WEBVTT - BONUS: "How Do I Tell Them I Love Them?" 💗

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<v Speaker 1>Dad, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>Flex and Frooms, This is the Flex and Froomes catch

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<v Speaker 2>up podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>In the heart of the city where the lights shine bright.

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<v Speaker 3>Flex and Frooms leaving dreams every night two years on

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<v Speaker 3>the airwaves, A Journey's So Sweet and the word redactive

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<v Speaker 3>Toyota cars on repeat. Flex and Frooms, The queens of

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<v Speaker 3>the Air, spreading joy, love and read it to those everywhere?

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<v Speaker 3>Flex and Froomes. What a time would to ride Big

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<v Speaker 3>Boss Energy? You know it's no lie. Deep in the

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<v Speaker 3>forest where dark shadows roam, two gremlins are dancing finding

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<v Speaker 3>new homes. The price has gone up, the curtains come down.

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<v Speaker 3>We sure will be sad that you're not around. Flex

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<v Speaker 3>and Frooms, The queens of the Air, spreading joy, love

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<v Speaker 3>and read it to those everywhere, Flex and Frooms. What

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<v Speaker 3>a time would to ride? Big Boss Energy?

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<v Speaker 4>Flex and Frooms on KIDA, our last live show ever

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<v Speaker 4>technically at Always Live. What is happening over there in

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<v Speaker 4>the corner? It pains us to know that the attention

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<v Speaker 4>has been misdirected to someone yonder.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what are they getting away? Freebies? Oh, that'll do it? Freebies?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, great to know you've just decided to do freebies.

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<v Speaker 2>Just as we start talking, I see what.

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<v Speaker 1>Your allegiances lie. It's clearer than ever, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so excited to be here in none other than

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<v Speaker 2>sunny Melbourne. I always say it ron whenever I come

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<v Speaker 2>to Melbourne, the sun comes out, and do with that

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<v Speaker 2>what you will.

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<v Speaker 4>I can't handle Melbourne in the weather. As we all know,

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<v Speaker 4>I've recently moved. I've assimilated quite quickly, thank you very much.

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<v Speaker 4>And one thing that's getting me down is I made

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<v Speaker 4>sure to purchase six jackets so I would be well

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<v Speaker 4>equipped with the weather, and I've had to use them

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<v Speaker 4>a total of maybe five times. It's not good enough,

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<v Speaker 4>Sunny Melbourne. Something's off about it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not right, is it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, guys, I'm very excited to be here. Thanks everyone

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<v Speaker 2>who's come out. I'm looking at all of you individually,

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<v Speaker 2>probably in the eye. I hope that doesn't make you

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<v Speaker 2>feel uncomfortable. I just want to start by doing a

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<v Speaker 2>very specific shout out to Jacob Stein in the audience.

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<v Speaker 1>Jacob Steen.

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<v Speaker 2>So, my one favorite listener is a person called Jacob Stein.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure that he listens to all the episodes

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<v Speaker 2>and he always comments on the videos and he always

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<v Speaker 2>replies to my story. So everybody, Jacob Sen, I'm giving

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<v Speaker 2>him around.

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<v Speaker 1>Applause, Please join me, please join me. That's him out

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<v Speaker 1>there if we're doing shout outs.

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<v Speaker 4>My favorite person in the audience is Tim and Nut,

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<v Speaker 4>not part of the crowd of freebies. One thing about

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<v Speaker 4>Tim and and I. We met on a plane. Yes,

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<v Speaker 4>very few can say that they've had any positive plane interactions,

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<v Speaker 4>any intentional plane interactions. But our flight was actually delayed,

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<v Speaker 4>so we sat on the plane for about an hour

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<v Speaker 4>and a half. Then we disembarked, sat together for another

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<v Speaker 4>hour and a half and then got on separate planes.

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<v Speaker 1>It was romantic and poignant. We are well.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a good emotion emotion feeling right now, and

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<v Speaker 2>that is it. I'm going to give everyone my Melbourne

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<v Speaker 2>tour guide. I want to give my vibe of what

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<v Speaker 2>I would do if you just came to Melbourne. Tell me, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>if you agree with this, I'm going to give you

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<v Speaker 2>two alternate paths. One is for basic pitches and the

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<v Speaker 2>other one is for art home. I wrote this on

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<v Speaker 2>a piece of paper. This is my Melbourne weekend guide. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>get a plane. I choose Virgin personally. If that is possible,

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<v Speaker 2>then you get in an uber. Get an uber from

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<v Speaker 2>the Melbourne airport because guys, the other day I got

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<v Speaker 2>a taxi. Tell me why it cost one hundred and

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<v Speaker 2>fifty dollars. Okay, they're ramping up the prices. If you

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<v Speaker 2>are a basic bitch, it means south side. I recommend

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<v Speaker 2>you go and stay in Ellwood and when you're in Elwood,

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<v Speaker 2>go to Comby for a seventeen dollar juice. Then go

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<v Speaker 2>down to Saint.

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<v Speaker 1>Kilda go on the boardwalk.

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<v Speaker 2>I see just going on the in Lunar Park on

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<v Speaker 2>the Scenic Grailway at the least one hundred years old.

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<v Speaker 1>To confirm this is my itinerary for basic redacted? Got it?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Then you're gonna want to take a bike and

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<v Speaker 2>ride to South Melbourne Market. At the market, you will

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<v Speaker 2>just trop down to Hector's Deli and get yourself a sandwich,

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<v Speaker 2>the roast beef sandwich. Then you're gonna go to the

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<v Speaker 2>markets and pick up some fresh oysters as well as

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<v Speaker 2>a wine from Coventry Street. Go back to your place

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<v Speaker 2>in Ellwood and watch the sun set.

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<v Speaker 1>Any questions not yet? Thank you? Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Then you're gonna have pre isn't Saint Kilda on Ackland Street?

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<v Speaker 2>Anywhere you want to go, there's a dog bar on

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<v Speaker 2>Ackland Street. Just google it a dog bar. Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>you can bring your dogs. Oh, Saint Kilda was very

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<v Speaker 2>cool once once upon a time. Okay, then you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>want to go to one six 's one. So that

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<v Speaker 2>is my guide for basic reductance.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we get a guide for people who live here? Ooh,

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<v Speaker 1>just off the top?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, if you were spending a lot of time here,

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<v Speaker 4>what would be on your checklist?

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<v Speaker 2>I would suggest this to anyone who lives here. This

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<v Speaker 2>is what I do every time I come back. This

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<v Speaker 2>is for the art host. Okay, go to Collingwood. Stay

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<v Speaker 2>in Collingwood, preferably on Smith Street or Fitzroy. If you

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<v Speaker 2>must alimentary for coffee, Alimentary for coffee as well as

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<v Speaker 2>a salad, then you got to Hector's Deli in Fitzroy.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyone here, yeah, look, so someone might work at Alimentary

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<v Speaker 2>out there. Then you're gonna go to Hope Street for

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<v Speaker 2>some sunset drinks.

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<v Speaker 4>I believe, as we do know someone did try and

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<v Speaker 4>fight me at Hope Street. So I'm like funny about

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<v Speaker 4>that recommendation now, But food is fantastic. Usually the clientele

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<v Speaker 4>is amazing, But be careful because there's something about etiquette

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<v Speaker 4>when lining up for a bar that's also a walkway

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<v Speaker 4>that gets girl is riled up.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a few drinks there then, though I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>have dinner there. I'm gonna have dinner at the kebab

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<v Speaker 2>shop on Smith Street. You'll know the one that's on

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<v Speaker 2>the corner. Then we're going to Yayas for a dance

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<v Speaker 2>or circuit.

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<v Speaker 4>One might say this is a very generic list for me?

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<v Speaker 4>Is it feeling very generic? Isn't what's sorry?

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<v Speaker 1>Where eighteen year olds going and there's something to go?

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<v Speaker 2>Because okay, I believe that there's something that's sorely missing,

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<v Speaker 2>especially in Sydney, is a place to dance with good music.

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<v Speaker 2>Ya Yas and circuit. The music is popping off. We've

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<v Speaker 2>got Carli Minogue, We've got all.

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<v Speaker 1>The classic hits.

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<v Speaker 4>I just feel like you've prefaced this by saying it's

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<v Speaker 4>an art hole list, and so I think one of

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<v Speaker 4>the fundamental metrics of creating a list for art hose

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<v Speaker 4>is that it be anything but generic. It would be

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<v Speaker 4>I wouldn't consider it's not the word I'd use it'd

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<v Speaker 4>be niche, maybe alternative, if you'd be revealing something fresh.

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<v Speaker 1>See but no.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the beauty of the art home in twenty

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<v Speaker 2>twenty three twenty twenty four financial year is that we're

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<v Speaker 2>going back to basics. We're going back to generic. We're

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<v Speaker 2>not trying to anything start anything new. But where we

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<v Speaker 2>where we know is good.

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<v Speaker 4>You're right to your point. I have been on a

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<v Speaker 4>night out with you. We've done the exact same thing.

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<v Speaker 4>We went. We went to Hope Street, we went to

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<v Speaker 4>the kebab shop. You said, let's go to Alimentary. We

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<v Speaker 4>actually did anything. You are consistent.

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<v Speaker 2>It is what it is. Listen, that's my Melbourne Guide. Please,

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<v Speaker 2>if you end up doing the Melbourne Guide, message me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's I assure you. It's been done by everybody who

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<v Speaker 1>lives here. I assure you. Okay, okay, Mickey, or what

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<v Speaker 1>time is it?

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<v Speaker 3>Hello?

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<v Speaker 4>Love line Love Line, it's where we professional opinion have

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<v Speaker 4>as who are very mindful that it's more interesting to

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know, talk about everyone else's issues but our own.

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<v Speaker 4>We request love dilemmas. This could be familiar love, romance, love,

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<v Speaker 4>anything in between. And they are always good. They are

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<v Speaker 4>always painful to listen to in the best way possible,

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<v Speaker 4>and they show us one thing and one thing only

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<v Speaker 4>to be humanist, to what.

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<v Speaker 1>To suffer, to suffer, babes, I'm obsessed with you. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>listen to this.

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<v Speaker 4>I listen to DM Dust and said, hey, friends, this

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<v Speaker 4>might be a bit long, but it's on my mind

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm desperate.

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<v Speaker 1>To see what you both think.

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<v Speaker 4>If we could get a microphone outside, maybe one of

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<v Speaker 4>our faves could give some advice.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Yeah, I don't know. I would love

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<v Speaker 1>that anyway.

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<v Speaker 4>This person also says, sorry, if this is way too

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<v Speaker 4>sappy and romantic, prepare to get the feelies. I met

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<v Speaker 4>my boyfriend last winter in a very very cute way.

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<v Speaker 4>We were at a festival, camping next to each other,

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<v Speaker 4>and he helped me where my tent pole broke. He

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<v Speaker 4>had duct tape, and the rest is history. We do

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<v Speaker 4>love helpful men. It's just been smooth sailing the entire time.

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<v Speaker 4>I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship about a

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<v Speaker 4>year before I met my boyfriend, so I was very

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<v Speaker 4>nervous to start any kind of a relationship. He is

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<v Speaker 4>so entirely different from anyone I've ever been with. We're

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<v Speaker 4>both pretty introverted, and it's just wonderful to easily communicate

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<v Speaker 4>when we both need time alone without worry. We can

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<v Speaker 4>spend quiet time together in peace. And I've had so

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<v Speaker 4>many anxieties about truly everything when I started this relationship,

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<v Speaker 4>and he has not triggered any of them, not one.

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<v Speaker 4>I trust him. I sleep easy at night. We have

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<v Speaker 4>a single worry about who I'm giving my trust and

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<v Speaker 4>my heart to.

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<v Speaker 1>This sounds very good.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, I say this sounds made up, which Oh honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>you're seeing as I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Feeling some tea.

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<v Speaker 2>I must admit some of them that I bring to

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<v Speaker 2>the table are definitely off the dome.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop. I've never lied on it. Really, Yeah, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know we could.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I think this is the first time I've been

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<v Speaker 4>in a relationship with someone who just genuinely wants to

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<v Speaker 4>spend time with me and enjoys it. Then what is

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<v Speaker 4>the issue. We've been together about ten months and I'm

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<v Speaker 4>really in love with him.

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<v Speaker 1>He is home.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, now it's sounding codependent, but I just cannot work

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<v Speaker 4>up the lady balls.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I knew, I knew.

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<v Speaker 4>This was gonna get I knew it okay to tell

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<v Speaker 4>him I love him? Oh hod on, So let's just recap.

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<v Speaker 4>You've been together for ten months. You met at a festival.

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<v Speaker 4>It was you know, him helping you. The rest is history.

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<v Speaker 4>You feel so safe with him, your anxieties aren't triggered.

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<v Speaker 4>It's been ten months. You can't say you love him,

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<v Speaker 4>mostly because things have been so smooth that you're afraid

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<v Speaker 4>to mess them up. This person also says that her

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<v Speaker 4>boyfriend is a fairly reserved man and it takes some

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<v Speaker 4>time and coaxing to get him to share his feelings,

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<v Speaker 4>and that she's the same way and this isn't a problem.

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<v Speaker 4>He hasn't said he loves me either. I do feel

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<v Speaker 4>like he shows me it all the time, and all

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<v Speaker 4>my friends who know us have told me to just

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<v Speaker 4>say it, and that he feels the same. So Miss

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<v Speaker 4>Flex and miss Frooms actually let me let me double check,

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<v Speaker 4>it says Miss Flex and Miss Frooms, having duraida, How

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<v Speaker 4>do I get the courage to tell this wonderful man

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<v Speaker 4>how I feel?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm scared? Welp oh, I love.

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<v Speaker 2>This to pieces. Listen, I think we have Sophie out

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<v Speaker 2>there with a mic.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, does anyone happen if you off the dome, but a

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<v Speaker 1>strong opinion off the dome.

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<v Speaker 2>Strong opinion, how do we goman?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, yes, from a man, sir, what's your name?

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<v Speaker 5>Josh?

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<v Speaker 1>Josh, what's your opinion?

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<v Speaker 5>If he's more reserved than you, just wait till he

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<v Speaker 5>opens up first, because if he's incredibly reserved coming out

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<v Speaker 5>and saying I love you can be very full on

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<v Speaker 5>or be okay. If he doesn't reciprocate those feelings, then

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<v Speaker 5>tell him straight up. Doesn't matter, Josh.

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<v Speaker 4>That is fantastic advice. And before I count to that,

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, it's on a debate. I just want to respond,

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<v Speaker 4>is there anyone else who has great advice? Because it'll

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<v Speaker 4>be hard.

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<v Speaker 2>To follow Jacob Jacob in the freemy corner, I'd probably

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<v Speaker 2>say to her that she could try leading by example.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like, what does it really change? It doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>really change the reality of their relationship. Huge.

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<v Speaker 4>This would be the first time in a live setting

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<v Speaker 4>that we can go to hear everybody who listens to

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<v Speaker 4>us so diligently.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm open, Yeah, what was your name? My name's Car.

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<v Speaker 6>What I'm sensing is it doesn't sound like she wants

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<v Speaker 6>to say it first, and I think that's problematic because

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<v Speaker 6>it's leaning into, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, male power.

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<v Speaker 6>And I think that she should say at first, if

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<v Speaker 6>that's what she feels, and she shouldn't worry about what

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<v Speaker 6>he has to say. And if she feels like she's

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<v Speaker 6>being shown it that it can be enough. But don't

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<v Speaker 6>act based on what you want him to do. Do

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<v Speaker 6>what you want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>That's real. Yeah, clap for that, Clap for that, Clap

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<v Speaker 1>for everyone, because that was phenomenal. I really enjoyed that.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, that last censor definitely cuts through my He's

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<v Speaker 2>just not that into your face. So I did go

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<v Speaker 2>through about three months ago that was quiet.

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<v Speaker 1>And phase for anyone who might not know what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>I went through a situation where someone's giving me mixed

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<v Speaker 2>messages for an extended period of time, and I decided

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<v Speaker 2>that I would try and play some mind games and

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<v Speaker 2>they kind of didn't work. So I listened to the

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<v Speaker 2>audio book, I watched the movie.

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<v Speaker 4>But you tried to play mind games based on what

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<v Speaker 4>you had learned, and he's not that into you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then they didn't work.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, they kind of worked, but he wasn't the right

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<v Speaker 2>person anyway. So I have actually been in this situation

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<v Speaker 2>where I've been at an impast with someone waiting for

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<v Speaker 2>them to say I love you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I would have been like seven months in, so I

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<v Speaker 2>feel you like this is tenure.

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<v Speaker 1>It's long, say gardening leave.

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<v Speaker 2>After that situation, I wish that I was grown enough

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<v Speaker 2>to have said it first, but I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I was.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I was nineteen at the time that this happened,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was very much in the thing of like

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<v Speaker 2>he should do it. So I think I waited, but

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<v Speaker 2>there was a bit of coaxing. There's a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>alcohol involved, and there was a bit of a I

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<v Speaker 2>think we were sitting down, like in the hallway of

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<v Speaker 2>his house, on the floor, and you know, when you

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<v Speaker 2>just look at someone, I'm like, you've got something to say,

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<v Speaker 2>Say it?

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<v Speaker 1>Now, say it?

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<v Speaker 5>Now?

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<v Speaker 6>Say it?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think?

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like all of us have a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>work to do with unlearning codependency. This is the thing

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<v Speaker 4>that you do where you orient your behavior based on

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<v Speaker 4>how you want someone else to respond, Which means that

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<v Speaker 4>in an environment where you're claiming that everything is perfect

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<v Speaker 4>but you can't do this one thing, it's telling you

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<v Speaker 4>that things aren't actually perfect. And if the trajectory of

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<v Speaker 4>your relationship is always going to be hinged on, well

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<v Speaker 4>he's got to do it first, then you're gonna end

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<v Speaker 4>up in a lot of environments where the relationship doesn't

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<v Speaker 4>progress like you want it to because you're constantly waiting,

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<v Speaker 4>and you're waiting and you're not being communicative, which means

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<v Speaker 4>that you are actually kind of waiting in vain. For example,

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<v Speaker 4>if I go to this cafe across the way there

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<v Speaker 4>knowing that I want to order something, but I just

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<v Speaker 4>stand there and wait until somebody acknowledges me, I might

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<v Speaker 4>not get acknowledged. The service is actually quite good, so

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<v Speaker 4>you will get acknowledged very quickly. However, imagine if it

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<v Speaker 4>wasn't how long would you wait for you, like, I

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<v Speaker 4>just have to go say something?

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<v Speaker 1>How long do you wait?

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<v Speaker 4>And in this instance, I really feel like the question

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<v Speaker 4>is there No, there's no right thing to do, It's

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<v Speaker 4>just a matter of what Josh was saying earlier. Are

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<v Speaker 4>you prepared to not get an answer that you want

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<v Speaker 4>and then act accordingly? You know, if you say I

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<v Speaker 4>love you and then the person doesn't respond, will you

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<v Speaker 4>stay in a dynamic where you don't feel like you're growing.

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<v Speaker 1>At the same pace. Will you bounce? Mmmm, that's real.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess you're you're kind of waiting on the It's

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<v Speaker 2>the d day, So do you really want to pull

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<v Speaker 2>the true?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's almost.

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<v Speaker 4>We talked about this concept of relationships having expiry dates.

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<v Speaker 4>When you delay the inevitable, you make it harder for yourself. Yeah, true,

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<v Speaker 4>get out now, Everyone live a little, because one day

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<v Speaker 4>the ground might open up as well as whole and

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<v Speaker 4>you're gonna be here being like I should have said it.

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<v Speaker 1>I should have said it.

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<v Speaker 4>So let's wrap up and say, in the great words

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<v Speaker 4>of Kara, don't be the person who waits to act

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<v Speaker 4>based on what somebody else is doing, because you will

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<v Speaker 4>wait your whole life and unfortunately, nobody's coming to save

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<v Speaker 4>you dead. That Marvel propaganda, Okay, there is no superhero.

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<v Speaker 4>No one's coming to save you. Tell everyone you love them,

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<v Speaker 4>starting today, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Love you, I love you.

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