Speaker 1: You girls.
Speaker 2: This is one of my favorite segments you do on
Speaker 2: your hit podcast Life on.
Speaker 3: Card Hi Mitchell, Hi, Hi.
Speaker 2: We also do it every Thursday on our show. It's this.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So for those who aren't familiar with it, ask you
Speaker 3: kat Is where you guys, you call up. You give
Speaker 3: us your biggest deever's darkest problems, and we do our
Speaker 3: best answer them. Even though none of us have psychology degrees.
Speaker 3: I didn't say the word, I did not counselors, but
Speaker 3: we will try and answer your questions.
Speaker 5: Just to give this some credit here, I did study
Speaker 5: psychology at university.
Speaker 3: My module does not make you a psychologist for it
Speaker 3: no one year, But I don't have a degree. Yeah,
Speaker 3: well I did find art, so I can help you
Speaker 3: with some art therapy.
Speaker 1: Then graduate ideas manical degree anyway.
Speaker 2: Hi, Sorry, welcome to the show. You might not be
Speaker 2: in save hands, but we'll do our best.
Speaker 4: Okay. So I have been in a long term relationship
Speaker 4: about six years going strong now, but I have a
Speaker 4: little bit of a crush on this guy that I
Speaker 4: work with and it's just getting in my head a
Speaker 4: little bit and I'm not really sure what to do
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 1: So you do nothing, You can't you do nothing.
Speaker 5: You can act on it if you want, if you
Speaker 5: think they're the one, but you have to break up
Speaker 5: with your partner first.
Speaker 1: You can't. You can't be having your cake and eat
Speaker 1: it too.
Speaker 2: Is it last? Like I want to bone this person
Speaker 2: at work? Or is it this is my person?
Speaker 4: Well, there's been like a little bit of flirting going
Speaker 4: back and forth, you know, nothing too bad, but I've
Speaker 4: also had like a couple of dreams about them. So
Speaker 4: I'm just wondering if you have any advice on how
Speaker 4: to get this out of my head?
Speaker 2: Do you want?
Speaker 1: How how long have you been your six years?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: And then is your relationship with your partner like solid?
Speaker 1: Is it really good? Are you having issues?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 4: Not super strong? Like I love him so much, so.
Speaker 1: Don't do anything.
Speaker 3: But I think, oh, I mean, like you can't help
Speaker 3: it if you have a dream about someone, but also
Speaker 3: dreams are not real.
Speaker 1: Doesn't mean that you're in love with this guy.
Speaker 3: And I think you just have to put a stop
Speaker 3: to the flirty banter because it's gonna flirty banter.
Speaker 1: Is only going to escalate. It's going to get you
Speaker 1: into a bit of trouble.
Speaker 3: And if you're like the flirty banter is kind of
Speaker 3: evolving into more, or you're hanging out outside of work,
Speaker 3: or you've had a drink together, or I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just think tread very carefully if you love and
Speaker 3: want to stay with your partner, because it could get
Speaker 3: very messy.
Speaker 5: People also confuse like that chemistry and that flirtation and
Speaker 5: that mystery with.
Speaker 1: More than it is.
Speaker 5: People often do that, especially when you've been in a
Speaker 5: long term relationship. You might be feeling I hate to
Speaker 5: say it, but like scene again, you know, desire it
Speaker 5: or get that you haven't felt that for six years
Speaker 5: because you've been settled in life. But that don't mistake
Speaker 5: that for you know something far greater than it is.
Speaker 2: Okay, call me work, call me the work mob. Imagen,
Speaker 2: have you discussed opening things up? No, Mitch, let me
Speaker 2: ask Imagen.
Speaker 1: Have you discussed it?
Speaker 4: Look not yet, And I don't think it's something that
Speaker 4: he's open to.
Speaker 3: Very well, you little Jen said whipper snappers in your
Speaker 3: open relationships.
Speaker 2: And I'm so sorry that you can hear the dinosaur
Speaker 2: in the room. Are you open to it?
Speaker 4: Look, I think that because my partner wouldn't be open
Speaker 4: to it. I think it was, Yeah, it's not something
Speaker 4: that I need to explore.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, if it's not gonna work, it's not
Speaker 2: gonna wann But for some people that works.
Speaker 3: I think that in this instance, do nothing. I think
Speaker 3: it's you know, just because you have a bit of
Speaker 3: a crush, just because there's a bit of a fantasy,
Speaker 3: it can stay as a fantasy and unless something changes
Speaker 3: and you are absolutely overcome with like I cannot not
Speaker 3: be with this person. It seems like a pretty dangerous
Speaker 3: risk to take.
Speaker 5: Mitch, have you ever had a crush on someone in
Speaker 5: the workplace, because you've been.
Speaker 1: In radio a long time and there's a lot of
Speaker 1: people that work here. Yeah, and you're a flirt.
Speaker 2: I've just monetized it. My advice to Image and was
Speaker 2: going to be start a podcast with them because the
Speaker 2: three of us have brilliant chemistry, but we don't burn
Speaker 2: which radio.
Speaker 1: I don't have a crush on either of you.
Speaker 2: Chemistry doesn't have to be sex. It can also be
Speaker 2: an audio medium.
Speaker 1: Okay, we should go. I thought that was a very
Speaker 1: clear point. It wasn't. No, it was confusing, But anyway, the.
Speaker 2: Sexual tension between the three.
Speaker 1: It's also not confusing.
Speaker 2: That helps him a journey. She's hung up. If you
Speaker 2: want to get in touch, and you can text us
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Speaker 2: our best to help you.
Speaker 1: Mitch. What has happened? You can some kind of a
Speaker 1: fight I heard on Facebook.
Speaker 2: I almost caught the police. I had a woman over
Speaker 2: to my house, first time I've ever said that to
Speaker 2: pick up an item from Facebook market before. I was
Speaker 2: young in my youth. And she she took the item,
Speaker 2: but then she also took my humility.
Speaker 1: Oh boy, your humility. That's not the right
Speaker 5: Time.