WEBVTT - GRWM for the next level 💅🏼✨ 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.600 It's honestly easier to stay where you are. You don't 0:00:03.640 --> 0:00:06.560 have to do the work, you are comfortable, you don't 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:09.160 have to take the risk. There's no risk of falling. 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:12.319 But it's like, do you want to do that or 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:14.600 do you want to move to the next level? You 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:25.680 always have a choice. Hello and welcome back to the 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:29.400 Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast for ordinary 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:42.920 people who want to do extraordinary things. Hello and welcome 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:45.520 back to the Rising Conker Podcast. It is your host, 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:51.879 Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, mother, business owner, all the 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:57.800 things guys. Today we are chatting how to know when 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:01.120 you are moving to the next level and how to 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:05.040 deal with it because it usually doesn't feel good. Yes, 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:09.119 a Tea doesn't know what we're talking about in this. 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:10.560 Episode, so her face lit up. 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:14.440 Then she's like, oh love, So guys, before we get 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:17.280 into that, though, I do want to just say last 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:21.360 week was a bit wild. I just want to give 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:24.119 a shout out and just say thank you so much 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:28.440 for all the love and support on my LSKD Rise collection. 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:33.720 Very surreal, very thankful to you guys, and. 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:35.000 It's the best collection ever. 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:41.880 I Tea pretty much sold out the collection guy myself. No, 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:43.880 it's not fully sold out, but a lot of like 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.440 you know, the key styles sold out very fast. We 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:50.080 kind of knew that. So just incredible. Yeah, I don't 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:53.240 know what else to say, but thank you. It's always 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:56.720 a weird thing when you're putting something out that is 0:01:56.800 --> 0:02:01.080 your creation, your personal choices, because you know, if people 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:05.800 don't like it, it does feel very personal. So like I, 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:09.400 you know, had a lot of anxiety around it, just 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:11.840 a little you know, nervousness to be expected. 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:13.160 Yeah, so feel. 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:16.320 Very relieved and like, yeah, very thankful and very grateful. 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:20.080 I know I would be nowhere without my community. So 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.160 I'm just so glad you guys like the collection and 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:23.760 I can't wait to see you guys in it. 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:25.639 But yeah, so let's. 0:02:25.360 --> 0:02:27.000 Talk about new chapters a tear. 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:27.880 I'm so excited. 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:32.600 So I have kind of expressed to you guys that 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:37.040 I'm going through this weird limbo stage where I kind 0:02:37.040 --> 0:02:41.680 of know I'm in a transition entering into a new chapter. Obviously, 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:44.959 I've just become a mom. I'm navigating what that looks 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:49.240 like with my businesses and just mom life is very hard, 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:54.000 and I definitely don't feel like I've found my feet. 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:57.360 I definitely don't have it all together, and then throwing 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:00.760 in me Tim and Ivy and moving house, which. 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:01.720 Is really exciting. 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:04.799 So I just feel like that towards the end of 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:06.800 the year is going to be this big thing of 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.600 like settling in or finding our feet, and then you know, 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:13.040 next year will be when I feel more I guess, 0:03:13.120 --> 0:03:17.960 like secure and grounded. Yeah, grounded in like myself. And 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:20.880 I think that's another thing too, is personally I feel 0:03:21.080 --> 0:03:24.960 very I guess I'm sure on like who Georgie is, 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:29.520 which I don't know if you guys get that from 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:32.880 how I am or if that does, I haven't got that. 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:35.240 And that's and that's why I want to be very 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.720 open and transparent because I think on Instagram it looks 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:40.640 like I've got it all together and I'm killing mom 0:03:40.760 --> 0:03:44.880 life and I'm killing it in my businesses and not 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.640 not that I'm not, but I think, you know, what 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:53.200 happens in your mind internally is just usually a lot different, 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.400 and I think that's and that's why I want to 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:58.200 chat about this today because you know, I am someone 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:00.480 who has done a lot of self development and I 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:04.000 have gone through a lot of deaths, of my old 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:07.640 self and like very much transformed and you know, gone 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:10.000 to that next level and then gone to that next level. 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:15.160 But it's like it doesn't get easier. I'm exhausted. 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:19.560 So I'm currently like in the midst of it, and 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:22.200 so I'm like, I usually talk about things after. I 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.000 love to have it all together for you guys. I 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:26.719 love to have all my notes, have all my journaling 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:30.000 prompts for you, and I don't. No, I definitely have 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:33.040 some journaling prompts, but I thought, let's just talk about 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:36.200 it raw and real. I'm literally in the midst of 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:39.360 going to a next level, so let's like explore that. 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:40.280 Let's talk about that. 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:44.760 I have a question straight up, how long does this 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:47.839 period usually last for you? Or is it sometimes like 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:51.120 a few weeks? Is it sometimes a few months? How 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:54.120 long do you feel this current one has been going 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.240 on for in the sense that, like, I know, some 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:58.159 people might think they're going to the next level and 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.560 then they're like, but it's been six months feeling like that. Yeah, 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:04.719 it's always going to depend on what that next sort 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:06.720 of chapter and that next level is for you. 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:09.440 But for example, I feel like I've been going through 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:12.960 this like since i'vey was born. Yeah, so like nearly 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:18.640 nine months, and it also doesn't look very clear. But 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:22.000 I think that's my point of this episode is you 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:27.040 need to get comfortable with that, because otherwise, anytime you 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:30.800 do enter this, you know, uncertainty stage going to the 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:35.760 next level, you will spiral and sometimes it is a 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:38.680 long period of time and if you can't handle it, yeah, 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:44.880 you regress. Yeah, of course, So let's chat about how 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:49.799 I've realized I'm in this very specific time of entering 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:52.760 a new chapter, entering the next level. So guys, when 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:57.080 I say the next level, I'm just talking about the 0:05:57.120 --> 0:06:00.920 next you, the next embodiment of you that is different 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.520 to who you are. And of course we have very 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:06.200 subtle next levels that it's like you might look back 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:08.400 and be like, oh my god, I've come so far, 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:11.520 it was so easy, felt so aligned the whole time. 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:15.320 Those are great next levels, and then sometimes life will 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:19.440 just feel not aligned, life will feel quite difficult, and 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:21.640 you'll be like you, it's a feeling of being like 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:25.120 really stuck, and like, why are things not just happening 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.960 a bit more simpler and a bit more easier. Why 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:32.000 do I feel uncertain? For example, me, I've struggled a 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:35.960 lot with my intuition. I'm usually someone who's so strong 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:39.040 my intuition. I know what I want. I don't poll people. 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:42.599 I'm like very scented and grounded. And you've probably noticed 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:46.240 lately a Tia I've been pulling people and being like, yeah, 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:48.479 what should I do here? And that's that's not me. 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:51.800 And so that's how I know I'm going to, you know, 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:54.359 the next level because she's feeling a bit funky. 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:55.480 Yeah. 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:58.400 So I've known I'm in this transition, but it wasn't 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:01.920 until recently that it got really clear for me. And 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:05.039 I've been very open with you guys about our new 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:08.560 house so exciting, which was supposed to be my goal 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:11.200 for the project, but it happened sooner than we thought. 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:14.960 I won't go into the whole thing, but basically, long 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.800 story short, the house came into our life in a 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.600 very weird way of I had my eye on this 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:23.840 house for years, but never thought it was in my reach, 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:27.520 never thought I was good enough. Like I just was like, 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.040 oh my god, no, like I just I could never 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:32.520 it was that sort of thing. But then I couldn't 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:35.160 stop thinking about it. It was not actually on market. 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:37.960 I text the agent said, you know, would they seller 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:42.240 be interested in buying? They were long story short, that 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:44.200 is like how it happened, and there was a bit 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.800 of back and forth where we agreed to a price. 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:48.840 I thought it was happening, and then the seller kind 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:51.000 of said no, it was off the table. And then 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.880 a couple of months later they came back and they said, yes, 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:57.560 it's back on. So this has been happening like for ages. 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.960 I can't even remember the month, like maybe May it started, 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.920 so six months that it has been like hot and cold. 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:08.520 Been been really playing with me. But everything is happening. 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.920 You know, finance went through, everything was perfect. So we're 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:13.640 a couple of weeks away from settlement. 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.000 Yay. And it's funny though. 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:18.160 Because I even thought to myself, I actually don't usually 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:19.920 tell people until like we're. 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.480 In the house. Yeah, but I told everyone. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:27.280 And so we've got a call from like the lawyers 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.680 the other day. I'm not going to get into the specifics, 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:34.320 but something had happen where we legally could terminate the 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:38.640 contract because they found something you know, that the seller 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:41.040 had not disclosed. Blah blah blah blah. Not going to 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:43.959 get into it. So we came to and also. 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.200 Guys, my mouth is like, oh I happen right now? 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:48.160 She's like what? 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.960 And I literally thought to myself, I went, I spiraled. 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:54.400 I was like, oh my god, I knew this was 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:58.080 going to happen. No, I we're not meant for that house. 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:00.680 Not that we're not meant because I've all along this 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:03.200 house is meant for us. But I was like, how 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:05.800 could I think that we could have that house? Now? 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:08.920 Who am I to have that sort of property now? 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:13.840 But like this, this is in your court though, right, yeah, 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:14.920 yeah you can termine. 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:18.160 We yeah, we get to side. But the news was Okay. 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.560 I did think about it. I was like, maybe we 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:24.320 should Okay, it didn't look great, right, but we still 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:28.240 had the decision correct, Okay. So but that's what I mean. 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:31.360 I spiraled and I was like, you know, maybe this 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:33.480 is a sign we're not actually meant to go in 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:36.880 this house. And I have a lot of fear with 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:39.520 this house because it does feel very you know, next 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:42.160 level for you know, me and Tim. It does feel 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:47.880 like a stretch, you know, financially, and even I've had 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:50.360 a lot of fear to be very transparent, like you know, 0:09:50.480 --> 0:09:54.200 the interest rates have been rising and so I've been like, 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:57.720 you know, there's talks of a recession coming and all 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:02.360 these things that I'm like, very fear based of, Oh 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:05.560 this is you know, this is happening, because you know, 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:09.000 if we do go ahead with the house, something's going 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.440 to happen, you know, with the recession, with the business, 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:13.439 we're going to lose the house, or we're gonna have 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:15.720 to sell it, or you know, all these very fear 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:18.560 based things which you get from the news. And so 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:21.800 my mind straight like straight away went there. And it's 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.280 funny because I was talking to Cooper and I explained 0:10:24.280 --> 0:10:26.320 to him what had happened, and I was like, well, 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:27.280 that's it, We're not going to. 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:28.800 Get the house. Blah blah blah. 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:31.240 I can't believe it's been such a fuck around, you know, 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:33.000 very negative, very spirally. 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:37.320 And he literally like laughed and he's like rudo. 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:43.199 He's like, pull it together, Georgia. He said, you are 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:46.680 just scared because you're going to the next level and 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:50.760 you're going into the unknown. And I am so I 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.599 know he pulled me on my shit straight away, and 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:57.080 he goes what came up is like nothing, like, who cares, 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:59.360 It's a joke. I can't believe you'd even think about, 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:04.000 you know, bletmody Like yeah, get over it basically was 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:07.280 his answer. And he just said to me straight up, 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:09.840 He goes, I know you're scared of this. I know 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:13.720 you're scared, and that is because this is next level Georgie. 0:11:13.760 --> 0:11:17.560 This is Georgie who you've spoken about for years, and 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.400 you know you're you're scared of going to this new chapter. 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:23.080 You've got a new baby. You know, there's already a 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:25.880 lot that is happening that feels unknown and out of 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:29.679 your control. So you're holding on to what you can 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:35.719 of what feels known. But he's like, we don't do that, Georgia. 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:41.000 I'm like, fuck, And he completely pulled me up on 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:41.440 my shit. 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.720 That's so good, which is so good. 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:46.040 It's funny because he literally like was laughing at me 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:50.040 and I was like about crying, and it then got 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:52.840 me thinking and I had to literally get me little 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:57.320 journal out and journal through all these fears and limiting 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:00.520 beliefs around. So, first of all, you know, with the 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:04.120 house of the financial stretch, it's like I had to go, well, 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:06.680 you wouldn't have got the finance if you couldn't afford 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:07.120 this house. 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:11.319 There's somebody's job to check back. 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:14.679 Yeah, like you know, and it's not It's definitely not 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.240 like we bought this house outright, so like you wouldn't 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:20.000 have got the finance if you could not afford this house. Yeah, 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.880 they've done their backwork. A bank's not going to give 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.200 you the loan if you cannot repay it. And then 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.040 I had to go. A big thing also about this 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:30.680 house is obviously because the seller had a lot of 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:32.640 power because we came to them or was like we 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:36.000 want the house, you know, price wise. It's not like 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:39.360 we got you know, a sweet deal you know when 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:41.040 I don't know if you know this, Stia, but when 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:44.280 you purchase a house and obviously get a loan for 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.640 the house, the bank sends in a value are that 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:50.440 just make sure the price that you're paying for the 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:53.920 house is correct and they can you know, for instance, 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.400 if something was to happen and they have to sell 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:57.319 the house, they know. 0:12:57.280 --> 0:12:59.880 The bank can get their money back. Yeah. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.120 So obviously they did that and it checked out. So 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:04.200 it's not like I know, what we're paying is good. 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:07.800 But it's not like you know, with the current chips, no, 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:10.320 like the current market that was never going to happen. Yeah, 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:14.840 And also I very much make our house decisions off 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:17.640 this is our family home. This is not me wanting 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:20.080 to flip a house and make money off it. It's like, 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:22.280 this is our family home. This is going to create 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:23.440 memories that. 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:25.840 This is where Ivy will grow up kind of correct 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:26.360 and this. 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:29.000 So that's the vibe. So it's always like that's what 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.600 it is. So then even that side of things, I, 0:13:32.760 --> 0:13:34.880 you know, have some limiting beliefs around that, oh did 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:35.720 we pay too much? 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:36.400 You know? 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:38.560 Is this are we now going to not be able 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:40.800 for the repayments because the interest rates are going up? 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.360 And so something I had to do with that limiting 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:47.480 belief is remind myself. So with our current house that 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:50.960 we're in, kind of a similar thing happened where our 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:53.920 current house is, like we were just wanting to move 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:56.040 to the Gold Coast. We didn't we wanted to live 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:58.520 in that certain area because Cooper lived there and we 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:01.240 didn't have any other family in the Gold Coast. It 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:03.840 also was just like so perfect in the way of 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:06.839 it was a Whitehampton's house, it was brand new, it 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:10.320 was like everything that we wanted. Yeah, so you know, 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:12.640 like real estate dot Com where they're like offers over 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:16.240 this price, and you're obviously supposed to go in under 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:18.200 and then like barter and whatnot. 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:19.920 Yeah, we just went straight and were. 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:24.280 Because they said there's another person bidding, like give us 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:26.960 your final offer basically, so again we're just like, yeah, 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:28.640 this is our max, this is our max. 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:29.480 Of course we paid that. 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:32.720 And it's funny because at that time, when we bought 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.560 three years ago, I had a friend who was no 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:37.440 longer a friend who was like a real estate person, 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:42.080 who was like, you've paid too much, blah blah blah, doubts, 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:46.240 limiting beliefs. And it's funny because obviously then the market 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:49.840 went crazy and our house value pretty much doubled, and 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:53.520 so I was like, do you know what I mean, Like, Georgia, 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:56.160 stop being silly. Yeah, because you have absolutely no idea. 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:59.960 What you have no idea? And also worst case scenario 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:03.240 so if for whatever reason, like interest rates or anything, 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:07.280 you can just sell the house, yeah, it's like and 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:09.320 go back into the one yeah like it. 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:09.800 Yeah. 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:13.440 So I had to work through these limiting beliefs, and 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:18.680 I guess a big thing for me is knowing when 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:23.120 I am, you know, standing in my own way and 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:27.840 just kind of creating worrying problems that don't actually need 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:30.560 to be there. Yeah, and so that was a moment 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:33.520 where I had to catch myself and I had to 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:35.800 go through the limiting beliefs, like I went through the 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:38.360 exact formula that we teach in the Rise and Conker Project. 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:41.320 And I guess I wanted to be very like upfront 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:44.280 and transparent because I think some people can think I 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:48.000 would never have those thoughts or I would never you know, 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:51.760 not have the belief in myself. But it's like we 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:56.880 all have these thoughts and it always feels uncomfortable, and 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.560 it's honestly easier to stay where you are. 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:02.880 It's easier always you. 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:06.080 Don't have to do the work, you are comfortable, you 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:09.120 don't have to take the risk, there's no risk of falling. 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:12.880 But it's like do you want to do that or 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:16.200 do you want to move to the next level? Yeah, 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:17.520 you always have a choice. 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:22.440 And when you felt those limiting beliefs and stuff starting 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:26.120 to creep in, obviously you wouldn't never recognize straight away 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:29.000 that that's what was happening. Yes, how did you like 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:32.800 what was the trigger where you were like, I'm blocking myself. 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:35.600 Love so and I Min Cooper had this conversation the 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:38.000 other day because he was going through something where he 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:40.880 was deciding whether to do something and I was like, 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:44.840 the reason or not doing it is it because of fear? 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.560 And he's like, yes, well I was like, oh, well, 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:50.920 it's a limiting belief. So anything that comes up that 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:55.920 is fear based means that it's like you were trying 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:59.240 to protect yourself, which is great that you do that, 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:03.960 because that's why we, you know, don't die. It's important 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:06.960 we have the ego. But anything that comes from a 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:12.280 fear base, not that feels aligned and in integrity, is 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:15.800 what I know is a limited belief. And also, if 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:20.520 you are somewhat clear on your next level, huge thing 0:17:21.000 --> 0:17:24.639 is when you're making that decision, are you currently making 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:28.679 it from the person you are now, who is feeling 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:33.639 scared fear based, you know, uncomfortable, or are you making 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:36.639 it from the person who you want to be and 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:39.000 who's done the thing, who's done the thing and what 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:42.400 would they do? And I think that's very much huge 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:46.040 thing about moving to the next level is embodying that 0:17:46.160 --> 0:17:49.600 person before it feels comfortable. Yeah, because I think some 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:53.000 people think, oh, you know, I'll just I'll wait until 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:56.879 I feel confident or I'll wait until this thing, but 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:59.280 it's like you don't actually realize you have to do 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:02.760 the thing first and then you feel confident literally, right. 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:05.000 I feel like that's the biggest one, is like even 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:06.920 with the one that comes to mind is weight loss. 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.000 When people are like, oh, our wear dress is like 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:12.280 that when I'm skinny, Yes, but like you have to 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:15.720 wear that dress now, yes, and then you will start 0:18:15.720 --> 0:18:17.600 to feel comfortable and beautiful no matter what. 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:21.960 Yep, exactly. And then something that I guess, you know, 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:24.119 something that came up to me in the exercise that 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:28.640 I did was really embodying the person who I want 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:31.520 to be. And so it is hard sometimes because we're 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:32.359 not often clear. 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:33.040 Yeah. 0:18:33.080 --> 0:18:35.159 So like I said, like I'm feeling a bit unclear 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:37.840 and feeling a bit you know, burnt out, and I 0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:40.199 think the best thing if you're feeling unclear is to 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:43.120 create space. So that's like a huge thing that I'm 0:18:43.119 --> 0:18:46.280 doing right now is like I'm not booking things in. 0:18:46.840 --> 0:18:48.720 I've got a lot of things booked in, but that's 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:53.240 for example, something I'm doing is like not booking things 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:56.240 in the new year. We may have you know, tentative things, 0:18:56.280 --> 0:18:59.280 but we're not hard booking things in because I just 0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:03.360 expressed but it's I need some space to actually regroup 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:05.639 and get clear on like who I want to be 0:19:05.680 --> 0:19:08.719 and what I want to embody. But I guess I 0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:11.000 wanted to just come on here and be like, it's 0:19:11.200 --> 0:19:15.199 always going to feel uncomfortable, and it's also going to 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:19.640 feel like who am I to want that thing? Who 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:22.840 am I to? You know? Why do I need to 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:26.199 be that person? Why do I, you know, need that house? 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:28.760 Who am I to have that sort of house? Or 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:31.520 like who am I to get that promotion? Why don't 0:19:31.520 --> 0:19:34.280 we even care about that promotion? We always have these 0:19:34.320 --> 0:19:36.520 things that come up. It's like it's the same as 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:39.320 who am I to start that business? Who am I to? 0:19:39.400 --> 0:19:39.600 You know? 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:42.520 Put myself first when there's you know, people I've got 0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:45.240 to look after and this and that. And I think 0:19:45.280 --> 0:19:47.480 the big thing of what I was just saying before 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:50.840 is if we look at a lot of successful people, 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:56.520 it's because they very much embody their vision. I do 0:19:56.720 --> 0:19:58.560 like that. I have a question as well. 0:19:58.720 --> 0:20:01.760 Yeah, when you say, say you're creating space and you're 0:20:01.760 --> 0:20:04.960 not booking things in, Yeah, how would that look like 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:07.960 for someone who might not be self employed. Because obviously, 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:10.480 for you, that means like tentatively putting things in for 0:20:10.680 --> 0:20:12.600 NH or for R and C, or for like your 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:15.160 personal brand. But what would that look like for someone 0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:17.160 who's just got the nine to five? How did they 0:20:17.240 --> 0:20:21.640 create space in that sense? Well, obviously in their job 0:20:21.760 --> 0:20:24.320 that is, that's not where it's going to happen because 0:20:24.520 --> 0:20:27.720 you're working for someone else. Yeah, but it's creating space, 0:20:28.000 --> 0:20:31.480 you know, in your routine, in your weekends. You know, 0:20:31.760 --> 0:20:34.879 I'm someone who gets recharged when I'm like alone or 0:20:34.920 --> 0:20:38.280 like family time, So it would be putting. 0:20:38.040 --> 0:20:40.680 That in for me. But well, I guess, like onto 0:20:40.680 --> 0:20:43.800 that I tea, I do have some journal prompts that 0:20:44.040 --> 0:20:47.200 for the audience if they are in a similar situation, 0:20:47.600 --> 0:20:50.439 because I think sometimes it is hard to see and 0:20:50.520 --> 0:20:53.840 I think sometimes like in my instance, I've kind of 0:20:53.880 --> 0:20:56.920 caught myself. But I think if you don't catch yourself, 0:20:57.000 --> 0:21:00.000 you do tend to self sabotage. Absolutely, because what I 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:03.879