1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. 2 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the. 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:10,120 Speaker 1: Time poor parent who just wants answers. 4 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 2: Now, you are really amazing. In yesterday's podcast, Kylie, just wonderful. 5 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: You asked me to be poppy. But when I asked 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: you if I was poppy, you said I wasn't. 7 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:25,920 Speaker 2: No, No, you're not poppy, poppy or poppy or anything 8 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 2: like that. You are quite sedate. You've always still hasn't 9 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:33,239 Speaker 2: come back. This is so frustrating. Although it does sound 10 00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:36,159 Speaker 2: there might be kids listening, I can't tell you how 11 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 2: it might sound. Sultry, might sound sultry. 12 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 1: Hey. 13 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 2: Every Friday I have Family's podcast. We talk about what's 14 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 2: gone well, what hasn't. It's called I'll Do Better Tomorrow. 15 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 2: The whole idea is we want to focus on how 16 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 2: things are going with an intentionality to make them better. 17 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 2: We just want our family life to be better. It's 18 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 2: up and down. It's a seesaw. You go first this week, 19 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:05,320 Speaker 2: you're old, do better tomorrow. Is it a win or 20 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 2: is it a loss? Have you done well or not well? 21 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 1: This is actually just a little share. The other day 22 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,319 Speaker 1: we were having a conversation with the kids and they 23 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: were talking about how They really like the o'ld do 24 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: Better Tomorrow episodes, but they get very frustrated because we 25 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:20,360 Speaker 1: don't use their names anymore. 26 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:22,559 Speaker 2: They want to hear their name on the podcast. 27 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: They love hearing outtake on life and especially the part 28 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: that they play in it. And I thought that was 29 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 1: really cool because over the years we've been very conscious 30 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: about trying to give them a little bit of an animity, and. 31 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 2: They just want to be the start of the show. 32 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 1: Yeah. 33 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 2: Hey, speaking of star of the show, somebody sent me 34 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 2: something recently on social media. I don't really use my 35 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:43,960 Speaker 2: social media at all, but this one came through it. 36 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 2: Maybe you just it wasn't someone it was you, because 37 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 2: you're on social media much more than me. You sent 38 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 2: me this thing or you showed me this thing, and 39 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 2: I just thought this was so cute. 40 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: Are you going to be part of the problem or 41 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:57,639 Speaker 1: part of the solution. I'm going to need the whole crop. 42 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 1: I watched this about ten times in a row. 43 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:04,559 Speaker 2: You're going to be part of the problem, upon the solution, 44 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 2: I'm going to be the whole role. All right, what's 45 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 2: your od A Better Tomorrow. 46 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,239 Speaker 1: It's actually just a really really brief conversation I had 47 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:15,839 Speaker 1: with Emily. The other day we were in the car 48 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 1: and she said, Mom, do you sometimes forget that Chanel's 49 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:22,239 Speaker 1: your daughter and just think of her as your best friend? 50 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: And I said, well, I don't forget she's my daughter, 51 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 1: but I love that she's my best friend. And I 52 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: said to her, when you're a mummy, do you think 53 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: that we'll be best friends? And she looked at me 54 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,680 Speaker 1: and she said yeah. And then she went quiet for 55 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 1: a second, and I could just see the cogs ticking, 56 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: and she looked at me and she said, you're going 57 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: to be the oldest friend I have. 58 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 2: The feel good. 59 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: I was kind of doing the maths and just thinking, 60 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 1: she obviously she's the youngest of six, I am going 61 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: to be very old by the time. She said, You're 62 00:02:56,760 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: going to be like Nanny's age by the time might 63 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: have children. On the surface, it just seems like a 64 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: really cute conversation, but at the heart of it, Number one, 65 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: I love the fact that she recognizes that there is 66 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 1: this beautiful relationship that I get to have with her 67 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: big sister, and secondly, that she's looking forward to being 68 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:17,799 Speaker 1: able to have that relationship. This has been something that 69 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: I've had to work really, really hard at I didn't 70 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 1: have that growing up. I didn't have the closeness with 71 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: my mum like I would have wanted, and so in 72 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: some ways I could almost fall back on the fact 73 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: that I didn't really have a role model to show 74 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: me how to do things, how to make this work. 75 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 1: But over the years, as you and I have been 76 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: extremely intentional about how we choose to parent our children, 77 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: that's been at the forefront of everything I do. And 78 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: I remember a little while ago kind of thinking we've 79 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: obviously done it all wrong, because girls get to an 80 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:56,839 Speaker 1: age where they just use mum as a punching bag. 81 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 2: They're going through that adolescent stage, and you think I've 82 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 2: lost my child, like who is this demon inhabiting my 83 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 2: child's bedroom? 84 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: And it's heartbreaking and it is so hard as a 85 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: parent to not take it personally. But as our three 86 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: eldest obviously now adults have kind of gone through that 87 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: stage and come out the other side just have these 88 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: beautiful relationships with these older girls and the younger girls 89 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: are watching it. A little while ago, baby number three Ella, 90 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: she looked at Chanel and she actually said to her, 91 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 1: are you my best friends or something? And she was 92 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: like yeah, And at that point, Ella was still trying 93 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: to work out where I fitted into her world, and 94 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:43,160 Speaker 1: just that conversation she had with her big sister literally 95 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 1: changed everything, because up until that point, Ella wasn't sure 96 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 1: how much she wanted me to play a part in 97 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 1: her life at that point, and to recognize that her 98 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:57,040 Speaker 1: other sister saw me in such a light gave her 99 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 1: a different perspective, and literally things change. From that moment on. 100 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:03,360 Speaker 2: There is hope. If you're a parent whose kids are 101 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:06,279 Speaker 2: driving you crazy and you're wondering how am I going 102 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 2: to get through this? There's hope. And as the kids 103 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 2: get older and age into adulthood leave the nest, life 104 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:17,359 Speaker 2: just gets better and better. It really really does. I 105 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 2: love every stage for different reasons, even our fourteen year old. 106 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 2: I really love so much about what she's going through. 107 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 2: But it's really taxing at certain ages as well, but 108 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 2: as the age into adulthood, it's just delightful. So glad 109 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:36,320 Speaker 2: you shared that. Speaking of Emily and her observations, she 110 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 2: said to me the other day, Hey, Dad, you need 111 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 2: to say this to mum. And I said, what am 112 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 2: I saying? She said, you need to say are you okay? Like, 113 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 2: have you recovered? Did it hurt? I said, why would 114 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:52,839 Speaker 2: I say that to mum? And she said, you just 115 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 2: have to say it. So I'm going to say it 116 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 2: to you right now. Are you okay? Have you recovered? 117 00:05:56,560 --> 00:05:57,120 Speaker 2: Did it hurt? 118 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: Why are you talking of? What did I have to 119 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:01,799 Speaker 1: recover from? 120 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: When you, as an angel, fell from heaven to come 121 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 2: to be on earth with me. That's what she told 122 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 2: me to say to you. 123 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:15,240 Speaker 1: She comes out with the craziest thing. How good is that? 124 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: She's so cute? 125 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 2: And now we're getting all weepy about it. 126 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 1: Oh, there's going to be a holiday of people out 127 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 1: there gagging right now. So do tell me what is yours? 128 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,839 Speaker 1: I'll do better tomorrow. Do you have any cute things 129 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: for me? 130 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:33,839 Speaker 2: No, No, I don't. I'm going to sound really self 131 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 2: centered in saying this, and I just I'm going to 132 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 2: say it anyway. Over the last few weeks, I've been 133 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 2: making a big deal about how I'm really trying to prioritize, 134 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:46,720 Speaker 2: be more present, change things up, and just just get 135 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:49,479 Speaker 2: things going the right way. During COVID, I had this 136 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:51,599 Speaker 2: incredibly good routine where I was able to be so 137 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 2: present because I was doing all the right stuff in 138 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 2: the right way. And I've let it go over the 139 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 2: last little while, but over the last few weeks, I'm 140 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 2: pulling it together so well. And I'm just I'm on 141 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 2: a real high. 142 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 1: I'm so glad you're on a real high. And I'm 143 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 1: so glad that you're trying to get balance because what 144 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 1: happened the other day. I think I got a phone 145 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: call to say I've done everything right today except I 146 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: didn't pack my shoes. What did I have to do? 147 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 1: It just created a little bit of imbalance to my day. 148 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I drove all the way down to Brisbane 149 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 2: to present at a wonderful school. We had an audience 150 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 2: of about three hundred, three hundred and fifty parents, and 151 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 2: I realized about an hour and a half before I 152 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 2: had to be on stage that I forgot my shoes. 153 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,679 Speaker 1: I may have rung Chanel to have a winge, because 154 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: she may. 155 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 2: Have she's your best friend. 156 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: If that was my husband, I would be telling him 157 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: to just go and buy some shoes. 158 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 2: You did, you told me to. But the shoes that 159 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:44,560 Speaker 2: I wear are really I really liked my shoes. I 160 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 2: didn't want to go and buy a cheap pair of 161 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 2: shoes when I've already got four pairs of shoes. Not necessary. 162 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 1: So why do we have four pairs of shoes? 163 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 2: Because I forgot my shoes on another trip, on another trip, 164 00:07:57,600 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 2: let's just added. 165 00:07:58,320 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 1: A couple more. 166 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 2: I've got two pairs of brown shoes. Because they don't 167 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 2: need to know I forgot my shoes. Well they know now. 168 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 2: Actually there was that time in Melbourne where I went 169 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 2: to buy some shoes because I'd forgot my shoes. Actually 170 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 2: I didn't forget them. My shoes had a blow out. 171 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 2: I knew that they were on the last legs, but 172 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 2: they had a blowout. And I was walking around Melbourne 173 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 2: trying to find a shoe shop, but everything was closing up. 174 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 2: It was an end of business and I only had 175 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 2: an hour until I had to present, like six thirty 176 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 2: or something. I found some guy and I asked if 177 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 2: I could buy some shoes somewhere. Do you know where 178 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 2: his shoe shop was that might be open? And he 179 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 2: said no, And then he offered to sell me some contrabands, 180 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:32,599 Speaker 2: some drugs. He's a drug dealer, and I said no, 181 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 2: I just need some shoes, and he said, well, you 182 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:35,959 Speaker 2: could buy mine. I looked at his shoes, though I'm 183 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 2: quite new looking, and I said, what size are they? 184 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 2: And they were my size? I said how much? He 185 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 2: told me how much. I said, okay, I'll buy the shoes. 186 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 2: I don't know what he laced them with, but I 187 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:46,319 Speaker 2: was dripping for days. 188 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: I can't believe you found a way to weave that. 189 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. Here's my audio better tomorrow now that 190 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 2: you've taken on all those tangents. So I've got this 191 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 2: really great routine that's working really well except when i 192 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 2: have to pack up and go places and forget my shoes. 193 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:00,360 Speaker 2: And what I'm finding is so wake up in the 194 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 2: morning and I'll do my reading. 195 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: I've got it, like I've just had this brilliant idea. 196 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 2: I may ever going to get through my better tomorrow. 197 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: I think ev should do you a little chor chup. 198 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 1: Is not a chor chart, it's a packing chart. 199 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:12,960 Speaker 2: So what I'm doing is I'm going ABCD. I'm getting 200 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:15,439 Speaker 2: my stuff done first thing in the morning. And because 201 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 2: I'm doing the most important stuff first, I've got much 202 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 2: more time to be relaxed and present with kids, with 203 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 2: the family, to help you out, and to just be around. 204 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,439 Speaker 2: And I'm just loving it. I feel like I'm on 205 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 2: a real high because getting that framework, getting that structure right. 206 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 2: It's been absent. I mean, I'm always talking to people 207 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:36,319 Speaker 2: about the importance of structure, because structure creates competence. 208 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: Can we just add forgetting, not forgetting a shoe into 209 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 1: the structure, please you. 210 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 2: I get it, I get it. I promise I won't 211 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 2: forget my shoes again, and I promise that if I 212 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 2: do forget my shoes again, I'll buy shoes so that 213 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 2: you don't have to drive a long way. 214 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: Wow, that's recorded. 215 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you've got it for posterity. It's there forever. 216 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:00,319 Speaker 2: So anyway, my older birds tomorrow. I I feel like 217 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 2: all the air's gone out of my older better tomorrow 218 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:04,079 Speaker 2: because I'm trying to do well my name, but I'm 219 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 2: doing really badly. 220 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 1: No, I am giving you a really hard time about 221 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: the shoes, but you actually have been doing amazing and 222 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 1: it has made a really big difference to just the 223 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: feel of our home. 224 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 2: Well, I'm glad that you appreciate that I've been working 225 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 2: really hard. Hey, just wrap up. You remember a couple 226 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 2: of months ago we did this really great interview with 227 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:27,079 Speaker 2: the Australian Children's Laureate Sally Rippon, the author of books 228 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:30,440 Speaker 2: she sold like ten million, the highest selling Australian female 229 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 2: author that we've ever had, sold like ten million copies 230 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:36,320 Speaker 2: of her books. And following up to that, we got 231 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 2: a voicemail from somebody who said, you taught me in 232 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 2: that podcast not to be a book snob and because 233 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 2: of that, my kids are reading. 234 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. 235 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 2: I've always made a really big deal about how reading 236 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:48,160 Speaker 2: is great for our kids' academic potential academic outcomes. I've 237 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:49,760 Speaker 2: just finished reading a great book that I'm going to 238 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 2: talk about in our upcoming Happy Families podcast book club 239 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 2: podcast called Troubled by guy called Rob Henderson. It's a 240 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 2: memoir of foster care, family and social class. Really fascinating book, 241 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 2: and I want to read something to you from it. 242 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 2: It really captured me and it's, I guess, kind of 243 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:07,440 Speaker 2: completing the circle. It's closing the circle on that thing. 244 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 2: And because it's been a really quick podcast, I figured 245 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 2: I've got sixty seconds to sneak it in, he said. 246 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 2: A couple of months ago, I spoke with two of 247 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:16,559 Speaker 2: my mum's friends who asked me for advice. They view 248 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:18,599 Speaker 2: me as a responsible adult. They see someone who was 249 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:22,080 Speaker 2: honorably discharged from the military and attended top universities. This 250 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 2: would have stunned the seventeen year old Rob to learn 251 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:26,200 Speaker 2: that someday people would look at him and that is 252 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 2: who they see. Mum's friends were worried that their son 253 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 2: isn't talking as much as other six year olds. They, 254 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 2: like many parents, were concerned with how smart their kid is. 255 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:37,680 Speaker 2: Should we be reading to him more, they asked me. 256 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 2: I thought of how lonely I felt trying to teach 257 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:44,440 Speaker 2: myself how to read as a foster kid. Yeah, I replied, 258 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:48,679 Speaker 2: but not because it will expand his vocabulary. Read to 259 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,880 Speaker 2: him because it will remind him that you love him. 260 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:53,479 Speaker 1: That's beautiful. 261 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 2: It's great book, fascinating book, but more than anything, it 262 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 2: highlights the stuff that we try to do in this podcast. 263 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 2: Everything that supposed to be doing is to help the 264 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:03,320 Speaker 2: kids know that we love them, and they do so 265 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:06,200 Speaker 2: much better when they know that. Even my morning routine 266 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 2: and even you driving to bring me my shoes, so thanks, 267 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 2: because I love you. The Happy Family's podcast is produced 268 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:15,439 Speaker 2: by Justin Rowland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our 269 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:19,439 Speaker 2: executive producer. We'll be back on Monday, hopefully Kylie will 270 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:20,800 Speaker 2: have her voice back. 271 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 1: I hope. 272 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:24,679 Speaker 2: So we'll see how that goes, and we're going to 273 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 2: be talking about a fascinating conversation whether or not the 274 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 2: gentle parenting is right or wrong. Gentle parenting is under 275 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:36,720 Speaker 2: the fire. That's The Happy Family's podcast back on Monday. Otherwise. 276 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:39,360 Speaker 2: For more information about having happier family, visit happy families 277 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,200 Speaker 2: dot com, dot you, and have a great weekend.