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Speaker 2: This is the Daily ohs oh, now it makes sense.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, and welcome to the Daily OS. My name

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Speaker 1: is Sam Kozlowski. And on today's episode of our TDA

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Speaker 1: summer series, we thought we'd bring you what was probably

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Speaker 1: one of our proudest moments as an organization, and that

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Speaker 1: was bringing an exclusive interview with ex AFL player Mitch

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Speaker 1: Brown to light. In that interview, Mitch told us and

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Speaker 1: told Australia that he was the first openly gay or

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Speaker 1: bisexual male AFL player in the game's one hundred and

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Speaker 1: twenty nine year history. It was an incredible moment and

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Speaker 1: if we look back on that moment now, we can

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Speaker 1: just see how much progress already has been made in

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Speaker 1: this conversation and the continued work that Mitch has done

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Speaker 1: since his interview with The Daily OS. For me personally,

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Speaker 1: it was one of the most nerving interviews I've done

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Speaker 1: in my years at TDA, because the stakes were high

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Speaker 1: and it was honor to be trusted with Mitch's story.

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Speaker 1: Here's that chat with Mitch and I and I think

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Speaker 1: it's something that we'll all look back on as a

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Speaker 3: You're right nervous A smile when I'm nervous. I'm nervous too.

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Speaker 3: It's a good TRD to have, Mitch. Thanks so much

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Speaker 3: for joining us on the Daily Odds today. No worries.

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Speaker 1: So I was about this time last week that I

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Speaker 1: got a DM from you on Instagram. Take me through

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Speaker 1: the hours that led up to sending that message and

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Speaker 1: what the message said. The message it wasn't so much

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Speaker 2: A moment in time for me, and there was seconds,

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Speaker 2: but leading up to that, it's been years of you know, emotions,

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Speaker 3: My head, in my soul, in my heart for so long.

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Speaker 2: And I sent you a DM on Instagram after I

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Speaker 2: saw a video when you're talking about the recent homophobic

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Speaker 2: slur and the AFL and the reactions that came with that.

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Speaker 2: And my text message said, Hey, Sam, I played in

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Speaker 2: and I'm a bisexual man.

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Speaker 3: And that's all it said. That's a really big thing

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it feels amazing now, you know when I sent

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Speaker 2: you know, the moments that led up to that, I

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Speaker 2: had this feeling of peace, but more importantly comfort and confidence,

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Speaker 2: confidence in who I am, my identity, and comfort with

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Speaker 1: There's been one hundred and twenty five years of vfl

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Speaker 3: You are the first.

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Speaker 1: Past or present player to say I'm gay or I'm

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Speaker 2: And you ask me that question, it's quite sad to

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Speaker 2: hear that, you know, you know, you start reflecting on

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Speaker 2: why is it taken me so long? Before you go

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Speaker 2: and question why is it taken the community so long?

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Speaker 2: And I get like the generations, not just how the

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Speaker 2: Things change over the generations. We learn, we grow as

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Speaker 2: amount of time of why you know, being openly gay

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Speaker 3: Why do you think it's taken you so long? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: For me, you know, society and definitely the communities and

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Speaker 2: speaking for my own experiences, lived experiences. But as I

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Speaker 3: So what I mean by that is.

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Speaker 1: So that's when you were drafted. You were drafted to

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Speaker 2: It's really it's a really hard one to answer because

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Speaker 2: these thoughts have come up, questioning and you know, part

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Speaker 3: You know, I grew up as a man in Australia.

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Speaker 3: And in the environments that you're in, whether it's a

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Speaker 3: it was never once an opportunity to speak openly or

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Speaker 1: Was it just something that was absent or was it discouraged?

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Speaker 3: Do you think discouraged? What do you mean by that?

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Speaker 2: We all know that the locker room chat, the chats

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Speaker 2: In fact, you know, it was always something that you'd

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Speaker 2: if I was to talk about David Bowie as a

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Speaker 1: And I think the thing that's really interesting to me

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Speaker 1: that you did have intimate relationships with this group of players,

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Speaker 2: You learn very quickly just to say nothing. And you know,

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Speaker 2: I was always very very good at putting things deep

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Speaker 3: I could bury them so deep, and.

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Speaker 2: Most people in my position can do that better than

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Speaker 2: performance environment like the AFL, it's so clear your task

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Speaker 2: win a premiership. So it's really easy to not bring

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Speaker 2: easily still be an amazing team member and not reveal

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Speaker 2: there was one time I did share my questions about

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Speaker 2: was just a sort of casual question around how do

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Speaker 2: you're bisexual? And I remember it happened a long ago,

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Speaker 2: a long time ago, in two thousand and seven, but

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Speaker 3: It was almost like, that's a funny question. You've been funny, Mitch.

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Speaker 2: And then the conversation just rolled on, but it was

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Speaker 3: I swore never to bring that up over again.

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Speaker 1: Well, you were nineteen in two thousand and seven. That's

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Speaker 1: a really important age to be asking that question, and

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Speaker 1: I'm sure a really important age to be hearing action

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Speaker 2: I mean, I've had so much time to think about this,

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Speaker 2: And you know, sorry, what was that questioning?

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Speaker 1: Why don't we talk about on the field. I think

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Speaker 1: you've painted a really good picture of the locker room.

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Speaker 1: Talk to me about combat on the field and the

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Speaker 3: I think.

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Speaker 2: On the field, you're trying to beat your opponent, right,

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Speaker 2: the ways you do that is to belittle your opponent,

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Speaker 2: bring them down. And you do it physically, yeah, and

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Speaker 2: then you can do it verbally as well. You know,

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Speaker 3: You know, I think.

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Speaker 2: This year, you know, it's it's very known, it's become

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Speaker 1: Do you remember any times where you had homophobic comments

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Speaker 2: And it wasn't because you know people you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: You know, for a man in Australia, you know, that's

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Speaker 2: probably the weakest thing you could be. You know, certainly

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Speaker 2: when I was growing up at school, the word gay

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Speaker 2: so you know, to belittle someone or to hurt someone,

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Speaker 1: What was it like hearing those homophobic comments directed at

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Speaker 2: That's exactly right, Sam, Like you know, I went, most

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Speaker 2: explore and you know, for only speak because this is

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Speaker 2: my sexuality. When you hear these comments and if to

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Speaker 2: someone else or in general conversation or directed at you,

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Speaker 2: you've suppressed these feelings so much because that culture is

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Speaker 2: that you forget, You forget who you are and your identity.

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Speaker 2: This notion around a queer player being in the AFL

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Speaker 2: AFL men's has come up time and time again. You know,

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Speaker 2: I really want this to be an anti climax or

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Speaker 2: another event.

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Speaker 1: The reality is that you retired many years ago and

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Speaker 1: we're still in relatively the same position with the frequency

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Speaker 2: Well, I can't speak for the locker rooms down, but

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Speaker 2: been so many times in my life that I've seen

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a lot of fear to hold. Talk to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, just speaking about that locker room from that day,

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Speaker 2: Like I part of the conversations that we used to

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Speaker 3: Oh, we think it's that it's definitely that person. They

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Speaker 3: you know, even that those conversations, that culture, that behavior,

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Speaker 3: you know, sitting there hearing that again, you're bury it

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Speaker 3: I was done.

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Speaker 1: How much of a role did this conversation we're having

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Speaker 1: role did that have in you making that call to

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Speaker 3: Huge?

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Speaker 2: Right, and not so much about you know, my sexuality

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Speaker 3: There's a lot of part of the parts of Mitch.

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Speaker 2: And one of the biggest reasons I wanted to finish

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Speaker 2: That's why I was decided to finish. And when I finished,

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Speaker 3: The fear was so strong, and the fear of being

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Speaker 2: Confidence in my identity as a bisexual man.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us for the first half of our

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Speaker 1: conversation with Mitch Brown. If you need support or someone

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Speaker 1: you the second half of that chat tomorrow. My name

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Speaker 1: is Lily Maddon and I'm a proud Arunda Bunjelung Calkatin

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