1 00:00:10,669 --> 00:00:14,868 Speaker 1: My Heart podcasts, hear more kiss podcasts, playlists, and listen 2 00:00:14,909 --> 00:00:18,788 Speaker 1: live on the Free Hard. In the latest episode of 3 00:00:18,948 --> 00:00:21,029 Speaker 1: We'll get to That, we touched on something which which 4 00:00:21,029 --> 00:00:22,669 Speaker 1: brought you to tears. So you've got to get out 5 00:00:22,709 --> 00:00:23,628 Speaker 1: of the car. You can go and have listen to 6 00:00:23,628 --> 00:00:25,468 Speaker 1: the latest episode and we'll get to that. It is 7 00:00:25,469 --> 00:00:28,149 Speaker 1: wherever you get your podcasts. Woods and I really trying 8 00:00:28,149 --> 00:00:31,309 Speaker 1: to really trying to solve some difficult questions which we 9 00:00:31,349 --> 00:00:36,629 Speaker 1: solved time. I think we've got very time. I think 10 00:00:36,629 --> 00:00:39,829 Speaker 1: we've got very close. I think we're learning very quickly 11 00:00:39,869 --> 00:00:42,188 Speaker 1: as we try and discuss time that it is a 12 00:00:42,309 --> 00:00:44,028 Speaker 1: huge issue for a lot of people and it's very 13 00:00:44,069 --> 00:00:45,589 Speaker 1: hard to get your hit around. But so the latest 14 00:00:45,589 --> 00:00:48,469 Speaker 1: episode is what is your Relationship with Time? Part three, 15 00:00:48,949 --> 00:00:50,909 Speaker 1: because there are three past and there is a part 16 00:00:50,949 --> 00:00:52,989 Speaker 1: four by the way to the point where I'm actually 17 00:00:53,269 --> 00:00:55,589 Speaker 1: next episode we're going to bring on a time expert. 18 00:00:55,709 --> 00:00:59,309 Speaker 1: I got Oliver Berkman, who's like world authority on time. Personally, 19 00:00:59,309 --> 00:01:00,269 Speaker 1: I don't think we need him. 20 00:01:00,349 --> 00:01:01,829 Speaker 2: I think if you go and listen to the most 21 00:01:01,828 --> 00:01:05,149 Speaker 2: recent podcast, you realize that we have nailed how the 22 00:01:05,188 --> 00:01:05,989 Speaker 2: best to use your time. 23 00:01:06,029 --> 00:01:09,429 Speaker 1: But if you are interested in, like punctuality and efficiency 24 00:01:09,589 --> 00:01:12,709 Speaker 1: and getting stressed and all that sort of stuff. Next week, 25 00:01:12,789 --> 00:01:14,629 Speaker 1: Berkman is he's the guy for that. He's got a 26 00:01:14,669 --> 00:01:16,629 Speaker 1: book called four Thousand Weeks, which is just about how 27 00:01:16,629 --> 00:01:20,189 Speaker 1: many weeks and normal human lives and it's how you 28 00:01:20,229 --> 00:01:22,349 Speaker 1: can wisely use that time within the four thousand weeks. 29 00:01:22,389 --> 00:01:23,989 Speaker 1: It's really cool. So he'll be on next week. But 30 00:01:24,029 --> 00:01:26,989 Speaker 1: before we got there, we touched on I mean, one 31 00:01:26,989 --> 00:01:28,269 Speaker 1: of us was always going to cry and we're talking 32 00:01:28,269 --> 00:01:31,429 Speaker 1: about this, we're talking about time management when it comes 33 00:01:31,709 --> 00:01:35,669 Speaker 1: in relation to your kids. Yes, yes, And here's the 34 00:01:35,749 --> 00:01:37,309 Speaker 1: bit that we got to have a listen. 35 00:01:38,029 --> 00:01:40,109 Speaker 3: Actually a nice moment the other morning, and this is 36 00:01:40,149 --> 00:01:42,389 Speaker 3: obviously MIM's doing and it was very nice. 37 00:01:42,429 --> 00:01:43,589 Speaker 1: I've herd to do that. 38 00:01:44,149 --> 00:01:47,389 Speaker 3: Remy said to me, thank you for working so we 39 00:01:47,429 --> 00:01:50,269 Speaker 3: could get apples today, which was. 40 00:01:50,389 --> 00:01:54,909 Speaker 1: Like, wow, hit you right in the field. Yea. Oh man, 41 00:01:57,189 --> 00:02:03,869 Speaker 1: first podcast cry whoa that came out of nowhere. You 42 00:02:03,909 --> 00:02:05,949 Speaker 1: can see that Instagram TikTok if you want to. But 43 00:02:06,189 --> 00:02:09,269 Speaker 1: why was that tough for Remedy to say that to you? 44 00:02:10,629 --> 00:02:15,069 Speaker 2: Because so I'm sure you relate to this, and I'm 45 00:02:15,069 --> 00:02:19,029 Speaker 2: sure whoever's the person who in your relationship who's maybe 46 00:02:19,149 --> 00:02:21,668 Speaker 2: working more or still working full time with a young child, 47 00:02:21,829 --> 00:02:24,309 Speaker 2: you have that moment where you leave in the morning, 48 00:02:24,669 --> 00:02:30,029 Speaker 2: and as they get older, you you know you have 49 00:02:30,069 --> 00:02:32,749 Speaker 2: to have that moment where it's like, I'm choosing to 50 00:02:32,829 --> 00:02:35,149 Speaker 2: leave now and I'm not going to see you for 51 00:02:35,189 --> 00:02:37,989 Speaker 2: the next six hours, and you kind of see the Aha, 52 00:02:38,309 --> 00:02:41,388 Speaker 2: you see a look on their face and you go, oh, 53 00:02:42,269 --> 00:02:43,909 Speaker 2: It's like they look at you like, why wouldn't you 54 00:02:43,909 --> 00:02:46,189 Speaker 2: want to hang out with me today? Like I thought 55 00:02:46,229 --> 00:02:47,989 Speaker 2: you loved me, I thought we wanted to spend this 56 00:02:48,069 --> 00:02:50,709 Speaker 2: time together. And you say, I'm going to work for 57 00:02:51,069 --> 00:02:53,629 Speaker 2: six to seven hours. I'm going to work and going 58 00:02:53,629 --> 00:02:56,509 Speaker 2: to work, and you know that they can't fully comprehend 59 00:02:56,589 --> 00:02:59,189 Speaker 2: or understand what that means to them. They're going, oh, 60 00:02:59,189 --> 00:03:02,469 Speaker 2: you're going to choose something that doesn't involve me, and 61 00:03:02,509 --> 00:03:04,389 Speaker 2: so every morning that breaks your heart a little bit. 62 00:03:05,229 --> 00:03:09,828 Speaker 2: So for her, well, for my wife to have explained 63 00:03:10,349 --> 00:03:14,269 Speaker 2: to my daughter, Remy, that the reason he's doing that 64 00:03:14,349 --> 00:03:14,589 Speaker 2: is not. 65 00:03:14,549 --> 00:03:16,229 Speaker 1: Because necessarily wants to be away from you. 66 00:03:16,309 --> 00:03:19,189 Speaker 2: It's just there's this there's this thing that we've created 67 00:03:19,229 --> 00:03:23,109 Speaker 2: called money, which does buy things like apples and so 68 00:03:23,309 --> 00:03:25,189 Speaker 2: for money. Is cute that she used an idea of 69 00:03:25,189 --> 00:03:28,069 Speaker 2: an apple, right, I think I think that day, I 70 00:03:28,069 --> 00:03:31,069 Speaker 2: think she was saying, where's daddy wears daddy and mim 71 00:03:31,109 --> 00:03:33,029 Speaker 2: was at the supermarket and she bought remy and apple, 72 00:03:33,709 --> 00:03:35,949 Speaker 2: and I think just had that moment she goes, hey, 73 00:03:35,989 --> 00:03:38,709 Speaker 2: you know, we just bought that apple, and that's why 74 00:03:38,749 --> 00:03:39,629 Speaker 2: dad goes to work. 75 00:03:40,029 --> 00:03:48,589 Speaker 1: You can have that apple. Yeah, it's really sweet. I 76 00:03:48,589 --> 00:03:50,669 Speaker 1: think my emotions is quite high, but at the moment, 77 00:03:50,669 --> 00:03:55,069 Speaker 1: obviously it's okay, it's all right, it's beautiful. Yeah. 78 00:03:55,109 --> 00:03:57,069 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, So that was was just so nice because 79 00:03:57,069 --> 00:03:59,189 Speaker 2: it's like, oh, so you you can't you do have 80 00:03:59,229 --> 00:04:01,149 Speaker 2: an understanding now that I'm not wanting. 81 00:04:00,869 --> 00:04:01,509 Speaker 1: To leave you. 82 00:04:01,949 --> 00:04:04,389 Speaker 2: It's just there's a there's a reason, and that you 83 00:04:04,429 --> 00:04:07,629 Speaker 2: can see a benefit from it. At such a young age. 84 00:04:09,789 --> 00:04:11,989 Speaker 1: It's hard. It's really harder when that you get it 85 00:04:12,029 --> 00:04:16,669 Speaker 1: reflected back to you through their eyes. Yeah, because they're 86 00:04:16,709 --> 00:04:20,709 Speaker 1: so innocent, like why would you leave? Of course? I like, yeah, 87 00:04:20,709 --> 00:04:23,109 Speaker 1: I go, man, like I love and hanging out with you. Yeah. 88 00:04:24,949 --> 00:04:28,109 Speaker 1: I think when you said it, like, it's really nice 89 00:04:28,109 --> 00:04:31,229 Speaker 1: that you And again, people can see that clip Instagram 90 00:04:31,269 --> 00:04:32,669 Speaker 1: TikTok with them or if they want to have a 91 00:04:32,669 --> 00:04:37,748 Speaker 1: look at it. See more of Woody crying. Yeah, again, 92 00:04:37,949 --> 00:04:40,629 Speaker 1: I should have embraced the crime more. But yeah, that's fine. 93 00:04:41,269 --> 00:04:43,909 Speaker 1: You're embracing it right now. It's good. I think it's 94 00:04:43,949 --> 00:04:49,069 Speaker 1: interesting that I think as particular as like I'm in 95 00:04:49,069 --> 00:04:51,829 Speaker 1: a stereotype here. I was going to say, dad's but 96 00:04:52,069 --> 00:04:55,589 Speaker 1: just if you are just working, I wasn't going to stereotype. 97 00:04:55,589 --> 00:04:56,829 Speaker 1: I don't need to, though, because if you are the 98 00:04:57,149 --> 00:05:01,749 Speaker 1: parent who's working full time, I know there's obviously the 99 00:05:01,789 --> 00:05:03,869 Speaker 1: slings and arrows of being the stay at home parent, 100 00:05:03,949 --> 00:05:06,868 Speaker 1: which I think we can all agree seems a lot harder. 101 00:05:07,069 --> 00:05:08,509 Speaker 1: So I just want to put that on the record. 102 00:05:09,029 --> 00:05:12,989 Speaker 1: But I find I find being the working parent. It's 103 00:05:13,069 --> 00:05:15,469 Speaker 1: really the thing that I really struggle with, is this 104 00:05:15,629 --> 00:05:20,229 Speaker 1: idea of balancing my duties between like my partner, my child, 105 00:05:20,589 --> 00:05:23,109 Speaker 1: and then my job. And I think that's the thing 106 00:05:23,109 --> 00:05:25,069 Speaker 1: that kind of like really hits you like a sledgehammer 107 00:05:25,189 --> 00:05:28,069 Speaker 1: when you start, when you first have a child, It's 108 00:05:28,109 --> 00:05:32,549 Speaker 1: like this is really hard to balance, Like I'm always 109 00:05:32,589 --> 00:05:34,829 Speaker 1: losing and life's more complicated. 110 00:05:34,309 --> 00:05:39,149 Speaker 2: Than work, partner and child, by the way topic, they're 111 00:05:39,189 --> 00:05:40,469 Speaker 2: just they're just the big headlines. 112 00:05:40,749 --> 00:05:43,309 Speaker 1: Yeah, I've got I got my relationship, I've got my partner, 113 00:05:43,669 --> 00:05:45,188 Speaker 1: I've got my relationship with my job. When I've got 114 00:05:45,229 --> 00:05:50,229 Speaker 1: my child, and you lose, like you lose so many times, 115 00:05:50,749 --> 00:05:54,229 Speaker 1: particularly early on, and then so you just can't get 116 00:05:54,229 --> 00:05:56,509 Speaker 1: it right. I feel like you're always spinning plates. You 117 00:05:56,589 --> 00:05:58,509 Speaker 1: when you get your relationship on track, you're like, oh my, 118 00:05:59,029 --> 00:06:01,309 Speaker 1: my work is suffering. At the moment when you get 119 00:06:01,309 --> 00:06:04,669 Speaker 1: your parent stuff on track, relationship suffers and it kind 120 00:06:04,669 --> 00:06:06,549 Speaker 1: of just goes. And I don't think anyone prepares you 121 00:06:06,589 --> 00:06:06,789 Speaker 1: for that. 122 00:06:07,189 --> 00:06:11,549 Speaker 2: No, yeah, and no, no one can, even though we try. 123 00:06:11,709 --> 00:06:13,988 Speaker 1: In this podcast, get the podcast where you get a podcast. 124 00:06:14,029 --> 00:06:16,029 Speaker 1: It's about time. This is what we're talking about. 125 00:06:16,109 --> 00:06:18,549 Speaker 2: I kind of think the point we get to, which 126 00:06:18,629 --> 00:06:20,909 Speaker 2: kind of sounds a bit defeatist, is that you're just 127 00:06:20,949 --> 00:06:21,909 Speaker 2: never gonna a nail it. 128 00:06:22,029 --> 00:06:22,229 Speaker 1: Yeah. 129 00:06:22,389 --> 00:06:26,229 Speaker 2: So whatever you are doing in the time you've got, yeah, 130 00:06:26,629 --> 00:06:28,549 Speaker 2: just try to embrace do that, do that well, Do 131 00:06:29,189 --> 00:06:29,789 Speaker 2: what you're doing well. 132 00:06:29,829 --> 00:06:32,188 Speaker 1: Now. Don't don't be at work thinking I should be 133 00:06:32,229 --> 00:06:32,509 Speaker 1: at home. 134 00:06:32,629 --> 00:06:35,429 Speaker 2: Yeah, And don't be at home thinking I should be 135 00:06:35,469 --> 00:06:35,989 Speaker 2: doing work. 136 00:06:36,109 --> 00:06:38,949 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yeah, it's true. It's really it's really well said, 137 00:06:39,029 --> 00:06:40,389 Speaker 1: and if you want to learn more about that, head 138 00:06:40,389 --> 00:06:42,869 Speaker 1: along to We'll get to that, Willam Woodies will get 139 00:06:42,869 --> 00:06:45,389 Speaker 1: to that wherever you get your podcasts. Four episodes on 140 00:06:45,469 --> 00:06:48,109 Speaker 1: time we're going on to which is crazy, but we've 141 00:06:48,109 --> 00:06:50,509 Speaker 1: got an expert coming next week. Otherwise. I think that's 142 00:06:50,509 --> 00:06:52,709 Speaker 1: a really good chat, particularly if you are the working parent. 143 00:06:53,389 --> 00:06:54,829 Speaker 1: I hope that makes you feel a bit better about 144 00:06:54,829 --> 00:06:56,389 Speaker 1: what you're doing. William Woody will get to that wherever 145 00:06:56,389 --> 00:06:56,988 Speaker 1: you get your pods.