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<v Speaker 1>The Christian O'Connell show podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>So the last couple of weeks we were in England

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<v Speaker 2>and we went back to see my mum and dad,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we went to a family wedding. My wife

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<v Speaker 2>also was there when she went back to England to

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<v Speaker 2>pick up her dad's ashes. Now, her dad died last

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<v Speaker 2>year and he was cremated and they decided to divvy

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<v Speaker 2>up the ashes amongst three family members. Oh really, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how they chop him out. I mean, what

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<v Speaker 2>did it like narcos or so they divided him up.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know whether they weighed him or how.

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<v Speaker 1>Did they do it like a bag of flour. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not sure. Anyway, we got a third of him, I guess,

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<v Speaker 1>and so.

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<v Speaker 2>For two weeks while in the UK, he's in the

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<v Speaker 2>car with us, right and it's in the boot.

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<v Speaker 1>Have the other siblings spread their ashes already? Okay? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Third of him got taken to Ireland and was sprinkled there,

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<v Speaker 2>and then Sarah and her sister wanted to sprinkle him

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<v Speaker 2>at the family wedding. So sarah sister it was her

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<v Speaker 2>daughter's getting married. I kept thinking, you know that someone's

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<v Speaker 2>going to want during the big day, which is a

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<v Speaker 2>celebration of a union of the future, isn't it really

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<v Speaker 2>in love? Suddenly someone's getting the old urn out and

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<v Speaker 2>remember old granddad who died last year, he's here, let's

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<v Speaker 2>sprinkle them around. So anyway, come the big day, when

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<v Speaker 2>do you think you're going.

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<v Speaker 1>To spread your dashes? Because everyone's like clinking glasses and cheering.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm thinking, I don't think it was a lovely sunny

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<v Speaker 2>day she has I'm gonna have to keep So my

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<v Speaker 2>wife is still England because you've got another wedding to

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<v Speaker 2>go to. And actually you can't keep sprinkling a liket

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<v Speaker 2>the wedding crashes. Oh no, Sarah O'Connell's here with that, earn.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't let her in.

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<v Speaker 2>So she's trying to fight somewhere UK that somehow is

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<v Speaker 2>appropriate to sprinkle her dad's ashes. So I know a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of you when someone passes away, you've got the

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<v Speaker 2>ashes and you want to do something where you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to spread them to.

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<v Speaker 1>You want something special, yeah, special place.

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<v Speaker 2>But sometimes what happens in life where you've got an

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<v Speaker 2>intention or experience, We're going to do this, And in

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<v Speaker 2>life sometimes like the wind changes and you hear stories

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<v Speaker 2>about people who throw some beloved family member up in

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<v Speaker 2>the air and they come back on innocent bystanders faces

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<v Speaker 2>or back in your way. Strange things happens when you're

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<v Speaker 2>sprinkling ashes, like my wife right now driving around the

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<v Speaker 2>UK trying to work out where she can put a

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<v Speaker 2>third of her debt ashes. David, her dad would have

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<v Speaker 2>found this very very funny. I didn't mention, by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>we also, I didn't realize this. We also picked up

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<v Speaker 2>an old dog of ours ashes as well. She's also

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<v Speaker 2>got She's got two owns in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, is she gonna sprinkle at the same place?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where they're going to mix them together.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. This feels like she'll get to the airport.

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<v Speaker 1>It has to come home, just out the side of

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<v Speaker 1>the aeroplane.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't miss advise two weeks time, if I'm sprinkling ashes

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<v Speaker 2>in a studio, you'll know it's my but de seize,

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<v Speaker 2>father in law and an old dog. All right, So

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<v Speaker 2>where did you sprinkle the ashes? And what happened on

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<v Speaker 2>nine four one four one four three Linda, Good morning.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, good morning, Christian.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to show. Linda. So whose ashes are we talking?

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<v Speaker 1>About who did you lose?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, unfortunately, my husband passed away had he was cremated,

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<v Speaker 3>and we decided I was going on a trip, and

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<v Speaker 3>I thought, well, I'm as well take some of him

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<v Speaker 3>with me.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I.

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<v Speaker 3>Flew from from Australia to America, I sprinkled some ashes

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<v Speaker 3>on the top of the Statue of Liberty. Then we

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<v Speaker 3>climbed onto the Queen Mary Too and sailed off over

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<v Speaker 3>to Southampton. On the way, I sprinkled some ashes of

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<v Speaker 3>his over the top of where the Titanic was supposed

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<v Speaker 3>to be. And when we got into London, I sprinkled

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<v Speaker 3>some of his ashes in the Thames. And finally when

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<v Speaker 3>we arrived in Paris, I took him and sprinkled some

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<v Speaker 3>of his ashes into Money's garden. Then we arrived home,

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<v Speaker 3>and well thought, well, I had to take him with me,

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<v Speaker 3>because I mean, he paid for the trip and the

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<v Speaker 3>rest of his ashes and the poor dog's ashes up

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<v Speaker 3>at Winton Races tracks in Victoria where we used to

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<v Speaker 3>take our racing car. So he's everywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Which belongs to the world. I love it. So he

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<v Speaker 1>took him basically on a world tour.

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<v Speaker 3>I did well, I mean, as I said, he paid

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<v Speaker 3>for it, So I thought I'd better take him with me.

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<v Speaker 2>And had you talked about this, what would happen in

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<v Speaker 2>an event of anything happening to either of you?

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<v Speaker 1>What you do with the ashes? And my wife and

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<v Speaker 1>I sometimes talk about this.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well I'm supposed to if once I finally pass away,

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<v Speaker 3>my ashes are supposed to be taken up to the

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<v Speaker 3>racetrack where he is.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh so you don't get to do tour? No, you

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<v Speaker 1>just going to go to the track?

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<v Speaker 3>No, Well, who's going to take me?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, you know, take me with it? Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>We better take one with this now?

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<v Speaker 2>Ah, I see, I thought, because that you don't get

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<v Speaker 2>the world you don't get the World tour, then.

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<v Speaker 4>I've already had it.

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<v Speaker 1>You got to experience in person.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me this when you weren't doing all these trips. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>what was this traveling in? Was it the urn or

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<v Speaker 2>something else?

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<v Speaker 3>They give you a small container with some of his

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<v Speaker 3>ashes in it, So I thought, oh, okay, well I'll

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<v Speaker 3>just take that that was packed in the luggage. It

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<v Speaker 3>was never picked up on a knew of the security

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<v Speaker 3>checks going through you know, like, what's this white powder?

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<v Speaker 3>A madam nothing?

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<v Speaker 2>So what is this shoved in the container in the

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<v Speaker 2>middle of the suitcase with your unknees and like your

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<v Speaker 2>shorts and T shirts.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, there sucks and jobs.

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<v Speaker 1>Linda, thank you very much giving us a call. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, have a good day mate.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you do with the ashes? Leslie?

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<v Speaker 2>We scattered Dad's ashes in Lake King Gibson took the

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<v Speaker 2>boat out how to drink scattered the ashes for show

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<v Speaker 2>and town The next week. My son who was seventh time,

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<v Speaker 2>told the class my part died and we chucked him

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<v Speaker 2>in a lake. Maybe tomorrow we do show and tell stories, Jackie.

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<v Speaker 2>We took my dad. Took mom to Greece to coss

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<v Speaker 2>in an empty vegamite jar. She also down at Eagles

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<v Speaker 2>nest in Inverlock and some of her in her gardens.

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<v Speaker 1>Mary, good morning, Good morning, Mary. What happened with it?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good man, welcome to the show. So what happened

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<v Speaker 1>with the ashes?

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<v Speaker 4>So we scattered my sister's ashes. She wanted to go

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<v Speaker 4>to monkey Maya Bay in Western Australia.

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<v Speaker 1>Amazing place.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and we were. When we decided we were going,

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<v Speaker 4>was sort of a family affair. We got to the airport,

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<v Speaker 4>couldn't decide whether you know, she was checking or carry

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<v Speaker 4>on luggage. So we so we weighed her and she

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<v Speaker 4>waited five kilo and I only had seven kilo of

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<v Speaker 4>carry on so I said no, no, no, Lea's.

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<v Speaker 1>The ashes were five kilos.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, because it was her whole entire ashes in

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<v Speaker 4>their tub. So yeah, they weighed five kilo and it's like, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 4>just stick her in my check in luggage. So we

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<v Speaker 4>put her in there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>But across the monkey my bay. And when my sister

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<v Speaker 4>was very ill and our medication, she kept saying, I

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<v Speaker 4>want to go to the Opal farm. I want to

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<v Speaker 4>go to the Opal farm. And we thought, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>it was just a medication because you know they mine oples,

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<v Speaker 4>not farm open. So we've gone out on a catamaran

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<v Speaker 4>into the bay. We scattered her ashes and then the

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<v Speaker 4>captain of the catamaran goes, I'll take her across to

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<v Speaker 4>the pearl farm that's in the bay, and we stepped

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<v Speaker 4>onto the ponchain and the captain of the pontain says

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<v Speaker 4>to us, we don't just fire, we farm Opal's as well.

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<v Speaker 4>And we were like, oh, this is where she wants

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<v Speaker 4>to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she didn't know what she was talking about.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no she didn't, but obviously she did.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, all right, Mary, Mary, thank you very much.

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<v Speaker 1>She called me. That's okay, Bye bye, Let's go to Lindell,

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<v Speaker 1>coome on Lindell.

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<v Speaker 5>Good morning, how are you going?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good. Hope you having a good day so far?

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<v Speaker 1>And what did you do with the ashes?

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<v Speaker 5>Our mum was a big Elvis fan, and unfortunately Mom

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<v Speaker 5>passed away way too soon and didn't get to go

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<v Speaker 5>to grape Plane, which is one of her lifelong dreams.

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<v Speaker 5>And a few months after she passed, or said to

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<v Speaker 5>one of my sisters and said, one day, I said,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm going to take some of my mom's ashes over there.

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<v Speaker 5>So about ten months later we organized a trip to

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<v Speaker 5>the US and we scattered some of mum dashes in

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<v Speaker 5>grape plans just right near the pool in the garden

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<v Speaker 5>where she loved to sit. She's not swimming in the pool,

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<v Speaker 5>she loves to sit next to a pool. So yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>try it exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, did you do it secretly?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I imagined there must have lots of people, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>they probably have some ruling where you're not meant to.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, that's right. We we sort of found that out

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<v Speaker 5>after the fact, but when we sort of felt a

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<v Speaker 5>bit guilty, but we just thought, well, you know, like it,

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<v Speaker 5>we're just sort of like jewelry vile. So it wasn't

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<v Speaker 5>you know, a great clump. So we sort of just

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<v Speaker 5>you know, sekly scattered it in there in the in

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<v Speaker 5>the garden and yeah, so Mum's forever at Graceland.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>So what we do and I pretend to try a

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<v Speaker 2>shoelace and then just chuck into my mum and little bit.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well we sort of did that. We sort of

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<v Speaker 5>looking roundomly if anyone was looking the sort of we

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<v Speaker 5>sort of did a flick, you know, intimate time. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>so yeah, so that's that's what we did. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>we know, had a bit of a bit of a

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<v Speaker 5>cheer afterwards, and you know, yeah, so.

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<v Speaker 1>It was lovely beautiful then now, good on you. Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you very much to give us a call. Christian Connell's

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<v Speaker 1>show podcast. Oh