Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Live
Speaker 1: One Cut. I'm Brittany, and I have missed you, guys.
Speaker 1: I feel like I haven't been on here in so long. Laura,
Speaker 1: Matt's been moving in on my term. I don't know
Speaker 1: how I feel about it. Oh yeah, you need to
Speaker 1: be careful, britt He's really he's hot on your tail.
Speaker 1: So I've had a little bit of a break. And
Speaker 1: we keep saying the word break, right, but none of
Speaker 1: us have actually had a break. We had a break,
Speaker 1: but Matt and Laura are obviously doing the batterycaps, which
Speaker 1: I'm super proud of because you guys are loving them.
Speaker 1: But I'm also not gonna lie. There is some like
Speaker 1: teeny little smitch of jealousy that maybe he's taking my spot.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to feel. He's already got you
Speaker 1: as his wife, like he needs to share a lot.
Speaker 1: We have been gone for four weeks now, but we
Speaker 1: really haven't been gone at all. It doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: we've been far away. Although we've missed you. There's so
Speaker 1: much that has been happening. I mean, we've been gone
Speaker 1: for so long that the Olympics came back around. We
Speaker 1: also turn to it's been four years. The Olympics is back. Okay,
Speaker 1: hang on, how many times have you cried in the Olympics,
Speaker 1: Because I've cried probably four times already. Do you know what?
Speaker 1: This is the most controversial thing I'm going to say,
Speaker 1: and I know that everybody listening is going to kind
Speaker 1: of check out now. I haven't watched it. I have
Speaker 1: barely watched it. I have watched more Bachelor than I
Speaker 1: have watched the Olympics, which I think I'm the only
Speaker 1: person in Australia according to the Bachelor ratings. But I
Speaker 1: don't think this is something you should be admitting to
Speaker 1: on this podcast. Man, I've seen some things over the
Speaker 1: past four weeks. There's a lot going on in Sydney
Speaker 1: right now, is there? So what's okay? Talk me through it?
Speaker 1: What have you guys been doing? How have you been
Speaker 1: in lockdown? I don't want to talk about lockdown for
Speaker 1: too long, to be honest, because I mean, one, I'm
Speaker 1: very conscious that no matter what I say, everybody who's
Speaker 1: from Victoria has done it ten times worse and ten
Speaker 1: times longer than what we've done it so far. But
Speaker 1: it just comes with its own challenges and Britt while
Speaker 1: you're overseas. I genuinely feel like I am hogged tight
Speaker 1: in a basement of Sydney, like just let me out,
Speaker 1: why not? But like it's totally and in relation to
Speaker 1: what you just said. It's funny that. I mean, you
Speaker 1: and I have spoken about this on the podcast before,
Speaker 1: and it's a funny comment where you say, like, I
Speaker 1: know this person has it worse or they've done it worse,
Speaker 1: so I don't want to comment. But each individual is
Speaker 1: still allowed to feel their pain, their relative pain. You know,
Speaker 1: it's what you go through, and every single person, whether
Speaker 1: they've being locked down for one week or six months,
Speaker 1: everyone's experiencing something, so like, don't take away from the
Speaker 1: fact that you haven't done it as much as Melbourne
Speaker 1: or anything like that. I think everyone, each in their
Speaker 1: own is going through so much shit in Australia right now.
Speaker 1: I absolutely, one hundred percent agree with that sentiment, and
Speaker 1: I think it is so important for every single person
Speaker 1: who's listening that if you feel a certain way, those
Speaker 1: feelings are valid and you are absolutely allowed to be
Speaker 1: sad or angry or hurt or whatever it is. And
Speaker 1: I don't think it is a helpful argument or a
Speaker 1: helpful conversation for people, or for anyone to say, Oh,
Speaker 1: but you know what, I can't be sad because somebody
Speaker 1: else has it worse. It doesn't take anything away from
Speaker 1: somebody else you feeling those feelings as well. I guess
Speaker 1: the biggest thing about this lockdown in Sydney is that
Speaker 1: it feels quite different to last time. Last time, and
Speaker 1: this is probably another controversial thing to say, but for me,
Speaker 1: it kind of still felt a little bit novel like,
Speaker 1: even though businesses were shut and my business was shut,
Speaker 1: Even though we were hugely affected, it was an experience
Speaker 1: that nobody had had before and there was a lot
Speaker 1: of fears surrounding it, but it also kind of felt
Speaker 1: like a little bit of a novelty. You know, we
Speaker 1: were making TikTok videos this time around. The novelty has
Speaker 1: well and truly fucking worn off, like it is all.
Speaker 1: We are over it and we are tired, and trying
Speaker 1: to do it with two kids in the house is
Speaker 1: a whole other experience. So yeah, next time, hopefully we
Speaker 1: don't have three kids in the house. Oh my god. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean that's up to you. You have control over that, Laura,
Speaker 1: So don't be like, oh, I hope the universe doesn't
Speaker 1: give some other baby you have control over how much
Speaker 1: sex you have. Mate, I have fallen from that still.
Speaker 1: You have told me you have had serious sex before
Speaker 1: and then out popped another baby, So I'm onto you.
Speaker 1: But anyway, tell me what has been happening in your world,
Speaker 1: and tell everyone who's listening. I mean this might come
Speaker 1: as some surprise to some of you listeners, but Britain
Speaker 1: and I haven't spoken that much over this break because
Speaker 1: she's kind of been in all different places. Wi Fi
Speaker 1: connections haven't been great. But we normally don't go a
Speaker 1: single day without speaking to each other, and we have
Speaker 1: gone several days without speaking to each other. It's funny
Speaker 1: you say that. I mean everything this said is true,
Speaker 1: but I feel like we actually still speak to each
Speaker 1: other every day, but it's always We're on different time
Speaker 1: zones and it's always work. I was like, we haven't
Speaker 1: actually caught up as friends, and I feel like we
Speaker 1: had a little group FaceTime the other day producer Geisha,
Speaker 1: Laura and myself, and I don't know about you, Laura,
Speaker 1: but I forgot how nice it was just to sit
Speaker 1: there and talk and have a laugh for a second.
Speaker 1: Because it's so easy to get swept up. But how
Speaker 1: am I? I am? Well, I have been watching so
Speaker 1: much fucking tennis. I'm like, oh you do. I didn't
Speaker 1: realize that it was like seven days a week. So
Speaker 1: I am in Atlanta, America right now, and it's really
Speaker 1: nice to be in America because they're free here and
Speaker 1: they just, to be honest, they act COVID is not
Speaker 1: a thing. It's bonkers. It's so weird to see that
Speaker 1: Australia is in complete lockdown and Americans are just running wild.
Speaker 1: But it does mean that we don't have our bubbles anymore.
Speaker 1: So Jordan and I have actually been able to go
Speaker 1: to a few dinners because I feel like we never
Speaker 1: really got those dinner dates or anything like that. Even
Speaker 1: when we met in Australia, it was always in this
Speaker 1: lockdown time. So talk to me about why it's different there.
Speaker 1: And like, obviously, going back a couple of months ago,
Speaker 1: the whole COVID situation in the States was pretty fucking rife.
Speaker 1: So not that I want to sit on COVID for
Speaker 1: too long, but why is it different now and why
Speaker 1: are they treating it differently to what we are experiencing
Speaker 1: since the Delta strain basically came from there. They've just
Speaker 1: done such a good job here with the vaccination. So
Speaker 1: I'll tell you a story that was just blew my mind.
Speaker 1: I have friends back home that have been and, as
Speaker 1: you all know, people trying to get the vaccinations and
Speaker 1: it's impossible. They didn't order them places that do have vaccinations.
Speaker 1: It's so hard to even get a booking. That's what
Speaker 1: it's been like. It's been so bloody hard. Here myself
Speaker 1: and Jordan and one of Jordan's friends, another tennis player,
Speaker 1: and he literally just decided. He was like, I want
Speaker 1: to go get the COVID vacks. Like cool, how do
Speaker 1: we do that? He's like, oh, we'll just go to
Speaker 1: the chemist. We just stopped in the car. Wasn't planned.
Speaker 1: This is five minutes later. We stopped at the first chemist.
Speaker 1: We walked in. He is an Australian, was like, I
Speaker 1: would like to get the COVID vaccination. They were like, cool,
Speaker 1: just take a seat, gave him the vaccination. Fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: we're out the door, and I was like, this is
Speaker 1: why America is ahead of the game with the vaccinations,
Speaker 1: because it's accessible and they're encouraging people to get it.
Speaker 1: They're making it easy for people to get the vaccination,
Speaker 1: and I mean anyone can walk in and get it
Speaker 1: whenever they want, and they're very encouraging of it. So
Speaker 1: let's hope Australia can jump on that bandwagon. So I
Speaker 1: have a question for you, which is Jordan related. What
Speaker 1: noise does Jordan make when he's playing tennis? And is
Speaker 1: it the same as the noise he makes when you
Speaker 1: guys are having sex to hang on, did someone write
Speaker 1: this scene or is this your sick question? No, this
Speaker 1: is my sick question. I was watching tennis recently and
Speaker 1: I was like, God, these men just sound like they're
Speaker 1: having sex. And I'm really curious now how Jordan sounds. Okay,
Speaker 1: So the grunting in tennis is actually a thing between players.
Speaker 1: They all talk about the noises that each other make.
Speaker 1: It's a thing because some people don't like other people
Speaker 1: that make noises. Some people say that people's noises are
Speaker 1: too loud. It's like political noise in tennis is this
Speaker 1: huge thing. Jordan doesn't make a lot of noise in tennis.
Speaker 1: Every now and again, if he has some big exertion,
Speaker 1: he'll go like that. That's it. Probably similar to sex. Yeah,
Speaker 1: whenever he has a big exertion. Now, look, Jordan's what
Speaker 1: I will say. Jordan's not overly noisy, man. He's also
Speaker 1: going to kill me this so much. Look, I do
Speaker 1: have something really funny actually that happened to me that
Speaker 1: I want to tell you. And I was so excited
Speaker 1: about and I'm just all it's going to do is
Speaker 1: really like drive home my nerd Burger status. But I
Speaker 1: was beyond excited. You are not going to believe this, Okay,
Speaker 1: all of you og listeners, you will know that there
Speaker 1: is one show that I constantly recommend. It's like my
Speaker 1: favorite show in the universe. It's called This Is Us.
Speaker 1: I've spoken about it a million times. The main guy
Speaker 1: looks like Jack. That's why I'm dating Jordan, because they
Speaker 1: look exactly the same. He's got a mustache and black hair.
Speaker 1: This guy in it called Kevin. He's a main character,
Speaker 1: and he's so fucking hot. Like I can't explain how
Speaker 1: sexy he is, how brilliant an actor is, how obsessed
Speaker 1: I am with the whole show. I was with a
Speaker 1: friend yesterday and they were like, oh, my friends coming,
Speaker 1: and I was like cool, And then around the corner
Speaker 1: walks Kevin from This Is Us and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that's Kevin. Like his name's not Kevin,
Speaker 1: it's Justin Hartley. I was like, oh my god, that's
Speaker 1: Justin Hartley. And then he walked over to us and
Speaker 1: I was like, hang on, this is just like it's
Speaker 1: Justin Hartley, your friend or anyway. I was like, play cool, Brittany,
Speaker 1: oh my god, and he was. I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: this is Brittany, Brittany, this is Justin. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh hey, like how are you cool? Like pretended, I
Speaker 1: was like the coolest shit in the world. I was like,
Speaker 1: nice to meet you, blah blah. Hanging out for a while.
Speaker 1: My internal monologue was like, just fucking be cool, Just
Speaker 1: be cool. So I was just like I was doing
Speaker 1: my version of cool, which I can guarantee was not cool.
Speaker 1: And then my friend walks away and just leaves us
Speaker 1: the two of us there, and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: think of something cool to say, Brittany because it was
Speaker 1: in silence, and I was like, all right, look, I
Speaker 1: got something to tell you. You're like I forgot love.
Speaker 1: Like I was like, I love This Is Us so much.
Speaker 1: It's my favorite show. I've watched every episode and then
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, I'm like dying thinking about it.
Speaker 1: And then he was like, oh that's cool. I just
Speaker 1: trying to cover up and make me sound cooler. And
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, look, I also had this podcast.
Speaker 1: It's I got like thirteen million listeners and stuff, and
Speaker 1: just so you know, I got all my listeners onto it.
Speaker 1: I talk about you every day. And he was like okay, cool,
Speaker 1: and I was like great, and then it gets worse.
Speaker 1: Then we're talking about tennis, and I know, well, no.
Speaker 1: My friend was like, Britney's partner's a tennis player. That's
Speaker 1: why they're in Atlanta. We're talking about the US Open.
Speaker 1: He was like, I'd love to go to the US Open.
Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, now's your time. Be cool
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh cool, Like just totally signed
Speaker 1: to my dance and I'll get ill organ I your ticket.
Speaker 1: He's like, oh cool, thank you, and I was like,
Speaker 1: no worries. And then in my head I was like,
Speaker 1: what the fuck, Brittany, you don't have that power. I
Speaker 1: was like, what are you doing. I went home to
Speaker 1: Jordan and I was like, Jordan, I may have just
Speaker 1: promised the Hollywood star a ticket to the US Open.
Speaker 1: Is that a thing that can happen? He's like, not really,
Speaker 1: And I was like, can you make that happen? He's like, anyway,
Speaker 1: I just had the biggest fangirl moment. I think that
Speaker 1: I think that I did my best at being cool.
Speaker 1: Maybe the real test of you being cool is did
Speaker 1: you drop panelol or fucking Lolo Derby or any of
Speaker 1: the other britneyisms. That would have been a true moment
Speaker 1: of showing your real self. And I don't know if
Speaker 1: the States is ready for that yet. When it was
Speaker 1: time to go, I was like, sorry, I've got to
Speaker 1: head out. I've got to catch a Loller coaster. No,
Speaker 1: but just so you guys know, he was even better
Speaker 1: looking in real life than on the show. We have
Speaker 1: the best episode for you today. I am actually so
Speaker 1: excited for today's episode and something that we have been
Speaker 1: talking about on this podcast literally for six months, maybe
Speaker 1: even longer, and that is that today's episode is Britt
Speaker 1: is going to be sharing her egg freezing story, which
Speaker 1: I know so many of you have been following Britt
Speaker 1: along her social media. She's been really open and with
Speaker 1: her journey so far that basically, britt is going to
Speaker 1: be telling her story from start to finish. And I
Speaker 1: know that a lot of you have listened to the
Speaker 1: episode that we did with Jania Clinic ages ago, which
Speaker 1: was with doctor Cherylfois, and that was all around fertility
Speaker 1: and IVF and sort of the whole process of going
Speaker 1: through egg freezing as well. That conversation was the real
Speaker 1: catalyst that made Brittany want to go and have her
Speaker 1: own eggs frozen. So I am so so excited to
Speaker 1: be able to do this episode. And britt it feels
Speaker 1: weird that I'm going to be interviewing you, but I'm
Speaker 1: so proud of you for sharing the story because I
Speaker 1: know that there are so many of our listeners who
Speaker 1: have considered egg freezing who may be in a similar
Speaker 1: situation to you, think that they might want to have
Speaker 1: children but not just yet. And I think this is
Speaker 1: going to help so many people. Yeah, I'm really excited
Speaker 1: for this episode, and we're going to get into it
Speaker 1: in a minute, so I don't want to get too
Speaker 1: much into it now, but I put the questions out
Speaker 1: on my Instagram to you guys, and I said, what
Speaker 1: do you want to know? Ask me anything about it?
Speaker 1: And I believe I had the most responses I've ever
Speaker 1: had from any Q and A on Instagram, I got
Speaker 1: the most dms. There was just so much interest, and
Speaker 1: I just realized that there's not enough people talking about
Speaker 1: it because a lot of the questions were the same,
Speaker 1: hundreds and hundreds of people on all the same questions,
Speaker 1: and I just think that there's not enough people telling
Speaker 1: their stories. So many people have heard of egg freezing,
Speaker 1: but not that many people know someone who's actually been
Speaker 1: through the process or physically experienced it. From the conversations
Speaker 1: that we've had, there's been so many parts of this
Speaker 1: experience that were different to what you had expected. I
Speaker 1: really hope that everybody who's in a similar life phase
Speaker 1: to what you are get something out of this episode.
Speaker 1: And the questions that we did get did really reiterate
Speaker 1: to me that there is not enough knowledge going around
Speaker 1: because some of the questions with things like do you
Speaker 1: need sperm to freeze your eggs things like that, which
Speaker 1: the answer is no, you absolutely do not. So I
Speaker 1: think that that's really important that if you know someone
Speaker 1: that might benefit from this episode on egg freezing, or
Speaker 1: a family member or anyone, share the love because there
Speaker 1: are a lot of people out there that I think
Speaker 1: can learn a lot from today's episode. So before we
Speaker 1: do unpacked BRIT's experience, I wanted to bring up a
Speaker 1: very important news headline that I saw this week, which,
Speaker 1: you know what, out of everything that's been happening in
Speaker 1: the world, this is the one that really stood out
Speaker 1: to me. And I'm gonna in a stinky No, not
Speaker 1: quite Actually, do you know what? Something went into a stinky?
Speaker 1: We could It wouldn't be an episode of Life on
Speaker 1: cardunless we started talking about But here we go. Man
Speaker 1: uses live eel to cure constipation, nearly dies that ladies, gentlemen, friends,
Speaker 1: hang on. He put an eel up his butt? Is that?
Speaker 1: What is that? What is that? The colloquially what you're saying.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine being constipated and thinking that a good
Speaker 1: way to solve that problem would be to put more
Speaker 1: things up your backside? Do you know what? Actually, there's
Speaker 1: probably something to that. The eel would probably eat the
Speaker 1: poop and cause a free passageway. So unfortunately, the eel
Speaker 1: actually ate a hole through his intestine and it made
Speaker 1: like leakage all throughout his abdominal cavity. So he almost
Speaker 1: died from it, I reckon and then not doing this.
Speaker 1: This is a terrible, terrible, terrible idea. But they think
Speaker 1: that did you actually get it up there? It was
Speaker 1: fucking alive. Okay, show, it's not gonna it's not like
Speaker 1: it's a hard stick like you would. How does he like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, do you roll in a ball and
Speaker 1: put it up there? And just way do you put it?
Speaker 1: I mean face first or fin first? Like? What way
Speaker 1: do you put it up with its face facing up
Speaker 1: your buttthole? Or do you think you have to No,
Speaker 1: I think you'd have to up face first into the bar.
Speaker 1: I mean, like, we don't really need to know the answer. Okay.
Speaker 1: So the funniest part of this whole thing, and like, look,
Speaker 1: it's not funny. Somebody almost died from this. It's pretty hectic.
Speaker 1: But the funniest part is that when he presented to hospital,
Speaker 1: the doctors asked him how did the eel get up there?
Speaker 1: And because he was so embarrassed and he didn't want
Speaker 1: to tell them, he said it swam up there by itself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the old fellow on the deodoring cantrig, we know what
Speaker 1: you're up to, buddy. I had eel did not swim
Speaker 1: anywhere on its own cord. No one voluntarily swims up
Speaker 1: a buttthole if they absolutely don't have to. Well, I
Speaker 1: mean there's definitely been a few men who tried to
Speaker 1: swim up that buttthole. Anyway, Okay, I have something else
Speaker 1: I want to say on this. If you are constipated,
Speaker 1: there are plenty of other options instead of putting a
Speaker 1: sea urchin or a sea creature. Yeah, I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe like a laxative, or like some fruit, or drinking
Speaker 1: extra water. Yeah, look, there's definitely lots of other things
Speaker 1: that you could try first. Maybe go and get like
Speaker 1: a little abdominal mass sage. Don't stick a live animal
Speaker 1: up pu bu. It's never a good idea, and it's
Speaker 1: a lettal. In most countries, the eel was still alive
Speaker 1: when they did the surgery to fix his intestine, So
Speaker 1: they removed a live eel from this man's backside. But
Speaker 1: what's it called in medical terms? When somebody presents to
Speaker 1: a hospital and they have something up their backside. Isn't
Speaker 1: it like foreign object? Anal? Is this the thing? Talk
Speaker 1: to me as like a healthcare worker. It's just called
Speaker 1: a foreign object we'll just get a ferrol that says
Speaker 1: query rectal xtray foreign object. That's it, and then they'll
Speaker 1: say sometimes what it is if the patient has told them,
Speaker 1: they'll be like query deotor and can query toy car,
Speaker 1: query pullball, which are all things that have happened to me?
Speaker 1: What is the weirdest thing that somebody has presented with
Speaker 1: that's been up their backside? Toilet brush with the Bristoley
Speaker 1: sidar like the Brustley sidear. Yeah, no, I'm not even kidding.
Speaker 1: I wish I wish I was kidding. Actually, it's pretty like,
Speaker 1: it's pretty genius. It'd be acts like a little bit
Speaker 1: of a tickler. I don't think it would. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think that there is something a lot better that
Speaker 1: you could put out there than a toilet brush. I agree,
Speaker 1: But like I mean, it was probably in the bathroom.
Speaker 1: It was accessible, and he's going to be clean as
Speaker 1: a whistle after that one. Anyway. I think we've talked
Speaker 1: about that, guys. We do have time for our accidentally
Speaker 1: unfiltered stories though, before we get into the main chat,
Speaker 1: which would be a lot more serious than this. Now,
Speaker 1: if you haven't listened to our episodes before the accidentally
Speaker 1: Unfiltered is basically us just sharing your most cooked embarrassing stories.
Speaker 1: You writing your embarrassing stories to us and we share
Speaker 1: them with you all. So we have received I can't
Speaker 1: even tell you over the last couple of weeks because
Speaker 1: we've been away that we have received so many mess
Speaker 1: of embarrassing stories of ask on cut questions and if
Speaker 1: you have one for us, please slide into our dms
Speaker 1: on Instagram. It's Life Uncut podcast and we'll keep it
Speaker 1: for next week. But we have some crackers for you today,
Speaker 1: and it would not be Life Uncut unless we came
Speaker 1: back with some bodily function stories. I'm gonna start, and
Speaker 1: I really feel for this girl. I don't know why
Speaker 1: because she's anonymous, but I feel for I was at
Speaker 1: my boyfriend's football club watching the end of their game
Speaker 1: when I started to feel really sick in the stomach.
Speaker 1: My tummy was gurgling like a washing machine, and I
Speaker 1: knew that I had to get the bathroom quick. Smart.
Speaker 1: I dashed into the women's bathroom and ran into one
Speaker 1: of the cubicles without looking around. There was just no time.
Speaker 1: Had I looked around the locker room, I would have
Speaker 1: noticed all the sports bags and realized that the opposing
Speaker 1: men's team were using the women's locker rooms as the
Speaker 1: women's games had all finished. Now I am doubled over
Speaker 1: in pain in the toilet waiting for take off, when
Speaker 1: suddenly I hear the loud voices of twenty plus men
Speaker 1: enter the locker room, and I realized what was going on.
Speaker 1: At this stage, I could have left without too much embarrassment,
Speaker 1: as they hadn't stripped off and started showering yet, but
Speaker 1: by that point I was only a few seconds away
Speaker 1: from a proper explosion. I didn't have time to find
Speaker 1: another bathroom. I had to admit defeat. I had no
Speaker 1: choice but to stay and let the floodgates open. And truly,
Speaker 1: it was the worst diarrhea I have ever experienced. After
Speaker 1: about twenty liters of liquid poop and my soul left
Speaker 1: my body, the toilet wouldn't flush. Motherfucker, I have got
Speaker 1: this shit all over the shit I'm talking, it's down
Speaker 1: the walls, it's down the bowl. I'm sitting there in
Speaker 1: the biggest bit of stench. I had to sit in
Speaker 1: a cubicle for half an hour with my insides plastered
Speaker 1: on the toilet bowl, waiting for these guys to finish
Speaker 1: showering and leave. Oh my god, so these twenty men
Speaker 1: have walked in. She shut herself for like twenty minutes,
Speaker 1: and then she had to sit in there. They all heard.
Speaker 1: They all were looking at her feet under there, but
Speaker 1: she just didn't come out. I'm like, I feel some
Speaker 1: I wouldn't come out either. It reminds me of when
Speaker 1: I accidentally walked in on you pooping. And remember we
Speaker 1: went to Kyl and jack Yo in the radio and
Speaker 1: you blamed you. I remember the other lady thought it
Speaker 1: was me. So if you guys don't remember this story,
Speaker 1: Britt and I went to a meeting at Karla and
Speaker 1: Jackie Oo's studios. You know, we're feeling ourselves. We were like, yeah,
Speaker 1: is that? And holy hell, when it hits, it hits,
Speaker 1: you just can't You can't necessarily prepare for these times
Speaker 1: in your life. Anyway, I was like ran, So Britt
Speaker 1: was still like getting out of the car and like
Speaker 1: parking the car, and I was like I must go.
Speaker 1: So I ran inside, ran to the receptionist and I
Speaker 1: was like, where's your toilet. She's like, you have to
Speaker 1: check in first, and I was like no, tying, no,
Speaker 1: just give me my case. I ran to the toilet anyway,
Speaker 1: there was no one in there unleashed to the fury anyway.
Speaker 1: Britt came in about five minutes later, and then luckily
Speaker 1: it's one of those things where you always kind of
Speaker 1: wait until whoever's in the bathroom at the same time
Speaker 1: leaves before you, like you never want to leave, and
Speaker 1: then accidentally be at the basin at the same time.
Speaker 1: That shit's just way too awkward, especially only two cubicles.
Speaker 1: It was two, bree, so it was fine. I was like, well,
Speaker 1: she already knows it's me, So I leave the bathroom
Speaker 1: and then at the same time as I'm leaving, the
Speaker 1: receptionist forks into the tooland yeah, this is the worst
Speaker 1: stench ever. And it was like it's like someone I'm
Speaker 1: skunk could dine in there. And Laura blamed me, and I,
Speaker 1: as a good friend, just rolled with it. I was like, hey, sorry,
Speaker 1: I was like, you owe me. So Britz BRIT's not
Speaker 1: feeling very well, Pritz Pritt. She's had a bit of
Speaker 1: gas lately. She's been a bit gassy, and I mean,
Speaker 1: like that I should get an award for that. That
Speaker 1: is like, all right, I have an accidentally unfielded story
Speaker 1: for you guys, and it's also to do with bodily functions.
Speaker 1: I apologize that we have come back hard with the
Speaker 1: poo stories, but you know, I don't fuck it. That's
Speaker 1: just it's a part of our podcast. Okay. This one
Speaker 1: time at UNI, I was my second year and I
Speaker 1: was seeing this guy that I was really really into.
Speaker 1: He was so hot, he was so rugged, he played rugby,
Speaker 1: and all of his friends were really, really fun. I
Speaker 1: really wanted it to turn into something more. After thinking
Speaker 1: that out, he stayed at my place. We were both
Speaker 1: pretty drunk, and in the middle of the night, I
Speaker 1: heard this water just trickling noise. I thought, that's really
Speaker 1: fucking weird. There must be some water running somewhere. Suddenly
Speaker 1: I knew that it definitely was not. As my lower
Speaker 1: body began to become saturated. I quickly realized that he
Speaker 1: had pissed the bed and it had soaked through my sheets,
Speaker 1: it had sowed through my mattress, it had soaked all
Speaker 1: over me, and now I was laying there in a
Speaker 1: puddle of his piss. I was really, this has fucking
Speaker 1: happened to me. I was really freaking out because it
Speaker 1: was so gross that I was just laying there in
Speaker 1: his pee. But I liked him. I liked him so
Speaker 1: so much, and I wanted us to become something, so
Speaker 1: I didn't want to embarrass him. I decided the only
Speaker 1: thing I could do was to try and suck it
Speaker 1: up and pretend and go back to sleep. Later on
Speaker 1: in the morning, he woke up and then accused me
Speaker 1: of bissing the bed. I'm sorry, but no, you have
Speaker 1: to draw the line here. What did she do? He
Speaker 1: said his side was dry, and that it was my
Speaker 1: side that was wet, obviously because we had been cuddling
Speaker 1: and his penis had been facing towards me. He'd pissed
Speaker 1: all over my back and my butt. Not believe that
Speaker 1: this guy was trying to say that I had wet
Speaker 1: my own bed. He even had a bit of a
Speaker 1: reputation as a bed weather when he got drunk. Anyway,
Speaker 1: it didn't work out, and now sometimes I think back
Speaker 1: on how I took the four for a guy who
Speaker 1: pissed on my own bed. Gee, this is just like
Speaker 1: this is a prime example of the difference between men
Speaker 1: and women. She's in the bed with piss all over her,
Speaker 1: and she's like, do you know what, I just like him.
Speaker 1: I just won't want to embarrass him. I'll take one
Speaker 1: for the team. He wakes up there. I bet you
Speaker 1: there was a one second of hesitancy. He was just
Speaker 1: like you pissed on me, straight up calls her out
Speaker 1: and it was him. This is the difference be bed
Speaker 1: and women. You you need a medal. This is actually outrageous,
Speaker 1: the fact that you liked someone so much that you
Speaker 1: were like, I didn't want to embarrass him, and I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna lay there in his urine. Wow, you know
Speaker 1: he stold all his friends like and then you got
Speaker 1: gas lit. Like this guy just gasolt you over a wetbed.
Speaker 1: Let's be real, you poor me, don't ever do that again.
Speaker 1: And that should be a listened to every woman that's
Speaker 1: listening to this podcast right now. Have you been weed
Speaker 1: on in the bed before? If you take anything from
Speaker 1: this podcast, please let that be the listener that you
Speaker 1: walk away with. Yes, actually something very similar to that
Speaker 1: happened to me. I was dating a guy in Woollongong.
Speaker 1: I really liked him. He was super hot, really cute.
Speaker 1: We got along really really well. He shat on me,
Speaker 1: but I didn't care I like to get kiky sometimes. No,
Speaker 1: he had gotten absolutely just turbo at a concert, like
Speaker 1: I mean he had I don't know what he had
Speaker 1: drunk or taken or whatever, but he was off his
Speaker 1: face and I was sober. And we went back to
Speaker 1: his house and I put him to bed, and then
Speaker 1: I went to bed because it was too far for
Speaker 1: me to drive from Woollongong to Sydney. I woke up thinking,
Speaker 1: I feel really clammy, like I felt you know when
Speaker 1: you get like the night sweats. So I woke up
Speaker 1: thinking I had the ninth sweats because everything was wet,
Speaker 1: like the whole douner was wet, and it was like
Speaker 1: up to my neck and I was like, god, I
Speaker 1: feel so clammy. And then I realized the smell and
Speaker 1: it also it also smells like you'reine. And then I
Speaker 1: woke him up and I was like, dude, you've pissed
Speaker 1: the bed. And he denied it, like fully denied it
Speaker 1: for about five minutes until I was like, you need
Speaker 1: to smell this. You have pissed the bed, and then
Speaker 1: he started to cry. There's only one thing that makes
Speaker 1: pissing the bed worse, and that he's pissing the bed
Speaker 1: and crying. What No. Oh, guys, that is it for
Speaker 1: the start of this episode. If you have any accidentally
Speaker 1: unfiltered stories, send them on in over at life un
Speaker 1: Cut Podcasts, and also make sure that you join the
Speaker 1: Facebook discussion group because that is where all the good
Speaker 1: stuff goes down. It really does. All right, let's get
Speaker 1: into the episode. As most of you know, I did
Speaker 1: put a few stories up on my Instagram at the time.
Speaker 1: We have spoken about it periodically, sporadically, if you will,
Speaker 1: on the podcast. I did freeze my eggs before I
Speaker 1: came overseas, and that was a long time coming, so
Speaker 1: I actually went for my consult back in December. I
Speaker 1: went for my consult back in December, and it took
Speaker 1: me that long to freeze them. And I will get
Speaker 1: into that. But I have wanted to talk about it
Speaker 1: for a long time because I know a lot of
Speaker 1: you have had a lot of questions. I know there's
Speaker 1: a lot of interest in it, and I know a
Speaker 1: lot of people aren't openly speaking about it. So I
Speaker 1: have put together all your questions that you wanted to know,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to try to get through, if possible,
Speaker 1: all of them. I guess I'll start with the why.
Speaker 1: I'm thirty three and last year most of you would
Speaker 1: have already listened to an episode we did with a
Speaker 1: Jeneia fertility specialist, doctor Cheryl Foi now doctor cherylf WI
Speaker 1: is amazing. We really did our research when we did
Speaker 1: the fertility episode because we wanted to get somebody on
Speaker 1: that was that really knew their stuff and they have
Speaker 1: helped a lot of women and couples with their fertility.
Speaker 1: So we got Cheryl on and by the end of
Speaker 1: the episode, I spoke to Cheryl off record and I
Speaker 1: just said, look, you've basically without meaning to convince me
Speaker 1: that I need to come in for a consult? Is
Speaker 1: do you think that I should? And She's like absolutely,
Speaker 1: She's like, I mean, the fact of the matter is
Speaker 1: there's probably probably everything's fine, but you're thirty three. It
Speaker 1: wouldn't be the worst thing for you to just come
Speaker 1: and check out your fertility. I was single at the time.
Speaker 1: There was like no relationship inside. You all know how
Speaker 1: long I've been single before. I wasn't dating anybody at all.
Speaker 1: And I work in the medical industry, so I know
Speaker 1: that there are problems with fertility. I know that unfortunately
Speaker 1: our eggs do deteriorate. And I had some really good friends,
Speaker 1: so Renee Aras, she's recently come out and she's spoken
Speaker 1: about her fertility issues. She's one of my best friends.
Speaker 1: She is now pregnant, which I'm so stoked on. But
Speaker 1: she also went through Jenea clinic and she had a
Speaker 1: real battle with fertility. So I had all these people
Speaker 1: close to me that, for no reason or they couldn't
Speaker 1: figure it out, we're having a lot of trouble with
Speaker 1: their fertility. So I was like, Boom, I need to
Speaker 1: go and do something about it. I need to take
Speaker 1: control of my own life because nobody else is going
Speaker 1: to take control of this life for me. And I
Speaker 1: decided to book in for my consult with Cheryl. So
Speaker 1: one of the things that I found so incredible about
Speaker 1: that chat with Ryl is, like I guess, it was
Speaker 1: this understanding that going and freezing your eggs, even if
Speaker 1: you don't freeze your eggs, just going and speaking to
Speaker 1: someone who is a fertility expert if you think maybe
Speaker 1: you want to have children in the future, if you're
Speaker 1: not sure you want to have children or not, but
Speaker 1: if you find that you're single in your mid thirties
Speaker 1: and you want to have the opportunity of choice. That
Speaker 1: was the thing that really struck me. She was like,
Speaker 1: you don't have to make the decision to freeze your eggs,
Speaker 1: but understanding what your options are gives you the agency
Speaker 1: of choice. Not knowing and not having those conversations only
Speaker 1: means that if you then decide when you're thirty eight
Speaker 1: or thirty nine or forty that you've met someone who
Speaker 1: you really want to have children with, it makes your
Speaker 1: decision making infinitely harder and maybe limits your choices. So
Speaker 1: I know that, like at that point when we had
Speaker 1: that interview, Britt, you hadn't met Jordan yet, you weren't together,
Speaker 1: you were completely single, and children for you hasn't necessarily
Speaker 1: been something that's like on your immediate radar. But I
Speaker 1: think i'd love you to explain kind of what your
Speaker 1: perception is and how you feel about having kids. That's right,
Speaker 1: Like the younger I was, I always thought I was
Speaker 1: going to have four kids, have a white picket, fans,
Speaker 1: the two dogs, live on the beach. That's the life
Speaker 1: I thought. And I just I'm one of four kids,
Speaker 1: and I always just thought my life would be exactly
Speaker 1: the same. And I love kids, my nieces and nephews,
Speaker 1: love my friend's children. And the older I got, and
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's because I was single for
Speaker 1: so long that my brain just subconsciously started to plan
Speaker 1: a different journey for me. But the older I got,
Speaker 1: the longer I was single, I started to think maybe
Speaker 1: it wasn't for me. And at the start, that was
Speaker 1: really really hard because I didn't feel like I was
Speaker 1: making that decision. I feel like life was making that
Speaker 1: decision for me. And I I remember saying to you, Laura,
Speaker 1: like I remember getting upset with my sister, saying, you know, crying,
Speaker 1: being like, it's not for me. Life doesn't want to
Speaker 1: give me a partner. Life doesn't want me to have
Speaker 1: the happy family. Life doesn't want me to have children.
Speaker 1: And I was looking at that completely the wrong way.
Speaker 1: And I know a lot of people out there right
Speaker 1: now that are single, that are in their late twenties,
Speaker 1: early thirties, forties, that are you know, don't have children,
Speaker 1: that they think the same thing. They think that because
Speaker 1: I don't have a partner, life doesn't want them, or
Speaker 1: life's plan is not to have children. But that is
Speaker 1: absolutely incorrect. And I think we're seeing people now like
Speaker 1: Natalie and Burullia just came out, she's in her forties,
Speaker 1: she just had a child on our own through IVF.
Speaker 1: You absolutely are in charge of your fertility journey. And
Speaker 1: the older I got, I started to sort of challenge
Speaker 1: my own thoughts and I realized that I actually if
Speaker 1: I had met I asked myself, if I'd met the
Speaker 1: right person right now and he wanted kids, would that
Speaker 1: make me happy? And would I do it? And the
Speaker 1: answer was no, I still wouldn't have had them. I
Speaker 1: just wasn't ready for it, and I wasn't one hundred
Speaker 1: percent sure. And the reason I decided to freeze my
Speaker 1: eggs was exactly what Laura just said. I wanted to
Speaker 1: know that I would have the option down the track
Speaker 1: if need be, because the fact is, when you freeze
Speaker 1: your eggs, your eggs are snap frozen in time at
Speaker 1: that age. So my eggs now, if I use them
Speaker 1: in ten years at forty three, there will still be
Speaker 1: the health of a thirty three year old egg. If
Speaker 1: the time comes and I can't fall pregnant naturally, there's
Speaker 1: a weight off my shoulders that I know that tucked
Speaker 1: away on ies, some little baby Brittanys that are waiting
Speaker 1: to be created. So that's I guess that's the why.
Speaker 1: And this is kind of relevant to your decision making.
Speaker 1: But does Jordan want to have children? I just want
Speaker 1: to say when I say it's irrelevant to your decision making,
Speaker 1: what I mean is is that even if Jordan decides
Speaker 1: he doesn't want to have children and you guys aren't
Speaker 1: together in the future, obviously that's not what you're hoping
Speaker 1: and not what we're expecting. But if you were single
Speaker 1: when you're forty and you decided to have children, I
Speaker 1: guess I want people to understand that if you're choosing
Speaker 1: to freeze your eggs, you don't need to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship. You have full autonomy and agency over your eggs.
Speaker 1: So I was very single when I chose to freeze
Speaker 1: my eggs. And this is the funny thing that I think.
Speaker 1: I booked my appointment a long time in advance for
Speaker 1: my first consultation, and I went to my consultation and
Speaker 1: it was a Friday. I'll never forget it. It was three
Speaker 1: pm on a Friday that I had this consult and
Speaker 1: I was like, one hundred percent, let's do this. Sign
Speaker 1: me up. Let's get the hormone injections ready. And then
Speaker 1: that night I met Jordan. That was when we had
Speaker 1: our first day. So the day that I finally was like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: I'm going down the track on my own. I'm going
Speaker 1: to do this whole journey on my own. I met
Speaker 1: Jordan that night, and most of you know, Jordan and
Speaker 1: I just fell head over heels in love from day one,
Speaker 1: and we started to spend every day together. So after
Speaker 1: about a week, it was really soon. I just told
Speaker 1: him what was happening because I knew that I was
Speaker 1: going to start these injections. It's something that you couldn't
Speaker 1: really hide from your partner, and I didn't want to
Speaker 1: hide it. The older I get, the more confident I
Speaker 1: get in who I am and what I want to do,
Speaker 1: and that people that want to be my life need
Speaker 1: to be a part of my life as it is,
Speaker 1: instead of I'm not going to change your decision because
Speaker 1: i've met someone. So I remember, we're at Bondi Beach,
Speaker 1: We're going for a walk and I told him, I said, so,
Speaker 1: I'm about to freeze my eggs. He's like, what does
Speaker 1: that mean. I was like, well, I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm thirty three. He was twenty six, so there was
Speaker 1: a big difference. I said, I'm thirty three. My eggs,
Speaker 1: I don't have that many eggs. He's like, what do
Speaker 1: you mean you have like two hundred thousand of them?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, you don't. I was like, you
Speaker 1: originally do one day and then I explained it to
Speaker 1: him a little bit and I was like, oh, is
Speaker 1: this going to scare him off because he thinks I
Speaker 1: just want to settle down and have kids now. And
Speaker 1: he didn't really say anything. We didn't have a big
Speaker 1: conversation about it. We just changed the subject. And then
Speaker 1: the next day he came back and he's like, so
Speaker 1: I've done a lot of research in the last twenty
Speaker 1: four hours. And he went away and he researched on
Speaker 1: his own so that he would come back and have
Speaker 1: a proper conversation about it, and I was so thankful
Speaker 1: for that. He just asked a lot of questions. He said,
Speaker 1: I understand now why you want to do it. I'm
Speaker 1: completely encouraging of it. But he's like, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I want kids. He's like, I just want to
Speaker 1: tell you that straight up, and I said, well, I
Speaker 1: think that I do want kids, so I want you
Speaker 1: to know that. And then we had to have a
Speaker 1: conversation on whether we even continue dating. If he was
Speaker 1: a strong no, and I'm a strong yes, but neither
Speaker 1: of us are strong on either. He would be probably
Speaker 1: leaning more towards not kids for like another ten years,
Speaker 1: whereas I'm like, I definitely have to have kids before then.
Speaker 1: So the best thing that we could have done in
Speaker 1: this situation is freezer eggs because if in ten years
Speaker 1: time we do want to have a child and I
Speaker 1: can't anymore, I've got those there. So he was really
Speaker 1: great about it, and we had a lot of people
Speaker 1: running in saying they're in new relationships and they don't
Speaker 1: know how to broach it with their partner. They ask
Speaker 1: for advice on what to do. Is it going to
Speaker 1: turn them off? Is it too much too soon? And
Speaker 1: I just think the best thing you can do is
Speaker 1: be honest. Just because you're take you're making the decision
Speaker 1: to freeze your eggs doesn't mean you're trying to lock
Speaker 1: someone down and have a baby with him in a week.
Speaker 1: In fact, it's the opposite. It's you trying to say
Speaker 1: to them, I don't want this right now, but I
Speaker 1: want to have it later. If you're going to have
Speaker 1: a conversation with someone and they're gonna run the other
Speaker 1: day direction, I just think they're not the right person
Speaker 1: for you. And I really do believe that. So if
Speaker 1: any of you are in that situation now where you're like,
Speaker 1: I don't know how to approach him, he's going to
Speaker 1: think it's too much. It's absolutely not too much. It
Speaker 1: is your life, and if they want to be a
Speaker 1: part of your life, they need to understand what you're
Speaker 1: going through and why you're going through it. So I
Speaker 1: think you just need to have the conversation. I want
Speaker 1: one hundred percent agree. And I also think that as women,
Speaker 1: as we get older, you do need to be vocal
Speaker 1: about what you want in your life because, like I mean,
Speaker 1: and I've heard it so many times, I did it myself.
Speaker 1: I was in a relationship for six years with someone
Speaker 1: who didn't want to marry me and didn't want to
Speaker 1: have kids with me, and nothing fucking changed. Like that's
Speaker 1: the thing, right, we can we can be so fearful
Speaker 1: about saying the wrong thing or coming across as though
Speaker 1: what we want in life doesn't match up and that
Speaker 1: person leaving. You know, there's fear about being left or
Speaker 1: being abandoned, but if what you want isn't on the
Speaker 1: same path, you're never gonna get there. You're not going
Speaker 1: to just convince them one day. If they've shown you
Speaker 1: time and time again that you know, maybe what you
Speaker 1: guys want in the long run isn't compatible, then I
Speaker 1: really think that those hard conversations have to be had
Speaker 1: as early as possible, so that way you're not wasting
Speaker 1: time on someone who doesn't want the same things as you.
Speaker 1: In hindsight, if I didn't meet Jordan, I would have
Speaker 1: frozen my eggs months ago. The reason I waited so
Speaker 1: long because I ended up waiting probably nearly four months
Speaker 1: between the consult and Cherylfoire my doctor, she said, look,
Speaker 1: you can wait up to six months. That's fine, She's like,
Speaker 1: your eggs will still be the same in six months.
Speaker 1: I knew that I had then had a limited time
Speaker 1: with Jordan, and I didn't want to spend a few
Speaker 1: weeks three to four weeks just feeling shitty whilst I
Speaker 1: was on these hormones injections. I just wanted to enjoy
Speaker 1: our time together. So I guess we should start right
Speaker 1: at the beginning, like after you've had this consultation with
Speaker 1: doctor Cherylfire, when you actually made the decision to go
Speaker 1: down this process of egg freezing. Can you tell me
Speaker 1: what that process was like? And also how did you
Speaker 1: find out what the quality of your eggs will like?
Speaker 1: So I guess to start with, you have to get
Speaker 1: blood tests done and an ultrasound, and that's like base
Speaker 1: level fertility tests. You get a blood test to test
Speaker 1: your AMH level. Now, your AMH level is anti malarian
Speaker 1: hormone and that is a hormone that is secreted by
Speaker 1: your ovarian follicles. So essentially, the higher the level of
Speaker 1: your AMH, the more follicles aka potential eggs that you have,
Speaker 1: So you want to get a high number. That's literally
Speaker 1: just a blood test. You just you can go to
Speaker 1: your GP and you can say, hey, I want to
Speaker 1: test my fertility. Let's do this, and ninety nine percent
Speaker 1: of gps will encourage you to do that and they'll
Speaker 1: give you the blood test. Then you need to have
Speaker 1: an ultrasound, an internal ultrasound, so trans vaginal. That means
Speaker 1: the probe goes in your vagina. If anyone hasn't had
Speaker 1: that before, I mean if you've had babies and all
Speaker 1: that kind of thing, you would have had it. The
Speaker 1: probe goes in your vagina and they literally just count
Speaker 1: the follicles that you've got. So my AMH was thirteen,
Speaker 1: and so that shows that my follicle count is thirteen.
Speaker 1: This is actually not that abnormal for my age. So
Speaker 1: it's not like the best reading that you want. It's
Speaker 1: not the highest reading you want. But what Cheryl told
Speaker 1: me is it's pretty standardized for my age for thirty three.
Speaker 1: And that is the whole reason that people will encourage
Speaker 1: people above the thirties to go and get these tests
Speaker 1: because you can be I know how healthy I am.
Speaker 1: I don't do drugs, I don't smoke. I've always treated
Speaker 1: my body well. And the fact of the matter is
Speaker 1: there's nothing you can do to prolong the health of
Speaker 1: your eggs in women, they just deteriorate. So this AMH
Speaker 1: level of thirteen and follicle of thirteen, these don't predict
Speaker 1: the chance of falling pregnant naturally, but the chance of
Speaker 1: falling pregnant is more linked to your eight. So I
Speaker 1: was given a chance. Cheryl told me in the office
Speaker 1: when all my blood test results came back and all
Speaker 1: my follicles. She sat me down and she said, look,
Speaker 1: you have about a fifteen percent chance of falling pregnant naturally.
Speaker 1: And I was gobsmacked. I was like, fifteen percent, I
Speaker 1: mean fifteen percent every month is really quite low. And
Speaker 1: I was very upset. I was like, this is not
Speaker 1: what I expected. I thought you were going to say
Speaker 1: that I had a really healthy body, that everything was great,
Speaker 1: and I would be able to just go and pop
Speaker 1: out some eggs and put them on ice. How did
Speaker 1: you process that when you were told that your fertility
Speaker 1: wasn't what you expected. It was really hard. I hadn't
Speaker 1: met Jordan yet. I went to the console on my
Speaker 1: own because I just didn't expect to get any bad news.
Speaker 1: And it wasn't bad news. I don't want to say
Speaker 1: it's bad news, but I wasn't expecting a fifteen percent
Speaker 1: chance of natural pregnancy. It was really hard. I cried.
Speaker 1: I got really upset because I immediately went and I
Speaker 1: don't know why, because I'm not usually like this and
Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting it, but I immediately went down the
Speaker 1: thought track of you're never going to have a baby,
Speaker 1: your fertility is low, you don't have a boyfriend. It's
Speaker 1: not on your cards, like you're going to be alone.
Speaker 1: And then I got you know, when like one thing's
Speaker 1: really bad in your head, it's like a snowball. I
Speaker 1: was like, not only are you not gonna have a baby,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be forever alone. No one's gonna love you,
Speaker 1: no one's gonna date you, You're never gonna have a family.
Speaker 1: And I just I got so down on myself and
Speaker 1: I went home and I didn't tell anyone for a
Speaker 1: little while, oh, for like twenty four hours. I told
Speaker 1: my sister Sherry the next day, and she was really
Speaker 1: good too. She's like, that's all right, let's just get
Speaker 1: those eggs on ice, which is exactly the response you
Speaker 1: want from someone in your life if you tell them that.
Speaker 1: You don't want anyone to sort of feel sorry for you,
Speaker 1: or you just want someone to say that's cool, that's normal.
Speaker 1: Let's just do what we have to do, and that's
Speaker 1: all there is. All you can do is go and
Speaker 1: do what you have to do and put them on ice. Now,
Speaker 1: what Cheryl did say that did make me feel better
Speaker 1: when I spoke to her again after, because I was
Speaker 1: so upset. She's like Britt to be honest, like she's like,
Speaker 1: it's pretty normal for your age. It's just one of
Speaker 1: those things that's unfortunate. There's nothing wrong with you. I
Speaker 1: had no CIS, I had no end. Demetrio says, I
Speaker 1: had nothing inside of me. The only thing that was
Speaker 1: against me was my age. I remember this time. I
Speaker 1: remember when you got that first news that your fertility
Speaker 1: was at fifteen percent, and I remember how upset you were.
Speaker 1: And I think that for anybody like that comes as
Speaker 1: such a shock because you know, you always hear about
Speaker 1: those cases where people just seem to get pregnant so easy,
Speaker 1: and that for me, like we've had conversations about miscarriage
Speaker 1: on this podcast, It's fertility has been like a constant
Speaker 1: running conversation on this podcast because it's so important to
Speaker 1: talk about how fucking hard it can be for some
Speaker 1: people and how challenging it can be to actually fell
Speaker 1: pregnant and have that family. Because I think we see
Speaker 1: so much that it's like it looks easy. Social media
Speaker 1: makes it look easy. Every fucking day there's a pregnancy announcement.
Speaker 1: And I even remember when we announced that we were
Speaker 1: having Maley. It was really important to us to talk
Speaker 1: about the fact that we had had a miscarriage, because
Speaker 1: I would hate for somebody else who is struggling with
Speaker 1: their pregnancy to see another happy pregnancy announcement and think
Speaker 1: it's so fucking easy for them, because for a lot
Speaker 1: of women it isn't. And I think that this whole
Speaker 1: concept of egg freezing and being able to have some
Speaker 1: choice and being able to just know what's going on
Speaker 1: in your body is so powerful because without knowledge, you
Speaker 1: can't make the best decision for yourself. So let's get
Speaker 1: into the actual practical and physical side of it, because
Speaker 1: I don't think people are aware of how physically demanding
Speaker 1: actually collecting the eggs is. And I know that it
Speaker 1: was a process that was really full on for you.
Speaker 1: You had to inject yourself every day. There was a
Speaker 1: lot of hormone treatment that is involved in this. Could
Speaker 1: you talk us through the process that you had to
Speaker 1: go through every day so that your eggs could actually
Speaker 1: be collected. Yeah, And just in addition to what you
Speaker 1: just said, it was really important for me to talk
Speaker 1: to people about it because it made me feel better.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to sit in my room and dwell
Speaker 1: on it and think the worst, which I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people don't want to rely on their friends
Speaker 1: and family, or they don't want to put pressure on them,
Speaker 1: or they don't want to bother them. But I think
Speaker 1: it's really important to talk about it. I was, and
Speaker 1: I don't want to stay lucky because it's not lucky.
Speaker 1: But my girlfriend, Renee, like I said, she was literally
Speaker 1: injecting herself at the same time that I was, so
Speaker 1: that was quite nice for us to be able to
Speaker 1: both talk to each other about how are you feeling?
Speaker 1: Did you get this feeling? And then she had done
Speaker 1: already around of it before me, so she's like, what
Speaker 1: your feeling is normal? Hanging there tomorrow is going to
Speaker 1: be worse. It was just really nice to have someone
Speaker 1: to go through that with and talk to about it.
Speaker 1: But the two week hormone injections are, in all honesty,
Speaker 1: not what I expected. And now I want to say
Speaker 1: that they are different for everybody. So what I'm going
Speaker 1: to tell you now is my experience. Some people might
Speaker 1: feel ten times worse, some people might feel ten times better.
Speaker 1: Normal symptoms are like fatigue and headaches and weight gain.
Speaker 1: And when I say weight gain, it's not actual weight gain,
Speaker 1: it's just you get very heavy in your lower abdomen,
Speaker 1: like it's like a period on steroids, So you get
Speaker 1: a lot of pain and heaviness and you swell a lot.
Speaker 1: So a lot of people can look a couple of
Speaker 1: months pregnant, but it all goes away at the end. Now,
Speaker 1: from my experience, you start injecting. The normal cycle is
Speaker 1: fourteen days of injections, and every couple of days you
Speaker 1: might introduce another injection. So I went from starting at
Speaker 1: one injection and I ended up being doing three injections
Speaker 1: a day. That is individual to you, so that is
Speaker 1: what you're doing, will tell you you need, and that
Speaker 1: is based off your constant ultrasounds and blood tests. So
Speaker 1: egg freezing is quite demanding. You need to be available
Speaker 1: time wise. Every two days, I had to go into
Speaker 1: the city to the clinic, and it's very time sensitive.
Speaker 1: So it can't be like, oh, I'm busy today, can
Speaker 1: I go tomorrow? I'm busy now, can I come tonight.
Speaker 1: You have to go when they tell you to in
Speaker 1: the morning, because I can't believe how much your body
Speaker 1: is like a clock and timing is imperative. So every
Speaker 1: two days you go back in for a blood test
Speaker 1: and another internal ultrasound and off those readings, it determines
Speaker 1: are your follicles responding to the hormones, how much they're
Speaker 1: responding to the hormones, what your levels are at, and
Speaker 1: that depends if you need more or less of the
Speaker 1: injections that you're giving yourself. So my follicles weren't responding
Speaker 1: very well. Some of them were, Some of them are growing.
Speaker 1: They measure them so amazing, so they measure them and
Speaker 1: they grow so much. Over an a lot of mine
Speaker 1: went responding, which is why I went a couple of
Speaker 1: days extra and I had some more injections at the end,
Speaker 1: just to really pump them through. So the first two
Speaker 1: days I got a really bad headache, Like I'm talking,
Speaker 1: one of the worst ones I've ever had, And they
Speaker 1: do warn you of that. They're like, the first two
Speaker 1: days is a really bad headache. I was in bed,
Speaker 1: I was light sensitive, I was taking painkillers. It was
Speaker 1: really bad. Then it just went and I didn't get
Speaker 1: another headache for the two weeks. First five days I
Speaker 1: called up the fertility clinic and I let no joke.
Speaker 1: I said, I don't think I'm injecting it properly. I'm
Speaker 1: worried that's not going in. She was like, what do
Speaker 1: you mean. I was like, I don't feel anything. I'd
Speaker 1: feel one hundred percent fine. Life was normal. I didn't
Speaker 1: feel one thing. She's like, that's normal. She's like not
Speaker 1: everyone feels everything. And I was like, this is great.
Speaker 1: What's everyone talking about. I'm having a wonderful time. And
Speaker 1: then the second week came and oh my god, everything
Speaker 1: just changed and I was Laurie probably remember. I was
Speaker 1: just like crying and everything. I was so emotional. Everything
Speaker 1: feels like the world's against you. I would cry it
Speaker 1: and add on TV. I was at Jordan all the time,
Speaker 1: like I were having arguments on the phone. I was like,
Speaker 1: you don't love me, You're giving me enough attention. He's like,
Speaker 1: whoa brude. He's like, He's like, everything's I'm exactly the
Speaker 1: same as I was yesterday. What are you talking about?
Speaker 1: And I was just so needy and so emotional. And
Speaker 1: I knew that as well. So I would have this
Speaker 1: fight with Jordan and then I would call him back
Speaker 1: and I'd say, I'm sorry, it's the hormones. He's like,
Speaker 1: I know it was really fine because he've done his
Speaker 1: own research as well. But the hormones. The feelings you get,
Speaker 1: like the sadness and the tears are a real thing,
Speaker 1: and it was it was really crazy to experience, I imagine,
Speaker 1: and I can't. I don't know, but you can tell me.
Speaker 1: I imagine it's like pregnancy. I imagine it's like those
Speaker 1: early feelings when you get rushed with these hormones. I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess I can compare it to when like the
Speaker 1: couple of days before I get my period. I'm like, such,
Speaker 1: and I know that this is like that on literally
Speaker 1: on steroids, on hormones. Yeah, like actual stone. But like
Speaker 1: I remember time, and I think you know this is
Speaker 1: actually I'm learning so much from speaking to you about
Speaker 1: this because I remember this time. I remember when you
Speaker 1: were going through this, and I was like, why is
Speaker 1: Britt being so sensitive? Like I didn't know this. We
Speaker 1: for everyone listening, like we had probably our first actual
Speaker 1: argument at during that period, and it was like, I
Speaker 1: wish I had better understood what you were going through,
Speaker 1: Like and it wasn't an argument in that, you know,
Speaker 1: of course, like fuck with like sisters guys, we arguing
Speaker 1: that we make up five minutes later, like nothing changes,
Speaker 1: but it was you weren't you. You were very sensitive.
Speaker 1: I think, like normally nothing really phases you, like you're
Speaker 1: very go with the flow, and when somebody has such
Speaker 1: a shift in their personality, I guess it's hard to understand.
Speaker 1: And also we hadn't had a lot of conversations around
Speaker 1: what the hormones were actually going to do to you
Speaker 1: and how you were going to respond to them. So
Speaker 1: I'm learning this now from having this conversation with you.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that that's how strongly you were affected
Speaker 1: by it. I didn't realize you were so sad, Like
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry that I wasn't more aware of that
Speaker 1: at the time. I mean, like, you don't have to
Speaker 1: apologize it was I probably didn't tell you either, but
Speaker 1: I am very much I don't want to put anything
Speaker 1: on other people. I don't want to cause a problem.
Speaker 1: But I didn't realize how much it would affect me.
Speaker 1: Otherwise I would have told you. I honestly was expecting nothing.
Speaker 1: And then one day I woke up in a wave
Speaker 1: of emotions, like anyone could speak to me, and I
Speaker 1: was in tears. I was just beside myself all the time.
Speaker 1: And that's like you just said, that's not me in
Speaker 1: my relationships. I'm going with the flow in work relationships
Speaker 1: and go with the flow all the time. Not a
Speaker 1: lot stresses me out, but yeah, it was fucking crazy. Man.
Speaker 1: It was like I would just sit in my lound
Speaker 1: room and cry and nothing. I was just actually I
Speaker 1: would sit there. I remember this one day and I
Speaker 1: took a video of it because I was going to
Speaker 1: put this whole highlight to reel up and explanation on
Speaker 1: my stories for Instagram, to answer everyone's questions before I
Speaker 1: decided just to do the podcast because there was just
Speaker 1: too much information. But I was just sitting there and
Speaker 1: I remember I got a message was like some bad news,
Speaker 1: but no, it wasn't bad news. It was news, it
Speaker 1: wasn't bad. And I remember just hysterics. I was sobbing
Speaker 1: and I couldn't breathe. And I remember recording it just
Speaker 1: to point out, like, guys, this is what I'm this
Speaker 1: is what's happening to me right now, and I can
Speaker 1: tell you right now there's no reason for me to
Speaker 1: be doing this. I just I remember I wanted to
Speaker 1: note that. I was like, you should not be crying
Speaker 1: right now. But I was beside myself, and I think
Speaker 1: it's important to give yourself enough space. If you're going
Speaker 1: to freeze your eggs, you need to be aware that
Speaker 1: this can happen, and make sure your schedule's pretty free.
Speaker 1: You're gonna want to just be cruising around the house,
Speaker 1: not having a lot of places to go. Don't be
Speaker 1: booking things in with people. And I think it's really
Speaker 1: important to tell people around you what you're doing and
Speaker 1: what might happen, because there'll be a lot more understanding
Speaker 1: when you burst out into tears. You know, it's such
Speaker 1: an unfair thing because I think that you know, if
Speaker 1: you're going through the process of egg freezing, in one
Speaker 1: side of it, it's very empowering because you're taking that
Speaker 1: agency and you're having that choice. But on the other side, like,
Speaker 1: it is incredibly emotional, It is personal, and there are
Speaker 1: these other feelings that are loaded into it. Maybe you
Speaker 1: haven't met that person yet, maybe you're unsure as to
Speaker 1: whether you're going to have children on your own or
Speaker 1: with someone. Like there's a lot of unknown and that
Speaker 1: can be really fucking scary as well. So then to
Speaker 1: think that you're already dealing with these big emotions and
Speaker 1: then to just turbocharge it with a bit of hormones.
Speaker 1: Seems incredibly unfair to have to process all of that
Speaker 1: in one go, So you have to inject yourself every day.
Speaker 1: Can you talk me through once your follicles are actually
Speaker 1: at an optimal level, what happens then? How do they
Speaker 1: actually go about collecting the eggs and what is the
Speaker 1: process once they have collected the eggs? You inject yourself
Speaker 1: every single day you're right, and then after a few
Speaker 1: days you're adding another injection and that is all very
Speaker 1: time sensitive, so the same time every day. A lot
Speaker 1: of people ask if you can still go to work.
Speaker 1: Do you have to take time off work. You don't
Speaker 1: have to. If you can, great because you might feel
Speaker 1: really shitty or at least the second week. But you
Speaker 1: do have to be accessible to go to your appointments
Speaker 1: in the morning, which is usually between seven and nine
Speaker 1: from most clinics. You have to be accessible for that,
Speaker 1: and you have to be able to inject yourself at
Speaker 1: the same time every day. So I picked lunch time,
Speaker 1: so mine was about twelve o'clock every single day because
Speaker 1: for me that was easy. I could get up, go
Speaker 1: for a walk, do my work in the morning, and
Speaker 1: when I had my lunch. I just knew that I
Speaker 1: would remember to inject myself. In terms of injecting yourself,
Speaker 1: it's not painless, but it's not painful. I don't want
Speaker 1: anyone to be scared of it. Now. I know. I
Speaker 1: work in the hospital and I inject people. I found
Speaker 1: it very easy. I know a lot of people don't,
Speaker 1: but I don't want you to be scared of if
Speaker 1: it hurts, because it really doesn't. You just get a
Speaker 1: little bit of fat. The needle is so skinny, like
Speaker 1: it's so thin, and then you don't even really feel
Speaker 1: maybe the second injection, I did you feel it going in,
Speaker 1: But otherwise it's so quick and easy. The way that
Speaker 1: they give you the medications is fool proof, like you
Speaker 1: draw up exactly the amount you need. You can't really
Speaker 1: make mistakes. So I don't want anyone to be scared
Speaker 1: of that. At the end of the second week, you
Speaker 1: do start to get really bloated, and I'll put some
Speaker 1: stories up on my Instagram to show you guys. I'll
Speaker 1: put some on the lifelin cart Instagram as well. But
Speaker 1: I didn't get nearly as bloated as I've seen a
Speaker 1: lot of other people, because you know, a lot of
Speaker 1: people share photos of themselves. There's a lot of forums
Speaker 1: and things like that. I was lucky I didn't get
Speaker 1: that swollen. You do get a lot of fluid retention
Speaker 1: and things like that, but you've got to remember your
Speaker 1: follicles inside you are literally swollen. The whole point is
Speaker 1: that they're growing, so all of a sudden, you have
Speaker 1: twenty follicles in you that are taking up extra space,
Speaker 1: so they have to have somewhere to go. I know
Speaker 1: that this is something that it's like a cruel irony
Speaker 1: of IVF as well. You know IVF and also egg
Speaker 1: freezing is that a lot of women do have bloating
Speaker 1: and it's around the area where you put on side
Speaker 1: when you first get pregnant. And for a lot of people,
Speaker 1: it's this irony of like, you're not pregnant, you're going
Speaker 1: through fertility issues, or you're working through your own fertility,
Speaker 1: and yet you're having some of the symptoms and side
Speaker 1: effects of what you would if you're pregnant, And the
Speaker 1: cruel irony of that, I know can be emotionally really
Speaker 1: hard for some people to actually process and deal with.
Speaker 1: I had a girlfriend who went through IVF, and she
Speaker 1: said that was one of the hardest things, was like
Speaker 1: feeling like she looked like she was pregnant, feeling those
Speaker 1: changes to her body, and knowing that she didn't have
Speaker 1: a baby, which is what she so desperately wanted. And
Speaker 1: I think that, like brit said earlier, like there's so
Speaker 1: many parts of this that can be a really emotional
Speaker 1: journey for someone. So I don't know if this is
Speaker 1: typical for egg freezing, but I imagine this is what
Speaker 1: it was like to be pregnant. But the hormones. I
Speaker 1: went off a lot of food that I would usually love,
Speaker 1: and I was wanting to eat a lot of food
Speaker 1: that I wouldn't usually eat, but like things that I
Speaker 1: would have every day, coffee, certain smells, and pastas. I
Speaker 1: was really off them and I didn't get it at
Speaker 1: the start, and then after a few days I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I think this is probably from the hormones, because they're
Speaker 1: doing the same thing as when you're early pregnancy. So
Speaker 1: I think that whether that was just me, whether a
Speaker 1: lot of people experienced that, I don't know. It was
Speaker 1: something else I had. But the day before the biggest
Speaker 1: change for me, the day before collection, when your follicles
Speaker 1: are at their absolute biggest because they've just been stockpiled
Speaker 1: to the shit house with hormones. I went for a
Speaker 1: walk in the morning with Sherry. I remember seeing Matt
Speaker 1: actually halfway on the walk. I went for a walk
Speaker 1: with Sherry. I left my house and walked to the
Speaker 1: beach and it was fine, and then it just hit me.
Speaker 1: I could on the way back the pain was excruciating.
Speaker 1: I couldn't. Every single step was jarring. And this is
Speaker 1: just what happens when your follyicles are at capacity. You
Speaker 1: can literally feel them like bouncing around and you're abdomen
Speaker 1: just had to go home and crawl into a ball.
Speaker 1: I was walking. They call it like the pregnancy wattle.
Speaker 1: You know, when you're pregnant you have to waddle into
Speaker 1: the hospital. You can't walk properly. You do that when
Speaker 1: you are at collection day. You can't walk properly. Every
Speaker 1: bump in the car hurts, every step hurts. To touch
Speaker 1: your abdomen hurt. It was so highly sensitive. I was
Speaker 1: really gobsmacked at that. I did not expect that at all.
Speaker 1: But that is one thing that I really want to
Speaker 1: drive home to people is you can probably work most
Speaker 1: of it, but in the last few days, I would
Speaker 1: one hundred percent. You recommend you're taking that time off work,
Speaker 1: So how do they actually collect the eggs? So I
Speaker 1: was actually put under So most places at Jeneia, you
Speaker 1: can choose whether you want to be put under anesthetic
Speaker 1: or you want to just get an anesthetic put into
Speaker 1: your vagina so that the area is numb. I just
Speaker 1: chose to be knocked out. I was like, I do
Speaker 1: not want it needle going into my cervix while I'm awake.
Speaker 1: But that's also a difference in price to what you
Speaker 1: decide if you decide to anesthesia or not. Not all
Speaker 1: clinics will offer the choice. I do know this. Jenea
Speaker 1: offered it, but not all of them will do it.
Speaker 1: Some will only have one option. But they essentially, and
Speaker 1: this is I'm not going to get technical, but they
Speaker 1: basically put they just like a little vacuum slip and slide.
Speaker 1: It's like a little I think of it like a
Speaker 1: slipper dip. But I remember when they were telling me,
Speaker 1: I was like, they just put it straight into the
Speaker 1: source and they just like slightly suck the eggs out
Speaker 1: and then they immediately check on the spot. There's a
Speaker 1: I'm sure she's not called a scientist. I don't know
Speaker 1: her official name, but there's someone in the clinic with
Speaker 1: a microscope ready, and the eggs literally come straight out.
Speaker 1: They go straight into a peatra dish and they check
Speaker 1: to see which ones are at full growth and which
Speaker 1: ones are healthy enough to be frozen on the spot.
Speaker 1: So it's very very quick, and I think the whole
Speaker 1: thing was like half an hour that you're in the
Speaker 1: operating theater and then you wake up, you don't remember anything,
Speaker 1: and you go home. Can you tell us how many
Speaker 1: eggs of yours were collected and what was the quality
Speaker 1: of the eggs once they had actually been able to
Speaker 1: extract them? So we were expecting. They really want to
Speaker 1: manage expectations, and I think that's a really great thing.
Speaker 1: They don't want to give you any false hope. They
Speaker 1: don't want to talk it down too much. But she said, look,
Speaker 1: if we can get eight eggs on ice, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be happy, because you might get ten eggs taken out.
Speaker 1: Then they go into the little petri dish, you look
Speaker 1: at them under the microscope, and five of them are good,
Speaker 1: and five of them are They're not always all good.
Speaker 1: So she's like I'd be aiming for eight. If we
Speaker 1: can get eight, I'll be stoked. And I was like, great,
Speaker 1: eight chances, I would be so happy. And when I
Speaker 1: woke up, we got fifteen baby Britneys, So that was
Speaker 1: like beyond anything I could have hoped for. What that
Speaker 1: meant is fifteen of them were healthy enough to be frozen.
Speaker 1: That does not mean that all of them will survive
Speaker 1: defrosting come the time. So there's always a chance that
Speaker 1: some of the eggs when it's time to put them
Speaker 1: to use them, whether that's ibir or however you want
Speaker 1: to do it, not all of them will always survive.
Speaker 1: So the more that you can get frozen, the more
Speaker 1: chances you have. So I got fifteen. What that meant
Speaker 1: is I don't have to do another cycle. So if
Speaker 1: you only get a few eggs on ice, if I
Speaker 1: only got three or four, I probably would have done
Speaker 1: another cycle again to make sure I could, you know,
Speaker 1: try and get another three or four. So I had
Speaker 1: more tweets down the track. But I've got fifteen. One
Speaker 1: hit wonder and I'm not going to do it again.
Speaker 1: How many cycles can someone do if they find that
Speaker 1: they're not getting the right amount of eggs or a
Speaker 1: high number of eggs, because I do remember when we
Speaker 1: did that interview with doctor Cheryl, she said that it
Speaker 1: was around twenty percent that can be damaged in the
Speaker 1: defrosting process. How many rounds can you essentially do before
Speaker 1: or is that a completely personal decision? I mean, look, essentially,
Speaker 1: you can do as many as you want. As long
Speaker 1: as you're producing eggs, you can go through another cycle.
Speaker 1: I think what's more stopping people is the emotional toll
Speaker 1: it can take. Financially, Obviously, every single cycle costs you.
Speaker 1: Cost was a really big question here, so a lot
Speaker 1: of people saying what is the general cost from start
Speaker 1: to finish that people can expect? Is it different for everyone?
Speaker 1: What does that depend on? Then what is the cost
Speaker 1: of storage? So I really wanted to make sure of
Speaker 1: this one, so I went back to Geneia and I
Speaker 1: just said, tell me how it works for everyone? What
Speaker 1: are the options? Because the fact is cost is a
Speaker 1: really big thing for a lot of people, and a
Speaker 1: lot of people that freeze their eggs are single people,
Speaker 1: so they might not have two people's incomes to work with.
Speaker 1: They might have, you know, higher bills to pay higher
Speaker 1: living expenses, so I'm going to break down there's probably
Speaker 1: three main costs, and like there's a bit numbery here
Speaker 1: and a bit of word vomit, but it's important that
Speaker 1: you know what you're paying for. Again, every clinic is
Speaker 1: going to be different. I can only tell you about
Speaker 1: the clinic that I went through and the experience that
Speaker 1: I went through. So for me, the first cycle of
Speaker 1: egg freezing with Jinea costs four thousand, six hundred dollars.
Speaker 1: Now this includes the cycle cost, the freezing and six
Speaker 1: month storage, so that's four thousand, six hundred. But then
Speaker 1: on top of that you need to pay medication costs,
Speaker 1: which are about fifteen hundred dollars, and I say about
Speaker 1: that's different for everyone. It depends on what medication you need.
Speaker 1: And then fifteen hundred and twenty nine dollars for the
Speaker 1: day surgery fee. So that's the actual extraction fee. So
Speaker 1: we have four thousand, six hundred, fifteen hundred and fifteen
Speaker 1: hundred and twenty nine. So that just so you know,
Speaker 1: that equals seven, six hundred and twenty nine dollars. That
Speaker 1: is just for this clinic alone. Everywhere is going to
Speaker 1: be different. What I would say is you need to
Speaker 1: remember a few things. You need to factor a few
Speaker 1: things into that price. So you've got your seven, six
Speaker 1: hundred and twenty nine, but you do need to pay
Speaker 1: storage on top of that after that six months fee.
Speaker 1: So the storage on top of that is forty five
Speaker 1: dollars a month. I mean to me, I worked that
Speaker 1: out to be a bit like a coffee a day.
Speaker 1: But yeah, the surgery fee and the medication fee, they're
Speaker 1: the two fees that can't really be standardized because people
Speaker 1: need different amounts of medication and people are either going
Speaker 1: to be choose to be put under anesthesia for the
Speaker 1: procedure or they're going to choose not to be, and
Speaker 1: that's going to affect your price as well. It's not
Speaker 1: a small amount of money, and I know that a
Speaker 1: lot of people listening. It's a privilege to be able
Speaker 1: to make these decisions and these choices. But it is
Speaker 1: a payment that gives you peace of mind, you know,
Speaker 1: it's an investment that gives you peace of mind. Depending
Speaker 1: on where you're at in your own fertility journey. I
Speaker 1: think being able to have that choice in the future
Speaker 1: is going to be something that's really empowering for a
Speaker 1: lot of women. But maybe to be able to get
Speaker 1: yourself there. You have to think, Okay, I'm going to
Speaker 1: save ten thousand dollars and have that money set aside
Speaker 1: and know that that's what you're going to be investing
Speaker 1: it into. And I think fertility is one of those
Speaker 1: things that, unfortunately, for a lot of people, there are
Speaker 1: a lot of hidden costs. There are a lot of
Speaker 1: hidden costs around having kids, There are a lot of
Speaker 1: hidden costs around IVF, and for every single person, that
Speaker 1: experience can be very, very different. Brit was it painful
Speaker 1: at all? Oh my god, the last day extraction, day
Speaker 1: in the day after is really painful. You can't walk.
Speaker 1: It's unlike anything I could have imagined. No one told
Speaker 1: me that either, so I didn't really expect that. People
Speaker 1: tell you you're uncomfortable, but I was beyond uncomfortable. I was.
Speaker 1: It was so hard to walk. So yeah, that was
Speaker 1: the only painful thing. The injections, again, they're like a
Speaker 1: little prick. Towards the end, you do sort of like
Speaker 1: this one. I can't remember the correct terminology, but you
Speaker 1: do one sort of. It's called a trigger shot, and
Speaker 1: it's to start ovulation so that you can they can
Speaker 1: and it's very time based. I had to get up
Speaker 1: at one am in the morning to do it. On
Speaker 1: the dot, you have to set three or because you
Speaker 1: cannot miss this or you've ruined everything. Mate, I can't
Speaker 1: even remember to take my contraceptive pill, let alone remember
Speaker 1: to get up at one in the morning and day
Speaker 1: fucking do you need me to start remember taking to
Speaker 1: take your contraception woman? But yeah, so like to get
Speaker 1: up at one am. That last trigger shot, it's only
Speaker 1: one that really hurt. That was the one that hurt
Speaker 1: the most, Like, not to the point that I couldn't
Speaker 1: do it, but I was like, this is shitty. This
Speaker 1: is a shitty, shitty needle. The other ones were like
Speaker 1: the other ones are piece of cake. I guess that
Speaker 1: that's one thing that people kind of It can be
Speaker 1: a barrier for people. It's being fearful about it being painful.
Speaker 1: Do you think even with everything that you went through,
Speaker 1: even with like the ups and downs of the hormones,
Speaker 1: even with feeling like it was really painful an extraction day,
Speaker 1: do you feel like it has been worth it this experience?
Speaker 1: One hundred percent. I'm so glad that I did it.
Speaker 1: I ended up with eighteen eggs, which only three were bad,
Speaker 1: so I got the fifteen frozen, and I honestly felt
Speaker 1: like the second I was told in the waiting room,
Speaker 1: in the recovery room that I had fifteen eggs, it
Speaker 1: was a weight off my shoulder. I was so high
Speaker 1: as well, like when they tell you you're still so
Speaker 1: high from the drivers. Anyway, if you watch my Instagram,
Speaker 1: you'll remember I ended up posting some sort of drug
Speaker 1: injuiced video. I'm so glad. I feel like I don't
Speaker 1: have to think about it anymore, because as a woman,
Speaker 1: you do. You think about it constantly. You're like, holy shit,
Speaker 1: I'm running out of time. What if when I do
Speaker 1: meet someone it's not gonna work. What if it's not easy.
Speaker 1: I'm seeing my friends struggle. I'm seeing my friends I
Speaker 1: have miscarriage. I'm seeing my friends go through IVF. Like
Speaker 1: we all know that it is very real. Fertility is
Speaker 1: not very easy for a lot of people, and a
Speaker 1: lot of people don't speak about that. I have so
Speaker 1: many friends that have had trouble with their pregnancies, and
Speaker 1: they're all healthy, and I'm not saying that to scare anyone.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of friends that have had babies
Speaker 1: really easily, too. The fact of the matter is we
Speaker 1: just don't know. So my advice is to you, if
Speaker 1: you're thinking about it, you don't have to jump into it,
Speaker 1: but just start the process. Just get that initial blood
Speaker 1: test and the initial ultrasound so that you can have
Speaker 1: the information you need to make the decision. That's all
Speaker 1: you need to do. You don't have to get down
Speaker 1: the track, you don't have to commit to anything, but
Speaker 1: you've got the information and that way, you know. I've
Speaker 1: spoken to a lot of people that I've gotten to
Speaker 1: forty realized that they can't have a baby anymore, and
Speaker 1: they're like, I wish I took the advice of other
Speaker 1: people when I was younger. I wish I frozed my
Speaker 1: exit in my thirties. I just didn't know because people
Speaker 1: weren't speaking about it. So if anything can come from
Speaker 1: this episode, it's that if it has been on your
Speaker 1: mind at all, or even if it hasn't, and now
Speaker 1: it is on your mind and in your late twenties,
Speaker 1: your early thirties, just get the blood test. Just go
Speaker 1: to the doctor, get the blood test, get the follical count,
Speaker 1: and then you're armed with all the information you need
Speaker 1: to make a decision and you won't have any regrets
Speaker 1: laid down the track. But I just want to say
Speaker 1: as well, like, I'm so proud of you for going
Speaker 1: and doing this and like sharing this experience and for
Speaker 1: making those choices for yourself. I know that last year
Speaker 1: this was something that was really weighing heavily on you.
Speaker 1: And obviously we share so much of our story with
Speaker 1: you guys, but I don't know if you shared the
Speaker 1: full extent of how much this had emotionally affected you,
Speaker 1: and especially before you met Jordan. I'm really fucking proud
Speaker 1: of you. It's something that you are never going to regret,
Speaker 1: and it's given you this peace of mind and this
Speaker 1: comfort that no matter what happens in the future, you're
Speaker 1: still going to be able to have that choice. And
Speaker 1: for that, like, I'm really grateful that you've been able
Speaker 1: to make that decision. I was like, Wow, that made
Speaker 1: me feel really great. No, and that is true, and
Speaker 1: I don't think I've even spoken about it on this
Speaker 1: episode yet, but for probably eighteen months, subconsciously and consciously,
Speaker 1: I was really down about it. I was, I mean,
Speaker 1: I was in my I'm heading towards my mid thirties,
Speaker 1: and everyone around me was having a baby, and I
Speaker 1: felt like I was the only person, or even if
Speaker 1: they weren't having a baby, they were trying, and it
Speaker 1: was really it was really hard to think that I
Speaker 1: was going to have this really lonely life and no
Speaker 1: one wanted to be with me. And I know that's
Speaker 1: not true now, but it's so easy for us as
Speaker 1: women to start to get really down on ourselves and
Speaker 1: feel like where the reason and what's wrong? And I
Speaker 1: had so many conversations with Laura where I was so upset,
Speaker 1: just saying, no one loves me. I'm never going to
Speaker 1: have a child, I'm never going to have what you have.
Speaker 1: And of course I see Laura more than anyone. She's
Speaker 1: got a beautiful family. You've got two kids that I
Speaker 1: was always around. You've been pregnant since I've met you,
Speaker 1: Like you're always pregnant. I don't know anyone that's like
Speaker 1: pregnant as much as you. And it was like it
Speaker 1: was fucking shit. I was, But you don't want people
Speaker 1: to feel sorry for you either. But it was a
Speaker 1: shitty couple of years where I was like, I just
Speaker 1: felt like a loser, and I don't know what other
Speaker 1: way to explain it. I was like, I'm a loser. No,
Speaker 1: I'm a loser. I'm unlovable. It's not meant for me.
Speaker 1: But I hope no one else feels that. And if
Speaker 1: you are, I wish I could snap you out of it,
Speaker 1: because it has nothing to do with you, and you
Speaker 1: are in control of taking control of a situation. So
Speaker 1: all I can say is, if it's on your mind,
Speaker 1: do yourself a favor and go and start the investigation. Okay,
Speaker 1: And I know that was a lot to digest it,
Speaker 1: but we are moving on to our second favorite segment,
Speaker 1: which is Suck and Sweet, the way we wrap every
Speaker 1: single episode our highlight now lowlight of the week. Laura,
Speaker 1: I'd feel like you're I mean, you're in perpetual lockdown.
Speaker 1: Is that your suck? I haven't left my house in
Speaker 1: four weeks. Yes, it's my suck. I am am drowning.
Speaker 1: I'm drowning in fucking baby lockdown, Sydney Hell. And also
Speaker 1: the fact that we're supposed to like Matt and I.
Speaker 1: You know, I know that everybody has had a lot
Speaker 1: and made a lot of sacrifices during these lockdowns, but
Speaker 1: like this midyear break for Britain and I, Matt and
Speaker 1: I was supposed to go to New Zealand. We were
Speaker 1: supposed to start planning our wedding, and everything got canceled
Speaker 1: and we've just pretty much taken our year break, which
Speaker 1: was this last four weeks, and spent it in our farm.
Speaker 1: I really hope you can still have your wedding. Fuck same, guys,
Speaker 1: it's same. I know. I know that there's so many
Speaker 1: people listening to these who have already had to postpone
Speaker 1: their weddings, but I think I might be in the
Speaker 1: same basket as you, So that's pretty crap. But like,
Speaker 1: do you know what, overall, even though we are in lockdown,
Speaker 1: even though we have been kind of like you know,
Speaker 1: having a bit of a tough week in that respect,
Speaker 1: it's one of the nice things that almost every day
Speaker 1: Matt and I are like, it's really nice that we
Speaker 1: love each other and therefore where it's kind of nice
Speaker 1: spending so much time together, Like there are worse people
Speaker 1: to be spending lockdown with the Matthew Johnson I have
Speaker 1: freaking loved And I'm going to tell you, my sweet
Speaker 1: I've actually got a couple of sweets, So Lockdown's my suck.
Speaker 1: My sweets are one. Lola has cut her first tooth,
Speaker 1: which is wild. Yes, she's like it feels like just
Speaker 1: yesterday when I did the episode where I've given birth.
Speaker 1: So now the fact that she has cut a tooth
Speaker 1: and she's dragging herself across the floor is crazy to me.
Speaker 1: And also, my sweet is just being back like I've
Speaker 1: loved doing the battery caps with Matt. I'm so happy
Speaker 1: that we're back to doing these episodes again. Even though
Speaker 1: this has worked for us, this is like such a
Speaker 1: highlight of every week. I fucking love bringing you guys
Speaker 1: these episodes, so I am so excited. We also had
Speaker 1: our two year birthday and we hit thirteen million downloads,
Speaker 1: so there are so many things to be excited about.
Speaker 1: And guys, we put our merchandise up and you guys
Speaker 1: bought it and sold it out in twenty minutes. You
Speaker 1: crashed the site and then we sold out, So I
Speaker 1: stoked that there are going to be so many you're
Speaker 1: out there wearing our life uncut jumpers, and we do
Speaker 1: have another drop coming, so don't worry if you missed out,
Speaker 1: but you still need to get in quick bridge. What
Speaker 1: is your suck and suite? Okay, my suck. I guess
Speaker 1: it's a sucking a sweep. But my suck is I
Speaker 1: probably can't come home now when I was supposed to
Speaker 1: come home. Laugh but Australia about that. My suck is
Speaker 1: that I'm going to stay in America for the next
Speaker 1: like four months. No, basically, the flights have been canceled.
Speaker 1: Britt was supposed to come home at the end of
Speaker 1: this month or at the end of August. That's not
Speaker 1: going to happen now at all. For who knows how
Speaker 1: long there is a chance that I can't come home now.
Speaker 1: We just have to wait to see what the government
Speaker 1: does with letting people in and out. So that's just
Speaker 1: a waiting game. My suite is, honestly, it has just
Speaker 1: been so nice to be with. I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: in my own little bubble here with Jordan. It's just
Speaker 1: him and a couple of friends. Jordan and I are
Speaker 1: spend so much time together. We haven't had one argument.
Speaker 1: I just honestly feel like I have met my soulmate.
Speaker 1: And I was really worried about coming over here about
Speaker 1: if it was going to be different, what it was
Speaker 1: going to be like to be in each other's pocket
Speaker 1: all the time, and we're just obsessed with each other.
Speaker 1: So I'm just from sure we have with him, Gustine,
Speaker 1: and I love it so much. I'm so here for it.
Speaker 1: I know that there are so many people who followed
Speaker 1: it along in your disaster dating stories who are now like, yeah,
Speaker 1: Brittany found love. We fucking love love anyway, guys, that
Speaker 1: is it from us. It is a big one. But
Speaker 1: also we really wanted to bring you and do justice
Speaker 1: to this episode because it's been such a huge part
Speaker 1: of Britt's story over the past year, and we actually
Speaker 1: have a bonus episode coming out for you tomorrow which
Speaker 1: is going to be great. So many of you reached
Speaker 1: out in regards to Ellie from Comfortable in your Skin,
Speaker 1: and now this interview actually comes as a recommendation from
Speaker 1: so many of you. We did a ask Guncut question
Speaker 1: quite a few weeks back now where we talked about
Speaker 1: Leavia Plasty, and after that episode, I cannot tell you
Speaker 1: the number of people who slid into our DMS and said,
Speaker 1: you have to get Ellie on an interviewer on the podcast.
Speaker 1: So we have a really special bonus episode coming out
Speaker 1: for you tomorrow. This week is going to be just
Speaker 1: life on Cut week we are coming back with a bang, baby,
Speaker 1: But that is it from us today. So thank you
Speaker 1: so much to everybody who's listened. If you have any
Speaker 1: questions for asking on cart, slide on into our DMS
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Speaker 1: accidentally unfiltered. Tell your mum, to your dad, tell you dog,
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