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Speaker 1: Podcasting now reading an article online today, question being how

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Speaker 1: early should you have the kid? Chat?

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Speaker 2: So meaning do you want to have kids?

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Speaker 1: But what do you think I'm talking about?

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm just clarifying. I'm just clarifying, clarifying.

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Speaker 1: Should they be outside kids or inside kids? Like? No,

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Speaker 1: do you of course? Do you want to have babies?

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Speaker 1: Oh you're just going to be silent on this, of

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Speaker 1: course I want you to have an opinion. Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: not just going to talk to your post out here, mate,

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Speaker 1: I can have a chat with the Guardian's it's any

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Speaker 1: bloody awful radio. What have you got you now? You're

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Speaker 1: nervous about this, aren't you?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Obviously?

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Speaker 4: So okay, So just speaking very personally someone I've had

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Speaker 4: four dates with someone currently, I'm currently on four dates.

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Speaker 4: Oh you're going straight here? Perfect, perfect, and haven't even

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Speaker 4: come near it. Yeah that conversation.

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Speaker 1: But how so, how old is is the woman?

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Speaker 2: Twenty eight?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, so she's twenty eight.

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Speaker 2: I'm thirty one.

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Speaker 1: It's not it's not not an irrelevant chat, No, it's not.

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Speaker 4: And the last thing I would want to do would

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Speaker 4: be to, for want of a better expression, waste someone's time. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: but then I'm not necessarily wasting someone's time because well,

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure though, I'm not sure if I want kids,

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Speaker 4: And I think that's that's difficult because if I'm saying

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure and they're saying I really.

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Speaker 1: Want kids, Because the thing is, no matter which way

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Speaker 1: you fall, like, no matter what side of the fence

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Speaker 1: you're on with this, like if you're pro kids or

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Speaker 1: you're against kids, whichever way you fall there, that could

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Speaker 1: be a deal breaker. Yes, and yeah, particularly particularly if

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Speaker 1: you're keen on someone. I mean, you seem very keen

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Speaker 1: on this on this woman at the moment. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: early days, will it days, but you seem genuinely giddy

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Speaker 1: at the moment. Is she listening. We don't know that's true.

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Speaker 2: We're pretty sure she doesn't.

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Speaker 1: Okay, could be a DEALI of a pickle, But look,

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Speaker 1: you're keen, he's keen if you're listening. Sorry about that,

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Speaker 1: but I finding the age thing's big. It's obviously very

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Speaker 1: different for men as it is for women as well

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Speaker 1: because the whole body clock business. But the other side

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Speaker 1: of me says, it's a good chat to get going

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Speaker 1: on early on because you know the fact that it

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Speaker 1: is a deal breaker. Substantiates that it needs to be

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Speaker 1: a conversation that you have early on, because it's worth

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Speaker 1: knowing where the other person stands, and if you're in

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Speaker 1: love with them, if you are really keen on them,

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Speaker 1: then it's probably a good thing to get out of

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Speaker 1: the way because you love them regardless.

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Speaker 4: So do you have to wait until you know you

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Speaker 4: love the person then before you have the chat? Because

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Speaker 4: MY big concern is that to have a baby chat

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Speaker 4: when things that it's like whoa, We've just had, you know,

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Speaker 4: two dates, it feels a serial and I think it

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Speaker 4: can potentially stifle a relationship and it's like, woll we're

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Speaker 4: just having fun, like we're really like are we serious?

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Speaker 4: And then do we want to have kids? And I

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Speaker 4: would worry about what that does.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever had a kid chat? Though, Yes I have,

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Speaker 1: Okay I have.

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Speaker 4: And I received this with X ex partner and she

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Speaker 4: said no, yeah right, And that was a and I

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Speaker 4: was a lot younger. This would have been four years

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Speaker 4: ago or so, so I was like whatever, like maybe I.

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Speaker 2: Don't either, and then went went along with it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but if that happened now, I think that'd be like,

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Speaker 4: oh see, iaid five minutes ago I didn't want kids,

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Speaker 4: and now I think I.

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Speaker 2: Do want kids. That's where I mean, that's where I'm at.

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Speaker 2: I'm fluctuating.

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Speaker 1: You're a difficult person to have the chat with one

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Speaker 1: six fives of phone number. How does everybody else feel

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Speaker 1: about I mean, let's try and put a window on it.

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Speaker 1: How early should you have the kids chat? Because you're saying,

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Speaker 1: you know you've seen someone for four dates, and that's

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Speaker 1: way too early. I think I'd love to hear with

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Speaker 1: some other people because I had it open. I had

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Speaker 1: it two dates in with my current girlfriend who second day, Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's Dutch, she's direct, and she just laid it down

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Speaker 1: and she just said I want them with him three

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Speaker 1: years and that was a good thing for me to know.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, but two dates in, surely didn't even know it.

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Speaker 1: Was a huge priority for her, and she was just like,

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Speaker 1: I just don't want you to be wasting our time.

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Speaker 1: This is something that I want and if you're keen

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Speaker 1: on me, that's what you have to know about me.

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Speaker 1: Now we've negotiated since then, and I've pushed her out

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Speaker 1: to six or seven. But nice, great negotiatinganks very much

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Speaker 1: at the time. Yeah, confronting, but I'm glad we did it.

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Speaker 1: We've got Hailey here on thirty one and six five. Hailey,

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Speaker 1: what do you reckon? What's too soon?

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Speaker 3: Well? I had someone who after the first date, they

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Speaker 3: actually asked me what baby names?

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Speaker 1: I like? WHOA straight to it? That might just be

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Speaker 1: a bit of it. That must be a bit of

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Speaker 1: light chat. I mean, that's not necessarily leading to what

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Speaker 1: that Oh, it's not necessarily leading to kids, you know,

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Speaker 1: that's just that might just be like, hey, you know,

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Speaker 1: hypothetically if you could have a kid. I think you've

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Speaker 1: read into it too much. Hailey, thanks for the call.

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Speaker 1: We've got Shirley has gone on thirty one and sixty five. Shirley,

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Speaker 1: what do you reckon? What's too soon to have the kid? Chat?

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Speaker 3: I did it after a month, and I probably could

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Speaker 3: have done it a little bit sooner. I never wanted

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Speaker 3: to have children, okay, so I just let them know

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Speaker 3: straight up, but we weren't going to have them. I

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Speaker 3: fee wanted to be with me. And then when we

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Speaker 3: got engaged, I said again, are you sure because I

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Speaker 3: will never have children? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, And you still still no kids. Shirley like

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Speaker 1: stuck to your guns. There there's no no. Yeah, wow, okay,

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Speaker 1: and that's that's and that's a really good thing. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know what's interesting about this shell It was just

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Speaker 1: going to get your thoughts on this. I wonder if

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Speaker 1: I wonder if it's there's more of a need if

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Speaker 1: you're in the no camp to express that you don't

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Speaker 1: want to have children than if you're in the yes camp.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Whose responsibility is?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because you do you worry that they might change

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Speaker 3: their minds further down the track? Yeah, the music you

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Speaker 3: never wanted them, but maybe they do.

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Speaker 1: Interesting because and you know what, like you know, majority

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Speaker 1: of people, thanks to the course shy, but majority of

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Speaker 1: people you you'd say, probably want children, probably probably are

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Speaker 4: So I think it's changed a generation to generation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, it's becoming more the norm to not

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Speaker 2: have kids.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, by myself a bit of space there woulds we've

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Speaker 1: got done here on thirty one six five? Don what

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Speaker 1: do you reckon the kid chat? What's too soon?

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Speaker 5: No, we didn't have a chat until a year or

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Speaker 5: two into the relationship. Didn't It didn't matter to us,

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Speaker 5: and all was when we got together. I was twenty

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Speaker 5: four and she was thirty five, and wow, twenty five

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Speaker 5: years later, we're still together, Mary Oh married?

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Speaker 1: No kids?

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Speaker 2: I know kids, you're done?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Did that? So so you and you're okay with that?

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Speaker 1: Don?

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Speaker 2: Like, did you sorry? Was there ever a stage where

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Speaker 2: you wanted kids? No?

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Speaker 5: Definitely not. We just we were in the relationship for

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Speaker 5: a couple of years and then she said, are you

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Speaker 5: gonna are you gonna want them? Down the track? I

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Speaker 5: said no, I don't think so. I don't really care

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Speaker 5: ifout have them or not. I said, do you care?

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Speaker 5: She said no, I don't really care if I have

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Speaker 5: them or not. I said, right, it's for long. If

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Speaker 5: it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't understanding.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, Don, that's lovely. I'm happy for you. You.

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Speaker 1: You absolutely lit Wood his eyes up over there. But unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: unfortunately that doesn't that's not often the case. Like, I

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Speaker 1: think it's remarkable. It's a lovely situation. Did you have

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Speaker 1: a conversation like God, if kids, Pampa, they pop up

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Speaker 1: a little bit like saying yeah, I don't know. Don

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Speaker 1: seems like the most relaxed person in the world. Maybe

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Speaker 1: we could all take a leaf out of his book.

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Speaker 1: But I don't think everybody's in that situation. I think

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Speaker 1: more often than not you'll find that one if one

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Speaker 1: person wants them and doesn't, another person doesn't. That's a

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Speaker 1: huge source of tension.

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Speaker 2: We got Stephie and our Steph. When do you think

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Speaker 2: you should have the chat about whether you want kids?

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Speaker 6: Boys? It's got to be done early, Like I did

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Speaker 6: it on the first date with my now husband.

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Speaker 2: So how did he take it? Steph?

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Speaker 4: You brought it up first date, and it's obviously gone

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Speaker 4: really well given you've brought it up, hasn't it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Well, I mean I just think you've got to get

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Speaker 6: it out of the way. I've got friends that have

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Speaker 6: been burned before by bringing it up later. But you

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Speaker 6: know what, sure or date is lucky because that's when

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Speaker 6: we got pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Oh why jeez, gee, so so super lucky. You had it, Steph.

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Speaker 1: Bit of advice. So Woods has con been on four

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Speaker 1: dates with one particular woman where longer? Joline?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Uh? Woods? Do you want to? I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: let's just pretend I'm Joline. It's fifth date. When when's

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Speaker 1: fifth date?

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Speaker 2: This night?

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Speaker 1: It's tonight?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Huge? Okay, I'm Joline. Hit me. What are you gonna

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Speaker 1: go with?

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Speaker 2: Who's talking about?

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Speaker 1: Like? Just just just throw it at me, Just give me,

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Speaker 1: give me a kitchen.

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Speaker 4: I'll probably just go, Hey, I'm gonna start baking up

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Speaker 4: some eggplant. Do you want some eag plant on your thing?

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Speaker 4: Speaking of if you want things, John kids.

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