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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm

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Speaker 1: your host, Georgie Stevenson. I'm a lawyer and health coach,

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Speaker 1: social media influencer, wife, and dog mum. On the Rise

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Speaker 1: and Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health,

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Speaker 1: relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who

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Speaker 1: want to rise up to be the best version of themselves,

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Speaker 1: who have big dreams in who are willing to put

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Speaker 1: you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself,

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Speaker 1: inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals.

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Speaker 1: Are you with me? Your friends, Let's rise and conquer. Hi, guys,

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Speaker 1: and welcomecome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I

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Speaker 1: apologize for my voice. As you can hear, I am

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Speaker 1: battling a cold at the moment, and usually I swap

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Speaker 1: between an interview and then a solo podcast, and this

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Speaker 1: me talk like this for forty minutes, so I decided

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Speaker 1: to do another interview this week and then next week

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Speaker 1: you will get a solo podcast, So I apologize for that,

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Speaker 1: but I am so excited to share this week's interview

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Speaker 1: with you. It is with Amy Rushworth, who is a

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Speaker 1: leading confidence coach and transformational mentor. She is on a

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Speaker 1: big mission to support women in igniting their confidence, firing

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Speaker 1: Amy has helped hundreds of women globally to reinvent their

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Speaker 1: confidence and manifest magic in their lives. Today, we chat

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Speaker 1: about confidence. We go into why it's so important for

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Speaker 1: We chat about how to stop comparing ourselves to others

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Speaker 1: brought us down, such as a breakup or a loss.

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Speaker 1: I felt so inspired after having this chat with Amy,

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Speaker 1: and I'm sure you will too, so I hope you

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Speaker 1: enjoy it. Hi Amy, and welcome to the show.

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Speaker 2: Hi God Jos, how are you?

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Speaker 1: I am great? Thank you?

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Speaker 2: How are you really really good? For six point thirty

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Speaker 2: excited to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's so funny. And what day is it there?

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Speaker 2: Tuesday? Is it Tuesday for you?

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Speaker 1: Yees? So it's Tuesday, but it's three point thirty in

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Speaker 1: so crazy. So let's get straight into it. As this

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Speaker 1: is the Rise and Conquer podcast. What is one thing

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Speaker 2: I'm on a bit of a buzz because I launched

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Speaker 2: my own podcast last week. But something that's super exciting

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Speaker 2: this week is that I'm going to the Tony Robbins

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Speaker 2: guru of self help and it's meant to be a

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Speaker 2: total game changer in personal development. You walk on fire

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm so jealous. That is crazy. He

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Speaker 1: up and conquering that. I'm sure you're going to be

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Speaker 1: Okay, So for those who don't know you, can you

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Speaker 2: Sure? So, I mean quite a lot of Australians keep

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Speaker 1: And you can just tell you were such like an

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Speaker 1: And I love that you've sort of taken a negative,

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Speaker 1: Do you think that you're born with confidence or it's

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Speaker 2: I think we're all born with confidence. I think it's

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Speaker 2: order to protect you. In the same way that a

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00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 2: habit exists for a reason, so does a belief, whether

437
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 2: that's a positive or a limiting belief. So for anyone

438
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 2: listening who doesn't really know what a limiting belief is,

439
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 2: it's not a positive belief. It is a belief that

440
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 2: you've created, potentially in a moment of failure or in

441
00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 2: response to life, in order to deal with life. But

442
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 2: it's usually negative and limiting. The really common one that

443
00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:05,880
Speaker 2: I hear is I am not good enough. I don't

444
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,159
Speaker 2: think I've met a person who doesn't have this belief

445
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 2: in some regard. The other one is my voice doesn't matter.

446
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 2: That's a really big one that I hear when it

447
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:21,240
Speaker 2: comes to women's confidence, and you know various things that

448
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 2: come with that. So if your voice doesn't matter, potentially

449
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 2: you then don't speak up. So then you assume your

450
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:30,879
Speaker 2: voice doesn't matter because nobody asks about your opinion because

451
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:33,959
Speaker 2: you never speak up. Or if you don't believe you're

452
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 2: good enough, you spend your life gathering evidence of that

453
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 2: truth and often will over exert ourselves in response to

454
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 2: our limiting beliefs. So if we don't believe we're good enough,

455
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 2: we'll be faking it all the time, or will be

456
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:51,920
Speaker 2: striving for the next achievement without stopping to celebrate the

457
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 2: one we've just achieved. And often we also look for validation,

458
00:25:56,760 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 2: So we look for validation in our job, look for

459
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 2: validation with our partner. There's a lot of girls who

460
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 2: want to get engaged who are not genuinely happy because

461
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 2: they think that an engagement ring is going to make

462
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 2: them feel confident, and unless we deal with the limiting belief,

463
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 2: they'll feel good for a minute, but the issue will ensue.

464
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:21,720
Speaker 2: So limiting beliefs, if we can start to work with those,

465
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 2: we start to shift our reality. And I'm proof of that.

466
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 2: So my limiting belief is that nobody loves me, and

467
00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 2: that kind of shows up is not good enough as well. Right,

468
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:37,879
Speaker 2: So because I believe that nobody loves me, and I

469
00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 2: made this up when I was four, So these things

470
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 2: are These are long lasting limiting beliefs, and we're not

471
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 2: usually very aware that they're in existence. So because I

472
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 2: believe that nobody loves me, it meant that I went

473
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 2: into a fashion career that I thought would be really

474
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 2: impressive and really unique and really cool, and what ended

475
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:01,159
Speaker 2: up happening was that I was in an industry that

476
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 2: doesn't make you feel that great or doesn't make you

477
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:07,200
Speaker 2: feel that unique or special loved, and it reaffirmed my

478
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:11,239
Speaker 2: limiting belief. I also ended up in relationships which were

479
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 2: really toxic, and I would also sabotage the relationships and

480
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 2: not be trustworthy too, because I didn't believe that I

481
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 2: deserved love. So when somebody tried to give me love,

482
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 2: that's confronting. If you have a hidden, limiting belief that

483
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 2: you don't deserve it. It's like somebody putting money in

484
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:31,520
Speaker 2: your bank account. You'd probably feel really weird spending it.

485
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 2: And it's the same when we have these limiting beliefs.

486
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:38,440
Speaker 2: A really good symptom of this is when if someone

487
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: compliments you and you feel really uncomfortable accepting it, or

488
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 2: you deflect or say no, but abn say that's a

489
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 2: really sort of quirky and innocent way that you know

490
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 2: that you're touching on a limiting belief, because why wouldn't

491
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 2: you just accept a compliment if you believe do you

492
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 2: were worthy of it?

493
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Speaker 1: So true? Oh my gosh. And that's such a normal

494
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 1: response when you do give someone a compliment.

495
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, And I mean in England this is even

496
00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 2: when so you know when people say, oh you look nice, say,

497
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: they'll say, oh, well, I'm so busy and I'm so tired.

498
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 2: Oh do you think so I just got ready in

499
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:18,159
Speaker 2: five minutes. It's like it's like someone handing us a

500
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 2: gift and we just say I don't want it. And

501
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 2: that's kind of what we do on a really innocent

502
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 2: level with our limiting beliefs, but on a more serious,

503
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:32,199
Speaker 2: exponential level, the consequences of having these beliefs are life changing.

504
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 2: So I wouldn't have this career, I wouldn't be married

505
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 2: to my now husband if I hadn't have worked on

506
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 2: these limiting beliefs, I'd just be a completely different person.

507
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:48,479
Speaker 1: And so, how can we break through limiting beliefs? How

508
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 1: can we reshape these beliefs?

509
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 2: You can, which is the good news. So this is

510
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 2: what I work on really intensively with clients, so both

511
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 2: as a one to one coach. So in my online academy,

512
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:05,959
Speaker 2: I've also got a free pdf in my Instagram buy

513
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 2: for anyone who wants to kind of do this on

514
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 2: their own. But we want to create self awareness. So

515
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 2: self awareness is always key, right, So if we don't

516
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 2: know where we are, we don't know where we can

517
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 2: go because we need to acknowledge where we are. So

518
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 2: we need to find out where that belief gets activated.

519
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 2: So the belief doesn't show up all the time. So

520
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 2: you want to ask yourself, when do I notice this

521
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 2: belief showing up? Maybe it's the if we work with

522
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 2: the not good enough belief, So maybe they're not good

523
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 2: enough shows up when you speak up at work or

524
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 2: when you're with your friends, and you have to think

525
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 2: about what needs to occur for me to feel this

526
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 2: way and what specific situations make this belief show up.

527
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 2: Then we want to get some clarity around that and

528
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 2: say how would we describe the belief. A really good

529
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: way to do this is to listen to your inner critic.

530
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 2: Ask what it says in those moments of self doubt.

531
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: Usually it's something like I'm not good enough or I

532
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 2: don't matter or nobody loves me. And you want to

533
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 2: think back to the very first time that you had

534
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 2: that belief that it showed up, So was it in school?

535
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 2: Was it when you got told off by your parents

536
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 2: when you were five? Was it in high school? You

537
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 2: want to really dive into where the origin of the

538
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 2: belief came from. And then the next really crucial part

539
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 2: is to analyze what are the consequences of having this belief? So,

540
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 2: how is this belief a problem for me? What is

541
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 2: it cause to happen in my life? What do I

542
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 2: do to cope with this belief? So that's a really

543
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 2: interesting one. A lot of people drink every weekend to

544
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 2: cope with their beliefs, and how does it limit me?

545
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 2: Once we start to look at these consequences, we start

546
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:56,520
Speaker 2: to see the real, big impact of having these limiting beliefs,

547
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 2: and then we want to dispute it. We want to

548
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 2: look at what assumptions we might be making or what

549
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 2: evidence we might be gathering that isn't actually true. One

550
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 2: of the ways you can do this is looking at

551
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 2: the belief and say the belief is I'm not good enough.

552
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 2: You would then go and gather evidence of all the

553
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 2: times where you have been good enough, all the amazing

554
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 2: things that you have achieved, or the compliments you've received,

555
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 2: or the personal accomplishments in your life. And then lastly,

556
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 2: you want to trade the belief for a more useful belief.

557
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 2: So with the case of my belief of not being lovable,

558
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 2: my belief is that I'm dearly loved, which is hilarious

559
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: because the name Amy, the meaning of that is dearly

560
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 2: loved and beloved. So you know, you want to choose

561
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 2: a more useful belief, and you have to make it

562
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 2: short and snappy and powerful, and you need to remind

563
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 2: yourself of that in those moments of self doubt and

564
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 2: then take action from the place of the new belief.

565
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:02,240
Speaker 1: And see, the thing is, this isn't overly complicated stuff,

566
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 1: but it's stuff that you need to put in the

567
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 1: inner work and really work on it, this belief. But like,

568
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 1: once you do, it is so worth it. And just

569
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 1: like the consequence of changing this belief is so worth it.

570
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean the effects are life changing. You know,

571
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 2: if you walk around believing that people say yes to

572
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 2: you and that you're worthy of anything that you desire,

573
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 2: compared to somebody who walks around and thinks that they're

574
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 2: not worthy and they need to hide the fact that

575
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,719
Speaker 2: they're insecure. What do you think the two lives are

576
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 2: going to look like on the longer scale, like it's

577
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 2: going to be the biggest, biggest difference. And you deserve

578
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 2: to have a belief that empowers you. You deserve to

579
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 2: feel good enough because we're all good enough, and feeling

580
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 2: good enough and being good enough doesn't come from what

581
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 2: you achieve. It is just your right. It's just something

582
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 2: that you were born with. And the sooner we remember that,

583
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 2: the sooner we can empower ourselves and feel really good

584
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 2: about our lives and do amazing things exactly, and you

585
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 2: do those things from a place of feeling whole and

586
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 2: complete on your own, so your goals don't become boxes

587
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: that you tick and boxes that you tick to say yes,

588
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 2: now I'm good enough, because we all know that that

589
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 2: doesn't work. But it becomes I am inspired by this

590
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 2: book deal or this Ted talk, or I'm inspired to

591
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 2: start this business, and I'm putting on my vision board

592
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 2: and I feel so good and I'm going to feel

593
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 2: so good along the whole way because i know I'm

594
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 2: enough and this is just the cherry on the Sunday,

595
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 2: but I'm the Sunday.

596
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 1: I want to quickly shift gears a little bit. And

597
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: what I found really interesting on your website is you

598
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 1: talk about how women and especially their mental cycle, how

599
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 1: it can sort of change your confidence. And it's something

600
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: that obviously, as women, is special to us. So I

601
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 1: was just wondering if you can elaborate and go into

602
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: this definitely.

603
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 2: So we have been programmed to reject our periods, and

604
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 2: to reject our hormones, and to just reject that whole area. Right.

605
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 2: There is a lot of conditioning that causes us to

606
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 2: feel shame about our period. I mean, even when we

607
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 2: ask for a tampom, we don't even say tampong. We

608
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 2: like mumble, you know. And there is a lot of

609
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 2: wisdom in the womb, right, So if you look at

610
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 2: every single person around you, they were created by the

611
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:38,840
Speaker 2: menstrual cycle and the womb and the wisdom in the

612
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:42,800
Speaker 2: female body. So nobody exists without this wisdom. But we

613
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 2: reject this wisdom for most of our lives. And it's

614
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 2: really important when we talk about confidence. So in this

615
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 2: rejection of our wisdom, one of the things that we

616
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 2: look down on or feel not great about is the

617
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 2: fact that we're fluctuating throughout the month. This is really powerful.

618
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 2: Go so at different times in your menstrual cycle, you

619
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 2: have different energies and different you know, a different mindset

620
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 2: in different weeks. So, for instance, if we look at

621
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 2: your period, the week of your period is the week

622
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 2: of your intuition. This is a really good time to

623
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:19,600
Speaker 2: not be going out and doing things that require you

624
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 2: to be really loud and proud and confident and extroverted.

625
00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 2: So if you go out and do something during that week,

626
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 2: you're not going to feel as great. Right, That's the

627
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 2: time to be at home looking at your to do list,

628
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 2: eating some juicy, warm carbs, and nourishing yourself. And it's

629
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 2: also the time where really great ideas can come to you,

630
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:43,240
Speaker 2: so intuition. So you know, I've just written a book proposal,

631
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 2: and the idea for my book proposal came in the

632
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 2: week of my period. And then the week after your period,

633
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 2: when your hormones are starting to surge again, that's when

634
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 2: you're sort of more stepping into that masculine energy where

635
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 2: you can you're probably strutting down the street, you feel

636
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 2: really energized, you've got a bit of a spring in

637
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:04,759
Speaker 2: your step, and that's a really good time to be

638
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:09,760
Speaker 2: taking action. And then in terms of the luteal phase,

639
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:11,919
Speaker 2: you're going to be a little bit more critical during

640
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:14,840
Speaker 2: that phase. So that's when you might be starting to

641
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 2: feel less body confident and more analytical. But if we

642
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 2: know that we're in that phase of our cycle, we

643
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 2: can take a step back and go, oh, no, it's fine,

644
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 2: I'm just being that critical person this week, and what

645
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 2: do I need to do in my life right now

646
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 2: which requires me to be a bit more critical or

647
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:35,840
Speaker 2: have an eye for detail. So that might be a

648
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,840
Speaker 2: great time to go through the numbers in your business,

649
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 2: or that might be a great time to really pick

650
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 2: apart an intense work project rather than picking how we

651
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 2: look apart or overthinking every situation as we would tend

652
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:53,880
Speaker 2: to do. So when we can work with the cycle

653
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:57,760
Speaker 2: and work with its wisdom, we can really empower ourselves

654
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:00,839
Speaker 2: to feel confident and to use energy in a way

655
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 2: that's really powerful. So I even batch my schedule according

656
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 2: to my period. Now. It's pretty crazy, but it works.

657
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 2: And there's no point in me doing things that require

658
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 2: a lot of masculine energy if I'm on my period

659
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 2: and I need to be at home and I need

660
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 2: to be chillen and eating pasta and writing lists and

661
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 2: thinking of cool ideas. So when we can start to

662
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,640
Speaker 2: work with our cycle, we can start to empower ourselves

663
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 2: to feel good and not put these ridiculous expectations on

664
00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 2: ourselves to feel amazing all of the time and to

665
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:43,440
Speaker 2: feel on fire all of the time, because our bodies

666
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 2: are not designed to do that. And this is why

667
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 2: women lose their period when they overtrain and when they

668
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 2: do too much, and when they're in their masculine too

669
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 2: much at work, which is like, by the way, if

670
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 2: you don't know, masculine is up in your head. So

671
00:37:57,600 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 2: when we're up in our head thinking all the time,

672
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 2: when we're pushing all the time, if we're in a

673
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 2: job that requires us to be very powerful, very emotionless,

674
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 2: and doing a lot of pushing, a lot of deadlines,

675
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 2: a lot of long hours, that sends our energy out

676
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 2: of our body and up into our head, which is

677
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:19,360
Speaker 2: destructive for our female wisdom. It's destructive for our cycle.

678
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:22,279
Speaker 2: So if we can start to get back into our

679
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 2: body a bit more and to be kind and to

680
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 2: work without fluctuating cycle and balance out that masculine energy

681
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 2: with our beautiful feminine energy, then we can start to

682
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 2: feel more confident and a lot of health issues start

683
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 2: to clear up as well.

684
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:39,800
Speaker 1: That's so interesting, isn't it.

685
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:44,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's crazy like clients. I'm trained as

686
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 2: a holistic health coach as well, but clients come to

687
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 2: me and they have things like ibs, jaw pain, migraines,

688
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 2: hormonal problems, low libido, and simply from working on their

689
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,560
Speaker 2: mindset getting into their feminine a lot of their symptoms

690
00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 2: and sometimes even their issues have gone away just from

691
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 2: working on that emotional and energy level.

692
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: Yes, and so you touched on a little bit bit.

693
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 1: How do you personally get in that fem energy.

694
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 2: So the feminine energy is all about flow, and it's

695
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 2: literally to do with our period, right, which is that's

696
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 2: the funny pun. But the feminine energy is about flowing

697
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 2: and intuition and creativity. So a really easy one is cooking.

698
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,839
Speaker 2: I know you do this, Georgie. So getting into your

699
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 2: kitchen and not having it be a stressful thing that

700
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 2: you need to tick off your to do list after work,

701
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 2: but really getting into the zone. So putting on some

702
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 2: sensual music or music that you like and just really

703
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 2: getting into that flow state while you cook. That's very feminine.

704
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 2: And things like yoga, plarti's long walks, even journaling, art

705
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 2: all of those things which require creativity and flow rather

706
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 2: than the push push push of the masculine is going

707
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:11,759
Speaker 2: to make you tap back into that feminine and you know,

708
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 2: even things like making sure that you have pleasure in

709
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 2: your life however that shows up for you, and some

710
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:23,479
Speaker 2: slowness in different times of the month, and not being

711
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: like on fire and racing all the time, you know,

712
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 2: but being kind with yourself, being slow when you need to,

713
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 2: and having that softer, calmer, more flowing energy that shows

714
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 2: up in your activities.

715
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:42,160
Speaker 1: So I recently moved probably about an hour well you know,

716
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 1: you know, Australia. I moved to those from Brisbane, and

717
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: a big reason for that was to include more lifestyle

718
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: in my life because I find I'm very busy and

719
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 1: I work every single day, even on the weekends, which

720
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 1: is all good because I absolutely love my job. But

721
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 1: I was finding I was lacking that sort of flow,

722
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:09,399
Speaker 1: that enjoyment in life, and so we made the move

723
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: to the cost which is the most amazing beaches in Australia.

724
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 1: And so every single day I get up, I've been

725
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 1: taking the dogs for a beach walk, like you know,

726
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: walking on the beach with my bare feet and usually

727
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 1: I get up and I do like a hit session

728
00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 1: and then I'm straight into work and I'm very structured.

729
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: And since moving here, I've only been here a couple

730
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 1: of weeks, i haven't done jim as much, but I've

731
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: been really like slowing it down and really enjoying myself. Like,

732
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 1: for example, it's like four pm here, so after this podcast,

733
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 1: I'll take half an hour and I'll go for a

734
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 1: quick beach walk and like including those moments. And I

735
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: was even saying to Mel today because we're looking at

736
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 1: my schedule and I'm very busy, but I explained to her.

737
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: I was like, I really don't feel stressed busy. I

738
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 1: feel really on top of things and I feel in flow.

739
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 1: But it's so weird because nothing really has changed except

740
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,839
Speaker 1: the move. And so when you're saying that, I was like, hmm,

741
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: I'm really in my energy right now.

742
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,240
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean that's beautiful, and I've seen your house online.

743
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 2: It looks amazing and that you know, that's a great

744
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 2: example of your environment supporting that feminine. So for me,

745
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:29,800
Speaker 2: my environment's really important. I live in the middle of

746
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,399
Speaker 2: the city in London, which is such a far cry

747
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 2: from Australia, So for me. We live in this beautiful

748
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 2: apartment that feels amazing. We have a sauna and a pool,

749
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 2: and I prioritize those things so that I can remain

750
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:47,200
Speaker 2: feminine in a city that is very masculine and very

751
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 2: go go go, And even you know, small things like

752
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:54,880
Speaker 2: going for the walk, taking your shoes off and connecting

753
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:58,120
Speaker 2: with the earth. So the earth is that feminine mother energy, right,

754
00:42:58,280 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 2: So walking barefoot is amazing. There's health benefits of that.

755
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 2: Lying on the grass, hugging trees, which sounds crazy, but

756
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:09,360
Speaker 2: that is about feminine energy that is so beautiful and

757
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 2: that is so nourishing for you on so many levels.

758
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 2: And even small things. I say, you don't live near

759
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 2: a beach. When you have a shower, instead of rushing

760
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 2: and avoiding looking at yourself in the mirror, stop and

761
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:26,359
Speaker 2: buy yourself a nice moisturizer or a nice body oil

762
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 2: and stay for five or ten minutes, and you know,

763
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 2: honor your body moisturizer, use body oil, massage it. Stand

764
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 2: there in the mirror except who you are. Look at

765
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 2: who you are and get comfortable with that and really

766
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:42,120
Speaker 2: honor the temple that you live in, this beautiful feminine

767
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:44,320
Speaker 2: temple that we all are born with and we're so

768
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:48,479
Speaker 2: so lucky to have a healthy body, and to really

769
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:52,000
Speaker 2: stop and practice gratitude for that every day. I think

770
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 2: it is such a small but so so powerful way

771
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:56,719
Speaker 2: of honoring the feminine.

772
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 1: Ah, I love that. And that's actually that you say that.

773
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 1: That's another thing I've been doing is like really getting

774
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 1: into like in the morning, I've got like this face

775
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 1: cream and it's like not necessarily about the creams or

776
00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 1: that sort of thing, but just taking that time to

777
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 1: invest in yourself and like love yourself. Like I don't know,

778
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:22,919
Speaker 1: it's really making a difference, So I bear, I bet, yeah,

779
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:25,840
Speaker 1: doing great things, yeah, you know.

780
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: And also you mentioned hit, So don't force yourself to

781
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 2: do HIT. I'm not saying you Georgie, but anyone, like,

782
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 2: don't go to hit if you're on your period and

783
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 2: you have period pain, right, Like, go do something that

784
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 2: feels good and definitely move if that makes you feel good,

785
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:46,240
Speaker 2: But don't force yourself to do HIT when your body

786
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 2: is shedding it is doing. Our periods are beautiful. It's

787
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 2: a it's a monthly event where we get to shed

788
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:55,879
Speaker 2: all of the negative emotions and the pain that we've

789
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 2: had that month and that's why it's sometimes painful for people.

790
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 2: So when we honor that and we move with the

791
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:06,319
Speaker 2: flow of our cycle, and we use that in terms

792
00:45:06,320 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 2: of exercise as well, we can really start to harmonize

793
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 2: our body and to start feeling really really good.

794
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 1: Oh I love that. Thank you for touching on that.

795
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 1: So I want to search gears again, and I want

796
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 1: to talk to you about how you deal with confidence

797
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: after taking, you know, quite a big life event, whether

798
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:33,399
Speaker 1: it is a loss or a breakup or something big

799
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: like that that really shapes you. So what do you

800
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 1: usually tell your clients when they come to you with

801
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 1: a problem like this? And how can someone build themselves

802
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 1: back up after something like this.

803
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 2: So these are the two things that tend to inspire

804
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 2: people to come and see me. I deal with a

805
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 2: lot of breakups and then also, really sadly, a lot

806
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 2: of women who come to me after they've lost a

807
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 2: loved one or a parent, and these things are really

808
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:07,440
Speaker 2: really confidence breaking. Often they bring to the surface a

809
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 2: lot of underlying issues. So these things can be really traumatizing,

810
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 2: and they bring up a lot of old wounds in

811
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 2: the existing wound. So what I usually tell clients is

812
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:25,280
Speaker 2: to start focusing on their values. So what we normally

813
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 2: do is we focus on what we need in our

814
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:31,800
Speaker 2: lives to validate us. And when we lose someone that

815
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,719
Speaker 2: is important to us, a lot of alarm bells go

816
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 2: off because we feel abandoned, we feel lost, we feel stuck.

817
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 2: And the values can be a really good way of

818
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:43,879
Speaker 2: helping you to get back into motion and to feel

819
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 2: good about who you are. So self kindness is always

820
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: going to have to come first. So when we're having

821
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 2: a breakup, or we're having a really hard time, or

822
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 2: we're grieving, self kindness is the foundation that we need

823
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,720
Speaker 2: to begin with, and that means having a self kindness practice.

824
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 2: So writing a gratitude list, but writing a gratitude list

825
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 2: about who you are, focusing on the things that you're

826
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 2: doing well in the day. So even if you've had

827
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 2: the most horrific day, writing down what your three wins

828
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 2: were for the day, even if it was I didn't

829
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 2: have a meltdown in the boardroom or I didn't yell

830
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 2: at so and so when I wanted to, And you know,

831
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 2: finding those little glimmers of positivity in a time that's

832
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 2: really hard for you is going to be so important

833
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:37,479
Speaker 2: to getting your self esteem and your resilience back on track.

834
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:43,399
Speaker 2: When it comes to the values themselves, I encourage people

835
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:46,919
Speaker 2: to write a list of their values. This is really

836
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 2: quite a weird one for a lot of people when

837
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 2: I asked, because they say, I don't know what my

838
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:56,439
Speaker 2: values are, and we need to get really really clear

839
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,840
Speaker 2: on what our values are. Who do we want to

840
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 2: become because life is happening right now, and sometimes when

841
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 2: we lose someone, that really brings that up, that realization

842
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 2: that our life is happening right now and we're running

843
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 2: out of time and we're not becoming the people that

844
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 2: we want to become. So when we focus on these

845
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 2: values over being validated by our job or our boyfriend,

846
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 2: or our clothes or how much money we have, and

847
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 2: we focus on the fact that maybe we'll want to

848
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:29,160
Speaker 2: be a kind person and we want to be an

849
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 2: authentic person, and we want to make a difference to

850
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 2: people's lives, we can start to shift our life and

851
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:38,800
Speaker 2: shift our actions and our behaviors to match those values.

852
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 2: And that's when the real magic, the real healing, and

853
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 2: the self esteem after a loss can really start to

854
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 2: show up.

855
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 1: I was just thinking, like, it's so amazing that you

856
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:54,960
Speaker 1: are helping women with these things, because sometimes they can

857
00:48:55,120 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 1: be like simple things that we need to do and

858
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 1: mindset changes, but we need we need the guidance and

859
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 1: the tools to make those changes and you know, transform

860
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:09,160
Speaker 1: our lives. So it is really amazing that you're doing

861
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:09,959
Speaker 1: this sort of work.

862
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:13,520
Speaker 2: Ah, thank you. I mean, my whole story started with

863
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 2: a breakup that was the real kind of breaking point

864
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 2: that led to the downward spiral. So I come from

865
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 2: a place of a lot of compassion for anyone who's

866
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:28,439
Speaker 2: going through this, and these are the tools that I use.

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Speaker 2: But I just was making it up at the time

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Speaker 2: and using journals and then seeing coaches, you know, and

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Speaker 2: I try and tell people now what I wish I

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Speaker 2: had have known back then, and it was just always

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00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: always start with your values and start with a person

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Speaker 2: that you want to become. Because we can ever control life.

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Speaker 2: We can't control whether someone's going to break up with us,

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Speaker 2: we can't control whether someone's going to die. We can't

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Speaker 2: control if we're going to keep or lose our job

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00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 2: or keep all lose our house. But we can always, always,

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Speaker 2: always control who we are being in every moment and

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Speaker 2: how showing up.

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Speaker 1: So before we wrap it up, but I would love

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Speaker 1: to get your thoughts on empowerment. What does it truly

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Speaker 1: mean to be a powerful female?

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Speaker 2: It means to be you. It means to be your

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Speaker 2: authentic self, not people pleasing, not dimming your shine, not

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Speaker 2: saying what you think is going to impress people. It

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Speaker 2: means being who you are, unapologetically. And that is really

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Speaker 2: easy to say and not too hard, not as easy

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Speaker 2: to do, but it can be done. And when you

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Speaker 2: start to look at these values, look at what you

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Speaker 2: want for your life and stepping into that rather than

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00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 2: stepping into what you think you should be or doing

891
00:50:43,239 --> 00:50:45,879
Speaker 2: what you think looks good or trying to avoid looking bad.

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00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 2: When your actions match what you really really want, you

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Speaker 2: can truly start to step into your power. And it

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Speaker 2: won't be easy. There will be a lot of resistance.

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Speaker 2: There will be fallout, there will be breakdowns, breakups, there

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Speaker 2: will be, you know, a lot of resistance to get

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Speaker 2: to that place. But once you get there, that is

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Speaker 2: where you feel powerful because that power is built through

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Speaker 2: that resistance.

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Speaker 1: Do you have any tools that you use when you

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Speaker 1: need to feel more powerful and step into that more

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00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 1: powerful sort of position?

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Speaker 2: This is a hilarious one and some of you will

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Speaker 2: think that I'm so weird, But seriously, dancing is a

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Speaker 2: huge game changer. I'm not a professional dancer. I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: even say that I'm a real proper dancer at all.

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00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 2: But what I use to get into a powerful state

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00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:40,360
Speaker 2: is to dance. So whether that I'm about to do

909
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 2: a talk or I need to really get in the

910
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:45,480
Speaker 2: zone for something, I will take a few moments to

911
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 2: dance and to move. And what that does is that

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Speaker 2: when we move, we shift emotions. So emotions are energy

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00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 2: and motion, and when you want to shift a powerful

914
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:02,279
Speaker 2: or a disempowering emotion, we can move to shift it,

915
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Speaker 2: and we can also move to cultivate that feeling of power.

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Speaker 2: So just you know, put on some Beyonce or put

917
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 2: on a song that you really love and let that

918
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:14,840
Speaker 2: energy rise in you. Also standing in your truth. So

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Speaker 2: not saying yes when you want to say no is

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Speaker 2: a really small but really powerful way to step into

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00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 2: that empowerment and to step into confidence. Because when we

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Speaker 2: say yes, when we want to say no, we're breaking

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00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 2: that promise and that integrity with ourselves. So the more

924
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:35,399
Speaker 2: that we say no and we look at that as

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00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 2: not saying no but saying yes, to what we want.

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Speaker 2: That allows us to feel more powerful because we can

927
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Speaker 2: say to ourselves, yeah, well that was a bit awkward

928
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:45,800
Speaker 2: or that was a bit scary to say no, but

929
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Speaker 2: I did it, and I'm proud of myself and I'm powerful.

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Speaker 1: I remember listening to something, whether it was an audiobook

931
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Speaker 1: or a podcast, and she said the exact same thing

932
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Speaker 1: about dancing, and she used to like headstands too, like

933
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:03,000
Speaker 1: I was the exact same and I just thought that

934
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Speaker 1: is like so silly, Like I thought it was ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: And I totally agree. Because if you are in a

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Speaker 1: shitty mood or you're not feeling good or anything like that,

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00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:18,120
Speaker 1: and you put a good playlist on and you dance

938
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Speaker 1: and like it's obviously not in front of anyone, and

939
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Speaker 1: you're just doing your own thing, it's so surprising how

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00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 1: much that can completely shift you.

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Speaker 2: Definitely, you know, and some other quick tools that are

942
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Speaker 2: super powerful is acting as if, so Georgie, I know

943
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Speaker 2: you're into manifestation and law of attraction, so this is

944
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:39,680
Speaker 2: a part of the law of attraction where you act

945
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:42,000
Speaker 2: as if the things that you want are already coming

946
00:53:42,080 --> 00:53:44,800
Speaker 2: to you. So if you want to feel more confident

947
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 2: and powerful, ask yourself, what would I wear today if

948
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:51,800
Speaker 2: I felt confident and powerful? What would I say today

949
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:55,440
Speaker 2: if I was powerful and confident? So for me, my

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00:53:55,640 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 2: fashion sense has massively changed because I dress based on

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00:53:59,160 --> 00:54:01,640
Speaker 2: how I want to feel in the day. So sometimes

952
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Speaker 2: I don't always feel like a yellow sunflower, but I'm

953
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:08,360
Speaker 2: going to wear something that feels and looks how I

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00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 2: want to feel so that I can show up as

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Speaker 2: that person. And then equally you can just use that

956
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:17,319
Speaker 2: in conversation as well. So what would I say right

957
00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 2: now if I was being authentic? What would I say

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00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 2: right now? If I felt empowered? What would I say

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00:54:22,400 --> 00:54:25,320
Speaker 2: if I believed in myself and I couldn't fail? And

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00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 2: it's these tiny shifts and these little mindset changes that

961
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Speaker 2: are going to make a massive exponential difference when you

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Speaker 2: start to do them over and over again.

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Speaker 1: Ah. What a good way to wrap up the podcast. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: this podcast has been one of my favorites. Amy, so

965
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 1: much good stuff on here, and you can just tell

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Speaker 1: that you live and breathe and absolutely love this stuff.

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Speaker 1: So thank you so much for coming on and sharing

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Speaker 1: your knowledge. It has been amazing. And before we finish,

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Speaker 1: I want you to tell the audience where they can

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Speaker 1: find I want to hear about your new podcast. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, congratulations. By the way, I cannot wait to listen.

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Speaker 1: It's going to be something I listened to first up

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Speaker 1: because this podcast. I'm so excited. So tell us all

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Speaker 1: where we can find you and listen to you.

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Speaker 2: Thanks, honey, thanks so much for having me today. I

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Speaker 2: really appreciate it, and I hope it's been helpful for

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Speaker 2: your listeners. If you want to find out more about me,

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Speaker 2: you can find me on Instagram as this is Amy

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Speaker 2: Rushworth or at Amrushworth dot com. And I'm really active

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Speaker 2: on Instagram like you, Georgie, so you can see me

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Speaker 2: showing up there all the time. There's also a bunch

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Speaker 2: of free resources on my website or via the link

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00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 2: in my bio, which will be pretty useful for you

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Speaker 2: based on what we've spoken about today.

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Speaker 1: Amazing and guys, I will put all these links in

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Speaker 1: the show notes and I'll make sure I tag Amy

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Speaker 1: on the Rise and Conquer Instagram so it'll be so

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Speaker 1: easy to find her. And also, what's the podcast name.

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Speaker 2: The Amy Rushworth Show, and it is all about confidence

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Speaker 2: but in so many different contacts, so we're talking confidence

991
00:56:08,480 --> 00:56:13,080
Speaker 2: in money, confidence in sex, confidence in your body, confidence

992
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 2: around healing from eating disorders, confidence around business like It's

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Speaker 2: very diverse.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm so excited. Yay, awesome. We thank you

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Speaker 1: so much, Amy, and I cannot wait to share this.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening in. If you like

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Speaker 1: this episode, make sure you subscribe to the Rise and

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Speaker 1: Cocker podcast so you don't miss the next one. Also,

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Speaker 1: official instagram at Riseinconquer dot podcast or my personal instagram

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Speaker 1: at Yours you stumentson. I hope you have an amazing

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Speaker 1: day or night whenever you're listening in. Bye for now

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Speaker 1: and I'll talk to you soon