Speaker 1: Okay, there's a new bar that's opening up, and I
Speaker 1: want to get your take on this. So the rules
Speaker 1: of engagement are going to be that if you attend
Speaker 1: this bar, if you go there with your friends, your girlfriends,
Speaker 1: your boyfriends, whoever it is, men cannot approach women. You
Speaker 1: can't go up and try and have a chat. You
Speaker 1: can't go up and try and pick up a woman.
Speaker 1: It is against the house rules of this bar. There's
Speaker 1: nothing I hate more than going out with a group
Speaker 1: of my girlfriends and having a closed conversation and having
Speaker 1: someone come up and be like hi, ladies, like a way.
Speaker 2: I can tell you I will not be going to
Speaker 2: that bar, and not only because I have a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Place to go if you've got a boy so I.
Speaker 2: Think, I mean, yeah, absolutely, I need my ego stroke.
Speaker 1: No, I'm joking.
Speaker 2: This might be controversial, right. I know there are a
Speaker 2: lot of women that hate men, quote unquote harassing them
Speaker 2: and speaking.
Speaker 3: To men a bar.
Speaker 2: But I think you can't have your cake and eat
Speaker 2: it too, I constantly. I mean, we have a relationship
Speaker 2: in dating podcasts a laur of Life Oncut, so we
Speaker 2: get these questions from listeners all the time. We constantly
Speaker 2: get people complaining men approach me. No one asks anyone
Speaker 2: out in person anymore. Everything's online, like nobody knows how
Speaker 2: to interact. Then on the other hand, when a guy
Speaker 2: does ask a girl out or approach them in the pub,
Speaker 2: we get this like I'm just trying to have a
Speaker 2: good night back off. I don't think the problem is
Speaker 2: men approaching women. I think the problem is that maybe
Speaker 2: what the men does with that information. Like if a
Speaker 2: man is just going to come up and ask, hey,
Speaker 2: can I buy you a drink? I'm interested, You say
Speaker 2: politely no and he leaves, what's the problem with that?
Speaker 2: If then if he doesn't get that cue and gets
Speaker 2: pushy and pushy and push you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Britt, I agree with that to some extent though,
Speaker 1: But I would say that most women have been in
Speaker 1: a situation where they have gotten some unwonted attention and
Speaker 1: some guy hasn't taken And this is not to get
Speaker 1: all ranty, but like someone hasn't taken the polite sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm not interested. Like, it definitely happens, and it's something
Speaker 1: that women experience, and that is why these places do exist.
Speaker 1: But I think if you're choosing to go to a
Speaker 1: bar like this. It's because you desperately don't want to
Speaker 1: be in a situation where you're disturbed. You're either in
Speaker 1: a relationship or you want to just be with your girlfriends.
Speaker 1: I think there's nothing wrong about the bar existing. I
Speaker 1: just think the bar itself is going to end up
Speaker 1: shooting themselves in a foot because it's very limited. I
Speaker 1: know single people are going to go there. You're also like,
Speaker 1: the vibes at this bar are going to be dreadful.
Speaker 2: You know what it's going to be. It's gonna watching painter.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but if men can only talk to men, it's
Speaker 3: going to turn into a gay bar. I hate to
Speaker 3: break it to you, it's a gay bar.
Speaker 1: Absolutely is a gay bar. It's either a lesbian bar
Speaker 1: or a gay bar where only women can approach each other.
Speaker 3: And then on Sam is called I'm thirteen one, I
Speaker 3: six ' five. Hi Sam, what's your take on this?
Speaker 3: You're a man? Yeah, yes, and just I think the
Speaker 3: idea is a little bit outrageous, to be honest with you,
Speaker 3: standing there and just looking at a woman and waiting
Speaker 3: for a woman to come up. I mean, where are
Speaker 3: the good old days where the man goes up to
Speaker 3: the woman you know, and chasing a lady. And it's okay.
Speaker 1: I'm really glad those days don't excuse exist anymore. They
Speaker 1: are chasing a woman, it.
Speaker 2: Doesn't mean chasing them down the street. He has just
Speaker 2: been here.
Speaker 3: Guys, Hang on, guys, hang on for a second. Here
Speaker 3: I want to say, man and the man approaching woman.
Speaker 3: I'm not talking about you know, we're beating it down
Speaker 3: with a stick. I'm talking about going up politely and
Speaker 3: saying good evening, how are you? How's you know?
Speaker 2: I'm on your side?
Speaker 3: Sam?
Speaker 2: These two have been ridiculous. Men should be able to
Speaker 2: approach a woman.
Speaker 3: Okay, Sam, say you're at this bizarre, weird bar. What
Speaker 3: would you do? You'd sit there and you'd make eyes.
Speaker 3: How would you get the attention of a lady? Look,
Speaker 3: it'll be the art of what you just use the eyes, mate,
Speaker 3: you know, the eyes wink?
Speaker 2: Do you get a little set.
Speaker 3: Look, a bit of a bit of a wink, bit
Speaker 3: of a wink, the extended, a bit of a smile,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Do you haven't even offer
Speaker 3: a drink or can't speak?
Speaker 2: No, but you can push the drink to them. You
Speaker 2: can't talk, Sam, do you have a do you have
Speaker 2: a pick up line for when you are at a
Speaker 2: bar that you're allowed to talk to No.
Speaker 3: Look, I think honestly people should go with the flow
Speaker 3: and depending on what the body language they're receiving from
Speaker 3: the other end or the person that is looking at them,
Speaker 3: I think is the most important. And then look, some
Speaker 3: people do get a wrong Maybe they go up to
Speaker 3: a person, whether it's some male or female, they go
Speaker 3: up to them and they say hello, and then they
Speaker 3: the other person's around says, oh, look I'm not interested.
Speaker 3: Well sorry, bud, you have a good mind, and that's it,
Speaker 3: you know, like that's always the other way around. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm having a great night house, you'll know, and then
Speaker 3: that's where the conversation starts. But to go to a
Speaker 3: bar sit there, you know, I mean, waiting for a
Speaker 3: woman to approach. Look, I'll be honest with you. I
Speaker 3: think this is all like a publicity sort of a
Speaker 3: thing and somebody's trying to make somebody out of something
Speaker 3: new they want to bring to the table. But honestly,
Speaker 3: to be honest with you, I think it's a little
Speaker 3: bit silly.
Speaker 1: I disagree, Okay, I disagree. The reason for that is
Speaker 1: is because we're all assuming that the only reason why
Speaker 1: people go out is because they want to get picked up.
Speaker 1: What about all the people who go out who just
Speaker 1: don't want to be hit on, They don't want to
Speaker 1: be picked up, they don't want to have come, they
Speaker 1: can't go to any bar. That's so ridiculous.
Speaker 3: Look, hang on, hang on, guys. Look, if you want
Speaker 3: to go to a place and not get picked up,
Speaker 3: then there's a number of bars right here.
Speaker 1: You can go here and there.
Speaker 3: It's a good option to have. We shouldn't just shut
Speaker 3: it down.
Speaker 1: Guys, don't have to go there if you want to
Speaker 1: pick people up. It's specifically for people who don't want
Speaker 1: to know.
Speaker 3: We said that.
Speaker 2: We said it's great for that, very limited for the bar.
Speaker 1: Yeah, totally Yeah, terrible for business anyway.