Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast. You're back with flex and
Speaker 1: through me and FLEXI owner that you live alone? Hmmm,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't broadcast it myself here and then it's usually
Speaker 1: home between the hours of X and X, the suburb
Speaker 1: and the location the cod word if you were I
Speaker 1: live with housemates. I've always lived with housemates or family.
Speaker 1: I'm definitely warming up to the idea of living alone,
Speaker 1: particularly when I hear stories like this one. It's from
Speaker 1: a listener. His name is redacted. Hi, Flexi B and
Speaker 1: thrum bb oh. And then they've sent the love heart hands.
Speaker 1: I love that. So this isn't am I the asshole?
Speaker 1: Bear with me songs coming in hot So. Two years ago,
Speaker 1: my bestie and I moved to Sydney from Perth and
Speaker 1: have just been roomy since. And she's just met a
Speaker 1: guy seven days ago and he's already so stayed over
Speaker 1: four nights since they met. I do love a worlwind
Speaker 1: romance within the first week. Now, I am all about him.
Speaker 1: He's cool and they suit each other well, etc. I
Speaker 1: just can't help but feel like they're abusing the privilege
Speaker 1: of our little apartment slash me. I'm also known to
Speaker 1: be a pushover. It is also a tiny, two bedroom apartment.
Speaker 1: And they've only known each other for seven days, and
Speaker 1: he's already stayed here four nights already. So on the
Speaker 1: fourth night, it was a Friday, and I was out
Speaker 1: with my friends and she was out with her friends
Speaker 1: and him. Then I come home at like one am,
Speaker 1: busting for the toilet, and turns out they're boning in
Speaker 1: the shower. Boning is so such a It's a word,
Speaker 1: isn't it. It exists? So I just let them be
Speaker 1: for five minutes, not knowing how long they've already been
Speaker 1: in there, until I can't hold it in no more.
Speaker 1: So I knock on the bathroom door and say I
Speaker 1: need to pee eek, And so they stop and come out,
Speaker 1: and then I pee. And then after I come out
Speaker 1: of the bathroom, the boy goes, you're ft, mate, And
Speaker 1: I couldn't help it feel so bad, unhappy face with
Speaker 1: the nose, But at the same time, I am like,
Speaker 1: am I just supposed to not exist in my own home?
Speaker 1: One week in from that meeting, they have a whole
Speaker 1: bedroom to themselves in capitals? Am I the asshole?
Speaker 2: That was a whirlwind. Thought it was taking me one place,
Speaker 2: it took me somewhere else. I love housemate drama because
Speaker 2: what it shows me is that without strict guidelines and
Speaker 2: a little bit of fear, people won't do the right
Speaker 2: thing for sure.
Speaker 1: Shall I give my initial thoughts? Of course, I've gotta
Speaker 1: say this person sounds absolutely divine.
Speaker 2: Yeah, one of yours.
Speaker 1: It's giving eighteen to twenty years old, just how we
Speaker 1: like him, one of our own. Shut ah. I think
Speaker 1: he's being very thoughtful. He knows he's a bit of
Speaker 1: a pushover, which is important to understand. They're totally abusing
Speaker 1: their privileges. I don't believe in shower sex same full stop.
Speaker 1: But I especially don't believe in it when you live
Speaker 1: in a household with more than yourself. Do it if
Speaker 1: you're if your housemates on holidays, or do it if
Speaker 1: you live in a massive house where there's some sort
Speaker 1: of like poolhouse.
Speaker 2: Do it if you have an en suite, yeah, with.
Speaker 1: A locked door and thick walls. There's nothing worse than
Speaker 1: hearing any kind of sexual activity in a bathroom, because
Speaker 1: you're hearing the water flutter in a way that is
Speaker 1: not you've seen some things I seen and heard way
Speaker 1: too much.
Speaker 2: The thing about relationships is when they start, you assume
Speaker 2: that everybody's on their best behavior, right like you're putting
Speaker 2: your best foot forward. You're establishing what is ideally best
Speaker 2: case scenario, expectations and boundaries. Already, this person's been in
Speaker 2: your home for four out of seven days in the week,
Speaker 2: and it's claiming territory, like you don't also live there.
Speaker 2: To be in your bathroom rooting, and then to say
Speaker 2: you're fucked when you knock knock knocks you need to
Speaker 2: pee in your own bathroom is cooked to me. Your
Speaker 2: real issue, though, is your housemaid, because realistically you don't
Speaker 2: know her boyfriend, you don't know their situation, and it's
Speaker 2: not really your place to now be like getting in between.
Speaker 2: You need to have a little one on one, which
Speaker 2: will be difficult because you're a people pleaser. I get it,
Speaker 2: but you have to reference it now because it will
Speaker 2: only get worse, especially because historically couples get lazy. Yeah,
Speaker 2: the house becomes a place for them to fester. You know,
Speaker 2: plant seeds, never get up from the couch, eat too
Speaker 2: much food, stink up the house, all of that stuff.
Speaker 2: And if this is week one. You're in for a
Speaker 2: hell of a ride and rain on their parade early
Speaker 2: so they know the vibe. Because what you don't want
Speaker 2: to do is leave it for four or five months
Speaker 2: and pretend you're all chill with it and then rain
Speaker 2: on their parade. Then then they're really going to gang
Speaker 2: up on you. Right now, they're not a solid unit.
Speaker 2: Break marp to two strangers riding the high of puppy love.
Speaker 2: Crush their dreams.
Speaker 1: Serve to your domini sagati. Make it terms of territory.
Speaker 1: You're serious stuff.
Speaker 2: It's your house and you're not in your home state.
Speaker 2: If you're living someone in you, your house needs to
Speaker 2: be your sanctuary. You can't be fearful of coming back
Speaker 2: home for a night out and so that you can't
Speaker 2: pee because someone's in there rooting when they have a
Speaker 2: whole room.
Speaker 1: What is this? Common areas should remain common. The get
Speaker 1: fucked mate?
Speaker 2: Yeah that that really pissed and so we will fight.
Speaker 1: Don't make me come in there and saquacky with a towel.
Speaker 1: It only gets worse from here. You never do that.
Speaker 1: It's actually can cause.
Speaker 2: But also I'm calling out your roommate because like she
Speaker 2: should have like shut that down really quick.
Speaker 1: Well, I would have done him my violent era.
Speaker 2: So currently.
Speaker 1: Do a piece in a jar. No, just put it
Speaker 1: not on the mattress, but between the mattress and the base.
Speaker 1: It's just a little sprinkling you're joking, Oh for sure,
Speaker 1: for sure, some crawls under the Yeah, there's plenty plenty
Speaker 1: you can do. I really hate that.
Speaker 2: Nip it in the bard asap facts, it'll only get worse.
Speaker 2: We've heard if there is no platform for good housemates
Speaker 2: stories because they don't exist. They don't think about your
Speaker 2: favorite housemate. There's gonna be three grading things that you're like,
Speaker 2: you know what, I let it go because I like you.
Speaker 2: I don't like this generally, but me, I'm perfect.
Speaker 1: Of course. Look, thank you for sending that inking give
Speaker 1: us updates, please please, because I'm sure it's probably already
Speaker 1: been two weeks since you send that to me, so
Speaker 1: hopefully there's been developments. See you later. What you've been
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