WEBVTT - MINI! New bar where men can’t approach women has us DIVIDED

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, there's a new bar that's opening up, and I

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<v Speaker 1>want to get your take on this. So the rules

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<v Speaker 1>of engagement are going to be that if you attend

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<v Speaker 1>this bar, if you go there with your friends, your girlfriends,

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<v Speaker 1>your boyfriends, whoever it is, men cannot approach women. You

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<v Speaker 1>can't go up and try and have a chat. You

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<v Speaker 1>can't go up and try and pick up a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>It is against the house rules of this bar. There's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing I hate more than going out with a group

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<v Speaker 1>of my girlfriends and having a closed conversation and having

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<v Speaker 1>someone come up and be like hi, ladies, like a way.

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<v Speaker 2>I can tell you I will not be going to

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<v Speaker 2>that bar, and not only because I have a boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>Place to go if you've got a boy so I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think, I mean, yeah, absolutely, I need my ego stroke.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm joking.

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<v Speaker 2>This might be controversial, right. I know there are a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of women that hate men, quote unquote harassing them

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<v Speaker 2>and speaking.

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<v Speaker 3>To men a bar.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think you can't have your cake and eat

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<v Speaker 2>it too, I constantly. I mean, we have a relationship

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<v Speaker 2>in dating podcasts a laur of Life Oncut, so we

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<v Speaker 2>get these questions from listeners all the time. We constantly

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<v Speaker 2>get people complaining men approach me. No one asks anyone

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<v Speaker 2>out in person anymore. Everything's online, like nobody knows how

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<v Speaker 2>to interact. Then on the other hand, when a guy

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<v Speaker 2>does ask a girl out or approach them in the pub,

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<v Speaker 2>we get this like I'm just trying to have a

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<v Speaker 2>good night back off. I don't think the problem is

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<v Speaker 2>men approaching women. I think the problem is that maybe

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<v Speaker 2>what the men does with that information. Like if a

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<v Speaker 2>man is just going to come up and ask, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>can I buy you a drink? I'm interested, You say

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<v Speaker 2>politely no and he leaves, what's the problem with that?

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<v Speaker 2>If then if he doesn't get that cue and gets

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<v Speaker 2>pushy and pushy and push you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Britt, I agree with that to some extent though,

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<v Speaker 1>But I would say that most women have been in

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<v Speaker 1>a situation where they have gotten some unwonted attention and

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<v Speaker 1>some guy hasn't taken And this is not to get

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<v Speaker 1>all ranty, but like someone hasn't taken the polite sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested. Like, it definitely happens, and it's something

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<v Speaker 1>that women experience, and that is why these places do exist.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think if you're choosing to go to a

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<v Speaker 1>bar like this. It's because you desperately don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be in a situation where you're disturbed. You're either in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship or you want to just be with your girlfriends.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's nothing wrong about the bar existing. I

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<v Speaker 1>just think the bar itself is going to end up

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<v Speaker 1>shooting themselves in a foot because it's very limited. I

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<v Speaker 1>know single people are going to go there. You're also like,

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<v Speaker 1>the vibes at this bar are going to be dreadful.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what it's going to be. It's gonna watching painter.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but if men can only talk to men, it's

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<v Speaker 3>going to turn into a gay bar. I hate to

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<v Speaker 3>break it to you, it's a gay bar.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely is a gay bar. It's either a lesbian bar

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<v Speaker 1>or a gay bar where only women can approach each other.

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<v Speaker 3>And then on Sam is called I'm thirteen one, I

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<v Speaker 3>six ' five. Hi Sam, what's your take on this?

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<v Speaker 3>You're a man? Yeah, yes, and just I think the

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<v Speaker 3>idea is a little bit outrageous, to be honest with you,

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<v Speaker 3>standing there and just looking at a woman and waiting

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<v Speaker 3>for a woman to come up. I mean, where are

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<v Speaker 3>the good old days where the man goes up to

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<v Speaker 3>the woman you know, and chasing a lady. And it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really glad those days don't excuse exist anymore. They

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<v Speaker 1>are chasing a woman, it.

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<v Speaker 2>Doesn't mean chasing them down the street. He has just

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<v Speaker 2>been here.

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<v Speaker 3>Guys, Hang on, guys, hang on for a second. Here

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<v Speaker 3>I want to say, man and the man approaching woman.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not talking about you know, we're beating it down

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<v Speaker 3>with a stick. I'm talking about going up politely and

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<v Speaker 3>saying good evening, how are you? How's you know?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on your side?

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<v Speaker 3>Sam?

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<v Speaker 2>These two have been ridiculous. Men should be able to

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<v Speaker 2>approach a woman.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Sam, say you're at this bizarre, weird bar. What

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<v Speaker 3>would you do? You'd sit there and you'd make eyes.

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<v Speaker 3>How would you get the attention of a lady? Look,

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<v Speaker 3>it'll be the art of what you just use the eyes, mate,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, the eyes wink?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you get a little set.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, a bit of a bit of a wink, bit

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<v Speaker 3>of a wink, the extended, a bit of a smile,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean? Do you haven't even offer

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<v Speaker 3>a drink or can't speak?

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<v Speaker 2>No, but you can push the drink to them. You

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<v Speaker 2>can't talk, Sam, do you have a do you have

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<v Speaker 2>a pick up line for when you are at a

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<v Speaker 2>bar that you're allowed to talk to No.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, I think honestly people should go with the flow

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<v Speaker 3>and depending on what the body language they're receiving from

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<v Speaker 3>the other end or the person that is looking at them,

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<v Speaker 3>I think is the most important. And then look, some

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<v Speaker 3>people do get a wrong Maybe they go up to

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<v Speaker 3>a person, whether it's some male or female, they go

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<v Speaker 3>up to them and they say hello, and then they

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<v Speaker 3>the other person's around says, oh, look I'm not interested.

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<v Speaker 3>Well sorry, bud, you have a good mind, and that's it,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, like that's always the other way around. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm having a great night house, you'll know, and then

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<v Speaker 3>that's where the conversation starts. But to go to a

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<v Speaker 3>bar sit there, you know, I mean, waiting for a

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<v Speaker 3>woman to approach. Look, I'll be honest with you. I

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<v Speaker 3>think this is all like a publicity sort of a

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<v Speaker 3>thing and somebody's trying to make somebody out of something

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<v Speaker 3>new they want to bring to the table. But honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>to be honest with you, I think it's a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit silly.

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<v Speaker 1>I disagree, Okay, I disagree. The reason for that is

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<v Speaker 1>is because we're all assuming that the only reason why

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<v Speaker 1>people go out is because they want to get picked up.

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<v Speaker 1>What about all the people who go out who just

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to be hit on, They don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be picked up, they don't want to have come, they

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<v Speaker 1>can't go to any bar. That's so ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, hang on, hang on, guys. Look, if you want

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<v Speaker 3>to go to a place and not get picked up,

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<v Speaker 3>then there's a number of bars right here.

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<v Speaker 1>You can go here and there.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a good option to have. We shouldn't just shut

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<v Speaker 3>it down.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys, don't have to go there if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>pick people up. It's specifically for people who don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to know.

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<v Speaker 3>We said that.

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<v Speaker 2>We said it's great for that, very limited for the bar.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, totally Yeah, terrible for business anyway.