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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who.

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Speaker 2: Just on answers.

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Speaker 1: Now good everybody. This docs justin Colson flying solo because

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Speaker 1: sometimes it's just too hard to get Kylie and I

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Speaker 1: together to do the podcast together. Do you hear that

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Speaker 1: my voice cracked because I feel so I feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm letting the team down today. Just a really quick one,

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Speaker 1: because sometimes we don't need a fifteen minute podcast to

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Speaker 1: remind us of what matters. Just like dollars, the currency

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Speaker 1: of our economy, connection is the currency of our relationships.

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Speaker 1: When you have a relationship that has connection, you have

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Speaker 1: a relationship that has life. A relationship with no connection

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Speaker 1: is a relationship that really is either dead or dying.

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Speaker 1: We've all had that experience with somebody that matters to us.

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Speaker 1: We love them, we try our best to connect, but

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Speaker 1: instead we misconnect. And the longer the misconnections occur, the

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Speaker 1: more anxiety we feel around the relationship, and the more

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Speaker 1: the relationship suffers. And I can't tell you how many

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Speaker 1: times I've had this conversation with parents. The parent will say,

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Speaker 1: I'm really really struggling with my child. They're driving me crazy.

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Speaker 1: So I'll say well, tell me about the last time

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Speaker 1: that you really spent some good quality time with them.

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Speaker 1: No eruptions, no correction and direction, just good time together,

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Speaker 1: a walk in the park, a camping trip, that kind

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Speaker 1: of thing, and the parent will usually say something like

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Speaker 1: uh a while kids spell love t im e and

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Speaker 1: so I'll say to them, spend some time connecting. Email me,

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Speaker 1: let me know how it goes. And within a pretty

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Speaker 1: short time I usually receive an update and it goes

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Speaker 1: something like this, Hi, justin we spent some time together.

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Speaker 1: It made such a difference. I feel like our relationship

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Speaker 1: is alive again. So does this work every time? Well,

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Speaker 1: of course not. Parenting isn't that simple, but sometimes it

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Speaker 1: actually is. So try it this week. Focus on time together,

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Speaker 1: drop the agenda and help your children feel like they matter.

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Speaker 1: And then let me know what happens right after the

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Speaker 1: break and update on some cool stuff happening. At Happy Families,

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Speaker 1: it's their Happy Families podcast.

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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast, the podcast for the time

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Speaker 1: poor parent who just wants answers. Now it's doctor Justin

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Speaker 1: Coulson here, flying solo without Kylie, who is in the

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Speaker 1: middle of navigating our ongoing moving saga. Our house is

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Speaker 1: finally on the market. In case you're wondering, can I

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Speaker 1: be that personal with you? Our house is finally on

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Speaker 1: the market. If you're looking to live in the southern

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Speaker 1: Brisbane suburb of Cornubia, we'd be really happy for you

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Speaker 1: to buy our house we can finalize our move to

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Speaker 1: the coast. Kylie is still living in an airbnb and

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Speaker 1: doing her best to help the children to feel settled

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Speaker 1: when it isn't really working so well. I mean, the

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Speaker 1: kids just they want stability and it's really tough to

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Speaker 1: not have that. The reason that I wanted to continue

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Speaker 1: the podcast just briefly is because on the twenty fourth

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Speaker 1: of March, I've got a free webinar coming up called

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Speaker 1: can We Please Talk about Our Boys? In the first

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Speaker 1: part of this conversation this podcast today, I've talked about

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Speaker 1: the importance of connection and it is so important, but

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Speaker 1: the reality is raising boys is really complicated in today's world.

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Speaker 1: We've got an ever changing view of what masculinity is

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Speaker 1: and what it should be, particularly due to great things

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Speaker 1: like the Me Too movement, but also the ongoing challenging

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Speaker 1: conversation around consent, issues of privilege and so on. And

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Speaker 1: some people are saying, well, we should be talking to

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Speaker 1: our girls about this stuff as well as our boys.

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Speaker 1: I would agree with that, but the conversations need to

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Speaker 1: be different because our boys experience these things in ways

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Speaker 1: that are different to our girls. So we're going to

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Speaker 1: unpack all of this in a free webinar on Thursday

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Speaker 1: of next week, Thursday March the twenty fourth, at today

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Speaker 1: o'clock New South Wales, Victoria time, seven o'clock Queensland time.

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Speaker 1: Anywhere else you might be check your local guides and

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Speaker 1: here's the good news. If you've got boys and you'd

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Speaker 1: like to participate, being there in attendance live will be

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Speaker 1: best because you can ask your questions and enjoy the interaction.

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Speaker 1: But we will be giving you access to the free

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Speaker 1: webinar as a recording for seven days following the free webinar,

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Speaker 1: So can we please talk about boys? That's on Thursday,

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Speaker 1: the twenty fourth of March at eight pm New South Wales,

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Speaker 1: Victoria seven pm Queensland and a seven day recording is included,

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Speaker 1: plus a cheat sheet so that you've got a whole

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Speaker 1: lot of extra info to lean on and think about

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Speaker 1: what's going on thirty forty minutes something around that can't

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Speaker 1: wait to share it with you. Please visit happyfamilies dot

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Speaker 1: com dot you for all the details. Hey, thanks for

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Speaker 1: listening today's podcast. I hope it's been helpful and that

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Speaker 1: you get some connection time in because connection really is

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Speaker 1: the currency of our relationships. The Happy Families Podcast, as always,

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Speaker 1: is produced by Justin Ruhland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce

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Speaker 1: is our executive producer and for all the information that

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Speaker 1: you can handle about making your family happier, please visit

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