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Speaker 1: Question for you, Shoot, do you have any gray hair pubes?

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Speaker 2: I haven't inspected that closely, but not noticeably. We'll get

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Speaker 2: my wife down here and ask me. You're going gray.

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Speaker 1: You go on, Clooney, I've got gray hairs on my

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Speaker 1: ball sack.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. I know you could honestly start calling

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Speaker 2: him Clooney now and be like, hey, babe, Colooney's here.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Two Dirty Dads, Episode three.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, episode three, Well, time's flying.

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Speaker 1: If anyone doesn't know, my name is Mattie Ja. This

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Speaker 1: is a conversation all about parenting, good, bad, relatable. If

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Speaker 1: you're coming for advice, I have to always say turn

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Speaker 1: back now, yeah, stop right now. We may be two

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Speaker 1: doting dads, but we don't know what the fuck we're doing.

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Speaker 2: We're just doing our best, and that's all that mattered.

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Speaker 1: You look good, though, you've got like a little spring

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Speaker 1: in your step to happy.

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Speaker 2: A couple of days, no beers feeling good. Actually it's

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Speaker 2: been a bit of a rough couple of days.

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Speaker 1: Well happen.

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Speaker 2: I had a pregnancy scare. Now, I know what you're thinking,

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Speaker 2: What does that matter? First of all, when I say

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Speaker 2: pregnancy is head, I am petrified of having a third child.

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Speaker 2: But I've also had a vasectomy.

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Speaker 1: What percentage do they tell you, like, this is going

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Speaker 1: to be nine to nine point nine or what.

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Speaker 2: I honestly didn't watch the video they give you, and

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Speaker 2: I didn't watch the video that started it. I didn't

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Speaker 2: have a spression. But the thing is okay. So when

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Speaker 2: you go get a vasectomy, they say, okay, so in

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Speaker 2: three months or twenty wanks time round about that time,

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Speaker 2: or if the three months goes over.

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Speaker 1: Or in like a week if you're ash, or if.

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Speaker 2: The three months goes over your birthday and it's nineteen wanks,

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Speaker 2: then you go get tested to see if your stare up.

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Speaker 2: And like me and a lot of other men, we

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Speaker 2: didn't go back and get tested to see if I'm

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Speaker 1: Because it's non critical, right, You're like, if you've done

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Speaker 1: your job, we're fine.

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Speaker 2: Well, I have a lot of faith in that doctor.

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Speaker 2: So anyway, April comes to me a couple of days

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Speaker 2: ago and she says I'm late, and I was like,

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Speaker 2: I just sat awake on an operating table or someone

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Speaker 2: snipped away at my testicles, and now you're telling me

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Speaker 2: I'm going to have a third mouth to feed we're

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Speaker 2: freaking out. I'm in the supermarket buying pregnancy test, running

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Speaker 2: into really close friends holding your pregnancy test, like hiding

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Speaker 1: Know, it's always the way when you're buying eggs and milk,

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Speaker 1: you're seeing no one. When you're buying like hemorrhoid cream

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Speaker 1: and pregnancy tests, you bump into your old school teacher.

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Speaker 2: What she grab it? Yea condo? You don't well I

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Speaker 2: thought I did anyway.

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Speaker 1: Because yeah, obviously you wouldn't even have a pregnancy test anyway.

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Speaker 2: When did you get the snip last year? We're talking

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Speaker 2: six seven months ago, So.

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Speaker 1: When you're diving to the siftmarket or the pharmacy, what's

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Speaker 2: I was thinking about just not stopping, continue red on

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Speaker 2: straight through, see what happens. But yeah, look she comes

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Speaker 2: to three or four days late, and I'm like, you

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Speaker 2: Anyway, So finally, finally as you got a period, and

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Speaker 2: we're like, thank god, but we have that you know,

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Speaker 2: you have that conversation where you like, what are we

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Speaker 1: It's because it could be like it's a miracle child

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Speaker 1: could be a miracle.

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Speaker 2: Or but anyway, I probably should book in and go

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Speaker 2: and get tested whether I'm sterile or not knowing my semen.

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Speaker 2: They've figured it out down there.

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Speaker 1: And tried to re rooted, they re routed.

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Speaker 2: There's a little one down there with the detours this

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Speaker 1: So it's a hard no.

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Speaker 2: No for three.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for me, always going to be two.

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Speaker 2: That was it. One was always going to be the case.

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Speaker 2: Then once you had one, like not doing it again,

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Speaker 1: We had to still on the fence a little bit.

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Speaker 2: Well according to who weekly.

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Speaker 1: Well, actually, little hang on, little adventure last night. You know,

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Speaker 2: Like, Hi, Glenn, he got someone had sex beautiful. That's

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Speaker 1: Oh, look it was.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't with Laura.

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Speaker 1: It hasn't been that long. Like Laura and I were like,

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Speaker 2: So desperately like, okay, turn for fifteen, we're gonna do it.

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Speaker 2: Then that's another thing too, with this pregnancy scare, because

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Speaker 1: This is gonna be really stupid. Ovulating happens before the

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Speaker 2: Know that we are two men who have no idea.

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Speaker 1: We were lucky in that we never looked at the calendar.

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Speaker 1: Just one of those annoying couples where first or second time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's like, I hate talking about this because

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Speaker 1: Like IVF. That is hard, hard work. We were very,

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Speaker 1: So we had this planned sexertem in the morning and

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Speaker 2: Of you walking around with the direction all day.

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Speaker 2: When are you coming back?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll be right here. And then by the afternoon

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Speaker 1: You then got to do dinner and that's it just

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Speaker 2: Buzz kill moments. Ah yeah, buzz killington right.

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Speaker 1: My children cock block the hell out of me.

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Speaker 2: Everything you ask.

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Speaker 1: Of, every mouthful. They don't want to sit at their

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Speaker 2: She's wasting water.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's wrap up this show. We're going to get

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Speaker 2: Oh no, I was like, that was a joke. You

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Speaker 1: Well, she's looking at me and she's like fuck you, Dad,

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Speaker 2: She's still and she's just sitting there ice man copping it,

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Speaker 2: Nice queen.

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Speaker 1: And then eventually I'm like, turn the water off, get

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Speaker 2: Your phone, it's midnight. I got I got a text

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Speaker 1: The sex window is like nine o'clock.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I see what you do with the windows usually

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Speaker 1: Up in in bed and we're like should we Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 2: You're already laying on the work bend. She might as

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Speaker 2: well just get some work done.

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Speaker 1: And guess who decides to come in?

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Speaker 2: Which one?

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Speaker 1: MALEI. She's curious and we were like in the midst,

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Speaker 1: in the midst, we heard her coming. We're like, oh,

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Speaker 2: That's good.

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Speaker 1: If you can't hear him coming, it would have been freaking.

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Speaker 2: I just had the worst flashback of my life.

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Speaker 1: Can you share?

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Speaker 2: I can share. I was like, I don't know, like

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Speaker 2: twelve thirteen, walked into my mum giving my dad a hand. Mom,

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: In the bedroom, where was it? Yeah, did they say anything.

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Speaker 2: It's never been spoken about till right now. They've never like,

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Speaker 2: never been mentioned. And now my mom's going to find out.

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Speaker 1: Did you just open the door shut it straight away?

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Speaker 1: What was the form?

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Speaker 2: Like great changed hands without missing? Oh my god, I

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Speaker 1: I feel like we're just uncovering some deep dark words

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Speaker 1: about parenting.

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Speaker 2: Not my parents parenting, our parenting.

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Speaker 1: Anyway it happens to us, all happens to us. All okay, anyway,

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Speaker 1: You are fucking disgusting. Shame on you, Ashton Wicks.

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Speaker 2: Do you want to know what flavor was?

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Speaker 1: Please?

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Speaker 1: Did your second guess yourself? Or was it straight in?

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Speaker 2: Didn't even think about it. I was like it was

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Speaker 2: I ate it at the bench. Look, I'm not proud

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Speaker 1: Anyway, Did it even hit the side Okay, Daddy was full.

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Speaker 2: Daddy was. It was a nice little tree to get

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Speaker 2: I essentially ate out of the bin.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, do you know what I think? Personally? Play on

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Speaker 1: I like, you don't want to waste food?

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Speaker 2: Play on six again.

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Speaker 1: The thing about buttered chicken is that it's a really

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Speaker 2: A rinse off? Whatsoever of me stenching? Like anyway, it

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Speaker 1: Do you think this non drinking phase will be like

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Speaker 2: It'll be like two weeks, But it's like a two

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Speaker 2: scooping some buttered chicken out in half cup, eating his

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Speaker 1: You didn't even use fucking cutorio opened the gullet.

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Speaker 2: I didn't have time for that.

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Speaker 1: Ship. Oh dude, Sometimes you got to hit rock bottom

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it was delicious. If anyone's gonna ask follow

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of a story where I've done

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Speaker 1: My kids don't really eat, and so when you're feeding.

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Speaker 2: That way, I knew there was going to be some left.

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Speaker 2: That's why I went hunting for it. I thought. I

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Speaker 2: I was right, and I ate it.

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Speaker 1: Fuck, dude, look at yourself, look at who you've become.

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Speaker 1: And April, this is the man you've married, This is

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Speaker 2: Ouing animal essentially like a bird getting something out of

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Speaker 1: Hash. It's time for a couple of questions. Last week

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one of my.

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Speaker 1: Favorite questions that there's been a lot of chit chat

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Speaker 1: on socials about this. It was a placenta encapsulation.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yes, and I actually this the different ways

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the smoked fried steamed. I didn't think it was

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Speaker 2: I thought someone just threw it at us to be

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Speaker 1: But people have come out of the woodworks and they're

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Speaker 2: One of my neighbors came to me and she said,

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Speaker 2: we did this, but they didn't take them. So the

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Speaker 2: husband threw them out eventually because they have taken up

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Speaker 1: Yeah, people say they keep them the freezer.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this whole new world that we've just been opened

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Speaker 1: I had no idea, and also a couple of people

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Speaker 1: that's crazy talk, like who the hell is going to

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Speaker 1: and be like, how dare you attack the placenta eat

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Speaker 2: The front of our house, protesting about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but they'd be really great.

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Speaker 2: They've actually they've been more informative, haven't they.

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Speaker 1: Very forthcoming with information. I think overwhelmingly the mums have

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Speaker 1: I don't know if it was placebo, but like my

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Speaker 1: hang on a second, how does it work? Like how

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Speaker 2: Ten thousand dollars?

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Speaker 1: It's actually a lot more cost effective. It's very reasonable.

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Speaker 1: It's not in the realms of.

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Speaker 2: Unford one tablet or for like that, for a course.

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Speaker 1: Of to process the entire placenta.

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Speaker 2: I can't give me nudication on how many tablets you

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Speaker 1: So I'm on the kids iPad a photo of a

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Speaker 1: shit on it. Yeah, just do oneh you sent me

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Speaker 1: this morning, but the same shit, oh that was last night.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't proud of it.

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Speaker 1: So from one placenta, this lady has said that you

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Speaker 1: and so it looks like roughly about ninety.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's go ninety caps. Let's go ten dollars a cap.

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Speaker 2: Nine hundred dollars.

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Speaker 1: Ain't way better than that. So between fifty four to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, five dollars a cap. That's great value.

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Speaker 1: Except the weird thing is because I thought it's a

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Speaker 1: it's pretty full on. It's like, how do you get

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Speaker 1: it to the person? How does that process? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what are you sending? Just just they weigh it it's

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Speaker 1: really really quickly. So as soon as yeah, birth is over,

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Speaker 1: you got to put it on ice And one mom

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Speaker 1: Peter's ice cream tub. Oh that was cleaned down.

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Speaker 2: She get really excited before they opened and his ice cream.

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Speaker 1: To Napoleana the dad after childbirth. The dad had to

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Speaker 2: Couldn't come and collect it. There has to be like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, car park sounds super dogic.

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Speaker 2: Like all done on that signal app so that the

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Speaker 1: I was never here, but a lot of people did

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Speaker 1: say that it tasted pretty bad, like the burping afterwards

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Speaker 1: saying that they would take it and then because they

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Speaker 2: Not for mate, look like we went over this last week.

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Speaker 2: If someone wants to do it, go for your laugh.

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Speaker 2: But it's not something I would do.

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Speaker 1: I did get a really good message though, from one

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Speaker 2: Got placenta heroin mate.

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Speaker 1: Just booting up. So this lady who was super lovely,

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Speaker 1: your placenta and I'd like to make something with it

442
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:24,640
Speaker 1: a keepsake. And the lady was like a child.

443
00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 2: Not keep taking up you've got You've got that thing now.

444
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 2: Like it's like saying, I want to give you something

445
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 2: to remember that, and you push that child out. It's

446
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,600
Speaker 2: like the child is the memory of that.

447
00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:39,240
Speaker 1: Is it? And she didn't want to because this midwife

448
00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 1: was a bit older, super experienced, delivered hundreds of babies

449
00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 1: and just yeah, just like goes into her basement and

450
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:49,639
Speaker 1: pulls out these percenters. I think that maybe her friends

451
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 1: hadn't had kids. So you know, when you're one of

452
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 1: the first in your group of friends to have kids,

453
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,359
Speaker 1: kind of flying blind, you don't know what's normal or weird.

454
00:21:56,440 --> 00:22:00,439
Speaker 1: You're just like it's all brand new territory. Childbirth. The

455
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 1: midwife took the placenta, and then she said, I'll be

456
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 1: in touch in a couple of weeks with this keepsake.

457
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:11,560
Speaker 1: So then she reaches out, calls and says it's ready.

458
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:13,159
Speaker 2: What is ready?

459
00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:14,199
Speaker 1: And she's like, what is this?

460
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 2: Lady? Way too scared to pick that up?

461
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:17,920
Speaker 1: Do you want to see what she made?

462
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:18,400
Speaker 2: Yeah?

463
00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,680
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, she sent me photos, She.

464
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 2: Sent you photos of this. Am I going to be disgusted?

465
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:26,400
Speaker 1: So this midwife, I'm not.

466
00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 2: Rip it off the band aid.

467
00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 1: Who am I to judge? This is a lovely gesture

468
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 1: and it would be rude of me to laugh.

469
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 2: I'm scared.

470
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: It's a dream catcher?

471
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:45,359
Speaker 2: What the fuck is that? That looks like something one

472
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:47,080
Speaker 2: of my kids to bring home from the KINDI.

473
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:50,120
Speaker 1: It's not even like a nice circle.

474
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,200
Speaker 2: Which is the placenta bit obviously not the feathers.

475
00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it almost looks like the umbilical cord. But

476
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,480
Speaker 1: there she will drop it in in the video afterwards.

477
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:01,639
Speaker 2: Oh my god. I love how she's included the anal beads.

478
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 2: It's lovely.

479
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:07,439
Speaker 1: And I said to her, I was like, so like,

480
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,159
Speaker 1: what did you do with it? Obviously you would have

481
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,120
Speaker 1: you would have accepted it and said thanks very much.

482
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 1: And then I'm going to put this in the bit.

483
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 2: Awkward of that being like do you love it Christmas?

484
00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:19,439
Speaker 2: You don't like, You're like, oh socks, You're like, oh,

485
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 2: perfect dream catcher.

486
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 1: It's still they're hanging in a kid's bedroom. Still there.

487
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 2: Oh my god, imagine that.

488
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,400
Speaker 1: I thought, like the smell in the bedroom.

489
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 2: There you go, that's okay, I'm just gonna put that's

490
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 2: fucking disgusting.

491
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:38,439
Speaker 1: No, Ash, shame on you, Shame on you to be

492
00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 1: so close minded. Okay, a dream catcher.

493
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 2: It's not the placenta. It's the whole DreamCatcher thing. I

494
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 2: don't believe.

495
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is fine, it's fine.

496
00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 2: Hanging up it looks like skin from a sausage. Yeah,

497
00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:53,920
Speaker 2: why was I expecting like a bagpipe looking thing.

498
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 1: It's quite tasteful. I think the craftsmanship is actually quite impressive.

499
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm worried what else she can do with the

500
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 2: human body?

501
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 1: Why waste it? Why waste it?

502
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:05,760
Speaker 2: Anyway?

503
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 1: Ash, last week we did three We're going to trim

504
00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:09,560
Speaker 1: it down to two questions.

505
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 2: There was too many for the listeners.

506
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was exhausting. Question number one, Ash, Yes, do

507
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 1: you ever have dad guilt, Dad guilt.

508
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 2: So like, in context of dad guilt, my brain automatically

509
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 2: goes to whether I've been sitting on the toilet too long,

510
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 2: And I can hear the kids going absolutely mental and

511
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:33,240
Speaker 2: my wife's like trying to herd them in, and I'm like,

512
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 2: do I feel guilty about this? So that's what comes

513
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:36,639
Speaker 2: to mind?

514
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:41,160
Speaker 1: What about afterwards when especially I've yelled at them? Yeah,

515
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 1: actually disciplining.

516
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 2: Okay, Never if my kids are listening, I never feel guilty.

517
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,360
Speaker 1: Do you do a little bit though? Right?

518
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 2: Yeah?

519
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: Look, if I feel like your heartless animal, if.

520
00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 2: I unfairly had yelled or unfairly thrown something in the

521
00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 2: bin and then reflected on it and thought that was

522
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 2: diveraish of me?

523
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: Is this something you throw on the bin that you

524
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: then go eat afterwards?

525
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 2: No non food, non food related. If there's voogun in

526
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 2: the bin, arms straighten after it.

527
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 1: So has Oscar? For example? Has Oscar ever gone to

528
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: you and said, like, Daddy, can we like?

529
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 2: So?

530
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 1: Marley likes to draw, that's her jam. She loves it.

531
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,639
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm good. Other times I'm two minutes in and

532
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm like.

533
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 2: This is boring?

534
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, does Oscar have any games? That he loves

535
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: to play any wants, like Daddy can't play with me,

536
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 1: and you like the.

537
00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 2: Hot Wheels car the tracks, I've actually hidden them so

538
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 2: that he can forget, because look, I don't mind playing

539
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 2: with the hot Wheels with him. But then it's like

540
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 2: whatever I make is never good enough, so I've got

541
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,400
Speaker 2: to remake it so often to the point where I've

542
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 2: been like, no, fuck. But yeah, after I feel bad,

543
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 2: it's like he doesn't know. He just wants to have fun.

544
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:54,399
Speaker 2: So yeah, look, I'll say, yes, I do feel dad girl.

545
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 1: Because I think I feel guilt. Normally, it happens when

546
00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,199
Speaker 1: the kids are in bed, and it's at the end

547
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 1: of the day when you know, you kind of look

548
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:04,359
Speaker 1: into their bedroom. The doors ajar a little bit. I

549
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 1: see Marley sleeping there so peacefully, and it's at that

550
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 1: moment when you also you get a little second window

551
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,679
Speaker 1: of energy and you think, I wish, I wish I

552
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 1: just gave a little bit more, And I never have that.

553
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 2: Really, I'm like, I gave everything I have today. I

554
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:23,120
Speaker 2: put in that everything, that time is gone, that time

555
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 2: is mine. I always say, like, when everyone's asleep in

556
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 2: the house, that's the time for me to just sit

557
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 2: on the couch or go to bed. A lot of

558
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 2: the time I found myself going to bed, and I

559
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 2: have time for guilt. Like I said, if I've yelled

560
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,199
Speaker 2: them unnecessarily or whatever, then yeah, but I feel like

561
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: in the moment, I've put as much as I can into.

562
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: The day, making me feel a lot more.

563
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:47,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, be better. You're not putting enough, but it happens.

564
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: It happens.

565
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 2: I think different types of guilt we both have, which

566
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 2: is okay because we're not perfect.

567
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 1: When you're about to discipline, do you ever have I've

568
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 1: read a few things where I've seen a few videos

569
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 1: where it's like, when you're about to react to something

570
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: a situation, stop, take a breath, and then reconsider how

571
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 1: you're going to respond. Do you have any or you're

572
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:10,199
Speaker 1: just off the cuff knee jake reaction.

573
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 2: I've tried to stop. Breathe, gentle parent, bigg as a

574
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:16,399
Speaker 2: waste to fucking die.

575
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 1: It doesn't I mean, if you can do it.

576
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 2: Going from nor to a hundreds the only way to

577
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 2: get anything done in this house.

578
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 1: They don't fucking listen. Sorry, they don't listen. I'm getting angry.

579
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 2: Let's go, let's move to the next question.

580
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: We'll put disciplining on pause because I could go on.

581
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:37,199
Speaker 2: All right, So, Matthew, question number two, do you have

582
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 2: a favorite child of yours?

583
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 1: Yeah? Can I say that? No? No, hang on a second, No,

584
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 1: I gotta I'm going to Okay, I will say this.

585
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 1: You know when people say during childbirth, the moment you

586
00:27:56,720 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 1: make eye contact with your garbage your child. Okay, I

587
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: will say like, the first time I held Marley, it

588
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: was that cliche like, holy shit, hit me like a

589
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,439
Speaker 1: ton of bricks, and I'm like a couple of tears

590
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:17,919
Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, I'm opening up here. Sorry,

591
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: I'm opening I fucking cuddled you and comforted you when

592
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 1: you told me about eating stuff out of the bin,

593
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I cried to want to help my

594
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 1: daughter and you're that.

595
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 2: With you. I'm just being a jerk off about it.

596
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 2: Go yeah, you're lucky.

597
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 1: I like you.

598
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 2: I'm so lucky.

599
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 1: So it was that cliche moment, and you know, we

600
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 1: had a really instant bond. I find it takes a

601
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 1: little bit longer for baby number two. And also because

602
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 1: when youah baby number one, you know.

603
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 2: They're all that your attention is just.

604
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 1: Just you know, down and the two of you are

605
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 1: just you know, every kind of noise, every movement, You're like,

606
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 1: oh my god, Yeah, this is incredible, this is amazing.

607
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 1: And then when we had the second we had Lola

608
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: got a name for a second what's her name?

609
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:09,719
Speaker 2: The favorites Marley.

610
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 1: Well, it just like it took a little bit longer

611
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,720
Speaker 1: to have that bond because when Laura was at home

612
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: with Lola when she was a newborn, to give her

613
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: some reprieve and to make it easier, I would take

614
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: Marley out of the house and we would go and

615
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 1: do activities. Also, because Marley was so young, she was

616
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: like eighteen months. Marley and Lala are so close together

617
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 1: that it was tough for Marley because she was like, Mum,

618
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 1: play with me. She couldn't cuts she had a newborn,

619
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 1: and so Marley would get frustrated. So then in that

620
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 1: period and maybe the first six months, me and Marley

621
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: bonded like nothing else. And Lola's come around yeah Lola,

622
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 1: and I like, yeah, well yeah, when she's not cock

623
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 1: blocking me. Yeah, But it depends because sometimes kids are

624
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: really easy and sometimes kids are really hard. Absolutely, and

625
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 1: on the days when one is being easy, that's the

626
00:29:58,520 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 1: one I want to hang it here.

627
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly what I was gonna say. I was going

628
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 2: to be like, look, these kids have a favorite, and

629
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 2: it's not me, very obvious, all right, it's always mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy. Right. Fine,

630
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 2: I'm allowed to have a favorite if I want. You're

631
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 2: gonna pin them against each other.

632
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 1: I'm seeing you with the kids. I think they do

633
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: like you.

634
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 2: They do, they can't. I think they're warming up to me.

635
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 2: We don't know each other that well. But yeah, look,

636
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 2: you definitely I don't want to sit here and say

637
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 2: your favorites. I do have one. I prefer.

638
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 1: Go on.

639
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 2: No, obviously, Macy's like the second one, and she's a girl,

640
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 2: She's stated a little girl, right. But at the same time, like,

641
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 2: I won't sit here and say that I like one

642
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 2: of them more than the other. I hate them both equally.

643
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 2: I love them both equally equally, is not just the other.

644
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 2: So yeah, but like what you were saying on the day,

645
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 2: you definitely have your favorite, and yeah, get the kid

646
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 2: away from me moment.

647
00:30:55,200 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Sometimes some even it's most mornings

648
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 1: to be fair, when Lola wakes up and you can

649
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:07,560
Speaker 1: hear her yelling she wants someone to get her, and

650
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 1: I'll put my head in and I'll go, hey, baba, hey,

651
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 1: good morning, you're awake. And she looks at me and

652
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 1: she's like, not you, yeah, And I'm like, she wants you.

653
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 2: It's heartbreaking sometimes, isn't that. But also like she wants mum,

654
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 2: so that's mum's problem.

655
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, Also like it's kind of I would take her.

656
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 2: I would help you out of that bed, but I

657
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 2: don't know. You're start idiot, use your brain.

658
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: I will say any other questions that you want, They're

659
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Speaker 1: not going to be answered, seriously, Oh absolutely not. Don't

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Speaker 1: take what we're saying as any formal advice. Go see

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Speaker 1: a professional, read the books.

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Speaker 2: Love your kids equally or equally exactly.

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Speaker 1: But if you do have any questions, you can submit

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Speaker 1: them either ashes social media, my social media or two

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Speaker 1: dotting Dads. And if you haven't followed us, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Just a cheeky pH.

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Speaker 1: I've really been waiting for stop playing hard to get

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Speaker 1: and also fucking good reviews, which has been great.

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Speaker 2: My favorite one was just one star and then.

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Speaker 1: I was like, obviously that's an next girlfriend. But if

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Speaker 1: you haven't subscribed, with you, because if you starts. We

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Speaker 1: would love that more than.

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Speaker 2: Anything, absolutely, and again thank you for joining us.

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Speaker 1: That's it, that's us there yeah two. Doting Dad's podcast

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Speaker 1: acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout Australia and the

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Speaker 1: connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respects

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Speaker 1: to the elders past and present and extend that respect

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Speaker 1: to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today. This

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Speaker 1: episode was recorded on Gaddagal Land