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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast.

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Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just

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Speaker 2: wants answers.

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Speaker 1: Now, Gooday. This is doctor Justin Colson, the author of

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Speaker 1: all those books about making families happy, here with Kylie,

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Speaker 1: my wife from Under our six Kids, and we are

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Speaker 1: still celebrating because a million downloads. It's not a small thing.

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Speaker 1: That's a really big deal. And we are so grateful

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Speaker 1: for everybody for listening to the podcast and finding joy

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Speaker 1: in it and making their families happier. So yesterday we

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Speaker 1: were sharing a bunch of a bunch of our memories,

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Speaker 1: our top ten and we've gotten through the first five

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Speaker 1: of our podcast episodes this year.

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Speaker 2: I think we've got through the humiliation ones.

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Speaker 1: Oh there's some beautiful ones. Come on, some really nice moments.

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Speaker 1: There were some beautiful moments in case you missed it.

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Speaker 1: Yesterday we talked about Kylie quitting. So at the start

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Speaker 1: of the year, Kylie was going to Kyler is going

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Speaker 1: to go back to school start her education process all

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Speaker 1: over again. And before it even began it finished, we

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Speaker 1: talked about Jessica Row being a crap housewife, Kylie running

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Speaker 1: with a wedgie. We had a chat with author Susie

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Speaker 1: O'Brien and talked about the meaningful stuff that happened on

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Speaker 1: Mother's Day.

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Speaker 2: But today we're going to actually follow on from Mother's

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Speaker 2: Day because Mother's Day definitely became the most memorable event

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Speaker 2: of twenty twenty one. It started with a bath.

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Speaker 1: Actually, no, that's kind of where it ended. Kind of Actually,

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Speaker 1: the long and the short of it is that one

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Speaker 1: of the kids was running the bath so that they

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Speaker 1: could give you a special bath, and then they were

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Speaker 1: going to massage you on the massage table, and they

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Speaker 1: filled the bath and forgot that they were running it,

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Speaker 1: and it overflowed. And it didn't just overflow. I think

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Speaker 1: it overflowed for probably about thirty or forty minutes, multiple

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Speaker 2: The bathtub is at the other end of the house.

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Speaker 2: We were all at one end of the house and

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Speaker 2: they were at the other end of the house. They'd

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Speaker 1: downstairs TV room. We've got a there's a media projects.

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Speaker 2: It's gone through the floor cavity. Yeah, that's gone into

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Speaker 1: It's gone into the ceiling downstairs, and we've got a

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Speaker 1: media projector in that room that was there when we

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Speaker 1: falling through. The water was literally pouring through the light fixtures,

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Speaker 1: it was pouring out of the hole for the projector.

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Speaker 1: I went down the next day and I can put

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Speaker 1: I mean, it really put a dampener on our mother's day.

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Speaker 2: It all happened just as Chanelle was putting lunch on

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Speaker 1: When Jared walked up the stairs, so Jared's his son

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Speaker 2: So I ended up having a very cold bath because

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Speaker 2: And I sat in there and tried to be calm

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Speaker 1: It was pretty stinky in there. I don't know what.

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Speaker 2: Three different candles scented, not just normal candles scented, three

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Speaker 2: the message table so I could have a massage.

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Speaker 1: So that's about when I came upstairs from cleaning downstairs,

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Speaker 1: and there was twelve sets of hands massaging different parts

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Speaker 1: And I just remember they had that nice, calming massage

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Speaker 2: I don't know how much strawberry moose they stuck on

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Speaker 1: But what was the funniest was that the kids, like,

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Speaker 1: a massage is supposed to be relaxing, and all I

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Speaker 1: can hear is the kids whacking each other's hand, saying,

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Speaker 1: You can't message that patter, that's my part massage.

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Speaker 2: Like one point, I said to Annie, are you supposed

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Speaker 1: It was like a distinct and significant form of a

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Speaker 1: Well that's what happened. We are still paying for it today. Literally,

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Speaker 2: Our ceiling has been resheeted, right, we still and we

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Speaker 1: Finally, yes, after months, but they're.

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Speaker 2: Still a holyood painting that needs to be done.

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Speaker 1: One of our favorite episodes was revisiting how we can

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Speaker 1: make road trips work because, I mean, with a pandemic

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Speaker 1: two hundred and thirty four. Bingo What Bingo? I thought

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Speaker 1: we were playing Bingo as a talking game. This is

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Speaker 2: There was a farmer had a dog and Bingo was

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Speaker 2: Well, the idea is the next time we seing it,

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Speaker 1: don't know the tune problem. Yes, it goes on and on.

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Speaker 1: My friends, some people started singing and not knowing what

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Speaker 2: Why are you laughing at me?

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Speaker 1: You've got a great voice. And then the continued singing

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Speaker 2: Well, my absolute favorite over the last few years is

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Speaker 1: Their boid just came out and I was just like,

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Speaker 1: Well, it's actually ours because we had lots about this one.

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Speaker 1: Which is really a word replacement game. What happens is

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Speaker 2: The family life is full of ups and downs, and

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Speaker 2: we've obviously celebrated some significant ups and some hilarious moments

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Speaker 2: this year is actually farewelling. I'm going to cry.

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Speaker 1: We're willing our puppy dog, Benson. We had him for

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Speaker 1: a long time, and after more than a decade in

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Speaker 1: our family, we shared an episode two hundred and ninety

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Speaker 1: two Our Families Goodbye to Benson. We wrapped him up

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Speaker 2: And then little Emily just gets us every time. When

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Speaker 1: I think that's how we all felt. I am just

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Speaker 1: so grateful for the discomfort. I'm so grateful for the sadness.

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Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for the and sorrow that we felt.

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Speaker 1: There's something extraordinarily powerful about going through that and helping

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Speaker 1: grieve and to understand the impermanence of life. It's been

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Speaker 1: some some months and it still hurts. Yeah. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: think we should take a quick break and just kind

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Speaker 1: of recalibrate. We're sharing our top ten so far this

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Speaker 1: year of special moments, things that we've been able to

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Speaker 2: It's the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the time

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Speaker 1: One of the most popular interviews that we've done this

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Speaker 2: But we're going out with a big bang today. It's

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Speaker 2: Happened to be one of your most embarrassing moments.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't quite stay on the roof as long

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Speaker 2: I'd really like to know what you learned from that experience.

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Speaker 1: What do you want me to learn?

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Speaker 2: I want you to learn that number one two is

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Speaker 2: better than one, two is better than one. Yes, make

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Speaker 2: sure you have someone for starters if you're going to

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Speaker 1: Well, I had my phone. Your phone wasn't very much helpful.

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Speaker 2: You know. When you took me out there, it looked

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Speaker 1: In my garden. Well, we are so grateful that you

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Speaker 1: enjoy the Happy Family's podcast. We're grateful we have been

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Speaker 1: You're so wonderful.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we really truly do appreciate it. The Happy Families Podcast,

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Speaker 1: as always, is produced by Justin Rulan from Bridge Media.

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Speaker 1: Craig Bruce is our executive producer. You do that so

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Speaker 1: much better than me at All. The info that you

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