WEBVTT - Does Knocking Give You Permission To Enter? 🚪 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.840 The flex in Rooms Daily podcast. 0:00:06.000 --> 0:00:07.119 Look to the podcast. 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:11.280 Flexi, yet again is jumping onto the soap box to 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:14.840 absolutely slay your ears with something irritating. 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:21.440 I'm rantant again, but this rant would not have happened 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:24.000 if we all agreed that to be nice is the 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:29.080 bare minimum. And also, you've mentioned before how you hate 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:31.600 the idea of policing people telling people what to do. 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:33.360 I actually don't mind it, but. 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:38.440 You thrive on it. I'd say, like yeast and bacteria, 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:39.440 but only. 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:42.080 Because I just feel like I would prefer that to 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:45.040 be direction than no direction at all. And I do 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:47.639 respect that with every new interaction, you have to set 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:50.240 a new standard. What was appropriate yesterday might not be 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:53.480 appropriate today. And that's what I'm finding with this real 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:58.440 estate issue. Is it a blunder? Is it a two 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:01.000 time irritation or is it a standard we're setting where 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:04.039 men can just walk into my house with no consequence? 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:04.640 I think not. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.360 And you know what, flex, Everybody's going to listen to 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:09.920 the podcast next week because I have it on good 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:13.080 authority that we're gonna get a really stat agent into 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:13.520 the studio. 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:19.039 Ooh yeah, anyway, off your pop you going to fight me? 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:23.600 I was saying that I don't know what this behavior 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:26.840 is classed as, but this incident with the people walking 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:30.240 into my house, I'm quick to report like I'm going 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:32.440 back to the real estate and being like this random 0:01:32.480 --> 0:01:35.760 person walked into my house. Hated it, very uncomfortable. But 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.360 I think the thing that really sends people over the 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:41.559 edge is that when they're in the house, I'm still 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:44.360 being polite, so like they're thinking they're getting away with 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:46.080 them and they're like, oh, you know, I'm so sorry. 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:48.480 I'm like, no, it's totally fine. Then you snitch. Can 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:50.680 I snitch hit them with the one too? 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:52.240 I hate that. 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:54.920 I hate you think you're getting away with something. You're 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:55.920 getting through the red light. 0:01:56.280 --> 0:02:01.480 You get little call for your boss. Hey mate, Oh yeah, 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:08.720 I do it again. Let's get into it. 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:11.280 Flex and frooms FLEXI. 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:15.200 The other day, I popped my live show, Cherry. I 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:17.160 made my very own live show. 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:18.600 Which is huge. Congrat space. 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:19.440 Thanks honey. 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:21.960 It's weird when you do something in your career that 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:25.480 is like a stepping stone. It doesn't feel big at 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:28.880 the time, but this was big for me because it's like, 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:31.919 I love doing performing. This show is a bit of 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.799 a performance, but actually striking out and doing something live 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:39.120 in front of people with a live audience is no racking. 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.800 What was a crowd like, wellly twenties, late twenties. 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.160 There was actually a mix because it was part of 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:48.240 a festival at Hotter, which is home of the arts 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:50.560 in the Gold Coast. So I was looking on the crowd. 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:53.920 The vibe was sleepover. So essentially my shows. 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:57.359 You had a little monogrammed, embossed. 0:02:57.200 --> 0:03:00.400 Embossed little robe saying ceo fruit is. 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:03.480 It monogram the word embroidered, embroidered. 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:07.000 All caps cursive or caps cursive, CEO frooms on my 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:10.799 back and yeah, it was called Bestie. So it was 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.600 a show with my friend Louis Hansen, and it was 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:16.640 kind of like a bestie sleepover early two thousand and five. 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:18.880 So the way we did the show, as you say, 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:23.880 two ky, the show was basically like a one hour thing. 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:25.520 We'd get we'll get up. 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:28.000 We made a little song intro that we came. We 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:30.520 told each other a secret that we hadn't told anyone before, 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:32.760 and then we did petty tea where people would send 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:35.840 in the most petty things ever done. And I shared 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:37.680 my dad's petty tea and I'm going to. 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:38.240 Tell you about that. 0:03:38.400 --> 0:03:40.960 Yeah, I've been giving the ex boyfriends a lot of 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:44.000 airtime in the past few weeks. And it's not because 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:45.400 I think about them all the time. I just it's 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:46.120 interesting content. 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:51.160 Yeah, it's contextual. It happens. I can't relate, but it 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:52.080 can be avoided. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:54.400 Well. 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.680 My dad is an interesting character, good for certain things. 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.960 When it comes to telling a story in a high 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:04.080 stress environment that's like a live environment. 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:04.880 He's quite good at it. 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:06.640 Like I used to do live dates, he'd come on, 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:10.520 be witty and be weird in the right way. And 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:13.080 basically he told a story about I had an ex 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:15.800 boyfriend once that had broken up with me and my. 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:20.800 Dad literally, what are you thinking? What are you thinking? 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.240 My dad was driving around in his tow truck because 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:27.039 he's a car dealer with one of his employees, and 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:29.520 they're scooting along the road and he spots my ex 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:32.920 boyfriend we've been broken up for a month, and Dad 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:36.680 parks the car, gets out of the car, sees the 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:39.920 ex boyfriend walk into a milk bar. Dad walks into 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:44.480 the milk bar, standing behind my ex boyfriend. The ex 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:48.240 boyfriend turns around and sees him and goes ah Steve, 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:54.200 and Dad's standing there saying hey, go and Xyz then 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.040 walks out of the shop with him. So the ex 0:04:57.080 --> 0:05:01.080 boyfriend's like, did you buy anything, because he's obviously thinking 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:03.440 Dad's gone in to buy something. No, he just went 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:07.640 in to intimidate and scare on your behalf. 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:08.839 Yeah, and then left. 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.680 Sweet and his friend was like, why did you go 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:14.600 in there? You didn't bring me back any snacks. Dad said, nap, 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:15.159 I had a job. 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:21.360 It's an employer a friend. Yeah, this is true. 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:23.800 I feel like you've played I always do at up. 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:28.400 I'm sorry, but yes, I talked about that on the 0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:30.440 show and that went down quite nicely with the audience. 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:32.960 I would say it was a very positive experience having 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:35.520 a live show. I loved it and I look forward 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:36.360 to doing many more. 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:39.440 What was the worst part of the whole experience, need 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:40.200 light and shade. 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:43.800 Probably knowing how to wrap it up like the worst part, Yeah, 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:46.240 because it was a very loose show, so knowing how 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.800 to exit the stage when it's like quite a small 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:53.479 intimate crowd felt weird. It was like, I don't know 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:55.080 how to say barter people in real life. 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.200 Well as you've taught us, you say, oh my God, 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.440 I'm obsessed. Okay, God bless you by haha. 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:02.839 You taught us that, so I kind of did like 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:04.480 a dancing interprety vibe of that. 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:07.400 So if you're there and you're. 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:09.320 Watching it, it'll be better next time. 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:12.200 But otherwise it was a slagh. 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:14.120 In that moment, You're like, I'm just gonna dance off. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.320 That'd be the most appropriate. Nobody thinks like you. It's incredible. 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:20.840 Instincts do not exist in the frim averse. You heard 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:22.520 it hear first. Yeah, that sounds incredible. 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:24.280 I want to go next time, but not going to 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:26.760 go to Gold Coasts or your Sydney show. Yeah, something 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:28.200 like cute pull you. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:29.559 Up onto the stage for a little cameo. 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:31.440 No, I would have prefer to just point at me 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:34.920 very regularly, just reference me in jokes and conversations. 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:37.919 This is flex and frooms on DA. 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:41.080 If you've ever had the urge to pack up your life, 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:44.360 disappear into the night and start afresh and talking new name, 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:49.000 new look, new location, there is a whole company for you. 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.520 And this goes back to my point. There's so much 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:54.640 stuff in the world, so many services, and yet these 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:56.760 are the ones I want to see more of. These 0:06:56.880 --> 0:07:01.000 ones that tackle very unique problems that actually affect more 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:04.200 of the population than you think. So if this resonates 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.680 with you, I need you to go to Google or 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.600 actually whatever browser user. If you pop an up ekosa, 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:17.040 does being still exist? Yahoo? Las, look up Night Moving companies. 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:20.800 They help you one hundred disappear, start a new life, 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:23.480 and take care of all the logistics like creating a 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:27.120 new identity and background, social circle, and even give you 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:30.240 a secret place to hide and move your stuff all confidentially. 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:34.360 They're mostly popular in Japan, but they are allegedly coming 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:38.160 to North America and Europe slowly. Obviously, I'm gonna say 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:40.720 this is not for everyone's tax bracket. This you feel 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:44.080 like a very premium service, and I'm not really sure 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:46.680 it's for you know, the casual. I don't want to 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:50.120 be perceived anymore, so I'm going on private Instagram vibe. 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:52.280 I think it's more dire than that, but it's good 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:54.440 to know that the option exists. 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:57.000 Right, And is it for people who've done crimes? 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:02.720 Mind your business? Like, do they have to work for 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:04.680 the cops all of a sudden, have they done a crime? 0:08:07.040 --> 0:08:08.840 I'm calling the authorities? 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:12.440 Love it could be for anyone. I'm sure it's a 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:15.200 ton of things, and I think with enough with If 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:17.480 your problems are big enough and your budget is big enough, 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:18.920 then this service is for you. It doesn't matter what 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:19.440 you've done. 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:23.720 And how do they do it all of a nighttime. 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:27.560 Baite, you're asking too many questions for a confidential service. Okay, 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:31.880 if you want to email them for a quote during 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:34.000 your personal experience, you can do so. 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:37.120 Tricking they exist in Australia. No, I don't like it. 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:44.080 What I don't like shifty people be real, don't don't 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:46.080 tell lies or deceit. 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:49.360 I for one stand shifty people gotta do what you 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:51.880 gotta do. You're a shifty queen. 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:54.400 This is flex and Frooms. 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:58.240 I will never stop talking about how I am a 0:08:58.360 --> 0:09:02.720 Karen again. It's self protection mechanism for whenever I'm called 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:05.720 out doing something Karen esque. You can't be like she 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.319 was a Karen all along, because I'm owning it quite 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:09.920 like I'm owning selling out. 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:14.000 Do you think that people who are aware of who 0:09:14.080 --> 0:09:16.800 you are, like Frooms but not from radio, know that 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:20.000 you're a Karen. Does your Instagram audience and you're a Karen. 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:23.680 No, but we're cultivating a new audience on kit I'm 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:26.280 going through a bit of a rebrand in some. 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:27.960 Respects, more Karen, less creative. 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:28.679 Yeah, that's it. 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:32.679 I went on a plane a few weekends ago, which 0:09:33.080 --> 0:09:34.680 you know is a bit of a trigger zone for me. 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.440 The plane is where the Karen's what's the male Karen? 0:09:38.600 --> 0:09:44.079 Greg, Steve Greg, Steve, Craig, male Karen. 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:45.400 It's Karen and Craig. 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:50.080 I don't know anyone. People can't seem to agree on 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:52.520 the male version of a Karen, so it's still, of. 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:56.400 Course they can't. I'm gonna call him Craig. When you're 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:59.920 in an airport, it's a very fraught environment. I had 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:03.280 an almost Karen experience coming home from the Gold Coast. 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:05.200 It's just sprang into my mind right. 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:06.720 At this point. 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:09.120 I was going to tell you about how on the 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:12.640 plane I kept myself with the arm rest. I deliberately 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:17.840 choose an F seat so I'm not having to commandeer both. 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:19.120 Arms with rests. 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:22.080 However, coming back from the Gold Coast, I was tested 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:26.920 walking through the terminal clippity clop, going through the what's 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:30.319 called when you go through the scanner security screenner. Walking 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:34.240 through the security screening section, I approached the man. 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:35.480 This is Gold Coast Airport. 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:38.000 So they've got like the like baskets that you put 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.480 your stuff in underneath and you pull them out and 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:42.280 put them on top. I go to pull mine out. 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:43.920 My hands are full. I got two bags. I got 0:10:43.960 --> 0:10:48.480 a coffee. He's like, what's inside that coffee cup? 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:49.760 An employee? 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:55.559 Yeah, I said coffee. He said, you know, drink literally 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:59.520 a you can drink it now. And I said, He's like, 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:01.920 is it full? And I was like yes. He's like, 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:05.880 we can't take it, so you can't. Yeah, you better 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:10.240 drink it right now. And I said, okay, well I'm 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:11.480 not going to drink it right now. Do you have 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:13.439 a bin? It's like, no, I'm not putting that in 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:16.520 my bin. There's a bin over there. Leave the line, 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:20.840 trot around, get back in line. That was Karen on 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:23.959 his behalf, but I was matched with an opposite Karen, and. 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.480 I realized, mat just romantic. This is awful. 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:28.600 I don't want anyone to be on the receiving end 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:29.520 of my Karen. 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:31.800 What do you think made you feel worse about it? 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.400 The fact that he was telling you to do something 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:40.360 you didn't want to do, or like his supposed attitude. 0:11:40.920 --> 0:11:43.400 It was probably his tone because if you just said 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:46.199 oh no, sorry, you didn't even actually have to apologize, 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:47.960 you'd be like, oh, you're not allowed to do that. 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.199 But there's a bin over there if you just want 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:52.000 to pop over. But he's like, you're gonna drink her. 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:56.520 He had Karen style attitude. So I thought, I'm not 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:58.800 going to try and deem myself because he's not my people. 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.079 So I got back in the line and I went 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:04.800 down to the other lady, and I came to her humbled, 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:08.760 and it was a nice stat A humbling experience, isn't it? 0:12:08.800 --> 0:12:11.360 And good to learn that being a Karen makes other 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:15.079 people feel bad. So to that man, I'm going to 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:16.720 tell you to adjust your tones. It's been a really 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:20.080 hard time for the travel industry. It's very stressful. But 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:21.840 did you need to make me feel so small with 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:23.080 my little coffee in hand? 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:27.120 Now, let us cast our minds back to when you 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:32.240 were beefing with your fellow passengers on the flight. 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:33.960 Oh, I can't even think about it. 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:36.640 Now, you in the middle seat, fighting people for the 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:39.960 arm rest, exciting for my life, that's my arm rest. 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:45.960 I'm sorry. Guys in his group chat fighting for his life, 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:48.000 be like, why am I sat next to this woman 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:50.959 who wants to fight me about a communal arm rest? 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:53.400 It's not communal, but I digress. 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.440 Thank you for sharing that. Always appreciate you incriminating yourself 0:12:57.480 --> 0:12:59.000 for the entertainment of me. 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:01.720 That's okay. I'm just learning. I'm just learning to be humbled. 0:13:01.760 --> 0:13:05.160 It's quite nice you're listening to flex and frooms on Kada. 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:08.599 I'm putting on a brave face and behind this beautiful 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:13.720 smile and perfectly hurled ponytail, you would not know that 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.040 I was going through personal. 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:16.440 Trials and tribulations. What's going on? 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:19.040 Four weeks now, I've been having a bit of a 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:24.079 one sided beef with my real estate agent. I guess 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:26.600 it's not really one sided in the sense that I've 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:29.800 been very active in my disappointment with how things have 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:35.200 been going promised renovations. The carpets need to be ripped 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:38.880 up and replaced. The dimmers don't work. But in addition 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:42.040 to that, there have been like various leaks due to 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:45.760 the flooding, things that can't be controlled, but definitely fixed 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:48.680 or addressed sooner than later, so they don't, you know, 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.880 get worse before we address them again. But the issue 0:13:51.920 --> 0:13:56.760 is that on two occasions now, some random builders have 0:13:56.880 --> 0:13:59.880 just let themselves into my apartment and you might be thinking, 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:03.720 why is your door unlocked? On both occasions, I'm currently 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:06.440 moving in, so I'm like taking things out of the 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:09.840 house going in, and the entrance to my door is 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.840 separate from the rest of the apartment. It's my own entrance. 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:16.000 Therefore I'm the only one who can get in and 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:18.840 out from there. So it's the same thing people like. 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.880 I hear them knock, knock, knock, knock, knock and then 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:27.560 let themselves in. Here's my thing, aside from the fact 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:31.720 that that it's not allowed. I had to go back 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:34.320 to basics with myself because as I was drafting this 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:37.920 very scathing email, and then I thought to myself, what 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:41.360 would my mum do? And probably not that I'm trying 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:43.480 to choose kindness because I can be a bit brutal 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:46.120 and nobody needs to be abused over email. So I 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:50.080 didn't send the email at all. But in thinking about 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.520 what I was going to say, I kept going back 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:56.760 to knocking etiquette. Since when does a knock mean I'm 0:14:57.200 --> 0:15:00.040 I'm entering? A knock is an alert to let you 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:02.280 you know that somebody is there, and then you, the 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:05.360 person in the house, is meant to open the door. 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:08.280 No, yes, horror. 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:13.360 I cannot imagine a world. Maybe I can. I think 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:15.560 that I can imagine this in terms of living in 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.760 your parents' homes and they knock and just open the door, 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:19.600 like knock, knock, doock. I'm letting myself in because I 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:21.440 own this property and you just happen to live here. 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:25.880 But generally, if I'm talking like living with housemates or 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.560 at an office, you knock for someone to give you 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:32.040 permission to come in and they might say, yeah, come in, 0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:35.240 and then you open not a knock, and I'm just 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:36.240 opening doors. 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:39.560 So the issue is that people are doing that to. 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:44.000 Your part, Yes, knocking and letting themselves in in what world? 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:45.720 Like in what world are you pulling up to a 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:50.720 stranger's house knocking and then touching the door handle? Yeah, 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:55.160 none of this. It's coming on like I just And 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:58.160 the thing that's getting me is I feel like I 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:00.840 sound insane having to type that out an email. 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:03.800 Now you know what it is giving me flashbacks of 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:04.520 when I was a kid. 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:05.760 It's trades. 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:11.480 People don't do this, Oh okay. Once two thousand and 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:13.000 five getting renovations. 0:16:14.400 --> 0:16:16.440 Huh, how do you know it's two thousand and five, because. 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:19.280 My memory is a diamond, great skill. And we had 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:23.600 a builder called Ken and Marshall Ken Marshall and they 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:24.240 it was a vehic. 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:29.400 We edited like we went to VCaP with them, because 0:16:29.440 --> 0:16:30.160 I don't know what that is. 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:33.960 It's like the Victorian court system because they like didn't 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:34.720 finish the work. 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:36.680 Oh well, like hriable c. 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:40.640 It was a court case whoa heavy ass one of 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:42.680 the many court cases of our family in the early 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:46.200 two thousands. Essentially, we had a builder and when me 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:48.040 and my mom and my sister were home of the 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.560 weekend and stuff, Dad was out working. He would just 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.040 let himself in and Mum would be like in the 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:56.600 kitchen and she'd just see him walk into the hallway. 0:16:56.720 --> 0:16:59.200 He would yeah. Just so I understand it. 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:00.600 But I think it's when p people know they have 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:03.960 a job, your house is the job site. Yes, I 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:06.760 believe they feel more inclined to just get in there. 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:11.920 Yes, And I can totally understand in theory, like that 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:15.040 makes sense to me. But what I'm struggling to understand 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:19.159 is why I'm having to explain my perspective to my 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:22.040 real estate agent, like I already had to hit them with, 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:24.800 like you already know I live here alone as a 0:17:24.840 --> 0:17:29.120 young woman. Why are you letting random men, multiple men, 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.480 just walk into my house all day and not pulling 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:34.800 them up on it. And I understand this is their 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:38.639 place of work, but this isn't my home, Like you 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:40.760 know what I'm saying, like I live here, it needs 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:45.440 to be safe, and also like it's mine, I'm giving 0:17:45.480 --> 0:17:48.400 you permission to lend permission to somebody else to knock 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:52.000 on the door and invite themselves in. But realistically, I 0:17:52.119 --> 0:17:54.560 feel like it's super patronizing for me to have to 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:56.920 explain that to them. But I feel like they're trying 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:59.919 to shirk responsibility by making it feel like, oh, you know, 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:03.359 well he did knock, And I'm like, exactly, so that's 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:06.320 the excuse. It's going back to what he knocked. And 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:09.000 I'm like and I'm like, I don't know if I 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:10.720 show you the video I took of the first guy 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:13.600 who was in my house with no shoes on the 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:16.600 phone looking at some random corner in the wall and 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:21.000 I'm like, hey, you're in my house. He's like, oh sorry, mate, 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:23.800 One second pass on the phone, like I'm the hassle. 0:18:24.800 --> 0:18:28.840 I love the sorry mate, like, no sorry to me, 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:32.400 And it's I think what's frustrating me is the point 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.960 I made earlier, where the thing that's getting me is that, like, 0:18:36.080 --> 0:18:39.439 I'm assuming that etiquette is a social norm, Like, he 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:43.040 should know that it's inappropriate to just let himself into 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:44.080 my house. 0:18:43.880 --> 0:18:47.000 Right, but he does not know that because etiquette is 0:18:47.040 --> 0:18:49.080 no longer a social normal. It hasn't been a norm 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:52.359 for so long. And I was hypothesizing in my little 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:57.040 brainy about the last conversation we had about you know, 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:00.320 whether we could identify a difference between nice, kind, or good, 0:19:00.320 --> 0:19:03.480 and if we could create like definitions for each of them, 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:06.560 which we did, and it was your definitions of the 0:19:06.600 --> 0:19:09.720 three in particular that became the basis of that conversation, 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:13.159 and through that people were saying they found that nice 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:18.040 was overwhelmingly disingenuous because it was very superficial and more 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:21.040 concerned with the perception rather than the reality of how 0:19:21.080 --> 0:19:24.080 you feel. So to be nice is to disregard how 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:28.040 you feel in favor of what is considered to be normal. 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:29.920 In my head, I'm like, and. 0:19:29.840 --> 0:19:30.320 So be it. 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:33.720 The comments on the videos wherever we posted them was 0:19:33.760 --> 0:19:36.000 the same sentiment. I don't want to be called nice. 0:19:36.200 --> 0:19:38.560 Nice as offensive. There are so many other things to 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:41.639 be nice is a waste of a trait to have. 0:19:41.920 --> 0:19:46.200 I don't trust people that comment on public posts because 0:19:46.240 --> 0:19:49.159 you know that you're being perceived, so you're not being honest, 0:19:49.720 --> 0:19:50.639 You're crafting this. 0:19:51.480 --> 0:19:53.120 It was, honestly, it felt like. 0:19:53.240 --> 0:19:55.320 I don't know, so I just I don't not like you. 0:19:55.840 --> 0:19:59.760 Oh no, they know. Next minute. It just felt like 0:19:59.800 --> 0:20:03.280 we getting to that territory of like who can be 0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:08.000 the most contrarian here. I often feel that people think 0:20:08.240 --> 0:20:10.120