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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast.

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Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the.

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Speaker 1: Time poor parent who just wants answers Now Gooday.

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Speaker 2: This is doctor Justin Coulson, the founder of Happy Families

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Speaker 2: dot com dot a you, dad toes six daughter's husband

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Speaker 2: to one wife and the parenting expert and co host

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Speaker 2: on chan Lyne's Parental Guidance. Also the host of this podcast,

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Speaker 2: that Happy Families Podcast. Thank you so much for listening

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Speaker 2: and allowing me into your life to hopefully be useful

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Speaker 2: in making your family happier. Right now, school holidays in Queensland,

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Speaker 2: which means that I'm doing my best to spend as

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Speaker 2: much time in the sunshine with Kylie and the girls

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Speaker 2: as I can. So each day during the Queensland school holidays,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to be featuring on the podcast. Some of

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Speaker 2: my favorite podcast guests from twenty twenty two were doing

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Speaker 2: Lightning Round question and answer format. Today's guest is the

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Speaker 2: one and only missus Happy Families, Kylie Coulson. Kylie, You've

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Speaker 2: never been submitted to a Lightning Round before, but today

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Speaker 2: is the day where I get to ask you all

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Speaker 2: of the questions and you get to well, I mean.

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Speaker 1: You actually did do a Lightning Round.

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Speaker 2: It's been a long time. It was right right back

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Speaker 2: when my very Your First Question podcast. Yeah, that's right. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: if you want to hear how bad it was, you

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Speaker 2: can go back, I know, like episode numb one hundred

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Speaker 2: and thirty or there.

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Speaker 1: Have to have it on the highest volume because I

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Speaker 2: So I've got a whole lot of new Lightning Round questions.

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Speaker 2: I ask everybody that I interview now for the podcast

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Speaker 2: these questions, and today I thought we'd do something together.

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Speaker 2: I thought I'd ask you the Lightning Round questions. Some

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Speaker 2: are fun, some are serious, some are impossible to answer accurately.

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Speaker 2: You're just going to dig a hole. Let's see how

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Speaker 2: we go. Question number one. Everyone knows this, but we're

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Speaker 2: we're going to treat you like you're a special VIP guest.

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Speaker 2: How many kids do you have and how old are they?

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Speaker 1: Oh, you're testing me from the outset. I have six children.

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Speaker 2: We we no, you're asking me.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fine, I have six children and they're all girls,

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Speaker 1: and my youngsters eight twelve, fifteen, eighteen, nineteen, and twenty three.

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Speaker 2: Okay, do you have a favorite child?

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Speaker 1: Of course, not would that I'll say in public?

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Speaker 2: Would you like some time to think about that. No,

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Speaker 2: of course not. Who do you love the most? Me

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Speaker 2: or the kids?

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Speaker 1: You?

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Speaker 2: Oh, you're so good at this ideal number of kids? Six? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it is. It's always what you wanted from the time

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Speaker 2: I knew you wanted six kids.

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Speaker 1: But if I could go back at No. No, six,

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Speaker 1: I absolutely love it.

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Speaker 2: How do you rate yourself as a parent?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Do you know what?

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Speaker 1: Over the years, I think that I have gotten a

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Speaker 1: lot better at this process. I'm definitely not perfect, but

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm getting a handle on it as

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Speaker 1: i'm mature.

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Speaker 2: What's something great that your parents did that you've tried

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Speaker 2: to continue in your parenting.

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Speaker 1: My dad was really really good at spending time with

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Speaker 1: me in my emotional moments and as each of our

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Speaker 1: children and especially being girls and being probably a lot

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Speaker 1: more hormonal. I've really tried hard to tap into that

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Speaker 1: skill of sitting in their space when when things are hard.

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Speaker 2: Who's a better parent you or me?

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Speaker 1: I think that we have different strengths.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you're not going to give me a straight answer.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not, because I think that there are some

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Speaker 1: things that I do way better than you.

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Speaker 2: Get Like what.

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Speaker 1: I can't think of anything off the top of my.

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Speaker 2: Head, right, come on, lightning round, You've just got to

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Speaker 2: say whatever comes in mind.

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Speaker 1: I think dealing with the girls hormonal outbursts, I think

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Speaker 1: that I deal with them predominantly better than you do. Interesting,

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Speaker 1: But there are other things that you deal with hands

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Speaker 1: down better than me. Like what I'm not telling you.

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Speaker 2: I'm not about you today, No, I know, but I'm

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Speaker 2: really curious now.

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Speaker 1: I think you have the capacity to not take their

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Speaker 1: who just need to be understood. You just don't take

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Speaker 1: And so what I love about what you do is

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Speaker 1: just that constant reminder of who they are and just

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Speaker 1: how much you love them.

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Speaker 2: What's the hardest thing about being a parent.

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Speaker 1: That there is never just one challenge to deal with

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Speaker 1: In any given moment. Each of our children are living

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Speaker 1: parallel lives in a collective space together, and at any

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Speaker 1: given moment in time, every one of us has a

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Speaker 1: burden of some sort, and as a parent, it's almost

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Speaker 2: If you could spend an hour with the kids at

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Speaker 2: any what would you choose? And why?

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Speaker 1: I think it's five or six. There's just such an

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Speaker 1: innocence about our little prestook rulers, and they are just

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Speaker 1: so thirsty for knowledge, and they just see you with

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Speaker 2: You're their world, right, Yes, Kylie. What's the ultimate joy

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Speaker 1: I think it's when your big kids leave home and

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Speaker 1: they ring just to say hi.

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Speaker 2: Most controversial question of all after that beautiful moment, what's

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Speaker 2: It's the question that I get all the time. Drives

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Speaker 1: I'm sure there are probably a hundred things, but I cannot,

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Speaker 2: Now. Yeah, you'll probably think of it once you let

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Speaker 2: the studio. We need to record that again. What's the

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Speaker 2: kid's favorite thing to do with you?

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Speaker 1: I actually think it's snuggles. Yeah, you know, even the

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Speaker 2: What are you most looking forward to as a parent.

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Speaker 1: I had known all the things that I know now,

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Speaker 2: If you could go back to you as a young parent,

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Speaker 2: what advice would you give yourself?

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Speaker 1: Just be kind to yourself in that space and remembering

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Speaker 1: and just wishing I could have been more and now

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Speaker 1: recognizing that I was all I could be in those moments,

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Speaker 1: So learning to be kind to myself and giving myself

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Speaker 1: Giving that to me would have made a big difference.

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Speaker 2: Last question, Kylie Colson, what's been your biggest win as

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Speaker 1: I think that it would be that as my children

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Speaker 1: to not want their parents in their space, my girls

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Speaker 1: trip to Germany with our oldest daughter, and her actually

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Speaker 1: with her friends. And I've watched it time and time

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Speaker 1: I just feel so grateful that they still work me around.

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Speaker 2: Kylie Coilson, you survived the lightning round. Thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for your insights and ideas. I hope it's been

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Speaker 2: inspiring for people who have heard it. I've loved hearing

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Speaker 1: Thanks.

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Speaker 2: The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin Roland from

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Speaker 2: Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. If you'd

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