WEBVTT - MINI! Can a relationship work with an 8 year age gap?

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<v Speaker 1>Britt Laura. You know, I'm on the dating scene. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>back on that app some I'm single.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you've been having some successes too, my little Mitch Jury.

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<v Speaker 3>We're all living vicariously three now because Laura and I

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<v Speaker 3>have settled down.

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<v Speaker 1>There's this guy that I'm currently seeing. He's gorgeous, he's

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<v Speaker 1>very sweet. Just a couple of dates, like five or

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<v Speaker 1>six dates. So it's at that point where it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>we've got to make a choice. What way do we go.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to end this or we're gonna have a

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<v Speaker 1>chat about what's next. Anyway, the only issue I can

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<v Speaker 1>see between the two of us is that it's very cute,

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<v Speaker 1>very nice. We get along, good banter. I'm twenty eight,

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<v Speaker 1>he's twenty one.

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<v Speaker 2>He's so young, and it is Look, I know, seven

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<v Speaker 2>years isn't that big of an age gap. I just

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<v Speaker 2>think twenty one year olds, and this is a very

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<v Speaker 2>blanket statement, but they don't always want the things that

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<v Speaker 2>a twenty eight year old wants. There's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>life that happens in your twenties, which I think is

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<v Speaker 2>a really important part of life.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I wanted to drive to the date, and he

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to get the train cause you don't have a car. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>We go to this restaurant. It's really nice. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>cocktail bar, and we're there, we're ordering, and the banter

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<v Speaker 1>is kind of about the age gap between the two

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<v Speaker 1>of us because he thinks it's funny. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's a bit annoying that he keeps bringing

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<v Speaker 1>it up. So I lean over to this couple next

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<v Speaker 1>to us, who are on another spa stool at this

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<v Speaker 1>cocktail bar. Jazz is playing. It's an underground den, and

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<v Speaker 1>I go, you know what, I'm going to nip this

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<v Speaker 1>in the butt once and for all. So I turned

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<v Speaker 1>to this young couple, probably a little bit older to me,

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<v Speaker 1>in their thirties. Excuse me, guys, sorry, And I've got

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<v Speaker 1>a bit of liquid courage. I go, look at the

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<v Speaker 1>two of us, Look at the two of us, and

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<v Speaker 1>you tell me who do you think is old? And

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<v Speaker 1>they go you. I didn't even finish the sentence, and

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<v Speaker 1>who do you think is older? But you with a

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<v Speaker 1>brown hair?

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<v Speaker 3>I have seen the person you're dating, Yeah, and I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like that you're setting yourself up.

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<v Speaker 1>To fight, So okay, shut up. The bartender comes around,

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<v Speaker 1>Can I get your boys any more drinks? I go,

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<v Speaker 1>yes you can, and can you tell me who between

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<v Speaker 1>the two of us is? Oh? Actually taps you on

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<v Speaker 1>the shoulders like this one right here? Absolutely you. I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>man at the back. When your two children come over here, kids, Hi, kids, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>who out of the two of us is an older human?

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<v Speaker 1>They all point the big one.

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<v Speaker 2>Big one wing to you.

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<v Speaker 3>Mitch.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you have some body dysmorphia where you think you

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<v Speaker 2>look younger than you do.

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<v Speaker 1>How dare you?

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<v Speaker 3>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you don't look like a twenty eight year old, Mitch.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't look like a twenty one.

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<v Speaker 3>And so what was the purpose of this on the spot,

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<v Speaker 3>spontaneous survey of the room, interrupting everyone's lovely night out.

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<v Speaker 1>It was purely to make me feel better about the

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<v Speaker 1>age gap not being an issue, because in my mind

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it is that big of an issue,

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<v Speaker 1>but apparently everyone thinks it is.

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<v Speaker 3>You guys, think, what's funny you say that because I

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<v Speaker 3>actually recently came across a study.

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<v Speaker 1>A little bit of it I read.

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<v Speaker 3>I love some science. No, Mitch, I'm sorry to be

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<v Speaker 3>the one to tell you. Just remind me what's theage

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<v Speaker 3>different seventeen years, okay, eight years? Well, all right, even

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<v Speaker 3>worse than thought. There's a study that experts have done

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<v Speaker 3>and there is a correlation between age gaps in a

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<v Speaker 3>relationship and how likely the relationship is to break up.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, A long story short.

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<v Speaker 3>The bigger the age gap, the more likely you are

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<v Speaker 3>for that relationship to not work. Now, if we go

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<v Speaker 3>into your category of what's so fun, you have your

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<v Speaker 3>category of seen you no five years difference, so five

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<v Speaker 3>years and a since your category is an added eighteen

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<v Speaker 3>percent on top of the normal breakup to what odds

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<v Speaker 3>you are of breaking up?

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<v Speaker 2>Dear, Really, sixteen works, doesn't it?

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<v Speaker 3>Eighteen percent more likely?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't believe, so tap out now, I don't. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't believe it, do you know? I just think age

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<v Speaker 1>gaps matter more the younger you are.

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<v Speaker 2>So like, if you're a teenager and there's an eight

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<v Speaker 2>year age gap, that is illegal.

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<v Speaker 1>If you are in your.

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<v Speaker 2>Twenties and there's an eight year age gap, then that

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<v Speaker 2>just becomes a bit tricky because there's so much life

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<v Speaker 2>to live. If you're in your thirties and there's an

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<v Speaker 2>eight not that bad. Sixties, no one cares sixty one

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<v Speaker 2>sixty nine year old. You can date all day long.

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<v Speaker 2>No one cares the age gap.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, like I'm giving you a hard time, Midge.

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<v Speaker 3>But the age gap for my last relationship was seven

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<v Speaker 3>years and I was seven years older, so like hell

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<v Speaker 3>scandalo brand. But the difference was twenty seven to whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>That is thirty five.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, how the difference is a book is that you.

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<v Speaker 1>Often lie about your age, so no one knew anyway. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he thought I was twenty eight.

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<v Speaker 3>But do you know what, Mitch, that was okay because

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<v Speaker 3>he's frontal lob developed, so it's twenty one every fund

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<v Speaker 3>me and he had a bit of life experience and

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<v Speaker 3>he drove, so twenty one. No, but be in all seriousness,

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<v Speaker 3>twenty one. There are studies to say that you are

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<v Speaker 3>still working out who you are