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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast.

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Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just

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Speaker 2: once answers now Gooday.

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Speaker 1: It's doctor Justin Coulson for another episode of The Happy

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Speaker 1: Family's Podcast Holiday Edition, where we go back through the

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Speaker 1: very best interviews, the best conversations that we've had on

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Speaker 1: the podcast and pull literally the best couple of minutes

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Speaker 1: out of that to give you some tips for making

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Speaker 1: your family happier. One of my favorite people in the

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Speaker 1: world is a guy by the name of Professor H.

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Speaker 1: Wallace Goddard. He's been a mentor of mine for well

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Speaker 1: over ten years now, based over in the United States,

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Speaker 1: and just has such compassion, such wisdom, such humor and

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Speaker 1: delight in everything family related. While he was kind enough

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Speaker 1: to join us for episode three hundred and forty four

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Speaker 1: of The Happy Family's podcast, and I asked him, as

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Speaker 1: a parenting expert for many years now, what have you

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Speaker 1: learned and how have you applied the lessons that you've

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Speaker 1: learned in your own family?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Boy, Yeah, A few things we learned. I mean,

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Speaker 2: one was that you have to plan to invest time,

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Speaker 2: a lot of time. I think some people want parenting

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Speaker 2: to be efficient or they figure if you do it right,

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Speaker 2: it makes very little demands on your schedule. I think

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Speaker 2: that's a pretty serious mistake. I think, for instance, when

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Speaker 2: in the evening after teaching all day long, I'd be

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Speaker 2: sitting reading and I was just really absorbed in when

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Speaker 2: I was reading, and our little boy, Andy would come

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Speaker 2: up and say, Dad, can we take a walk around

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Speaker 2: the block? And I say, sure, as soon as I

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Speaker 2: just finish this chapter. And after a few times, Andy

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Speaker 2: said that you say that every time, and wow, it

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Speaker 2: is just painful to face yourself and realize that you've

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Speaker 2: been lying to yourself into your son, saying essentially, I

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Speaker 2: really want to be a good dad. I want you

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Speaker 2: to feel like I'm really present, but boy, I sure

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Speaker 2: don't want to waste any time unless it's absolutely necessary.

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Speaker 2: And that's the wrong way of thinking about it. When

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Speaker 2: you interparenting, you how to say, this is one of

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Speaker 2: the most important things I'll ever do. It'll have more impact,

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Speaker 2: it'll leave a more important legacy than anything else I

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Speaker 2: will do. And I intend to be present. I intend

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Speaker 2: to invest myself, heart and soul into this job. And

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Speaker 2: so I can drop my book and take a walk

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Speaker 2: around the block with Andy and not be impatient trying

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Speaker 2: to get around the block and get back to my book.

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Speaker 2: But stop and throw rocks and pick up sticks and

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Speaker 2: enjoy life with that little boy who's transformed our lives.

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Speaker 1: That's Wally Goddard from episode three hundred and forty four

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Speaker 1: of The Happy Family's podcasts. Imagine a relationship where you

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Speaker 1: felt seen, heard and valued one way. As your partner

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Speaker 1: enters the front door, they see you and their eyes

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Speaker 1: light up. A relationship like that is a gift. If

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Speaker 1: you don't have it, now you can. The Happy Family's

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Speaker 1: webinar Better Together gives you the insight, tools and support

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Speaker 1: you need to have a happier relationship, Available now at

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Speaker 1: The Happy Family's webshop. Hey, thanks so much for joining

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Speaker 1: us for the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers. Now Tomorrow we're

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Speaker 1: having a conversation with Jeremy mcveen. He's the founder of

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Speaker 1: the Fatherhood and co author of the book about the Fatherhood.

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Speaker 1: I think that you'll find him fascinating as we consider

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Speaker 1: what it is to be a great dad. This is

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Speaker 1: definitely one for mums, for the man in your life

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Speaker 1: to have a listen to. You might want to point

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Speaker 1: him towards our podcast tomorrow and Dad's You don't want

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Speaker 1: to miss this one because we're going to be talking

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Speaker 1: all about fatherhood. That's on tomorrow's Happy Families podcast. We

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Speaker 1: appreciate Justin Ruland and Craig Bruce. They're the guys that

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