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Speaker 1: And Amanda jam Nation. Double a Chattery dropped yesterday. Double

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Speaker 1: a Chattery. This podcast I do with my friend Anita McGregor.

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Speaker 1: She's very wise. That's why it's a nice change of

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Speaker 1: pace to do that. She with someone else. I don't

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Speaker 1: understand what you're saying. We're talking actually about gossip and gossiping.

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Speaker 1: I'd seen a TikTok where a woman was looking at

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Speaker 1: the origin of gossip, and the word gossip comes from

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Speaker 1: a word meaning god parent. It was to look out

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Speaker 1: for somebody and to impart information. So basically at what

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Speaker 1: gossip was, and to a certain extent still is, is

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Speaker 1: information to keep you safe. Who were the weirdos, who

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Speaker 1: were the creeps, How to look after yourself, to keep

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Speaker 1: you and your friends and your children safe. Women would

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Speaker 1: share this information and then that So this is why

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Speaker 1: women always liked to gossip, according to the stereotype, well

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Speaker 1: according to the stereotype. But historically then men were threatened

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Speaker 1: by this, and religions were threatened by this, and therefore

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Speaker 1: we had the witch trials, et cetera. If women congregated together,

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Speaker 1: it was seen as a negative energy and something that

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Speaker 1: was antisocial and took away from the man's power in

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Speaker 1: the house. So therefore gossip was given a terrible connotation.

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Speaker 1: And statistics show that men and women gossip equally. That's interesting,

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Speaker 1: isn't it, because we tend to think of it as

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Speaker 1: a female domain. Men and women gossip equally, but the

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Speaker 1: word gossip isn't used when men talk. It's networking, working,

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Speaker 1: it's catching up, it's having a conversation. Yeah, I don't

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Speaker 1: spread gossip if I hear something, but gossip is information.

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Speaker 1: There's also, as you say, you're talking about negative gossip. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there're two different things. By you told me some gossip

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Speaker 1: the other day which was so juicy, I can't I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't repeat it. I'm a vault. Yeah, we all have

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Speaker 1: to be. We all make constant decisions every day about

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Speaker 1: what we share about ourselves and others publicly and what

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Speaker 1: we don't. And in this job, it's the same. And

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Speaker 1: you look at your own behavior, whether you're at a

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Speaker 1: dinner party with your girlfriends, whatever it is. When you're

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Speaker 1: with your girlfriends, Brendan, that was the gossip that Well,

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Speaker 1: if I share this story, am I doing it as

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Speaker 1: a people pleasing thing? Am I doing it so I

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Speaker 1: feel part of the group? Am I doing it so

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Speaker 1: I look like I'm interesting? But what detriment? And younger

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Speaker 1: girls they're finding or younger people have a bitchier gossips

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Speaker 1: than older people. And I asked Anita if she thought

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Speaker 1: that was social media that's created that, and she said maybe.

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Speaker 1: But also as we get older, we see the implications

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Speaker 1: of what saying hurtful things can do and how we

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Speaker 1: feel when it's said about us, and we learn to

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Speaker 1: temper it a little with being a bit kinder. So

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Speaker 1: I thought there were interesting rules as to That's what

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Speaker 1: Anita said. When she goes to share information, she thinks,

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Speaker 1: why am I sharing this? Who is who is going

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Speaker 1: to be implicated in this? And you can't be responsible

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Speaker 1: for how that information is shared once you impart it

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Speaker 1: to somebody. So all those things you need to think

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Speaker 1: about before you share a piece of information about someone.

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Speaker 1: Everybody knows a man to picks and eyes, who said?

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Speaker 1: Who said? Who said? That's what's going around at the

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