1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the 2 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen Bear region. 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 1: We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, 4 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders 5 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,920 Speaker 1: past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal 6 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:34,199 Speaker 1: and terrestrid Islander peoples today. Hello and welcome back to 7 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for 8 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. For sure, 9 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: Look Tim was a billionaire, I'd definitely stay at home 10 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: with Ivy, let's be honest. But also I probably still 11 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 1: do the pod as my little side hustle. Hello and 12 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,839 Speaker 1: welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast. It is your host, 13 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner, new mum all 14 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: the things. Today, we have a very fun episode for 15 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 1: you all. Your favorite Timothy, my husband, is on the show. 16 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: We recorded this EPP a while back because honestly, you 17 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 1: guys just had too many questions for him to cover 18 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: about our relationship and our parenthood journey together. So we 19 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: have divided it up and this one is just more 20 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: of like a quick fire, A bit of fun and 21 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: kind of like a hotline, but on a Tuesday, because 22 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: we like to do things a bit crazy. 23 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 2: Here it's December. What even is time? 24 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 1: Actually, we're so rogan December and I love it. So 25 00:01:56,360 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: today we answer all your quick fire questions, like Tim 26 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: have an allowance? How can you communicate your frustrations in 27 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: a relationship? I think that was about him being frustrated 28 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:11,359 Speaker 1: with me? And are you allowed to go to strip 29 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 1: clubs or magic mic shows? Plus Tim goes into if 30 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 1: we have any rules for each other? So much more. 31 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:21,519 Speaker 1: It's a lot of fun. You guys literally loved him 32 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: and yeah, he's bringing the fun to this episode. But 33 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: before we get into the episode, of course, attire a 34 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 1: quick week update you guys, because you've had a busy weekend. 35 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 2: I've had such a busy weekend. I don't think. I 36 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:37,959 Speaker 2: think I fit more into this weekend than I did 37 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 2: in the last month. I just felt like a bit 38 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 2: of a scatter brain. But I had so much fun. 39 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:43,959 Speaker 1: That's good. 40 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 2: Bessie's twenty first, So we went to see the new 41 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 2: Avatar had a birthday. 42 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:51,920 Speaker 1: It was amazing. Oh, I'm so excited to see it. 43 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 2: Like I know it's Tuesday, and we're not supposed to 44 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 2: give recommendations, but I. 45 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: Highly recommend okay noted on the list. 46 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then went to the it on Sunday, which 47 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 2: was a bit of fun. 48 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,959 Speaker 1: You're a bit of a social butterfly. Your social bucket 49 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 1: is very well full now it is. 50 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 2: I need a bit of an introverted time now to 51 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 2: reach out. 52 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: And what perfect time with the holidays going on. What 53 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: about you? How is your week? 54 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 3: Yes? 55 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 1: Good. I had a bit of an exciting shoot last 56 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:25,240 Speaker 1: week and the Thursday I flew to Sydney to do 57 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: a shoot with a very it's a household brand. I 58 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 1: can't say too much until the campaign comes out, but 59 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: it's like it's somewhere me and Mum would have shopped 60 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: my whole entire childhood. So oh, that's so beautiful. It 61 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 1: was very like full circle moment and I shopped there 62 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:46,280 Speaker 1: for Ivy and the reason why it was so I 63 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: guess like a bit of a milestone for me. Of 64 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: course working with an amazing brand that like that, but 65 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: also I think I'll go into this a bit more 66 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: on another podcast, but it got to Ivy's first birthday 67 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 1: and I think I really did you know I think 68 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: I was actually holding my breath in regards to my 69 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: old body coming back. And even though I am someone 70 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: who've done I've done a lot of work on myself 71 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: and I've done a lot of work with my self 72 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: worth and you know, not falling into the trap of 73 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: postpartum bounce back or anything like that. But it kind 74 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 1: of dawned to me on her first birthday of being like, oh, 75 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,720 Speaker 1: I think I have you know, kind of fallen into it, 76 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: and then having that realization and then an opportunity like 77 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: this coming up where I would be half naked shooting 78 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: and that being seen a lot, and it was like 79 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: kind of this moment of I couldn't think of fucking 80 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 1: anything worse because of how I feel about myself. Yeah, 81 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: and that's when I knew I had to do it. 82 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I love that and I just had 83 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 1: to be like, no, fuck it, I need to you know, 84 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: I need to embrace exactly who I am at at 85 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: the moment. I need to embrace my body. I need 86 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: to stop like you know, hiding it and like face 87 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 1: face it full on. And so I did it by 88 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: like doing something that scared the shit out of me, 89 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: and it was super liberating. 90 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 2: I love that so much. 91 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,039 Speaker 1: It was so like I think it was, yeah, like 92 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: it happened all in like a big you know, realization 93 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:23,080 Speaker 1: and yeah doing it, Like I just feel incredibly proud 94 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: of myself, and I'm like, yeah, I just feel like 95 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 1: I've tackled you know, that sort of I don't want 96 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: to say negative voice, but yeah, that sort of you know, 97 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:35,840 Speaker 1: negative voice that was coming up about my body and 98 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:38,120 Speaker 1: you know, bouncing back and that sort of thing. So 99 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,840 Speaker 1: I feel incredibly proud and I cannot wait for you 100 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: guys to see the campaign. And it was just like 101 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: a cool opportunity, a cool thing to you know, tick 102 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 1: off the list. 103 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 2: That's so exciting and I can't wait for us to 104 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 2: a whole podcast episode and well what you can speak. 105 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 1: About it, we will. But yeah, so that happened. I 106 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:56,479 Speaker 1: was very drained from that. I had a very chill weekend. 107 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 1: I saw I saw a girlfriend, I got a massage, 108 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: a little family time. So it was really really beautiful. 109 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:08,840 Speaker 1: But yeah, in saying that, let's get into the show. 110 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 2: Okay, cool, So our first quick fire question is number one. 111 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 2: If Tim was the breadwinner, would Georgie have stayed been 112 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,480 Speaker 2: the stay at home parent? Or has this always been 113 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 2: the plan regardless of earning capacity. 114 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:30,479 Speaker 3: I would I would be probably at work if I 115 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 3: was a breadwinner, like, I'd just be at work, and 116 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 3: then you'd be a mum at home. But so weird 117 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 3: to think about. 118 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: Well, I know, but we've always spoken about me going 119 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 1: back to work. I do sometimes have fantasies of being 120 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 1: a stay at home mum. And I'm like, if I 121 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 1: was married to like. 122 00:06:54,960 --> 00:07:01,280 Speaker 3: Like her prince, a bazillionaire, not only then and I 123 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 3: wouldn't have to do anything, and then I have a 124 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 3: babysit all the time, so I wouldn't be looking. 125 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 1: Up for I'd probably go work. I think literally from 126 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 1: the start, we've always had the conversation, and Tim has 127 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: always been such a like you've always wanted to be 128 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: a dad. Yeah, sure, look Tim was a billionaire. I 129 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: definitely stay at home with Ivy, let's be honest. But 130 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: also I probably still do the potty as my little 131 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: side hustle. Yeah, it would just be a hobby. 132 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:40,640 Speaker 3: You need to do something. 133 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: I just I love what I do. I love I 134 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: love you know, doing things. 135 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 2: Next question, does Tim get an allowance each week or 136 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 2: are all cards shared. 137 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 3: So it's exactly. A funny conversation and topic, isn't it. Well, Like, 138 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 3: so my mom and dad have like separate money. Yeah, 139 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 3: so that's how I was brought up. So I was like, 140 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 3: everything like. 141 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: Separate right right, where's my parents? Everything has shed? 142 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 3: Everything is together. But I'm like I'm happy. Yeah, I 143 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,800 Speaker 3: do get an allowance each week, but it's only just 144 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 3: happened because I just try to, like, say a bit 145 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 3: of money because. 146 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 1: Get an allowance. We both get an allowance and it's 147 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 1: the same amount of money. Yeah, so we are trying 148 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 1: to budget right now. Previously we've never budgeted and it's 149 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 1: just we have one we both have cards from the 150 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:48,680 Speaker 1: same account, and Tim just bought whatever he wanted at 151 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 1: any time. 152 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 3: I wouldn't say whatever I wanted, you did what you 153 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 3: bought him rogue thing. 154 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:58,960 Speaker 2: That was just like you didn't ask, you just went 155 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:00,079 Speaker 2: you did it. 156 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 3: Oh jeez, I don't think maybe like a new golf 157 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 3: club or something. It's like a thousand. 158 00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is like all one golf club, one golf 159 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 1: club and one thousand dollars And I just like look 160 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:18,520 Speaker 1: at my card and I'm like, what the. 161 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,319 Speaker 3: Just claiming on tax? We cart? 162 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 2: Oh my god? 163 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: Before what has recently happened because I have our financial 164 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: advisor was like, you guys need a budget. We had 165 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:40,439 Speaker 1: two cards, one account, Tim bought whatever he wanted. Now 166 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 1: we both have allowances where we get a set money 167 00:09:45,440 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: deposited every single week. That is the same. And then 168 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 1: there's also so we have separate cards where it's Tim's money, 169 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: my money, and then we have a family card. And 170 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 1: so the just is this of the allowance that we 171 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:03,120 Speaker 1: have that is the same is like money where we 172 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: do whatever we want with it, where it's like I 173 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:07,319 Speaker 1: don't know what Tim does with it. He doesn't know 174 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 1: what I do in it, and we don't care. It's 175 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 1: your fun money. Yeah, And then we had. 176 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 3: But we like we would like we've got the same 177 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 3: app like we can all see can actually see. 178 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:23,559 Speaker 1: What it looks like at the strippers or something. We'll 179 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:27,679 Speaker 1: get into that letter. And then we have a family card, 180 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: which is like groceries bills, a bill's account. Yeah, yeah, 181 00:10:32,679 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: that's what we do. But in saying that, Tim will 182 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: often be like, there's no money in the family card 183 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 1: and we'll just use another card because there's numerous guards. 184 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:43,439 Speaker 3: But we're definitely we're. 185 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: Trying to be better better. Yeah, I love that. 186 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:51,320 Speaker 2: Number Three. Do you have times and this one's for 187 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 2: Tim Do you ever have times where you'd rather be 188 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:54,559 Speaker 2: the working parent? 189 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 1: Yeah? 190 00:10:56,520 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 3: Remember sometimes I I'm like, I just want to get 191 00:11:00,400 --> 00:11:02,960 Speaker 3: back to work. Like even the other day when I 192 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 3: was helping Dan all day and Mum and Dad had 193 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 3: IVY because I had to help him on our renovations 194 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:10,560 Speaker 3: on our house. I finished the day and I was 195 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 3: like I could keep going. I'm good to go, Like 196 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 3: I wasn't drained, and I was just like wow, like 197 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:18,200 Speaker 3: this is what I used to feel like even after work, 198 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:21,480 Speaker 3: but like I don't Yeah, I don't know, so much 199 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 3: has changed. 200 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:26,599 Speaker 1: Like now, so is like what you're probably not understanding 201 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 1: is you would then if we both worked, you would 202 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 1: work and then you would come home and we'd both 203 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: do IVY, whereas I do majority of IVY when I 204 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 1: come home. So you'd be pretty exhausted if you were 205 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 1: doing physical labor all day out. 206 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:45,080 Speaker 3: But then like, but then I'd be doing like gym 207 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 3: as well, Like I have him in the gym in 208 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 3: a little while now, but like you get your gym 209 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 3: in the. 210 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 1: Morning and then get up and do gym too, because 211 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: IVY doesn't wake up till. 212 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 3: Six point thirty in the morning. I just can't do it. 213 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 1: He just he wakes up the same time as me, 214 00:11:57,760 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: but he just sits on his phone. 215 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 3: I don't research. 216 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 1: That's still on your phone. Research? 217 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:06,959 Speaker 3: What? Just like things at the minute, like what I read, 218 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:09,520 Speaker 3: research and had to respray roof because we go to 219 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 3: respray and just like. 220 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: That, it's just quiet time. In saying that, though I 221 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 1: often fanasize about being a state home mum. 222 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 2: I'll go back to work lives for a week. 223 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: It's like Tims on the podcast. Tim's on My Stories. 224 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 3: Guys, wear my pedal and press in the dress. This 225 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 3: is my makeup tutorial. 226 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 1: Quick keep. 227 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 2: Next question, best and worst thing state home? 228 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 1: Shut the funk up? 229 00:12:56,760 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 3: What was the question? Oh? 230 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: Sorry? 231 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 2: Best and worst than you're being a stay at home parents. 232 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 1: Best thing is like most afternoons they come, they're sitting 233 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 1: on the couch watching TV. 234 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 3: Together. 235 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:15,959 Speaker 1: That you mean we're talking about fun things. I watch 236 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:16,560 Speaker 1: her grow up. 237 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, don't put what Yeah, hanging out with her 238 00:13:20,840 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 3: all day is pretty fun and just mucking around. 239 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:25,480 Speaker 1: We just muck around all the time, feeding her all 240 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 1: the time. She just eats continuously. Yeah, and they just 241 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: have snacks all day and worse. 242 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:34,559 Speaker 3: Worst thing would be like being in charge of another 243 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:38,000 Speaker 3: small human. It's like it's. 244 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:40,559 Speaker 1: Exhausting. 245 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 3: It's exhausting. 246 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:47,080 Speaker 2: Number five thoughts on either spouse going to strip clubs, 247 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 2: slash magic mic events for women. 248 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:51,760 Speaker 3: I couldn't care. Like maybe back in the day, I 249 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:53,079 Speaker 3: would be like, what do you want to go? But 250 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 3: like now I'm just like I feel. 251 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 1: Like even back in the day, you don't lie like. 252 00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 3: You do you Like I feel like we wouldn't you can't. 253 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:09,920 Speaker 3: But I'm like, don't you think It's like the whole 254 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:11,560 Speaker 3: thing is like a bit like why would you want 255 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 3: it anyway? 256 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:15,679 Speaker 1: Anyway, So how I feel about this is no, you're 257 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:17,400 Speaker 1: not going to strip club, but. 258 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 3: They're like I don't. I don't like to feel I just. 259 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: Be like no. But in saying that, like I obviously 260 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: know you go to Bucks and you know we all 261 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:32,800 Speaker 1: know what happens at Barks, and it's like I don't 262 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: love it. But also I'm not gonna say you can't 263 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:38,560 Speaker 1: go to all Bucks, just like I go to Hens, 264 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:40,120 Speaker 1: and because it's. 265 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 3: Like we like not like pretty good. I don't know. Yeah, 266 00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 3: like there's no, there's no if it. 267 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 1: Was like a Wednesday afternoon and Tim's going to a 268 00:14:55,920 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 1: strip club or I'm like, yeah, I think it's like 269 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:07,240 Speaker 1: open communication. If anything was to happen, it's like you've 270 00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 1: just got to have that trust and open communication, of 271 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 1: which it wouldn't. 272 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, next question, how can you better communicate and deal 273 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:22,560 Speaker 2: with frustration? For example, this lady's partner hasn't done something 274 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:25,800 Speaker 2: that she would do without thinking, for example, cleaning up 275 00:15:25,840 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 2: the kitchen after making a mess folding clothes straight away. 276 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:32,040 Speaker 2: His response is always I'll do it later, which half 277 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:34,680 Speaker 2: the time turns into me doing it three days later. 278 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 2: I love him, but man, he does my head in. 279 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 3: Me. 280 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 1: It's literally so funny because this is me and Tim's like, 281 00:15:50,760 --> 00:15:52,200 Speaker 1: just do the dishes now, and I'm. 282 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 3: Like ten years doing this and I've just given up. 283 00:15:57,360 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 3: I'll just do it and I don't win. 284 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 1: You've just accepted it. 285 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 3: I've just accepted it and just like it's all good. 286 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 1: This is my opinion. 287 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 3: But like, so I've accepted it because it's like George 288 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 3: is so busy, and like, I get it that you're 289 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:13,720 Speaker 3: always doing stuff, but if like the if he's like 290 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 3: just being slack and he's at the pub instead of 291 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 3: folding the clothes or doing whatever that she's us and 292 00:16:19,120 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 3: that's ship. 293 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like me and Tim are 294 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: quite equal where you know, I work all day and 295 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 1: then I come home and I, you know, do Ivy 296 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:30,440 Speaker 1: in the afternoon because I want to. And Tim obviously 297 00:16:30,480 --> 00:16:32,720 Speaker 1: has Ivy all day and he still helps with Ivy 298 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 1: in the afternoon. Like we're pretty equal on that sort 299 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 1: of stuff. But in saying that, he's definitely the cleaner one. 300 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 1: I have the view of you have dinner, you make dinner, 301 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,760 Speaker 1: you eat dinner, and then you clean on clean up after. 302 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:49,960 Speaker 1: Tim has the view that you make dinner, you clean up, 303 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 1: and then you go have dinner, even if it's cold. 304 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 3: Only sometimes we have used to be pretty bad, but 305 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 3: now I'm like I can ever. I'm just like used 306 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 3: to have like such an O C D think about 307 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 3: him like I'm gotten a lot more. Yeah, chill, I 308 00:17:06,840 --> 00:17:11,560 Speaker 3: Reckon tell us humans in general become a lot more 309 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:16,639 Speaker 3: relaxed when they have a kid. Well, not relaxed, but 310 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:19,639 Speaker 3: in a way it's like it's more like it's. 311 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:21,920 Speaker 1: Your control that you kind of just get. 312 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:24,320 Speaker 3: Before Ivy, I was like's going to be like this 313 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 3: because Ivy is like such a whirlwind. It's like now 314 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:29,399 Speaker 3: it's like, oh, I'm just tak care like whatever. 315 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:33,000 Speaker 1: That's like sometimes I see Tim so Ivy has this 316 00:17:33,119 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: little like a bunch of toys in our lounge room, 317 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,399 Speaker 1: so she plays with toys while we're watching TV or something, 318 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:43,400 Speaker 1: and I see Tim like clean it up most now, 319 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: and I just think, but she's just going to come 320 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:49,320 Speaker 1: and play with it tomorrow. But little stuff like that. 321 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: But I'm like, it doesn't bother me. If it bothers you, 322 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:53,360 Speaker 1: you clean it up? 323 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:54,560 Speaker 2: Do you mean? 324 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:56,200 Speaker 1: Otherwise? I'm not going to sit there and pack away 325 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 1: toys that she's just going to get out tomorrow unless 326 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:00,600 Speaker 1: there's visitors coming over and then I'll be like clean 327 00:18:02,080 --> 00:18:06,159 Speaker 1: and Tim's like what do you? But yeah, look I 328 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 1: can be a little bit bad with cleaning things up, 329 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 1: but I have other great traits. This person, what's your advice? 330 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:21,720 Speaker 1: Communication Like, be like this really bothers me? Like if 331 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 1: you said that to me, and you're like, I will 332 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,720 Speaker 1: divorce you if you don't start cleaning up, I'm obviously gonna. 333 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 3: I think that's a bit like that's pretty you shouldn't 334 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:31,440 Speaker 3: have to come to that conversation though, Like the other 335 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:33,479 Speaker 3: person should respect you enough to be like, all right, 336 00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:35,200 Speaker 3: I'll just pick up the act a little bit more. 337 00:18:35,400 --> 00:18:47,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like Tim, I'm so busy and can you 338 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 1: clean up my plate? 339 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,959 Speaker 2: Next question, what are some ways to reconnect if you're 340 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:55,240 Speaker 2: feeling distant from each other? 341 00:18:55,600 --> 00:18:56,119 Speaker 3: Put in. 342 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:07,000 Speaker 2: That's a good quick it you go first, There, you 343 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 2: go first. 344 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:11,959 Speaker 1: I think just prioritizing time together. So I will often 345 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:14,199 Speaker 1: have this dilemma where I'm in a huff and a 346 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 1: puff and I'm like, I just don't feel connected to 347 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 1: you in terms like rolls his eyes. And then we're like, okay, 348 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 1: well this weekend, why don't we have a beach day together? 349 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:28,600 Speaker 1: You know obviously with Ivy or you know, I'll be like, oh, 350 00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:30,439 Speaker 1: I really want to go see this new movie, like 351 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:33,480 Speaker 1: let's go have a date night, or you know, it's 352 00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:40,680 Speaker 1: just prioritizing time together and deciding that it's just as 353 00:19:40,720 --> 00:19:45,479 Speaker 1: as important as other things like your child or your career. 354 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:51,480 Speaker 3: MM. Love that. But if like it even like little 355 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:54,920 Speaker 3: spontaneous like gifts and stuff, that's quite sweet as well. 356 00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:58,159 Speaker 1: When do you ever get me spontaneous gifts? Actually you 357 00:19:58,200 --> 00:19:59,680 Speaker 1: do bring home treats. 358 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 3: Yes, little things like that he brought the other day. 359 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:03,679 Speaker 1: He's like. 360 00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:07,919 Speaker 3: It was like fresh cinnamon. 361 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:11,680 Speaker 1: Donuts, and he's like, I've got you a tree. 362 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:14,200 Speaker 3: Just like just like little last little things like that. 363 00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:16,720 Speaker 1: You know, Yeah, I guess that's a good thing of 364 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:20,400 Speaker 1: like putting yourself in Well, it's even like remember when 365 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: we did the love language quiz and I found out 366 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:28,199 Speaker 1: like yours just like physical touch and like affirmations. And 367 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,199 Speaker 1: I don't know if you've noticed, but I've been like 368 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,639 Speaker 1: a bit more prominent of like giving you a little 369 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:35,080 Speaker 1: stroke on the shoulder. 370 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 3: Good morning. Then read your book. 371 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:56,840 Speaker 1: I love a good book reading. I would take the 372 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:59,439 Speaker 1: love language test and then boast, pry and do you love. 373 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:01,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be a good thing. That's probably the 374 00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 3: best idea. 375 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:05,600 Speaker 2: Like yeah, the next question, do you have any rules 376 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:11,119 Speaker 2: for each other, like, for example, like no strip clubs 377 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:13,520 Speaker 2: or no friends of the opposite gender, stuff like that. 378 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 3: There's no rules really, just behave. I don't know. 379 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:26,520 Speaker 1: I think like there's no actual strict rules in our relationship. 380 00:21:26,600 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 1: I think, you know, we kind of know the lines 381 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 1: of things. I think with any relationship, it's kind of like, 382 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:36,440 Speaker 1: you know, treat the person how you would want to 383 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: be treated. 384 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 3: Probably like the biggest rule would be like no spontaneous 385 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 3: things cannot be spontaneous, more like without each other. 386 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 1: Glad our biggest like a big fight that you know 387 00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,360 Speaker 1: we've had this year. The one that I can remember 388 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:58,160 Speaker 1: is when Tim came home and was like, I'm going 389 00:21:58,160 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 1: out tonight, and it it wasn't so much him going out, 390 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,119 Speaker 1: but I was like, well, it would have been nice 391 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 1: to know because I would have invited a girlfriend around 392 00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,600 Speaker 1: and we could have a wine with our babies, or 393 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:12,679 Speaker 1: I would have planned something in this time. Yeah, Or 394 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:13,679 Speaker 1: it's just because I. 395 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:15,720 Speaker 3: Changed my mind about it. It wasn't it. It was like 396 00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:17,919 Speaker 3: I wasn't going. I'm like, I am going, and then 397 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,399 Speaker 3: at last minute I was like, no, I'm going to go. 398 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 3: And George was stuck with Ivy sort of thing. 399 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:23,400 Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, but it's not about being 400 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 1: stuck with Ivy. It's about me mentally going, Okay, I've 401 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:30,119 Speaker 1: got tonight with Ivy, so you know, on the way home, 402 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,640 Speaker 1: I'll grab some takeout and you know, it's just I'm 403 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 1: a control freak, so I've got to mentally prepare. 404 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 3: Anyway because I'm the opposite. 405 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,359 Speaker 1: And let's just put it on record, literally this whole 406 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 1: week I said, I know you've got this thing on Friday. 407 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,000 Speaker 1: That's all good, You've just got to tell me because 408 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,640 Speaker 1: I was planning my weekend and the whole week he goes, no, no, no, 409 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 1: I don't want to go. I do not. It was 410 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:56,479 Speaker 1: really stressed, he does not want to go, and I went, okay, 411 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,000 Speaker 1: planning my weekend, and then literally I got home and 412 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 1: he's like, I'm going. 413 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,040 Speaker 3: Oh, so excellent, I'm going to go. 414 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,919 Speaker 1: And we had the biggest fire relationship because I just 415 00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:11,000 Speaker 1: so like, for me, that's so disrespectful to my time, 416 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,479 Speaker 1: because I did not have any thoughts about me in 417 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: this decision. You went an act and like you have 418 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:22,560 Speaker 1: no responsibilities, but you do, and it's called Ivy and 419 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:27,639 Speaker 1: it's called Georgie. And I think Tim obviously didn't realize that. 420 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:29,600 Speaker 1: And then after that he was like, I. 421 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:34,159 Speaker 3: Guess I'm sorry. 422 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:38,560 Speaker 1: So yeah, we just plan things and communication awesome. 423 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,760 Speaker 2: Our next question are you going to be the parent 424 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 2: that drives Ivy to the house party and make sure 425 00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:46,359 Speaker 2: she's safe, or are you going to be the parent 426 00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,680 Speaker 2: that doesn't want to know, that doesn't want to know, 427 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:54,360 Speaker 2: but like won't let her go to parties. 428 00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:57,879 Speaker 3: Because then I feel like she'll be like you and 429 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,159 Speaker 3: just rebel and like be like I'm sleeping my but 430 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 3: my best friends the house, but then they just sneak 431 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:04,919 Speaker 3: out go to the party and. 432 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:10,879 Speaker 1: A boy's car, an older person's car, so bad. So 433 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:14,920 Speaker 1: I mean to spoken about this, but we both were 434 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 1: quite rebel not rebell yus, but we just we did 435 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,000 Speaker 1: things quite early on, like we were both you know, 436 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:29,560 Speaker 1: happy to It was more me actually was a sweet little. 437 00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:34,439 Speaker 3: Boy, not like the whole rebelling thing where it's like 438 00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,680 Speaker 3: you won't have to do this so strictly when you'd 439 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:38,600 Speaker 3: be like, I just want to do it. So they're 440 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,360 Speaker 3: like almost. 441 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: And this is probably the way we have no rules 442 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:44,880 Speaker 1: because he literally has the personality if I tell him 443 00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:48,159 Speaker 1: he can't do something, he wants to do it, just 444 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:50,359 Speaker 1: tell me you can't do anything because there's just no point. 445 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:53,680 Speaker 3: Basically the same thing like with parties, mum and day, 446 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,240 Speaker 3: like you're going, I'm like, okay, let's go to sleep 447 00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,720 Speaker 3: from my mate's place, and then we're just the bikes there. 448 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:04,760 Speaker 1: I'm of the opinion too of like my childhood was 449 00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,199 Speaker 1: the same where I then just had to lie and 450 00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:11,639 Speaker 1: sneak out and I didn't have that sense of, you know, 451 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,199 Speaker 1: trust with my parents because I just felt like I 452 00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:17,639 Speaker 1: got no no trust. So I was like, well fuck 453 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:19,919 Speaker 1: you o'yeah what I want and I don't want that 454 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: with Ivy. I kind of want to meet in the 455 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,120 Speaker 1: middle where it's like, Okay, you want to do things. 456 00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:27,080 Speaker 1: I'm not really keen on you going to this random 457 00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: ass party from this grade twelve, but I'll drive you 458 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 1: there and i'll pick you up. Make good choices, call 459 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:36,520 Speaker 1: me if you need anything. 460 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,439 Speaker 3: I think trust would be the biggest thing, because like 461 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,679 Speaker 3: the whole like lying. I feel like I lied to 462 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 3: my parents a lot. Yeah, and you feel guilty. I 463 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:46,439 Speaker 3: didn't want to have a lot of my parents. 464 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:51,440 Speaker 1: I kind of like, I I want to be Ivy's 465 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:53,840 Speaker 1: friend and I want to guide her and I want 466 00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,600 Speaker 1: to help her. And it's interesting because my parents have 467 00:25:56,680 --> 00:26:00,199 Speaker 1: always said you can't be your child's friend. That's not 468 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 1: the relationship. 469 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're a parent, not a friend kind of thing. 470 00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm like, so I feel like you can 471 00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,960 Speaker 3: be both. Yeah, you can definitely be I. 472 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,520 Speaker 1: Feel like I want, Yeah, I want to be both, 473 00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 1: and I want to I want her to come to 474 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,600 Speaker 1: me and be like, you know, this is happening in 475 00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 1: my life. My friends have treated me like this. What 476 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 1: would you do not? Oh, I can't talk to mum. 477 00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,600 Speaker 2: About this because she'll get mad at me. 478 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I want for the relation. And I 479 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:28,119 Speaker 1: feel like you're on the same page. So let it 480 00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:28,840 Speaker 1: go to the party. 481 00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 2: Not fun. 482 00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 1: Here's a cruiser. 483 00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 2: Our next question, how do you feel about screen time 484 00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:42,320 Speaker 2: for Ivy? 485 00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:47,400 Speaker 3: Oh this is a good question. Oh man, I don't know. Hey, 486 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 3: like she's she already has like like she'll pick this 487 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 3: up and be like I loved it. And it's because 488 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:54,920 Speaker 3: it does shove him. 489 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,320 Speaker 1: Every time I come home, you're watching TV of Ivy. 490 00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:05,560 Speaker 1: TV is screen time I get literally every time I 491 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 1: come home, and then as soon as you bring her 492 00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:12,199 Speaker 1: up in the morning, you put the TV on. So 493 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:15,159 Speaker 1: this is something you need to think about. I am 494 00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 1: an opinion of I enjoy it. Like if I'm home 495 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:25,120 Speaker 1: alone with Ivy, I don't put it on unless for example, well, no, 496 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,119 Speaker 1: not so much feeding her because I then turn it 497 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:28,800 Speaker 1: off and I like to take her outside because I 498 00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:30,880 Speaker 1: don't agree she should be watching TV when she's eating, 499 00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:34,639 Speaker 1: because then she can't understand if she's full, because you know, 500 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 1: when you're in front of the TV and you just 501 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:41,600 Speaker 1: keep eating because you're watching something anyway. So what I 502 00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:44,720 Speaker 1: do is if I need to distract her because I'm 503 00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 1: making food or I need to make myself breakfast, that's 504 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:50,399 Speaker 1: when I will use the TV. 505 00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,320 Speaker 2: As a distraction or like a time little saver. 506 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, because like Tim says, you put her down and 507 00:27:56,080 --> 00:28:01,080 Speaker 1: she cries. She wants that with you know you, and 508 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,520 Speaker 1: so I will use that. But then I'll try and like, 509 00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 1: you know, take her outside to eat and that sort 510 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:06,640 Speaker 1: of thing. 511 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,399 Speaker 3: And Tim, it's the biggest lie ever, what are you 512 00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:11,760 Speaker 3: talking about? You never take her outside for the TV. 513 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:18,560 Speaker 1: You're not there, I'm talking about it's just me and Ivy. 514 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:20,919 Speaker 1: But I think I don't know. 515 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:22,840 Speaker 3: She gets older obviously. 516 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, how are you going to feel about it? It's 517 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 1: kind of hard because like screen time's my job. Yeah, 518 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:30,440 Speaker 1: so I can't be like, no, you can't have screen time, 519 00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:32,800 Speaker 1: but I'll be here. I think I do want to 520 00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:35,080 Speaker 1: be very conscious about how much me and Tim are 521 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,440 Speaker 1: on our phone when we're with IP two. 522 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like I try to just yeah, even though 523 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:41,840 Speaker 3: the TV is and I'll still be like playing with 524 00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 3: her and she only be watching, Like she's almost like 525 00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,120 Speaker 3: on the background, but she'll be playing with her toys 526 00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 3: or a doll or like this or that. But then 527 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 3: sometimes she will just be like she literally goes she 528 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,560 Speaker 3: knows her like favorite like song, and it'll come on. 529 00:28:57,680 --> 00:28:59,560 Speaker 3: She'll be like over there and she'll be like she'd 530 00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:04,000 Speaker 3: be like, watched the TV's hilarious. 531 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:04,920 Speaker 2: What's her favorite song? 532 00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: She's had the same favorite. 533 00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,120 Speaker 3: Song since the Muppets. 534 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,880 Speaker 1: Now she loves a good muppet, loves the bullets. It's 535 00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,080 Speaker 1: called Simple Songs on New Gym and it's a little 536 00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 1: muppet Red Knight, Green Night. 537 00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:23,040 Speaker 2: Our next question, what are you going to do when 538 00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:24,920 Speaker 2: Ivy goes on her first date? 539 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:29,480 Speaker 3: Oh? Good question? You know what's that movie? Is it? 540 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:31,360 Speaker 1: Tim? 541 00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:33,760 Speaker 3: What's that movie? Anyway? Yeah? 542 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 1: What what movie? 543 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:42,240 Speaker 3: Hell? Like the dads are like they're anyway, I don't know. 544 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,240 Speaker 3: I'll be sweet, I reckon. I'll just be like it 545 00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 3: is what it is. It's that time of their life. 546 00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 3: She's developing. 547 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:55,680 Speaker 1: How old is she? No, like like first actual proper 548 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:57,240 Speaker 1: date and interesting. 549 00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 3: I don't know, it's like it's just a given note 550 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:02,200 Speaker 3: Like I'm not going to be you know, yeah. 551 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,560 Speaker 1: First love such like a weird time. 552 00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:08,040 Speaker 3: But like the breakup is the hardest thing. I think, 553 00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 3: like the first date will be not as hard. 554 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:11,720 Speaker 1: You really feel. 555 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,240 Speaker 3: Who's you know, unless it's your mum and dad like 556 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:17,760 Speaker 3: no one. 557 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 1: My parents have been together since I was sixteenth. 558 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:23,880 Speaker 3: Ridiculous, Like the hardest thing would be to see her 559 00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 3: through the breakup. 560 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:31,440 Speaker 1: I don't know. I hope we parent well enough that 561 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 1: she knows her worth, that she is able to see 562 00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:39,000 Speaker 1: you know, friends or people around her who treat her well, 563 00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:43,000 Speaker 1: who she then can, like you know, navigate that situation. 564 00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:46,320 Speaker 1: I just hope we give her those tools previous to 565 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:49,040 Speaker 1: those situations. So of course she's going to make her 566 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 1: own mistake and do her own thing. But she, like 567 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,960 Speaker 1: you know, has a real sense of self and an 568 00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: inner compass. That's what I hope for her. 569 00:30:58,720 --> 00:30:59,800 Speaker 3: I love that answer. 570 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:05,200 Speaker 2: I love it. Next question, best and worst gift you've 571 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,800 Speaker 2: given each other? Tim you go. 572 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: First, Tim stopped picking your nails. 573 00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:15,880 Speaker 3: Worst gift I've probably ever given you is I think 574 00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:18,880 Speaker 3: I got excited when I proposed to George. No, when 575 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:24,080 Speaker 3: when I bought the ring for George and then Craig, 576 00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 3: Me and Craig picked the ring, and then we went 577 00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:29,760 Speaker 3: out and went to the went to the shops and 578 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,240 Speaker 3: then he's like, oh, is he needs a new jumper 579 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:32,560 Speaker 3: because it. 580 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,239 Speaker 1: Was remember this? 581 00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:39,720 Speaker 3: And then he's like, oh, she loves like oversized jumpers 582 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,720 Speaker 3: and he's like George one of love on two. I'm excited, 583 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:43,600 Speaker 3: and I was like, yeah, I'll get one. 584 00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:45,320 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. It was like a two for one 585 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:46,880 Speaker 1: deals and. 586 00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,840 Speaker 3: I brought home just like jumper and she's like what 587 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:51,880 Speaker 3: the fuck is that? I'm never gonna wear that thing? 588 00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,480 Speaker 1: But it's like he had picked something that I had 589 00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:56,080 Speaker 1: never shown interest in or. 590 00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:59,040 Speaker 3: Worn in my life, big oversized. 591 00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:01,760 Speaker 1: He bought it because like someone else's girlfriend liked it. 592 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:09,200 Speaker 1: I thought it Where was the stupid ass? 593 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:11,080 Speaker 2: And what's the best gift? 594 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:14,240 Speaker 1: Also, that's also another worst GIFs you've ever gotten? Me 595 00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: just put on a record. This one time he had 596 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:22,280 Speaker 1: left getting a Christmas present for me till the last minute, 597 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:26,560 Speaker 1: went to some chemists and like got me a perfume, 598 00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 1: but it didn't have the bigger size, so he just 599 00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:34,760 Speaker 1: got me two smaller perfumes that were the same And 600 00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:35,320 Speaker 1: I was. 601 00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:36,200 Speaker 2: Like, what is this? 602 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:41,800 Speaker 1: What is this? Do you mean? Like such a little 603 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:45,959 Speaker 1: CURTI mil such little effort that he bought two thirty 604 00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 1: mil perfumes. 605 00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:49,400 Speaker 3: You know what I did maybe effort of going to 606 00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:52,200 Speaker 3: the chemist, see. 607 00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:58,040 Speaker 1: The chemist Temaya. That was early on in our relationship, 608 00:32:58,080 --> 00:32:59,880 Speaker 1: and I had to explain to him that that wasn't 609 00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:00,600 Speaker 1: enough for me. 610 00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:10,680 Speaker 2: That'ous And then he learned, Georgie, what's the worst? 611 00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:11,760 Speaker 3: I don't know. 612 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:15,920 Speaker 1: What's the worst gift I've given you? Like, maybe just 613 00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 1: not getting you a gift. 614 00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:18,880 Speaker 3: You just wouldn't get me a gift. 615 00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:21,120 Speaker 1: Well, sometimes we're like, should we just not do gifts 616 00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:23,600 Speaker 1: for certain things? Saving money? 617 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,600 Speaker 3: He bought me a random Sam Smith ticket. 618 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I bought Sam Smith tickets cost me so 619 00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,040 Speaker 1: much money because he said he likes Sam. 620 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,200 Speaker 3: Smith like Spotify for a week. 621 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,600 Speaker 1: I misread the situation. That's like a nice thought still 622 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 1: and he was like, and so I had to sell them. 623 00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,800 Speaker 3: No, I'm going to do a Sam Smith concert. I 624 00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:48,760 Speaker 3: don't like him that much. 625 00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,040 Speaker 1: Sorry, I know I misread the situation. So what's the 626 00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,680 Speaker 1: best gift I've given you? She was not a gift 627 00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,240 Speaker 1: to you for fighter jet? 628 00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:02,240 Speaker 3: Yeah that is that is the best gift. But I 629 00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:08,680 Speaker 3: guess I've used a gift but like not really gifts. 630 00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:13,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so fucking sweet, Yeah yeah. 631 00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:15,040 Speaker 3: I probably would have to say it probably topped it, 632 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:18,440 Speaker 3: hasn't it? Fire Jet? Yes, the fier Jet experience we 633 00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:22,640 Speaker 3: just had last week so good. And then what's the 634 00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:24,319 Speaker 3: best gift I've ever given you? 635 00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:25,120 Speaker 1: Probably Bear? 636 00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,640 Speaker 3: I was going to say Bear. Then I was going 637 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,600 Speaker 3: to say, like, your cardier, oh, your. 638 00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:34,520 Speaker 1: Cardia bracelet, and then also my new engagement ring, and 639 00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:35,200 Speaker 1: what were they sing? 640 00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,359 Speaker 3: Bear? That I was going to say Bear, that's probably so. 641 00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:40,240 Speaker 1: Bear was my birthday present when we had been dating 642 00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:43,520 Speaker 1: for six months. But dog dog, Yeah. 643 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:44,839 Speaker 3: Dog never stuck with him. 644 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:48,400 Speaker 1: Dog we still got a sweet little dog. We literally 645 00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:55,880 Speaker 1: weren't living together, so broke worked out though. Yeah, Cardia 646 00:34:56,000 --> 00:35:00,160 Speaker 1: bracelet was my twenty six birthday. And I think the 647 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 1: reason why that was such a good gift is because 648 00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,560 Speaker 1: I'm someone who you can't really pull a surprise on me. 649 00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,279 Speaker 1: Let's be honest, and I have so much control. I 650 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:13,759 Speaker 1: don't like surprises. But he had kind of yeah, he 651 00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,640 Speaker 1: ages I'd wanted it for ages, years and years, and 652 00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,880 Speaker 1: then he had kind of put like thoughts that he 653 00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,840 Speaker 1: wasn't He's like I thought he was getting me a 654 00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:25,000 Speaker 1: shit gift because he kind of said what it was, 655 00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:27,680 Speaker 1: and I was like hinted to what it was, and 656 00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 1: I thought, oh my god, he's like not even trying 657 00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:31,480 Speaker 1: at all. So I was like a bit off him. 658 00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:37,120 Speaker 1: And then he put me and I was like, you sneaky. 659 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:41,120 Speaker 3: Even like filmed it and everything. I know. 660 00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 1: I just I couldn't believe it. 661 00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:46,800 Speaker 3: Probably Yeah. 662 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:53,759 Speaker 1: And then for my twenty seventh, Tim got my engagement ring. 663 00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:57,080 Speaker 1: Well it's a whole new one. So the whole story 664 00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:00,680 Speaker 1: was he said, I used to wear silver. My old 665 00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,840 Speaker 1: ring was in silver white gold, sorry, and then I 666 00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:05,799 Speaker 1: now just wear all gold. So I was like, I 667 00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:09,200 Speaker 1: want to get my ring remade in gold so it 668 00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:11,919 Speaker 1: suits my jewelry. Yeah, and so he was like I'll 669 00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,160 Speaker 1: handle it and I'll do it. And when we went 670 00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:17,480 Speaker 1: to a store in Sydney, I tried on because my 671 00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:20,879 Speaker 1: old ring was a square, a princess cut sorry, and 672 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:22,640 Speaker 1: I tried on an oval and I was like my 673 00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:26,640 Speaker 1: dream ring blah blah blah. Anyway, he bought and then 674 00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:27,319 Speaker 1: just surprised me. 675 00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:28,880 Speaker 3: So sweet. 676 00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:30,640 Speaker 1: So yeah, pretty good gifts. 677 00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:32,439 Speaker 3: I'm actually a gift giver. 678 00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:38,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's very thoughtful and also surprising even though I 679 00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:38,680 Speaker 1: had surpridus. 680 00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:42,279 Speaker 2: And then next question, do you guys have an equal, say, 681 00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:43,040 Speaker 2: when it comes. 682 00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:45,719 Speaker 3: To money, that was a good question. 683 00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:51,480 Speaker 2: What like spending it? 684 00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,080 Speaker 1: He just goes and get a gold a thousand dollars. 685 00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:56,920 Speaker 3: Anything over five hundred we have to confirm. 686 00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:00,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, anything over five hundred we have to have a discussion. 687 00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,200 Speaker 3: And I feel like, what what do you want this for? Yeah, 688 00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:06,359 Speaker 3: and then you're generally like I wouldn't even say, oh, 689 00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,080 Speaker 3: you can't get it. You just gonna get it anyway. 690 00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:10,400 Speaker 3: I know. 691 00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,520 Speaker 1: But I'm not that rogue. I never kind of go 692 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:15,279 Speaker 1: and buy myself random thing. So it's always for a reason. 693 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:19,120 Speaker 3: Like like a like a like a milestone or something 694 00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:20,080 Speaker 3: like a milestone. 695 00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:22,759 Speaker 1: But I feel like it's very you know, recently we've 696 00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:26,480 Speaker 1: done Renault's on the House, and it's a conversation that 697 00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:29,480 Speaker 1: we both have to agree or get a quote, which 698 00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:33,359 Speaker 1: Tim sometimes doesn't do. But that's a whole lot of conversation. 699 00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:38,239 Speaker 1: But generally, yes, we're going to have the discussion about it. Yeah, 700 00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:38,960 Speaker 1: you would. 701 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:48,840 Speaker 3: Hope sneak it on the bank account speeding in the Bahamas. 702 00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:53,000 Speaker 2: Next question, has your success as a couple impacted any 703 00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,279 Speaker 2: of the relationships in your life, as in not with 704 00:37:56,360 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 2: each other, but like have friends been nice? People tried 705 00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,000 Speaker 2: to be your friend and all that stuff. 706 00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:03,920 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, not really hate. 707 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:06,439 Speaker 1: We've kind of had the same friends since we. 708 00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,360 Speaker 3: Everyone's so we're used to it all brilliantly. 709 00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like we've fallen out with anyone. 710 00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:15,480 Speaker 3: But I guess like if I, like, say, maybe before 711 00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:17,839 Speaker 3: we started Naked Harvest and then you were still quite 712 00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,520 Speaker 3: beyond social media and I like meeting you guys, they'd 713 00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:29,840 Speaker 3: be like your George Stephenson's husband, like, yeah, he's like 714 00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:34,200 Speaker 3: your famous man. My missus loves your missus. That's what 715 00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:37,359 Speaker 3: the whole conversation would be like all the time. I'm like, yeah, 716 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:42,360 Speaker 3: cool man, Like every time he was you're pretty normal, 717 00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:47,640 Speaker 3: Like yeah, pretty normal. Hate just a normal guy doing 718 00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:48,040 Speaker 3: my thing. 719 00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:51,280 Speaker 1: That is so funny. Yeah, Like I don't think. 720 00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:53,839 Speaker 3: So, but yeah, not really hate. And like we haven't 721 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:56,400 Speaker 3: really had people like to been like trying to Like, 722 00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:57,440 Speaker 3: I don't. 723 00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:01,239 Speaker 1: Think we've changed that much as people, so that might 724 00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:05,360 Speaker 1: be you know, a factor too. Also, we don't have 725 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,799 Speaker 1: a lot of time for friends. We just want enough 726 00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:08,560 Speaker 1: time for each other. 727 00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:18,879 Speaker 3: We don't actually get friends. 728 00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:19,600 Speaker 2: And our lucky last question was did you guys move 729 00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:23,759 Speaker 2: out together young and were there any issues transitioning into 730 00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:24,960 Speaker 2: adulthood together. 731 00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:29,400 Speaker 3: No, not at all. Guys, is a sneak into Georgie's room? 732 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:39,879 Speaker 3: Dim didn't. I I was so young when we weren't 733 00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:40,400 Speaker 3: allowed to. 734 00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:42,520 Speaker 1: I hope I'm a dad. Don't listen to this episode 735 00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:45,480 Speaker 1: when we very first started dating, I I knew what 736 00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:49,719 Speaker 1: was going on. I was seventeen, and it was a 737 00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:51,160 Speaker 1: real no boys in your bed? 738 00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:52,560 Speaker 2: And how old are you? 739 00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:54,120 Speaker 1: Twenty twenty one? 740 00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,040 Speaker 3: Twenty oh, twenty one, twenty one? 741 00:39:57,120 --> 00:40:02,200 Speaker 1: You were twenty one, that's disgusting. And Tim would like 742 00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:04,160 Speaker 1: be sleeping in the other room and then he'd sneak 743 00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:06,200 Speaker 1: in my room, and. 744 00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:09,200 Speaker 3: Then we got to where they were just like, well. 745 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,960 Speaker 1: No, I turned eighteen. Yeah, and I don't know, you 746 00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:14,560 Speaker 1: kind of just started sleeping in there, do you. 747 00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:18,200 Speaker 2: I moved in And when did you move out together? 748 00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,640 Speaker 1: When I was nineteen oh? 749 00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:23,520 Speaker 3: So pretty quickly, so we were that west End. 750 00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:28,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, moved out to West End and apartment with another couple. 751 00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:31,400 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't really remember any teething issues 752 00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,399 Speaker 1: of moving out together, do you. 753 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:35,320 Speaker 3: No, It's so natural, Yeah. 754 00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:39,359 Speaker 1: Because we we had like kind of lived together at 755 00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:43,319 Speaker 1: my house before moving out together. Yeah, and we kind 756 00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,799 Speaker 1: of started like he just started kind of living at 757 00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,560 Speaker 1: my house after six months because we were together all 758 00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:50,560 Speaker 1: the time. Hey, yeah, so yeah, I don't know. 759 00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:53,439 Speaker 3: Any like we were just excited to like get away 760 00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:54,319 Speaker 3: from your mom and dad. 761 00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:58,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, just well you have your own Yeah, I think. 762 00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:02,560 Speaker 1: I don't know. Our relationship has always felt very easy though, 763 00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:07,040 Speaker 1: Like everything just feels very easy. Our second last question, 764 00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:11,439 Speaker 1: how did you keep a positive attitude and relationship during 765 00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:16,000 Speaker 1: your trying to conceive journey? Oh? It was so hard, 766 00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,000 Speaker 1: wasn't it. We're so a bit sad. 767 00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,840 Speaker 3: Every month, like each month you'd be you'd be like 768 00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,760 Speaker 3: and be like and you'd be like, oh, you almost 769 00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:27,919 Speaker 3: like got used to it a bit, didn't you. Yeah, 770 00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:29,759 Speaker 3: but every month, like you sort of got used to it, 771 00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:31,120 Speaker 3: and every month we'll get hard or hard. 772 00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,760 Speaker 1: You feel like it just made us so much closer. 773 00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,560 Speaker 3: Because then you just you sort of think, just doesn't 774 00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,520 Speaker 3: this just happen? Actually? Yeah, just like that because your 775 00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:43,719 Speaker 3: mom and dad were like, so you just like look 776 00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:45,920 Speaker 3: at your mind to be pregnant. So we're just like, 777 00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:47,359 Speaker 3: that's like. 778 00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:51,080 Speaker 1: What we're really our woman, like I thought it would 779 00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:53,399 Speaker 1: be like, but yeah, my brothers were kind of the same. 780 00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:57,200 Speaker 1: But yeah, I think it's it's hard, but I think 781 00:41:57,280 --> 00:41:59,959 Speaker 1: if you can kind of lean on each other because 782 00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:05,600 Speaker 1: communicate about it and almost see this time as a 783 00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:10,640 Speaker 1: it's confirming what you both want, you know obviously, and 784 00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,120 Speaker 1: it also makes you want to have kids more. And 785 00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:15,960 Speaker 1: do you not agree, Tim, Like sometimes if we're having 786 00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:19,040 Speaker 1: a hard day with Ivy or when she was a newborn, 787 00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:22,319 Speaker 1: what would help is thinking, oh my god, remember how 788 00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:26,560 Speaker 1: much we wanted this, Yeah, exactly, and it's like beautiful. Yeah, 789 00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:29,239 Speaker 1: So I think during that time it's really hard, but 790 00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:32,520 Speaker 1: be like, trust me, you'll use this time later on 791 00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:36,440 Speaker 1: as like, you know, a positive thing and you just 792 00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,440 Speaker 1: got to stick together and like get through it and 793 00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:41,960 Speaker 1: like know that baby will come at perfect time for you. 794 00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:42,360 Speaker 3: Guys. 795 00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:46,000 Speaker 2: Our last question, how did you both decide when you 796 00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:47,680 Speaker 2: were finally ready to start a family. 797 00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:52,000 Speaker 3: For years before you I was like, come on, babe, 798 00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:53,200 Speaker 3: I'm not getting the younger. 799 00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,000 Speaker 1: So Tim's whole thing I remember asked when we had 800 00:42:57,000 --> 00:43:00,520 Speaker 1: the actual conversation about children, Tim was like, I want 801 00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:01,840 Speaker 1: a child before I'm thirty. 802 00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:05,440 Speaker 3: While I'm thirty, and so you know. 803 00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,480 Speaker 1: When it kind of got closer to him being thirty, 804 00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:13,040 Speaker 1: I also was like I you know, I'm happy to 805 00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,040 Speaker 1: try as long as you're happy to be at the 806 00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:18,360 Speaker 1: stay home dad, And he was like, all good. And 807 00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:20,600 Speaker 1: then it's crazy because I feel like I didn't want 808 00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:23,520 Speaker 1: kids that much, and then when we started trying and 809 00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:26,279 Speaker 1: when it wasn't happening, I was like, oh my god, 810 00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:29,040 Speaker 1: I want this so much. So I'm kind of glad 811 00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:31,880 Speaker 1: we went through that because it confirmed so many feelings 812 00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:34,719 Speaker 1: for me, and again, it's really helped me get through 813 00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,640 Speaker 1: hard times with Ivy. Yeah, I feel like Tim was 814 00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:41,279 Speaker 1: always just ready and I was like, all right, we 815 00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:44,279 Speaker 1: can do it. But yeah, I feel like I don't know. 816 00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:46,479 Speaker 1: I feel like you just kind of know and I. 817 00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:48,200 Speaker 3: It's like it was like the next step for us 818 00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,200 Speaker 3: because we've been together doing the same thing for ten years. Yeah, 819 00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,920 Speaker 3: it's not what we're getting board, but there was nothing 820 00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,040 Speaker 3: else to like. That was just the next step. 821 00:43:56,160 --> 00:44:00,040 Speaker 1: And even though sometimes I didn't feel ready, I was like, 822 00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,480 Speaker 1: I know Tim's got my back, yeah, and I know 823 00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:05,600 Speaker 1: we can get through anything. And I feel like if 824 00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:09,080 Speaker 1: you're at that stage with your partner, it's not you know, 825 00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:11,920 Speaker 1: if you're maybe not as maternal like Tim was like, yeah, 826 00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:14,239 Speaker 1: of course I'm ready. Me not as maternal but I 827 00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:17,600 Speaker 1: knew that us as a relationship could get through anything. 828 00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:22,440 Speaker 1: If you have that feeling, then you're like, okay, you're ready, 829 00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:25,040 Speaker 1: but that is it. Tim, thanks so much for being 830 00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:26,799 Speaker 1: on the potty. Are you going to come back? It 831 00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,440 Speaker 1: was a blessing to be here, Tim, What are you 832 00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:29,960 Speaker 1: grateful for? 833 00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:31,640 Speaker 3: To do it? Can I do a mic drop? 834 00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:33,279 Speaker 1: What are you grateful for? 835 00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:34,880 Speaker 3: Today? What am I grateful for? 836 00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:36,680 Speaker 1: To try and say this to each other every day? 837 00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:39,400 Speaker 3: Every morning? I'm grateful for this life. 838 00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:46,799 Speaker 1: He always does those. I'm like, be more specific, live 839 00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:47,840 Speaker 1: in his best life. 840 00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:52,160 Speaker 3: To be able to be so special because I don't 841 00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,680 Speaker 3: know anyone else that is ad Dad, So I'm like 842 00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:55,719 Speaker 3: a bit of a unicorn. 843 00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:57,759 Speaker 1: You are a McCom. 844 00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:00,640 Speaker 3: Grateful. 845 00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:04,800 Speaker 1: I am grateful for you and IV my two favorite people. 846 00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:06,520 Speaker 3: Thank you, Jerum. 847 00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:08,560 Speaker 1: All right, guys, we're going to wrap it up there. 848 00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:10,360 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening, and I hope you 849 00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:17,279 Speaker 1: enjoyed this hotline with Jim. Bye bye. 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