Speaker 1: Come on, hello everyone, Happy Thursday.
Speaker 2: Albo Oh, hi, Mitch, how are you going this fine afternoon?
Speaker 1: I'm good. You said that yesterday.
Speaker 2: Well, look we're have a bit of a more serious
Speaker 2: one today. On this Thursday.
Speaker 3: One of our very own kiss FM family members was
Speaker 3: recently diagnosed with breast cancer. And it all happened pretty
Speaker 3: quickly from when she found out to when she was
Speaker 3: having a mistectomy, and it sort of made us all
Speaker 3: stand up a little bit and take notice and think
Speaker 3: we need to be doing more to promote advocacy for
Speaker 3: checking your own breast.
Speaker 4: Yeah, visit Ali Clark if you didn't get the news,
Speaker 4: you know, not long ago, but which part of the
Speaker 4: family here.
Speaker 1: And it kind of made everyone in the company go,
Speaker 1: oh my god.
Speaker 2: I grabbed my boobs immediately.
Speaker 3: And I have been fear selling them actually probably too much,
Speaker 3: I mean feeling them to the point where I'm like,
Speaker 3: now I'm like, oh, is that something am I sore?
Speaker 2: Because I've been touching it too much.
Speaker 3: But it's really important that you understand how you should
Speaker 3: be doing your breast checks and things like that. So
Speaker 3: make sure you right now do a little bit of
Speaker 3: research on how and what you should be feeling.
Speaker 1: Well, that's what we're going to do.
Speaker 4: Every month, We're going to give you a little nudge
Speaker 4: to check your breast because it's early detection is the key.
Speaker 1: It saves lives.
Speaker 4: One in seven izzy women will be diagnosed with breast
Speaker 4: cancer in their lifetime. We all know way over seven
Speaker 4: women that it will directly affect us in our life,
Speaker 4: and when it's caught early, the survival rate is over
Speaker 4: ninety percent.
Speaker 2: Yeah, which is literally the difference between you living.
Speaker 1: Or not and what do you feel for.
Speaker 4: It's like, I mean, it can affect men too, but
Speaker 4: it predominantly affects women.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you feel for anything that is different to what
Speaker 3: you know or anything that feels like maybe it's not
Speaker 3: on the other side, So you should feel both, Like
Speaker 3: do they feel symmetric at the end of the day,
Speaker 3: women's breasts and men's breast but they're filled with a
Speaker 3: lot of different lumps and bumps. So any rippling of
Speaker 3: the skin or discharge in the nipples, little spots of blood,
Speaker 3: anything that you think doesn't look feel right, go and
Speaker 3: get it checked out.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Today on the show, we have an ask guncut next,
Speaker 4: so we're offering some advice to the listeners of the show.
Speaker 1: Britt we're very well informed, the two of us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love it. Every Thursday we do it. We
Speaker 2: help you with your deepest, darkest burning issues.
Speaker 4: This is tricky, and I think a situation we've all
Speaker 4: been in. You invite someone to an event long in
Speaker 4: the future, but then the friendship kind of dips and
Speaker 4: you're not as close as you once were when you
Speaker 4: bought the tickets. But then the event comes around. Do
Speaker 4: you still take them? Can you cancel? Can you pull
Speaker 4: the tickets away from them?
Speaker 2: I have this problem with you in my upcoming wedding, Mitch.
Speaker 1: Is that a ticket at event?
Speaker 5: Is it?
Speaker 2: You're happy by ticket?
Speaker 1: Peace for We've got to tackle that issue for a listener.
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Speaker 2: We have a fan favorite right now, guys. It's Thursday,
Speaker 2: Ask Uncut. It's Asked Uncut.
Speaker 3: We do it every single week and we just help
Speaker 3: you with your biggest, darkest, deepest dilemmas.
Speaker 2: And Lily has called up with a very tricky one.
Speaker 1: Today, A lil what's going on? How can we help hi?
Speaker 4: There?
Speaker 6: So I've got a bit of a situation. I bought
Speaker 6: some concert tickets last year. They weren't easy to get
Speaker 6: waited in lines quite a while, and then someone who
Speaker 6: was I was friends with at the time asked if
Speaker 6: they could have one of the concert tickets. I said, yep, great,
Speaker 6: let's go to the concerts later this year. Since they
Speaker 6: have stepped into a more senior management session, and they have,
Speaker 6: I'd say like our friendship has disintegrated and they've started
Speaker 6: treating me. It's quite unfairly at work now, I'm dreading
Speaker 6: this concert. It's meantally into state as well. Yeah. So,
Speaker 6: and we haven't spoken about flights, accommodation, nothing bare. We've
Speaker 6: barely even spoken about it. But I want to ask
Speaker 6: for the concert ticket back. She's I technically still have
Speaker 6: the ticket that she's paid me for it, and I
Speaker 6: don't know how to go about it.
Speaker 2: Is it just the two of you?
Speaker 6: Yeah, just the two of us this trick.
Speaker 3: I would almost think that you're going to have to
Speaker 3: have a conversation with her and take the ticket back.
Speaker 4: But what has changed? So you guys were close and friends.
Speaker 4: Has she changed as a person since being a manager?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Absolutely. And I think the other thing is I used
Speaker 6: to be in her role and I stepped down, and
Speaker 6: so now it's almost it almost feels like a power play.
Speaker 4: Then you know what, like this is going to be
Speaker 4: the hard conversation to have, but you're gonna have to
Speaker 4: sit her down and go, look, do you really want
Speaker 4: to go to this concert?
Speaker 1: Like we weren't. We weren't what we once were. What
Speaker 1: she says, yes, then go.
Speaker 4: Then then it's the open chance to say I don't
Speaker 4: feel the same.
Speaker 1: I just don't. I just don't. I'm not looking forward
Speaker 1: to it.
Speaker 3: The only other option is if it's not the end
Speaker 3: of the world for you, do you let her buy
Speaker 3: the ticket and so you can't go?
Speaker 2: Or is it an event that you truly don't want
Speaker 2: to miss out on?
Speaker 6: Unfortunately, it's an event I truly don't want to miss
Speaker 6: out on. I'm talking I waited in a queue for
Speaker 6: like three hours.
Speaker 2: Well, then you don't want to spend this experience with
Speaker 2: someone you don't like.
Speaker 3: I think you're going to have the conversation and say, hey, look,
Speaker 3: I think that you must be across this as well,
Speaker 3: that our friendship has obviously changed. We don't really you
Speaker 3: hang out anymore, you know, outside of work, and the
Speaker 3: dynamic is different. I'm going to, you know, give this
Speaker 3: to someone, especially my life.
Speaker 4: But you also could think on the flip side, right, Lily,
Speaker 4: that this could be the moment you need to rekindle
Speaker 4: the friendship. Were you close? Did you enjoy the friendship
Speaker 4: before she was a manager?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I did?
Speaker 6: I did, But like it's honestly one of those things
Speaker 6: she's changed so much as a person, and I'm just
Speaker 6: worried now that, Like, is she then gonna essentially punish
Speaker 6: me more?
Speaker 2: Well? Probably if you think that she's going to, she.
Speaker 4: Will also maybe don't go to the show and maybe
Speaker 4: look for work elsewhere. Like, if you're not happy in
Speaker 4: this situation, I think.
Speaker 3: Well, this is escalated, bitch. Can you try and get
Speaker 3: extra tickets? Then just give her those ones and you
Speaker 3: go with the extra ones. And if you can't get
Speaker 3: the extra ones, then you're going to have to go
Speaker 3: with your devil ways.
Speaker 1: Probably you don't want to go. That sounds so cool.
Speaker 7: She just said that her No, she can't miss because
Speaker 7: it's going to make it worse for it work and
Speaker 7: you spend so much of your life at work.
Speaker 6: That's actually a good idea. I didn't think of that.
Speaker 2: I rate that idea, Brittany for present, please go.
Speaker 6: Look for another ticket.
Speaker 1: Well, there go, Lily.
Speaker 7: I hope it helps and stop that convoluted advice helps you, Lily, I.
Speaker 4: Reckon quit, but that's that's like sort of scorched earth.
Speaker 4: You know, let us know if you quit, will hire you,
Speaker 4: which is like move to please you. If you want
Speaker 4: to get in touch, you can send us a text
Speaker 4: with your life issue and we'll do our best to answer.
Speaker 1: At four nine nine four four.
Speaker 3: Hey, after the break, we have a bit more of
Speaker 3: a serious chat. We've been talking about breast cancer. We're
Speaker 3: going to be playing something that's very special to Laura
Speaker 3: and myself. She was a listener of Life on Cutch.
Speaker 3: She was part of our family. Her name was Chanelle Bryant,
Speaker 3: and we spoke to her just weeks before she passed
Speaker 3: away tragically from breast cancer, and the insight that we
Speaker 3: got from her was truly invaluable.
Speaker 1: We'll play that out next here on the pickup.
Speaker 3: We're doing something a little bit different here at the
Speaker 3: pickup today. We are making a really conscious effort to
Speaker 3: try and raise more awareness surrounding breast cancer because we
Speaker 3: know it is a disease that is very very fatal
Speaker 3: and very prevalent, and we want people to be checking their.
Speaker 2: Breast morphone and more aware. And something that Laura and.
Speaker 3: I had the absolute privilege of doing was interviewing one
Speaker 3: of our own lifers from our podcast community Life Uncut.
Speaker 3: Her name is Chanelle Bryant, and about two years ago,
Speaker 3: Chanelle tragically passed away from triple negative breast cancer. Now
Speaker 3: she was a mum of two young kids, she was
Speaker 3: a wife, and with only a few weeks left to live,
Speaker 3: she gave us her precious, precious time, knowing she had
Speaker 3: such little amounts of time left with her family, and
Speaker 3: she came on and did an interview with us, and
Speaker 3: the point of that interview was to raise awareness to
Speaker 3: everyone listening that this can happen to you and to
Speaker 3: advocate for your own health to make sure you're checking
Speaker 3: your breast. And we're forever grateful that we got to
Speaker 3: speak to Chanelle just weeks before she passed away. And
Speaker 3: this conversation is to highlight the fact that if you
Speaker 3: can remember on the first of every month to make
Speaker 3: it here to check your breasts.
Speaker 1: All right, So let's roll this out. This is Chanel
Speaker 1: Bryant from the Life on cut podcast.
Speaker 3: I don't actually know how to ask. I'm just gonna ask,
Speaker 3: what is your timeline looking like?
Speaker 5: So I've been told if I don't have treatment, I'll
Speaker 5: be lucky to see Christmas. So that's weeks away.
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry.
Speaker 5: Thank you, Like, what can you do? You know it's
Speaker 5: it's fucked. But I can't control it. You know, I
Speaker 5: can control writing letters to the kids. I can control
Speaker 5: bringing forward our wedding vow and you'll to this weekend
Speaker 5: as opposed to in five months time. I can control
Speaker 5: my goodbyas and creating memories and traditions with the kids now,
Speaker 5: taking videos. So they're the things I'm controlling and you
Speaker 5: know that's that Mum and me and I'm doing that
Speaker 5: and that's all that I can do. So then once
Speaker 5: I do that, I have to let go, Like it's
Speaker 5: the ultimate lesson in surrender.
Speaker 8: Chanel, you mentioned some of the things that you are
Speaker 8: focusing on in the time that you have left. The
Speaker 8: one thing you didn't mention, and it's something that is
Speaker 8: I think cannot be overlooked, is how much work you
Speaker 8: have done in creating a community around you with support
Speaker 8: your girls and advocating not just now but you know,
Speaker 8: in the last couple of years advocating for breast cancer awareness.
Speaker 8: What is the legacy that you want to leave. What
Speaker 8: is the message that you want people to know?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 5: Sorry, out it's so huge. I don't want people to
Speaker 5: take their health for granted, but I also don't want
Speaker 5: them to live in fear. Where I drop into this space,
Speaker 5: I guess is I want people to create a habit
Speaker 5: of checking their breasts every month. I think creating a
Speaker 5: habit like pinching a punch first of the month, you know,
Speaker 5: just just a habit, something that you think of instinctively.
Speaker 5: On the first of the month, That's what I do.
Speaker 5: I check my breast and if anything's unusual, I go
Speaker 5: and get it checked out. So you're not riddled with
Speaker 5: fear all the time I'm going to get cancer. It's
Speaker 5: just something that you do, like your period comes once
Speaker 5: a month, you know, just a normal thing. The conversation
Speaker 5: stays open. I think if we can create and instill
Speaker 5: that habit in people, it's going to be nothing but positive.
Speaker 5: And then I think beyond that, it's just being your
Speaker 5: own advocate. So if something comes up. A lot of
Speaker 5: the time the doctors will say, oh, you're young, it's fine,
Speaker 5: you know, don't worry. Come back in a year if
Speaker 5: it's still there, that's not okay. You need to be
Speaker 5: your own advocate and go in there and say, no,
Speaker 5: this is concerning me. I want an ultrasound or I
Speaker 5: want a mammogram. You advocate for yourself. I think that
Speaker 5: is really a huge take home message as well, because
Speaker 5: no one else is ultimately going to do it.
Speaker 2: What do you want your kids to know about you?
Speaker 3: Is there anything that you just I know that you've
Speaker 3: written so many beautiful letters to them and you've told them,
Speaker 3: But what do you want them when they look back
Speaker 3: to think about you and to know that you did?
Speaker 5: I think for me, it's always been a feeling and
Speaker 5: where my struggles in this space lie are. I just
Speaker 5: I just don't want them to forget me.
Speaker 2: They will never You were their whole world.
Speaker 5: I know that, and I'm you know, instilling that and
Speaker 5: doing everything that I can with that. I just, for me,
Speaker 5: it's a feeling. And say this to people all time,
Speaker 5: It's like you don't remember the intricacies of the moment.
Speaker 5: Sometimes you don't remember often the things you say, you remember,
Speaker 5: the way someone makes you feel and I just like
Speaker 5: to make people around me feel good, feel loved, feel supported,
Speaker 5: feel howled, feel seen. And that's where my focus has been,
Speaker 5: especially as I've evolved as a woman. And I hope
Speaker 5: that with everything that I've done for them in setting
Speaker 5: these things up, and the memories that I've made, and
Speaker 5: the conversations that I've had with friends and family and
Speaker 5: community around keeping my memory alive, I hope that that's
Speaker 5: enough that they can get a feeling of the woman
Speaker 5: that I was when I was earthbound. And that's all
Speaker 5: that I want. I just want them to be happy
Speaker 5: and loved and feel me. Really.
Speaker 1: Hey, if you want to hear the full chat with
Speaker 1: Chanelle Bryant, an incredible woman, you can search on the
Speaker 1: life on cut.
Speaker 2: Feed, Right Brett, Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1: I don't forget.
Speaker 4: Have a squeeze of your boobs, have a feel, you
Speaker 4: feel something abnormal, go chat to your doctor. All right
Speaker 4: back after this on the pickup last week on the show,
Speaker 4: because SHUMEU.
Speaker 1: Listen to every moment of this show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, obviously people know this moment, but in case you
Speaker 4: missed it, I challenged the girls Britain Laura in my
Speaker 4: ultimate friendship test. I had a theory that if your
Speaker 4: friends really love you, they will accept an invitation to
Speaker 4: be able to view them at all times on Find
Speaker 4: My Friends, which is like GPS tracking on.
Speaker 3: Your eye the live location thing. Yeah, out of the blue,
Speaker 3: I got a Mitch wants to know where you are?
Speaker 3: Do you accept or decline?
Speaker 1: You didn't accept.
Speaker 4: No, I decline law except on the air, and guess what,
Speaker 4: that night canceled it.
Speaker 2: So she's a for show friends.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I thought, okay, you guys have a lot
Speaker 4: of celeb friends in this world, a lot of people
Speaker 4: in the public eye.
Speaker 1: So this was the challenge. Brittany Hartily Laura Burn.
Speaker 4: I now challenge you to find two friends and to
Speaker 4: request their live location.
Speaker 1: I reckon, maybe brit you do someone from the Jungle.
Speaker 2: I am going to go Tristan. Tristan McManus from the
Speaker 2: Channel ten.
Speaker 1: You guys aren't best.
Speaker 3: Were Well, we're friends because we did the I'm a
Speaker 3: Celebrity Jungle together, so for almost a month we were together.
Speaker 2: But we're not best is like we don't call each
Speaker 2: other every second day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we do have an update though.
Speaker 7: Well yeah, so I was really shocked, but he accepted
Speaker 7: it pretty soon.
Speaker 2: He accepted it and then he accepted it, and I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, okay, that's weird.
Speaker 3: And I felt awkward because I was like, oh, he
Speaker 3: thinks that I just want to follow him. But then
Speaker 3: he sent me a message later and he said, PS,
Speaker 3: I think you butt messaged me.
Speaker 4: You know what we should do. You need to call Tristan.
Speaker 4: We actually should give the number to our producer Grace.
Speaker 4: You need to call Tristan and just say, hey, mate,
Speaker 4: I just saw it because you've I've got to find mine.
Speaker 1: I saw you around the corner.
Speaker 4: Let's get it.
Speaker 1: Let's grab a quick cofee. You're two minutes away from me.
Speaker 2: What he says just it's like the ultimate friendship test.
Speaker 2: I hate this stuff. Whatever would you do it?
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't want to because I feel awkward,
Speaker 3: but he's going to think I'm a psycho store.
Speaker 1: Let's go. I got his numbers.
Speaker 2: Hello, Tristan, it's Brittany. How are you.
Speaker 4: Sorry?
Speaker 5: Mate?
Speaker 4: I just wanted to.
Speaker 3: Thank you the other day for accepting my request location.
Speaker 2: You know I find my friends.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: I know. You think I but diled you, but I didn't.
Speaker 2: It was just sort of because, like I guess, I've been.
Speaker 7: Thinking about you too, so I wanted to see you know,
Speaker 7: I wanted to keep track of your movements. And I
Speaker 7: actually did just jump on now and I saw that
Speaker 7: you are not far from me, so I thought i'd
Speaker 7: see if you just wanted to get a coffee or something. Yeah,
Speaker 7: of course, yeah, Oh where are you?
Speaker 2: Well, I'm about four hundred meters from you.
Speaker 3: Actually, if you look down the street and put your
Speaker 3: head out, you've probably seen me.
Speaker 6: You know, I was wondering what that thing was because
Speaker 6: it's a bit weird.
Speaker 3: I thought it was pretty normal, isn't it just to
Speaker 3: like want to keep track of your friends.
Speaker 5: Well, yeah, no, you should, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: What happened is I've told you all the time is
Speaker 4: to just come knock on the door, rock in I
Speaker 4: have a cookie sea But yeah, yeah I will major.
Speaker 3: Well, I did also see I saw because I obviously
Speaker 3: just check in on your location every day, so I
Speaker 3: did see that you have been spending a bit of
Speaker 3: time in my house.
Speaker 7: I haven't been, no, but you've been around the suburb
Speaker 7: like you've been in the area, and I just thought,
Speaker 7: I don't know, like I just I guess I feel
Speaker 7: a bit sad that you've been around and haven't called
Speaker 7: like I thought, you know, true friends, true friends would
Speaker 7: probably follow each other's no, do you know what?
Speaker 5: I just wasn't sure how busier like you know what
Speaker 5: I mean?
Speaker 1: Like I keep saying to people, I said, they need
Speaker 1: to rock into me, but I actually don't do it.
Speaker 1: You know, Yeah, No, it hasn't been that.
Speaker 2: I just you're You're you're busy always.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be We can't do this too, Tristan.
Speaker 1: You're on the pick up mate.
Speaker 4: You are the you are the ultimate wingman for putting
Speaker 4: up with this bull from Brittany.
Speaker 2: Help, Trisan. They made me request your location. I didn't
Speaker 2: want to do it. I was like, he's going to
Speaker 2: think I'm a creep, But you actually were so nice
Speaker 2: about it.
Speaker 1: We forced her to do it.
Speaker 4: We forced her to call you and say she was
Speaker 4: tracking you, Tristan, and you were the nicest man in
Speaker 4: the world about it.
Speaker 3: In all honesty. I was stokes that you accepted it.
Speaker 3: But I was like, hang on a minute, he didn't
Speaker 3: request my location back.
Speaker 2: Doesn't he want to know?
Speaker 4: I just thought it was a little bit weird.
Speaker 2: You're like, weird, but I'll roll with it.
Speaker 1: I think you are.
Speaker 4: You are the greatest man in Australia, one of the
Speaker 4: best friends out there there.
Speaker 3: It was a friendship test and we can say, hands down,
Speaker 3: you passed in the jungle and you passed right now
Speaker 3: live on radio, you Tristan.
Speaker 4: But I will be safe. I will never be in
Speaker 4: your house.
Speaker 1: Thank you. Thanks for that, all right, Will? And what
Speaker 1: are you up next? To drive you homewords down? Everyone?
Speaker 4: You can podcast the show on the iHeartRadio app and
Speaker 4: we'll see you tomorrow for Friday.
Speaker 2: Goodbye, yeah bye.