WEBVTT - MINI: Ask Uncut... Help! I have a crush on a coworker 💌

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<v Speaker 1>You girls.

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<v Speaker 2>This is one of my favorite segments you do on

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<v Speaker 2>your hit podcast Life on.

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<v Speaker 3>Card Hi Mitchell, Hi, Hi.

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<v Speaker 2>We also do it every Thursday on our show. It's this.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So for those who aren't familiar with it, ask you

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<v Speaker 3>kat Is where you guys, you call up. You give

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<v Speaker 3>us your biggest deever's darkest problems, and we do our

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<v Speaker 3>best answer them. Even though none of us have psychology degrees.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't say the word, I did not counselors, but

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<v Speaker 3>we will try and answer your questions.

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<v Speaker 5>Just to give this some credit here, I did study

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<v Speaker 5>psychology at university.

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<v Speaker 3>My module does not make you a psychologist for it

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<v Speaker 3>no one year, But I don't have a degree. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>well I did find art, so I can help you

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<v Speaker 3>with some art therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>Then graduate ideas manical degree anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Sorry, welcome to the show. You might not be

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<v Speaker 2>in save hands, but we'll do our best.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay. So I have been in a long term relationship

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<v Speaker 4>about six years going strong now, but I have a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit of a crush on this guy that I

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<v Speaker 4>work with and it's just getting in my head a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit and I'm not really sure what to do

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<v Speaker 4>about it.

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<v Speaker 1>So you do nothing, You can't you do nothing.

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<v Speaker 5>You can act on it if you want, if you

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<v Speaker 5>think they're the one, but you have to break up

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<v Speaker 5>with your partner first.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't. You can't be having your cake and eat

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<v Speaker 1>it too.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it last? Like I want to bone this person

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<v Speaker 2>at work? Or is it this is my person?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, there's been like a little bit of flirting going

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<v Speaker 4>back and forth, you know, nothing too bad, but I've

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<v Speaker 4>also had like a couple of dreams about them. So

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just wondering if you have any advice on how

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<v Speaker 4>to get this out of my head?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want?

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<v Speaker 1>How how long have you been your six years?

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<v Speaker 4>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>And then is your relationship with your partner like solid?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it really good? Are you having issues?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>Not super strong? Like I love him so much, so.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't do anything.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think, oh, I mean, like you can't help

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<v Speaker 3>it if you have a dream about someone, but also

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<v Speaker 3>dreams are not real.

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<v Speaker 1>Doesn't mean that you're in love with this guy.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think you just have to put a stop

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<v Speaker 3>to the flirty banter because it's gonna flirty banter.

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<v Speaker 1>Is only going to escalate. It's going to get you

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<v Speaker 1>into a bit of trouble.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you're like the flirty banter is kind of

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<v Speaker 3>evolving into more, or you're hanging out outside of work,

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<v Speaker 3>or you've had a drink together, or I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I just think tread very carefully if you love and

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<v Speaker 3>want to stay with your partner, because it could get

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<v Speaker 3>very messy.

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<v Speaker 5>People also confuse like that chemistry and that flirtation and

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<v Speaker 5>that mystery with.

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<v Speaker 1>More than it is.

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<v Speaker 5>People often do that, especially when you've been in a

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<v Speaker 5>long term relationship. You might be feeling I hate to

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<v Speaker 5>say it, but like scene again, you know, desire it

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<v Speaker 5>or get that you haven't felt that for six years

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<v Speaker 5>because you've been settled in life. But that don't mistake

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<v Speaker 5>that for you know something far greater than it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, call me work, call me the work mob. Imagen,

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<v Speaker 2>have you discussed opening things up? No, Mitch, let me

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<v Speaker 2>ask Imagen.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you discussed it?

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<v Speaker 4>Look not yet, And I don't think it's something that

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<v Speaker 4>he's open to.

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<v Speaker 3>Very well, you little Jen said whipper snappers in your

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<v Speaker 3>open relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm so sorry that you can hear the dinosaur

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<v Speaker 2>in the room. Are you open to it?

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<v Speaker 4>Look, I think that because my partner wouldn't be open

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<v Speaker 4>to it. I think it was, Yeah, it's not something

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<v Speaker 4>that I need to explore.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Well, if it's not gonna work, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>gonna wann But for some people that works.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that in this instance, do nothing. I think

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<v Speaker 3>it's you know, just because you have a bit of

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<v Speaker 3>a crush, just because there's a bit of a fantasy,

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<v Speaker 3>it can stay as a fantasy and unless something changes

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<v Speaker 3>and you are absolutely overcome with like I cannot not

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<v Speaker 3>be with this person. It seems like a pretty dangerous

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<v Speaker 3>risk to take.

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<v Speaker 5>Mitch, have you ever had a crush on someone in

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<v Speaker 5>the workplace, because you've been.

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<v Speaker 1>In radio a long time and there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people that work here. Yeah, and you're a flirt.

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<v Speaker 2>I've just monetized it. My advice to Image and was

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<v Speaker 2>going to be start a podcast with them because the

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<v Speaker 2>three of us have brilliant chemistry, but we don't burn

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<v Speaker 2>which radio.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have a crush on either of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Chemistry doesn't have to be sex. It can also be

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<v Speaker 2>an audio medium.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we should go. I thought that was a very

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<v Speaker 1>clear point. It wasn't. No, it was confusing, But anyway, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Sexual tension between the three.

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<v Speaker 1>It's also not confusing.

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<v Speaker 2>That helps him a journey. She's hung up. If you

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<v Speaker 2>want to get in touch, and you can text us

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<v Speaker 2>for nine nine four four one six five more to

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<v Speaker 2>our best to help you.

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<v Speaker 1>Mitch. What has happened? You can some kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>fight I heard on Facebook.

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<v Speaker 2>I almost caught the police. I had a woman over

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<v Speaker 2>to my house, first time I've ever said that to

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<v Speaker 2>pick up an item from Facebook market before. I was

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<v Speaker 2>young in my youth. And she she took the item,

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<v Speaker 2>but then she also took my humility.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh boy, your humility. That's not the right

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<v Speaker 5>Time.