WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Is this kids party gift idea genius or the worst?? 0:00:10.379 --> 0:00:14.219 My heart podcasts, hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen 0:00:14.259 --> 0:00:20.499 live on the Free iHeart app A good pickup with 0:00:20.579 --> 0:00:25.579 Britt Hockley and Laura Burn. Bady your work, our windows down, 0:00:26.139 --> 0:00:27.739 My worldris in the dust. 0:00:27.899 --> 0:00:29.579 Only good fabs are all down. 0:00:30.619 --> 0:00:34.659 I've don't march, but yeah, I'm not our big get 0:00:34.699 --> 0:00:37.019 and what I want it don't matter where. 0:00:37.699 --> 0:00:40.379 This is the pickup, Hi, guys, it's the pick up 0:00:40.379 --> 0:00:41.979 with Britt Hockley and Laura Burn. 0:00:42.499 --> 0:00:44.819 Interesting discussions in my household Laura. 0:00:44.619 --> 0:00:48.059 Burn, Oh, okay, full name is Yeah, No, I just 0:00:48.059 --> 0:00:50.379 don't know how I feel about this. My husband Ben 0:00:50.459 --> 0:00:53.779 is here, he's still here from Switzerland, and I thought 0:00:53.779 --> 0:00:55.939 this was going to go down differently. I got an 0:00:55.939 --> 0:00:59.019 Aussie stable and I was so excited to give it 0:00:59.019 --> 0:01:00.579 to him. I went to the supermarket and I got 0:01:00.579 --> 0:01:03.659 a caramel Koala. You know the Cadbury Caramela Coalers. Yeah, 0:01:04.059 --> 0:01:06.899 that's what we grow up with. To me, probably one 0:01:06.938 --> 0:01:09.739 of the top notch chocolates. It's the perfo amount of milk, chocolate, 0:01:09.819 --> 0:01:12.658 creamy caramel. It's in the shape of an Australian animal. 0:01:13.059 --> 0:01:13.779 You can't beat it. 0:01:14.779 --> 0:01:17.938 He was so unimpressed by it. That I don't know 0:01:17.979 --> 0:01:19.658 how we're going to continue the relationship. 0:01:19.818 --> 0:01:23.219 I think it's fair because your husband's Swiss and that's 0:01:23.219 --> 0:01:25.219 where all the good chocolate comes from. So he's like, 0:01:25.378 --> 0:01:27.299 he's like, this is fatable because this belongs in a 0:01:27.339 --> 0:01:28.938 kid's lunchbox, which, to be fair, I. 0:01:28.899 --> 0:01:30.098 Do like a caramel a kuala. 0:01:30.098 --> 0:01:31.898 I'm not going to prepoo it, but it is a 0:01:31.899 --> 0:01:33.859 bit of a kid's chocolate. Once you have it again 0:01:33.859 --> 0:01:35.779 as an adult, you're like, oh, why is it a 0:01:35.859 --> 0:01:38.979 kid's chocolate because it's in the shape of a koala, 0:01:39.259 --> 0:01:41.379 But why does that make a kid It's definitely a 0:01:41.458 --> 0:01:42.058 kid's chocolate. 0:01:43.018 --> 0:01:44.419 It's like the perfect thing that you put in a 0:01:44.499 --> 0:01:45.258 kid's lunchbox. 0:01:45.339 --> 0:01:48.139 That and also a Fredo Frog. Yeah, no, Fredo Frog. 0:01:48.179 --> 0:01:50.339 I think a kid's Fredo Frog's are overrated. There's no 0:01:50.379 --> 0:01:51.979 caramel in the middle. You can't just have like a 0:01:51.979 --> 0:01:54.698 solid block. Nah, I'm all for them. 0:01:55.659 --> 0:01:58.299 I I wouldn't say I'm in an argument now. I'm 0:01:58.339 --> 0:01:59.699 not in an argument with my husband. 0:01:59.939 --> 0:02:03.178 He's just started doing something of a night time that 0:02:04.059 --> 0:02:08.179 he says he can't change. But it's only a new thing. 0:02:08.619 --> 0:02:10.779 He says he can't change it. It's keeping me up 0:02:10.779 --> 0:02:13.459 all night. I'm already dealing with pregnancy insomnia, and I 0:02:13.619 --> 0:02:15.459 don't know how. 0:02:15.099 --> 0:02:15.939 To fix this. 0:02:16.019 --> 0:02:18.499 Sleep talking, sleepwalking. I wish he was sleepwalking. 0:02:18.499 --> 0:02:20.298 I wish you would sleep walk into the other room, 0:02:20.379 --> 0:02:21.538 go sleep in the other show. 0:02:21.538 --> 0:02:22.858 Sleepwalk to another continent. 0:02:23.099 --> 0:02:25.099 No. No, I love my husband Deally. 0:02:25.138 --> 0:02:27.819 He's wonderful. But he does two things right. So, like, 0:02:27.899 --> 0:02:29.819 I get woken up a lot during the night. Firstly, 0:02:29.978 --> 0:02:33.099 like I said, pregnancy insomnia is really hard to deal with, 0:02:33.219 --> 0:02:36.779 so I'm just awake, lying there thinking about my own thoughts. 0:02:37.219 --> 0:02:39.819 Then also, we've got two kids who each of them 0:02:39.899 --> 0:02:41.619 might wake up once or twice during the night. 0:02:41.819 --> 0:02:43.659 Yeah, that's fine. I can manage that. 0:02:44.339 --> 0:02:47.538 What I can't manage is that now Matt has started 0:02:47.619 --> 0:02:50.339 and both of these things have started at the same time. Firstly, 0:02:50.379 --> 0:02:52.899 he sleeps with both elbows out like this, like he's 0:02:52.939 --> 0:02:55.939 trying to protect himself. So he sleeps with his hands 0:02:56.459 --> 0:02:59.659 by his face and his elbows directly out like little 0:02:59.698 --> 0:03:02.179 wing yep, So his elbows are looking me straight in 0:03:02.179 --> 0:03:03.859 the eye. So I get I get elbowed in the 0:03:03.859 --> 0:03:07.258 face several times a night. Interesting movesa really annoying right Okay, 0:03:07.859 --> 0:03:10.298 but that's not the half of it. The new thing 0:03:10.299 --> 0:03:12.059 that he started to do, and I would love to 0:03:12.099 --> 0:03:13.819 know if anyone else's partner does this. 0:03:14.739 --> 0:03:19.059 He just breathes, really really loud. No, it's full stop. 0:03:19.099 --> 0:03:20.579 He breathes. Well, that's what he says. 0:03:20.579 --> 0:03:23.099 He's like, so now you're angry about me breathing whilst 0:03:23.099 --> 0:03:25.659 I'm asleep. But it's not just normal breathing. It's like 0:03:26.059 --> 0:03:28.859 he's playing a game of tennis. And I kid you not, 0:03:29.019 --> 0:03:29.499 this is it. 0:03:31.779 --> 0:03:36.618 Ah, I know exactly the client you're talking about all 0:03:36.659 --> 0:03:40.699 through the note, but as a question, considering his unconscious 0:03:40.779 --> 0:03:42.619 what did you want him to do about that? 0:03:42.659 --> 0:03:43.899 Okay, that's his defense. 0:03:43.979 --> 0:03:46.699 That's that is kind of his defense mechanism, and that 0:03:46.819 --> 0:03:47.859 is also what he says. 0:03:47.859 --> 0:03:50.779 But surely these things don't just start. 0:03:51.019 --> 0:03:51.779 It's an age thing. 0:03:51.939 --> 0:03:54.499 No, he just it's like the second his head hits 0:03:54.499 --> 0:03:59.699 the pillow, he starts with the paddle ball across howe, 0:03:59.859 --> 0:04:00.899 Yet it's age. 0:04:01.019 --> 0:04:01.699 That's how I mean. 0:04:01.739 --> 0:04:04.299 You answered your own question. Surely these things don't just start, 0:04:04.419 --> 0:04:06.859 but it has. It's just started. He's entered the next 0:04:07.059 --> 0:04:11.459 part of Life's seven Yeah, thirty seven, thirty seven gotta 0:04:11.499 --> 0:04:14.619 lax jaws. It's basically forty, which is basically. 0:04:14.379 --> 0:04:15.619 Up with eighty. That's true. 0:04:15.739 --> 0:04:16.699 No, forty is halfway. 0:04:16.819 --> 0:04:19.019 Yeah, you know, I don't know. 0:04:19.059 --> 0:04:21.899 I've heard a lot of mixed reviews about like mouth 0:04:21.899 --> 0:04:23.979 tape and things like that that help people sleep. Some 0:04:24.019 --> 0:04:26.979 people rave about it because if he can't then he 0:04:27.019 --> 0:04:29.059 has to breath out his nose. He's forced to, Like, 0:04:29.259 --> 0:04:30.779 he's not gonna wake up from it. He's not gonna 0:04:30.819 --> 0:04:33.099 die in his sleep because his mouth taped up. Maybe 0:04:33.099 --> 0:04:35.179 he could try some mouth tape and see if that helped. 0:04:35.219 --> 0:04:38.339 But outside of mouth tape, you're at a loss, mate. 0:04:38.419 --> 0:04:39.499 He yeah, he got. 0:04:39.339 --> 0:04:40.899 Really defense about it, and he was like, I'm sorry, 0:04:40.939 --> 0:04:42.299 I'll just go sleep in the other room, which I 0:04:42.299 --> 0:04:44.179 don't want him to do. I know that that's a solution, 0:04:44.299 --> 0:04:46.499 but I'm speaking that that was retorringable, Like I. 0:04:46.459 --> 0:04:48.019 Like sleeping in the same bed as my partner. 0:04:48.059 --> 0:04:50.259 I know for some people's relationship it works, but I 0:04:50.259 --> 0:04:52.619 think I would then I would feel bad and that's 0:04:52.619 --> 0:04:54.979 not gonna work well either. But I don't know how people, 0:04:55.019 --> 0:04:56.739 What do you do? Do I wear ear plugs? Do 0:04:56.819 --> 0:04:58.339 I tape his mouth? I don't know what to do 0:04:58.339 --> 0:05:00.739 about the chicken wings, and it's really causing some tension. 0:05:00.899 --> 0:05:02.819 I'd be putting his arms down in his sleep, he's 0:05:02.819 --> 0:05:04.899 not gonna wake up. Just lower them down gently onto 0:05:04.899 --> 0:05:05.459 his lap. 0:05:06.019 --> 0:05:07.499 Or I guess you could tie him. 0:05:07.459 --> 0:05:11.419 Up, like just wrap him up in robes so he's 0:05:11.859 --> 0:05:13.699 Grace Protessa, Grace's face. 0:05:13.779 --> 0:05:15.979 Just them was like right time in a little bow 0:05:17.019 --> 0:05:19.539 tied to the side of his body mouth, tape him 0:05:19.619 --> 0:05:21.379 up and then report back to us, let us know 0:05:21.419 --> 0:05:22.179 what he does. 0:05:23.739 --> 0:05:26.299 I'm so excited for our guests on the show today, 0:05:26.779 --> 0:05:27.779 Laura Henshaw. 0:05:27.899 --> 0:05:30.979 She's one half of the Absolute Empire that is Kick, 0:05:31.019 --> 0:05:34.699 which she hosts alongside and has started alongside Steph kless Smith. 0:05:34.779 --> 0:05:38.579 So we're talking like podcasting, fitness apps, they've got food, 0:05:38.619 --> 0:05:41.739 they've got so much in it. They're absolute juggernauts in 0:05:41.779 --> 0:05:44.939 the space. But we're not talking to Laura Henshaw about 0:05:44.939 --> 0:05:47.539 that today. We're talking to Laura Henshaw today because she 0:05:47.659 --> 0:05:51.659 has just announced she is in her second trimester of pregnancy. 0:05:52.019 --> 0:05:56.539 Now that might seem like everyone's like, Okay, cool, she's 0:05:56.579 --> 0:05:59.339 having a baby. But I think what's interesting about this 0:05:59.539 --> 0:06:02.859 is last year Laura released a mini series like a 0:06:02.859 --> 0:06:06.739 podcast series titled Do I Want Kids, because she's always 0:06:06.739 --> 0:06:08.499 been on the cusp of trying to decide what is 0:06:08.619 --> 0:06:10.419 right for her, and she wanted to put out the 0:06:10.419 --> 0:06:12.739 pressures that people experience when they are trying to make 0:06:12.739 --> 0:06:15.819 this big, life changing decision. And I related heavily to 0:06:15.859 --> 0:06:17.859 that because I've always been in the same space. 0:06:18.299 --> 0:06:20.339 Obviously, Laura has made the decision to have kids. 0:06:20.459 --> 0:06:23.619 She's on the show today. Welcome Laura, and congratulations. 0:06:24.379 --> 0:06:26.779 Hello, thank you so much, Laura. 0:06:26.939 --> 0:06:28.939 Now that here are coming out of the trenches of 0:06:29.019 --> 0:06:30.979 the first trimester, how are you feeling. 0:06:31.699 --> 0:06:34.699 Much much better now? The first trimester, I think as well, 0:06:34.739 --> 0:06:38.659 because you don't tell that many people, and also like 0:06:38.699 --> 0:06:43.579 it's obviously so early, the embryo is tiny. I felt 0:06:43.619 --> 0:06:47.619 so sick, and I also felt quite depressed, yes, which 0:06:47.699 --> 0:06:50.059 was it was a lot, a lot to take in, 0:06:50.099 --> 0:06:51.459 and I'd spoke to some friends about it and they 0:06:51.539 --> 0:06:53.739 kind of said, oh, I didn't feel that, and I 0:06:53.779 --> 0:06:55.179 was like, oh, my goodness, is something wrong with me? 0:06:55.219 --> 0:06:57.739 But anyway, now I'm out of the first trimester, I'm 0:06:57.779 --> 0:06:58.859 feeling alive again. 0:06:59.019 --> 0:07:01.139 I mean, you never know as well, because obviously your 0:07:01.139 --> 0:07:03.659 hormones are going crazy. But do you do you wonder 0:07:03.699 --> 0:07:06.419 whether or had you guys made the decision, Were you like, yes, 0:07:06.459 --> 0:07:08.899 we're trying for kids, or were you still a point 0:07:08.899 --> 0:07:11.699 where you were kind of fluctuating between this yes and 0:07:11.819 --> 0:07:13.819 no feeling inside you. 0:07:15.099 --> 0:07:18.179 So we had made the decision we wanted to have kids, 0:07:18.299 --> 0:07:20.099 but we were not trying. 0:07:20.179 --> 0:07:21.899 It's very interesting. There's seen a lot. 0:07:21.739 --> 0:07:24.179 Of conversation online about this, but you know, if I 0:07:24.259 --> 0:07:27.419 was having sex, therefore I was trying to have a child, 0:07:27.539 --> 0:07:30.219 Like people can, you know, say whatever they want to 0:07:30.219 --> 0:07:32.659 say and make judgment on that. But we weren't trying 0:07:32.659 --> 0:07:35.779 at the time. Like I was training for the London Marathon. 0:07:36.659 --> 0:07:39.299 I was literally like four weeks out from that. We 0:07:39.339 --> 0:07:41.619 had thought I had a laproscopy books in on the 0:07:41.619 --> 0:07:45.739 fifteenth of May, thinking that we had to like in 0:07:45.819 --> 0:07:48.179 Demitris is looking at that and kind of exploring a 0:07:48.219 --> 0:07:51.859 few other things. So we definitely were not Yes, we 0:07:51.859 --> 0:07:53.419 were not trying at the time. So it was a 0:07:53.499 --> 0:07:55.859 very big surprise, but we had decided we did want 0:07:55.859 --> 0:07:56.459 to have kids. 0:07:56.619 --> 0:07:59.259 What has the conversation been like off the back of 0:07:59.419 --> 0:08:02.259 doing a podcast series and been so openly vocal about 0:08:02.259 --> 0:08:04.939 the fact that you are unsure and then coming out 0:08:04.939 --> 0:08:07.219 saying you're pregnant, because I can imagine. I mean, I've 0:08:07.219 --> 0:08:09.499 seen a little bit of discourse around, which is a shame. 0:08:09.699 --> 0:08:11.339 But what do you want to say to those people? 0:08:11.379 --> 0:08:13.979 Because I feel like people are making it sound like 0:08:14.019 --> 0:08:15.699 once you've made a decision, you're not allowed to change 0:08:15.699 --> 0:08:16.099 your mind. 0:08:17.059 --> 0:08:20.099 Yes, that's exactly exactly right, And I feel like both 0:08:20.099 --> 0:08:22.259 of you would relate to this so much. And it's 0:08:22.299 --> 0:08:23.979 not just with having kids on it having kids that 0:08:24.059 --> 0:08:26.259 there's so many other decisions. But it's been really interesting, 0:08:26.259 --> 0:08:27.859 and I don't I didn't expect a lot of people 0:08:27.859 --> 0:08:31.179 to listen to the whole podcast series, but a lot 0:08:31.179 --> 0:08:33.339 of people, I think, saw a few snippets and thought, oh, 0:08:33.499 --> 0:08:36.299 you don't want to have kids. So a lot of 0:08:36.299 --> 0:08:39.459 the commentary has been, as you said, kind of saying, oh, like, 0:08:39.739 --> 0:08:41.579 didn't you not want to have kids five minutes ago? 0:08:41.659 --> 0:08:43.819 But I think while I didn't, we didn't change our mind, 0:08:43.859 --> 0:08:46.218 like we actually just genuinely didn't know when we made 0:08:46.259 --> 0:08:48.659 the decision that we did want to I think my 0:08:48.699 --> 0:08:51.819 biggest response to that is just that if we had 0:08:52.019 --> 0:08:55.459 changed our mind about a decision, that is life altering 0:08:55.539 --> 0:08:58.459 for us and affects no one outside of myself and 0:08:58.499 --> 0:09:03.219 my husband. It is completely okay for us totally change 0:09:03.299 --> 0:09:03.819 our mind. 0:09:04.539 --> 0:09:06.859 Yeah, but you know, I mean, the biggest thing I've 0:09:06.939 --> 0:09:09.979 learned throughout my mind the hood experience is that the 0:09:09.979 --> 0:09:11.859 people who are going to judge are going to judge anyway. 0:09:11.899 --> 0:09:13.419 The people who are going to have opinions on it 0:09:13.419 --> 0:09:16.578 are going to have opinions. And I think the reality 0:09:16.619 --> 0:09:18.459 is unless you kind of go into motherhood as this 0:09:18.539 --> 0:09:21.699 sacrificial land where your kids are every single thing that 0:09:21.739 --> 0:09:24.458 you've ever wanted and nothing else matters, there's always going 0:09:24.499 --> 0:09:26.539 to be some criticism. Whether that's because you're a working 0:09:26.619 --> 0:09:29.339 mum or because you're still running businesses or you know, 0:09:29.419 --> 0:09:32.579 it's the juggle and the pressure on mums to do 0:09:32.619 --> 0:09:35.019 it perfectly is so much greater than the pressure on that. 0:09:35.179 --> 0:09:36.859 But it's interesting that people have a go at you 0:09:36.979 --> 0:09:39.419 for taking your time to do your due diligence and 0:09:39.459 --> 0:09:41.579 work out what you really want, because if there's anything 0:09:41.659 --> 0:09:43.259 that you need to work out, if it's a yes 0:09:43.339 --> 0:09:45.579 or a no, it's having a life altering decision like 0:09:45.579 --> 0:09:46.179 having a child. 0:09:47.179 --> 0:09:49.659 Oh one hundred percent, I think the other thing is 0:09:49.699 --> 0:09:51.659 And it was really interesting and exploring the mini series 0:09:51.739 --> 0:09:53.379 last year, a lot of women said this to me, 0:09:53.419 --> 0:09:55.459 and I think it was really awesome that they were honest. 0:09:55.779 --> 0:09:59.419 They said that they at the start really didn't like 0:09:59.459 --> 0:10:02.619 that I was doing this podcast series because they didn't 0:10:02.659 --> 0:10:06.019 feel like they could make the choice for themselves. They felt, 0:10:06.019 --> 0:10:07.459 we know, there's so much like we live in a 0:10:07.459 --> 0:10:11.579 pernatal society, so much pressure on women like as our 0:10:11.939 --> 0:10:13.859 well I don't believe it's our purpose in society, but 0:10:13.939 --> 0:10:16.299 it is definitely a part of the kind of patriarchal 0:10:16.339 --> 0:10:20.859 belief system that we as women should bear children, and 0:10:20.899 --> 0:10:23.379 so a lot of women haven't felt like they could 0:10:23.419 --> 0:10:26.939 actually think about it and make that decision for themselves. 0:10:26.939 --> 0:10:29.059 And so I think as well, sometimes when we see 0:10:29.099 --> 0:10:32.179 someone like actually thinking about it, that can be a 0:10:32.179 --> 0:10:34.819 way that we reaction. I totally understand that. 0:10:34.859 --> 0:10:37.339 Well, I also think, I mean, for whatever reason, and 0:10:37.379 --> 0:10:40.659 it's obviously so deeply wrong, but there's a selfishness that's 0:10:40.659 --> 0:10:41.139 linked to it. 0:10:41.339 --> 0:10:43.219 We assume that if you don't want to have kids. 0:10:42.979 --> 0:10:45.139 Then there must be something about the life that you 0:10:45.179 --> 0:10:47.779 want to live that's inherently selfish. And it's just those 0:10:47.779 --> 0:10:50.459 two could not be further from the truth. But Laura, 0:10:50.499 --> 0:10:52.419 I saw something that you posted the other day, or 0:10:52.419 --> 0:10:54.299 it might have even been yesterday, and it was around 0:10:54.779 --> 0:10:57.779 when you I mean every influencer posts like the happy 0:10:57.819 --> 0:10:59.899 being on that you know, clear blue stick and the 0:11:00.019 --> 0:11:02.739 two double lines and crying, and it's all kind of 0:11:02.779 --> 0:11:05.819 like the same moment of happiness and joy. And I 0:11:05.939 --> 0:11:08.859 resonated so much to what you posted. You shared the 0:11:08.859 --> 0:11:11.739 moment that you've discovered you were pregnant and your husband, 0:11:11.819 --> 0:11:14.099 Dalton was in the shower, and it was just a 0:11:14.219 --> 0:11:19.338 very real moment that wasn't wrapped up in the absolute joy. 0:11:19.379 --> 0:11:22.019 It was wrapped up in more I guess, shock, shock 0:11:22.059 --> 0:11:24.979 and surprise and processing. What was I like for you guys? 0:11:25.859 --> 0:11:27.699 Oh yeah, And I mean, thank you for saying that. 0:11:27.739 --> 0:11:29.659 I mean, the funniest thing. I didn't even think about it, 0:11:29.699 --> 0:11:31.779 but everyone was like, why did your husband not get 0:11:31.819 --> 0:11:32.458 out of the shower? 0:11:33.899 --> 0:11:35.379 I was feeling and he was naked. 0:11:35.459 --> 0:11:38.899 He was also processing yakes. 0:11:39.219 --> 0:11:40.899 But that's right, and I think that's the thing. I 0:11:40.939 --> 0:11:43.379 was like, we didn't have I can't actually remember if 0:11:43.379 --> 0:11:45.819 we even hugged that day, like I'm sure we did 0:11:45.859 --> 0:11:48.699 at some point, but it was in this beautiful emotional embrace. 0:11:48.739 --> 0:11:52.019 And it's really interesting that thinking about that moment of 0:11:52.099 --> 0:11:55.619 finding out if like that we were pregnant was actually 0:11:55.619 --> 0:11:57.699 a part of the reason that I thought that maybe 0:11:57.699 --> 0:12:00.259 I was undeserving of having children or I shouldn't because 0:12:00.339 --> 0:12:02.899 I didn't think I was going to be emotional. And 0:12:03.099 --> 0:12:05.819 I'm really glad that I realized that that's no reason 0:12:05.859 --> 0:12:08.299 to decide to or not have kids. But the thing is, 0:12:08.339 --> 0:12:10.139 like for me, when I was shocked, I was in 0:12:10.259 --> 0:12:13.099 absolute shock. As I said, we weren't trying. Even if 0:12:13.179 --> 0:12:15.059 we were trying, I think it is always going to 0:12:15.099 --> 0:12:18.299 be a chockr and you're not necessarily going to respond 0:12:18.579 --> 0:12:20.779 in the way that you see online. And it's been 0:12:20.819 --> 0:12:23.859 it's been really interesting, like very much the same as 0:12:23.899 --> 0:12:26.299 your story. So many people wrote to me and said, 0:12:26.299 --> 0:12:29.099 oh my goodness. I've always felt like something was wrong 0:12:29.139 --> 0:12:30.899 with me because I didn't cry when I found out. 0:12:31.259 --> 0:12:33.379 But I'm so happy and I loved my child, but 0:12:33.619 --> 0:12:35.539 I did I didn't feel emotional. 0:12:35.179 --> 0:12:35.739 You know, Laura. 0:12:35.819 --> 0:12:37.739 I mean there's one reaction, which is shocked. When I 0:12:37.739 --> 0:12:39.859 found out I was pregnant, I sat on the floor 0:12:39.899 --> 0:12:43.139 and cried, not out of happiness. It was not planned 0:12:43.179 --> 0:12:45.179 I'd not been with my partner for very long at 0:12:45.219 --> 0:12:47.459 the time. I was really worried about how he was 0:12:47.499 --> 0:12:49.619 going to respond to it, because we knew we wanted 0:12:49.659 --> 0:12:53.459 to have kids, but it was still early doors and like, yeah, 0:12:53.699 --> 0:12:56.459 I sat on that bathroom floor by myself and bawled 0:12:56.459 --> 0:12:59.379 my eyes out because my reaction to it wasn't elated 0:12:59.459 --> 0:13:00.299 joy of motherhood. 0:13:00.339 --> 0:13:02.139 It was, oh, my god, what have I done well? 0:13:02.219 --> 0:13:05.179 Laura's I loved your response, Laura, that was like so 0:13:05.299 --> 0:13:06.379 practical and pragmatic. 0:13:06.619 --> 0:13:08.019 The first thing he said was like, can I still 0:13:08.059 --> 0:13:09.539 do the Lund Marathon. 0:13:11.259 --> 0:13:12.458 Priorities? And you didn't do it? 0:13:12.459 --> 0:13:14.659 And I remember you saying, what what what did you say? 0:13:14.659 --> 0:13:16.619 You said, something's happening with my mind? 0:13:16.619 --> 0:13:19.059 I said I was tired, which is true. 0:13:20.419 --> 0:13:22.779 You would have struggled in that first trimester, that's for sure. 0:13:22.859 --> 0:13:24.939 But I think it's of course I. 0:13:25.539 --> 0:13:27.819 That, like both you Lauras, are talking about the fact 0:13:27.859 --> 0:13:31.419 that it's it's not the way that everyone necessarily thinks 0:13:31.459 --> 0:13:34.979 it is, and maybe that your first impression isn't pure 0:13:35.059 --> 0:13:36.939 joy in happiness, but that doesn't take away from the 0:13:36.939 --> 0:13:38.578 fact that it's still something you. 0:13:38.539 --> 0:13:39.819 Love and want totally. 0:13:39.939 --> 0:13:42.019 And I think like, I mean, just in, I don't 0:13:42.019 --> 0:13:43.139 want to leave it with that. I start on the 0:13:43.139 --> 0:13:46.419 floor devastated and not round that one out. Becoming a 0:13:46.499 --> 0:13:48.259 mum has been the best thing that's ever happened to me, 0:13:48.459 --> 0:13:50.619 Like I could not love motherhood and being a mum 0:13:50.659 --> 0:13:53.019 to my beautiful girls more. And you know, I think 0:13:53.059 --> 0:13:55.819 that everyone has different reactions when they find out, and 0:13:55.899 --> 0:14:00.019 everyone processes pregnancy very differently, and that does has no 0:14:00.219 --> 0:14:01.859 indication on what type of mum you're. 0:14:01.739 --> 0:14:05.979 Going to be, Amen Queen, it's so to true. I 0:14:06.019 --> 0:14:08.458 think it's amazing that you shared that because I've had 0:14:08.539 --> 0:14:10.859 so it also messages and people saying I cried of 0:14:11.259 --> 0:14:14.019 like sad tears because I was like, what's going to happen? 0:14:14.019 --> 0:14:16.218 Of fear, and I felt like I could never tell 0:14:16.259 --> 0:14:18.299 anyone that because I felt like it meant I didn't 0:14:18.339 --> 0:14:20.779 love my child, when obviously that is not the case 0:14:20.859 --> 0:14:21.859 at all. 0:14:21.979 --> 0:14:24.259 What do you want to say to anyone listening that 0:14:24.819 --> 0:14:26.699 is maybe a bit undecided about whether they want to 0:14:26.739 --> 0:14:29.459 go down the journey of having kids, but they also 0:14:29.499 --> 0:14:31.779 feel the time crunch from the biological clock and the 0:14:31.819 --> 0:14:33.859 pressure asking for a friend as a thirty eight year. 0:14:33.739 --> 0:14:38.859 Old old, oh, yeah, it's a killer. I think the 0:14:38.899 --> 0:14:41.619 first thing I would say is that the fact that 0:14:41.659 --> 0:14:44.419 you are thinking about it, and you mentioned this before, Britt, 0:14:44.459 --> 0:14:47.579 it is a life altering decision is so important that 0:14:47.619 --> 0:14:49.419 we put time into thinking about it. So the fact 0:14:49.459 --> 0:14:52.499 you were thinking about it is so so so amazing. 0:14:53.219 --> 0:14:56.099 Go on the journey. And also just take that pressure 0:14:56.139 --> 0:14:58.099 off yourself. I think when you feel the clock, it's like, 0:14:58.099 --> 0:14:59.499 oh my goodness, I have to make the decision. I 0:14:59.499 --> 0:15:01.579 have to make the decision. But making the decision first 0:15:01.579 --> 0:15:04.819 for yourself that is the most important thing. And then 0:15:05.379 --> 0:15:07.739 you can look at Okay, what does this mean when 0:15:07.899 --> 0:15:09.459 we if you do decide you want to have kids, 0:15:09.419 --> 0:15:10.899 when we have to start trying, do we have to 0:15:10.899 --> 0:15:13.739 freeze our eggs? 0:15:12.859 --> 0:15:17.819 It is We could not be more thrilled for you. 0:15:17.859 --> 0:15:22.299 Congratulations, We were hooked. We can't wait to watch and 0:15:22.459 --> 0:15:25.139 follow and follow the pregnancy journey with you. No, we're 0:15:25.179 --> 0:15:26.859 just so exciteded for you. If you want to lie 0:15:26.859 --> 0:15:27.899 stream the birth or watch that. 0:15:27.859 --> 0:15:30.619 As well, Thank you so much. 0:15:30.699 --> 0:15:35.259 Guys. I have I have Marley May's birthday party this weekend. 0:15:35.899 --> 0:15:37.579 With kids' birthday parties. 0:15:37.179 --> 0:15:41.059 Big bit massive, especially for kids school because you know, 0:15:41.099 --> 0:15:42.659 you've got to invite all the school friends. 0:15:42.699 --> 0:15:44.019 I actually haven't been invited to that. 0:15:44.619 --> 0:15:46.099 Well, you're not a school friend. There's a bit more 0:15:46.099 --> 0:15:46.939 politics involved. 0:15:47.059 --> 0:15:47.579 What am I? 0:15:47.579 --> 0:15:48.419 I'm an auntie? 0:15:48.459 --> 0:15:50.139 You are? But no, that auntie isn't coming. 0:15:50.179 --> 0:15:51.819 It's like they get real specific when they get to 0:15:51.859 --> 0:15:53.419 school and they pick exactly who's coming. 0:15:53.619 --> 0:15:54.779 So now she didn't invite me. 0:15:57.859 --> 0:15:59.059 She play on as you were. 0:15:59.179 --> 0:16:01.059 Marley's old enough to choose her friends now and you 0:16:01.099 --> 0:16:01.779 didn't make the cups. 0:16:01.819 --> 0:16:03.699 So sorry, Britt, you can come over and why don't 0:16:03.699 --> 0:16:03.979 I take that? 0:16:04.019 --> 0:16:05.699 So pers you can have a juice with me instead. 0:16:06.059 --> 0:16:08.979 But look, there is an Aussie mama who has absolutely 0:16:09.499 --> 0:16:13.339 divided followers online and also has received a lot of 0:16:13.379 --> 0:16:17.339 criticism for the very unconventional gift that she brings to kids' 0:16:17.379 --> 0:16:18.099 birthday parties. 0:16:18.099 --> 0:16:20.419 Have listen to this, so you know, when you're at 0:16:20.459 --> 0:16:23.419 a kid's birthday party and everyone wants to help, but 0:16:23.619 --> 0:16:26.779 nobody knows how to help because they don't know any 0:16:26.939 --> 0:16:28.939 where any of the cleaning stuff is. 0:16:29.259 --> 0:16:33.699 So I bring my bag of rags. I bring cleaning rags. 0:16:33.859 --> 0:16:36.819 I like to bring dishwashing detergent because you can bet 0:16:36.859 --> 0:16:39.979 your boots that the parents of may have run out 0:16:40.019 --> 0:16:42.899 of dishwashing liquid. And the other thing I bring is 0:16:42.979 --> 0:16:45.739 a lot a lot of tea towels. So that's my 0:16:45.859 --> 0:16:49.019 presence for a kid's birthday party, A bag of rags. 0:16:49.059 --> 0:16:50.259 Does anyone else do like that? 0:16:50.739 --> 0:16:53.939 No, but she doesn't get invited in many places, no 0:16:53.979 --> 0:16:54.939 one else does that. 0:16:55.099 --> 0:16:57.139 Imagine that day. Here's a bag of rag. 0:16:57.539 --> 0:17:01.259 Okay, I saw this. I have a sneaking suspicion she does. 0:17:01.099 --> 0:17:03.619 Not want to be invited to kids birthday party? 0:17:03.659 --> 0:17:05.579