WEBVTT - Do You Have To Pay For Spilt Drinks?🍸 🥴 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.200 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast brought to. 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:08.280 You, coming to you with quite a sum of mood. 0:00:08.480 --> 0:00:10.399 Yeah, no, pick it up? What's that? 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:12.560 Just wave a tightness came over me. I think I 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:13.399 need a coffee, fie. 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:14.320 What are you? 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:17.479 Your chocolate, your chocolates, the chocolates you bought just for 0:00:17.560 --> 0:00:18.680 this chockets. 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:20.840 No, I don't feel like chocolate. I haven't felt like 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:22.000 chocolate that much this week. 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:23.239 What's going on for me? 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:27.080 I think I'm like finding excitement elsewhere. Oh it'll come back. 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:31.360 Eight half a block yesterday? Okay, tasted pretty good. Gotta 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:34.320 get the craving out. I'm on my marble bent lately, 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:40.400 cadbritty quality marble with a Cara milk flavorway. Well, you 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:42.760 know you don't like it. You don't like Cara milk. 0:00:43.240 --> 0:00:45.639 The caramelk in the marble is called because it takes 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:51.080 away the absolute sacchereneness of the caramel. It's your favorite chocolate. 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:54.040 I don't have a favorite chocolate, but if I had 0:00:54.040 --> 0:01:02.680 to pick, it would be no kick, no bounty or 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:06.480 tim tam if it had double the filling and less 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:07.160 of the biscuit. 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:10.200 Oh wait, double the coating. 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:14.759 No, double the filling like that Ganashi whipped moosey more 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:18.040 of that and then less of the biscuit between the 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:19.119 chocolate coating. 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:20.440 I don't think that exists. 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:22.959 Say yeah it doesn't because I thought double coat. I 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:26.039 just like herd double double filling. Double coat is not 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:26.880 what I want either. 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:30.160 I love the double coat. They're very satisfying. 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:33.680 I disagree Fleck and Foms. 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:36.920 I was perusing the gram but a few days ago 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:40.440 and one of my friends, he's a new friend, put 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:43.520 on his story a picture of him with an ice cream. 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:45.480 It was a Sunday, so he had little Sunday ice 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:48.960 cream moment. Great and I wanted to reply, oh my god, 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:54.040 that looks delicious, because he was saying he got Boys 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:56.600 and Berry and he said that Messina is better than 0:01:56.640 --> 0:01:57.320 Peter Pipo. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:01:58.600 What's Peter Pipo. 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:02.240 It's a Melbourne ice cream but small business, so they're 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:05.560 both fantastic. So Peter Pepper has this some like Ntella 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:08.560 stuff that they put over the top. That's warm, delicious, 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:11.800 and then click on the next slide. What is it? 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:15.120 It's the ice cream on the ground. He's dropped his 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:15.840 ice cream. 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:19.640 A shame, but it happens often. I see that on Instagram. 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:21.000 A lot more than you'd think. 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:23.320 It's like a bird shooting on you. But it doesn't 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:26.160 give you any good luck. No, So I replied to him, 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:32.360 Oh my god, I was excited for you. I'm so sorry. Yeah, 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:33.880 because he looked really it was like a pig and 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:38.560 shit in the first picture. He replied, Yeah, and the 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:41.160 guy that bought me that, the guy that knocked me 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:46.560 this was one of those. It was an attack, bought 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:48.560 me another one, but only brought me one scoop. 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:54.840 Aha, it's cutting caught that a dog behavior. 0:02:56.200 --> 0:03:00.320 If you're knocking someone's whatever, they drink, their ice, their 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.000 food out of their hand, you have to double up. 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:05.959 It's you replace with interest. You don't just replace what 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:09.720 I lost, because what about the emotional impact of losing 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:10.359 it in the first place. 0:03:10.480 --> 0:03:10.959 Embarrassment? 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:12.480 Many two scoops. 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:14.720 Add a little something, a little flake in it. Yeah, 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:17.840 so this is the perfect Am I the asshole in 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:19.120 real time art? 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:19.440 Next? 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.720 I want to know, does the guy is it the 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:25.320 guy's let's let's make it. 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:25.600 Yeah. 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:28.400 I don't think if you knock someone do you have 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:32.400 to buy them a drink or an ice cream? Do 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:34.720 you give them money? Or do you just say, look, 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:35.920 it's your fault. 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:38.160 And let's put some more parameters out there so people 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:39.840 can't be like, well, it just depends on the situation. 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:40.440 Shut up. 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:45.800 Parameters are you are you are walking down a main 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:51.160 road and you've knocked somebody's boost juice their little messina 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:53.880 because you were on your phone. Like if clearly you're 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.880 in the wrong, no two ways about it. It's it's 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:59.680 a shame it's happened, but it's on the floor. There's 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:02.760 no recovering it. You're looking at them, You're looking at 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:03.360 what you've done. 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:05.000 What is the next protocol? 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:08.240 Listen, I think that's pretty obvious. What about this one? Okay, 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:11.000 they walk into you accidentally, they don't on their phone. 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:13.040 They just like you just both bump each other, so 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.880 it's we don't know, it's a mutual Oh yeah, classic, classic. 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:21.440 I think depending on how upset they are, you know, 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.880 if immediately they're hitting you, you would like, oh god, 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:28.679 you know, then you definitely got to offer a little something, 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:32.640 you know, because it's gonna be a confrontation. If they're like, oh, 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:35.040 you know, it happens, it's so fine, they just leave 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:37.360 it because there's nothing worse than going back and forth. 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:40.160 Be like, oh, no, I'm gonna like no, no, no, no, 0:04:40.680 --> 0:04:43.279 I'm not doing it. Okay, it's mutual, let's just let 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:43.440 it go. 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:46.640 See, I'm the opposite if they were really nice and 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.279 say listen, no more. If so, I'm gonna go get one. 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:53.560 Whereas if they're shitty with me, I'd say listen, I'm 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:56.240 sorry because they're already shitty. Oh okay, and I don't 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:58.000 want to go out of my way and buy them 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.200 two double deck of ice cream for them. You'd be 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:02.720 like yeah, thanks and still be shitty. I was in 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:05.560 a similar situation last weekend when mate my mates at 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:08.159 a bar and there was this new friend who literally 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.600 just got in from London, like he literally like a 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:14.320 long haul fly, and he sits down at the pub 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.280 and everybody wanted to leave because they're going to a gieg. 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:18.760 So my mate, who's friends of them, was like, go 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:21.680 have his beer. He's out having a cigarette, have his 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:23.960 beer because we're gonna leave. I sit down, I'm having 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.719 the beer. He comes in and goes, where's my beer? 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:32.000 You're knocking it back, and I look at the fact 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:33.720 that you took it as well. You didn't wait to 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.000 verify the information was true. You're like, oh yeah, it 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:36.680 seems about right. 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:38.400 They literally were just like, yeah, you have it, you 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:38.640 have it. 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:41.760 There, we're gonna go. And then so what happened. There 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:42.480 was a confrontation. 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:44.360 Oh my god, Oh my god, I'm sorry. And before that, 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:46.960 i'd introduced myself to him, like five minutes before before 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:49.320 he went out, and like I walked into the table 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:50.480 and I was we hung over, so I was like 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:52.400 acting weird. Yeah, you weren't giving and I was like, 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:54.600 oh my god, hey I'm Lucinda, and he kind of 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:57.040 looked at me like why are you just introducing yourself 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:57.240 to me? 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:00.760 I was already well, what do you mean? Is this 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:02.160 the social anxiety coming through? 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:02.360 No? 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:03.680 Na, No, it was a weird vibe. 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:03.960 Ah. 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:08.080 And then you drank his drinking make sure you really 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:09.560 didn't like me, And then what happened? 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:11.840 Then they went off for agig and I just said, look, 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:13.240 next time, I won't, I won't drink. 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:16.840 You drink next time. There was no next time, it's 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:23.840 too much. I can't. Yeah, yeah, you're silly, babe. 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:26.600 They set you up. I don't know that was a trap, 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:27.880 and I don't like set ups at all. So let 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:29.600 me fight those friends on behalf of you, just for 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:30.800 the principal's. 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.080 Sake, flex and frooms. 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:34.760 It has, in fact been a little while since I've 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:40.480 slandered the Internet's new favorite application, be Real. It is 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:43.040 not a social media app, they say, it's just a 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:46.400 little daily habit, a little critt rule to keep your 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:48.520 screen tim up. Now, we don't need to get into 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:51.120 the reasons why we like or dislike be Real. It 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:53.040 is second to the fact that when I logged onto 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:56.480 TikTok about I would say two weeks ago, now there 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:59.680 was a new feature, And TikTok always has new features. 0:06:59.760 --> 0:07:01.360 Some of them bop, some of them don't. But I 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:03.680 usually don't pay attention because what am I trying to do? 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:06.760 And it was called the now tap. So at the 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:09.840 bottom where you can click your notifications, you're for you 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:11.840 page your friends only, it. 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.040 Says now, I'm thinking, what's that mean? 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:18.080 I click on to now and it literally has a 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:21.720 graphic that looks just like be real of the blurred background, 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:25.400 and then an icon that says post to view. And 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:28.800 if you don't know, the thing that really shoots me 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:32.440 about be Real is that in order to access content 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:35.000 that my friends have posted, I physically have to post 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:36.760 and I don't want to post more on the Internet 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.760 to engage with my own people. Now TikTok has the 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:42.440 same function where in order to view the posts of 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:46.240 your mutual friends who post this, now platform you have 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:47.320 to post something. 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:50.200 To which I said, where is the decorum? 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:52.800 Because back in the days, at least platforms would wait 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:54.000 a little while before they copied. 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:57.120 Now it's blatant. Now it's literally like, oh that's a 0:07:57.160 --> 0:08:00.920 cute thing, let me steal that in three months. It's bizarre. 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:03.320 And to think you haven't are you still using? Be real? 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:04.520 You are? 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:06.480 Yeah, you got a little daily streak happening or no, 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:10.600 yeah do fascinating, But then you haven't in the TikTok update. 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:12.600 Nah, I don't go on TikTok that much. 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:13.840 Interesting. 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:15.840 Yeah, I probably go on TikTok once a week. 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:18.960 What, Yeah, you're interesting. 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:22.280 I haven't gotten addicted to it. It's quite nice. Actually, 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:23.320 yeah's a big sash. 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:25.440 As you know, yeah, as we know, we know, we 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:27.200 know the routine. But this is what I'm saying. 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:29.440 The thing, the great issue with the Internet is that 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:35.080 like trend cycles don't exist. Everything just reaches maximum optimization 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:38.079 and then dies. So you know, if you want to 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:40.520 post on social media. Let's give you an app with 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:42.800 the most advanced algorithm ever, and then you get sick 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:45.440 of it. Let's say you like a certain trend, Let's 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:48.040 make sure that trend is oversaturated, and then nobody wears it. 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:50.760 This is what's happening with be Real at the moment. 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:52.719 I think TikTok will be the demise of be Real, 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:55.439 not Instagram, because people thought when Instagram released it to 0:08:55.520 --> 0:08:57.960 dual camera function, got'd be the great demise. 0:08:58.080 --> 0:08:58.520 It was not. 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:02.840 TikTok, though, has a lot more power than Instagram does 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:06.079 in terms of deciding what is and is not cool. 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:10.400 Now TikTok is stolen, relatantly stolen the b real function. 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:14.360 I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Your days are numbered. 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:17.360 I am a purist and I really love what b 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:19.560 Real did. They came out of the gates, tried something new, 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:22.800 so I will continue to use their platform. I don't like. 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:25.319 I don't want random seeing my TikTok thing. I want 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:25.840 my friends. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:29.400 Well this is I have used it, I haven't used it, 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:32.600 and again, like I would love another place on the internet. 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:33.840 No, you know what I want. 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:35.640 I don't want another place on the internet to hang 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:37.240 with my own friends. I already know where they are. 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:40.400 I want a place on the Internet where the algorithm 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:43.559 recommends me people that I'm bound to get along with, 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.280 who are in my vicinity. I want to see more 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:49.960 like minded people so I can expand my actual social networks, 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:54.440 not my fake Internet digital footprint like in real life 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:59.319 social networks. Oh you too, like Drake and Cafe Freeds 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:03.400 and and you know, chihuahuas meet and then we meet. 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:08.480 I guess, I guess this is Flex and frooms on Kada. 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:11.719 As always, I'm out in the community finding content for 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:15.000 our show, looking for little tiny things that I can 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:17.560 add and share with you Flex And this one comes 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:19.760 exactly from my bedroom. 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:20.360 The other day. 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:22.880 My housemate was hanging out with me in bed and 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:26.480 she said something really beautiful about when you are grieving 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:30.240 something and beat a relationship, a friend, a job, and 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:34.559 she gave this analogy. Like me, sometimes it's difficult to 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:36.120 get the thought out, I. 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:39.760 Don't say that. Well, we had to do it like 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:41.280 twice a bit of feedback. 0:10:43.080 --> 0:10:50.719 So Lucinda and I are talking about heartbreak and one 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:54.480 of my friends gave me this really great analogy about 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:58.640 a box and the memory is a little ball and 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:02.280 your mind is a box and. 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.120 The ball never. 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:09.520 Changes, is what I miss. 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:12.679 I can't remember now I'm trying to say it. 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.920 Well, you said that the ball. 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:16.280 I love. 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:18.560 This is the inception of the voices of the ball. 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:22.160 The ball is like a piece of grief, and it's 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:25.080 in a box, and every time it hits the side 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:26.280 of the box, it hurts. 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:29.760 But then as you go on, the box gets bigger 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:31.079 because that's time. 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:31.720 Yeah. 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:35.760 Yeah, So the box gets bigger, and it means that 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:37.959 the ball hits the sides of the box less and 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:41.959 less often. And the ball doesn't change. And every time 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:44.600 the ball hits the side of the box it hurts, 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.760 but because the box is getting bigger, it hits the 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:50.120 side of the box less and less. Yeah. 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:51.920 Is that. 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:54.720 That's perfect? 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:55.600 Okay? 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:59.160 Christopher Nolan the new inception. I was hearing Bowl the 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:00.959 whole time. I was like, okay, so there's a bowl 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:04.600 in a box, so let me you know it makes sense. 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:05.319 Listen. 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:07.199 It was late at night when we're talking about this, 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:09.520 so the brain was ticking. 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:12.520 It always is. But but I like what you I 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:13.959 like the point. Yeah. 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:17.280 So it's talking about how things will always hurt, painful 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:19.480 things that have happened to you will always hurt, but 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:21.319 they hurt less. 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:24.520 Often, or perhaps it's not they're hurting less, but the 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:28.120 impact of them is perhaps less noticeable because you've had 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:32.959 time to like expand your mind, expand your life. You know, 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:36.839 She's like, because I think hurting less that you try 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:39.400 to quantify it, like how much does it hurt? 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:40.240 Is it makes me cry? 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:43.600 Still it might always make you cry, you know, does 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:46.440 make me you know reminisce. Well, it might always make 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:48.800 you reminisce. So then instead of being like how much 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:51.839 or how little, it's like it'll always just you just 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:52.880 won't think about it as much. 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:56.840 Just how often I really thought it's beautiful? 0:12:57.120 --> 0:12:57.840 It is beautiful? 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:00.600 So whereas who whose concept is this? It came from 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:02.880 a friend of a friend. Yeah, not us, spreading rumors. 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:04.800 We always to A friend of mine told me that 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:08.040 a friend said so, never referencing the original people. 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:10.760 Literally, have we found this person? 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:11.040 Yeah? 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:13.439 I was with nipple story the woman who told me 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:17.959 it on Friday night, and she's still insistent that it's 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:18.559 a real person. 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.360 Yeah, but you would if you're the person who we 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:23.440 can who we can tie the room about. 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:25.000 She doesn't want it to be her though, because she 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:28.280 had mad anxiety that like she told someone else's story. 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.640 Oh yeah, well I did ask you about this, whether 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:35.920 or not you feel like the people, whether or not 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.960 you threw me feel like the people who you talk 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:40.400 about and their stories. 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:42.000 Fuck, I can't even phrase this. 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:43.760 I know what you mean, Like, if I'm going to 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:45.040 rush about someone, if you're going. 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:46.560 To write or speak on behalf of someone, are they 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:49.720 prepared for the story exceeding you and your personal network 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:52.400 and then reaching the hand and the minds and the 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:54.880 brains of random people who don't have the context. 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:57.640 And you know what I mean, that's part of being 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.760 an artist. And I've told you previously. I once spoke 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:04.880 to Becky Lucas on my newsletter really fantastic comedian, successful 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:07.840 Australian comedian, and she I asked her, you know, because 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:10.040 she wrote a book and it's about people. It's called 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:13.520 Acknowledgments by Becky Lucas. It's a colorful boy where she 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:17.040 thanks people for certain lessons that they've given her own life. 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:19.920 And she she's like, you know, that's part of art. 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.280 It's doctoring people her words. 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:27.440 Look, maybe it is, but I find that the more 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:29.480 time I hang on the internet, the less I want 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:33.560 to share because I used to be really naive about 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:35.800 the internet being a safe place. I was just like, 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:38.080 I don't know, when you're self interested, you don't really 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:39.640 think about what happens outside of the way you see 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:41.920 the world, right, So I was like, it's fine. Everything 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:45.160 I say do express on the internet is being received 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:47.080 as intended because I mean it to be that way. 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.080 And then one or two times you get misunderstood and 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:51.920 it kind of hurts you, like whatever, And then one 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:53.800 or two times you tell a story on behalf of 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:57.320 somebody else, or you share information where the stakes are 0:14:57.360 --> 0:14:59.840 so low for you, not considering that it's high for 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:03.160 them because they're not built to withstand it all. There's 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:07.160 no incentive to withstand the critique and you know, the 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:10.480 observations and all that stuff. So I think it's fascinating. 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:14.560 But in this instance, the heartbreak grief thing is fascinating. 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:16.200 Do you like the analogy? 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:19.120 I like the analogy a lot because I used to 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:24.240 be really detached, bitch over emotional family. 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:25.160 It is what it is. 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:27.960 And then I started feeling my feelings after therapy, and 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:30.000 I was like, you people do this all the time. 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:33.680 Because everything hurts. Why everything gotta hurt? 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:37.520 The life I was living beforehand, from zero to twenty 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:41.400 four A breeze, a breeze, because I was like nothing, 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:45.040 I feel nothing. Everything is like the same amount of 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:47.040 nothing that's in the best way possible, and like everything 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:50.560 is good, nothing bad ever happens. My luck is amazing. 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:53.560 And then I turn twenty five and I get humbled. 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:57.360 I'm like, damn, the world is really scary. And then 0:15:57.400 --> 0:15:59.600 you gotta live with the things you've felt. You can't 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:00.560 just press them. 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:03.760 Yeah it hurts, Yeah, it's not for me, Bob. 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:08.200 This is flex and frooms on Kita. 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:10.000 It is the summer of getting near it. 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:10.760 What does that mean? 0:16:10.800 --> 0:16:15.320 Everybody asks, It means going out flirting, going near the 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:18.680 person that you attracted to, giving off a sexy vibe because, 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:20.920 as they know, when you get near it, you get 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:21.680 even closer to it. 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:24.960 I would also say getting near it is just prioritizing 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.920 pleasure and leisure and ease, whatever that looks like for 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:29.520 you in your current predicament. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:33.600 Do that fantastic facts a bit of a gear change. 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:38.480 But the other day I was out at Cafe Freighters 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:41.520 Now their dinner before going to Groove Armada. I will 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:43.640 say I spent ten minutes with Groove Armada, went home 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:45.560 really had a tummy ache. 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:48.800 Really, yeah, you got a power through na. 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:49.560 It wasn't good. 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:52.600 Wasn't good? Or the tummy ache. Look, it wasn't good. 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:54.440 The tummy ache wasn't good. And when I was there, 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:57.120 the sound was really low. But then when I left, 0:16:57.160 --> 0:16:59.040 they turned it up and the vibe kicked up a notch. 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:03.360 Did you pay to go? Yeah? Whoa, and you gave 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:04.080 it easily. 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:09.280 Yeah, I'm in my frivolous spending era. Yeah, I'm like you, 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:12.000 frivol spending on social outings just because I want to 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:14.840 push myself to go. But also if I'm not feeling it, 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:16.760 I'm not feeling it or I've already spent the money. 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:18.560 Who did you go with? Were they find with you leaving? 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:19.280 Yeah? 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:20.400 Like four? 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:21.520 Like eight mates? 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:23.520 Oh okay, so you're just like the odd one out. 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:24.760 Yeah they were happy to have you go. 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:30.040 Yeah, very keen. Actually, But at the dinner I was 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:33.320 talking to one friend whose sister has had a baby. 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:36.920 God knows how we got here, but apparently when you 0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:40.359 get pregnant, your bush grows back. If you had laser, 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:44.600 if you don't know. Laser hair removal is a technique 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:49.639 where a laser is Yeah, a laser is directed right 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:54.239 into your pussoirs. Oh, the LaBier majurer. If we want 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:56.680 to get technical, we do. It's important to name you 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:59.640 of a jewels. Yeah, we do. It's not little what else? 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:05.119 People call it muffin muffin. You can use your imagination 0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:07.680 so as somebody would laser. 0:18:08.440 --> 0:18:09.000 Oh okay. 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:11.960 There's sometimes times where I wish that I had not 0:18:12.000 --> 0:18:14.520