Speaker 1: Hello everyone.
Speaker 2: If you couldn't tell by the title and title, it
Speaker 2: is Georgina and Jamie.
Speaker 1: Should we just give it a.
Speaker 2: Little intro on who we are first before we jump
Speaker 2: into the episode.
Speaker 1: I'm Jamie. I'm the brand manager at rn C. Georgina, Hi,
Speaker 1: I am the social media coordinator at R and C.
Speaker 1: But also I'm just like a key player in the team.
Speaker 1: I'm also just that the most valuable for MVP. MVP.
Speaker 2: We are here because we have a really exciting new
Speaker 2: segment for you, which is called The in Between, Navigating
Speaker 2: the in Between, So we are going to be talking
Speaker 2: about all things grief, relationships, friendships, reinventing yourself. Basically, we
Speaker 2: are both in our twenties, we have both moved into
Speaker 2: state to the Gold Coast. We've both navigated very similar
Speaker 2: life challenges such as grief, change of friendships, moving all
Speaker 2: the things.
Speaker 1: Ending our current, finding our purpose.
Speaker 2: So we really just wanted to bring a segment where
Speaker 2: we can talk about a lot of topics that are
Speaker 2: openly asked within our community.
Speaker 1: We see a lot of this in our community. One
Speaker 1: of the biggest questions we get is how do you
Speaker 1: guys make friends? How did you find your job? And
Speaker 1: you guys said that you wanted to hear more from us,
Speaker 1: So here we are. We've delivered it wishes our commands.
Speaker 2: Really, so today we are going to be talking all
Speaker 2: about how to make friends as an adult, probably one
Speaker 2: of the most asked questions that we have, and also
Speaker 2: not only just making friends, but aligned friends. We obviously,
Speaker 2: as I just said, moved into state, so we are
Speaker 2: well versed in this topic.
Speaker 1: Well versed. I feel like this was our first EP
Speaker 1: for a reason. We can both talk about this underwater
Speaker 1: because we've been through it and we moved here and
Speaker 1: had nobody before we get into it and spoil it all.
Speaker 1: But we are going to give you a few tips
Speaker 1: and helpful things on how you can make and find
Speaker 1: a line friendships no matter where you are.
Speaker 2: Yes, and then we're also just going to end the
Speaker 2: episode with a little bit about how to distance yourself
Speaker 2: from toxic or unaligned friends and how to navigate that,
Speaker 2: because I think as you move through different life challenges
Speaker 2: and stages, sometimes that naturally does mean that some of
Speaker 2: your friends don't align where the friends are making you
Speaker 2: feel drained, et cetera. So we're just also going to
Speaker 2: give you some tips and tricks on how to navigate
Speaker 2: that as well.
Speaker 1: Let us get into it first of all, why he
Speaker 1: is making friends as an adult so hard. I feel
Speaker 1: like when you're a kid, you make so many friends.
Speaker 1: You go up to someone on the playground and tell
Speaker 1: them that you're like, they're scrunchy and you're besties. That
Speaker 1: just doesn't really happen anymore being in your twenties. A
Speaker 1: lot of the friendships you had from when you were
Speaker 1: a child and when you're in school, they were all
Speaker 1: based on you went to the same school, you were
Speaker 1: in the same sports club, Like these friends were right
Speaker 1: in front of you, and you kind of had no
Speaker 1: choice but to be friends with these people. Whereas when
Speaker 1: you get older, it's you know, you're selecting people based
Speaker 1: on interests and feelings and conversations you like to have.
Speaker 1: So it can be really hard to find people in
Speaker 1: your space that are on the same wavelength as you.
Speaker 2: And I think it's also people are a lot less
Speaker 2: inclined to just put themselves out there. You have a
Speaker 2: lot more fear around it. You've got to lean into discomfort,
Speaker 2: And I think it's also you've got to be really
Speaker 2: clear on who you are first before you can find
Speaker 2: friends that align with that. So making sure that you're
Speaker 2: not just trying to find people that feel right, but
Speaker 2: really being clear on what.
Speaker 1: That looks like for you. It's fully like dating. Finding
Speaker 1: new friends is like dating because you can get the
Speaker 1: ick from some people, you can leave them feeling different
Speaker 1: ways when you hang out, Like there's so many different
Speaker 1: parts that go into it, and you're pretty much dating.
Speaker 2: I know, remember the first friendship date we had and
Speaker 2: we like drove down to Fingle and sat in the current,
Speaker 2: so like our connection cards, but it was on paper
Speaker 2: still at the time because we were still testing the
Speaker 2: yes the topics and we just sat.
Speaker 1: There and got to know each other.
Speaker 2: That's another really good tip is try and evoke the
Speaker 2: conversations that you want to be having with the people.
Speaker 2: If you're wanting deep conversations with people, don't just plan
Speaker 2: to surface level conversations because you won't get to know.
Speaker 1: If this person is a lined for you or not.
Speaker 1: But also you sometimes you can't go straight in with
Speaker 1: the hard hitting questions, like you can't be on the
Speaker 1: first time you've met them, be like, so tell me
Speaker 1: about you childhood trauma. Like sometimes you go to like.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm like someone who goes real deep, even like
Speaker 2: in a setting where it's probably you know, like we're
Speaker 2: out for dinner or something.
Speaker 1: And he's like, just run the backs and I'm like,
Speaker 1: but I want to know, but I'm all for deep conversations.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like you and I straight away obviously
Speaker 1: we work together and we just ride audience. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: we hit it off and we could sense that we
Speaker 1: both loved deep conversations and had a bit of that
Speaker 1: like you know, depth there that we wanted to explore.
Speaker 1: You know, it's making the other person feel safe to
Speaker 1: be able to open up and have those conversations, you
Speaker 1: being equally vulnerable and being able to share stuff. You've
Speaker 1: got to just kind of sense the energy they're open
Speaker 1: to it, and then create the environment for that to happen.
Speaker 1: A coffee walk is a great way to do that.
Speaker 1: Jim and coffee walk, Gim and coffee wak.
Speaker 2: I mean, if you don't like gym and you don't
Speaker 2: like coffee and you don't like walking, probably not, but
Speaker 2: we do.
Speaker 1: So how we do so that to our day.
Speaker 2: So should we get into our top tips on how
Speaker 2: to actually make friends as an adult?
Speaker 1: Give the people what they want?
Speaker 2: Yes, My first tip is be open to it, but
Speaker 2: also put yourself in situations where you are going to
Speaker 2: make connections with people. Don't just wait for someone to
Speaker 2: come up to you and spark a conversation. If you
Speaker 2: want to make friends with people, you're going to have
Speaker 2: to lean into the discomfort. You're going to have to
Speaker 2: spark conversations, See how the interests aligned, see how you vibe.
Speaker 2: Because I think a lot of people like, oh, I
Speaker 2: can't meet anyone, but then when they're at gym, they're
Speaker 2: not talking to anyone, or when they go out, they're
Speaker 2: not talking to anyone new. And if you're doing that,
Speaker 2: you're probably not going to meet anyone new. So really
Speaker 2: putting yourself in situations where you will make those connections
Speaker 2: and you will find friends and figure out who aligns
Speaker 2: with you and who doesn't, rather than just waiting for
Speaker 2: people to come up to you and start a conversation.
Speaker 1: Because you're gonna have slim picks if you do that,
Speaker 1: slympic and slimlymp like it's but also being comfortable that
Speaker 1: it's going to be uncomfortable because it's like dating, it's
Speaker 1: going to be awkward, like it's going to be it's
Speaker 1: going to push out of your comfort zone. You might
Speaker 1: feel a little bit like scared or nervous, but when
Speaker 1: you do something like that, when you're a bit uncomfortable
Speaker 1: and on the other side, it's really rewarding. You always
Speaker 1: feel so good, Like even at a few social events
Speaker 1: we've been to, or even our Rise or Rise and
Speaker 1: Conquer community events, like when someone comes up to you
Speaker 1: and they're like hi, and then you just start chatting
Speaker 1: and you're like instantly besties and you feel so confident
Speaker 1: and like good around each other. Yeah, go home on
Speaker 1: a little high. Yeah, it's such a nice feeling. So yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I agree. I definitely think you need to kind of
Speaker 1: set an intention to be uncomfortable and get ready to
Speaker 1: put yourself out.
Speaker 2: There, and also like be open to where you might
Speaker 2: meet those people. Like shout out Kayla, our beautiful eyebrow lady.
Speaker 2: We met her through getting our eyebrows done and we
Speaker 2: just hit it off and we were so open to
Speaker 2: making friends and we formed such a beautiful connection which
Speaker 2: has now grown into such a good friendship. So like,
Speaker 2: don't be shut off to where you might meet those
Speaker 2: friends or meet those people as well, and don't put
Speaker 2: any expectations on it because the best friendships come from
Speaker 2: the natural occurrences.
Speaker 1: Yes, which kind of leads into what I was going
Speaker 1: to say about being yourself from the beginning, because I know,
Speaker 1: you know, like when Jamie and I both moved to
Speaker 1: the Gold Coast having not really any friends here and
Speaker 1: no one here, and know you hear about like the
Speaker 1: run clubs and like all these different things, which it
Speaker 1: can be so good to put yourself in those environments,
Speaker 1: yourself out there. But if that's not aligned with you,
Speaker 1: if you actually don't like running and you've got bad knees,
Speaker 1: don't go to a run club to make best because
Speaker 1: they're all going to want to run all the time
Speaker 1: and it's not you. So be yourself from the beginning,
Speaker 1: so you don't have to keep holding up a facade
Speaker 1: or do things that you don't like do activities. Go
Speaker 1: to environments that align with you and who you are,
Speaker 1: and that's where you'll be best friends.
Speaker 2: Or even if you're like only going out to meet
Speaker 2: people at bars and you don't like staying up late
Speaker 2: or drinking, probably don't go there. So making sure where
Speaker 2: you're going is aligned to the people that you want
Speaker 2: to find.
Speaker 1: Hey, what is some good places that you'd go to
Speaker 1: make friends.
Speaker 2: Well, for me personally, because I love gym and pilates
Speaker 2: and those sorts of things, I think they're great places
Speaker 2: to make friends.
Speaker 1: And also I know there's a lot of.
Speaker 2: I haven't personally doubled in this, but there's a lot
Speaker 2: of wholesome events like especially on the Gold Coast that
Speaker 2: are being run these days, or for example, the end
Speaker 2: of last year, I went to one of Grace's events
Speaker 2: and it was all business owners, So then you meet
Speaker 2: a lie of people aligned to your interest within those events.
Speaker 2: So also investing in things like that where it's people
Speaker 2: who are on a similar journey as I think that's
Speaker 2: a big thing, is people who are aligned to the
Speaker 2: journey that you're on and where you are going and
Speaker 2: where you want to go, and finding inspiration within those
Speaker 2: people as well who are going to lift you up
Speaker 2: and kind of help you along in that way. Because
Speaker 2: it's also you want to have friends around you who
Speaker 2: will match your vibe and your energy and also support
Speaker 2: you in the journey that you want to take in life,
Speaker 2: because it can be really hard if you're around people
Speaker 2: who have very different interests or they're not really going
Speaker 2: in the same direction as you and then you're just
Speaker 2: feeling underligned.
Speaker 1: Yeah, which will probably get into more later when we
Speaker 1: speak about how to remove yourself from toxic friendships. Them
Speaker 1: out of here, get them out of get them out
Speaker 1: of here. That's a great point. Thank you. Totally not
Speaker 1: what I was just going to say, because I got
Speaker 1: going out on the doctic friendship. Yeah. I think there's
Speaker 1: lots of networking events, lots of things that you could
Speaker 1: go to and try again. Obviously it's uncomfortable, but it
Speaker 1: would be so worth it, and lots of people go
Speaker 1: to those things alone. Like you'd be surprised, you know,
Speaker 1: like dating, you could be like, oh, is there anyone
Speaker 1: even out there that is my match or is compatible
Speaker 1: with me? There definitely is. There's lots of people in
Speaker 1: the same boat. We know because we get the community
Speaker 1: messages of all the girlies and people when you come
Speaker 1: to our events. Yeah. Yeah, Like I really just wanted
Speaker 1: to meet some friends and they're definitely out there. The
Speaker 1: hope is not gold. There's plenty of friends fiction to see.
Speaker 1: You know. What else I have heard is really good.
Speaker 2: Never tried it for myself, so don't take my word
Speaker 2: for it, but Bumble has a friendship section where you
Speaker 2: can go and match with people exactly like dating that
Speaker 2: want to be friends. I've heard of people around the
Speaker 2: Gold Coast who had just moved here fresh and were
Speaker 2: struggling to make friends and then they've got a group
Speaker 2: of best friends they met on bumble.
Speaker 1: Now, well it makes sense. And even I've had like
Speaker 1: a couple of girlies from our community message to me,
Speaker 1: but hey, maybe to the Gold Coast like would love
Speaker 1: to go for a coffee walk or whatever, which I'd
Speaker 1: be so down for. I feel like a lot of
Speaker 1: people would be. That's why our community. I don't have
Speaker 1: a whole lot of time, so maybe not, but I
Speaker 1: feel like that's why our community is so great. We
Speaker 1: have a lot of people in there, so if you know,
Speaker 1: a great space would be our communities, our Facebook group
Speaker 1: or even rise Society.
Speaker 2: We are actually looking at doing more event meetups throughout
Speaker 2: the year in different locations so that people can meet
Speaker 2: aligned friends because our community is just wanting to meet
Speaker 2: people who are into self growth and personal development and
Speaker 2: manifestation and be able to have conversations with people that
Speaker 2: they're actually interested in having. So we are looking at
Speaker 2: doing more meetups this year. Yeah, let us know what
Speaker 2: cities you'd like us to come to.
Speaker 1: Let us know. Preferably do some cities outside of the
Speaker 1: Gold Coast so Jamie and I can get a free
Speaker 1: dress perfectly. Do some cities in Europe, so I think Italy.
Speaker 1: We'd love to hang.
Speaker 2: Out specifically in first class anyhow air hostess. So yeah,
Speaker 2: they would be my place, as we went off with
Speaker 2: a tangent there, But gyms and kind of events where
Speaker 2: you're going to meet people, where would be your places?
Speaker 1: I would probably go to like a sweet little bath house, silent,
Speaker 1: like a social bath house, or even like this beautiful
Speaker 1: cafe that I go to in crumb And Valley that
Speaker 1: has a nice view and a lot of people go
Speaker 1: there by themselves and like read and like get a
Speaker 1: cup of cacao or something like that would be really
Speaker 1: cute across the yeah, and be like what are you
Speaker 1: working on? And I wouldn't do that. But have you
Speaker 1: ever starked a conversation? Then yeah, I'm I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm pretty. I've heard you're quite the quite the social butterfly,
Speaker 1: the socially style. I like to make friends wherever I go,
Speaker 1: but then don't have time to see them. Sorry, I'll
Speaker 1: make friends with you. Please don't want to hang out
Speaker 1: with me. No, I can't even reply to know. But
Speaker 1: I have time for everybody. But I feel like it
Speaker 1: was a really great experience for me moving here and
Speaker 1: not really having anybody because it proved to me. And
Speaker 1: I know this sounds really silly, but I'm an interesting
Speaker 1: of enough person that I can make a lot of
Speaker 1: friends And it's actually not that hard, Like once you
Speaker 1: get over all the limiting beliefs and you know, being
Speaker 1: scared and fearful of rejection or whatnot, when you do it,
Speaker 1: you feel so good and you're like, wow, I can
Speaker 1: make friends.
Speaker 2: Ooh, I'm actually pretty cool people like me. Yeah, don't
Speaker 2: you think when you moved you kind of discovered who
Speaker 2: you actually were because there was no preconceived ideas of
Speaker 2: who you were. You got to fully just step into
Speaker 2: who you were and discover that so then you could
Speaker 2: make those connections super aligned to who you were.
Speaker 1: Yeah, finding friendships in inspiring places like with work, because
Speaker 1: you are, you know, the average of the five people
Speaker 1: that you hang around most great decision getting some inspiring
Speaker 1: expensive friends because I feel like it's really expensive friends.
Speaker 1: I have some great idea getting some rich friends. That's
Speaker 1: a great idea too, though, expansive friends, because I feel
Speaker 1: like it's not only benefited me in terms of like friendships,
Speaker 1: but also my mindset, my life, you know, like how
Speaker 1: I feel. So I think that's a hot tip. Get
Speaker 1: a job in a really fun office. Yeah. No, I
Speaker 1: think we're really lucky to with who we work with.
Speaker 1: We are very you would be. We're blessed. We're just
Speaker 1: such great people.
Speaker 2: A big team of us, you know, everyone that we
Speaker 2: work with. We have such aligned people. We surround our
Speaker 2: community like we have.
Speaker 1: I feel like, even though we're not like physically in
Speaker 1: person hanging out all the time, it's the energy you're
Speaker 1: surrounded with, theirs, their best, the communities you hang out with.
Speaker 1: It's even like the content you consume in certain communities,
Speaker 1: Like it's all of that and the support and the
Speaker 1: women or men you have around you makes the difference,
Speaker 1: makes such a big difference.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're are top hot tips to making friends with
Speaker 2: an adult. Now let's get into how to sever I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna say sever that's a bit.
Speaker 1: People.
Speaker 2: How to deal with people who are unaligned or toxic
Speaker 2: friendships in the way that it feels draining, you don't
Speaker 2: feel like you can be yourself. There's a lot of drama,
Speaker 2: those sorts of things. I think this is also such
Speaker 2: an important part of then stepping into making friends with
Speaker 2: aligned people, because if you're stuck in unaligned friendships, you
Speaker 2: don't really have space to make aligned friends. So how
Speaker 2: you can kind of navigate that, what that looks like,
Speaker 2: what kind of unaligned and toxic friendships feel like as well?
Speaker 2: So I think the first thing is if some real
Speaker 2: telltale signs if you are kind of in an unaligned
Speaker 2: or toxic friendship is leaving a conversation or a catch
Speaker 2: up and feeling drained or anxious and overthinking everything.
Speaker 1: That you said. It's the worst, that's the worst. That's horrible. No,
Speaker 1: that's just not for me, No, it's not. And like
Speaker 1: just feeling you've had the life sucked out of you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or like you constantly tiptoeing around them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the worst. If you're like, oh, I can't
Speaker 1: say that or wear that, I'll do that because they'll
Speaker 1: be angry or you'll be this like making yourself less,
Speaker 1: shiny or small for anyone else. I've actually this is
Speaker 1: dimming yourself. That's a big one crazy, but I've been
Speaker 1: I'm currently watching Gossip Girl for like the fourth time
Speaker 1: in my life. Honestly, the best show to read, the
Speaker 1: best show. And also my boyfriend David is obsessed with it.
Speaker 1: It's hilarious. That's very it's very deaf coded boyfriends. Also
Speaker 1: my bestie, one of the girls, one of the girls.
Speaker 1: We just watched the episode where Serena was like doing
Speaker 1: this fashion show and Blair like trying to stich he
Speaker 1: remember the one and she literally one of her friends
Speaker 1: said to Serena, stop like dulling yourself down for Blair.
Speaker 1: If she was your true friend, she'd want you to
Speaker 1: shine and she'd want to support you and just sher
Speaker 1: life motto there, good job Gossip Girl is so educational.
Speaker 1: Good job Gossip Girl life mottos from Gossip Girl. Yes,
Speaker 1: I think that's a big one. If you feel like
Speaker 1: you can't be yourself, there's a lot of drama. You
Speaker 1: feel like there's a lot of gossip or bitching.
Speaker 2: Competitiveness too, yeah, call jealousness, or you feel like you
Speaker 2: can't share your wins because they'll be like jealous or envious.
Speaker 1: Icky.
Speaker 2: You want people to bring you up, support you, like
Speaker 2: a really healthy friendship are ones that make you feel seen, supported, heard,
Speaker 2: cheer you on, Like all of my best friends feel
Speaker 2: like my biggest cheerleaders.
Speaker 1: Nobody's got time to feel like that anymore. Hey, Like
Speaker 1: we're adults now, we're not in high school. Nobody wants
Speaker 1: to feel jealous or competitive or like roast by friends. No,
Speaker 1: we're not here for that anymore.
Speaker 2: No, So, if you are navigating that, there's obviously a
Speaker 2: few ways you can go about it.
Speaker 1: One of those ways.
Speaker 2: Is distancing yourself and focusing on other places. Obviously what
Speaker 2: you focus on expands. It depends how you kind of
Speaker 2: want to go about it. And if you feel like
Speaker 2: it needs to be a friendship breakup or it just
Speaker 2: feels like it's going to naturally fade.
Speaker 1: Out, would you say a slow fade? A slow fade.
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it needs to be like, hey,
Speaker 1: we're breaking up to it and I can never see
Speaker 1: you again.
Speaker 2: You can like, your energy is yours and only you
Speaker 2: can control where it goes. So really figuring out where
Speaker 2: you want to put that energy, and if you keep
Speaker 2: trying to make these people feel better or like you more,
Speaker 2: or you know, trying to tiptoe around them, and make
Speaker 2: them really happy. Maybe just redirect your energy and focus
Speaker 2: on places where you're feeling.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like pull away for a while, put in
Speaker 1: less effort and see how you feel. If you notice
Speaker 1: yourself since not seeing them for a few weeks, you
Speaker 1: feel less nervous or anxious or whatever it is. I mean,
Speaker 1: there is your evidence that you need to continue on
Speaker 1: with that. And I think also another one is if
Speaker 1: you start pulling back and stop putting in so much
Speaker 1: effort and you don't see each other, Yeah, well there's
Speaker 1: your sign. That there's your sign. One of my friends,
Speaker 1: Jackie and I we used to have this saying with boys.
Speaker 1: Actually we developed it when we were in our boy
Speaker 1: dating era when we were younger, and we call it
Speaker 1: dot fo and it's dropped off the face of the Oh, yes.
Speaker 2: I've had this one. I remember you tried to bring
Speaker 2: it into the office that I said, it doesn't need
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 1: Here, get rid of it. I still use it in
Speaker 1: common language.
Speaker 2: I know it rolls off your vote. It's great, but
Speaker 2: I hated titter for at the start. And now yeah,
Speaker 2: so we're really segueing, but is taking it too far?
Speaker 2: I love a good What do you call these acronyms.
Speaker 2: I love a good acronym. Often try and bring them
Speaker 2: in from my past life and Jenny rejects them. Anyway,
Speaker 2: I have a point, just feels unnecessary.
Speaker 1: They had a bit of fun and I would love it.
Speaker 1: So dot vote drop from the face of the earth.
Speaker 1: If you put in less effort and they dot vote
Speaker 1: or you said yeah, if you put in less effort, sorry,
Speaker 1: looks at you for confliments. Ye, like I should know.
Speaker 1: So if you put in less effort and they drop
Speaker 1: off the face of the earth, you don't hear from them.
Speaker 1: I mean, like it's one one sided friendship. You need that.
Speaker 2: And it feels like almost a lot of the time
Speaker 2: those kinds of frien chips are like that, and there's
Speaker 2: one person feeling unaligned in the friendship, but they're the
Speaker 2: ones making.
Speaker 1: All the efforts.
Speaker 2: Like eight times out of ten, yeah, and you're just
Speaker 2: trying out of ten, what's to do that?
Speaker 1: I just the room, pol the room. It's eighty percent.
Speaker 2: I was gonna say nine times out of ten, but
Speaker 2: I was like, I can think there might be two people.
Speaker 1: Out of ten, like six it will be like that.
Speaker 2: So I think just sometimes you can just redirect your energy.
Speaker 1: You definitely can.
Speaker 2: But let's go into friendship breakups tough one. If you
Speaker 2: are feeling like a friendship doesn't align and this does happen,
Speaker 2: it does happen where you get to a point where
Speaker 2: you're like, I just need space, this doesn't feel right,
Speaker 2: just like you would with a partner, and you are
Speaker 2: then do that with friendships. Here is your permission slip.
Speaker 2: So we wanted to give you some ways to frame
Speaker 2: that or go about it so that if you are
Speaker 2: navigating something like that, you've got the AMMO.
Speaker 1: Tell me if you were going to break up with me,
Speaker 1: which you never would, what actually something we're prepared only
Speaker 1: at What would you say to me? How would you
Speaker 1: say it?
Speaker 2: I would probably just be like, I'd love you so much,
Speaker 2: thank you so much for the friendship, but I feel
Speaker 2: like we're going on different paths and maybe our futures
Speaker 2: aren't aligning as much as our past has. Thank you
Speaker 2: so much for everything. I'm leaving.
Speaker 1: No, but just you know, like it doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be like aggressive or bitchy. It can be like, you know,
Speaker 1: I value the time we've had together in our lives
Speaker 1: and the friendship and your support. I just really feel like,
Speaker 1: I'm you know, going on a different path and I'm
Speaker 1: being really cautious with my energy and who's in my circle,
Speaker 1: and I just like we're in different stages right now.
Speaker 2: Well, even if it's just more so you need to
Speaker 2: step back because you're putting a lot of energy into
Speaker 2: someone who doesn't feel aligned. It can just be you know,
Speaker 2: I'm going to focus on me. I'm taking a step back.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for being you. Like, if you
Speaker 2: really need anything, I'm here.
Speaker 1: And you can always set intentions and expectations and be like, hey,
Speaker 1: I just want to let you know I'm actually not
Speaker 1: as available to hang out anymore. You know, if you
Speaker 1: wanted to, not like cold Turkey, you can always communicate.
Speaker 1: I think the communication is such a big thing, and
Speaker 1: be like, I've just been feeling a little bit like this.
Speaker 1: I'm actually you know, quite busy. I don't have a
Speaker 1: whole lot of time at the moment. I want to
Speaker 1: be really careful with my energy. So I've decided that
Speaker 1: i just can't really hang out as much anymore. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to be focusing on me for a
Speaker 1: little bit. Communicate, set intentions because yeah.
Speaker 2: I think it's like also people deserve that communication. If
Speaker 2: you just kind of if it's someone you're really close
Speaker 2: with and talking to a lot, and you just pull
Speaker 2: away and give them no expectations, they're going to be
Speaker 2: left wondering what they've done, and it's better to just
Speaker 2: check in with them and be like, hey, I'm just
Speaker 2: focusing on me right now.
Speaker 1: I'm going to be less available. Love you, love you,
Speaker 1: love you. You can do it with grace. I feel
Speaker 1: like you can any compassion. Yeah, you can break up
Speaker 1: a friendship with grace because it's also you don't know
Speaker 1: where they are or what they're thinking. Oh that's the
Speaker 1: you know, two people in a friendship. So we're just
Speaker 1: all about the compassion and kindness, all about the open communication.
Speaker 2: Well, I think that just about wraps up the episode
Speaker 2: for today. We hope that that was helpful. We know
Speaker 2: we get a lot of questions about that. So thank
Speaker 2: you so much for tuning in, Thanks for listening to
Speaker 2: a little old GG and JJ and JJ. We will
Speaker 2: be back in your ear in your ear holes, so
Speaker 2: stay tuned for the next episode. We're going to be
Speaker 2: talking all about reinventing yourself, the rebrand, the rebrand, how
Speaker 2: to change your life and yourself.
Speaker 1: Based off the fact that we both again moved away away,
Speaker 1: whole new jobs, whole new lives, and we just thought
Speaker 1: we often get questions, so we're going to take you
Speaker 1: through that whole process. But also if you have any
Speaker 1: other topics requests that you want to hear us chit
Speaker 1: chatty about, please let us know.
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Speaker 2: know because we created this segment for you guys to
Speaker 2: chat about the things that you guys want to know
Speaker 2: more about. But we will chat to you in our
Speaker 2: next episode. We won't be the next episode, but our
Speaker 2: next episode.
Speaker 1: If we keep going this way and you guys love it,
Speaker 1: we'll probably just kick out and we might take over.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you so much, guys, have the
Speaker 1: best rest of your day. Should we have like a
Speaker 1: cute sign off? Should we l? What? Three? Two? Bye?
Speaker 1: Bye bye