1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: My Heart podcasts, hear more Gold one on one point 2 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:06,320 Speaker 1: seven podcasts. 3 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 2: Playlists and listen live on the Free iHeart app. 4 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 3: New Jersey and Amanda jam Nation. 5 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 2: The pub test today is saying no to birthday parties. 6 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 2: Does it pass the pub test? 7 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: Well, this woman who writes books on parenting has said 8 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: that she doesn't allow her kids to go to birthday 9 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 1: parties because she does sometimes, but she often has family 10 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: things that she prioritizes over that if they want to 11 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 1: go for a bushwalk or whatever, they do, she says, 12 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:35,560 Speaker 1: I think it's more important that the family spend time together. 13 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 1: The other side of this argument is people saying, well, 14 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: you know the kids, this is how they learn to socialize. 15 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:42,880 Speaker 1: This is what the whole class is doing. Why would 16 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 1: you exclude them from Do you. 17 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 2: Have to do the hang around? 18 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 3: Now? 19 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 2: Is that a thinker was back in my day? You 20 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 2: didn't have to do the hang around When I was 21 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 2: a kid. You just get dropped off at the local 22 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 2: meth lab for the kid's birthday party. And your parents 23 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 2: are a great theme than parents. Would you up some 24 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 2: methys us some hours later? 25 00:00:58,880 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 3: Well? 26 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: It is hard these days. The parents often have to 27 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: hang around your day's gone there, the whole weekend is gone. 28 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: Saying no the birthday parties does it pass the pub test? 29 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: I think it does pass the pub test. I personally 30 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: say no to birthday parties just with the cost of presents. 31 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: You've got kids for there's just no time for you. 32 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:23,040 Speaker 3: I find it difficult to believe that this woman can say, though, 33 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 3: when most parties, from my experience, are organized six to 34 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 3: eight weeks beforehand, and that she's organizing general family activities 35 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 3: greater than six to eight weeks beforehand. I mean most 36 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 3: fights will be organized probably a week or two tops. 37 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,039 Speaker 3: Of course, not no way, could you. 38 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: Be going out to socialize, have that connection with other kids. 39 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 3: Why would you want to say no to work? Come on, Jones, 40 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 3: do you like kids? You should know? 41 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 2: Do you what I do know? 42 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: You just ended the conversation with a big spike. You 43 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: said it's like kids sport. Have you kept your kids 44 00:01:58,000 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: away from sport because you didn't know. 45 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 2: They played sport? My son played soccer and my daughter 46 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 2: played net. For my other son, I took him to 47 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 2: Oztag one time, and we're on the way to oz 48 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 2: Tag and he said, I don't want to play ostag 49 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 2: And I said, but I don't want to take you 50 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 2: to and he said, well, why are we doing this? 51 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:14,960 Speaker 2: And I said, because your mother wants you to do 52 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 2: And then I said, if you don't want to do it, 53 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 2: you don't have to do it. And he's not a 54 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 2: sporting kid. 55 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:22,239 Speaker 1: It was hard with us with cricket because they both 56 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: played rugby, but cricket takes up all day and they 57 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:27,359 Speaker 1: were in Both boys were in separate teams, so a 58 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,919 Speaker 1: parent had to stay there all day. So I must 59 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,919 Speaker 1: say my son's cricketing career was over because I just 60 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: couldn't do it. 61 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, but you guys are pretty diligent with your kids spored. 62 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: I know, but the cricket, I'm sorry, Jack, sorry Liam. 63 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: We just couldn't do it. 64 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 2: You could have been playing for a s. 65 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: You could have, but mum was tired. 66 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 2: You're working down the local meth La. 67 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:52,679 Speaker 1: We wanted an afternoon's sleep. Read her Dragon Pawn when 68 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: she got home. 69 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 2: Thank you for all your calls.