WEBVTT - When Christmas Doesn't Slay - Uncut with Dr Hannah Korrel 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:05.320 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.119 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.959 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.400 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:16.160 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gadigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:42.120 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:46.120 on Cut. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and we have someone 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:48.760 very special joining us for the start of this episode. 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:50.159 It is producer. 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:52.559 I'm so sorry for all of you that were like 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:54.440 so excited being like, oh, who's. 0:00:54.240 --> 0:01:01.600 Special and under why is Stillila's attention? Just want you 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:01.960 to pack. 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:03.960 We saw you on the project last night saying that 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:05.840 you didn't like puppies and we knew who you were 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:06.440 talking about. 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:09.840 Delilah. All puppies, not Delilah. Delia's not a puppy anymore. 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:12.160 She's one. She's past the threshold of puppiness. 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:13.040 She's eighteen months. 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:15.039 She no longer like tries to jump on me when 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:16.959 I walk in. She no longer tries to piss on things. 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:19.240 She no longer tries to eat things. Like she's kind 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.119 of calmer, and yeah, I appreciate. 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:24.240 That's an update on Delilah, because we did have a 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:26.080 lot of people write in that were interested in her 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:27.880 heat and what was happening in her life. 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:30.360 Also a lot of people who were angry at me. Okay, 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:33.160 don't worry, guys, didn't go unnoticed. People annoyed at me 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:36.880 that I didn't fully get amongst caring about Delilah's heat. 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:39.360 And I'm sorry, Britt that I didn't give you more Delilah. 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:41.320 And I felt that tell me more about Delilah's in 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:42.240 gorge nipples. 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:45.520 So for a juicecation, I were talking about Delilah today. 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:49.400 Something different. Dyla is eighteen months now, she's had her 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:52.920 first heat. She's just finished, and she's a different dog. 0:01:53.080 --> 0:01:55.200 And you used to say everyone'sed to say to me 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:56.360 when we're at the park, and I was like, oh 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:57.320 my god, she's chaos. 0:01:57.320 --> 0:01:59.240 She's absolute k And I walked in today and she 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:01.120 was using a knife and walk at the table, So 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:02.880 she's incredibly. 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:05.240 They're every grown up, but everything's to say, wait till 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:08.320 I gets to eighteen months, And I thought, yeah, right. Anyway, Literally, 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.440 it was almost like to the day she's just a 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:14.800 different dog. She's chill, she's cute, mainly listens to me. 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:17.560 She's been a bit moody, and she was going no heat. 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:18.760 I was like, the I forget it. 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:21.200 Oh no, it's like hormonal. 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:23.840 Yeah, it's a proper period, right, It's actually amazing to 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:27.079 watch they get the same effects as humans get. 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:27.919 So they get it's. 0:02:27.800 --> 0:02:31.840 Amazing to watch a phoenix evolving from the ashes. It's 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:34.520 because because it is actually they go through the same thing. 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:36.480 So they suggest you get hot water bottles for their 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:38.120 tummy and stuff because it's a period. 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:39.480 I'm going to side with Laura. 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:42.239 Now, I have been on board the Delilah heat chat, 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.640 but I think we have reached the threshold. Well I 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:46.400 did put the heat pack in there, and she ripped 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:47.760 it shreds, but I did do it. 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:50.720 The thing that I find like quite relatable about this 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:52.440 is you say that people had said to you've just 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:55.080 got to get to the eighteen month threshold. It's literally 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:58.000 the same threshold for children, Like the first eighteen months 0:02:58.080 --> 0:02:59.960 is so hard, and then they hid eighteen months and 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.760 you're like, oh, we're in the clearing. Doesn't hard getting better? 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.320 Well, I mean a two's then the Terrible Earth threes. 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.280 I think it depends. I think for me, like having 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:10.760 a newborn baby and having like a baby that can't 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:13.760 interact with you because they can't like verbalize what it wants. 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:15.840 That to me was way harder than having a toddler. 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:19.440 But everybody's you know, everyone is different, Everyone experiences things differently. 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:22.280 Guys. I want to tell you about something that I've 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:25.880 tried and tested. I've done an experiment, okay, science experimental. Yeah, 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:28.120 I think you'd be very proud of me collecting data. Okay, 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:29.160 my personal life. 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:30.959 I mean, don't let anyone tell you that we don't 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:32.519 do the research. Here at Life on Car. 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:35.560 There was a TikTok bar from a girl named Alex 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:38.760 Weetzman that sparked my fancy over the weekend, and it 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:41.880 was basically all about a new way to encourage your 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:45.240 crush to slide into your DMS, how to get them 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:45.960 to slide. 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:48.800 Into yours, like baiting someone to reply to you, so 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:53.040 not sending your dog into their DMS to come into you. 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:55.160 That was very twenty twenty of you, though, I feel 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:57.680 like we've got stuck in the past, Laura, move on 0:03:57.760 --> 0:04:00.160 and upwards. Okay, what have we got cash. What's the 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:01.800 newest latest fad? Do you know what? 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:04.800 Baiting is actually the perfect word for this. So what 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:08.160 she said was that, you know the new feature, it's 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:10.720 called a note that you can do in Instagram. 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:14.360 No, because a startus update. I haven't updated my Instagram 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.360 in like five years. It's still in black and white. 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:19.800 Literally just has a auto update. Now all Instagram has 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:21.479 to me is like that little wig filter you know 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:22.960 back in the day when you used to form like 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:25.040 a polaroid picture around all your picture. Yeah, that's it. 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:25.560 I'm still the. 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.960 Posting pictures of sunsets and food only. Okay. So the 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:31.000 way that it works for anyone who is updated, who 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:33.080 is in twenty twenty two is that when you go 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:36.760 into the message part of your Instagram dms up, the 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:39.920 top will have people's little sticker, like you know, their 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:42.960 profile picture, and you can add what they are calling 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:46.960 a note. It's basically a very short status update. 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:49.520 But you were saying it only lasts like twenty four hours. 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:51.560 Yeah, so it kind of works like a story, but 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.160 instead of a picture, it's just like a couple of words. 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:56.280 I can't keep up. So what she has said is 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:58.599 that when you post a note. You can actually post 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:01.160 it to your close friends, but as opposed to when 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:04.240 you post on your story as a close friends, they 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.680 can't tell that it's only to your close friends. Ah, 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:10.160 so you could post it to one person but they 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:15.080 don't know it. Yes, so you can individualize the status 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:18.000 update if you want. But I wanted to test. 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:21.560 This out and see whether this was a way. 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:25.600 To encourage DM slide ins. Let me tell you how 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:27.120 fucking successful this was. 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:27.880 And what did you post? 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:29.359 As some of you may or may not know, Like, 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:31.280 I'm really into my sport. I used to work on 0:05:31.279 --> 0:05:35.320 a sports radio show and most of the people that 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.560 I tend to like find myself attracted you are also 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:40.520 into sports. Then last night was the World Cup. So 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:43.360 between France and Argentina, of those two teams, I don't 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:45.120 really have an allegiance to any of them, but I 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:47.560 really like my time that I've spent in France. So 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:49.520 I was like, Okay, I think that between the two teams, 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:53.039 I would probably side with France. I want France to win, right, 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:56.880 So I just updated my Instagram note to have three 0:05:56.920 --> 0:06:00.240 French flags because I was like, this will be interesting. 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:02.080 Most of the guys that I'm into will be watching 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:05.000 the World Cup? Like, will this spark a bit of conversation, 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.760 a bit of like bance between us? Oh my god, 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:12.120 my whole afternoon yesterday was spent replying. But do you 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:14.359 think that's just because the World Cup's the biggest thing 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:15.720 in the whole world. I think you need to try 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:18.080 and test this on like an average Saturday night. 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:20.840 Yeah, I don't wonder if. I mean obviously, like the 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:23.760 World Cup is something that's a very obvious and easy 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:26.119 thing for people to reply to, but like, what would 0:06:26.120 --> 0:06:28.480 be your note for a Saturday night pointed at a 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:29.440 very specific man. 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.240 Well, I think that it needs to be timely, Like 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:34.240 you know this this Saturday night is going to be 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:36.920 Christmas Eve, so maybe you know what, I can test 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:38.560 it again if you like, maybe I'll be asking people 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:44.159 if they'd be naughty or nice? Why don't you direct it? Why? Yeah? 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:45.480 Nice? 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:48.600 Why don't you try the I'm just intrigued now, because 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:50.960 you can set for just one person to see it, right, 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:52.799 So why don't you pick the person in your head 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:56.839 and then literally put a cocktail emoji and a question mark. 0:06:57.600 --> 0:06:58.679 Oh that's brilliant. 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:01.039 Yeah, And because they think it's like to anyone that's 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:02.880 out there that wants to say yes or no. And 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:04.640 then if that way, if you know that they see 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:07.279 it and they don't respond, they don't want to have 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:08.279 drink with you. Do you know? 0:07:08.400 --> 0:07:11.679 I feel like I am so I'm such a boomer 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:14.960 in this conversation. I am so confused by what's going on. 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.680 I really feel like I need to update my Instagram app. 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:20.600 But I also have no need to send subliminal signals 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:21.360 to a man. 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:23.840 And you can just make Matt your close friend and 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:28.440 put a picture of the baby and die for with vacuum. 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:31.040 I will literally just put some spray and white bottles 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:33.440 and a fucking mop. Okay, well, this is my calling 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:35.440 to everybody. If you're out there, if you've got crushes 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:37.160 in your in your Instagram and you want to see 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:40.200 if they can slide on in, update your notes and 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:41.960 I want to know I will know the outcome. Tell 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.120 us what you did, tell us what they're applied with, 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.520 and tell me if this works for you someone else? 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:48.240 Can you also try the naughty or nice thing? Let 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:50.360 me know it could be a little too thir say 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:52.520 you've got a twenty four hours to try this. You 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:54.840 can you could try different on every day. 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:57.640 Okay, well let's get into talking about what today's episode 0:07:57.680 --> 0:08:01.080 is actually about. But the reason why keish just jumping 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:04.680 on this episode is because it is our last episode 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:06.160 of twenty twenty two. 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:07.960 That's actually our second last episode. 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:09.760 Well it's our I mean, we're doing one which is 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:11.640 going to be like a walk down memory Lane and 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.640 a rehash on the year that was. But this is 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:16.080 our last proper Tuesday episode and we thought we would 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:18.200 get on here as a little team. We've got some 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:20.960 funny bands, but we also have a really sentimental episode 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:22.640 which we hope is going to get you guys through 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:24.840 the Christmas period. Yeah, this episode. 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:26.400 Actually came off the back of something that someone posted 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:28.600 in our Facebook group, in the Life and Cut discussion group, 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:32.080 about going into this period of the year, and they 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:34.160 were saying how they were feeling quite lonely. They were 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:36.040 single and they didn't have their family around them, and 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:38.440 so we kind of started a conversation between ourselves. I 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:41.480 guess the idea of how we're supposed to be very merry, 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:44.000 you know, merry Christmas and happy New Years, and maybe 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:46.199 you don't actually feel that merry at this time. Maybe 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:48.720 it brings up some complex emotions. Maybe you're happy and 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:50.599 you feel a lot of anxiety about this period of 0:08:50.640 --> 0:08:52.240 time because you've got to spend time. 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:55.160 With family members that you don't like, or you're experiencing. 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:58.880 Grief and an expectation that you should be going into 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:02.880 this period really happy, ticking all your boxes off, wrapping 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:04.600 up the year in a nice little parcel. 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:06.400 And it's not like that for everyone. 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:09.480 Actually, do you know today I said to Mitchchury, who 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:11.760 we do radio with, I said, I've just had a 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:16.680 realization that I am not excited for Christmas. Not one 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:19.520 part of me was excited for Christmas. Why, well, I 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:21.520 think it's been a tough time lately. 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:22.240 You know. 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:26.079 It's the same old thought of Okay, I'm going to 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:29.280 Christmas again alone, which is like not the end of 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:32.040 the world, but it's that with all these other things 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:33.920 that are happening in life, I don't feel like Christmas 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:35.800 is even here, Like I don't feel like it is 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:38.600 a week away, you know, or less. Everything has been 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:41.640 so intense that the magic is not there for me 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:43.440 this year. And I know it'll be different when I 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:46.400 get there and my family's there, but at the moment, 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:49.240 there's no part of me that is excited for Christmas 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:51.240 and that it was a really sad realization, and I 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:52.800 thought there must be a lot of other people that 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.840 have these feelings too, for multitude of different reasons. 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:57.640 It's something that we spoke about last year, and it's 0:09:57.679 --> 0:09:59.920 kind of a topic that comes up this time every year. 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:01.920 Is that for a lot of people, As you guys 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:05.400 both just said, if you're not feeling merry all the 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:08.080 way that you should, it almost amplifies it because it 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:10.760 shines a spotlight on not just on how you are 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:13.520 feeling now, but on the huge caveat to where you're 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:16.160 supposed to be. That's kind of what Christmas brings up. 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:18.839 But something that you just said then, Britt, about how 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:22.240 you're not feeling it and how maybe you will feel 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:24.679 it when you get home, and it is actually Christmas 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:26.800 something that I think I have realized this year, and 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:29.199 it's because you know, now I have my own nucleus 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:33.080 family with the kids and with Matt, and I've realized 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:36.720 that the responsibility now falls on me and also on Matt, 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:39.960 but it falls on us to create that excitement around Christmas. 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:41.520 And then, you know, even the other day Matt and 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:43.400 I were like, God, it doesn't really feel like Christmas. 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:45.240 And it dawned on me and I was like, well, 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:47.760 that's because we haven't done anything to make it feel 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:49.880 that way. And as kids, and when you're growing up 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:52.000 and you're in your teens or whatever it is, it's 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:54.440 your parents' responsibility. They're the ones who kind of like 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:57.040 get everyone together. They're the ones who decorate the house. 0:10:57.040 --> 0:10:59.199 They're the ones who put in the effort into making 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:01.640 the memories. And I think we're all going through this 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:05.840 really weird shifting time period in our lives where it's 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:08.600 gone from other people used to be the memory makers 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:11.120 for us, and now we are turning into the adults 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:13.560 who were responsible to be the memory makers, not just 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:15.280 for ourselves, but for other people as well. 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:17.360 I also think that there's a societal shift. 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:20.640 A lot of us now statistically are turning away from religion, 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:23.199 and Christmas is supposed to be a religious holiday. I mean, 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:25.680 we spoke the other day about how my family used 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:31.880 to go caroling caroly And now if someone turned up 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:35.520 to my door with like twenty people singing me aside, 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:36.240 can you just tell me so? 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:38.599 Did we just go and knock on someone's door like 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:41.560 a complete random strange danger and then they open it 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.679 and as a child, you just start singing. You burst 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:44.920 out into the joy of songs. 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:46.640 There was like twenty to thirty of us that would 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:47.959 see a fucking Christmas. 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:50.640 I girl would fucking love that. If a hole, we 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:54.719 would be so cute. I'll be like, oh please, it's 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:57.200 a flash mob. You don't know what you're supposed to do. 0:11:57.480 --> 0:11:59.360 I remember them just standing in the door and they 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:01.240 would smile like three and a half minutes. 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.520 I don't know if you give money after, like you know, 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:06.920 no money, just the joy of giving just thanks by 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:10.280 move to the next house. No, no, no, Well. 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:16.360 It's pretty funny. It's pretty much feels different, you know. 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:18.880 I think it feels different for a lot of different reasons. 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:20.800 And like you said, we're the ones that are now 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:23.760 making the traditions. Samish Flake says, traditions are not that 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:26.520 old in a lot of families, but you're creating like 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:29.640 new ones, and maybe we're not creating as many as 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:31.839 what we used to. That's the thing, right, Like I 0:12:31.920 --> 0:12:34.439 live alone. I've got no one to decorate my house for, 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:36.280 and I can be bold to decorating for myself, so 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:38.720 I don't have one I had one little piece of 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:40.520 tinsel that I put on my fiddle leave three. 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:42.120 And then I just took it down. So because your 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:43.960 poor fiddle lift fig will have a real tanty if 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:46.120 you try and decorate it. The other thing of this, though, 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:48.360 and it's something we touched on last year's episode, Britt 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:50.720 and you know you mentioned it again. I think that 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:54.360 sometimes we can focus on single, like you know, being 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:56.920 single at Christmas time and how difficult that can be, 0:12:57.400 --> 0:12:59.800 and that was very much the focus of last year's conversation. 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:03.440 But I had a really interesting conversation with someone recently 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.720 and it's really shone a light that it's not just 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:07.920 about being single, but something that I think a lot 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:10.360 of people and it can drag up feelings for is 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:13.199 if you're in a relationship but you're not happy, if 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:15.960 you're not kicking the goals in your relationship of where 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.199 you expected it to be, because Christmas can be this 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:22.520 fucking weird time that almost turns into like a purgatory 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:23.920 because you're like, well, I don't want to break up 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.280 with someone because I have Christmas plans. I'm not sure 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:28.080 what I'm doing. They're supposed to be coming to my 0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:31.200 house for Christmas. We had a Christmas holiday planned, so 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:33.400 a lot of people almost feel like if they're not 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:35.720 happy in their relationship, they almost feel like they have 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:39.080 to try and get through the Christmas period in order 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.960 to make some big life decisions in the new year. 0:13:42.559 --> 0:13:44.400 So I think the reason why we wanted to do 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.479 this episode this is not for us to be scroogers. 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:51.720 Like we all collectively fucking love what Christmas can bring 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:53.800 and what this period can bring. And there are going 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:56.439 to be so many of you who are die hard 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.520 Christmas caroling, living your best life, taking your kids to 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:02.600 the carols, just like truly enjoying what this time brings. 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:05.080 But we wanted to also have this episode to reflect 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:07.800 for those people who haven't been feeling that supported and say, hey, 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:09.400 you know what, a lot of us feel the same. 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:11.040 You know what, It's not just the single thing. There 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:13.440 are a multitude of reasons that we do discuss, but 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:15.280 there are Maybe it's the feesh year going into this 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:17.920 season with a level of grief, someone in your life 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.600 is missing, or there's a piece of your life that's missing. 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:22.320 Maybe it's not even the first year you going to that, 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:24.960 maybe it's a few years deep. It doesn't matter. There 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.960 are so many different reasons that people feel a level 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:31.680 of overwhelm, and overwhelm itself is a reason in itself 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:33.840 a level of overwhelm at this time of year. Yeah, 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:35.880 So we do get into a big conversation with doctor 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:38.720 Hannah Coral. She is a neuropsychologist and she really speaks 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:41.800 so much about how our brains are functioning at this time, 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:44.160 which I liked. She really brought the science to the table. 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:47.160 That's something that we didn't go into conversation with with 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:49.560 her that I have been thinking a lot about, and 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:52.120 this was from the Facebook post that I mentioned before, 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.320 was how much diet culture really rears its head at 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:57.600 this time of the year. Because for as long as 0:14:57.640 --> 0:15:02.440 I can remember, my news resolution like almost up until now, 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:06.200 have all been related to and like I would put 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:08.400 it under the banner or the umbrella of being like 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:12.440 getting back into shape or it's a load of shit. 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:14.680 It was all diet culture based. It was all about 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:17.120 losing weight, and it was all about fitting into the 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:20.160 expectation of what I wanted my summer beach bod to 0:15:20.240 --> 0:15:20.720 look like. 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:22.560 And you know, the interesting thing of that is that 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:24.880 it usually comes off the back of the guilt that 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:27.480 you have because of Christmas, where you know, may have 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:31.200 overindulged or just fucking not even over and just enjoyed yourself, 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:34.080 just ate like a normal human having a fucking good time. 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:36.080 Or a whole toddler and cheesecake, which is what I do. 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:38.040 But then you're made to feel guilty about it because 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.080 that's what we do to ourselves. And like, I'm so 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:41.640 glad that you brought that up, because I think that 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:43.800 that is something that so many people will resonate with 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:46.040 because I know for so many years I did the 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:48.960 same thing, like, oh my news, resolution, let's get in shape. 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:50.720 I don't know. I think that the thing I've struggled 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:53.160 with over the years is that getting in shape has 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:58.120 never actually been until recently, has never actually been about health. 0:15:58.200 --> 0:16:00.760 It's been about size, and it's been about the way 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:02.720 that I look, which I think, you know, if you 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:04.840 have been having those thoughts, or even if you go 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:08.160 into New Year's this year thinking I'm gonna get in shape, 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:11.760 really check yourself about what is the motivating factor behind that? 0:16:12.160 --> 0:16:13.800 On top of that law is it's not even just 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:16.680 I think our own internal thoughts. I worked in a 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:18.520 gym when I was in high school, and I know 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:21.880 that a lot of the marketing around anything related with 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:26.840 health focus on New Year's resolutions. They focus on losing 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:29.800 that Christmas kilos and all that kind of bullshit. And 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:32.280 I think we're about to go into New Year, every 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:34.680 single fitness center is going to have some type of 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:37.920 sale to get January is by far the most popular 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:40.680 month for every single gym. The only other day that 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:43.360 was more popular in the gym then the first day 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:45.360 that the gym opened on the year was the day 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:47.520 after the Victoria's Secret Fashion Parade. 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:49.280 That is messed up. 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:52.400 So this is a real thing that they will target 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:54.400 you for. And all I'm saying this on the podcast 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:55.320 for is just be aware of it. 0:16:55.320 --> 0:16:56.720 But we're going to get into the rest of it 0:16:56.720 --> 0:16:58.920 with doctor Hannah very very shortly. I also had a 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:03.560 cry on this episode. Sorry, sorry about that. In Events Tarry, 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:06.119 But before we do speak to doctor Hannah, there is 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:08.159 something else that we wanted to talk about. Akisha. You 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.359 came across a very interesting article this week. 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:13.840 I'm just gonna read the headline, top positions for quiet 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:16.840 sex that offer maximum pleasure over Christmas period while you're 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:17.760 visiting family. 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:19.320