't happening, I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I want this so much. So I'm kind of glad
Speaker 1: we went through that because it confirmed so many feelings
Speaker 1: for me, and again, it's really helped me get through
Speaker 1: hard times with Ivy. Yeah, I feel like Tim was
Speaker 1: always just ready and I was like, all right, we
Speaker 1: can do it. But yeah, I feel like I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like you just kind of know and I.
Speaker 3: It's like it was like the next step for us
Speaker 3: because we've been together doing the same thing for ten years. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's not what we're getting board, but there was nothing
Speaker 3: else to like. That was just the next step.
Speaker 1: And even though sometimes I didn't feel ready, I was like,
Speaker 1: I know Tim's got my back, yeah, and I know
Speaker 1: we can get through anything. And I feel like if
Speaker 1: you're at that stage with your partner, it's not you know,
Speaker 1: if you're maybe not as maternal like Tim was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course I'm ready. Me not as maternal but I
Speaker 1: knew that us as a relationship could get through anything.
Speaker 1: If you have that feeling, then you're like, okay, you're ready,
Speaker 1: but that is it. Tim, thanks so much for being
Speaker 1: on the potty. Are you going to come back? It
Speaker 1: was a blessing to be here, Tim, What are you
Speaker 1: grateful for?
Speaker 3: To do it? Can I do a mic drop?
Speaker 1: What are you grateful for?
Speaker 3: Today? What am I grateful for?
Speaker 1: To try and say this to each other every day?
Speaker 3: Every morning? I'm grateful for this life.
Speaker 1: He always does those. I'm like, be more specific, live
Speaker 1: in his best life.
Speaker 3: To be able to be so special because I don't
Speaker 3: know anyone else that is ad Dad, So I'm like
Speaker 3: a bit of a unicorn.
Speaker 1: You are a McCom.
Speaker 3: Grateful.
Speaker 1: I am grateful for you and IV my two favorite people.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Jerum.
Speaker 1: All right, guys, we're going to wrap it up there.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening, and I hope you
Speaker 1: enjoyed this hotline with Jim. Bye bye. Thank you so
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