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Speaker 3: My favorite?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah?
Speaker 4: Ask?
Speaker 3: So Ask Uncut is something that we do on our
Speaker 3: podcast Life on Cut, and that is where you call
Speaker 3: in and you give us your problems, your dilemmas, your deepest,
Speaker 3: darkest issues, and we do our best to answer them.
Speaker 1: We really do try, don't We got Oscar to We
Speaker 1: do our best. I have a punt Oscar. Are you're
Speaker 1: on with us?
Speaker 2: Hi?
Speaker 1: What's your question? What do you need to help with?
Speaker 2: Hi? Guys, I just have a question. So I was
Speaker 2: together with my man for like five years and like
Speaker 2: we've recently just broken up. And the whole issue is
Speaker 2: we got a dog together. He did pay for the
Speaker 2: dog at the time, but in that space we were together,
Speaker 2: I was the one walking there. I was the one
Speaker 2: feeding it, like I would say this, the one taking
Speaker 2: care of the dog. So in the breakup. I took
Speaker 2: the dog with me because I was like, I raised
Speaker 2: him essentially.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and now that we've broken up and he things
Speaker 4: have come down a little bit.
Speaker 2: He has this idea that he can just come and
Speaker 2: see our dog whatever he wants. So, like, I'll be
Speaker 2: at work and he'll just text me and go, hey,
Speaker 2: I've just picked up the dog. We've gone for a
Speaker 2: walk in cases in case we were not here when
Speaker 2: you come home. I feel a little uncomfortable by this.
Speaker 3: Wait, how does he get into your house? How does
Speaker 3: he just pick the dog up my.
Speaker 2: House doesn't know who he is and goes, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: cool the dogs? About that?
Speaker 1: Listen, I've got an interesting take on this. I think
Speaker 1: it's okay if you're okay with an Oscar, Like if
Speaker 1: you two were at a point where you think you've healed,
Speaker 1: you've gotten over each other, then if it's essentially co parenting.
Speaker 1: But do you feel your on your healing journey? Are
Speaker 1: you over him? Are you still wanting to see him
Speaker 1: that much?
Speaker 2: I mean not much, se icillly, it's still quite fresh.
Speaker 4: It's been like, well, it's been like three or four
Speaker 4: since we've broken up, and you know, I'm more than
Speaker 4: happy for him to call me and go, hey, I
Speaker 4: want to see I want to see Coco.
Speaker 2: Can can? Like? Can you drop in here? Like? I'm
Speaker 2: more than happy for that bit of communication. But do
Speaker 2: I really need to be okay with him turning up
Speaker 2: to my house and staying hard to my house mate
Speaker 2: and saying, hey, can I take Can I take Coco
Speaker 2: for a walk? Or can I take him to my place?
Speaker 2: I think without me being there?
Speaker 5: No, Actually you don't have to be especially like if
Speaker 5: you think of how long a dog lives for right,
Speaker 5: it could live up for fifteen years.
Speaker 3: It's a kid.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a long time for you to have this
Speaker 5: shared communication and shared custod If you.
Speaker 3: Can co parent comfortably and it's not causing anyone anguish,
Speaker 3: then go for it. But co parenting a dog just
Speaker 3: sounds way too hard. The only thing I question is
Speaker 3: if he's only coming when you're not home. So, for example,
Speaker 3: if he's like texting a housemate, if he picks a
Speaker 3: dog up, drops the dog back before you get home
Speaker 3: and you're none the wiser to it, are you okay
Speaker 3: with that level of contact or is it more so
Speaker 3: when he has to message you and then it upsets
Speaker 3: your day.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'd be getting the free dog walker if you can.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's what I thought. But a couple of
Speaker 2: my friends were telling me that it shouldn't be like,
Speaker 2: it shouldn't be an issue. He should be free to
Speaker 2: come and get his dog. But I just don't know.
Speaker 4: I think it's okay, Like I really think, you know,
Speaker 4: and it's got nothing to do with payment, Like, I mean,
Speaker 4: I raised the things, like I'm the one that taught
Speaker 4: it how to do a good old fashioned toilet troop.
Speaker 2: Like, I just feel like that there needs to be
Speaker 2: some kind of communication. He's just not listening to me.
Speaker 1: You should just train it to like shit on his
Speaker 1: leather goods, you know, just like training it to be
Speaker 1: a really spiteful dog. I don't know what's happened to
Speaker 1: Coco's habits, but he's gotten really bad recently.
Speaker 3: He's really acting out in the divorce and in the breakup.
Speaker 1: Kids do that. I hope we can hope we can
Speaker 1: help you there and co Coke can sleep it.
Speaker 3: I couldn't think of anything worse than co parenting a dog.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't it my parenting kids is so
Speaker 3: hard for some people, co parenting a dog now just
Speaker 3: get a new dog.
Speaker 5: My parents are dogs and I had to give it up. Really, yeah,
Speaker 5: you can't do it. You cannot do it.
Speaker 3: Only for a period of time. There's always someone still
Speaker 3: hanging on of the pet.
Speaker 1: Also, it's more than pets. Breakups are heard. I'm still
Speaker 1: fighting over a smeake blender with my ex.
Speaker 3: Let him have the blender?
Speaker 1: Which wants to blender?
Speaker 3: Are you co parenting the blender? Now?
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