WEBVTT - Breaking that negative loop… How I called myself on my own sh*t 🫠 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.440 The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.680 the land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:12.200 Bah region. We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:16.000 connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:19.640 to their elders past and present and extend that respect 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:33.360 to all Aboriginal and terrestrid Islander peoples today. Hello and 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:36.600 welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:40.640 the podcast for ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. 0:00:50.560 --> 0:00:54.600 And what I often think we get stuck in is, 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:56.760 you know, we start getting self aware and we're like, 0:00:57.080 --> 0:00:59.680 I'm in this bunk, I, you know, have lost my mojo, 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:04.000 feeling burnt out, blah blah blah blah. But we want 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:14.759 someone to save us or something to save us. Hello 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:17.640 and welcome back to the Rise and Kunker Podcast. It 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:21.919 is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner, 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:28.160 new mum, all the things guys today. We we're so 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:32.280 rogan December. It's not a hotline, ap a hot line, 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:36.360 not a kid what is it? We've got one of 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:40.840 my famous pet talks, Aitia. It's so good. I like 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:43.959 the energy in December for me is just like I 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:47.360 do what the fuck I want, and it's the end 0:01:47.400 --> 0:01:50.560 of the year and I'm all about like vibey energy, 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:55.200 calling myself out on my own bullshit, making like huge 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:59.520 steps towards my next level self, getting clear, doing the things. 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:02.800 I'm gonna of a high because as I record this, 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:07.840 this afternoon, I'm going to a solo like retreat. It's 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:10.480 not gonna be amazing, it's gonna be so efaic. So 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:14.200 I'm spending tonight by myself, and then tomorrow night my 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:17.400 girlfriend is coming and we're spending the whole time. Actually, 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:20.720 so she wants to do do it for your Future 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.760 self coss, Oh my gosh, I know. So we're kind 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:26.000 of gonna do it together and just pull different parts 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:29.560 and do do that together. But basically it's like a 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:33.480 bestie planning trip where we're going to journal and get clear. 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:36.880 Because when I use the do it for your Future 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:40.000 Self course, I really use the planning stage in the 0:02:40.080 --> 0:02:44.520 course for my businesses Rise and Conquer Neaked Armist if 0:02:44.560 --> 0:02:47.519 you didn't know what in case she didn't know, in 0:02:47.560 --> 0:02:50.320 case she didn't know. But what we're I'm using this 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:54.320 trip for is really getting clear, and like, personally, I 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:57.200 love that what I'm calling in next year, all that 0:02:57.400 --> 0:03:00.880 sort of she's net So I'm so excited, Like that 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:05.560 shit is just like it's it's my vibe. So I'm 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:09.280 really really excited. But yeah, so anyway, that was a 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:11.799 bit of random. But we're doing a pep talk today 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:16.079 and I'm telling you guys about how I called myself 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:20.359 out on my own bullshit and kind of just chose 0:03:20.400 --> 0:03:23.280 to like step out of this negative story. And this 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:26.040 is a whole This was the whole process of then 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:30.560 creating the new course because I could finally see clear 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:35.120 it clearly and just be like I'm I'm sick of 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:39.040 like being in this negative story and life being this 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:43.160 way and me changing external things, but my internal world, 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:46.920 you know, wasn't shifting. And then that meant like my 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:50.000 reality wasn't shifting. So it was like a whole big process. 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:54.320 But basically, this guy's is a pep talk of if 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:57.200 you're in a negative loop, if you are just not 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.840 really loving what's happening right now this yourself and you're 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.200 like I just need a bit of a reality check 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:06.000 and to get out of this funky energy. You guys 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:10.760 are going to love it, but just two reminders. So 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:14.280 the do It for your Future Self course is now 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:18.640 open for enrollment and we start Jan first. So, guys, 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.160 this is a course. Like I said, I created this 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:24.800 from a struggle myself of just being really stuck and 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:29.920 like so just feeling really stuck. And what I did 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:32.080 is I took space and I used a whole bunch 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:34.920 of tools to kind of get clear on my next 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:37.520 level self because I hadn't done that since having IVY 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:41.400 and up leveling in business, et cetera. And I put 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:43.360 it in a neat little course for you, and we're 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.960 going to do it from Jan first. Every day a 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:49.640 module is going to unlock, and I've made sure that 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.360 it's only going to take you thirty minutes. And so 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.320 so the whole thing is to do it at the 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:56.840 start of the year and really like harness that new 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:01.159 year energy to get clear, to build fun dations, to 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:04.200 set your goals, to set your habits, and just have 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.200 like a really clear plan for twenty twenty three because 0:05:07.680 --> 0:05:10.200 like I said, like like I've said a million times, 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:13.160 like if you're not clear on where you're going, you're 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:16.120 going to go nowhere farst. So if you ask someone 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:19.560 who like wants to do that and that sounds really good. Yeah, 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:21.760 we've created a whole course on it. It is only 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:26.400 seventy seven dots seventy seven dollars what I mean seventy 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:28.200 seven dollars and seventy seven cents. 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:35.559 Seventy seven dollars dot seventy seven dollars. 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:42.560 That is what I Meanitor, guys, it does only sense 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:46.400 dollars and seventy seventies. You keep that in. I don't 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:50.839 give a far And yeah, we'll put a link in 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.920 the show notes. And then second reminder is we released 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:57.880 a Freebee Abundance ebook, So if you want to work 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:00.800 on your money mindset for the new year, we've got 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:03.880 your back. It's super pretty. Isn't it a tear? Oh 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:07.039 my gosh, it's stunning. It's stunning. It's like, can this 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:09.440 be my mood? Born? Yes, that well, that was the 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:12.520 vibe we wanted to create. So if you're someone who 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:14.920 has any funky money beliefs and that's something you want 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.720 to go deep on, it's completely free. The link is 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:22.640 in the show notes. And lastly, recommendations. 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.440 A tia should we just say it on three since 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:25.440 it's the same. 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:32.359 Thing three to one Wednesday and not the day the 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:37.039 show on Netflix. I think we both binged it last week. 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:40.280 I binged it because I was hungover from the n 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:44.080 H Christmas party. Oh yes, which was lots of fun 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.760 and I'm obsessed. So me and a tea, We're having 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:51.240 this conversation and I'm like, it's just done so well. 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:58.680 The characters, the plot, the story, like everything is flawless. 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:01.400 Her fashion sense. Oh, I'm like, do I want to 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:03.440 dress like a goth now? Because I kind of do? 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.720 Do you reckon? Yeah, I'm it all black today and 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:11.560 I were all black, I know, so so viby, and yeah, 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:14.920 I just love her dry sense of humor. Like the 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:19.080 one line is, I'm like, it's amazing. It's amazing, guys. 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:21.880 If you haven't watched it, go watatch it. Watch it 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:25.200 this weekend. We both finished it in one weekend and 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:27.680 it was just Yeah, it was epic. I will say. 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:30.600 Yeah, I'm very much the kind of person that I 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:33.760 will watch five minutes of something and if I'm not gripped, 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:37.440 I won't carry on. So I started Wednesday early last 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:39.680 week when it had just come out. I watched five 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:41.280 minutes and I was like, I don't think this is 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:43.920 for me. It's a bit dark. Really yeah, So I 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.280 turned it off and then my best friend was just 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:47.080 like messaging me and. 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:49.360 She was like this is like. She's like, you have 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:50.480 to watch it. You're gonna love it. 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:52.520 And I was like, okay, I'll give the first episode. 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.800 I'll finish it off. Finished it, did not stop watching 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:58.400 it like it's amazing. So if you're put off in 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:00.240 the first little bit, just keep going. 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:03.360 That's interesting because I would say the first five minutes, 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:06.640 I was so intrigued, and I was like, give me more. 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.720 In saying that, I remember finishing the first episode and thinking, fuck, 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:15.240 so much has happened. Yes, I like literally had to 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:17.520 double check because I was like, have I watched three episodes? 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:22.679 Don't you reckon? It's one of those it's fact. Anyway, guys, 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:24.880 go and check it out. We promise we'll have like 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:26.360 a non tvsion recommendation. 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.000 I have a non TV show recommendation. It's a newsletter 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:32.960 called Screenshot This, and it's by Zara wom So. She 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.760 is a writer and I think she's head of editorial 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.480 content at Mecca at the moment, but she has her 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:42.559 own newsletter that's personal and she gives you a recommendation 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:48.000 to read, watch cook and then listen, and it's always 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:49.960 different every week. And I found it this week and 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:52.480 I just like Binge read her website if that's a 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:55.320 thing of like all her recommendations, and it's just like 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:56.960 it's something different every week. 0:08:57.000 --> 0:08:58.199 It's like a little bit of spice. 0:08:58.200 --> 0:09:01.920 This week she recommended to watch a TikTok on scientific 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:03.920 ways of how to make friends as an adult. 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:07.880 So it's just like it's a bit it's not really 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:11.319 self development, but I love it just general. Yeah, I 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:15.440 love that. Let's put that link in the show notes. Yes, okay, amazing. 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:31.040 Let's get into the episode. Let's get into quick disclaiming guys. 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:35.880 This episode's a bit of tough love. Yeah yeah, I 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:37.960 was telling a tear about my notes on this riff 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:43.760 and she's like, I feel personally into Actually, I was like, shit, guys, 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:46.560 today we've got one of my famous pep talks where 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:50.280 so this is a pep talk where I had this 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:54.400 pep talk with myself and I had to call myself 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:59.200 out on my own bullshit and in saying that, I 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:02.400 do give myself leeway. But I had been sitting in 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:05.800 this story for the whole year and I was like, 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:11.760 fucking enough is enough. I'm actually so sicky you. I 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:15.480 had the epiphany in my car and I remember having 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.080 this exact PEP talk and then writing it in my notes, 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:20.080 sending myself an email and be like, I've got to 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:22.840 have this with the RNC fam because I just feel 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:25.440 like some of you may need it, and that's fine. 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:28.320 I agree with that like a tearfl So basically, what 0:10:28.400 --> 0:10:30.600 I want to chat to you guys about today, I 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:35.160 want you to think about at the moment where you 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:44.360 are leaning into a negative story about something, yourself, your reality, anything. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:50.120 So I know this time of year, like we are 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:53.080 feeling a bit burnt out, there's a lot of you know, 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:56.319 events happening. I'm sure you're trying to wrap up for work. 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:58.440 Maybe you'll like us where you just had this big 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:02.560 Black Friday sale, you know, and things are happening. But 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:05.280 what I kind of noticed is a couple of months ago, 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:08.800 I kind of had this pet talk with myself and 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:12.640 I very much called myself out on my own shit 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:18.320 because I was stuck in this weird negative thought loop. 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:23.480 But what I didn't realize is, because you know, I 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:28.080 would continue to think in that way, it then continued 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:32.760 to be my reality. Yeah, and so I kind of 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:34.920 wanted to bring this up with you guys and be like, 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:40.440 whereabouts in your life are you maybe really in your 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:45.160 head about something? Maybe it is Oh my god, it's 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:47.200 the end of the year and I'm so burnt out 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:49.960 and I just need a holiday and work is so 0:11:50.080 --> 0:11:53.480 hard and my boss is associate and I tear I However, 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:54.640 you don't think that, not at all. 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:57.320 I like can't relate. 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:01.920 No, that's so mean. I don't really understand if people 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:07.080 feel like or maybe you're like me where you know, 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:10.840 I have been in this weird negative thought loop all 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:16.040 year of I am struggling to be a working mom. 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:19.560 I can't get my mojo back with my creativity and 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:24.120 like just in this like weird funky energy and a 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.200 big thing that I realize when we get in these 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:30.360 like funks and we get in these like negative thought loops, 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:33.520 it's kind of what I've said about we in them 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:37.200 and we can't really see anything else. So we continue to, 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:41.200 you know, have thoughts and live our life in this loop. 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:46.080 And then because we're always manifesting, that then becomes our reality. 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:49.240 And it's like I said, this like weird loop. And 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:53.680 what I often think we get stuck in is, you know, 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:55.880 we start getting self aware and we're like, I'm in 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:58.160 this funk. I you know, I have lost my mojo. 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:01.840 I'm feeling burnt out, blah blah blah blah. But we 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:06.320 want someone to save us or something to save us, 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:09.240 Like for example, you are Tea being like, I'm so 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:12.520 burnt out. I just need the Christmas all days. Yeah, 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:18.200 I just need those five days, Like those five days 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.559 will thank every day in my life. I'm going to 0:13:20.640 --> 0:13:22.600 change my life. Yeah, and they're not. 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:28.600 And I think especially with when it's New Year's it's 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:32.480 so easy to just use that. Yeah, like in the year, 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:34.360 I'm going to get on top of my fitness. In 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.120 the year, I'm going to get to gym every day. 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:38.240 Like if I'm not going to gym every day, now, 0:13:38.400 --> 0:13:41.679 what's gonna happen? Why do I think that a. 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:46.439 Random day is going to change that. We're really funny, 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:50.840 and I think what we get stuck on is thinking 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:54.040 that something externally is going to come in and it's 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:56.520 going to change my life, whether it's a person, whether 0:13:56.559 --> 0:13:59.120 it's a thing. And I want to chat to you guys, about, 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:03.560 you know, my negative thought loop where I was I'm 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:07.840 a working mom, I've lost my mojo and I've I 0:14:07.880 --> 0:14:10.720 have spoken about this weird negative loop the whole year, 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.640 so it's very obvious that I was in it, and 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:15.680 I really want to tell you about when I, you know, 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:18.600 kind of like realized I called myself out on it 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:21.760 and like, yeah, call myself out of my own bullshit. 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:24.000 And I just want you guys to think about maybe 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:27.440 what's happening in your life where you can do the same. 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:33.040 So my example is literally, I remember I changed so 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:38.480 many external things to quote unquote fix this problem, you know, 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.040 like a tear. I hired you, Yeah, I hired a 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:44.560 whole new person. In the podcast, I told Jamie's just 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:48.960 got to move to Queensland. I'm like, that will fix everything. 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:54.360 You know. I did certain things about you know, with 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:58.840 Tim and Ivy. Yeah, all these external things. And it's 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:01.360 funny because I remember a couple of months ago, I 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:04.280 was sitting in my car and I'm like, I've changed 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.560 so many external things and I feel the fucking same. 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:12.480 And that's when I realized, Because what we need to 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:16.040 realize is we can change all the external things. It 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:18.120 can be a new year. We can have a holiday, 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:20.480 we can do this, we can do that. But if 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:26.360 you're not changing the internal stuff, the internal dialogue, the 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:32.480 internal thoughts, your reality will never change. And we all 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:35.920 know all this. But again we get stuck because it's 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:37.600 the end of the year. And of course I feel 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:42.560 like this. I mean, we get stuck in the stories 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:46.280 you tell yourself, the stories we tell ourselves. And I 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:49.360 wanted to explain it to you guys in a like 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:53.000 feeling of in the way of energy. So like, if 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:56.000 you think about it, if you're in a season of 0:15:56.800 --> 0:16:00.280 stuck energy where you don't feel, you don't see a 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:04.720 clear way forward, and you're always looking outside of you 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:08.120 for something to change to you know, something to come 0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:10.800 and save you. You need that job, you need that person, 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:15.640 You need something to happen before you get what you want. 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:20.280 It is a trap and you're stuck in your own trap. 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:30.000 You've given to yourself. So tears like fuck. So it's like, 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:34.080 let's be self awaren us. Let's call ourselves out on 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:38.320 our own bullshit and be like, no, I'm not playing 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:42.600 into this story anymore that I give myself. And of 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:46.320 course there is legit things like let's talk about the 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:50.160 moun stuff. Of course, being a mum and then having 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:53.720 multiple businesses and a team and all the things. Of 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:56.080 course that is going to be a barrier. Like that's 0:16:56.160 --> 0:17:00.200 not me gaslighting myself, Like, I fucking know that's a 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:03.640 huge barrier. But then I look back at my life 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:06.600 and I've always had barriers. It's just like when I 0:17:06.640 --> 0:17:09.159 wanted to start Naked Harvest and I didn't have enough money, 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:13.200 that is a legit barrier that I had to deal with. Yeah, 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:17.480 So it's just it, and I did, and it's so clearly. Yeah. 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:20.199 So it's just like there's always going to be a 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:24.240 legit barrier that you think is you know, stopping you 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:28.320 all the reason why. But what we don't realize is 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:31.400 like there's always going to be that barrier, and it's 0:17:31.440 --> 0:17:34.040 silly for us to think that this is a different 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:36.480 story compared to the other stories we got out of, 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:40.239 if that makes sense. So I kind of had to 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:45.440 call myself out and I was like, stop repeating this 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:48.360 story to yourself of you're a mum now, so you're 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:51.000 not creative, so you can't do this, So you can't 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:54.679 do that, and let's like, yes, life is different, and 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:57.600 yes this is a legit barrier. But also you've always 0:17:57.640 --> 0:18:01.359 had blocks and barriers you've got over. Let's actually just 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:07.439 make a new story. And I know that might sound like, 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:10.879 excuse me, what do you mean? Just make a new story. 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:15.879 So since then, what I had been doing is literally 0:18:16.160 --> 0:18:21.440 telling myself this new story and pep talking myself for 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:27.800 weeks before it actually felt normal. So I would sit 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:30.280 in the car and I would be like, I just 0:18:30.520 --> 0:18:33.960 I've decided I'm in a new story. Yes, I'm a 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:37.679 working mom and I'm a fucking badass. And my baby 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:39.880 loves me so much. She thinks I'm the best mom. 0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:42.760 I am the best mom. We have the best home life. 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:46.000 Tim is so happy, my team is so happy. I've 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:48.960 got really strong boundaries. As soon as I get into 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:52.040 the office, I'm so creative and I'm so switched on, 0:18:52.560 --> 0:18:55.560 and you know, like I would rift and I would 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:58.840 literally go off in my car, usually put on a timer. 0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:01.600 I started off three minutes. But it's great if you 0:19:01.640 --> 0:19:04.480 can kind of do ten. Ten is like my sweet 0:19:04.520 --> 0:19:07.320 spot bit three minutes. That's all you have to do, 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:12.080 where you literally pep yourself up and you tell yourself 0:19:12.440 --> 0:19:15.240 this new story. Now bear with me. There would be 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.600 days where I would then walk into the office and 0:19:17.640 --> 0:19:21.960 everything would be a shit show and I wouldn't feel creative, 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:24.440 and you know'd have to deal with all these things. 0:19:25.400 --> 0:19:32.280 But after a while, I literally just started to feel different. Yeah, 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:34.480 And I remember, I remember the direct moment because I 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:38.560 called Cooper and I was like, I'm so sick of myself. 0:19:40.320 --> 0:19:44.800 I'm so sick of blaming being a mom and thinking 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:48.080 I have a hard life. Like stop Georgia, like, and 0:19:48.119 --> 0:19:52.120 I think we all do this. We all think everyone 0:19:52.320 --> 0:19:56.200 the grass is greener, everyone's got it, you know more, 0:19:56.800 --> 0:19:59.680 everyone's got it better. I've got the most difficult And 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:03.439 of course, like I'm so self aware of my life 0:20:03.560 --> 0:20:06.840 is amazing. But that's what I mean. I was in 0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:11.120 that negative loop where I couldn't you know, I couldn't 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:14.840 see it, and so I had to Yeah, I had 0:20:14.880 --> 0:20:17.960 to do that. I started doing the riffs, and I 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:23.040 think it was just about like remembering my own power, 0:20:24.160 --> 0:20:28.600 like remembering I actually have a choice, even though some 0:20:28.760 --> 0:20:30.520 days I would get in the office and there would 0:20:30.520 --> 0:20:32.919 be shit storms and you know, fires I had to 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:37.440 put out and this and that being like I'm doing amazing, 0:20:37.800 --> 0:20:40.840 even if I didn't feel like it, like affirming that 0:20:41.000 --> 0:20:47.199 and really giving yourself that new story continuously because we 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:50.280 need it, and it's crazy. I think it took about 0:20:50.320 --> 0:20:55.320 two weeks and I then just started to show up 0:20:55.359 --> 0:20:58.800 differently and life started to just feel that little bit 0:20:58.840 --> 0:21:02.359 more easier. And then, like I tear it was, it 0:21:02.400 --> 0:21:04.440 was like a good two or three weeks. And then 0:21:04.480 --> 0:21:08.080 remember I had that good period of space where I 0:21:08.240 --> 0:21:10.840 literally told her around like like after Candy Land. After 0:21:10.880 --> 0:21:13.800 Candy Land, I had space. I was telling myself these 0:21:13.840 --> 0:21:16.359 new affirmations. I was stepping into this new story, and 0:21:16.400 --> 0:21:19.480 I would also like visualize of like, you know, if 0:21:19.680 --> 0:21:22.280 the world was perfect, quote unquote, what I think it 0:21:22.320 --> 0:21:25.320 should be, like, how would I show up? And then 0:21:25.320 --> 0:21:27.439 I would walk into the office and I had to 0:21:27.520 --> 0:21:29.240 really work on it. I had to really think, and 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:32.359 I really had to pull myself out and like really 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:36.240 be disciplined with that practice, yeah, and sit in that 0:21:36.400 --> 0:21:39.760 new story, even if that was three minutes of my day, 0:21:39.760 --> 0:21:41.359 and then the rest of the day didn't you know 0:21:41.600 --> 0:21:46.720 feel like that? And I just noticed such a difference. 0:21:46.760 --> 0:21:51.080 And then like you know how I then created they 0:21:51.160 --> 0:21:53.520 do it for your future self course, like yes, within 0:21:53.640 --> 0:21:57.440 days literally day literally days. I came out to tay Ran 0:21:57.520 --> 0:22:01.000 and I was like, I've got it doing a new course. 0:22:01.640 --> 0:22:04.600 It's launching it descend me. Yeah, and he was like what. 0:22:05.200 --> 0:22:09.760 I'm like, good, I remember you, like just came in 0:22:09.800 --> 0:22:13.960 here one day and you had your planner and You're like, 0:22:14.000 --> 0:22:17.520 this is next year and I was like, oh cool. 0:22:18.680 --> 0:22:20.760 So yeah, I literally had my planner and I was like, 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:23.199 this is what I want to do. This is the 0:22:23.240 --> 0:22:26.480 outline for the new course. And it's because I had 0:22:26.560 --> 0:22:29.840 created space. I had obviously done a lot of the 0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:31.800 tools that I give you guys in the new course, 0:22:32.280 --> 0:22:35.600 but also I just called myself it on my own 0:22:35.640 --> 0:22:39.240 shit and taken my power back and been like, you 0:22:39.280 --> 0:22:42.119 know what, I actually get to decide how I feel. 0:22:42.520 --> 0:22:46.600 I'm not leaving it to these external things that I 0:22:46.680 --> 0:22:49.760 think I need. I'm not giving them my power. I'm 0:22:49.760 --> 0:22:53.360 taking it back and I'm deciding how i feel. Yeah. 0:22:53.400 --> 0:22:56.240 And then yeah, so then I created the course, and guys, 0:22:56.280 --> 0:23:00.920 that's like something I haven't created new material in years, 0:23:01.400 --> 0:23:03.880 and this is you know, me postpartum creating a whole 0:23:03.920 --> 0:23:08.280 new course, which I'm literally obsessed with. Like, if you 0:23:08.359 --> 0:23:12.879 are feeling foggy or unclear, or like kind of similar 0:23:12.880 --> 0:23:14.920 to me, where you're like stuck in this negative thing 0:23:14.960 --> 0:23:17.119 and you're like, I need to like call myself out 0:23:17.160 --> 0:23:19.080 of my own shit and I need to get over 0:23:19.119 --> 0:23:22.840 myself and I need to just do the thing because. 0:23:22.760 --> 0:23:23.119 I am me. 0:23:23.600 --> 0:23:25.800 You know, no one is me. That is my power 0:23:25.880 --> 0:23:29.280 sort of vibes. And so if you're feeling like that, 0:23:29.560 --> 0:23:32.480 our seven day course do it for your future self 0:23:32.560 --> 0:23:36.480 will be amazing. But also just as you're listening, like 0:23:36.600 --> 0:23:42.960 be like what negative loop am I constantly feeding into? Yeah, 0:23:43.160 --> 0:23:46.480 have a thing. And then also like just adding on 0:23:46.560 --> 0:23:49.359 to that is I want you to think about where 0:23:49.359 --> 0:23:54.879 in your life that you're maybe call us out go ahead. 0:23:56.640 --> 0:23:59.439 I feel like a mole where you're maybe being a 0:23:59.440 --> 0:24:04.399 bit drama like do you know what I mean? And 0:24:04.440 --> 0:24:07.479 this is going off the I feel like sometimes we 0:24:07.520 --> 0:24:11.600 get so in our heads about something and it really 0:24:11.720 --> 0:24:15.720 like we pull ourselves in and we're like just very 0:24:15.800 --> 0:24:20.159 dramatic and we don't let it be simple. Yeah, And 0:24:20.200 --> 0:24:22.639