WEBVTT - A piece of advice - ASK UNCUT SPECIAL 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:19.040 Hello, lovely listeners, and welcome back to a very very 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:21.040 special episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:23.840 Why is it so special, Well, the Bachelor's over, so 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:25.440 we've probably got nothing to talk about now. 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.400 Brittany, Well, i'd like to say a big welcome back 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:30.840 to you, Laura, because you came back from a little 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:32.400 island get away. Well. 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:34.159 Yeah, I went on holidays, but I kind of need 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:37.000 a holiday for my holiday. Going on holidays without your 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.400 partner with a newborn baby, and with my sister with 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:43.159 her one year old baby, it was just bedlam add salute, 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:43.880 bedlamb meat. 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:46.000 The fuckers goes on holiday? Did you just say fuckers? 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:49.600 No fockers? Oh? Sorry, I have seen that movie. It's fine. 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:52.720 So how was it. What's Magnetic Island like? Is it 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:53.479 a bit backwards? 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:56.120 Well, it's definitely trapped in a TimewARP. But I don't 0:00:56.120 --> 0:00:57.800 know if you can call place backwards, can you? 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:00.160 Yeah, you can call it what you want. It's not 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:02.960 The people who are listening to are from Magnetic Island. Sorry, guys, 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:07.000 when I say backwards, I mean just like, not forwards joking. 0:01:07.480 --> 0:01:09.640 I just mean no internet or electricity. It is a 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:11.960 simple life, isn't it. People just go there to relax 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:13.520 and fish and just chill out. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:16.560 Yeah, it's definitely very very relaxed. They have the internet, 0:01:16.600 --> 0:01:19.720 and they have electricity and running water and flushing toilets. 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:22.959 Prettey, it is wild. It's a wildlife up there. Yeah. 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:26.640 It is definitely a very slow paced in comparison to Sydney. 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:28.840 Yeah right, well, welcome back to the rat race. What 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:33.559 did you do? Oh? I just I just worked NonStop. 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:36.440 I don't. I had a really uneventful week. That's to 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:38.440 be honest. I have nothing to report to you, and 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:42.120 I apologize. Oh well that was fun. Thanks for the update. 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:44.040 Couldn't you just lie and make something up? 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:46.000 You're single? Go dating can come at me with some 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:46.920 shitty dating story. 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:48.840 I haven't been on any dates. I haven't even had 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:49.440 time to call you. 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:51.280 Just make them up at least so then I feel 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:53.520 like something's going on here because I need to live 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:55.800 my single life through you. Tell me about that date 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:56.800 you went on Friday night. 0:01:56.880 --> 0:02:00.720 Oh my god, it was insane. He was just like over. 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:04.840 Means away through dinner. Oh my goodness, Brittany, your life 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:05.360 is wild. 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:06.960 I'll work on trying to get you a real story. 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:07.520 How about that? 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:11.880 So today's episode of Life Uncut is very special because 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.760 we're not talking about the Bachelor. So for the few people, 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:16.200 there's not many of you, but there's been a few 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:18.760 people who have said, please stop doing recaps. We will 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:21.600 not stop doing recaps, however, we will stop today because 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.160 the Bachelor's over. Can I say more people have been 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:26.880 frothing on the recaps than not liking them. Why would 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:28.520 you listen to us yap on about anything if it 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:32.040 wasn't to do with the Bachelor, because the rest of 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:35.840 the podcast is unqualified. So in this episode instead, we 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:38.480 have decided that we are going to do a very 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:41.760 special Ask Uncut segment. Is it special though? Because really 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:43.880 special said special? Full time, I'm special. 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:48.320 Okay, everything is said, Okay, okay, just tell us what 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:49.120 the episode about. 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:51.400 Cool when you're a part of the team. So the 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:53.840 episode is going to be us answering your questions because 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:56.960 we hate receive. We received so many questions it's actually 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:59.359 ridiculous and we haven't had a chance to go through 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:03.000 them all. However, we've picked six doozies for you for today. 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:05.240 We are going to answer them to the best of 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:06.720 our abilities. 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.280 Which may not be great, but we'll give it a 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:12.040 great great I love our advice. I would know our advice. Well, 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:14.680 we do follow our advice. It's our advice. 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:17.040 It's all the things that I think that you should do, 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:19.440 but not necessarily the things that I do do. 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:21.440 Do you know what I do hate that? I hate 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:23.840 when people dish out advice but they don't follow their own. 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:27.320 Are you criticizing me now, Brittany borderline? Well, but you know, 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:29.079 it's like it is, and it happens a lot. It's 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:32.360 so easy for somebody to say he's an asshole, leave him, 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:35.200 But then it might be in your own relationship that 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.440 you you know, your partner's anshole and you're gonna you 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:38.920 know what I mean, Like a lot of people dish 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.600 it and they can't take it one hundred percent. 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:45.000 I have stayed with assholes for a very long time, 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:47.280 regardless of the advice that I would have given to 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:49.840 my friends. However, I also do think that you need 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:51.800 to kind of go on your own journey and figure 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:53.800 that stuff out for yourself. It's all fine for someone 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:56.640 to give you advice, but maybe the advice that we're 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:59.040 giving might come to someone when they're at a very 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:02.560 pivotal for in the road and it may just nudge 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.400 them into the right direction. 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:07.880 Okay, so what did you learn this week? I always 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:10.800 love when you've read something of interest or just what 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:12.120 can you bring to the table Today. 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:15.480 I was on an island running around after seeing I 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:18.000 really didn't read anything. You don't make me sound dumb. 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:21.080 I've done nothing. I've spent my whole week being backwards. 0:04:21.160 --> 0:04:23.039 But okay, no, that's a light. I did actually see 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.520 something which you're going to find very entertaining and yes, 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:29.200 truly appreciate. But anyone who listened to episode four where 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:32.480 Brittany talked about vaginal steaming, not that I do it, 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:34.599 just to be clear that I thought it was ridiculous, 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:37.640 please please, So it's just come out on Yelp as 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:42.359 one of the top beauty treatments of twenty nineteen. 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:45.960 Oh, shut the front door. It has not. It absolutely has. 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:48.960 So Gwyneth Paltrow has some influence in case you're wondering, 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:51.240 you can get in there and steam your vagina, But 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:54.120 don't do that because it is very much advised against 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:57.400 from all gynocologists and pretty much anyone with half a brain. 0:04:57.560 --> 0:04:59.760 God, it just goes to show you how much pulled 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:02.560 that woman has because it's literally there is no evidence 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:05.479 for it, and there's all the evidence against it, the 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:08.680 fact that it actually kills the healthy bacteria in your 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:11.960 vagina that is supposed to help keep you clean and healthy. 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:16.080 Steaming's just like annihilating it. I wonder if anyone who's 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:19.159 listening to this has actually done it. My friend, please, 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:20.800 can you just send me a message and let me 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:21.920 know what your thoughts are? Like? 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:24.680 What was it like? Did you enjoy it? Do you 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:28.120 feel like you have a fresh so my gamed clam. 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:30.080 My girlfriend wrote to me after that and she's like, 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:32.120 you're gonna love this. But I did this, and I 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.200 knew if anyone was going to do it, it was her 0:05:34.240 --> 0:05:37.520 because she's really into health but and like trying different things, 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:39.520 like she will be the person to try it, do 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:41.240 you know what I mean? Yeah, So she tried it 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:42.479 and I said how to go, and she's like, it 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.160 was bloody hilarious. I think she did it once. She's like, 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:49.080 not for me, Bernie, my vagina, so very what have 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:50.040 you got for me? What else? 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:52.560 Apart from nothing and work happening in your life? Have 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:54.360 you read anything that's been interesting or well? 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.120 Yeah, I mean speaking of vaginas. I actually do have 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:59.320 something I'm read interesting. So, you know, when you go 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:02.640 on a night out, But how this is sun Earth? 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:05.160 Is this leading into a vagina story? And I'm really 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:07.400 sorry we've said that word a lot in this episode. 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:09.520 Well, you know, you're on a night out, you order 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:12.480 your Uber home, you might order Uber eats to meet 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:14.480 you at your house. Surely I'm not the only person 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:14.960 that does that. 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:17.120 No, I always do that. I try and tie my 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:18.600 Uber eats with my car ride. 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:21.479 I do it all that. We meet perfectly at my doorway. 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:23.200 It's almost like this game. And you know you get 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.560 ten points if you nail it, or five stars. Yeah, 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:28.919 or five stars. So people now can order their Uber 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:31.200 they can order their Uber eat, and they can order 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:35.000 their Uber prostitute. Well I thought prostitution was not legal. 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:38.000 Well, let's say I don't know a lot about prostitutions, 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:39.680 so I may be incorrect. 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:43.440 You can order Uber sex. Wow. So it's basically it's 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:47.560 just Tinder, that's what they're saying. That's literally Tinder. What 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:49.640 are you talking about except you have to pay for it? 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.640 Well, at least it's probably easier than Tinder, Like you 0:06:52.640 --> 0:06:54.400 don't have to start with all like the chat but 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:56.320 pretty much that's what Tinder is, right, Like, I mean, 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:57.880 if you're gonna have hangs and bangs in a night 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:00.000 with a guy who you don't know, what's the difference 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:02.440 between just kind of being like, hey, come on over 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:03.640 allie for fifty on the counter. 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:07.520 Well, I mean this is true, but I guess we've 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:09.040 always sort of had it in a way. They used 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:11.320 to do sex workers like, I mean, they still do it. 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:14.240 They put ads online, and they used to have it 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:15.880 in the paper sometimes. Yeah, it used to be in 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.239 the back of the paper, in the section. I remember 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:19.880 being a kid and reading through them and being like, 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.040 so naughty. Well, now you can just go onto these apps. 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:26.360 There's a few apps. One of them is called toopi, 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:30.240 for example, and that gives you access to local escorts, 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:34.200 and then you can separate that to sections like female, gay, 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:37.320 and she male. So there are other buttons that are 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:40.800 like personal data, approximate location, pricing, and even a cool 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:43.680 now button. So I feel like you're doing an ad 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:45.720 for this, Britt, I'm not, but I just found it 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:48.360 is the name of the app in there. I'm weird 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:48.560 at it. 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:50.760 We can take the name of that about BRIT's very single. 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:53.920 She just these are the things that she's reading about. 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:56.080 Can I highlight that I do not use these apps 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:57.880 and I do not give me your phone. Give me 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.680 your phone now it's broken up, left in the car, 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:03.160 and then it's sunk in a boat. She's sitting on it. Guys, 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:06.200 she's sitting on it. Anyway, I thought that was interesting 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:09.520 that it just shows you where technology is going. Everything's 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:11.040 so accessible. So now you can get your ear, but 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:13.920 get your pizza and get your prostitute. Perfect. It sounds 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:17.080 like a great Friday night in. On a different note, 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:22.640 on a positive, Facebook are following Instagram's move to remove 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:25.640 likes and the you know you can get little like 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:29.320 reactions on Facebook where they do all the faces and stuff. Yes, 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.120 well they're removing that, like Instagram have removed likes, so 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:35.040 you can still see it privately. Why are they removing 0:08:35.120 --> 0:08:37.880 like reactions though as well? Like just well, they did 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:39.280 a lot of research and they got a lot of 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:44.760 responses from psychology and bullying and different institutions, and they 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.160 just said that it's just too much comparison and it's 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:50.400 affecting mental health too much on people, especially young people 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:53.480 who have only grown up in this era of having that, 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:55.920 they don't remember what it was like before, so their 0:08:55.920 --> 0:08:58.480 whole life is dependent. Like somebody I know a few 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:00.679 days ago put up a profile picture and said, oh 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:02.719 my god, I'm so concerned no one's going to like it. 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:05.160 Oh gosh, it's not that terrible that that's where the 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:07.120 mindset is. And I always said to her, don't you can't. 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:09.440 Don't worry about that, but what's the picture? And she's 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:10.840 told me what it was, and I was like, it's great, 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:12.400 it was a big moment of your life. Who cares? 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:14.280 And then it was like, oh, I'm half an hour 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.520 in and as only this many people have liked it, 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:18.400 and that was really to me. I'm like, oh my god, 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:21.920 this really weighs heavily on so many people. I didn't realize. 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:24.559 But the issue, though I have with the whole likes 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:28.200 thing is that even though the likes are removed publicly, 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:31.040 the person who's posted the photo still knows if someone's 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.160 liked it or hasn't liked it, So they're still going 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:36.080 to get that feedback as to whether it's not been 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:39.240 a successful photo of it's been received positively. So I 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:42.040 don't necessarily think that it goes far enough or that 0:09:42.080 --> 0:09:44.400 it hits the nail on the head with resolving the problem, 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:46.959 because the problem goes much deeper than it just being 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:49.400 the fact that other people can see what likes you've had. 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.840 For sure, it definitely goes deeper, but you have to 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:56.520 admit that just knowing yourself, oh, only five people liked 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:59.000 that photo is different to knowing the whole world knows 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:01.920 only five people. So you've it maybe for a second like, oh, 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:03.760 it didn't go well, but at least no one knows 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:04.520 that true. 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:05.800 And it does mean that you don't have to be 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:08.440 quite so concerned or sensiti about the type of content 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:10.480 that you're putting out there, and you're able to sort 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:14.560 of be more yeah, and be more yourself because there's 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:18.160 less criticism. I was really skeptic, and I've changed my 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:19.960 mind now on this, but I was really really skeptic 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.960 when Instagram first and Facebook first changed and removed the 0:10:22.960 --> 0:10:26.400 whole no likes thing. And from like a and this 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:30.079 is going to sound anyone who's like er influences, this 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:32.200 is going to sound like I'm being a deck head. 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:36.280 But from an influencer perspective, my issue with it was 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:37.440 not that it was going to make it. 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:38.439 Hard to make money. Whatever. 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:41.600 Don't really care because Instagram is a very secondary source 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:43.840 of income for me. But my issue with it was 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:47.000 that I thought and there has been a few reports 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:49.280 that have come out on this as well, saying that 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:53.960 Instagram had a very clever marketing tactic and used mental 0:10:54.000 --> 0:10:56.480 health as a way to remove likes, but not so 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.880 much so because they were concerned about the effects on 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:01.360 mental health. They they were concerned about the fact that 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:05.400 influencers are making a billion dollar business off Instagram for free, 0:11:05.840 --> 0:11:08.480 and their ad platform is not performing very well. So 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:11.920 by removing influencers' ability to make money and to be 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:14.840 able to prove their engagement, it would mean that their 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:17.880 Instagram ads wouldn't be seen as doing so poorly, because 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:21.400 in comparison to ads verse influencers, the ads looked terrible 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:24.400 because no one wants to be sold something, so people 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:26.920 aren't putting money into Instagram ads. They're putting their money 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:29.520 into influencers, and it was a way for Instagram to 0:11:29.800 --> 0:11:33.080 take focus away from the influencers and to rechannel that 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:35.800 into their own paid ads. But they did it under 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.200 the guise of mental health to try and get everyone 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:41.400 on board, which at the time I thought was very 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:44.400 clever and very sneaky, But now moving on a couple 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:46.959 of months down the track, I actually don't care what 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:48.679 the initial incentive was behind it. 0:11:48.800 --> 0:11:51.440 I do think it's had a positive impact. But is 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:54.400 that a big call to say that they definitely had 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:56.120 no one's mental health in mind and it was just 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:59.360 monetary because maybe they really maybe it was a bit 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:00.280 of a column ade, bit. 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:02.160 Of col and Bee totally, and I do think it 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:05.920 was that. However, I think if Instagram's main objective is 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:08.360 to try and stamp out bullying, I really think that 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:10.320 there are so many bigger things that they should be 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:13.599 doing other than just removing likes, because I don't personally 0:12:13.640 --> 0:12:17.280 think that looking at Justin Bieber having two million more 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:20.000 probably more than that, having eight million likes on a 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:23.320 photo is affecting my mental health as much as looking 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:25.760 at the content in a photo. Looking at a girl 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:29.400 who's photoshopped themselves in a bikini, that I think makes 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:31.360 me feel far worse because I look at that photo 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:33.760 and go, God, I don't look like that. So Instagram 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:36.160 doesn't do anything to censor the content. They only sense 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:37.200 a nudity. 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:39.800 But I don't think that's my issue. Yeah, with that point, 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:42.679 I'm not sure that they're taking away the likes. It's 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:44.720 not so that you look at Justin Bieber and feel 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:46.720 shit that he got eight million and you got five. 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.360 It's so that when you get five, you don't feel 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:53.120 shit because everyone doesn't know you got five. Do you 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:55.199 know what I mean? It's not about you looking at 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:58.120 him saying he got two million all of a sudden, 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.679 it's saving your mental health because people aren't looking at 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:03.680 you saying, oh, she only got five likes. 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:06.360 I agree, I do think that evens the playing field. 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:10.960 I just think that if Instagram's a main motivation is 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:14.440 to stamp out any sort of impact on mental health, 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.800 then I think that there are more that they can do, 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.600 and that there are probably some greaterst steps in that direction, 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:23.360 which is to control content. And I also think that 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:26.560 they need to have a two way authentication system. So 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.440 now at the moment, if someone's bullying me and I 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:31.120 block them, they can just go and get a new 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:33.400 email address and then start again. What they need to 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.400 do is they need to link a mobile number to 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:38.760 an email address, so that way I can't create multiple accounts. 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:40.680 But they don't want to do that because they don't 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:42.920 want to reduce the amount of users on their platform. 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:46.440 But then would that limit people? For example, you have 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:48.560 Laura Burn, you have Tony May, and now you have 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:50.640 Life on Cut podcasts. And I have Brittany and I 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:52.319 have Life on Cut podcasts. So is that going to 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:57.120 limit people from opening multiple accounts for good, proper business reasons. 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:58.760 Or what it kind of means is like, if someone's 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:01.439 been blocked under one account, then surely that they could 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:03.520 then look at that account and go, okay, well that 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:06.000 account is linked to the same phone number, so this 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.080 new account is also going to be blocked. Yeah, So 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:09.800 what I'm saying is that it's very easy for someone 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:11.680 to create a new email address, but they can't create 0:14:11.720 --> 0:14:14.520 a new phone number very easily. So if I've created 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:17.040 multiple accounts under the one email so under the one 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:19.880 phone number, then what that would do is means that 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:23.160 if someone blocks one account, then it blocks all the accounts. 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:24.680 Yeah, so it means you just have to use your 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:26.680 drug phone for your bullying account. 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:30.880 I keep that one under the bed, guys. Anyway, that 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:33.240 just took a real Instagram turn. We weren't planning on that, 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:33.800 but there we go. 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:36.280 No, but that was a solid discussion. Thanks, You're welcome 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:38.640 that I brought that to the table. Do you want 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.680 to hit me with the first question? Yes? Yes, I do. 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:45.280 All right, So question number or no? Mm hmm. That 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.040 means one that anyone listening. 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:49.200 Because Brittany did an Italian course, remember if you heard 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:51.840 the last episode, so she knows Italian? 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:52.240 Or no. 0:14:52.840 --> 0:14:55.280 I'm in the middle of a breakup with my boyfriend 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.080 of six years. I believe we are the perfect match, 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:01.360 but needed some time apart to reassess relationship. We still 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:03.280 hang out and see each other all the time, and 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:06.360 sometimes we also sleep together. When I explain the situation 0:15:06.400 --> 0:15:09.920 to friends and family, they often give their unsolicited advice, 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:12.360 such as we shouldn't be seeing each other, or even 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:14.760 that we shouldn't be in contact. It's really hard to 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.480 make up my own mind and stop others from influencing 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:21.040 my decisions about my relationships. Thoughts on the right way 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:21.600 to break up. 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:24.720 It's so normal to go through a breakup when you're 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:26.920 when you've been someone a long time and you just 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.360 know that they're not the right person anymore. That doesn't 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.360 mean that something horrible happened or that you still love 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:33.840 the person, but you're not in love with them, if 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.360 that makes sense. And I think it's really hard for 0:15:36.400 --> 0:15:37.960 a lot of people to have a clean break. And 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:40.320 I do think it's normal to go on for a 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:42.640 little bit where maybe you might see each other again, 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:45.520 sleep together, hook up. I think that's normal. But there 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:48.960 comes a time where you have to it's not emotionally healthy. 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:50.880 There comes the time you have to cut the line where. 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:53.160 You're kind of weeding yourself off each other, like you're 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:56.280 actually because you know you're so dependent on seeing that person, 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:58.120 there've been such an integral part of your day and 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:01.800 your identity. Instead of having a severe break, you kind 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:05.600 of are slowly weaning yourself away from that person. My 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:07.480 issue with this is, Brittany. 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:09.360 It's always an issue. My issue is. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:13.320 That it completely contradicts what she has just said. She 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:15.800 said that they broke up because they wanted to have 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:19.360 some time away from each other to reassess their relationship. Girlfriend, 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.560 you are not having any time away from him. You 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:24.520 are just now friends with benefits. If you're still seeing 0:16:24.520 --> 0:16:26.200 each other every day and you're still talking to each 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:28.840 other all the time, and you're still sleeping with each other, 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:33.080 then unfortunately, you've just moved into this very messy area 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:35.240 where one of you are going to get very hurt. 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.880 But also that means maybe you don't actually want to 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:39.800 break up. I don't know. 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:42.360 I disagree. I think it doesn't mean that they're not 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:44.200 ready to break up. I think that they are ready 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:46.160 to break up. They're just not ready to be alone. 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.280 That's the bigger thing, like be on their own, because 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:51.160 being on your own after being with someone for five 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:54.360 six years is massive, and so it's easier to just 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:57.560 fall into patent routine than to go, Okay, I'm a 0:16:57.560 --> 0:16:59.880 little bit lonely today and I have to kind of 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.120 figure out what the fuck I'm going to do with myself. 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:04.560 It's a comfort, isn't it. Totally all of a sudden, 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:06.160 you go home to empty house and you're like, sir, 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:11.760 gonna make spag on toast, spa on toes. I've done 0:17:11.760 --> 0:17:16.320 it before. Once again, Brittany has a wild Friday nights. Guys. 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:20.119 Look, I've done this myself in past relationships, and I 0:17:20.160 --> 0:17:22.959 have definitely broken up and known that that was the 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:24.600 best decision and that I didn't want to be with 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:27.120 that person anymore, but had still gone back and forth 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:29.080 back and forth for a while, and a lot of 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:32.440 it for me came from being lonely and not wanting 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:35.040 to be alone. But I don't think that you should 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:38.520