WEBVTT - Tuesday ASK UNCUT episode - the old bait and switch 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:24.319 Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:24.799 One Cut. 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:28.400 I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and we are mixing it 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:29.160 up this week. 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:32.800 This is Tuesday, but we are bringing you our Thursday 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:34.400 episode of Ask Uncut. 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:35.920 Now, we do have a good reason. 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:37.160 It's a little bit confusing. 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:39.519 I know, I know, but you know, at work has 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:42.239 just been very, very all consuming in. 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:43.440 The last couple of days. 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:46.479 I have a lot happening with Tony Bay and then 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:49.680 it's also been Father's Day, and our Tuesday episode is 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:52.959 the episode that requires a lot more research and preparation, 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.960 and so we decided that instead of just slapping something 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:57.640 together half asked and half. 0:00:57.480 --> 0:00:59.360 Bay, because we are not about that I'm. 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:00.000 Gonna slap guys. 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.480 We wouldn't do that to you, which bullhole all the time. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.440 So we're just gonna mix things out. We're going to 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:09.760 do our Thursday's episode today, which is our Asking Cut episode. 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:11.520 Answer your deep, dark and dirty questions. 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:13.560 A la la la la, yeh, there she is. 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:15.760 There's that's been It's been a little while. 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:17.600 It's been a little while since I've done that sound, 0:01:17.640 --> 0:01:19.600 and I didn't want you to think it's completely gone away. 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:21.800 I'm not opposed to it going away. 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:24.440 Well, there's going to be someone out there who likes it. 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:26.000 Maybe one person we don't know. 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:29.720 But yeah, So Thursday's episode, we're going to be talking 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:31.320 just to give you a little taste test so you 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:34.160 know what's coming. We're going to be talking about dating 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:39.480 someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, which if you've ever dated. 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:42.600 Someone you will know it's great, real fun. 0:01:42.920 --> 0:01:43.720 That's a lie. It's not. 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:47.280 It's like burning and the floor is lava and everything's 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:49.720 on fire and you're dying. But before we get. 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.880 Into that, how was Father's Day? 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:57.240 Oh? Well, it didn't get mad at present, but I 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.200 did it. But I did a lot of acts of service, 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:01.280 right mate. 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:04.800 Let's slow down. We're only two minutes in. Again, that 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:06.000 might be a new record. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:08.800 And we had sex, but that wasn't the acts service 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:12.600 that I was talking about. I like cook, I cleaned. 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:15.200 I you should stop the list there. 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:18.160 I just did. I took care of Marley's that he 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:18.880 could go to the gym. 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:21.560 And I think it's really interesting because I think when 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.080 it's Mother's Day, if you ask any mum what they 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.840 want for Mother's Day, they'll say, I just want some 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.760 time to myself. I want to go for a massage, 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:31.359 or I want to go away from you and the 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:33.280 kids and everyone, and I want to spend some time 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:35.519 to myself. If you ask father's what they want for 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:38.519 Father's Day, they're like, I just want to spend time 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:39.400 with my family. 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:43.160 Oh that's cute, though, but that's because the mom spends 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:45.600 the majority of the time anyway. So it's just like, 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:48.240 please give me some peace and quiet. You always want 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:50.000 what you don't have on the rag, right, Oh my god. 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:50.600 Absolutely. 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:53.520 So we had a really cute morning together. We did breakfast, 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:56.320 Matt went to the gym, I cleaned, and I cooked, 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.240 and I cleaned some more, and I got my real 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:01.120 housewife on and then we had a in the afternoon 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:01.720 and it was cute. 0:03:01.720 --> 0:03:03.840 We just had a real aussy Father's Day. And you 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:08.080 went to Port Macquarie. Yeah. Look I saw in the truck, 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:11.839 went up the coast, saw big tones. He was doing 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:15.040 really well. Shout out. No. 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:17.359 Dad is our biggest fan. 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:20.440 Anyone that listens to this knows that he, or anyone 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:25.839 on the Instagram page. Dad's very He's very proactive there 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:29.160 way even their life uncut flag. We've got plenty of 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:32.799 time for it, but he had his own accidentally unfiltered, 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:36.480 so I'm I'm gonna tell you, and he was like 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:38.560 super excited to tell me too, because he's like, a 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:43.880 why he's like an accidentally unfiltered So basically, he went 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:45.400 to get his hair cut. Okay, he just went to 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:47.840 get a trim. He went in there and it was 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:49.480 a lady sitting down. There was only one person, so 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:51.720 she was already cutting Sal's hair. So she turns around 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:55.680 and she's like, hey, look it's gonna be a little while. 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:56.680 Why don't you crawl across. 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:58.080 To the pub and have a drink or something or 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:00.240 come back. Like anyone that knows my dad knows, he's 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:02.320 not really a pub person, like he would run. He 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.040 would probably go for a half hour run then go 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:06.120 to the pub. But she's like, go have a across 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:07.560 the pub, have a drink, come back, and I'll do 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:10.480 your hair then. And there was a lady standing next 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:13.680 to him who was the mother of the girl getting 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:14.160 a haircut. 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:17.400 Dad recognizes are as this woman. 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:19.280 From a coffee shop. So she's like, go and have 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:22.160 a beer. And the woman next to Dad is like, oh, 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:25.680 doesn't sound like a bad idea, and Dad's like, well, 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:27.560 come on over to the like, come on over and 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:30.240 I'll buy you a drink while we wait, and she's like, 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:33.040 all right, fuck it, let's go have a drink at 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:36.719 the pub. So Dad and his in inverted brackets Comma's 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:39.839 friend went across to the pub for a beer. 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:42.880 Dad bought her a drink. They're having a yard and 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:47.320 Dad's like, how's are the pups the dogs? 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:49.560 And the lady hesitated for a second and she's like, 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:52.400 I mean, yeah, they're. 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:53.520 Good, They're fine. 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:56.720 And Dad's like that's good, good, and he's like he's 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:58.320 like it was a bit of a weird answer, like 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.720 she was a bit stand offish. And then he's like, 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:03.480 what about the coffee shop? Because this woman that dad 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:05.200 was weir it owns a coffee shop. What about the 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:07.080 coffee shop? How's coffee shop? Have you been going in 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:09.800 COVID and everything? And the lady was like, oh, I 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:12.080 mean yeah, a bit quite for a little while, but 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:12.839 we're doing okay. 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:15.640 And Dad was like she was really weird, Like she 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:16.840 just real standoffish. 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:19.560 I feel like I know where this is going. I 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:21.960 already feels so uncomfortable for your dad. 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:25.480 So they had this like they had this whole date. 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:29.280 My dad's been married forty two years and he went 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:31.200 on a date here to know. So they go back 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:33.440 to the hairdresser and they end up getting a haircut 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:35.680 and he says he's goodbyes. The next day, he goes 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:39.000 to the coffee shop, because he's a regularly coffee shop. 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:40.000 He goes to the coffee shop. 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:42.320 He looked at the lady behind the counter that he 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:44.960 thought he bought a drink the night before, and he's like, 0:05:45.200 --> 0:05:47.479 holy shit, who the hell. 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:48.760 Did I take on a date last night? 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:50.360 Because this is not you. 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:52.560 I'm not the lady that I was bought a drink 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:54.840 for last night. Dad like, Dad's at a loss. He 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.520 goes home to Nikki, my mom. He's like, Nick, I'd 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:00.960 be honest, I've accidentally gone on a date a month. 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:04.800 Thought was hilarious. But then it gets worse. Did he 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:06.440 like you're his number or something? 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:09.880 No, So it turns out a few days later, Dane, 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:12.640 who's my brother. This is so convoluted and this is 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:16.239 Port McQuary for you. The lady has said to Dane, 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:18.320 this the lady that Dad did take on a day 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:20.760 He's like, look, I saw you walk past the other 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:24.760 day with your dad, and I'm pretty sure he took 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:26.880 me on a date thinking it was someone else and 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.840 was like this big convoluted story. Came back, got back 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:31.400 to dad. Dad went back to do and he's like, look, 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:33.600 I'm so sorry that that happened. Like I thought you 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:35.480 were someone else, and I thought you were a friend 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:36.960 and I'm married for four jers, was all. 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:38.320 This big fuck up. Wow. 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:42.920 Anyway, welcome to Port mcray. It's a small, insular little town. 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:45.559 Four dad first date he's been on in like forty 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:47.400 five years, and he didn't even know he was on one. 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:50.400 Even he's out there picking up people. He's looking at 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:51.760 for that I'm picking up. 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:55.840 Well. Coming off the back of your actually unfiltered stories, 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:58.480 I figured we should just instead of going completely rogue 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:01.799 on this episode and it all feeling very unfamiliar territory 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:03.600 to you, I thought I would read you out and 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:05.280 accidentally unfiltered the story they. 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.800 Came in just before because it gave me a good giggle. 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:10.000 So you know that this is our favorite part of 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:11.760 the episode. So I was like, I'll throw one in 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:15.480 for you, okay, go okay. So me and my partner 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:18.240 are relatively new into our relationship and exploring in the 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.840 bedroom if you're catching what I'm throwing anyway, So a 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:23.320 bit of butt stuff never hurt anybody, right, No. 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:29.280 And I'd probably have that statement is incorrect. I think 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:31.080 a few people don't enjoy the but stuff, but some 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:33.480 people do. You know, different strokes for different folks. 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:36.560 So I'm sure you're getting where I'm going and putting 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.040 two and two together. So yes, we get to the 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:43.240 end of the session as such, we're like, wait, where 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:46.640 is the vibrator. I can hear it buzzing away. Oh 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:48.760 my god, please tell me it's under the bed. 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:50.760 It's nowhere to be seen. 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:54.000 It's at this point that we both realize that the 0:07:54.160 --> 0:07:56.360 vibrator is stuck in my butt. 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:01.640 It was horrified and immediately started freaking out. 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.480 I ran into the bathroom through fits of tears, and 0:08:04.640 --> 0:08:08.040 had to poop out the tiny vibrator. My partner then 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:11.800 weirdly reassures me by saying, don't worry, babe, the exact 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:13.320 same thing happened to me in the past. 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:19.800 Ah ye, good need too. Good thing. Good news is 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:21.720 the vibrator was retrieved. It's safe and sound. 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:24.760 The thing that I'm most concerned about is the fact 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:27.160 that this isn't like a new vibrator that the two 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:28.800 of you have bought together to use. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:32.040 This is something that he's had before and has been 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:34.880 stuck in his own butt and didn't feel the need 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:35.640 to tell you that. 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:40.000 I'm more concerned. We have a few concerns. I love 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.079 that you guys are going for it. Love that in 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:44.720 my industry, I see a lot of things up people's butts. 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:46.760 It's my job. I have to find them, like we 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.400 do the imaging. We go to the operating theaters. 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:51.960 When I have to go out foa for an object anal. 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.920 I have seen a lot of stuff up, But I 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.160 think it's funny that she doesn't realize how close she 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:59.240 came to a really embarrassing hospital trip. 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:01.199 All usually poop out. 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:04.199 Okay, all right, so pretty just took that and made 0:09:04.240 --> 0:09:06.840 it really medical. Thanks for shitting on that story. 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:09.400 Anyway. Let's get into the ask gun cuts guys. 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:12.080 All right, have you got one first? Start hot off 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.680 the ranks? Yes, I do, and it is very relative 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:18.720 to what we just discussed. Ladies, My boyfriend is really 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:19.760 into butt stuff. 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:20.920 Me not so much. 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:24.360 I find it very uncomfortable and it really hurts. But 0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:26.640 he is very persistent that he wants to try it 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:27.319 in the bedroom. 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:29.880 What should I do? I just thought, since we were 0:09:29.920 --> 0:09:31.240 on the tame, Yeah, I like. 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:34.080 I like it's a smooth transition. 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:35.360 I think this is easy. 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:40.480 I think anything can go down in the bedroom, anything 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:43.199 you want, as long as you're both on board with it, 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:45.760 you both feel comfortable with it, You've discussed it, and 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:51.320 it's a safe, open, comfortable environment. The second one person 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:54.840 in the relationship doesn't want to do something, you don't 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.959 have to do it. And if you try to do 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.200 it to make your partner happy, it's never ever going 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:02.000 to end well, not healthy in the relationship to be 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:06.040 doing something simply to please your partner. I mean, look, 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:08.120 we all make sacrifices and do things in life. We 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:12.760 don't want to do blowjobs, your acts. 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:14.719 Of service on Father's Day nailed neck. 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.280 No, But like, sometimes you've got to make those sacrifices 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:19.120 for the ones you love. 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:21.160 But that doesn't mean that you have to do butt stuff. 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:22.840 No, No, it doesn't. 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:25.040 And the thing is what I'm saying is like, yeah, 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:28.079 you do have to meet halfway, sometimes meet in the middle, 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:29.640 but you don't have to meet in the butt. No. 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:32.280 Seriously, though, you don't. You do not have to do it. 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:33.880 You can just have a conversation. And so I'm not 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:35.240 comfortable with it. I don't really want to do it. 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:37.520 Maybe we could try something else, or you can throw 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:41.000 some suggestions out there yourself, but don't feel pressured. 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:43.680 Look, I am fully there with you, Britt, I think. 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:46.520 I mean, obviously some people are super into it, that's great. 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:48.599 I am definitely one of the women who are of 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:50.600 the thoughts that there's a perfectly good hole in. 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.880 The front, and that the one in the back is 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.760 a one way. It's got to stop signed right at 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:58.960 the front door. And I honestly think that there are 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:03.000 guys out there who who think that every single girl 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:05.480 can do it, and that every single girl will enjoy 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:10.640 it if they give it a go. I disagree, Okay, Like, yes, 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.319 there are some girls out there who have done it 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:15.000 and they have grown to like it and they enjoy it. 0:11:15.320 --> 0:11:17.480 But you know what, there are other people out there 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:21.319 who consistently don't enjoy it. It's painful, it's uncomfortable, and 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:24.439 you don't have to bend what your boundaries are to 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.439 make somebody else happy. Like, you know what, if that's 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:29.080 a deal breaker for him in the bedroom. 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:30.840 If he absolutely has to do that and that's one 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:34.120 of his number one fetishes, then maybe you guys are 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:38.040 not sexually compatible. However, if he respects you and loves 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:40.959 you and really cherishes the relationship, he's not going to 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:43.680 push something that makes you uncomfortable, that makes you upset. 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:46.240 You know, he can get his rocks off other ways. 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:48.520 It can't be the only thing that gets him off. 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:51.599 There's a lot of relationships where one person in the 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:56.480 relationship do want certain things and do have certain fetishes, 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:58.760 But that doesn't have to mean that the relationships over. 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:00.559 It doesn't have to mean you're not sexually compatible. It 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.960 just has to mean that you meet halfway. 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:04.800 But this is easy for me. 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:07.480 It's just like, it's just explaining that it's not what 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:09.839 you're into, and if you guys love each other, you'll 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:11.720 just move on and it won't be it won't come 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:12.520 up in topic again. 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:14.280 Yeah, But that's the thing I think is can be 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:18.800 sometimes a bit confusing or a bit aggravating or disappointing 0:12:18.880 --> 0:12:21.880 in this type of conversation is that often you do 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:25.199 have the conversation with a guy and say you're not interested, 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:27.040 and then they bring it up again and then they 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:29.000 you know, it just seems they do. They're like whoops, 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:31.480 oh yeah, or just try just give it a crack, 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.240 you know. But like, I think that there are some 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:38.120 men that are very persistent and don't take no or 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.319 don't take that you're uncomfortable as like a hard no. 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:44.400 I mean, that's that's a whole nother topic of conversation, 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:47.400 isn't it men in general who don't see Noah's and no, 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:49.679 they see Noah's and maybe. But I think if he 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:53.679 respects you enough and you have explained why, and you 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:56.520 know for whatever reason that why is, that should be 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:58.880 enough in your relationship for him to respect it and 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:01.319 drop it. And unless you bring it up again in 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:03.480 the future because you've decided that you want to try it, 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:06.160 it shouldn't be a conversation that you keep having every 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:08.719 single time you have sex, because that's just almost like 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:09.880 being badgered into. 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:12.319 Doing something that you don't want to do. So stand 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.120 you ground, girlfriend, Yeah, stay away from the butt. 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:21.680 Question number two. Okay, this is a bit more serious. 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:25.079 Fast is no? I think we're going uphill now? That 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:26.040 was down. Okay. 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.800 I've been with my boyfriend for five years. Since we're eighteen, 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:31.440 I moved away from the country to study at UNI, 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.719 and eventually he followed. I have two years of my 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:36.800 degree left, and he has told me that he wants 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.240 to move back home to the country because he doesn't 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:42.520 like his job and the city lifestyle. We had previously 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:44.800 discussed that we would both move when I finish UNI. 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:47.760 Is it fair that I feel really hurt by this? 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:50.000 I feel like that I'm not enough for him to 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:51.920 just stick it out and find another job up here 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:55.760 until I finish. I'm almost certain that long distance wouldn't work, 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:57.400 and I don't want to miss out on these fun 0:13:57.520 --> 0:14:00.000 young years together being five hours apart all the time. 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:01.800 What are your thoughts on this? 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:06.280 I actually have some pretty strong thoughts on this, because 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:08.559 I feel like I was in this exact situation when 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:11.839 I was when I finished UNI. So I studied in 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:16.240 Wollongong and I met a guy who has had moved 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:18.600 to Lismore and he was studying up there. So as 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:20.680 soon as I finished my degree in Woollongong, I moved 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:22.520 to Lismore to be with him, and he had two 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:24.400 years left of his degree. We'd kind of done like 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:28.640 about eight months long distance at the start of our relationship, 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:33.160 and I did a year in Lismore and Lizmore's very 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:35.720 country for anyone who doesn't know, it's like the Northern 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:39.040 Rivers region. It's about forty five minutes inland from Byron, 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:44.000 So you know, I just felt really displaced there. 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:45.320 I didn't have any friends. 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:48.480 I didn't really I didn't really get a good job, 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:50.320 Like I was working in a job that wasn't very 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:53.000 inspiring for me, especially when I just finished my UNI degree, 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:55.560 and I found it really really difficult. And after a 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:58.440 year I chose to move home. And I feel like 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:00.560 we were in a very similar situation this, but in 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:05.560 the reverse almost. I guess, like my thoughts on this 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:08.040 is kind of trying to see it from the guy's 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.840 perspective and play a bit of the devil's advocate. I 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.400 think it's really hard to expect someone to put their 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:16.200 life on hold for two years. To having two years 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:19.000 left of your unique degree is a really, really long 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:22.680 time if your partner is really really unhappy being where 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:26.080 he is. And I don't think that one person and 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:29.760 your relationship is enough of a source of happiness to 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:33.320 make someone stay somewhere where everything else doesn't align with 0:15:33.520 --> 0:15:36.680 their sense of purpose, because two years is a long 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.480 time to feel like you don't have purpose outside of 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:40.240 a relationship. 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:42.240 I know that that's probably not what you want to. 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:45.200 Hear, because it's pretty heartbreaking when you think that you're 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:48.000 not enough. But yeah, my relationship wasn't enough, and I 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.640 ended up moving back. It didn't like we still did 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:52.800 long distance, Like we made that work for a couple 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:54.360 of years after that, and we ended up, you know, 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:57.560 living together again in Sydney after he'd finished his degree. 0:15:57.680 --> 0:15:59.240 But I don't know. 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:01.680 I just think I understand what it's like to be 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:03.480 somewhere and feel like you don't belong there. 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:04.800 Where do I start? 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:08.560 You're like controversial because we don't agree. No, look, I agree, 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:10.440 I do agree with what you just said for sure, 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:12.320 and I can see that. But I think this might 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:16.960 be the first time you and I might actually disagree. 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:20.040 We did talk about this topic a little bit before 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.800 we started recording, and we could not We couldn't get 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:25.840 to you same like, we couldn't get to the same place. 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:29.040 And it's funny that's never happened. Ever, It's never happened 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:32.680 in a history of life uncut. We pretty much end 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:34.560 up even if it's in a roundabout way we usually 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:37.800 end up agreeing. Now, I'm I'm not straight out disagree 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:40.080 with you at all, because I do I agree with 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:43.720 what you said that like, if someone is inherently unhappy 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:47.040 where they are, they shouldn't have to be there. But 0:16:47.200 --> 0:16:49.960 what I also think that means, and this is again, guys, 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:53.080 this is just two people's opinions that have both been 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:56.000 in this situation. What I think that does mean is 0:16:56.120 --> 0:17:00.080 that maybe it's not maybe it's not the person and 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:05.760 for you forever. I'm of the belief controversial, but I'm 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:08.840 of the belief that at different points in your life 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:13.240 are going to have to do some things, make some compromises, 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:15.439 settle just a little bit for your partner, because your 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:16.719 partner's going to be at a point in their life 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:18.040 where they're gonna need you and they're going to have 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:20.040 to do something for them and that is one hundred 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:22.119 percent going to be reciprocated. There's going to be a 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:24.720 time when they're then going to have to go and 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:26.720 follow their dream or do their thing. It's going to 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:30.760 be a different timeline and you'll have to meet them halfway. 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:30.960 For that as well. 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:33.040 You're going to have to make compromises as well, because 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:39.080 relationships and life, it's literally the foundation is compromise. You're 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:41.119 never going to meet two people. They're going to go 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:43.600 through life and be at the exact same point in life, 0:17:44.000 --> 0:17:47.160 what the exact same things, have, the exact same things 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:50.600 drive them, make them happy, feel their soul like that 0:17:50.760 --> 0:17:52.560 is almost unheard of that two people will go on. 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:54.720 That journey at identical times. 0:17:55.640 --> 0:18:00.720 I think that personally, I would feel what you're feeling 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:03.960 if my partner said I don't want. 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:05.280