WEBVTT - Would You Have Shrek At Your Wedding? 👰💐 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:04.519 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast. 0:00:05.720 --> 0:00:10.440 Hey, it's flexing Rooms on the catch up podcast. Hey girls, 0:00:11.039 --> 0:00:14.200 today we're talking about Flex's privacy. If you're a follow 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:16.000 up of Flex, which I'm sure you are, you would 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:18.840 have seen her rant and her rave on her story 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:22.520 give little examples screenshops of people messages which as a 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:26.279 viewer of your Instagram for many years, nothing tickles my 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:29.560 fancy more than you roasting people in the story. But 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:31.840 I must say, if I was that used. 0:00:31.720 --> 0:00:34.440 To be my go to now I'm Hanny subtle and 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:35.320 sweet on the internet. 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:37.640 If I was in the roast, if I was in 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:39.960 the roast from you, like, that's got to hit different. 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:43.520 I want to just apologize. I can't apologize on your behalf. 0:00:43.560 --> 0:00:46.000 But you know, don't have a panic attack over this. 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:49.600 I get panic attacks when people even have a whisper 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:52.720 of our criticism on me. So if you've found yourself 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:54.440 in the firing line, no, it comes from a place 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:55.920 of love or just do better. 0:00:56.280 --> 0:01:00.520 I mean, I often feel as though people just lose 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:03.640 their sense when they're interacting, not just with me, like 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:05.480 look at a TikTok comment, look at some of the 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:09.119 rogue stuff that just happens eventually you kind of get 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:11.520 met with the energy you're bringing into the into the room. 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.680 It's just what the consequence of that action. And also 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:17.679 I feel like, you know how when you see a 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:20.600 video on any kind of platform, there's an obvious thing 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:23.640 that happens and everybody points it out. It's like dog piling, 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:27.160 so like maybe they've misspelled a word in the headline. 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:30.319 Everyone's like, it's you know, colors with you, not without 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:34.119 you or something, But every single comment saying it, that's 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:38.080 the issue. Like I had already posted about this window situation, 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:41.400 and everybody after it, I'm like, it's fair game. I'm 0:01:41.400 --> 0:01:46.440 coming for you in particular because what is bring back 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:48.080 violence is where I'm at. 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:50.160 Okay, that's how I'm gonna stop. That's definitely a joke 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:52.520 for the legal team here at TITA and AAR and 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:55.160 more broadly, let's get to it. 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:58.760 And you know we've talked about quiet quitting before, right, 0:01:58.760 --> 0:02:00.639 It's this craze all over the internet at the moment. 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:04.080 Contrary to what the name suggests, it's not when you 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:07.880 actually quietly quit your job. It's when you mentally kind 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:10.240 of check out, you start doing bare minimum. You don't 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:14.320 break your back at your workplace because you've experienced mental 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.240 health issues or burnout, or just realize that the amount 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:20.600 of hours you're putting in is not really realistic or 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.160 fair for the amount of money you're getting in return. Right, 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:26.400 And so I guess it started around COVID where people 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:30.079 were recognizing work life balance and also seeing that they 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:33.120 maybe aren't being treated so fairly by their employers and 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:34.840 have to take matters into their own hand. If my 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:37.120 employer isn't going to be mindful of what I need 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:39.760 to be mentally healthy and sound, I gotta do it. 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:44.960 It's giving bright, I gotta step down. So when I 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.800 first heard of this term, I was like, this feels 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:50.880 like a nice concept, right, this idea that you can 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:54.000 just pull back away from your duties and that nobody 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:57.799 will notice and that'll be your almost like rebellion against 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:00.240 the man, against the big dog, against the boss. Right, 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:04.200 But realistically I'm thinking, will that just get you fired? 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:09.040 H But FLEXI, it's so hard to fire someone in Australia. 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:11.120 Yeah, it is hard. I mean, you have to manage 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:14.360 somebody out, but it is possible. Like, realistically speaking, if 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.520 I worked at a workplace I started checking out, I'm 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.400 not working to the standard I was before, maybe not 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:21.840 submitting things on time, maybe not staying late taking my 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:25.760 full lunch hour. If for some reason that was going 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:30.200 to be flagged as irresponsible behavior at the workplace, somebody 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:32.080 can and would manage you out, like you're not going 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:35.120 to get fired off the dome, but you could be jobless. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:37.880 Well, let's just get something straight. And this is going 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:41.560 to sound perhaps a little bit ill informed. Oh, but 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:45.160 it has to be said. Okay, Number one, don't stay 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:46.680 past five thirty. 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:50.240 You needed to finish work at nine point thirty. Now 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:52.120 we're talking about hoste o'clock and off at five. 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:57.080 Said I'm gonna go do that. Don't come in early 0:03:57.120 --> 0:03:58.640 if they say you need to coming early. Once I 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:00.920 did a job and I was and they said you 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.400 have to come in before nine am. That's when I started. 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:05.720 Come in at eight. Get across the news. You have 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:07.760 to come in already, knowing what's going on the news. 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:10.840 I said, yeah, I'll do it. Little did I know? No, 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:13.720 you start at nine for a reason. There's morning editors. 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:15.920 You don't need to come in an hour early. Go 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:18.440 back in your box. Third of all, take the hour. 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:20.120 What you need to do when you start in a 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:23.520 workplace is set boundaries very early on. You don't want 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:26.719 to be the person that's working really hard. If you 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:28.719 come in and you're kind of like a little bit behind, 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:30.680 a little bit slow, people are going to assume that's 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:33.400 your role and work around you. Yes, I don't want 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:35.880 my colleagues to work more than me, like I don't 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:37.919 want them to have to shoulder the load. No, But 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:40.400 at the same time, if I'm working for another person 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:43.360 that's not myself, these things need to be considered. 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.279 But what about people who are currently in jobs and 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:48.440 roles though, Like I think people who experience burnout usually 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.280 are in the role for a couple of years, maybe 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:53.000 a couple of months. You're settled, and they're like, Okay, whoa, 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.240 this is a lot more than I bargained for. I'm 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:58.800 having to really extend myself just to scrape by. 0:04:58.920 --> 0:04:59.120 You know. 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.400 I remember working office and feeling like I could never 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:03.920 get ahead of my schedule, like every single day. It 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:05.520 wasn't that I wanted to stay back, but I had 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:07.560 to do this amount of work and because I couldn't, 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:09.560 like what am I meant to do? Because tomorrow there's 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:11.599 a new batch work that comes and a new batch. 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:14.560 I could not help but think, like my issue at 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:17.680 the time wasn't that my mentality was wrong, that I 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.640 physically did not have the support I needed to do 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:23.400 the job properly when I was breaking my back and 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:25.839 going to put in less effort. I feel like in 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:28.680 the short term it only ruins your day a little 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:31.799 bit because anyone's like, what's happening, You're changing, Your boss 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:33.680 is calling in for one on ones. We've noticed that 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:35.520 so and so and so on. I don't. I guess 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:38.120 the concept of quite quitting would make more sense to 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:40.160 me if it was like, Hey, look at your work 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:44.320 more rationally. Are you overcompensating, have you asked for support? 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:47.960 Are you acting your wage? You know what I'm saying, like, 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:49.920 is the effort you're putting in conducive to what you're 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:52.080 getting out for it? And if not, maybe get a 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:56.160 new job. Because this idea of like how much can 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:59.960 you withstand bloody behavior in a job that has expectations 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.360 of you? A person couldn't do it. But that's why 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:04.279 I'm capitalism handmaid and I'm built different. 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:08.760 Also, if your boss is mean to you, yeah, this 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:12.000 isn't this is not normal. If you're in your first 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:14.120 job or your second job, when you're like managers always 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:17.520 mean reassess. I promise you it doesn't always have to 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.240 be like that. Get the union in literally, don't make 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:22.560 me say it twice. I've gotta be careful with my 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:24.480 union chat because one day I might have employees and 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:26.400 I'm like, do not join the union. 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:29.320 I'm all for it. I've got employees. Ask for what 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:29.920 you need, Bob. 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.320 It's very nice of you, Flex and Frooms, Flexi. I 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:35.320 have a little bit of a dilemma for you. It's 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:35.960 not personal. 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:36.840 It never is. 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:40.440 Unfortunately, you save my personal things for my own financial 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:42.920 gain of course, of course, but this one is from 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:45.560 a woman who is going to a different UNI to 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:48.000 her partner. So it's a high schooler. I love that 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:50.080 we have gen Z high schooler. 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:54.200 Human eye. 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:58.320 It's like a dog. I'm not saying it's a boy 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:00.960 or a girl. It's a it. I want to get 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:02.880 straight into it. This is what she's written in. My 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:05.440 boyfriend and I are going to different unis after high school, 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:07.800 and I'm worried it will break us up. You're not wrong, 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:11.120 con Flex and Firms, please help me. My boyfriend and 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.480 I are about to graduate year twelve. We've been together 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:15.000 for a year and a half and we're going to 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:16.920 UNI's on the other side of the city. I know 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.800 we can see each other outside of this, but I've 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.119 been doing research, and only two percent of high school 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:23.560 relationships work out sight the study. 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:23.880 Babe. 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:26.520 I'm also a really jealous person, and I'm worried about 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:29.440 him making friends with girls and becoming interested in them instead. 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:32.080 What should I do? Before you answer that, I'll just 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:34.080 ask you, do you have a boyfriend in high school? No? 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:34.600 Okay? 0:07:34.720 --> 0:07:38.320 My initial opinion is hun, You're not wrong. Two percent like. 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:41.320 Thought to be much lower, to be honest, but you 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:44.480 could be the exception to the rule. Your love might 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:45.600 stand the test of time. 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:48.880 We found love in a hopeless place, just the school bathrooms. 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:49.760 What do you reckon? 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:53.040 It's a yes from me, dog, It's a yes from me, brev. 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:57.080 I mean, think about it. When you're in high school, 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:59.920 you haven't even finished growing. Like I know that when 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:03.800 you're twenty five, your frontal cortex or whatever is like 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:05.600 it's completed. 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:05.960 The Sarah bellum. 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:09.640 It's fully loaded. And so until then, you're changing, You're 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:12.920 going through puberty, you're going through other changes, body changes, 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:16.280 mind changes, friendship changes. I mean I think you should 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:19.280 part ways while you're still into each other and then 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:24.520 do it ben affleck Jennifer Jennifer Lopez and arrive back 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:25.480 when you're thirty. 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:27.120 It's you're not the whole thing, Like they're not thirty. 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:29.200 If we haven't no, no, when they get thirty. 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:29.640 Got it? 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:30.960 Like you know when you're like, oh, if we don't 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.160 find anyone by the time we're thirty, we can walk 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:34.800 up and a desperation tactics. 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:39.760 You have that consolation prize. Yeah. Look, I say write 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:40.120 it out. 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:40.880 Till it really hurts. 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:45.440 Yeah, why not? How obviously she's done her research. She's 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:48.480 letting fear and scarcity dictate whether or not they should 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.280 stay together. Just let it run its natural course. When 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:53.400 it's too difficult for you to be together, to preck up. 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:54.800 But for now you're doing enjoyment. 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:58.000 So enjoy Oh that's quite nice advice. 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:01.360 Actually, yeah, right, like maybe like maybe eight more months 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:05.680 left in you enjoy them. Yeah, crank it knowing that 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:07.640 it's going to come to an end eventually, but for 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:08.319 now it hasn't. 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:12.880 And just know perhaps it's your first sexual partner. Anyway, 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:17.280 we're gonna leave there. But of course his chat is 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:20.120 to celebrate Heartbreak High, which comes out this Wednesday, the 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:24.160 fourteenth of September only on Netflix with a little exclamation 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:28.000 markets serious. To celebrate the launch of this series, Netflix 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:31.679 invites you, Flexi and everyone else to Heartbreak High Uniform 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:36.120 Shop Part Yeah anyway, It's open this Saturday and Sunday 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:40.480 at five to zero King Street, Newtown, Sydney, five twenty 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:41.120 King Street. 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.120 This is Flex and Frooms on kDa. 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:45.560 Have you been to a wedding recently? 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.319 I have not. The last wedding I went to was 0:09:47.360 --> 0:09:49.120 my brothers and that was like five years ago. 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:49.840 Whoa. 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.360 And before then I was a child at weddings, which 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.400 is very annoying. It definitely was not invited the plus 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:59.360 four for my mum. She's ICOP for one and the 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:00.559 whole family's rocked out. 0:10:00.720 --> 0:10:04.880 Liz, you know that's not good wedding hygiene. But also, 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:07.680 hell yeah, you guys a little cutie, so bring along. 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:11.040 My friend sent me this voice note completely out of 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:12.680 the blue the other day, so I'm just going to play. 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:15.200 It involves a wedding in Chile. I love that people 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:16.040 know what I'd. 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:19.439 Like literally contact curation off the dough boy, mate. 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.120 I was at this word the other day in San 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:24.320 fran and I heard a story that I thought you'd love. 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:26.800 So a friend of mine went to this wedding in 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:33.320 Chile recently and it was a boring, normal chiant wedding, 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:34.920 you know, nothing to write about. 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:37.840 She was kind of like, you know, a bit bored 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:38.360 of the whole thing. 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:43.200 Anyway, at about eleven, the music almost cuts and the. 0:10:43.120 --> 0:10:47.680 Shrek theme song comes on right blasts out of nowhere. 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:50.880 A lady dressed as Fiona comes out with his big 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:54.160 sign above her head that says shots. 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:55.640 And starts handing out shots to everyone. 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:57.880 And there's a dude in like a Shrek costume like 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:02.000 coming in handing out like those balloons and make balloon 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:03.960 animals out of and gives like one hundred of them out, 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:07.679 and everyone goes, it's crazy. Everyone's dancing anyway, and then 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:10.240 it's almost like as soon as it starts, it stops 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:12.520 like an hour later, and it just goes back to 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:13.800 the boring wedding. 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:15.959 And my friend was just stunned. She was like, what 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:16.679 just happened? 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:19.160 And she's asking for people and people go, oh, yeah, 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:23.160 that's that's crazier she's what's crazier, and like at weddings, 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:25.360 it's a thing where they kind of inject a bit 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:26.839 of fun and just. 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.400 Do something insane for an hour. It's live and up 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:29.840 the party. 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:34.280 Genius idea and thought you'd absolutely love it. 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.200 A bit of a performance art, isn't it? 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:41.040 Literally? And I'm seeing photos and the Shrek is so uncanny. 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:43.080 It's like a first amen. 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.840 There are those balloons. Honestly, it's genius. It would make 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:50.439 the biggest difference because I don't think the average person 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:53.400 could sustain and entertaining wedding the whole time. 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.320 You gotta have budget ebb and flow. 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:57.599 Like maybe the speeches are a little bit funny and 0:11:57.600 --> 0:11:59.679 then it gets sentimental for the first dance. But if 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.880 it's funny, funny, funny, funny, we taken the piss. We're 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:06.360 just gagging there. That is hilarious. Would you do it 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:12.200 one hundred percent my wedding to be a garden wedding 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.800 for the ceremony, then go to a small space. 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:18.000 Always want it to be smaller and more cramped and larger, larger, 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.120 And you look and they're all on that dance floor 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:25.000 in like a brand new building. I'm so righthn small, intimate, 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:28.920 crazy music. We're giving eighties music, early two thousand's music. 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:31.040 David Wedder. Yeah, so that's a vibe. 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.280 I love that so much. Look, there's so much I 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:35.560 can go wrong in a wedding. I feel like most 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:39.320 weddings are doomed to be terrible because you get people 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:42.079 who've never planned an event in their life trying to 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:44.719 plan the one of a century. You don't have, You 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:47.319 don't have the skills. Shade though, no shade. 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:50.760 Also, things that you don't budget for are very like 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:54.320 technical things, not just flowers, but other things. I'm personally 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:56.200 going to be getting my friend Jordiana Johnson to be 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:58.000 doing my wedding. She's a producer and a director. If 0:12:58.080 --> 0:12:59.920 you want to use her for an event, yeah absolutely. 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:03.000 I won't be caught spending you know, a bag on flowers. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:03.800 So I don't get it. 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:05.880 People need to be you know what I love. There's 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:10.600 this florus that does like fruit and vegetable installation displays 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:13.000 like real spooky that is better to me than a 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:15.480 bunch of roses that are going to die in six hours. 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:18.240 Like super pero. I don't know what that is. If 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:19.000 you get it, you get. 0:13:18.840 --> 0:13:21.599 It, yeah, okay, this is flex and frumes. 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:26.280 According to the Journal of Motivation and Emotion. 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:29.000 Hmmm mmm checked. 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:33.040 I'd never to be reviewed. Falling in love makes you 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:36.840 less productive. When you are consumed by thoughts of your beloved, 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:40.199 your ability to concentrate and perform the tasks is likely 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:40.760 to diminish. 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:43.079 So what does that mean, don't fall in love? 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:46.880 Po Yeah, if you want to be a capitalist queen, 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:47.439 you know what to do. 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:52.600 Interesting I mean, I'm I'm of the opinion that productivity 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:55.520 should be banished, that it's actually a con and I'd 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:57.920 rather not be productive. So I'm personally waiting to fall 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.439 in love because right now I'm not very produc but 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:01.280 I have no excuse. 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:03.640 Oh okay, get it. So if anybody wants to send 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:07.560 in any application for Frumi's reason for lack of productivity, 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.520 send it to frooms with three zero's no three ho's 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:13.439 on Instagram. 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:14.640 Have you experienced that though? 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:15.319 Yeah? 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:18.079 Of course would you like that right now in the 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:20.040 time of your career? Are you looking for lovelighter? 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:22.600 Yeah, I'm about to fall eleven o'clock off, like I 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:25.280 can't do two things at once. I'm so sorry. So 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:28.360 we've got six more months of the show. 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:33.920 You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kita. 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.040 Miss Rumini. You know I moved into a new apartment 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:36.880 a couple of months. 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:38.840 Ago, Now I sure do. I've been loving seeing you 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:39.400 get in there. 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:42.600 It's absolutely gorgeous. I'm spending a bag on it. It 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:45.360 feels good. I've elevated in the world. But with this 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:49.000 elevation has come maybe a new mentality for how I 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:52.840 posted the internet now. Four hourss ago, I was that 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:56.640 influencer who was doing house tours room tours showing a 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:00.400 layout of my home, showing identifiable areas, because I was like, 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:02.920 who would even care to know who I am or 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:06.080 where I go? What would anybody do with this information? 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:08.640 Then what started happening is that people would know exactly 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:10.320 where I lived, or would be able to guess it 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:13.800 quite quite well based on landmarks or just the type 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:16.440 of trees or the streets or the bins or whatever 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:19.120 it might be. And so with the next house I 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:21.880 moved into, I didn't do any kind of like house 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:24.480 related room to a type of content. I kept it 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:28.040 to diys and general day course stuff. But I was 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:31.200 very mindful not to disclose anything, not where the suburb 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:35.000 was not how many bedrooms it had nothing. Yes, next house, 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:36.880 I got even more stringent with it. I was like, 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:39.160 you know, I'm not even risking it because what happened 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:43.040 is I was selling things on Facebook marketplace and people 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.200 get coming into my house because I knew who I 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.080 was and just wanted to like come and have a 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:49.680 look basically, and then would be like, oh, gonna went 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:51.560 to Flex's house. It was like this, Or I would 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.640 order Uber Eats and then the drive would recognize me 0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:55.160 and be like hey, like I'm a big fan. I'd 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.960 be like, you're in my house, please leave. And so 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:01.560 with this new apartment, I've gone the next step, like 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:03.560 I do not try. I don't film in the day. 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:06.560 I try and film only in closed rooms or on 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:10.080 blank walls where it's just not identifiable at all. And 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:13.880 recently people have been sending me messages like this, I'm 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:16.560 convinced you live underground or something because I have not 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:21.080 seen sunlight in your new home, or someone else said, oh, 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:23.600 I've also wanted about this. I assumed it was so 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:27.800 people on the internet can't directly identify your location. But 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:30.240 do you mean like you just want privacy? Like why 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:32.480 are you hiding it, and I think it's really strange 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:36.320 that people are even clocking this number one, this whole idea, like, 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:39.320 I haven't seen sunlight, I haven't seen windows, I haven't 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:42.120 seen anything that would give me any identification on where 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:45.360 you live, because I didn't realize that me being more 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:49.600 private was clockable to a general audience. Right, and then 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:52.240 somebody sent me the most bizarre message. And this is 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:54.840 after receiving maybe ten messages in a row in the 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:58.800 same day about this window thing. I posted a bit 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:01.640 of content from my house and hobite that's getting renovated, 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:04.600 and somebody responded and said, hey, flex, speaking of lights, 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:07.000 what's the matter with windows in your new space? I 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:11.000 haven't seen any daylight yet. Don't you have any sad face? 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.200 I'm this sad face just for context, is the one 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:18.560 that like you put your two index I sad face? 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:23.160 And then I was like, I have had it, you idiots. 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:26.560 I'm so shut up, you bloody dummies. Anyway, I said, 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:28.320 wouldn't you sooner believe that I just haven't filmed in 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:31.160 the day and that I don't have windows. Why would 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:36.280 this exposed be premium marble everywhere house not have windows? 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:37.080 You bit back. 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:39.560 Yeah, I was like, I don't understand the logic or 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:42.359 the question faintest concern, and then I was like, stop 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:44.760 asking me dumb questions. I crop that one out because 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.280 that was just swap. That was for her, that wasn't 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:49.560 for but it's just dumb. I remember when I used 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:52.480 to complain about getting silly messages. People would be like, 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:54.080 people just want to connect with you, like they just 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:57.000 want to like chat to you and have their experience. 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:59.159 I'm like, well, come correct or don't come at all 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:03.680 because you kissing me. But it doesn't stop there. I 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:06.680 ended up doing, you know, customarily a whole rant about 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:11.359 the situation with receipts following that message. Naturally, I just 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:14.880 come from a little lunch. From that point, I made 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:17.399 an Instagram story and I said something to the effect 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:20.280 of it would be condescending for me to say, use 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:22.440 your critical thinking skills like it would. I don't want 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:25.119 to be that person on the internet, right However, However, 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:31.000