WEBVTT - Cock-blocked by my own child

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<v Speaker 1>Question for you, Shoot, do you have any gray hair pubes?

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't inspected that closely, but not noticeably. We'll get

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<v Speaker 2>my wife down here and ask me. You're going gray.

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<v Speaker 1>You go on, Clooney, I've got gray hairs on my

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<v Speaker 1>ball sack.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. I know you could honestly start calling

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<v Speaker 2>him Clooney now and be like, hey, babe, Colooney's here.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Two Dirty Dads, Episode three.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, episode three, Well, time's flying.

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<v Speaker 1>If anyone doesn't know, my name is Mattie Ja. This

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<v Speaker 1>is a conversation all about parenting, good, bad, relatable. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're coming for advice, I have to always say turn

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<v Speaker 1>back now, yeah, stop right now. We may be two

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<v Speaker 1>doting dads, but we don't know what the fuck we're doing.

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<v Speaker 2>We're just doing our best, and that's all that mattered.

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<v Speaker 1>You look good, though, you've got like a little spring

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<v Speaker 1>in your step to happy.

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<v Speaker 2>A couple of days, no beers feeling good. Actually it's

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<v Speaker 2>been a bit of a rough couple of days.

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<v Speaker 1>Well happen.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a pregnancy scare. Now, I know what you're thinking,

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<v Speaker 2>What does that matter? First of all, when I say

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<v Speaker 2>pregnancy is head, I am petrified of having a third child.

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<v Speaker 2>But I've also had a vasectomy.

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<v Speaker 1>What percentage do they tell you, like, this is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be nine to nine point nine or what.

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<v Speaker 2>I honestly didn't watch the video they give you, and

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't watch the video that started it. I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have a spression. But the thing is okay. So when

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<v Speaker 2>you go get a vasectomy, they say, okay, so in

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<v Speaker 2>three months or twenty wanks time round about that time,

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<v Speaker 2>or if the three months goes over.

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<v Speaker 1>Or in like a week if you're ash, or if.

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<v Speaker 2>The three months goes over your birthday and it's nineteen wanks,

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<v Speaker 2>then you go get tested to see if your stare up.

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<v Speaker 2>And like me and a lot of other men, we

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<v Speaker 2>didn't go back and get tested to see if I'm

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<v Speaker 2>actually stare up.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's non critical, right, You're like, if you've done

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<v Speaker 1>your job, we're fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I have a lot of faith in that doctor.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyway, April comes to me a couple of days

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<v Speaker 2>ago and she says I'm late, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I just sat awake on an operating table or someone

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<v Speaker 2>snipped away at my testicles, and now you're telling me

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to have a third mouth to feed we're

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<v Speaker 2>freaking out. I'm in the supermarket buying pregnancy test, running

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<v Speaker 2>into really close friends holding your pregnancy test, like hiding

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<v Speaker 2>it in the supermarket, going fuck, because it's like, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, it's always the way when you're buying eggs and milk,

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<v Speaker 1>you're seeing no one. When you're buying like hemorrhoid cream

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<v Speaker 1>and pregnancy tests, you bump into your old school teacher.

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<v Speaker 2>What she grab it? Yea condo? You don't well I

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<v Speaker 2>thought I did anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Because yeah, obviously you wouldn't even have a pregnancy test anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>When did you get the snip last year? We're talking

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<v Speaker 2>six seven months ago, So.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're diving to the siftmarket or the pharmacy, what's

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<v Speaker 1>going through your mind?

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<v Speaker 2>I was thinking about just not stopping, continue red on

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<v Speaker 2>straight through, see what happens. But yeah, look she comes

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<v Speaker 2>to three or four days late, and I'm like, you

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<v Speaker 2>have got to be kidding me.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, So finally, finally as you got a period, and

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<v Speaker 2>we're like, thank god, but we have that you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you have that conversation where you like, what are we

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<v Speaker 2>going to do? And we might have said, let's not

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<v Speaker 2>have that conversation until.

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<v Speaker 1>It's because it could be like it's a miracle child

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<v Speaker 1>could be a miracle.

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<v Speaker 2>Or but anyway, I probably should book in and go

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<v Speaker 2>and get tested whether I'm sterile or not knowing my semen.

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<v Speaker 2>They've figured it out down there.

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<v Speaker 1>And tried to re rooted, they re routed.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a little one down there with the detours this

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<v Speaker 2>way fellas, this way to the end of the cock.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's a hard no.

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<v Speaker 2>No for three.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, for me, always going to be two.

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<v Speaker 2>That was it. One was always going to be the case.

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<v Speaker 2>Then once you had one, like not doing it again,

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<v Speaker 2>but no, then we were like, we'll have two, and thankfully.

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<v Speaker 1>We had to still on the fence a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Well according to who weekly.

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<v Speaker 1>Having a third kid, Yeah, I don't know. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know where we're at with the third.

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<v Speaker 2>Got to have sex first, I suppose.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, actually, little hang on, little adventure last night. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up this morning and the sun was shining brightly,

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<v Speaker 1>the birds were chirping beautifully, the flowers smelled beautiful. Skipping

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<v Speaker 1>to my car my neighborhood I don't really talk to

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<v Speaker 1>I was.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, Hi, Glenn, he got someone had sex beautiful. That's

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<v Speaker 2>up well that that's worth it. I'm going to call

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<v Speaker 2>her after and see how it was.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, look it was.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't with Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>It hasn't been that long. Like Laura and I were like,

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<v Speaker 1>we're pretty good have sex, you know, regularly. She's been

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<v Speaker 1>really really busy, absolutely flat out, and then when we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have sex, she had a period, little roadblock, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>waiting patiently, and then Tuesday is a great day because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Laura doesn't work too late. No, there's nothing

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<v Speaker 1>ever on on a Tuesday, really, and so that morning

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<v Speaker 1>when we left for work, Laura was like pre empted, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>ours is always preempted. Yeah, preempted, yeah, which sometimes sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like sometimes I want it to be this

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<v Speaker 1>like Sponge, You're just.

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<v Speaker 2>So desperately like, okay, turn for fifteen, we're gonna do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Then that's another thing too, with this pregnancy scare, because

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, how did this happen? And she was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I tracked it back, and it just so happened that

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<v Speaker 2>I was ovulating that day. I'm like, oh my fucking god,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have a third kid.

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<v Speaker 1>This is gonna be really stupid. Ovulating happens before the

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<v Speaker 1>period I must do. I feel like I should.

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<v Speaker 2>Know that we are two men who have no idea.

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<v Speaker 2>Clearly we work that out.

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<v Speaker 1>We were lucky in that we never looked at the calendar.

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<v Speaker 1>Just one of those annoying couples where first or second time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And it's like, I hate talking about this because

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<v Speaker 2>there's people out there that are really struggling.

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<v Speaker 1>Like IVF. That is hard, hard work. We were very,

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<v Speaker 1>very fortunate. Also got some some bloody strong swimmers. Surprisingly, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>after what I surprised, what I put myself through in

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<v Speaker 1>my twenties, I think it just made them stronger, more resilient.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So we had this planned sexertem in the morning and

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<v Speaker 1>Laura was like, yeah, like later on you and me,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, move And I was like, oh, I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 1>In the morning. You have really good intentions. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you've got the whole day ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>Of you walking around with the direction all day.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I was waving goodbye to her with

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<v Speaker 1>a massive stiffy horn.

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<v Speaker 2>When are you coming back?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'll be right here. And then by the afternoon

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<v Speaker 1>and you pick up the kids from daycare like five o'clock.

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<v Speaker 1>You then got to do dinner and that's it just

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<v Speaker 1>sucks out any energy that you have.

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<v Speaker 2>Buzz kill moments. Ah yeah, buzz killington right.

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<v Speaker 1>My children cock block the hell out of me.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>At the moment kind of fluctuates between if they like mom,

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<v Speaker 1>they like dad. At the moment, I feel like they

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<v Speaker 1>hate me.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything you ask.

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<v Speaker 1>Of, every mouthful. They don't want to sit at their

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<v Speaker 1>little kid's table, they want to sit at the you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just everything every step of the way is met with

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<v Speaker 1>like fierce resistance, even ash to the point where we

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<v Speaker 1>don't have a bath at home. It's got a shower,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, you give them like five minute warnings,

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<v Speaker 1>one minute warning we're getting out of the shower. Like

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<v Speaker 1>they don't want to go in the shower. When they're

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<v Speaker 1>in the shower, they don't want to get out of

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<v Speaker 1>the shower. And I was like, Lola, she's two. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, it's time to get out, and.

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<v Speaker 2>She's wasting water.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, let's wrap up this show. We're going to get

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<v Speaker 1>ready for bed. And she looks at me. Dude, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I did.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I was like, that was a joke. You

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<v Speaker 2>just hit the reality of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, she's looking at me and she's like fuck you, Dad,

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, Lola, come on, I'm being as pleasant

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<v Speaker 1>as I can, and I'm like, do you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to slowly put it a little bit colder.

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<v Speaker 1>I was on fullball cold and.

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<v Speaker 2>She's still and she's just sitting there ice man copping it,

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<v Speaker 2>staring at me like whim hof. This is actually good

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<v Speaker 2>for me. I'm going to be here for two more

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<v Speaker 2>minutes and let my body adjust to this.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what is wrong with my children? I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>this isn't normal.

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<v Speaker 2>Nice queen.

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<v Speaker 1>And then eventually I'm like, turn the water off, get

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<v Speaker 1>it in bed, and then we had dinner. It's now

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<v Speaker 1>once you send a couple of emails, check.

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<v Speaker 2>Your phone, it's midnight. I got I got a text

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<v Speaker 2>message when you are like eleven pm, so it must

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<v Speaker 2>have been after that.

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<v Speaker 1>You kind of get to that point where I'm looking

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<v Speaker 1>at Laura and she's like, oh, should we go to bed?

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<v Speaker 1>And then we're both kind of like we've missed the window.

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<v Speaker 1>The sex window is like nine o'clock.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I see what you do with the windows usually

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<v Speaker 2>duct tape them up.

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<v Speaker 1>Up in in bed and we're like should we Yeah, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, yeah, I get it, I can get it done.

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<v Speaker 2>You're already laying on the work bend. She might as

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<v Speaker 2>well just get some work done.

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<v Speaker 1>And guess who decides to come in?

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<v Speaker 2>Which one?

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<v Speaker 1>MALEI. She's curious and we were like in the midst,

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<v Speaker 1>in the midst, we heard her coming. We're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>come go back, go back to her coming.

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<v Speaker 2>That's good.

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<v Speaker 1>If you can't hear him coming, it would have been freaking.

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<v Speaker 2>I just had the worst flashback of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you share?

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<v Speaker 2>I can share. I was like, I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 2>twelve thirteen, walked into my mum giving my dad a hand. Mom,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>In the bedroom, where was it? Yeah, did they say anything.

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<v Speaker 2>It's never been spoken about till right now. They've never like,

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<v Speaker 2>never been mentioned. And now my mom's going to find out.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you just open the door shut it straight away?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't get out of there quick.

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<v Speaker 1>What was the form?

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<v Speaker 2>Like great changed hands without missing? Oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 2>hope myself so much right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we're just uncovering some deep dark words

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<v Speaker 1>about parenting.

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<v Speaker 2>Not my parents parenting, our parenting.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway it happens to us, all happens to us. All okay, anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>got the job done.

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<v Speaker 2>For comforting me, We're going to get through this.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't worry. All right, We'll got the job done. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it's the same.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you shush it back to bed or just be

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<v Speaker 2>like check a blanket over and get on with it.

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<v Speaker 1>At the time, I was thinking to myself, this is like,

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<v Speaker 1>show's over.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's not gonna yeah, it's not going to be

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<v Speaker 2>any follow up after that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to have this crescendo moment. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, do you want to get back to bed?

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<v Speaker 1>And she was like, yeah, okay, We're back to bed.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, and then about thirty seconds later, I

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<v Speaker 1>was done.

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<v Speaker 2>Thirty second it was about.

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<v Speaker 1>A good forty five here for a good time, not

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<v Speaker 1>a long time. I was like, well, Laura, good night.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, you've already roll over.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, sorry about that. But today I've waken up and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, I'm s so good. I bumped into

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<v Speaker 1>a family at daycare and the drop off, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>someone you just want to like get the kids out

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<v Speaker 1>there and head down. I was chatting to everyone, tell it, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Very good. I'm impressed and I'm proud. Mathew. Have you

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<v Speaker 2>ever heard about Annabelle.

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<v Speaker 1>Carmen's Annabelle Carmen's what person?

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's a frozen child's meal. So I've got something

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<v Speaker 2>to admit to you that I'm not proud of. No

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<v Speaker 2>one else knows this. I'm the sole person who knows this.

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<v Speaker 2>My wife doesn't even know this. I know she's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>find out.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think she's listening.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not like something have Fuck, it's more it's embarrassing

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<v Speaker 2>for me. Okay, So anyway, Annibal Carmens is a frozen

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<v Speaker 2>kid's meal. You think this sounds harmless? Yes, absolutely harmless?

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<v Speaker 1>Lit a like microwave job. Yeah, yeah, lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>So last week we had quite a big boozy week,

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<v Speaker 2>mainly me. You were bury on your best behavior. Me

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<v Speaker 2>not so much.

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<v Speaker 1>You had a few beers, had.

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<v Speaker 2>A few beers, and I've stumbled home peckish.

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<v Speaker 1>Because roughly what times this is like thirty of the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>very hungry, ravenous, two thirty.

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<v Speaker 2>In the morning, knowing full well I'm gonna have to

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<v Speaker 2>be up at five thirty, but I'm starving. I walk

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<v Speaker 2>in that door. It's a long way home from wherever

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<v Speaker 2>we were, and I've stumbled in and I've.

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<v Speaker 1>Thought, oh, what's in the fridge, what's.

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<v Speaker 2>In the fridge. But before getting to the fridge, in

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<v Speaker 2>the corner of my eye, I've seen an Annibal Carmen's

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<v Speaker 2>box in the recycling and I've thought, on, my kids

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<v Speaker 2>had Annibel Carmen's for dinner, but I know they wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>have finished it.

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<v Speaker 1>I know where you're going.

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<v Speaker 2>So I buried my head into the bin, scooped out

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<v Speaker 2>the remainder of a Annabel Carmen's, reheated it and ate it.

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<v Speaker 1>You are fucking disgusting. Shame on you, Ashton Wicks.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want to know what flavor was?

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<v Speaker 1>Please?

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<v Speaker 2>But a chicken?

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<v Speaker 1>Did your second guess yourself? Or was it straight in?

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<v Speaker 2>Didn't even think about it. I was like it was

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<v Speaker 2>like I was hunting for food and just took it

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<v Speaker 2>down like a lion would take down to gell or

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<v Speaker 2>zebra when.

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<v Speaker 1>You're sitting there on the couch.

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<v Speaker 2>I ate it at the bench. Look, I'm not proud

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<v Speaker 2>of it. That's why I haven't told anybody. And you

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<v Speaker 2>know I woke up with a lot of anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, Did it even hit the side Okay, Daddy was full.

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<v Speaker 2>Daddy was. It was a nice little tree to get

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<v Speaker 2>me through the but it just led me to think, like,

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<v Speaker 2>what are some people desperate leftover moments? And like that

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<v Speaker 2>is like the bot, Like do you know I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>had a drink since.

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<v Speaker 1>Because before we started recording with that at the cafe

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<v Speaker 1>and you're invited for a couple of beers on Friday,

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<v Speaker 1>which you said.

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<v Speaker 2>If I'm not drinking?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this all because of the fact that it's a

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<v Speaker 1>part of it? You're eating out of the bin?

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<v Speaker 2>I essentially ate out of the bin.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, do you know what I think? Personally? Play on

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<v Speaker 1>I like, you don't want to waste food?

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<v Speaker 2>Play on six again.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing about buttered chicken is that it's a really

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<v Speaker 1>pungent dish. So you like, did you hop into bed,

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<v Speaker 1>did April at any point go you kind of smell

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<v Speaker 1>a bit like buttered chicken?

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<v Speaker 2>A rinse off? Whatsoever of me stenching? Like anyway, it

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<v Speaker 2>was a moment of weakness. I regret it, but I

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<v Speaker 2>feel so much better telling you that.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think this non drinking phase will be like

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<v Speaker 1>a week, two weeks?

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<v Speaker 2>It'll be like two weeks, But it's like a two

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<v Speaker 2>weeks clance to forget because it was like, look, just

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<v Speaker 2>picture a fully grown man with no T shirt on,

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<v Speaker 2>scooping some buttered chicken out in half cup, eating his

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<v Speaker 2>back up, and eating it with his hands in the

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<v Speaker 2>kitchen fan.

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't even use fucking cutorio opened the gullet.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have time for that.

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<v Speaker 1>Ship. Oh dude, Sometimes you got to hit rock bottom

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<v Speaker 1>to then work your way back up.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, it was delicious. If anyone's gonna ask follow

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<v Speaker 2>up questions, don't because I say it was delicious and nutritious.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think of a story where I've done

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<v Speaker 1>something similar, except like for me, it's normally just the

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<v Speaker 1>cold toast that's still sitting there from breakfast at around

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<v Speaker 1>lunchtime level left.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just saying that this morning I had some

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<v Speaker 2>peanut buttered toast left over from Macy. I was like, yump,

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<v Speaker 2>that's mine.

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<v Speaker 1>My kids don't really eat, and so when you're feeding.

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<v Speaker 2>That way, I knew there was going to be some left.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I went hunting for it. I thought. I

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<v Speaker 2>was like Sherlock Holmes, I'm like, hang on a second,

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<v Speaker 2>let me put a couple of things together here. There's

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<v Speaker 2>definitely gonna be some butter chicken in the bin. And

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<v Speaker 2>I was right, and I ate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck, dude, look at yourself, look at who you've become.

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<v Speaker 1>And April, this is the man you've married, This is

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<v Speaker 1>of your dream, this is the father of your children,

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<v Speaker 1>the current father of So next week when we record again,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll be in like a really dodgy one bedroom hotel

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<v Speaker 1>because Ash has been kicked out of home.

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<v Speaker 2>Ouing animal essentially like a bird getting something out of

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<v Speaker 2>the bean. I am a bin chicken.

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<v Speaker 1>Hash. It's time for a couple of questions. Last week

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<v Speaker 1>we did our first our inaugural Q and A.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, one of my.

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<v Speaker 1>Favorite questions that there's been a lot of chit chat

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<v Speaker 1>on socials about this. It was a placenta encapsulation.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yes, and I actually this the different ways

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<v Speaker 2>to cook you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the smoked fried steamed. I didn't think it was

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<v Speaker 1>widely done. I thought it was like.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought someone just threw it at us to be

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<v Speaker 2>like this will real fuck them up.

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<v Speaker 1>But people have come out of the woodworks and they're

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<v Speaker 1>advocating for I've had so many people put on stories

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<v Speaker 1>on our Instagram. Has anyone done this expecting maybe like one.

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<v Speaker 2>One of my neighbors came to me and she said,

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<v Speaker 2>we did this, but they didn't take them. So the

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<v Speaker 2>husband threw them out eventually because they have taken up

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<v Speaker 2>room and they could to keep the freezer.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, people say they keep them the freezer.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this whole new world that we've just been opened

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<v Speaker 2>up to.

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<v Speaker 1>I had no idea, and also a couple of people

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<v Speaker 1>were like, hey you because I was kind of thinking

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<v Speaker 1>that's crazy talk, like who the hell is going to

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<v Speaker 1>eat the percenter? I thought people may come at us

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, how dare you attack the placenta eat

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<v Speaker 1>it's out.

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<v Speaker 2>The front of our house, protesting about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but they'd be really great.

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<v Speaker 2>They've actually they've been more informative, haven't they.

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<v Speaker 1>Very forthcoming with information. I think overwhelmingly the mums have

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<v Speaker 1>said that it helped, and they've also kind of said, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it was placebo, but like my

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<v Speaker 1>recovery was quicker. I felt better, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>hang on a second, how does it work? Like how

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<v Speaker 1>much does it cost? How much do you think it costs?

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<v Speaker 2>Ten thousand dollars?

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually a lot more cost effective. It's very reasonable.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not in the realms of.

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<v Speaker 2>Unford one tablet or for like that, for a course.

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<v Speaker 1>Of to process the entire placenta.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't give me nudication on how many tablets you

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<v Speaker 2>get out of one placenta. Yeah, yeah, okay, and i'll

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<v Speaker 2>break it down cost from that point. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm on the kids iPad a photo of a

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<v Speaker 1>shit on it. Yeah, just do oneh you sent me

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<v Speaker 1>this morning, but the same shit, oh that was last night.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I can't proud of it.

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<v Speaker 1>So from one placenta, this lady has said that you

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<v Speaker 1>get about three months worth of caps of placenter caps,

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<v Speaker 1>and so it looks like roughly about ninety.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's go ninety caps. Let's go ten dollars a cap.

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<v Speaker 2>Nine hundred dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>Ain't way better than that. So between fifty four to

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<v Speaker 1>five hundred is what you're paying.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, five dollars a cap. That's great value.

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<v Speaker 1>Except the weird thing is because I thought it's a

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<v Speaker 1>bit of a unique object. It's an organ, right, and

0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:36.480
<v Speaker 1>it's pretty full on. It's like, how do you get

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<v Speaker 1>it to the person? How does that process? Yeah? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what are you sending? Just just they weigh it it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of Queensland. You have to get it to them

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<v Speaker 1>really really quickly. So as soon as yeah, birth is over,

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<v Speaker 1>you got to put it on ice And one mom

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<v Speaker 1>was saying that they brought in like a like a

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<v Speaker 1>Peter's ice cream tub. Oh that was cleaned down.

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<v Speaker 2>She get really excited before they opened and his ice cream.

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<v Speaker 1>To Napoleana the dad after childbirth. The dad had to

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<v Speaker 1>get them to put it in a tub lid on

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<v Speaker 1>and he then had to walk out to the car

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<v Speaker 1>park like doing a drug deal, like handover oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>the placenta. Yeah, so they.

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<v Speaker 2>Couldn't come and collect it. There has to be like

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<v Speaker 2>a mutual meeting spot.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, car park sounds super dogic.

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<v Speaker 2>Like all done on that signal app so that the

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<v Speaker 2>message disappeared.

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<v Speaker 1>I was never here, but a lot of people did

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<v Speaker 1>say that it tasted pretty bad, like the burping afterwards

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<v Speaker 1>after burp was no good. But like some people were

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<v Speaker 1>saying that they would take it and then because they

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<v Speaker 1>were going, I feel amazing, the husbands would take it

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<v Speaker 1>as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Not for mate, look like we went over this last week.

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<v Speaker 2>If someone wants to do it, go for your laugh.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's not something I would do.

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<v Speaker 1>I did get a really good message though, from one

0:20:56.320 --> 0:21:00.520
<v Speaker 1>lady who didn't get placenta caps made you.

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<v Speaker 2>Got placenta heroin mate.

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<v Speaker 1>Just booting up. So this lady who was super lovely,

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<v Speaker 1>spoke to her on social media and she was saying

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<v Speaker 1>for a first child, and she's a really lovely midwife.

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<v Speaker 1>And the midwife was saying, oh, I'd like to take

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<v Speaker 1>your placenta and I'd like to make something with it

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<v Speaker 1>a keepsake. And the lady was like a child.

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<v Speaker 2>Not keep taking up you've got You've got that thing now.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's like saying, I want to give you something

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<v Speaker 2>to remember that, and you push that child out. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like the child is the memory of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it? And she didn't want to because this midwife

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<v Speaker 1>was a bit older, super experienced, delivered hundreds of babies

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<v Speaker 1>and just yeah, just like goes into her basement and

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<v Speaker 1>pulls out these percenters. I think that maybe her friends

0:21:49.640 --> 0:21:51.240
<v Speaker 1>hadn't had kids. So you know, when you're one of

0:21:51.320 --> 0:21:53.399
<v Speaker 1>the first in your group of friends to have kids,

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<v Speaker 1>kind of flying blind, you don't know what's normal or weird.

0:21:56.440 --> 0:22:00.439
<v Speaker 1>You're just like it's all brand new territory. Childbirth. The

0:22:00.480 --> 0:22:03.280
<v Speaker 1>midwife took the placenta, and then she said, I'll be

0:22:03.320 --> 0:22:06.040
<v Speaker 1>in touch in a couple of weeks with this keepsake.

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<v Speaker 1>So then she reaches out, calls and says it's ready.

0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:13.159
<v Speaker 2>What is ready?

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<v Speaker 1>And she's like, what is this?

0:22:14.320 --> 0:22:16.200
<v Speaker 2>Lady? Way too scared to pick that up?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to see what she made?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:20.680
<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, she sent me photos, She.

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<v Speaker 2>Sent you photos of this. Am I going to be disgusted?

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<v Speaker 1>So this midwife, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>Rip it off the band aid.

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<v Speaker 1>Who am I to judge? This is a lovely gesture

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<v Speaker 1>and it would be rude of me to laugh.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm scared.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a dream catcher?

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<v Speaker 2>What the fuck is that? That looks like something one

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<v Speaker 2>of my kids to bring home from the KINDI.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not even like a nice circle.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is the placenta bit obviously not the feathers.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's it almost looks like the umbilical cord. But

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<v Speaker 1>there she will drop it in in the video afterwards.

0:22:58.600 --> 0:23:01.639
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. I love how she's included the anal beads.

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<v Speaker 2>It's lovely.

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<v Speaker 1>And I said to her, I was like, so like,

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<v Speaker 1>what did you do with it? Obviously you would have

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<v Speaker 1>you would have accepted it and said thanks very much.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I'm going to put this in the bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Awkward of that being like do you love it Christmas?

0:23:16.359 --> 0:23:19.439
<v Speaker 2>You don't like, You're like, oh socks, You're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>perfect dream catcher.

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<v Speaker 1>It's still they're hanging in a kid's bedroom. Still there.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, imagine that.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought, like the smell in the bedroom.

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<v Speaker 2>There you go, that's okay, I'm just gonna put that's

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<v Speaker 2>fucking disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>No, Ash, shame on you, Shame on you to be

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<v Speaker 1>so close minded. Okay, a dream catcher.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not the placenta. It's the whole DreamCatcher thing. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't believe.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it is fine, it's fine.

0:23:47.440 --> 0:23:50.760
<v Speaker 2>Hanging up it looks like skin from a sausage. Yeah,

0:23:50.960 --> 0:23:53.920
<v Speaker 2>why was I expecting like a bagpipe looking thing.

0:23:54.200 --> 0:23:57.840
<v Speaker 1>It's quite tasteful. I think the craftsmanship is actually quite impressive.

0:23:58.400 --> 0:24:01.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm worried what else she can do with the

0:24:01.400 --> 0:24:02.080
<v Speaker 2>human body?

0:24:02.840 --> 0:24:04.680
<v Speaker 1>Why waste it? Why waste it?

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway?

0:24:06.280 --> 0:24:08.480
<v Speaker 1>Ash, last week we did three We're going to trim

0:24:08.480 --> 0:24:09.560
<v Speaker 1>it down to two questions.

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<v Speaker 2>There was too many for the listeners.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was exhausting. Question number one, Ash, Yes, do

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<v Speaker 1>you ever have dad guilt, Dad guilt.

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<v Speaker 2>So like, in context of dad guilt, my brain automatically

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<v Speaker 2>goes to whether I've been sitting on the toilet too long,

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<v Speaker 2>And I can hear the kids going absolutely mental and

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<v Speaker 2>my wife's like trying to herd them in, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>do I feel guilty about this? So that's what comes

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<v Speaker 2>to mind?

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<v Speaker 1>What about afterwards when especially I've yelled at them? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>actually disciplining.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Never if my kids are listening, I never feel guilty.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do a little bit though? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Look, if I feel like your heartless animal, if.

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<v Speaker 2>I unfairly had yelled or unfairly thrown something in the

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<v Speaker 2>bin and then reflected on it and thought that was

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<v Speaker 2>diveraish of me?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this something you throw on the bin that you

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<v Speaker 1>then go eat afterwards?

0:25:05.359 --> 0:25:08.080
<v Speaker 2>No non food, non food related. If there's voogun in

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<v Speaker 2>the bin, arms straighten after it.

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<v Speaker 1>So has Oscar? For example? Has Oscar ever gone to

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<v Speaker 1>you and said, like, Daddy, can we like?

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<v Speaker 2>So?

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<v Speaker 1>Marley likes to draw, that's her jam. She loves it.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I'm good. Other times I'm two minutes in and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like.

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<v Speaker 2>This is boring?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like, does Oscar have any games? That he loves

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<v Speaker 1>to play any wants, like Daddy can't play with me,

0:25:30.359 --> 0:25:31.040
<v Speaker 1>and you like the.

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<v Speaker 2>Hot Wheels car the tracks, I've actually hidden them so

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<v Speaker 2>that he can forget, because look, I don't mind playing

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<v Speaker 2>with the hot Wheels with him. But then it's like

0:25:39.760 --> 0:25:42.320
<v Speaker 2>whatever I make is never good enough, so I've got

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<v Speaker 2>to remake it so often to the point where I've

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<v Speaker 2>been like, no, fuck. But yeah, after I feel bad,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like he doesn't know. He just wants to have fun.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, look, I'll say, yes, I do feel dad girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I think I feel guilt. Normally, it happens when

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<v Speaker 1>the kids are in bed, and it's at the end

0:25:59.240 --> 0:26:01.960
<v Speaker 1>of the day when you know, you kind of look

0:26:01.960 --> 0:26:04.359
<v Speaker 1>into their bedroom. The doors ajar a little bit. I

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<v Speaker 1>see Marley sleeping there so peacefully, and it's at that

0:26:07.640 --> 0:26:10.200
<v Speaker 1>moment when you also you get a little second window

0:26:10.200 --> 0:26:12.679
<v Speaker 1>of energy and you think, I wish, I wish I

0:26:12.760 --> 0:26:15.600
<v Speaker 1>just gave a little bit more, And I never have that.

0:26:16.160 --> 0:26:19.080
<v Speaker 2>Really, I'm like, I gave everything I have today. I

0:26:19.119 --> 0:26:23.120
<v Speaker 2>put in that everything, that time is gone, that time

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<v Speaker 2>is mine. I always say, like, when everyone's asleep in

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<v Speaker 2>the house, that's the time for me to just sit

0:26:28.640 --> 0:26:30.840
<v Speaker 2>on the couch or go to bed. A lot of

0:26:30.840 --> 0:26:32.359
<v Speaker 2>the time I found myself going to bed, and I

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<v Speaker 2>have time for guilt. Like I said, if I've yelled

0:26:35.000 --> 0:26:38.199
<v Speaker 2>them unnecessarily or whatever, then yeah, but I feel like

0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:40.720
<v Speaker 2>in the moment, I've put as much as I can into.

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<v Speaker 1>The day, making me feel a lot more.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, be better. You're not putting enough, but it happens.

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<v Speaker 1>It happens.

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<v Speaker 2>I think different types of guilt we both have, which

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<v Speaker 2>is okay because we're not perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're about to discipline, do you ever have I've

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<v Speaker 1>read a few things where I've seen a few videos

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like, when you're about to react to something

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<v Speaker 1>a situation, stop, take a breath, and then reconsider how

0:27:06.320 --> 0:27:08.520
<v Speaker 1>you're going to respond. Do you have any or you're

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<v Speaker 1>just off the cuff knee jake reaction.

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<v Speaker 2>I've tried to stop. Breathe, gentle parent, bigg as a

0:27:15.400 --> 0:27:16.399
<v Speaker 2>waste to fucking die.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't I mean, if you can do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Going from nor to a hundreds the only way to

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<v Speaker 2>get anything done in this house.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't fucking listen. Sorry, they don't listen. I'm getting angry.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's go, let's move to the next question.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll put disciplining on pause because I could go on.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, So, Matthew, question number two, do you have

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<v Speaker 2>a favorite child of yours?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Can I say that? No? No, hang on a second, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta I'm going to Okay, I will say this.

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<v Speaker 1>You know when people say during childbirth, the moment you

0:27:56.720 --> 0:28:00.800
<v Speaker 1>make eye contact with your garbage your child. Okay, I

0:28:00.800 --> 0:28:05.000
<v Speaker 1>will say like, the first time I held Marley, it

0:28:05.119 --> 0:28:07.600
<v Speaker 1>was that cliche like, holy shit, hit me like a

0:28:07.640 --> 0:28:09.439
<v Speaker 1>ton of bricks, and I'm like a couple of tears

0:28:10.280 --> 0:28:17.919
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, yeah, I'm opening up here. Sorry,

0:28:18.040 --> 0:28:22.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm opening I fucking cuddled you and comforted you when

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:24.280
<v Speaker 1>you told me about eating stuff out of the bin,

0:28:24.560 --> 0:28:26.000
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I cried to want to help my

0:28:26.080 --> 0:28:26.800
<v Speaker 1>daughter and you're that.

0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:30.560
<v Speaker 2>With you. I'm just being a jerk off about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Go yeah, you're lucky.

0:28:32.920 --> 0:28:33.440
<v Speaker 1>I like you.

0:28:34.520 --> 0:28:35.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm so lucky.

0:28:38.440 --> 0:28:41.400
<v Speaker 1>So it was that cliche moment, and you know, we

0:28:41.520 --> 0:28:44.920
<v Speaker 1>had a really instant bond. I find it takes a

0:28:44.960 --> 0:28:48.040
<v Speaker 1>little bit longer for baby number two. And also because

0:28:48.320 --> 0:28:50.160
<v Speaker 1>when youah baby number one, you know.

0:28:50.160 --> 0:28:52.920
<v Speaker 2>They're all that your attention is just.

0:28:52.440 --> 0:28:55.400
<v Speaker 1>Just you know, down and the two of you are

0:28:55.480 --> 0:28:58.440
<v Speaker 1>just you know, every kind of noise, every movement, You're like,

0:28:58.480 --> 0:29:02.320
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, Yeah, this is incredible, this is amazing.

0:29:02.840 --> 0:29:04.720
<v Speaker 1>And then when we had the second we had Lola

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<v Speaker 1>got a name for a second what's her name?

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<v Speaker 2>The favorites Marley.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it just like it took a little bit longer

0:29:14.000 --> 0:29:16.720
<v Speaker 1>to have that bond because when Laura was at home

0:29:17.120 --> 0:29:19.400
<v Speaker 1>with Lola when she was a newborn, to give her

0:29:19.400 --> 0:29:22.120
<v Speaker 1>some reprieve and to make it easier, I would take

0:29:22.200 --> 0:29:24.120
<v Speaker 1>Marley out of the house and we would go and

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:26.720
<v Speaker 1>do activities. Also, because Marley was so young, she was

0:29:26.720 --> 0:29:29.080
<v Speaker 1>like eighteen months. Marley and Lala are so close together

0:29:29.720 --> 0:29:32.120
<v Speaker 1>that it was tough for Marley because she was like, Mum,

0:29:32.880 --> 0:29:35.320
<v Speaker 1>play with me. She couldn't cuts she had a newborn,

0:29:35.320 --> 0:29:37.920
<v Speaker 1>and so Marley would get frustrated. So then in that

0:29:38.000 --> 0:29:40.680
<v Speaker 1>period and maybe the first six months, me and Marley

0:29:41.000 --> 0:29:46.360
<v Speaker 1>bonded like nothing else. And Lola's come around yeah Lola,

0:29:46.360 --> 0:29:48.640
<v Speaker 1>and I like, yeah, well yeah, when she's not cock

0:29:48.680 --> 0:29:52.600
<v Speaker 1>blocking me. Yeah, But it depends because sometimes kids are

0:29:52.640 --> 0:29:55.600
<v Speaker 1>really easy and sometimes kids are really hard. Absolutely, and

0:29:55.640 --> 0:29:58.480
<v Speaker 1>on the days when one is being easy, that's the

0:29:58.520 --> 0:29:59.520
<v Speaker 1>one I want to hang it here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly what I was gonna say. I was going

0:30:02.280 --> 0:30:04.880
<v Speaker 2>to be like, look, these kids have a favorite, and

0:30:04.960 --> 0:30:10.080
<v Speaker 2>it's not me, very obvious, all right, it's always mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy. Right. Fine,

0:30:10.400 --> 0:30:12.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm allowed to have a favorite if I want. You're

0:30:13.040 --> 0:30:14.360
<v Speaker 2>gonna pin them against each other.

0:30:14.760 --> 0:30:16.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm seeing you with the kids. I think they do

0:30:17.040 --> 0:30:17.320
<v Speaker 1>like you.

0:30:17.400 --> 0:30:19.120
<v Speaker 2>They do, they can't. I think they're warming up to me.

0:30:19.320 --> 0:30:23.120
<v Speaker 2>We don't know each other that well. But yeah, look,

0:30:23.160 --> 0:30:24.640
<v Speaker 2>you definitely I don't want to sit here and say

0:30:24.760 --> 0:30:26.960
<v Speaker 2>your favorites. I do have one. I prefer.

0:30:28.800 --> 0:30:29.240
<v Speaker 1>Go on.

0:30:29.440 --> 0:30:33.200
<v Speaker 2>No, obviously, Macy's like the second one, and she's a girl,

0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:35.920
<v Speaker 2>She's stated a little girl, right. But at the same time, like,

0:30:36.000 --> 0:30:38.040
<v Speaker 2>I won't sit here and say that I like one

0:30:38.080 --> 0:30:40.840
<v Speaker 2>of them more than the other. I hate them both equally.

0:30:42.360 --> 0:30:45.920
<v Speaker 2>I love them both equally equally, is not just the other.

0:30:46.160 --> 0:30:49.520
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, but like what you were saying on the day,

0:30:50.320 --> 0:30:54.000
<v Speaker 2>you definitely have your favorite, and yeah, get the kid

0:30:54.000 --> 0:30:54.880
<v Speaker 2>away from me moment.

0:30:55.200 --> 0:31:01.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Sometimes some even it's most mornings

0:31:01.680 --> 0:31:05.040
<v Speaker 1>to be fair, when Lola wakes up and you can

0:31:05.080 --> 0:31:07.560
<v Speaker 1>hear her yelling she wants someone to get her, and

0:31:07.600 --> 0:31:10.480
<v Speaker 1>I'll put my head in and I'll go, hey, baba, hey,

0:31:11.080 --> 0:31:13.240
<v Speaker 1>good morning, you're awake. And she looks at me and

0:31:13.240 --> 0:31:18.880
<v Speaker 1>she's like, not you, yeah, And I'm like, she wants you.

0:31:19.200 --> 0:31:23.440
<v Speaker 2>It's heartbreaking sometimes, isn't that. But also like she wants mum,

0:31:23.520 --> 0:31:24.520
<v Speaker 2>so that's mum's problem.

0:31:24.600 --> 0:31:26.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Also like it's kind of I would take her.

0:31:26.680 --> 0:31:28.400
<v Speaker 2>I would help you out of that bed, but I

0:31:28.400 --> 0:31:32.600
<v Speaker 2>don't know. You're start idiot, use your brain.

0:31:32.960 --> 0:31:35.920
<v Speaker 1>I will say any other questions that you want, They're

0:31:35.920 --> 0:31:39.080
<v Speaker 1>not going to be answered, seriously, Oh absolutely not. Don't

0:31:39.120 --> 0:31:43.000
<v Speaker 1>take what we're saying as any formal advice. Go see

0:31:43.040 --> 0:31:45.040
<v Speaker 1>a professional, read the books.

0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:48.040
<v Speaker 2>Love your kids equally or equally exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you do have any questions, you can submit

0:31:50.080 --> 0:31:54.240
<v Speaker 1>them either ashes social media, my social media or two

0:31:54.280 --> 0:31:58.120
<v Speaker 1>dotting Dads. And if you haven't followed us, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Just a cheeky pH.

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<v Speaker 1>I've really been waiting for stop playing hard to get

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<v Speaker 1>and also fucking good reviews, which has been great.

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<v Speaker 2>My favorite one was just one star and then.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, obviously that's an next girlfriend. But if

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<v Speaker 1>you haven't subscribed, with you, because if you starts. We

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<v Speaker 1>would love that more than.

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<v Speaker 2>Anything, absolutely, and again thank you for joining us.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it, that's us there yeah two. Doting Dad's podcast

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<v Speaker 1>acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout Australia and the

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<v Speaker 1>connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respects

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<v Speaker 1>to the elders past and present and extend that respect

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<v Speaker 1>to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today. This

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<v Speaker 1>episode was recorded on Gaddagal Land