WEBVTT - The Accidental Housemate 🏘️

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast. You're back with flex and

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<v Speaker 1>through me and FLEXI owner that you live alone? Hmmm,

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't broadcast it myself here and then it's usually

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<v Speaker 1>home between the hours of X and X, the suburb

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<v Speaker 1>and the location the cod word if you were I

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<v Speaker 1>live with housemates. I've always lived with housemates or family.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely warming up to the idea of living alone,

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<v Speaker 1>particularly when I hear stories like this one. It's from

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<v Speaker 1>a listener. His name is redacted. Hi, Flexi B and

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<v Speaker 1>thrum bb oh. And then they've sent the love heart hands.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. So this isn't am I the asshole?

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<v Speaker 1>Bear with me songs coming in hot So. Two years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>my bestie and I moved to Sydney from Perth and

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<v Speaker 1>have just been roomy since. And she's just met a

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<v Speaker 1>guy seven days ago and he's already so stayed over

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<v Speaker 1>four nights since they met. I do love a worlwind

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<v Speaker 1>romance within the first week. Now, I am all about him.

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<v Speaker 1>He's cool and they suit each other well, etc. I

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<v Speaker 1>just can't help but feel like they're abusing the privilege

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<v Speaker 1>of our little apartment slash me. I'm also known to

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<v Speaker 1>be a pushover. It is also a tiny, two bedroom apartment.

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<v Speaker 1>And they've only known each other for seven days, and

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<v Speaker 1>he's already stayed here four nights already. So on the

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<v Speaker 1>fourth night, it was a Friday, and I was out

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<v Speaker 1>with my friends and she was out with her friends

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<v Speaker 1>and him. Then I come home at like one am,

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<v Speaker 1>busting for the toilet, and turns out they're boning in

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<v Speaker 1>the shower. Boning is so such a It's a word,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't it. It exists? So I just let them be

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<v Speaker 1>for five minutes, not knowing how long they've already been

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<v Speaker 1>in there, until I can't hold it in no more.

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<v Speaker 1>So I knock on the bathroom door and say I

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<v Speaker 1>need to pee eek, And so they stop and come out,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I pee. And then after I come out

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<v Speaker 1>of the bathroom, the boy goes, you're ft, mate, And

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't help it feel so bad, unhappy face with

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<v Speaker 1>the nose, But at the same time, I am like,

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<v Speaker 1>am I just supposed to not exist in my own home?

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<v Speaker 1>One week in from that meeting, they have a whole

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<v Speaker 1>bedroom to themselves in capitals? Am I the asshole?

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<v Speaker 2>That was a whirlwind. Thought it was taking me one place,

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<v Speaker 2>it took me somewhere else. I love housemate drama because

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<v Speaker 2>what it shows me is that without strict guidelines and

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit of fear, people won't do the right

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<v Speaker 2>thing for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Shall I give my initial thoughts? Of course, I've gotta

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<v Speaker 1>say this person sounds absolutely divine.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, one of yours.

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<v Speaker 1>It's giving eighteen to twenty years old, just how we

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<v Speaker 1>like him, one of our own. Shut ah. I think

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<v Speaker 1>he's being very thoughtful. He knows he's a bit of

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<v Speaker 1>a pushover, which is important to understand. They're totally abusing

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<v Speaker 1>their privileges. I don't believe in shower sex same full stop.

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<v Speaker 1>But I especially don't believe in it when you live

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<v Speaker 1>in a household with more than yourself. Do it if

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<v Speaker 1>you're if your housemates on holidays, or do it if

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<v Speaker 1>you live in a massive house where there's some sort

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<v Speaker 1>of like poolhouse.

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<v Speaker 2>Do it if you have an en suite, yeah, with.

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<v Speaker 1>A locked door and thick walls. There's nothing worse than

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<v Speaker 1>hearing any kind of sexual activity in a bathroom, because

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<v Speaker 1>you're hearing the water flutter in a way that is

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<v Speaker 1>not you've seen some things I seen and heard way

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<v Speaker 1>too much.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing about relationships is when they start, you assume

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<v Speaker 2>that everybody's on their best behavior, right like you're putting

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<v Speaker 2>your best foot forward. You're establishing what is ideally best

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<v Speaker 2>case scenario, expectations and boundaries. Already, this person's been in

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<v Speaker 2>your home for four out of seven days in the week,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's claiming territory, like you don't also live there.

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<v Speaker 2>To be in your bathroom rooting, and then to say

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<v Speaker 2>you're fucked when you knock knock knocks you need to

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<v Speaker 2>pee in your own bathroom is cooked to me. Your

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<v Speaker 2>real issue, though, is your housemaid, because realistically you don't

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<v Speaker 2>know her boyfriend, you don't know their situation, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>not really your place to now be like getting in between.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to have a little one on one, which

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<v Speaker 2>will be difficult because you're a people pleaser. I get it,

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<v Speaker 2>but you have to reference it now because it will

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<v Speaker 2>only get worse, especially because historically couples get lazy. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the house becomes a place for them to fester. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>plant seeds, never get up from the couch, eat too

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<v Speaker 2>much food, stink up the house, all of that stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>And if this is week one. You're in for a

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<v Speaker 2>hell of a ride and rain on their parade early

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<v Speaker 2>so they know the vibe. Because what you don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to do is leave it for four or five months

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<v Speaker 2>and pretend you're all chill with it and then rain

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<v Speaker 2>on their parade. Then then they're really going to gang

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<v Speaker 2>up on you. Right now, they're not a solid unit.

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<v Speaker 2>Break marp to two strangers riding the high of puppy love.

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<v Speaker 2>Crush their dreams.

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<v Speaker 1>Serve to your domini sagati. Make it terms of territory.

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<v Speaker 1>You're serious stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>It's your house and you're not in your home state.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're living someone in you, your house needs to

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<v Speaker 2>be your sanctuary. You can't be fearful of coming back

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<v Speaker 2>home for a night out and so that you can't

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<v Speaker 2>pee because someone's in there rooting when they have a

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<v Speaker 2>whole room.

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<v Speaker 1>What is this? Common areas should remain common. The get

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<v Speaker 1>fucked mate?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah that that really pissed and so we will fight.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't make me come in there and saquacky with a towel.

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<v Speaker 1>It only gets worse from here. You never do that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually can cause.

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<v Speaker 2>But also I'm calling out your roommate because like she

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<v Speaker 2>should have like shut that down really quick.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I would have done him my violent era.

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<v Speaker 2>So currently.

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<v Speaker 1>Do a piece in a jar. No, just put it

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<v Speaker 1>not on the mattress, but between the mattress and the base.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just a little sprinkling you're joking, Oh for sure,

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<v Speaker 1>for sure, some crawls under the Yeah, there's plenty plenty

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<v Speaker 1>you can do. I really hate that.

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<v Speaker 2>Nip it in the bard asap facts, it'll only get worse.

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<v Speaker 2>We've heard if there is no platform for good housemates

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<v Speaker 2>stories because they don't exist. They don't think about your

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<v Speaker 2>favorite housemate. There's gonna be three grading things that you're like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, I let it go because I like you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like this generally, but me, I'm perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course. Look, thank you for sending that inking give

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<v Speaker 1>us updates, please please, because I'm sure it's probably already

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<v Speaker 1>been two weeks since you send that to me, so

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully there's been developments. See you later. What you've been

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