WEBVTT - MOTIVATIONAL MOMENT: Learning when to quit 🛑

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Sam Wood, and this is your motivational moment for

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<v Speaker 1>this week. Do we stick it out or is it

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<v Speaker 1>time to quit? This topic is not something I ever

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<v Speaker 1>thought I would say on this show, but I heard

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<v Speaker 1>a quote this week that stops me in my tracks.

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<v Speaker 1>The quote that I heard was successful people quit all

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<v Speaker 1>the time. And that's the first bit. That's the bit

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<v Speaker 1>that sort of rattled me, and I didn't necessarily agree

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<v Speaker 1>with because I'm very much on work ethic and perseverance. However,

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<v Speaker 1>the second part of the quote was they just know

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<v Speaker 1>what to quit and when, and so then I thought

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I thought, you know, you've got that friend

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<v Speaker 1>in the toxic relationship that they can't see but everyone

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<v Speaker 1>else around them can see, and they end up inevitably

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<v Speaker 1>breaking up with that person, but everyone else thought that

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<v Speaker 1>should have broken up three years ago, and that's three

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<v Speaker 1>years of their life they're never going to get back,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's a really hard conversation to have with someone.

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<v Speaker 1>Or the job. You know, you've got the friend in

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<v Speaker 1>the job that they despise, and we get one life

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<v Speaker 1>and they go into that job nine to five forty

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<v Speaker 1>eight weeks a year and they hate it and it

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<v Speaker 1>kills you to watch that person doing that. You know

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<v Speaker 1>this might even be you. But in the fitness motivation

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<v Speaker 1>world it's like, don't quit, keep going. But the reality

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<v Speaker 1>is to have the most success, sometimes quitting or knowing

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<v Speaker 1>when to quit or knowing what to quit, as I

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<v Speaker 1>said in the quote, are absolutely critical. Now the key

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<v Speaker 1>here is you don't just stop and do nothing. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't quit, give up, walk away. I had a crack

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<v Speaker 1>a life, or I had a crack at that, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to do anything else. It's understanding when

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<v Speaker 1>you are attempting to do something and you've reached the

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<v Speaker 1>point after a certain amount of time where the results

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<v Speaker 1>are aren't there that you thought would be there, or

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<v Speaker 1>you've reached a platter, or in some cases you might

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<v Speaker 1>even be going backwards, and even though there might have

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<v Speaker 1>been initial success in a nice steep curve at the beginning,

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<v Speaker 1>that has absolutely dissipated. And sometimes we can't see the

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<v Speaker 1>forest of the trees. I think I've got that quote right.

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<v Speaker 1>If not, someone will correctly didn't got some rise I

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<v Speaker 1>said it, But you know, we're kind of blinded by

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<v Speaker 1>our own determination to finish what we set out to finish.

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<v Speaker 1>To We've told people, I'm going to do X, and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to feel like a failure, but you're

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<v Speaker 1>actually doing yourself a disservice by continuing on. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I did this with my kid's fitness business that had

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<v Speaker 1>enormous success in the first couple of years, but then

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<v Speaker 1>we really really struggled to duplicate it and scale it

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<v Speaker 1>and tried many different options, but those options were very

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<v Speaker 1>expensive ever a long period of time, and I was

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<v Speaker 1>bringing up an enormous amount of debt. But I was

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<v Speaker 1>so pigheaded, I was so proud. I was so determined

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<v Speaker 1>to tell people that I was going to build this

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<v Speaker 1>kid's fitness empire, that I'd kind of attached a part

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<v Speaker 1>of my self worth to achieving it. And I ended

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<v Speaker 1>up with a nine hundred thousand dollars debt and nowhere

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<v Speaker 1>near achieving the goal. At the time, it was shamed.

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<v Speaker 1>There was embarrassment. There was an enormous amount of anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>and stress about the financial position that I'd put myself in,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know that took a while to sort of

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<v Speaker 1>clor out of that. But the reality is I should

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<v Speaker 1>have heeded this advice. I think the key here is

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<v Speaker 1>even if you decide to persevere. But please don't take

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<v Speaker 1>this as whatever you're doing right now, put tools down

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<v Speaker 1>and quit, because ninety percent of the time you should

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<v Speaker 1>be persevering. All I'm saying is make sure there are

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<v Speaker 1>checkpoints on these journeys quarterly or bi annually, or at

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<v Speaker 1>least annually where you are stopping and evaluating is it

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<v Speaker 1>still what it was meant to be? Am I actually

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<v Speaker 1>getting closer to my goal? And is it better to

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<v Speaker 1>continue to persevere or should I be quitting or pivoting?

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<v Speaker 1>And if the answer is the latter, there is no

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<v Speaker 1>shame in that. In fact, it is the right smart move.

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<v Speaker 1>Just evaluate a number of things that you've been working

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<v Speaker 1>on for a while and is there something that needs

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<v Speaker 1>a change on you need to put a full stop on,

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<v Speaker 1>because if there is, I hope that this little conversation

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<v Speaker 1>that we're having a Monday can be a life changer,

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<v Speaker 1>because it genuinely could be one of those things that

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<v Speaker 1>without having that moment of reflection or that moment of

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<v Speaker 1>looking inward, you could waste a lot of time, a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of energy on something else that you could be

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<v Speaker 1>spending all that time and energy on would be of

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<v Speaker 1>a lot more benefit. So from a mental, physical, financial

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<v Speaker 1>relationship perspective. Your would life listener task is to just evaluate,

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<v Speaker 1>look in and evaluate the things that you've been working

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<v Speaker 1>on for a long time in your life that are

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<v Speaker 1>really important to you and make that decision do I

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<v Speaker 1>persevere or is it time to quit.