WEBVTT - EGGS ON ICE! Britt shares her egg-freezing story 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:22.720 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Live 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:25.640 One Cut. I'm Brittany, and I have missed you, guys. 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:28.600 I feel like I haven't been on here in so long. Laura, 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:30.760 Matt's been moving in on my term. I don't know 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:32.879 how I feel about it. Oh yeah, you need to 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:35.360 be careful, britt He's really he's hot on your tail. 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:36.960 So I've had a little bit of a break. And 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:38.600 we keep saying the word break, right, but none of 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:40.160 us have actually had a break. We had a break, 0:00:40.159 --> 0:00:43.080 but Matt and Laura are obviously doing the batterycaps, which 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:45.680 I'm super proud of because you guys are loving them. 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:48.040 But I'm also not gonna lie. There is some like 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:51.800 teeny little smitch of jealousy that maybe he's taking my spot. 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:53.440 I don't know how to feel. He's already got you 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:55.200 as his wife, like he needs to share a lot. 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:58.120 We have been gone for four weeks now, but we 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:00.360 really haven't been gone at all. It doesn't feel like 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:02.600 we've been far away. Although we've missed you. There's so 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:05.080 much that has been happening. I mean, we've been gone 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:07.600 for so long that the Olympics came back around. We 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:11.839 also turn to it's been four years. The Olympics is back. Okay, 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.160 hang on, how many times have you cried in the Olympics, 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:16.520 Because I've cried probably four times already. Do you know what? 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:18.800 This is the most controversial thing I'm going to say, 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:21.000 and I know that everybody listening is going to kind 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:23.200 of check out now. I haven't watched it. I have 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:26.640 barely watched it. I have watched more Bachelor than I 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:28.880 have watched the Olympics, which I think I'm the only 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:32.800 person in Australia according to the Bachelor ratings. But I 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:34.680 don't think this is something you should be admitting to 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.640 on this podcast. Man, I've seen some things over the 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:39.959 past four weeks. There's a lot going on in Sydney 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:43.800 right now, is there? So what's okay? Talk me through it? 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:45.640 What have you guys been doing? How have you been 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:47.840 in lockdown? I don't want to talk about lockdown for 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.120 too long, to be honest, because I mean, one, I'm 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:54.080 very conscious that no matter what I say, everybody who's 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:56.360 from Victoria has done it ten times worse and ten 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:58.680 times longer than what we've done it so far. But 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:01.720 it just comes with its own challenges and Britt while 0:02:01.720 --> 0:02:04.240 you're overseas. I genuinely feel like I am hogged tight 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:07.320 in a basement of Sydney, like just let me out, 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:12.200 why not? But like it's totally and in relation to 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:13.840 what you just said. It's funny that. I mean, you 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:15.480 and I have spoken about this on the podcast before, 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:17.400 and it's a funny comment where you say, like, I 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:19.720 know this person has it worse or they've done it worse, 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:22.120 so I don't want to comment. But each individual is 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:24.560 still allowed to feel their pain, their relative pain. You know, 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:27.640 it's what you go through, and every single person, whether 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:29.760 they've being locked down for one week or six months, 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.440 everyone's experiencing something, so like, don't take away from the 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:34.280 fact that you haven't done it as much as Melbourne 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:36.680 or anything like that. I think everyone, each in their 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.200 own is going through so much shit in Australia right now. 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:43.120 I absolutely, one hundred percent agree with that sentiment, and 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:45.519 I think it is so important for every single person 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:48.400 who's listening that if you feel a certain way, those 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.400 feelings are valid and you are absolutely allowed to be 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:54.320 sad or angry or hurt or whatever it is. And 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.880 I don't think it is a helpful argument or a 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:00.000 helpful conversation for people, or for anyone to say, Oh, 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.320 but you know what, I can't be sad because somebody 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:04.919 else has it worse. It doesn't take anything away from 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:07.760 somebody else you feeling those feelings as well. I guess 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:10.440 the biggest thing about this lockdown in Sydney is that 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:13.640 it feels quite different to last time. Last time, and 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:16.600 this is probably another controversial thing to say, but for me, 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.400 it kind of still felt a little bit novel like, 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:21.640 even though businesses were shut and my business was shut, 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:24.880 Even though we were hugely affected, it was an experience 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.000 that nobody had had before and there was a lot 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:29.400 of fears surrounding it, but it also kind of felt 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:31.120 like a little bit of a novelty. You know, we 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:34.400 were making TikTok videos this time around. The novelty has 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:37.080 well and truly fucking worn off, like it is all. 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:40.080 We are over it and we are tired, and trying 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:41.400 to do it with two kids in the house is 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:44.520 a whole other experience. So yeah, next time, hopefully we 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:47.400 don't have three kids in the house. Oh my god. Well, 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.720 I mean that's up to you. You have control over that, Laura, 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:51.320 So don't be like, oh, I hope the universe doesn't 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:53.680 give some other baby you have control over how much 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:56.000 sex you have. Mate, I have fallen from that still. 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:57.800 You have told me you have had serious sex before 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:00.000 and then out popped another baby, So I'm onto you. 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.119 But anyway, tell me what has been happening in your world, 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:05.160 and tell everyone who's listening. I mean this might come 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:08.080 as some surprise to some of you listeners, but Britain 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:10.480 and I haven't spoken that much over this break because 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:12.840 she's kind of been in all different places. Wi Fi 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.280 connections haven't been great. But we normally don't go a 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.440 single day without speaking to each other, and we have 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:20.719 gone several days without speaking to each other. It's funny 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:22.920 you say that. I mean everything this said is true, 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:24.960 but I feel like we actually still speak to each 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.520 other every day, but it's always We're on different time 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:29.440 zones and it's always work. I was like, we haven't 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:31.359 actually caught up as friends, and I feel like we 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:33.440 had a little group FaceTime the other day producer Geisha, 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:35.480 Laura and myself, and I don't know about you, Laura, 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:37.000 but I forgot how nice it was just to sit 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:38.560 there and talk and have a laugh for a second. 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:41.480 Because it's so easy to get swept up. But how 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:45.159 am I? I am? Well, I have been watching so 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:48.839 much fucking tennis. I'm like, oh you do. I didn't 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:51.720 realize that it was like seven days a week. So 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:55.400 I am in Atlanta, America right now, and it's really 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:58.480 nice to be in America because they're free here and 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:00.680 they just, to be honest, they act COVID is not 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.159 a thing. It's bonkers. It's so weird to see that 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:06.480 Australia is in complete lockdown and Americans are just running wild. 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:09.080 But it does mean that we don't have our bubbles anymore. 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:10.839 So Jordan and I have actually been able to go 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:12.680 to a few dinners because I feel like we never 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:14.800 really got those dinner dates or anything like that. Even 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:16.400 when we met in Australia, it was always in this 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:19.440 lockdown time. So talk to me about why it's different there. 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:21.800 And like, obviously, going back a couple of months ago, 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:25.039 the whole COVID situation in the States was pretty fucking rife. 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:26.839 So not that I want to sit on COVID for 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:30.080 too long, but why is it different now and why 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:33.360 are they treating it differently to what we are experiencing 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:36.359 since the Delta strain basically came from there. They've just 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:39.279 done such a good job here with the vaccination. So 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:41.880 I'll tell you a story that was just blew my mind. 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:45.120 I have friends back home that have been and, as 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:47.440 you all know, people trying to get the vaccinations and 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:50.560 it's impossible. They didn't order them places that do have vaccinations. 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:52.159 It's so hard to even get a booking. That's what 0:05:52.200 --> 0:05:55.160 it's been like. It's been so bloody hard. Here myself 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:57.480 and Jordan and one of Jordan's friends, another tennis player, 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.920 and he literally just decided. He was like, I want 0:05:59.920 --> 0:06:02.599 to go get the COVID vacks. Like cool, how do 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:03.720 we do that? He's like, oh, we'll just go to 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:06.359 the chemist. We just stopped in the car. Wasn't planned. 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:08.599 This is five minutes later. We stopped at the first chemist. 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:11.280 We walked in. He is an Australian, was like, I 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.400 would like to get the COVID vaccination. They were like, cool, 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:16.360 just take a seat, gave him the vaccination. Fifteen minutes 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:18.440 we're out the door, and I was like, this is 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:21.440 why America is ahead of the game with the vaccinations, 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:24.800 because it's accessible and they're encouraging people to get it. 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:27.240 They're making it easy for people to get the vaccination, 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:29.000 and I mean anyone can walk in and get it 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:31.120 whenever they want, and they're very encouraging of it. So 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:34.599 let's hope Australia can jump on that bandwagon. So I 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:37.520 have a question for you, which is Jordan related. What 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:41.000 noise does Jordan make when he's playing tennis? And is 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:43.039 it the same as the noise he makes when you 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:49.680 guys are having sex to hang on, did someone write 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:52.080 this scene or is this your sick question? No, this 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:54.160 is my sick question. I was watching tennis recently and 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.279 I was like, God, these men just sound like they're 0:06:56.320 --> 0:07:00.279 having sex. And I'm really curious now how Jordan sounds. Okay, 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:03.839 So the grunting in tennis is actually a thing between players. 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:06.360 They all talk about the noises that each other make. 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:08.560 It's a thing because some people don't like other people 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:10.800 that make noises. Some people say that people's noises are 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:14.200 too loud. It's like political noise in tennis is this 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:18.240 huge thing. Jordan doesn't make a lot of noise in tennis. 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:20.600 Every now and again, if he has some big exertion, 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:26.880 he'll go like that. That's it. Probably similar to sex. Yeah, 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:30.560 whenever he has a big exertion. Now, look, Jordan's what 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:36.040 I will say. Jordan's not overly noisy, man. He's also 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:41.400 going to kill me this so much. Look, I do 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:44.240 have something really funny actually that happened to me that 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:47.000 I want to tell you. And I was so excited 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:49.240 about and I'm just all it's going to do is 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:52.520 really like drive home my nerd Burger status. But I 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.400 was beyond excited. You are not going to believe this, Okay, 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:57.800 all of you og listeners, you will know that there 0:07:57.880 --> 0:08:01.480 is one show that I constantly recommend. It's like my 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:03.960 favorite show in the universe. It's called This Is Us. 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:06.440 I've spoken about it a million times. The main guy 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:08.920 looks like Jack. That's why I'm dating Jordan, because they 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:11.120 look exactly the same. He's got a mustache and black hair. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:13.600 This guy in it called Kevin. He's a main character, 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:16.800 and he's so fucking hot. Like I can't explain how 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:19.520 sexy he is, how brilliant an actor is, how obsessed 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:22.480 I am with the whole show. I was with a 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:25.880 friend yesterday and they were like, oh, my friends coming, 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:29.000 and I was like cool, And then around the corner 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:33.320 walks Kevin from This Is Us and I was like, 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:36.440 oh my god, that's Kevin. Like his name's not Kevin, 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:38.760 it's Justin Hartley. I was like, oh my god, that's 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:40.920 Justin Hartley. And then he walked over to us and 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:42.880 I was like, hang on, this is just like it's 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:46.000 Justin Hartley, your friend or anyway. I was like, play cool, Brittany, 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:47.440 oh my god, and he was. I was like, hey, 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:49.360 this is Brittany, Brittany, this is Justin. I was like, 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.680 oh hey, like how are you cool? Like pretended, I 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:53.280 was like the coolest shit in the world. I was like, 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:55.600 nice to meet you, blah blah. Hanging out for a while. 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.120 My internal monologue was like, just fucking be cool, Just 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:00.880 be cool. So I was just like I was doing 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:03.160 my version of cool, which I can guarantee was not cool. 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:05.800 And then my friend walks away and just leaves us 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:07.840 the two of us there, and I was like, Okay, 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:10.160 think of something cool to say, Brittany because it was 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:12.600 in silence, and I was like, all right, look, I 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:14.959 got something to tell you. You're like I forgot love. 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.280 Like I was like, I love This Is Us so much. 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:20.200 It's my favorite show. I've watched every episode and then 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:24.440 he was like, oh, I'm like dying thinking about it. 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:26.199 And then he was like, oh that's cool. I just 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:28.360 trying to cover up and make me sound cooler. And 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:31.360 I was like, oh, look, I also had this podcast. 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:33.280 It's I got like thirteen million listeners and stuff, and 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:35.199 just so you know, I got all my listeners onto it. 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:37.800 I talk about you every day. And he was like okay, cool, 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:39.920 and I was like great, and then it gets worse. 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:45.560 Then we're talking about tennis, and I know, well, no. 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:48.280 My friend was like, Britney's partner's a tennis player. That's 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:51.320 why they're in Atlanta. We're talking about the US Open. 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.080 He was like, I'd love to go to the US Open. 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:56.280 And I was like, okay, now's your time. Be cool 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:58.640 and I was like, oh cool, Like just totally signed 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:00.520 to my dance and I'll get ill organ I your ticket. 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:02.120 He's like, oh cool, thank you, and I was like, 0:10:02.160 --> 0:10:03.360 no worries. And then in my head I was like, 0:10:03.400 --> 0:10:05.200 what the fuck, Brittany, you don't have that power. I 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:07.240 was like, what are you doing. I went home to 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:09.080 Jordan and I was like, Jordan, I may have just 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.040 promised the Hollywood star a ticket to the US Open. 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:13.199 Is that a thing that can happen? He's like, not really, 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:17.600 And I was like, can you make that happen? He's like, anyway, 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.439 I just had the biggest fangirl moment. I think that 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:24.079 I think that I did my best at being cool. 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.920 Maybe the real test of you being cool is did 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:30.080 you drop panelol or fucking Lolo Derby or any of 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:33.240 the other britneyisms. That would have been a true moment 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:35.120 of showing your real self. And I don't know if 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:36.840 the States is ready for that yet. When it was 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:38.400 time to go, I was like, sorry, I've got to 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.600 head out. I've got to catch a Loller coaster. No, 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:43.160 but just so you guys know, he was even better 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:46.040 looking in real life than on the show. We have 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.679 the best episode for you today. I am actually so 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:51.160 excited for today's episode and something that we have been 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:55.120 talking about on this podcast literally for six months, maybe 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:58.560 even longer, and that is that today's episode is Britt 0:10:58.679 --> 0:11:01.240 is going to be sharing her egg freezing story, which 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:03.360 I know so many of you have been following Britt 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:05.920 along her social media. She's been really open and with 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:08.360 her journey so far that basically, britt is going to 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:10.800 be telling her story from start to finish. And I 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:12.319 know that a lot of you have listened to the 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.920 episode that we did with Jania Clinic ages ago, which 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:18.439 was with doctor Cherylfois, and that was all around fertility 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:21.760 and IVF and sort of the whole process of going 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:24.719 through egg freezing as well. That conversation was the real 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:28.120 catalyst that made Brittany want to go and have her 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:31.640 own eggs frozen. So I am so so excited to 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:34.199 be able to do this episode. And britt it feels 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:36.280 weird that I'm going to be interviewing you, but I'm 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.160 so proud of you for sharing the story because I 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:40.080 know that there are so many of our listeners who 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:42.840 have considered egg freezing who may be in a similar 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:45.280 situation to you, think that they might want to have 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:48.120 children but not just yet. And I think this is 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:50.680 going to help so many people. Yeah, I'm really excited 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:52.199 for this episode, and we're going to get into it 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:53.520 in a minute, so I don't want to get too 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:55.920 much into it now, but I put the questions out 0:11:55.960 --> 0:11:57.600 on my Instagram to you guys, and I said, what 0:11:57.640 --> 0:11:59.400 do you want to know? Ask me anything about it? 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.880 And I believe I had the most responses I've ever 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:04.600 had from any Q and A on Instagram, I got 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:06.800 the most dms. There was just so much interest, and 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.200 I just realized that there's not enough people talking about 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:11.800 it because a lot of the questions were the same, 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:14.280 hundreds and hundreds of people on all the same questions, 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:16.600 and I just think that there's not enough people telling 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:19.079 their stories. So many people have heard of egg freezing, 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.719 but not that many people know someone who's actually been 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:24.559 through the process or physically experienced it. From the conversations 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:26.360 that we've had, there's been so many parts of this 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:29.880 experience that were different to what you had expected. I 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:32.080 really hope that everybody who's in a similar life phase 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:34.079 to what you are get something out of this episode. 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:37.240 And the questions that we did get did really reiterate 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:41.120 to me that there is not enough knowledge going around 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:44.000 because some of the questions with things like do you 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:46.400 need sperm to freeze your eggs things like that, which 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:48.680 the answer is no, you absolutely do not. So I 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:51.960 think that that's really important that if you know someone 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:54.600 that might benefit from this episode on egg freezing, or 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:57.040 a family member or anyone, share the love because there 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:58.680 are a lot of people out there that I think 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:01.120 can learn a lot from today's episode. So before we 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:03.840 do unpacked BRIT's experience, I wanted to bring up a 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:06.800 very important news headline that I saw this week, which, 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.240 you know what, out of everything that's been happening in 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.040 the world, this is the one that really stood out 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:14.400 to me. And I'm gonna in a stinky No, not 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:18.280 quite Actually, do you know what? Something went into a stinky? 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:20.439 We could It wouldn't be an episode of Life on 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:24.000 cardunless we started talking about But here we go. Man 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:32.240 uses live eel to cure constipation, nearly dies that ladies, gentlemen, friends, 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:36.120 hang on. He put an eel up his butt? Is that? 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.760 What is that? What is that? The colloquially what you're saying. 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:41.720 Could you imagine being constipated and thinking that a good 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:43.520 way to solve that problem would be to put more 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.120 things up your backside? Do you know what? Actually, there's 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.600 probably something to that. The eel would probably eat the 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:52.600 poop and cause a free passageway. So unfortunately, the eel 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.160 actually ate a hole through his intestine and it made 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.800 like leakage all throughout his abdominal cavity. So he almost 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:01.040 died from it, I reckon and then not doing this. 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:03.520 This is a terrible, terrible, terrible idea. But they think 0:14:03.600 --> 0:14:06.440 that did you actually get it up there? It was 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:09.760 fucking alive. Okay, show, it's not gonna it's not like 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:12.480 it's a hard stick like you would. How does he like, 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:14.160 I don't know, do you roll in a ball and 0:14:14.320 --> 0:14:16.800 put it up there? And just way do you put it? 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:18.920 I mean face first or fin first? Like? What way 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:20.800 do you put it up with its face facing up 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:23.880 your buttthole? Or do you think you have to No, 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:26.280 I think you'd have to up face first into the bar. 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:29.480 I mean, like, we don't really need to know the answer. Okay. 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:31.840 So the funniest part of this whole thing, and like, look, 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.440 it's not funny. Somebody almost died from this. It's pretty hectic. 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:37.560 But the funniest part is that when he presented to hospital, 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:40.160 the doctors asked him how did the eel get up there? 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:42.360 And because he was so embarrassed and he didn't want 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.840 to tell them, he said it swam up there by itself. Yeah, 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:48.240 the old fellow on the deodoring cantrig, we know what 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:51.320 you're up to, buddy. I had eel did not swim 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:54.280 anywhere on its own cord. No one voluntarily swims up 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.040 a buttthole if they absolutely don't have to. Well, I 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.040 mean there's definitely been a few men who tried to 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:02.480 swim up that buttthole. Anyway, Okay, I have something else 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:04.880 I want to say on this. If you are constipated, 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:07.480 there are plenty of other options instead of putting a 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:09.760 sea urchin or a sea creature. Yeah, I don't know, 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:13.200 maybe like a laxative, or like some fruit, or drinking 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:16.440 extra water. Yeah, look, there's definitely lots of other things 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:18.360 that you could try first. Maybe go and get like 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:22.240 a little abdominal mass sage. Don't stick a live animal 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:25.200 up pu bu. It's never a good idea, and it's 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:27.800 a lettal. In most countries, the eel was still alive 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:30.480 when they did the surgery to fix his intestine, So 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:33.520 they removed a live eel from this man's backside. But 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.120 what's it called in medical terms? When somebody presents to 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:39.120 a hospital and they have something up their backside. Isn't 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:41.600 it like foreign object? Anal? Is this the thing? Talk 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:43.880 to me as like a healthcare worker. It's just called 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:45.920 a foreign object we'll just get a ferrol that says 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:51.000 query rectal xtray foreign object. That's it, and then they'll 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:53.480 say sometimes what it is if the patient has told them, 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:56.640 they'll be like query deotor and can query toy car, 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:59.760 query pullball, which are all things that have happened to me? 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:03.400 What is the weirdest thing that somebody has presented with 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:09.320 that's been up their backside? Toilet brush with the Bristoley 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:14.080 sidar like the Brustley sidear. Yeah, no, I'm not even kidding. 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.400 I wish I wish I was kidding. Actually, it's pretty like, 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.400 it's pretty genius. It'd be acts like a little bit 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.440 of a tickler. I don't think it would. I mean, 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:23.600 I think that there is something a lot better that 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:26.360 you could put out there than a toilet brush. I agree, 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:28.480 But like I mean, it was probably in the bathroom. 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:31.160 It was accessible, and he's going to be clean as 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:33.800 a whistle after that one. Anyway. I think we've talked 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:37.640 about that, guys. We do have time for our accidentally 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:40.680 unfiltered stories though, before we get into the main chat, 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:42.640 which would be a lot more serious than this. Now, 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:45.040 if you haven't listened to our episodes before the accidentally 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:49.760 Unfiltered is basically us just sharing your most cooked embarrassing stories. 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.680 You writing your embarrassing stories to us and we share 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.320 them with you all. So we have received I can't 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:57.200 even tell you over the last couple of weeks because 0:16:57.200 --> 0:17:00.000 we've been away that we have received so many mess 0:17:00.520 --> 0:17:04.200 of embarrassing stories of ask on cut questions and if 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:06.560 you have one for us, please slide into our dms 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:10.119 on Instagram. It's Life Uncut podcast and we'll keep it 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:12.639 for next week. But we have some crackers for you today, 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:15.960 and it would not be Life Uncut unless we came 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:20.639 back with some bodily function stories. I'm gonna start, and 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:22.280 I really feel for this girl. I don't know why 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:25.040 because she's anonymous, but I feel for I was at 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:27.440 my boyfriend's football club watching the end of their game 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:29.800 when I started to feel really sick in the stomach. 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:32.320 My tummy was gurgling like a washing machine, and I 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:34.560 knew that I had to get the bathroom quick. Smart. 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:36.760 I dashed into the women's bathroom and ran into one 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:39.480 of the cubicles without looking around. There was just no time. 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:41.960 Had I looked around the locker room, I would have 0:17:42.040 --> 0:17:45.159 noticed all the sports bags and realized that the opposing 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:47.760 men's team were using the women's locker rooms as the 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.960 women's games had all finished. Now I am doubled over 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.000 in pain in the toilet waiting for take off, when 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:55.760 suddenly I hear the loud voices of twenty plus men 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:58.280 enter the locker room, and I realized what was going on. 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:02.040 At this stage, I could have left without too much embarrassment, 0:18:02.080 --> 0:18:04.479 as they hadn't stripped off and started showering yet, but 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:06.359 by that point I was only a few seconds away 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:08.960 from a proper explosion. I didn't have time to find 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.399 another bathroom. I had to admit defeat. I had no 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:14.080 choice but to stay and let the floodgates open. And truly, 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:17.800 it was the worst diarrhea I have ever experienced. After 0:18:17.840 --> 0:18:20.440 about twenty liters of liquid poop and my soul left 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:23.480 my body, the toilet wouldn't flush. Motherfucker, I have got 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:25.800 this shit all over the shit I'm talking, it's down 0:18:25.840 --> 0:18:27.879 the walls, it's down the bowl. I'm sitting there in 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:29.879 the biggest bit of stench. I had to sit in 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:32.600 a cubicle for half an hour with my insides plastered 0:18:32.600 --> 0:18:34.520 on the toilet bowl, waiting for these guys to finish 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:37.320 showering and leave. Oh my god, so these twenty men 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:40.919 have walked in. She shut herself for like twenty minutes, 0:18:40.920 --> 0:18:42.320 and then she had to sit in there. They all heard. 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:44.080 They all were looking at her feet under there, but 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:47.080 she just didn't come out. I'm like, I feel some 0:18:47.320 --> 0:18:50.120 I wouldn't come out either. It reminds me of when 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:52.679 I accidentally walked in on you pooping. And remember we 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:57.800 went to Kyl and jack Yo in the radio and 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:00.199 you blamed you. I remember the other lady thought it 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:02.879 was me. So if you guys don't remember this story, 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:04.879 Britt and I went to a meeting at Karla and 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:08.720 Jackie Oo's studios. You know, we're feeling ourselves. We were like, yeah, 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:14.280 is that? And holy hell, when it hits, it hits, 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:17.520 you just can't You can't necessarily prepare for these times 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:19.960 in your life. Anyway, I was like ran, So Britt 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:21.679 was still like getting out of the car and like 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:23.960 parking the car, and I was like I must go. 0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:27.639 So I ran inside, ran to the receptionist and I 0:19:27.680 --> 0:19:29.480 was like, where's your toilet. She's like, you have to 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:31.439 check in first, and I was like no, tying, no, 0:19:31.800 --> 0:19:35.480 just give me my case. I ran to the toilet anyway, 0:19:35.480 --> 0:19:38.639 there was no one in there unleashed to the fury anyway. 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:41.320 Britt came in about five minutes later, and then luckily 0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:43.320 it's one of those things where you always kind of 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:45.840 wait until whoever's in the bathroom at the same time 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:48.040 leaves before you, like you never want to leave, and 0:19:48.080 --> 0:19:49.920 then accidentally be at the basin at the same time. 0:19:49.960 --> 0:19:53.440 That shit's just way too awkward, especially only two cubicles. 0:19:53.720 --> 0:19:55.800 It was two, bree, so it was fine. I was like, well, 0:19:55.840 --> 0:19:58.639 she already knows it's me, So I leave the bathroom 0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:02.000 and then at the same time as I'm leaving, the 0:20:02.080 --> 0:20:05.640 receptionist forks into the tooland yeah, this is the worst 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:08.119 stench ever. And it was like it's like someone I'm 0:20:08.119 --> 0:20:10.480 skunk could dine in there. And Laura blamed me, and I, 0:20:10.680 --> 0:20:12.920 as a good friend, just rolled with it. I was like, hey, sorry, 0:20:13.320 --> 0:20:16.679 I was like, you owe me. So Britz BRIT's not 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:19.760 feeling very well, Pritz Pritt. She's had a bit of 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:22.080 gas lately. She's been a bit gassy, and I mean, 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:23.600 like that I should get an award for that. That 0:20:23.760 --> 0:20:27.240 is like, all right, I have an accidentally unfielded story 0:20:27.240 --> 0:20:29.440 for you guys, and it's also to do with bodily functions. 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:33.439 I apologize that we have come back hard with the 0:20:33.440 --> 0:20:35.640 poo stories, but you know, I don't fuck it. That's 0:20:35.720 --> 0:20:39.240 just it's a part of our podcast. Okay. This one 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:41.199 time at UNI, I was my second year and I 0:20:41.240 --> 0:20:44.200 was seeing this guy that I was really really into. 0:20:44.440 --> 0:20:47.920 He was so hot, he was so rugged, he played rugby, 0:20:48.160 --> 0:20:50.399 and all of his friends were really, really fun. I 0:20:50.480 --> 0:20:53.400 really wanted it to turn into something more. After thinking 0:20:53.440 --> 0:20:55.520 that out, he stayed at my place. We were both 0:20:55.520 --> 0:20:57.359 pretty drunk, and in the middle of the night, I 0:20:57.400 --> 0:21:00.800 heard this water just trickling noise. I thought, that's really 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:03.800 fucking weird. There must be some water running somewhere. Suddenly 0:21:04.040 --> 0:21:06.200 I knew that it definitely was not. As my lower 0:21:06.200 --> 0:21:09.600 body began to become saturated. I quickly realized that he 0:21:09.760 --> 0:21:13.160 had pissed the bed and it had soaked through my sheets, 0:21:13.400 --> 0:21:15.920 it had sowed through my mattress, it had soaked all 0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:17.840 over me, and now I was laying there in a 0:21:17.880 --> 0:21:22.160 puddle of his piss. I was really, this has fucking 0:21:22.200 --> 0:21:24.919 happened to me. I was really freaking out because it 0:21:24.960 --> 0:21:26.840 was so gross that I was just laying there in 0:21:26.920 --> 0:21:29.400 his pee. But I liked him. I liked him so 0:21:29.400 --> 0:21:33.720 so much, and I wanted us to become something, so 0:21:33.760 --> 0:21:36.520 I didn't want to embarrass him. I decided the only 0:21:36.560 --> 0:21:38.359 thing I could do was to try and suck it 0:21:38.440 --> 0:21:41.119 up and pretend and go back to sleep. Later on 0:21:41.200 --> 0:21:43.359 in the morning, he woke up and then accused me 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:47.679 of bissing the bed. I'm sorry, but no, you have 0:21:47.720 --> 0:21:50.600 to draw the line here. What did she do? He 0:21:50.640 --> 0:21:52.840 said his side was dry, and that it was my 0:21:53.000 --> 0:21:55.760 side that was wet, obviously because we had been cuddling 0:21:55.800 --> 0:21:58.080 and his penis had been facing towards me. He'd pissed 0:21:58.119 --> 0:22:00.760 all over my back and my butt. Not believe that 0:22:00.760 --> 0:22:02.400 this guy was trying to say that I had wet 0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:04.399 my own bed. He even had a bit of a 0:22:04.440 --> 0:22:07.120 reputation as a bed weather when he got drunk. Anyway, 0:22:07.160 --> 0:22:09.400 it didn't work out, and now sometimes I think back 0:22:09.440 --> 0:22:11.240 on how I took the four for a guy who 0:22:11.280 --> 0:22:14.359 pissed on my own bed. Gee, this is just like 0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:17.959 this is a prime example of the difference between men 0:22:18.000 --> 0:22:20.880 and women. She's in the bed with piss all over her, 0:22:20.880 --> 0:22:22.760 and she's like, do you know what, I just like him. 0:22:22.800 --> 0:22:24.600 I just won't want to embarrass him. I'll take one 0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:27.080 for the team. He wakes up there. I bet you 0:22:27.119 --> 0:22:29.439 there was a one second of hesitancy. He was just 0:22:29.480 --> 0:22:31.400 like you pissed on me, straight up calls her out 0:22:31.400 --> 0:22:33.360 and it was him. This is the difference be bed 0:22:33.359 --> 0:22:37.400 and women. You you need a medal. This is actually outrageous, 0:22:37.400 --> 0:22:39.199 the fact that you liked someone so much that you 0:22:39.200 --> 0:22:41.000 were like, I didn't want to embarrass him, and I'm 0:22:41.040 --> 0:22:43.560 just gonna lay there in his urine. Wow, you know 0:22:43.600 --> 0:22:46.280 he stold all his friends like and then you got 0:22:46.280 --> 0:22:48.960 gas lit. Like this guy just gasolt you over a wetbed. 0:22:49.160 --> 0:22:52.240 Let's be real, you poor me, don't ever do that again. 0:22:52.280 --> 0:22:54.120 And that should be a listened to every woman that's 0:22:54.280 --> 0:22:56.040 listening to this podcast right now. Have you been weed 0:22:56.040 --> 0:22:58.280 on in the bed before? If you take anything from 0:22:58.280 --> 0:23:00.320 this podcast, please let that be the listener that you 0:23:00.359 --> 0:23:02.800 walk away with. Yes, actually something very similar to that 0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:05.359 happened to me. I was dating a guy in Woollongong. 0:23:05.840 --> 0:23:08.720 I really liked him. He was super hot, really cute. 0:23:08.720 --> 0:23:11.040 We got along really really well. He shat on me, 0:23:11.040 --> 0:23:16.240 but I didn't care I like to get kiky sometimes. No, 0:23:16.760 --> 0:23:20.840 he had gotten absolutely just turbo at a concert, like 0:23:20.920 --> 0:23:22.920 I mean he had I don't know what he had 0:23:23.080 --> 0:23:25.119 drunk or taken or whatever, but he was off his 0:23:25.200 --> 0:23:27.800 face and I was sober. And we went back to 0:23:27.880 --> 0:23:29.760 his house and I put him to bed, and then 0:23:29.880 --> 0:23:31.280 I went to bed because it was too far for 0:23:31.320 --> 0:23:34.840 me to drive from Woollongong to Sydney. I woke up thinking, 0:23:35.320 --> 0:23:37.199 I feel really clammy, like I felt you know when 0:23:37.240 --> 0:23:39.359 you get like the night sweats. So I woke up 0:23:39.400 --> 0:23:41.800 thinking I had the ninth sweats because everything was wet, 0:23:41.880 --> 0:23:44.080 like the whole douner was wet, and it was like 0:23:44.200 --> 0:23:46.080 up to my neck and I was like, god, I 0:23:46.080 --> 0:23:49.000 feel so clammy. And then I realized the smell and 0:23:49.040 --> 0:23:52.439 it also it also smells like you'reine. And then I 0:23:52.480 --> 0:23:54.000 woke him up and I was like, dude, you've pissed 0:23:54.000 --> 0:23:56.360 the bed. And he denied it, like fully denied it 0:23:56.720 --> 0:23:59.120 for about five minutes until I was like, you need 0:23:59.160 --> 0:24:01.800 to smell this. You have pissed the bed, and then 0:24:01.800 --> 0:24:06.520 he started to cry. There's only one thing that makes 0:24:06.800 --> 0:24:09.520 pissing the bed worse, and that he's pissing the bed 0:24:09.600 --> 0:24:15.000 and crying. What No. Oh, guys, that is it for 0:24:15.040 --> 0:24:17.080 the start of this episode. If you have any accidentally 0:24:17.119 --> 0:24:20.119 unfiltered stories, send them on in over at life un 0:24:20.160 --> 0:24:22.720 Cut Podcasts, and also make sure that you join the 0:24:22.760 --> 0:24:24.920 Facebook discussion group because that is where all the good 0:24:24.960 --> 0:24:27.439 stuff goes down. It really does. All right, let's get 0:24:27.440 --> 0:24:33.280 into the episode. As most of you know, I did 0:24:33.400 --> 0:24:35.320 put a few stories up on my Instagram at the time. 0:24:35.400 --> 0:24:38.800 We have spoken about it periodically, sporadically, if you will, 0:24:38.840 --> 0:24:41.520 on the podcast. I did freeze my eggs before I 0:24:41.560 --> 0:24:44.359 came overseas, and that was a long time coming, so 0:24:44.440 --> 0:24:47.080 I actually went for my consult back in December. I 0:24:47.080 --> 0:24:48.880 went for my consult back in December, and it took 0:24:48.920 --> 0:24:51.120 me that long to freeze them. And I will get 0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:53.960 into that. But I have wanted to talk about it 0:24:54.000 --> 0:24:55.960 for a long time because I know a lot of 0:24:55.960 --> 0:24:57.640 you have had a lot of questions. I know there's 0:24:57.640 --> 0:24:59.040 a lot of interest in it, and I know a 0:24:59.040 --> 0:25:02.439 lot of people aren't openly speaking about it. So I 0:25:02.600 --> 0:25:05.119 have put together all your questions that you wanted to know, 0:25:05.240 --> 0:25:08.360 and I'm going to try to get through, if possible, 0:25:08.400 --> 0:25:12.680 all of them. I guess I'll start with the why. 0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:16.720 I'm thirty three and last year most of you would 0:25:16.760 --> 0:25:19.080 have already listened to an episode we did with a 0:25:19.320 --> 0:25:23.160 Jeneia fertility specialist, doctor Cheryl Foi now doctor cherylf WI 0:25:23.280 --> 0:25:25.760 is amazing. We really did our research when we did 0:25:25.760 --> 0:25:28.320 the fertility episode because we wanted to get somebody on 0:25:28.400 --> 0:25:30.600 that was that really knew their stuff and they have 0:25:30.680 --> 0:25:33.560 helped a lot of women and couples with their fertility. 0:25:33.800 --> 0:25:35.480 So we got Cheryl on and by the end of 0:25:35.520 --> 0:25:39.919 the episode, I spoke to Cheryl off record and I 0:25:39.960 --> 0:25:44.919 just said, look, you've basically without meaning to convince me 0:25:44.920 --> 0:25:46.480 that I need to come in for a consult? Is 0:25:46.520 --> 0:25:48.439 do you think that I should? And She's like absolutely, 0:25:48.520 --> 0:25:50.040 She's like, I mean, the fact of the matter is 0:25:50.080 --> 0:25:53.679 there's probably probably everything's fine, but you're thirty three. It 0:25:53.720 --> 0:25:55.400 wouldn't be the worst thing for you to just come 0:25:55.400 --> 0:25:57.880 and check out your fertility. I was single at the time. 0:25:58.080 --> 0:26:01.560 There was like no relationship inside. You all know how 0:26:01.560 --> 0:26:04.080 long I've been single before. I wasn't dating anybody at all. 0:26:04.640 --> 0:26:07.399 And I work in the medical industry, so I know 0:26:07.640 --> 0:26:11.240 that there are problems with fertility. I know that unfortunately 0:26:11.280 --> 0:26:14.480 our eggs do deteriorate. And I had some really good friends, 0:26:14.480 --> 0:26:17.000 so Renee Aras, she's recently come out and she's spoken 0:26:17.040 --> 0:26:19.480 about her fertility issues. She's one of my best friends. 0:26:19.960 --> 0:26:22.800 She is now pregnant, which I'm so stoked on. But 0:26:22.880 --> 0:26:25.800 she also went through Jenea clinic and she had a 0:26:25.840 --> 0:26:28.159 real battle with fertility. So I had all these people 0:26:28.240 --> 0:26:30.760 close to me that, for no reason or they couldn't 0:26:30.760 --> 0:26:32.280 figure it out, we're having a lot of trouble with 0:26:32.280 --> 0:26:34.560 their fertility. So I was like, Boom, I need to 0:26:34.560 --> 0:26:35.960 go and do something about it. I need to take 0:26:35.960 --> 0:26:38.199 control of my own life because nobody else is going 0:26:38.240 --> 0:26:40.720 to take control of this life for me. And I 0:26:40.800 --> 0:26:43.399 decided to book in for my consult with Cheryl. So 0:26:43.440 --> 0:26:46.200 one of the things that I found so incredible about 0:26:46.200 --> 0:26:48.800 that chat with Ryl is, like I guess, it was 0:26:48.800 --> 0:26:52.080 this understanding that going and freezing your eggs, even if 0:26:52.080 --> 0:26:54.280 you don't freeze your eggs, just going and speaking to 0:26:54.320 --> 0:26:57.560 someone who is a fertility expert if you think maybe 0:26:57.560 --> 0:26:59.200 you want to have children in the future, if you're 0:26:59.240 --> 0:27:01.439 not sure you want to have children or not, but 0:27:01.480 --> 0:27:03.840 if you find that you're single in your mid thirties 0:27:04.200 --> 0:27:07.159 and you want to have the opportunity of choice. That 0:27:07.320 --> 0:27:08.960 was the thing that really struck me. She was like, 0:27:09.280 --> 0:27:11.560 you don't have to make the decision to freeze your eggs, 0:27:11.560 --> 0:27:15.080 but understanding what your options are gives you the agency 0:27:15.080 --> 0:27:18.960 of choice. Not knowing and not having those conversations only 0:27:19.000 --> 0:27:21.080 means that if you then decide when you're thirty eight 0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:23.760 or thirty nine or forty that you've met someone who 0:27:23.760 --> 0:27:25.920 you really want to have children with, it makes your 0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:29.520 decision making infinitely harder and maybe limits your choices. So 0:27:30.080 --> 0:27:32.120 I know that, like at that point when we had 0:27:32.119 --> 0:27:34.960 that interview, Britt, you hadn't met Jordan yet, you weren't together, 0:27:35.000 --> 0:27:39.119 you were completely single, and children for you hasn't necessarily 0:27:39.160 --> 0:27:42.360 been something that's like on your immediate radar. But I 0:27:42.400 --> 0:27:44.600 think i'd love you to explain kind of what your 0:27:44.800 --> 0:27:47.800 perception is and how you feel about having kids. That's right, 0:27:47.840 --> 0:27:50.040 Like the younger I was, I always thought I was 0:27:50.080 --> 0:27:53.160 going to have four kids, have a white picket, fans, 0:27:53.160 --> 0:27:55.200 the two dogs, live on the beach. That's the life 0:27:55.240 --> 0:27:57.160 I thought. And I just I'm one of four kids, 0:27:57.160 --> 0:27:58.680 and I always just thought my life would be exactly 0:27:58.720 --> 0:28:00.879 the same. And I love kids, my nieces and nephews, 0:28:00.920 --> 0:28:03.560 love my friend's children. And the older I got, and 0:28:03.600 --> 0:28:05.439 I don't know if it's because I was single for 0:28:05.520 --> 0:28:09.200 so long that my brain just subconsciously started to plan 0:28:09.280 --> 0:28:11.320 a different journey for me. But the older I got, 0:28:11.359 --> 0:28:14.000 the longer I was single, I started to think maybe 0:28:14.000 --> 0:28:16.879 it wasn't for me. And at the start, that was 0:28:16.960 --> 0:28:21.080 really really hard because I didn't feel like I was 0:28:21.119 --> 0:28:23.359 making that decision. I feel like life was making that 0:28:23.400 --> 0:28:25.800 decision for me. And I I remember saying to you, Laura, 0:28:25.880 --> 0:28:29.119 like I remember getting upset with my sister, saying, you know, crying, 0:28:29.200 --> 0:28:31.159 being like, it's not for me. Life doesn't want to 0:28:31.160 --> 0:28:33.439 give me a partner. Life doesn't want me to have 0:28:33.480 --> 0:28:35.280 the happy family. Life doesn't want me to have children. 0:28:35.320 --> 0:28:37.760 And I was looking at that completely the wrong way. 0:28:37.800 --> 0:28:40.240 And I know a lot of people out there right 0:28:40.280 --> 0:28:43.240 now that are single, that are in their late twenties, 0:28:43.320 --> 0:28:46.160 early thirties, forties, that are you know, don't have children, 0:28:46.200 --> 0:28:48.520 that they think the same thing. They think that because 0:28:48.560 --> 0:28:51.080 I don't have a partner, life doesn't want them, or 0:28:51.200 --> 0:28:53.320 life's plan is not to have children. But that is 0:28:53.360 --> 0:28:56.400 absolutely incorrect. And I think we're seeing people now like 0:28:56.520 --> 0:28:58.960 Natalie and Burullia just came out, she's in her forties, 0:28:59.160 --> 0:29:01.200 she just had a child on our own through IVF. 0:29:01.720 --> 0:29:04.680 You absolutely are in charge of your fertility journey. And 0:29:04.840 --> 0:29:07.680 the older I got, I started to sort of challenge 0:29:07.840 --> 0:29:12.120 my own thoughts and I realized that I actually if 0:29:12.160 --> 0:29:13.880 I had met I asked myself, if I'd met the 0:29:13.960 --> 0:29:16.680 right person right now and he wanted kids, would that 0:29:16.760 --> 0:29:18.080 make me happy? And would I do it? And the 0:29:18.120 --> 0:29:20.400 answer was no, I still wouldn't have had them. I 0:29:20.520 --> 0:29:22.680 just wasn't ready for it, and I wasn't one hundred 0:29:22.720 --> 0:29:25.600 percent sure. And the reason I decided to freeze my 0:29:25.600 --> 0:29:28.560 eggs was exactly what Laura just said. I wanted to 0:29:28.640 --> 0:29:31.520 know that I would have the option down the track 0:29:31.600 --> 0:29:34.280 if need be, because the fact is, when you freeze 0:29:34.320 --> 0:29:38.240 your eggs, your eggs are snap frozen in time at 0:29:38.240 --> 0:29:41.280 that age. So my eggs now, if I use them 0:29:41.280 --> 0:29:44.600 in ten years at forty three, there will still be 0:29:45.040 --> 0:29:47.560 the health of a thirty three year old egg. If 0:29:47.640 --> 0:29:50.240 the time comes and I can't fall pregnant naturally, there's 0:29:50.280 --> 0:29:52.880 a weight off my shoulders that I know that tucked 0:29:52.920 --> 0:29:55.840 away on ies, some little baby Brittanys that are waiting 0:29:55.880 --> 0:29:58.720 to be created. So that's I guess that's the why. 0:29:59.120 --> 0:30:01.960 And this is kind of relevant to your decision making. 0:30:02.000 --> 0:30:04.200 But does Jordan want to have children? I just want 0:30:04.240 --> 0:30:06.320 to say when I say it's irrelevant to your decision making, 0:30:06.320 --> 0:30:09.040 what I mean is is that even if Jordan decides 0:30:09.080 --> 0:30:11.240 he doesn't want to have children and you guys aren't 0:30:11.240 --> 0:30:13.760 together in the future, obviously that's not what you're hoping 0:30:13.800 --> 0:30:16.440 and not what we're expecting. But if you were single 0:30:16.520 --> 0:30:19.000 when you're forty and you decided to have children, I 0:30:19.000 --> 0:30:21.200 guess I want people to understand that if you're choosing 0:30:21.280 --> 0:30:23.520 to freeze your eggs, you don't need to be in 0:30:23.560 --> 0:30:27.160 a relationship. You have full autonomy and agency over your eggs. 0:30:27.400 --> 0:30:29.720 So I was very single when I chose to freeze 0:30:29.760 --> 0:30:32.920 my eggs. And this is the funny thing that I think. 0:30:33.800 --> 0:30:36.400 I booked my appointment a long time in advance for 0:30:36.480 --> 0:30:39.480 my first consultation, and I went to my consultation and 0:30:39.560 --> 0:30:42.440 it was a Friday. I'll never forget it. It was three 0:30:42.560 --> 0:30:44.520 pm on a Friday that I had this consult and 0:30:44.560 --> 0:30:46.640 I was like, one hundred percent, let's do this. Sign 0:30:46.680 --> 0:30:49.680 me up. Let's get the hormone injections ready. And then 0:30:49.880 --> 0:30:52.880 that night I met Jordan. That was when we had 0:30:52.880 --> 0:30:55.480 our first day. So the day that I finally was like, oh, well, 0:30:55.520 --> 0:30:57.160 I'm going down the track on my own. I'm going 0:30:57.240 --> 0:30:58.479 to do this whole journey on my own. I met 0:30:58.520 --> 0:31:02.240 Jordan that night, and most of you know, Jordan and 0:31:02.280 --> 0:31:05.120 I just fell head over heels in love from day one, 0:31:05.160 --> 0:31:07.320 and we started to spend every day together. So after 0:31:07.400 --> 0:31:10.920 about a week, it was really soon. I just told 0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:13.720 him what was happening because I knew that I was 0:31:13.760 --> 0:31:15.840 going to start these injections. It's something that you couldn't 0:31:15.840 --> 0:31:17.760 really hide from your partner, and I didn't want to 0:31:17.800 --> 0:31:20.320 hide it. The older I get, the more confident I 0:31:20.320 --> 0:31:22.000 get in who I am and what I want to do, 0:31:22.080 --> 0:31:23.640 and that people that want to be my life need 0:31:23.680 --> 0:31:25.400 to be a part of my life as it is, 0:31:25.800 --> 0:31:28.080 instead of I'm not going to change your decision because 0:31:28.080 --> 0:31:30.680 i've met someone. So I remember, we're at Bondi Beach, 0:31:30.680 --> 0:31:32.440 We're going for a walk and I told him, I said, so, 0:31:32.920 --> 0:31:35.280 I'm about to freeze my eggs. He's like, what does 0:31:35.280 --> 0:31:37.480 that mean. I was like, well, I'm like, you know, 0:31:37.560 --> 0:31:39.880 I'm thirty three. He was twenty six, so there was 0:31:39.920 --> 0:31:43.560 a big difference. I said, I'm thirty three. My eggs, 0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:44.840 I don't have that many eggs. He's like, what do 0:31:44.880 --> 0:31:46.480 you mean you have like two hundred thousand of them? 0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:48.800 And I'm like, well, you don't. I was like, you 0:31:48.840 --> 0:31:50.600 originally do one day and then I explained it to 0:31:50.680 --> 0:31:53.600 him a little bit and I was like, oh, is 0:31:53.600 --> 0:31:54.960 this going to scare him off because he thinks I 0:31:55.000 --> 0:31:56.520 just want to settle down and have kids now. And 0:31:56.600 --> 0:31:58.360 he didn't really say anything. We didn't have a big 0:31:58.360 --> 0:32:01.040 conversation about it. We just changed the subject. And then 0:32:01.080 --> 0:32:03.320 the next day he came back and he's like, so 0:32:03.400 --> 0:32:05.440 I've done a lot of research in the last twenty 0:32:05.480 --> 0:32:07.640 four hours. And he went away and he researched on 0:32:07.640 --> 0:32:09.000 his own so that he would come back and have 0:32:09.120 --> 0:32:11.520 a proper conversation about it, and I was so thankful 0:32:11.520 --> 0:32:13.760 for that. He just asked a lot of questions. He said, 0:32:13.800 --> 0:32:16.320 I understand now why you want to do it. I'm 0:32:16.360 --> 0:32:22.280 completely encouraging of it. But he's like, I don't know 0:32:22.320 --> 0:32:23.840 if I want kids. He's like, I just want to 0:32:23.880 --> 0:32:25.640 tell you that straight up, and I said, well, I 0:32:25.680 --> 0:32:27.640 think that I do want kids, so I want you 0:32:27.720 --> 0:32:29.680 to know that. And then we had to have a 0:32:29.680 --> 0:32:32.200 conversation on whether we even continue dating. If he was 0:32:32.200 --> 0:32:34.640 a strong no, and I'm a strong yes, but neither 0:32:34.680 --> 0:32:36.840 of us are strong on either. He would be probably 0:32:36.880 --> 0:32:40.160 leaning more towards not kids for like another ten years, 0:32:40.480 --> 0:32:43.040 whereas I'm like, I definitely have to have kids before then. 0:32:43.160 --> 0:32:44.400 So the best thing that we could have done in 0:32:44.440 --> 0:32:48.480 this situation is freezer eggs because if in ten years 0:32:48.520 --> 0:32:50.400 time we do want to have a child and I 0:32:50.440 --> 0:32:53.560 can't anymore, I've got those there. So he was really 0:32:53.600 --> 0:32:55.120 great about it, and we had a lot of people 0:32:55.200 --> 0:32:58.200 running in saying they're in new relationships and they don't 0:32:58.200 --> 0:33:00.320 know how to broach it with their partner. They ask 0:33:00.400 --> 0:33:02.760 for advice on what to do. Is it going to 0:33:02.800 --> 0:33:05.200 turn them off? Is it too much too soon? And 0:33:05.280 --> 0:33:07.800 I just think the best thing you can do is 0:33:07.880 --> 0:33:10.680 be honest. Just because you're take you're making the decision 0:33:10.720 --> 0:33:13.160 to freeze your eggs doesn't mean you're trying to lock 0:33:13.200 --> 0:33:14.880 someone down and have a baby with him in a week. 0:33:14.920 --> 0:33:17.000 In fact, it's the opposite. It's you trying to say 0:33:17.040 --> 0:33:19.160 to them, I don't want this right now, but I 0:33:19.200 --> 0:33:21.280 want to have it later. If you're going to have 0:33:21.280 --> 0:33:23.160 a conversation with someone and they're gonna run the other 0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:25.240 day direction, I just think they're not the right person 0:33:25.280 --> 0:33:27.440 for you. And I really do believe that. So if 0:33:27.440 --> 0:33:29.600 any of you are in that situation now where you're like, 0:33:29.640 --> 0:33:31.920 I don't know how to approach him, he's going to 0:33:31.960 --> 0:33:34.440 think it's too much. It's absolutely not too much. It 0:33:34.520 --> 0:33:36.240 is your life, and if they want to be a 0:33:36.320 --> 0:33:39.000 part of your life, they need to understand what you're 0:33:39.040 --> 0:33:40.920 going through and why you're going through it. So I 0:33:41.000 --> 0:33:44.080 think you just need to have the conversation. I want 0:33:44.120 --> 0:33:47.120 one hundred percent agree. And I also think that as women, 0:33:47.600 --> 0:33:50.080 as we get older, you do need to be vocal 0:33:50.120 --> 0:33:52.600 about what you want in your life because, like I mean, 0:33:52.640 --> 0:33:54.959 and I've heard it so many times, I did it myself. 0:33:55.040 --> 0:33:57.120 I was in a relationship for six years with someone 0:33:57.400 --> 0:33:59.640 who didn't want to marry me and didn't want to 0:33:59.640 --> 0:34:02.720 have kids with me, and nothing fucking changed. Like that's 0:34:02.760 --> 0:34:04.960 the thing, right, we can we can be so fearful 0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:07.640 about saying the wrong thing or coming across as though 0:34:07.840 --> 0:34:09.920 what we want in life doesn't match up and that 0:34:09.960 --> 0:34:12.600 person leaving. You know, there's fear about being left or 0:34:12.640 --> 0:34:15.719 being abandoned, but if what you want isn't on the 0:34:15.760 --> 0:34:18.080 same path, you're never gonna get there. You're not going 0:34:18.160 --> 0:34:20.360 to just convince them one day. If they've shown you 0:34:20.400 --> 0:34:22.759 time and time again that you know, maybe what you 0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:25.600 guys want in the long run isn't compatible, then I 0:34:25.680 --> 0:34:27.960 really think that those hard conversations have to be had 0:34:27.960 --> 0:34:30.560 as early as possible, so that way you're not wasting 0:34:30.560 --> 0:34:32.480 time on someone who doesn't want the same things as you. 0:34:32.880 --> 0:34:34.920 In hindsight, if I didn't meet Jordan, I would have 0:34:34.960 --> 0:34:37.200 frozen my eggs months ago. The reason I waited so 0:34:37.320 --> 0:34:40.480 long because I ended up waiting probably nearly four months 0:34:40.480 --> 0:34:44.000 between the consult and Cherylfoire my doctor, she said, look, 0:34:44.080 --> 0:34:46.160 you can wait up to six months. That's fine, She's like, 0:34:46.200 --> 0:34:47.960 your eggs will still be the same in six months. 0:34:48.120 --> 0:34:50.080 I knew that I had then had a limited time 0:34:50.120 --> 0:34:52.319 with Jordan, and I didn't want to spend a few 0:34:52.360 --> 0:34:55.440 weeks three to four weeks just feeling shitty whilst I 0:34:55.480 --> 0:34:57.439 was on these hormones injections. I just wanted to enjoy 0:34:57.440 --> 0:35:00.000 our time together. So I guess we should start right 0:35:00.040 --> 0:35:01.960 at the beginning, like after you've had this consultation with 0:35:02.000 --> 0:35:04.759 doctor Cherylfire, when you actually made the decision to go 0:35:04.840 --> 0:35:07.319 down this process of egg freezing. Can you tell me 0:35:07.400 --> 0:35:10.200 what that process was like? And also how did you 0:35:10.239 --> 0:35:12.480 find out what the quality of your eggs will like? 0:35:12.920 --> 0:35:16.919 So I guess to start with, you have to get 0:35:17.040 --> 0:35:19.520 blood tests done and an ultrasound, and that's like base 0:35:19.640 --> 0:35:21.799 level fertility tests. You get a blood test to test 0:35:21.880 --> 0:35:25.480 your AMH level. Now, your AMH level is anti malarian 0:35:25.600 --> 0:35:28.480 hormone and that is a hormone that is secreted by 0:35:28.520 --> 0:35:32.920 your ovarian follicles. So essentially, the higher the level of 0:35:32.960 --> 0:35:37.000 your AMH, the more follicles aka potential eggs that you have, 0:35:37.120 --> 0:35:39.719 So you want to get a high number. That's literally 0:35:39.800 --> 0:35:41.080 just a blood test. You just you can go to 0:35:41.120 --> 0:35:42.759 your GP and you can say, hey, I want to 0:35:42.760 --> 0:35:45.600 test my fertility. Let's do this, and ninety nine percent 0:35:45.719 --> 0:35:47.640 of gps will encourage you to do that and they'll 0:35:47.640 --> 0:35:49.600 give you the blood test. Then you need to have 0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:53.839 an ultrasound, an internal ultrasound, so trans vaginal. That means 0:35:53.840 --> 0:35:56.319 the probe goes in your vagina. If anyone hasn't had 0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:58.200 that before, I mean if you've had babies and all 0:35:58.239 --> 0:36:00.160 that kind of thing, you would have had it. The 0:36:00.200 --> 0:36:02.600 probe goes in your vagina and they literally just count 0:36:02.640 --> 0:36:05.719 the follicles that you've got. So my AMH was thirteen, 0:36:06.360 --> 0:36:09.400 and so that shows that my follicle count is thirteen. 0:36:10.280 --> 0:36:14.279 This is actually not that abnormal for my age. So 0:36:14.320 --> 0:36:16.640 it's not like the best reading that you want. It's 0:36:16.640 --> 0:36:19.680 not the highest reading you want. But what Cheryl told 0:36:19.719 --> 0:36:22.439 me is it's pretty standardized for my age for thirty three. 0:36:22.560 --> 0:36:24.880 And that is the whole reason that people will encourage 0:36:24.920 --> 0:36:27.880 people above the thirties to go and get these tests 0:36:27.920 --> 0:36:30.319 because you can be I know how healthy I am. 0:36:30.560 --> 0:36:33.720 I don't do drugs, I don't smoke. I've always treated 0:36:33.719 --> 0:36:35.719 my body well. And the fact of the matter is 0:36:35.760 --> 0:36:38.520 there's nothing you can do to prolong the health of 0:36:38.560 --> 0:36:42.440 your eggs in women, they just deteriorate. So this AMH 0:36:42.520 --> 0:36:46.120 level of thirteen and follicle of thirteen, these don't predict 0:36:46.160 --> 0:36:49.560 the chance of falling pregnant naturally, but the chance of 0:36:49.560 --> 0:36:52.120 falling pregnant is more linked to your eight. So I 0:36:52.320 --> 0:36:55.200 was given a chance. Cheryl told me in the office 0:36:55.200 --> 0:36:56.960 when all my blood test results came back and all 0:36:56.960 --> 0:36:59.319 my follicles. She sat me down and she said, look, 0:37:00.080 --> 0:37:03.720 you have about a fifteen percent chance of falling pregnant naturally. 0:37:04.000 --> 0:37:07.200 And I was gobsmacked. I was like, fifteen percent, I 0:37:07.200 --> 0:37:10.400 mean fifteen percent every month is really quite low. And 0:37:10.480 --> 0:37:12.400 I was very upset. I was like, this is not 0:37:12.440 --> 0:37:14.120 what I expected. I thought you were going to say 0:37:14.120 --> 0:37:16.720 that I had a really healthy body, that everything was great, 0:37:16.800 --> 0:37:18.680 and I would be able to just go and pop 0:37:18.680 --> 0:37:20.719 out some eggs and put them on ice. How did 0:37:20.760 --> 0:37:23.080 you process that when you were told that your fertility 0:37:23.280 --> 0:37:26.479 wasn't what you expected. It was really hard. I hadn't 0:37:26.480 --> 0:37:28.560 met Jordan yet. I went to the console on my 0:37:28.680 --> 0:37:33.120 own because I just didn't expect to get any bad news. 0:37:33.200 --> 0:37:35.080 And it wasn't bad news. I don't want to say 0:37:35.080 --> 0:37:38.320 it's bad news, but I wasn't expecting a fifteen percent 0:37:38.400 --> 0:37:41.320 chance of natural pregnancy. It was really hard. I cried. 0:37:41.440 --> 0:37:44.480 I got really upset because I immediately went and I 0:37:44.480 --> 0:37:46.480 don't know why, because I'm not usually like this and 0:37:46.520 --> 0:37:48.600 I wasn't expecting it, but I immediately went down the 0:37:48.640 --> 0:37:50.960 thought track of you're never going to have a baby, 0:37:51.000 --> 0:37:53.359 your fertility is low, you don't have a boyfriend. It's 0:37:53.400 --> 0:37:55.000 not on your cards, like you're going to be alone. 0:37:55.239 --> 0:37:57.280 And then I got you know, when like one thing's 0:37:57.320 --> 0:37:59.759 really bad in your head, it's like a snowball. I 0:37:59.800 --> 0:38:01.319 was like, not only are you not gonna have a baby, 0:38:01.320 --> 0:38:03.120 You're gonna be forever alone. No one's gonna love you, 0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:05.200 no one's gonna date you, You're never gonna have a family. 0:38:05.280 --> 0:38:08.000 And I just I got so down on myself and 0:38:08.360 --> 0:38:09.960 I went home and I didn't tell anyone for a 0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:12.239 little while, oh, for like twenty four hours. I told 0:38:12.239 --> 0:38:14.680 my sister Sherry the next day, and she was really 0:38:14.680 --> 0:38:16.480 good too. She's like, that's all right, let's just get 0:38:16.520 --> 0:38:19.239 those eggs on ice, which is exactly the response you 0:38:19.239 --> 0:38:21.120 want from someone in your life if you tell them that. 0:38:21.200 --> 0:38:23.560 You don't want anyone to sort of feel sorry for you, 0:38:23.680 --> 0:38:26.880 or you just want someone to say that's cool, that's normal. 0:38:26.960 --> 0:38:28.399 Let's just do what we have to do, and that's 0:38:28.400 --> 0:38:30.000 all there is. All you can do is go and 0:38:30.040 --> 0:38:32.080 do what you have to do and put them on ice. Now, 0:38:32.080 --> 0:38:34.080 what Cheryl did say that did make me feel better 0:38:34.120 --> 0:38:36.360 when I spoke to her again after, because I was 0:38:36.400 --> 0:38:38.640 so upset. She's like Britt to be honest, like she's like, 0:38:38.680 --> 0:38:40.719 it's pretty normal for your age. It's just one of 0:38:40.760 --> 0:38:43.400 those things that's unfortunate. There's nothing wrong with you. I 0:38:43.440 --> 0:38:45.480 had no CIS, I had no end. Demetrio says, I 0:38:45.520 --> 0:38:48.200 had nothing inside of me. The only thing that was 0:38:48.239 --> 0:38:51.080 against me was my age. I remember this time. I 0:38:51.120 --> 0:38:53.640 remember when you got that first news that your fertility 0:38:53.680 --> 0:38:56.160 was at fifteen percent, and I remember how upset you were. 0:38:56.440 --> 0:38:58.839 And I think that for anybody like that comes as 0:38:58.880 --> 0:39:01.239 such a shock because you know, you always hear about 0:39:01.239 --> 0:39:04.080 those cases where people just seem to get pregnant so easy, 0:39:04.120 --> 0:39:06.840 and that for me, like we've had conversations about miscarriage 0:39:06.840 --> 0:39:09.640 on this podcast, It's fertility has been like a constant 0:39:10.040 --> 0:39:14.040 running conversation on this podcast because it's so important to 0:39:14.080 --> 0:39:16.920 talk about how fucking hard it can be for some 0:39:17.000 --> 0:39:20.040 people and how challenging it can be to actually fell 0:39:20.080 --> 0:39:22.759 pregnant and have that family. Because I think we see 0:39:22.800 --> 0:39:25.640 so much that it's like it looks easy. Social media 0:39:25.719 --> 0:39:28.680 makes it look easy. Every fucking day there's a pregnancy announcement. 0:39:29.040 --> 0:39:32.359 And I even remember when we announced that we were 0:39:32.360 --> 0:39:35.680 having Maley. It was really important to us to talk 0:39:35.680 --> 0:39:37.880 about the fact that we had had a miscarriage, because 0:39:38.080 --> 0:39:41.040 I would hate for somebody else who is struggling with 0:39:41.080 --> 0:39:45.360 their pregnancy to see another happy pregnancy announcement and think 0:39:45.480 --> 0:39:47.879 it's so fucking easy for them, because for a lot 0:39:47.880 --> 0:39:50.320 of women it isn't. And I think that this whole 0:39:50.360 --> 0:39:52.840 concept of egg freezing and being able to have some 0:39:53.080 --> 0:39:55.840 choice and being able to just know what's going on 0:39:55.880 --> 0:39:59.319 in your body is so powerful because without knowledge, you 0:39:59.360 --> 0:40:02.520 can't make the best decision for yourself. So let's get 0:40:02.520 --> 0:40:06.360 into the actual practical and physical side of it, because 0:40:06.600 --> 0:40:09.560 I don't think people are aware of how physically demanding 0:40:09.680 --> 0:40:13.319 actually collecting the eggs is. And I know that it 0:40:13.400 --> 0:40:15.279 was a process that was really full on for you. 0:40:15.280 --> 0:40:17.680 You had to inject yourself every day. There was a 0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:20.120 lot of hormone treatment that is involved in this. Could 0:40:20.160 --> 0:40:21.600 you talk us through the process that you had to 0:40:21.640 --> 0:40:24.280 go through every day so that your eggs could actually 0:40:24.280 --> 0:40:27.120 be collected. Yeah, And just in addition to what you 0:40:27.200 --> 0:40:30.120 just said, it was really important for me to talk 0:40:30.120 --> 0:40:32.560 to people about it because it made me feel better. 0:40:32.880 --> 0:40:34.239 I didn't want to sit in my room and dwell 0:40:34.239 --> 0:40:36.120 on it and think the worst, which I think a 0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:37.959 lot of people don't want to rely on their friends 0:40:38.000 --> 0:40:39.640 and family, or they don't want to put pressure on them, 0:40:39.719 --> 0:40:40.960 or they don't want to bother them. But I think 0:40:41.000 --> 0:40:43.200 it's really important to talk about it. I was, and 0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:45.280 I don't want to stay lucky because it's not lucky. 0:40:45.320 --> 0:40:47.960 But my girlfriend, Renee, like I said, she was literally 0:40:47.960 --> 0:40:50.480 injecting herself at the same time that I was, so 0:40:51.000 --> 0:40:52.680 that was quite nice for us to be able to 0:40:52.680 --> 0:40:54.320 both talk to each other about how are you feeling? 0:40:54.320 --> 0:40:56.600 Did you get this feeling? And then she had done 0:40:56.600 --> 0:40:58.360 already around of it before me, so she's like, what 0:40:58.360 --> 0:41:00.560 your feeling is normal? Hanging there tomorrow is going to 0:41:00.600 --> 0:41:02.800 be worse. It was just really nice to have someone 0:41:03.200 --> 0:41:05.160 to go through that with and talk to about it. 0:41:05.200 --> 0:41:10.240 But the two week hormone injections are, in all honesty, 0:41:10.320 --> 0:41:12.560 not what I expected. And now I want to say 0:41:12.640 --> 0:41:15.680 that they are different for everybody. So what I'm going 0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:18.440 to tell you now is my experience. Some people might 0:41:18.480 --> 0:41:21.040 feel ten times worse, some people might feel ten times better. 0:41:21.840 --> 0:41:26.080 Normal symptoms are like fatigue and headaches and weight gain. 0:41:26.200 --> 0:41:28.640 And when I say weight gain, it's not actual weight gain, 0:41:28.880 --> 0:41:32.600 it's just you get very heavy in your lower abdomen, 0:41:32.640 --> 0:41:35.040 like it's like a period on steroids, So you get 0:41:35.080 --> 0:41:38.960 a lot of pain and heaviness and you swell a lot. 0:41:39.080 --> 0:41:40.759 So a lot of people can look a couple of 0:41:40.760 --> 0:41:43.279 months pregnant, but it all goes away at the end. Now, 0:41:43.280 --> 0:41:46.800 from my experience, you start injecting. The normal cycle is 0:41:46.840 --> 0:41:49.920 fourteen days of injections, and every couple of days you 0:41:50.080 --> 0:41:53.160 might introduce another injection. So I went from starting at 0:41:53.160 --> 0:41:56.440 one injection and I ended up being doing three injections 0:41:56.440 --> 0:41:59.000 a day. That is individual to you, so that is 0:41:59.560 --> 0:42:02.200 what you're doing, will tell you you need, and that 0:42:02.360 --> 0:42:07.080 is based off your constant ultrasounds and blood tests. So 0:42:07.960 --> 0:42:12.360 egg freezing is quite demanding. You need to be available 0:42:12.400 --> 0:42:15.319 time wise. Every two days, I had to go into 0:42:15.320 --> 0:42:18.360 the city to the clinic, and it's very time sensitive. 0:42:18.400 --> 0:42:20.000 So it can't be like, oh, I'm busy today, can 0:42:20.040 --> 0:42:23.000 I go tomorrow? I'm busy now, can I come tonight. 0:42:23.480 --> 0:42:25.279 You have to go when they tell you to in 0:42:25.320 --> 0:42:27.920 the morning, because I can't believe how much your body 0:42:28.400 --> 0:42:32.120 is like a clock and timing is imperative. So every 0:42:32.160 --> 0:42:34.000 two days you go back in for a blood test 0:42:34.080 --> 0:42:38.279 and another internal ultrasound and off those readings, it determines 0:42:38.760 --> 0:42:41.879 are your follicles responding to the hormones, how much they're 0:42:41.880 --> 0:42:44.440 responding to the hormones, what your levels are at, and 0:42:44.480 --> 0:42:47.200 that depends if you need more or less of the 0:42:47.200 --> 0:42:52.560 injections that you're giving yourself. So my follicles weren't responding 0:42:52.680 --> 0:42:55.600 very well. Some of them were, Some of them are growing. 0:42:55.719 --> 0:42:58.600 They measure them so amazing, so they measure them and 0:42:58.640 --> 0:43:01.239 they grow so much. Over an a lot of mine 0:43:01.280 --> 0:43:03.080 went responding, which is why I went a couple of 0:43:03.160 --> 0:43:05.520 days extra and I had some more injections at the end, 0:43:05.600 --> 0:43:08.520 just to really pump them through. So the first two 0:43:08.600 --> 0:43:11.160 days I got a really bad headache, Like I'm talking, 0:43:11.239 --> 0:43:13.560 one of the worst ones I've ever had, And they 0:43:13.600 --> 0:43:15.200 do warn you of that. They're like, the first two 0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:17.200 days is a really bad headache. I was in bed, 0:43:17.320 --> 0:43:20.239 I was light sensitive, I was taking painkillers. It was 0:43:20.280 --> 0:43:22.719 really bad. Then it just went and I didn't get 0:43:22.719 --> 0:43:25.960 another headache for the two weeks. First five days I 0:43:26.080 --> 0:43:29.560 called up the fertility clinic and I let no joke. 0:43:29.640 --> 0:43:32.440 I said, I don't think I'm injecting it properly. I'm 0:43:32.440 --> 0:43:34.319 worried that's not going in. She was like, what do 0:43:34.360 --> 0:43:36.879 you mean. I was like, I don't feel anything. I'd 0:43:36.920 --> 0:43:40.520 feel one hundred percent fine. Life was normal. I didn't 0:43:40.520 --> 0:43:43.319 feel one thing. She's like, that's normal. She's like not 0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:45.239 everyone feels everything. And I was like, this is great. 0:43:45.239 --> 0:43:48.239 What's everyone talking about. I'm having a wonderful time. And 0:43:48.280 --> 0:43:53.000 then the second week came and oh my god, everything 0:43:53.120 --> 0:43:56.600 just changed and I was Laurie probably remember. I was 0:43:56.640 --> 0:44:00.400 just like crying and everything. I was so emotional. Everything 0:44:00.440 --> 0:44:03.719 feels like the world's against you. I would cry it 0:44:03.800 --> 0:44:06.480 and add on TV. I was at Jordan all the time, 0:44:06.600 --> 0:44:08.719 like I were having arguments on the phone. I was like, 0:44:08.800 --> 0:44:10.920 you don't love me, You're giving me enough attention. He's like, 0:44:11.000 --> 0:44:14.560 whoa brude. He's like, He's like, everything's I'm exactly the 0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:16.479 same as I was yesterday. What are you talking about? 0:44:16.520 --> 0:44:19.960 And I was just so needy and so emotional. And 0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:21.799 I knew that as well. So I would have this 0:44:21.840 --> 0:44:23.520 fight with Jordan and then I would call him back 0:44:23.520 --> 0:44:25.360 and I'd say, I'm sorry, it's the hormones. He's like, 0:44:25.400 --> 0:44:27.160 I know it was really fine because he've done his 0:44:27.160 --> 0:44:30.560 own research as well. But the hormones. The feelings you get, 0:44:30.640 --> 0:44:34.919 like the sadness and the tears are a real thing, 0:44:35.000 --> 0:44:38.800 and it was it was really crazy to experience, I imagine, 0:44:39.040 --> 0:44:40.719 and I can't. I don't know, but you can tell me. 0:44:40.760 --> 0:44:43.160 I imagine it's like pregnancy. I imagine it's like those 0:44:43.800 --> 0:44:46.879 early feelings when you get rushed with these hormones. I mean, 0:44:46.960 --> 0:44:49.279 I guess I can compare it to when like the 0:44:49.320 --> 0:44:52.279 couple of days before I get my period. I'm like, such, 0:44:52.320 --> 0:44:54.760 and I know that this is like that on literally 0:44:54.800 --> 0:44:59.319 on steroids, on hormones. Yeah, like actual stone. But like 0:44:59.400 --> 0:45:01.359 I remember time, and I think you know this is 0:45:01.480 --> 0:45:04.479 actually I'm learning so much from speaking to you about 0:45:04.480 --> 0:45:07.040 this because I remember this time. I remember when you 0:45:07.080 --> 0:45:09.360 were going through this, and I was like, why is 0:45:09.400 --> 0:45:12.520 Britt being so sensitive? Like I didn't know this. We 0:45:12.719 --> 0:45:15.480 for everyone listening, like we had probably our first actual 0:45:15.600 --> 0:45:18.520 argument at during that period, and it was like, I 0:45:18.560 --> 0:45:21.120 wish I had better understood what you were going through, 0:45:21.200 --> 0:45:23.400 Like and it wasn't an argument in that, you know, 0:45:23.400 --> 0:45:25.640 of course, like fuck with like sisters guys, we arguing 0:45:25.719 --> 0:45:28.080 that we make up five minutes later, like nothing changes, 0:45:28.080 --> 0:45:32.360 but it was you weren't you. You were very sensitive. 0:45:32.440 --> 0:45:35.759 I think, like normally nothing really phases you, like you're 0:45:35.880 --> 0:45:38.239 very go with the flow, and when somebody has such 0:45:38.280 --> 0:45:41.400 a shift in their personality, I guess it's hard to understand. 0:45:41.480 --> 0:45:43.840 And also we hadn't had a lot of conversations around 0:45:44.120 --> 0:45:46.040 what the hormones were actually going to do to you 0:45:46.080 --> 0:45:47.600 and how you were going to respond to them. So 0:45:48.080 --> 0:45:50.360 I'm learning this now from having this conversation with you. 0:45:50.400 --> 0:45:52.720 I didn't realize that that's how strongly you were affected 0:45:52.719 --> 0:45:55.000 by it. I didn't realize you were so sad, Like 0:45:55.080 --> 0:45:57.560 I'm so sorry that I wasn't more aware of that 0:45:57.600 --> 0:45:59.080 at the time. I mean, like, you don't have to 0:45:59.120 --> 0:46:01.279 apologize it was I probably didn't tell you either, but 0:46:01.400 --> 0:46:03.840 I am very much I don't want to put anything 0:46:03.880 --> 0:46:07.240 on other people. I don't want to cause a problem. 0:46:07.480 --> 0:46:10.200 But I didn't realize how much it would affect me. 0:46:10.239 --> 0:46:12.719 Otherwise I would have told you. I honestly was expecting nothing. 0:46:12.760 --> 0:46:14.239 And then one day I woke up in a wave 0:46:14.280 --> 0:46:16.719 of emotions, like anyone could speak to me, and I 0:46:16.800 --> 0:46:19.200 was in tears. I was just beside myself all the time. 0:46:19.680 --> 0:46:21.480 And that's like you just said, that's not me in 0:46:21.520 --> 0:46:24.440 my relationships. I'm going with the flow in work relationships 0:46:24.480 --> 0:46:26.000 and go with the flow all the time. Not a 0:46:26.040 --> 0:46:29.319 lot stresses me out, but yeah, it was fucking crazy. Man. 0:46:29.400 --> 0:46:31.040 It was like I would just sit in my lound 0:46:31.120 --> 0:46:32.800 room and cry and nothing. I was just actually I 0:46:32.800 --> 0:46:35.360 would sit there. I remember this one day and I 0:46:35.400 --> 0:46:37.160 took a video of it because I was going to 0:46:37.200 --> 0:46:40.239 put this whole highlight to reel up and explanation on 0:46:40.800 --> 0:46:43.680 my stories for Instagram, to answer everyone's questions before I 0:46:43.719 --> 0:46:45.480 decided just to do the podcast because there was just 0:46:45.520 --> 0:46:48.120 too much information. But I was just sitting there and 0:46:48.160 --> 0:46:50.720 I remember I got a message was like some bad news, 0:46:50.760 --> 0:46:53.520 but no, it wasn't bad news. It was news, it 0:46:53.600 --> 0:46:56.680 wasn't bad. And I remember just hysterics. I was sobbing 0:46:56.719 --> 0:46:59.319 and I couldn't breathe. And I remember recording it just 0:46:59.320 --> 0:47:01.360 to point out, like, guys, this is what I'm this 0:47:01.440 --> 0:47:02.960 is what's happening to me right now, and I can 0:47:03.000 --> 0:47:04.560 tell you right now there's no reason for me to 0:47:04.560 --> 0:47:06.480 be doing this. I just I remember I wanted to 0:47:06.520 --> 0:47:08.160 note that. I was like, you should not be crying 0:47:08.200 --> 0:47:10.080 right now. But I was beside myself, and I think 0:47:10.120 --> 0:47:13.400 it's important to give yourself enough space. If you're going 0:47:13.440 --> 0:47:14.880 to freeze your eggs, you need to be aware that 0:47:14.920 --> 0:47:17.799 this can happen, and make sure your schedule's pretty free. 0:47:17.840 --> 0:47:19.720 You're gonna want to just be cruising around the house, 0:47:19.880 --> 0:47:22.040 not having a lot of places to go. Don't be 0:47:22.080 --> 0:47:24.560 booking things in with people. And I think it's really 0:47:24.600 --> 0:47:28.000 important to tell people around you what you're doing and 0:47:28.000 --> 0:47:30.680 what might happen, because there'll be a lot more understanding 0:47:30.840 --> 0:47:32.799 when you burst out into tears. You know, it's such 0:47:32.840 --> 0:47:34.480 an unfair thing because I think that you know, if 0:47:34.520 --> 0:47:36.839 you're going through the process of egg freezing, in one 0:47:36.920 --> 0:47:39.319 side of it, it's very empowering because you're taking that 0:47:39.400 --> 0:47:42.160 agency and you're having that choice. But on the other side, like, 0:47:42.480 --> 0:47:45.799 it is incredibly emotional, It is personal, and there are 0:47:45.880 --> 0:47:48.200 these other feelings that are loaded into it. Maybe you 0:47:48.200 --> 0:47:50.520 haven't met that person yet, maybe you're unsure as to 0:47:50.560 --> 0:47:52.160 whether you're going to have children on your own or 0:47:52.200 --> 0:47:54.920 with someone. Like there's a lot of unknown and that 0:47:54.960 --> 0:47:57.160 can be really fucking scary as well. So then to 0:47:57.239 --> 0:48:00.359 think that you're already dealing with these big emotions and 0:48:00.400 --> 0:48:02.759 then to just turbocharge it with a bit of hormones. 0:48:02.960 --> 0:48:06.160 Seems incredibly unfair to have to process all of that 0:48:06.239 --> 0:48:09.080 in one go, So you have to inject yourself every day. 0:48:09.400 --> 0:48:11.960 Can you talk me through once your follicles are actually 0:48:11.960 --> 0:48:14.920 at an optimal level, what happens then? How do they 0:48:15.040 --> 0:48:18.120 actually go about collecting the eggs and what is the 0:48:18.160 --> 0:48:20.839 process once they have collected the eggs? You inject yourself 0:48:20.880 --> 0:48:22.560 every single day you're right, and then after a few 0:48:22.600 --> 0:48:25.279 days you're adding another injection and that is all very 0:48:25.280 --> 0:48:28.120 time sensitive, so the same time every day. A lot 0:48:28.120 --> 0:48:29.680 of people ask if you can still go to work. 0:48:29.719 --> 0:48:31.560 Do you have to take time off work. You don't 0:48:31.640 --> 0:48:34.319 have to. If you can, great because you might feel 0:48:34.320 --> 0:48:36.839 really shitty or at least the second week. But you 0:48:36.920 --> 0:48:39.680 do have to be accessible to go to your appointments 0:48:39.680 --> 0:48:42.040 in the morning, which is usually between seven and nine 0:48:42.080 --> 0:48:44.640 from most clinics. You have to be accessible for that, 0:48:44.680 --> 0:48:46.560 and you have to be able to inject yourself at 0:48:46.560 --> 0:48:48.520 the same time every day. So I picked lunch time, 0:48:48.600 --> 0:48:50.799 so mine was about twelve o'clock every single day because 0:48:50.840 --> 0:48:52.360 for me that was easy. I could get up, go 0:48:52.400 --> 0:48:53.840 for a walk, do my work in the morning, and 0:48:53.880 --> 0:48:56.279 when I had my lunch. I just knew that I 0:48:56.280 --> 0:49:00.000 would remember to inject myself. In terms of injecting yourself, 0:49:00.000 --> 0:49:02.839 it's not painless, but it's not painful. I don't want 0:49:02.840 --> 0:49:04.880 anyone to be scared of it. Now. I know. I 0:49:04.920 --> 0:49:06.959 work in the hospital and I inject people. I found 0:49:07.040 --> 0:49:09.960 it very easy. I know a lot of people don't, 0:49:10.040 --> 0:49:11.920 but I don't want you to be scared of if 0:49:11.920 --> 0:49:14.120 it hurts, because it really doesn't. You just get a 0:49:14.120 --> 0:49:17.160 little bit of fat. The needle is so skinny, like 0:49:17.200 --> 0:49:20.720 it's so thin, and then you don't even really feel 0:49:21.120 --> 0:49:23.239 maybe the second injection, I did you feel it going in, 0:49:23.280 --> 0:49:26.480 But otherwise it's so quick and easy. The way that 0:49:26.480 --> 0:49:29.360 they give you the medications is fool proof, like you 0:49:29.480 --> 0:49:32.120 draw up exactly the amount you need. You can't really 0:49:32.120 --> 0:49:34.080 make mistakes. So I don't want anyone to be scared 0:49:34.120 --> 0:49:36.680 of that. At the end of the second week, you 0:49:36.760 --> 0:49:39.239 do start to get really bloated, and I'll put some 0:49:39.280 --> 0:49:41.319 stories up on my Instagram to show you guys. I'll 0:49:41.320 --> 0:49:43.160 put some on the lifelin cart Instagram as well. But 0:49:43.280 --> 0:49:45.160 I didn't get nearly as bloated as I've seen a 0:49:45.200 --> 0:49:46.480 lot of other people, because you know, a lot of 0:49:46.520 --> 0:49:48.760 people share photos of themselves. There's a lot of forums 0:49:48.800 --> 0:49:50.960 and things like that. I was lucky I didn't get 0:49:50.960 --> 0:49:53.360 that swollen. You do get a lot of fluid retention 0:49:53.440 --> 0:49:55.480 and things like that, but you've got to remember your 0:49:55.520 --> 0:49:59.640 follicles inside you are literally swollen. The whole point is 0:49:59.640 --> 0:50:01.560 that they're growing, so all of a sudden, you have 0:50:01.640 --> 0:50:05.040 twenty follicles in you that are taking up extra space, 0:50:05.080 --> 0:50:07.480 so they have to have somewhere to go. I know 0:50:07.600 --> 0:50:09.760 that this is something that it's like a cruel irony 0:50:09.800 --> 0:50:12.200 of IVF as well. You know IVF and also egg 0:50:12.239 --> 0:50:14.960 freezing is that a lot of women do have bloating 0:50:15.080 --> 0:50:18.200 and it's around the area where you put on side 0:50:18.239 --> 0:50:20.200 when you first get pregnant. And for a lot of people, 0:50:20.239 --> 0:50:23.239 it's this irony of like, you're not pregnant, you're going 0:50:23.239 --> 0:50:26.680 through fertility issues, or you're working through your own fertility, 0:50:27.000 --> 0:50:29.239 and yet you're having some of the symptoms and side 0:50:29.239 --> 0:50:30.880 effects of what you would if you're pregnant, And the 0:50:30.880 --> 0:50:33.479 cruel irony of that, I know can be emotionally really 0:50:33.480 --> 0:50:35.839 hard for some people to actually process and deal with. 0:50:36.280 --> 0:50:38.440 I had a girlfriend who went through IVF, and she 0:50:38.520 --> 0:50:40.319 said that was one of the hardest things, was like 0:50:40.400 --> 0:50:43.680 feeling like she looked like she was pregnant, feeling those 0:50:43.760 --> 0:50:46.759 changes to her body, and knowing that she didn't have 0:50:46.800 --> 0:50:49.560 a baby, which is what she so desperately wanted. And 0:50:49.560 --> 0:50:51.759 I think that, like brit said earlier, like there's so 0:50:51.800 --> 0:50:53.560 many parts of this that can be a really emotional 0:50:53.680 --> 0:50:55.759 journey for someone. So I don't know if this is 0:50:55.800 --> 0:50:58.279 typical for egg freezing, but I imagine this is what 0:50:58.320 --> 0:51:00.920 it was like to be pregnant. But the hormones. I 0:51:01.000 --> 0:51:03.479 went off a lot of food that I would usually love, 0:51:04.120 --> 0:51:05.840 and I was wanting to eat a lot of food 0:51:05.880 --> 0:51:07.840 that I wouldn't usually eat, but like things that I 0:51:07.880 --> 0:51:12.120 would have every day, coffee, certain smells, and pastas. I 0:51:12.200 --> 0:51:13.880 was really off them and I didn't get it at 0:51:13.920 --> 0:51:15.680 the start, and then after a few days I was like, oh, 0:51:15.760 --> 0:51:19.040 I think this is probably from the hormones, because they're 0:51:19.040 --> 0:51:21.719 doing the same thing as when you're early pregnancy. So 0:51:21.840 --> 0:51:24.160 I think that whether that was just me, whether a 0:51:24.160 --> 0:51:25.840 lot of people experienced that, I don't know. It was 0:51:25.880 --> 0:51:28.719 something else I had. But the day before the biggest 0:51:29.280 --> 0:51:33.160 change for me, the day before collection, when your follicles 0:51:33.200 --> 0:51:35.960 are at their absolute biggest because they've just been stockpiled 0:51:35.960 --> 0:51:38.279 to the shit house with hormones. I went for a 0:51:38.280 --> 0:51:40.479 walk in the morning with Sherry. I remember seeing Matt 0:51:40.520 --> 0:51:42.200 actually halfway on the walk. I went for a walk 0:51:42.200 --> 0:51:44.719 with Sherry. I left my house and walked to the 0:51:44.719 --> 0:51:47.200 beach and it was fine, and then it just hit me. 0:51:47.280 --> 0:51:51.000 I could on the way back the pain was excruciating. 0:51:51.040 --> 0:51:53.799 I couldn't. Every single step was jarring. And this is 0:51:53.840 --> 0:51:56.880 just what happens when your follyicles are at capacity. You 0:51:56.880 --> 0:51:59.640 can literally feel them like bouncing around and you're abdomen 0:52:00.040 --> 0:52:01.479 just had to go home and crawl into a ball. 0:52:02.000 --> 0:52:04.560 I was walking. They call it like the pregnancy wattle. 0:52:04.560 --> 0:52:06.239 You know, when you're pregnant you have to waddle into 0:52:06.239 --> 0:52:09.160 the hospital. You can't walk properly. You do that when 0:52:09.200 --> 0:52:12.160 you are at collection day. You can't walk properly. Every 0:52:12.200 --> 0:52:14.479 bump in the car hurts, every step hurts. To touch 0:52:14.520 --> 0:52:17.799 your abdomen hurt. It was so highly sensitive. I was 0:52:18.080 --> 0:52:21.200 really gobsmacked at that. I did not expect that at all. 0:52:21.520 --> 0:52:23.279 But that is one thing that I really want to 0:52:23.360 --> 0:52:25.919 drive home to people is you can probably work most 0:52:25.960 --> 0:52:27.600 of it, but in the last few days, I would 0:52:27.719 --> 0:52:30.359 one hundred percent. You recommend you're taking that time off work, 0:52:30.600 --> 0:52:33.400 So how do they actually collect the eggs? So I 0:52:33.560 --> 0:52:36.799 was actually put under So most places at Jeneia, you 0:52:36.840 --> 0:52:39.640 can choose whether you want to be put under anesthetic 0:52:40.200 --> 0:52:42.399 or you want to just get an anesthetic put into 0:52:42.400 --> 0:52:44.600 your vagina so that the area is numb. I just 0:52:44.680 --> 0:52:46.120 chose to be knocked out. I was like, I do 0:52:46.200 --> 0:52:49.200 not want it needle going into my cervix while I'm awake. 0:52:49.840 --> 0:52:52.360 But that's also a difference in price to what you 0:52:52.400 --> 0:52:55.440 decide if you decide to anesthesia or not. Not all 0:52:55.480 --> 0:52:58.440 clinics will offer the choice. I do know this. Jenea 0:52:58.520 --> 0:53:00.239 offered it, but not all of them will do it. 0:53:00.320 --> 0:53:02.759 Some will only have one option. But they essentially, and 0:53:02.760 --> 0:53:04.399 this is I'm not going to get technical, but they 0:53:04.400 --> 0:53:08.240 basically put they just like a little vacuum slip and slide. 0:53:08.239 --> 0:53:09.400 It's like a little I think of it like a 0:53:09.400 --> 0:53:10.759 slipper dip. But I remember when they were telling me, 0:53:10.800 --> 0:53:12.640 I was like, they just put it straight into the 0:53:12.719 --> 0:53:15.520 source and they just like slightly suck the eggs out 0:53:16.040 --> 0:53:18.319 and then they immediately check on the spot. There's a 0:53:18.840 --> 0:53:20.640 I'm sure she's not called a scientist. I don't know 0:53:20.760 --> 0:53:23.120 her official name, but there's someone in the clinic with 0:53:23.200 --> 0:53:26.120 a microscope ready, and the eggs literally come straight out. 0:53:26.520 --> 0:53:28.319 They go straight into a peatra dish and they check 0:53:28.400 --> 0:53:31.040 to see which ones are at full growth and which 0:53:31.040 --> 0:53:33.800 ones are healthy enough to be frozen on the spot. 0:53:34.040 --> 0:53:36.680 So it's very very quick, and I think the whole 0:53:36.719 --> 0:53:38.840 thing was like half an hour that you're in the 0:53:38.880 --> 0:53:41.720 operating theater and then you wake up, you don't remember anything, 0:53:41.760 --> 0:53:43.919 and you go home. Can you tell us how many 0:53:43.960 --> 0:53:46.520 eggs of yours were collected and what was the quality 0:53:46.520 --> 0:53:48.640 of the eggs once they had actually been able to 0:53:48.680 --> 0:53:52.680 extract them? So we were expecting. They really want to 0:53:52.680 --> 0:53:55.200 manage expectations, and I think that's a really great thing. 0:53:55.239 --> 0:53:56.880 They don't want to give you any false hope. They 0:53:56.920 --> 0:54:00.399 don't want to talk it down too much. But she said, look, 0:54:00.440 --> 0:54:04.879 if we can get eight eggs on ice, I'm gonna 0:54:04.920 --> 0:54:08.239 be happy, because you might get ten eggs taken out. 0:54:08.800 --> 0:54:10.480 Then they go into the little petri dish, you look 0:54:10.480 --> 0:54:12.560 at them under the microscope, and five of them are good, 0:54:12.600 --> 0:54:14.479 and five of them are They're not always all good. 0:54:15.120 --> 0:54:17.480 So she's like I'd be aiming for eight. If we 0:54:17.480 --> 0:54:19.440 can get eight, I'll be stoked. And I was like, great, 0:54:19.640 --> 0:54:23.040 eight chances, I would be so happy. And when I 0:54:23.080 --> 0:54:27.480 woke up, we got fifteen baby Britneys, So that was 0:54:27.520 --> 0:54:30.279 like beyond anything I could have hoped for. What that 0:54:30.360 --> 0:54:33.880 meant is fifteen of them were healthy enough to be frozen. 0:54:34.120 --> 0:54:36.440 That does not mean that all of them will survive 0:54:36.560 --> 0:54:39.160 defrosting come the time. So there's always a chance that 0:54:39.280 --> 0:54:41.960 some of the eggs when it's time to put them 0:54:42.000 --> 0:54:44.640 to use them, whether that's ibir or however you want 0:54:44.640 --> 0:54:47.040 to do it, not all of them will always survive. 0:54:47.320 --> 0:54:50.040 So the more that you can get frozen, the more 0:54:50.120 --> 0:54:52.640 chances you have. So I got fifteen. What that meant 0:54:52.760 --> 0:54:55.120 is I don't have to do another cycle. So if 0:54:55.160 --> 0:54:58.000 you only get a few eggs on ice, if I 0:54:58.000 --> 0:54:59.719 only got three or four, I probably would have done 0:54:59.719 --> 0:55:02.239 another cycle again to make sure I could, you know, 0:55:02.280 --> 0:55:03.839 try and get another three or four. So I had 0:55:03.880 --> 0:55:06.520 more tweets down the track. But I've got fifteen. One 0:55:06.600 --> 0:55:08.040 hit wonder and I'm not going to do it again. 0:55:08.400 --> 0:55:11.279 How many cycles can someone do if they find that 0:55:11.320 --> 0:55:13.920 they're not getting the right amount of eggs or a 0:55:13.960 --> 0:55:15.520 high number of eggs, because I do remember when we 0:55:15.520 --> 0:55:17.520 did that interview with doctor Cheryl, she said that it 0:55:17.560 --> 0:55:20.480 was around twenty percent that can be damaged in the 0:55:20.480 --> 0:55:25.000 defrosting process. How many rounds can you essentially do before 0:55:25.200 --> 0:55:28.880 or is that a completely personal decision? I mean, look, essentially, 0:55:29.080 --> 0:55:30.600 you can do as many as you want. As long 0:55:30.600 --> 0:55:33.280 as you're producing eggs, you can go through another cycle. 0:55:33.480 --> 0:55:37.479 I think what's more stopping people is the emotional toll 0:55:37.480 --> 0:55:41.000 it can take. Financially, Obviously, every single cycle costs you. 0:55:41.480 --> 0:55:43.160 Cost was a really big question here, so a lot 0:55:43.160 --> 0:55:44.839 of people saying what is the general cost from start 0:55:44.880 --> 0:55:47.680 to finish that people can expect? Is it different for everyone? 0:55:47.840 --> 0:55:49.919 What does that depend on? Then what is the cost 0:55:49.960 --> 0:55:52.080 of storage? So I really wanted to make sure of 0:55:52.080 --> 0:55:53.799 this one, so I went back to Geneia and I 0:55:53.880 --> 0:55:56.040 just said, tell me how it works for everyone? What 0:55:56.080 --> 0:55:58.680 are the options? Because the fact is cost is a 0:55:58.719 --> 0:56:01.040 really big thing for a lot of people, and a 0:56:01.080 --> 0:56:04.000 lot of people that freeze their eggs are single people, 0:56:04.040 --> 0:56:06.560 so they might not have two people's incomes to work with. 0:56:06.719 --> 0:56:09.040 They might have, you know, higher bills to pay higher 0:56:09.120 --> 0:56:12.880 living expenses, so I'm going to break down there's probably 0:56:12.880 --> 0:56:15.319 three main costs, and like there's a bit numbery here 0:56:15.360 --> 0:56:17.480 and a bit of word vomit, but it's important that 0:56:17.560 --> 0:56:20.040 you know what you're paying for. Again, every clinic is 0:56:20.040 --> 0:56:21.759 going to be different. I can only tell you about 0:56:21.800 --> 0:56:23.680 the clinic that I went through and the experience that 0:56:23.719 --> 0:56:27.400 I went through. So for me, the first cycle of 0:56:27.400 --> 0:56:30.360 egg freezing with Jinea costs four thousand, six hundred dollars. 0:56:30.440 --> 0:56:35.200 Now this includes the cycle cost, the freezing and six 0:56:35.239 --> 0:56:38.160 month storage, so that's four thousand, six hundred. But then 0:56:38.239 --> 0:56:41.360 on top of that you need to pay medication costs, 0:56:41.400 --> 0:56:44.320 which are about fifteen hundred dollars, and I say about 0:56:44.440 --> 0:56:47.240 that's different for everyone. It depends on what medication you need. 0:56:47.800 --> 0:56:50.640 And then fifteen hundred and twenty nine dollars for the 0:56:50.719 --> 0:56:53.680 day surgery fee. So that's the actual extraction fee. So 0:56:53.680 --> 0:56:57.520 we have four thousand, six hundred, fifteen hundred and fifteen 0:56:57.600 --> 0:57:00.799 hundred and twenty nine. So that just so you know, 0:57:00.920 --> 0:57:04.239 that equals seven, six hundred and twenty nine dollars. That 0:57:04.400 --> 0:57:06.960 is just for this clinic alone. Everywhere is going to 0:57:07.000 --> 0:57:10.880 be different. What I would say is you need to 0:57:10.920 --> 0:57:12.960 remember a few things. You need to factor a few 0:57:13.000 --> 0:57:15.319 things into that price. So you've got your seven, six 0:57:15.400 --> 0:57:18.160 hundred and twenty nine, but you do need to pay 0:57:18.280 --> 0:57:21.360 storage on top of that after that six months fee. 0:57:21.400 --> 0:57:23.880 So the storage on top of that is forty five 0:57:23.920 --> 0:57:26.120 dollars a month. I mean to me, I worked that 0:57:26.120 --> 0:57:27.800 out to be a bit like a coffee a day. 0:57:28.280 --> 0:57:31.000 But yeah, the surgery fee and the medication fee, they're 0:57:31.000 --> 0:57:34.960 the two fees that can't really be standardized because people 0:57:35.040 --> 0:57:37.200 need different amounts of medication and people are either going 0:57:37.240 --> 0:57:39.640 to be choose to be put under anesthesia for the 0:57:39.640 --> 0:57:41.320 procedure or they're going to choose not to be, and 0:57:41.360 --> 0:57:43.640 that's going to affect your price as well. It's not 0:57:43.720 --> 0:57:45.480 a small amount of money, and I know that a 0:57:45.520 --> 0:57:47.480 lot of people listening. It's a privilege to be able 0:57:47.520 --> 0:57:50.200 to make these decisions and these choices. But it is 0:57:50.240 --> 0:57:53.160 a payment that gives you peace of mind, you know, 0:57:53.280 --> 0:57:55.680 it's an investment that gives you peace of mind. Depending 0:57:55.720 --> 0:57:58.200 on where you're at in your own fertility journey. I 0:57:58.240 --> 0:58:00.960 think being able to have that choice in the future 0:58:01.080 --> 0:58:02.880 is going to be something that's really empowering for a 0:58:02.880 --> 0:58:05.600 lot of women. But maybe to be able to get 0:58:05.600 --> 0:58:07.200 yourself there. You have to think, Okay, I'm going to 0:58:07.280 --> 0:58:09.560 save ten thousand dollars and have that money set aside 0:58:09.600 --> 0:58:11.360 and know that that's what you're going to be investing 0:58:11.400 --> 0:58:13.560 it into. And I think fertility is one of those 0:58:13.600 --> 0:58:16.280 things that, unfortunately, for a lot of people, there are 0:58:16.400 --> 0:58:17.960 a lot of hidden costs. There are a lot of 0:58:18.040 --> 0:58:19.720 hidden costs around having kids, There are a lot of 0:58:19.760 --> 0:58:22.760 hidden costs around IVF, and for every single person, that 0:58:22.800 --> 0:58:26.680 experience can be very, very different. Brit was it painful 0:58:26.720 --> 0:58:29.360 at all? Oh my god, the last day extraction, day 0:58:29.360 --> 0:58:31.360 in the day after is really painful. You can't walk. 0:58:31.440 --> 0:58:34.000 It's unlike anything I could have imagined. No one told 0:58:34.080 --> 0:58:36.200 me that either, so I didn't really expect that. People 0:58:36.200 --> 0:58:39.320 tell you you're uncomfortable, but I was beyond uncomfortable. I was. 0:58:39.640 --> 0:58:41.960 It was so hard to walk. So yeah, that was 0:58:42.000 --> 0:58:44.720 the only painful thing. The injections, again, they're like a 0:58:44.720 --> 0:58:47.400 little prick. Towards the end, you do sort of like 0:58:47.440 --> 0:58:50.280 this one. I can't remember the correct terminology, but you 0:58:50.320 --> 0:58:52.960 do one sort of. It's called a trigger shot, and 0:58:53.000 --> 0:58:55.520 it's to start ovulation so that you can they can 0:58:55.640 --> 0:58:57.280 and it's very time based. I had to get up 0:58:57.280 --> 0:58:58.560 at one am in the morning to do it. On 0:58:58.600 --> 0:59:00.600 the dot, you have to set three or because you 0:59:00.640 --> 0:59:03.280 cannot miss this or you've ruined everything. Mate, I can't 0:59:03.280 --> 0:59:06.040 even remember to take my contraceptive pill, let alone remember 0:59:06.040 --> 0:59:07.560 to get up at one in the morning and day 0:59:07.760 --> 0:59:10.680 fucking do you need me to start remember taking to 0:59:10.680 --> 0:59:13.440 take your contraception woman? But yeah, so like to get 0:59:13.520 --> 0:59:15.800 up at one am. That last trigger shot, it's only 0:59:15.840 --> 0:59:19.240 one that really hurt. That was the one that hurt 0:59:19.280 --> 0:59:21.120 the most, Like, not to the point that I couldn't 0:59:21.160 --> 0:59:23.760 do it, but I was like, this is shitty. This 0:59:23.840 --> 0:59:26.080 is a shitty, shitty needle. The other ones were like 0:59:26.240 --> 0:59:27.840 the other ones are piece of cake. I guess that 0:59:27.920 --> 0:59:30.000 that's one thing that people kind of It can be 0:59:30.040 --> 0:59:33.640 a barrier for people. It's being fearful about it being painful. 0:59:34.000 --> 0:59:36.520 Do you think even with everything that you went through, 0:59:36.640 --> 0:59:39.360 even with like the ups and downs of the hormones, 0:59:39.640 --> 0:59:42.240 even with feeling like it was really painful an extraction day, 0:59:42.800 --> 0:59:45.400 do you feel like it has been worth it this experience? 0:59:45.960 --> 0:59:49.080 One hundred percent. I'm so glad that I did it. 0:59:49.320 --> 0:59:52.760 I ended up with eighteen eggs, which only three were bad, 0:59:52.800 --> 0:59:56.480 so I got the fifteen frozen, and I honestly felt 0:59:56.720 --> 0:59:59.880 like the second I was told in the waiting room, 1:00:00.000 --> 1:00:01.760 in the recovery room that I had fifteen eggs, it 1:00:01.760 --> 1:00:03.560 was a weight off my shoulder. I was so high 1:00:03.600 --> 1:00:06.160 as well, like when they tell you you're still so 1:00:06.280 --> 1:00:09.560 high from the drivers. Anyway, if you watch my Instagram, 1:00:09.640 --> 1:00:12.200 you'll remember I ended up posting some sort of drug 1:00:12.200 --> 1:00:16.920 injuiced video. I'm so glad. I feel like I don't 1:00:16.920 --> 1:00:18.840 have to think about it anymore, because as a woman, 1:00:18.880 --> 1:00:21.520 you do. You think about it constantly. You're like, holy shit, 1:00:21.840 --> 1:00:23.720 I'm running out of time. What if when I do 1:00:23.920 --> 1:00:26.400 meet someone it's not gonna work. What if it's not easy. 1:00:26.480 --> 1:00:28.240 I'm seeing my friends struggle. I'm seeing my friends I 1:00:28.240 --> 1:00:30.320 have miscarriage. I'm seeing my friends go through IVF. Like 1:00:30.600 --> 1:00:33.400 we all know that it is very real. Fertility is 1:00:33.440 --> 1:00:35.600 not very easy for a lot of people, and a 1:00:35.600 --> 1:00:38.080 lot of people don't speak about that. I have so 1:00:38.200 --> 1:00:40.520 many friends that have had trouble with their pregnancies, and 1:00:40.560 --> 1:00:42.840 they're all healthy, and I'm not saying that to scare anyone. 1:00:42.840 --> 1:00:45.000 I have a lot of friends that have had babies 1:00:45.040 --> 1:00:47.800 really easily, too. The fact of the matter is we 1:00:48.080 --> 1:00:50.920 just don't know. So my advice is to you, if 1:00:50.920 --> 1:00:53.600 you're thinking about it, you don't have to jump into it, 1:00:53.640 --> 1:00:56.480 but just start the process. Just get that initial blood 1:00:56.480 --> 1:00:59.840 test and the initial ultrasound so that you can have 1:01:00.000 --> 1:01:03.400 the information you need to make the decision. That's all 1:01:03.440 --> 1:01:04.560 you need to do. You don't have to get down 1:01:04.560 --> 1:01:06.600 the track, you don't have to commit to anything, but 1:01:06.680 --> 1:01:09.040 you've got the information and that way, you know. I've 1:01:09.040 --> 1:01:11.040 spoken to a lot of people that I've gotten to 1:01:11.120 --> 1:01:15.640 forty realized that they can't have a baby anymore, and 1:01:15.680 --> 1:01:18.960 they're like, I wish I took the advice of other 1:01:18.960 --> 1:01:20.520 people when I was younger. I wish I frozed my 1:01:20.520 --> 1:01:23.680 exit in my thirties. I just didn't know because people 1:01:23.680 --> 1:01:25.680 weren't speaking about it. So if anything can come from 1:01:25.760 --> 1:01:28.360 this episode, it's that if it has been on your 1:01:28.400 --> 1:01:31.000 mind at all, or even if it hasn't, and now 1:01:31.040 --> 1:01:32.920 it is on your mind and in your late twenties, 1:01:32.920 --> 1:01:35.400 your early thirties, just get the blood test. Just go 1:01:35.400 --> 1:01:37.520 to the doctor, get the blood test, get the follical count, 1:01:37.560 --> 1:01:39.560 and then you're armed with all the information you need 1:01:39.600 --> 1:01:41.840 to make a decision and you won't have any regrets 1:01:41.920 --> 1:01:43.680 laid down the track. But I just want to say 1:01:43.680 --> 1:01:45.640 as well, like, I'm so proud of you for going 1:01:45.680 --> 1:01:48.720 and doing this and like sharing this experience and for 1:01:49.040 --> 1:01:51.240 making those choices for yourself. I know that last year 1:01:51.280 --> 1:01:53.600 this was something that was really weighing heavily on you. 1:01:53.760 --> 1:01:56.240 And obviously we share so much of our story with 1:01:56.280 --> 1:01:58.640 you guys, but I don't know if you shared the 1:01:58.640 --> 1:02:01.400 full extent of how much this had emotionally affected you, 1:02:01.520 --> 1:02:04.520 and especially before you met Jordan. I'm really fucking proud 1:02:04.560 --> 1:02:07.920 of you. It's something that you are never going to regret, 1:02:08.160 --> 1:02:10.320 and it's given you this peace of mind and this 1:02:10.440 --> 1:02:12.960 comfort that no matter what happens in the future, you're 1:02:13.000 --> 1:02:14.760 still going to be able to have that choice. And 1:02:14.800 --> 1:02:17.080 for that, like, I'm really grateful that you've been able 1:02:17.080 --> 1:02:19.120 to make that decision. I was like, Wow, that made 1:02:19.120 --> 1:02:20.960 me feel really great. No, and that is true, and 1:02:20.960 --> 1:02:22.520 I don't think I've even spoken about it on this 1:02:22.560 --> 1:02:27.680 episode yet, but for probably eighteen months, subconsciously and consciously, 1:02:27.720 --> 1:02:29.760 I was really down about it. I was, I mean, 1:02:29.800 --> 1:02:31.840 I was in my I'm heading towards my mid thirties, 1:02:31.880 --> 1:02:34.760 and everyone around me was having a baby, and I 1:02:34.840 --> 1:02:36.520 felt like I was the only person, or even if 1:02:36.560 --> 1:02:38.520 they weren't having a baby, they were trying, and it 1:02:38.560 --> 1:02:40.520 was really it was really hard to think that I 1:02:40.520 --> 1:02:42.800 was going to have this really lonely life and no 1:02:42.840 --> 1:02:45.200 one wanted to be with me. And I know that's 1:02:45.240 --> 1:02:47.080 not true now, but it's so easy for us as 1:02:47.120 --> 1:02:49.320 women to start to get really down on ourselves and 1:02:49.320 --> 1:02:51.520 feel like where the reason and what's wrong? And I 1:02:51.560 --> 1:02:54.040 had so many conversations with Laura where I was so upset, 1:02:54.160 --> 1:02:55.920 just saying, no one loves me. I'm never going to 1:02:56.000 --> 1:02:57.520 have a child, I'm never going to have what you have. 1:02:57.960 --> 1:03:00.439 And of course I see Laura more than anyone. She's 1:03:00.480 --> 1:03:02.680 got a beautiful family. You've got two kids that I 1:03:02.760 --> 1:03:05.440 was always around. You've been pregnant since I've met you, 1:03:05.600 --> 1:03:09.440 Like you're always pregnant. I don't know anyone that's like 1:03:09.520 --> 1:03:12.120 pregnant as much as you. And it was like it 1:03:12.200 --> 1:03:14.560 was fucking shit. I was, But you don't want people 1:03:14.560 --> 1:03:16.560 to feel sorry for you either. But it was a 1:03:16.600 --> 1:03:18.720 shitty couple of years where I was like, I just 1:03:18.800 --> 1:03:21.040 felt like a loser, and I don't know what other 1:03:21.080 --> 1:03:23.120 way to explain it. I was like, I'm a loser. No, 1:03:23.280 --> 1:03:26.160 I'm a loser. I'm unlovable. It's not meant for me. 1:03:26.360 --> 1:03:28.760 But I hope no one else feels that. And if 1:03:28.760 --> 1:03:31.760 you are, I wish I could snap you out of it, 1:03:31.840 --> 1:03:35.720 because it has nothing to do with you, and you 1:03:35.960 --> 1:03:40.040 are in control of taking control of a situation. So 1:03:40.600 --> 1:03:42.280 all I can say is, if it's on your mind, 1:03:42.320 --> 1:03:47.920 do yourself a favor and go and start the investigation. Okay, 1:03:47.960 --> 1:03:49.760 And I know that was a lot to digest it, 1:03:49.840 --> 1:03:52.360 but we are moving on to our second favorite segment, 1:03:52.440 --> 1:03:54.919 which is Suck and Sweet, the way we wrap every 1:03:54.960 --> 1:03:58.040 single episode our highlight now lowlight of the week. Laura, 1:03:58.040 --> 1:04:00.000 I'd feel like you're I mean, you're in perpetual lockdown. 1:04:00.400 --> 1:04:03.880 Is that your suck? I haven't left my house in 1:04:03.920 --> 1:04:07.840 four weeks. Yes, it's my suck. I am am drowning. 1:04:07.920 --> 1:04:14.000 I'm drowning in fucking baby lockdown, Sydney Hell. And also 1:04:14.240 --> 1:04:16.200 the fact that we're supposed to like Matt and I. 1:04:16.280 --> 1:04:18.400 You know, I know that everybody has had a lot 1:04:18.400 --> 1:04:20.840 and made a lot of sacrifices during these lockdowns, but 1:04:20.880 --> 1:04:22.920 like this midyear break for Britain and I, Matt and 1:04:22.960 --> 1:04:25.080 I was supposed to go to New Zealand. We were 1:04:25.080 --> 1:04:28.280 supposed to start planning our wedding, and everything got canceled 1:04:28.280 --> 1:04:30.760 and we've just pretty much taken our year break, which 1:04:30.840 --> 1:04:33.360 was this last four weeks, and spent it in our farm. 1:04:33.840 --> 1:04:38.400 I really hope you can still have your wedding. Fuck same, guys, 1:04:38.440 --> 1:04:40.280 it's same. I know. I know that there's so many 1:04:40.320 --> 1:04:42.400 people listening to these who have already had to postpone 1:04:42.400 --> 1:04:44.080 their weddings, but I think I might be in the 1:04:44.120 --> 1:04:46.600 same basket as you, So that's pretty crap. But like, 1:04:46.600 --> 1:04:50.440 do you know what, overall, even though we are in lockdown, 1:04:50.560 --> 1:04:52.800 even though we have been kind of like you know, 1:04:52.920 --> 1:04:54.960 having a bit of a tough week in that respect, 1:04:55.200 --> 1:04:57.120 it's one of the nice things that almost every day 1:04:57.240 --> 1:04:59.080 Matt and I are like, it's really nice that we 1:04:59.120 --> 1:05:00.680 love each other and therefore where it's kind of nice 1:05:00.720 --> 1:05:02.920 spending so much time together, Like there are worse people 1:05:02.960 --> 1:05:05.760 to be spending lockdown with the Matthew Johnson I have 1:05:06.120 --> 1:05:08.320 freaking loved And I'm going to tell you, my sweet 1:05:08.360 --> 1:05:10.959 I've actually got a couple of sweets, So Lockdown's my suck. 1:05:11.200 --> 1:05:14.400 My sweets are one. Lola has cut her first tooth, 1:05:15.080 --> 1:05:18.440 which is wild. Yes, she's like it feels like just 1:05:18.520 --> 1:05:20.760 yesterday when I did the episode where I've given birth. 1:05:20.880 --> 1:05:22.959 So now the fact that she has cut a tooth 1:05:23.000 --> 1:05:26.600 and she's dragging herself across the floor is crazy to me. 1:05:27.280 --> 1:05:30.360 And also, my sweet is just being back like I've 1:05:30.520 --> 1:05:33.240 loved doing the battery caps with Matt. I'm so happy 1:05:33.280 --> 1:05:36.160 that we're back to doing these episodes again. Even though 1:05:36.160 --> 1:05:37.840 this has worked for us, this is like such a 1:05:37.920 --> 1:05:40.600 highlight of every week. I fucking love bringing you guys 1:05:40.640 --> 1:05:43.760 these episodes, so I am so excited. We also had 1:05:43.760 --> 1:05:46.720 our two year birthday and we hit thirteen million downloads, 1:05:46.760 --> 1:05:49.280 so there are so many things to be excited about. 1:05:49.520 --> 1:05:53.040 And guys, we put our merchandise up and you guys 1:05:53.120 --> 1:05:55.520 bought it and sold it out in twenty minutes. You 1:05:55.800 --> 1:05:58.160 crashed the site and then we sold out, So I 1:05:58.240 --> 1:06:00.160 stoked that there are going to be so many you're 1:06:00.160 --> 1:06:02.560 out there wearing our life uncut jumpers, and we do 1:06:02.640 --> 1:06:05.080 have another drop coming, so don't worry if you missed out, 1:06:05.120 --> 1:06:06.800 but you still need to get in quick bridge. What 1:06:07.000 --> 1:06:09.400 is your suck and suite? Okay, my suck. I guess 1:06:09.440 --> 1:06:10.880 it's a sucking a sweep. But my suck is I 1:06:10.880 --> 1:06:15.000 probably can't come home now when I was supposed to 1:06:15.040 --> 1:06:19.960 come home. Laugh but Australia about that. My suck is 1:06:20.000 --> 1:06:21.840 that I'm going to stay in America for the next 1:06:21.880 --> 1:06:24.720 like four months. No, basically, the flights have been canceled. 1:06:24.720 --> 1:06:26.360 Britt was supposed to come home at the end of 1:06:26.360 --> 1:06:28.720 this month or at the end of August. That's not 1:06:28.800 --> 1:06:31.320 going to happen now at all. For who knows how 1:06:31.360 --> 1:06:33.280 long there is a chance that I can't come home now. 1:06:33.320 --> 1:06:34.760 We just have to wait to see what the government 1:06:34.800 --> 1:06:36.840 does with letting people in and out. So that's just 1:06:36.880 --> 1:06:41.240 a waiting game. My suite is, honestly, it has just 1:06:41.280 --> 1:06:43.240 been so nice to be with. I feel like I'm 1:06:43.280 --> 1:06:45.560 in my own little bubble here with Jordan. It's just 1:06:45.640 --> 1:06:47.240 him and a couple of friends. Jordan and I are 1:06:47.240 --> 1:06:50.080 spend so much time together. We haven't had one argument. 1:06:50.320 --> 1:06:53.880 I just honestly feel like I have met my soulmate. 1:06:54.160 --> 1:06:56.880 And I was really worried about coming over here about 1:06:56.920 --> 1:06:58.160 if it was going to be different, what it was 1:06:58.200 --> 1:06:59.600 going to be like to be in each other's pocket 1:06:59.600 --> 1:07:01.960 all the time, and we're just obsessed with each other. 1:07:02.240 --> 1:07:05.080 So I'm just from sure we have with him, Gustine, 1:07:05.080 --> 1:07:07.200 and I love it so much. I'm so here for it. 1:07:07.200 --> 1:07:08.760 I know that there are so many people who followed 1:07:08.760 --> 1:07:11.720 it along in your disaster dating stories who are now like, yeah, 1:07:12.040 --> 1:07:17.120 Brittany found love. We fucking love love anyway, guys, that 1:07:17.280 --> 1:07:19.280 is it from us. It is a big one. But 1:07:19.320 --> 1:07:21.600 also we really wanted to bring you and do justice 1:07:21.640 --> 1:07:23.480 to this episode because it's been such a huge part 1:07:23.480 --> 1:07:26.080 of Britt's story over the past year, and we actually 1:07:26.120 --> 1:07:28.320 have a bonus episode coming out for you tomorrow which 1:07:28.400 --> 1:07:30.840 is going to be great. So many of you reached 1:07:30.840 --> 1:07:33.600 out in regards to Ellie from Comfortable in your Skin, 1:07:33.680 --> 1:07:36.520 and now this interview actually comes as a recommendation from 1:07:36.640 --> 1:07:39.760 so many of you. We did a ask Guncut question 1:07:39.880 --> 1:07:41.919 quite a few weeks back now where we talked about 1:07:42.000 --> 1:07:46.120 Leavia Plasty, and after that episode, I cannot tell you 1:07:46.120 --> 1:07:48.320 the number of people who slid into our DMS and said, 1:07:48.360 --> 1:07:50.840 you have to get Ellie on an interviewer on the podcast. 1:07:51.040 --> 1:07:53.400 So we have a really special bonus episode coming out 1:07:53.400 --> 1:07:55.360 for you tomorrow. This week is going to be just 1:07:55.480 --> 1:07:58.160 life on Cut week we are coming back with a bang, baby, 1:07:58.640 --> 1:08:00.840 But that is it from us today. So thank you 1:08:00.880 --> 1:08:03.360 so much to everybody who's listened. If you have any 1:08:03.440 --> 1:08:05.560 questions for asking on cart, slide on into our DMS 1:08:05.560 --> 1:08:07.640 at Life on Cut podcast, the same thing goes, but 1:08:07.760 --> 1:08:10.800 accidentally unfiltered. 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