WEBVTT - The Guy Who Joked About His Brothers Affair At The Wedding! 💒 👰 💍 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.600 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast, brought to you by. 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:10.880 Hallo, Yeas and Yet Pets, Flex and Yeat. I love 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:14.240 that yeatets Yeat Bix my new favorite breakfast. 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:17.000 There's something there. Oh God, I love to say it. 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:21.120 I haven't had a Wheat Bix since I was a child, 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:24.920 and I've been really craving milky things, like I want 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:26.680 to get back into crunchy not and wheat bigs, but 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:28.360 I just don't think it will agree with me. I 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:32.680 can't have chok tops anymore. Why Because I mentioned to 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:35.120 you earlier that I'm trying to improve my mind body 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:38.240 mind muscle connection, which means listening to my body's feeling 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:42.440 after everything. So, as you know, sally best friend, Sally 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:46.599 lactose intolerant in denial, as we all kind of are 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:48.840 with that kind of thing. But she started taking lack teas. 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:51.199 I was like, I don't need that. Mild with it. 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:58.080 Went to the cinema, had a chok top, guts bustard spawn. 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:01.080 I could not believe it. I didn't even enjoy it 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:03.040 that way. Did you go to the toilet? Yeah? It was. 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:05.160 It was like dead foot and I was squirming in 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.800 the sea. And from there I was like, Nah, it's 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:08.319 not for me. 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:10.840 I don't want to say this, but as you're speaking, 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:15.360 my gut is making the most crazy noise curdling. 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:19.520 I gotta go. Let's get to it. Not me just 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:24.760 playing on my I'm really going to go flex and 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:27.800 I don't have a food that I'm excited to eat 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:31.760 at the moment. It's every day I'm getting really bored 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.920 of the food options. And it's sad because when I'm 0:01:35.920 --> 0:01:38.319 not in Sydney, I'm so excited. There's so many options. 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:40.920 Had this amazing taco when Hobart's still thinking about it, 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:43.399 had this amazing Brocolini and Hobart still thinking about it 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:46.880 the Brocolni episode. But you know, I will manifest like 0:01:46.920 --> 0:01:50.080 you said on you, I'm excited for you. Thank you. 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:53.040 You read a lot of books, don't you? So many? Well? 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:54.320 I read that. 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:57.600 It is possible to properly lose yourself in a book. 0:01:57.840 --> 0:02:00.680 Have you heard about that? I am that what I 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:05.960 think this is. I am so attached to some book 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:07.880 characters I'm not even playing really. 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:08.320 Do you know? 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.200 That's why I have to stop talking about Twilight in 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:15.400 a serious way, because I was getting upset, upset about 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:18.240 what people were just roasting Edward and I was like, okay, well, 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:19.920 if you read the books, you would understand where he 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:24.160 was coming from and you saw you actually affected you. Yeah, 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:27.320 or I would. So I read a lot of books now, 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:31.280 but I try not to share what I think about 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:35.040 them while i'm reading them, because if somebody has already 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:37.040 finished it and it is really critical, it puts me off. 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:40.000 Or if I really like a character and I don't 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:41.639 know that they turn out to be a dickhead later on, 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:43.920 and I was like, if I don't want to hear it, 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:45.760 I just want to enjoy. I like that. 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:48.320 Well, that is actually extremely related to what I'm about 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:51.120 to say, and that is that what you're experiencing is 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:52.680 called experience taking. 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:55.080 So when you're reading a book and. 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:57.880 They're in a scenario, you can often put yourself into 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:00.120 their shoes and you feel like you are them, and 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:03.080 it's really interesting. There's been studies done about it. For example, 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:06.800 I think it was maybe I want to say the seventies, 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:08.040 but it could have been twenty twelve. 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:09.600 It's one of those things. 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:13.880 It happened, and they wanted to test out gay characters. 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:17.919 They recruited all these straight college students and one group 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:21.000 had a character who was openly gay from the start, 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:23.720 another one was a control group, and then the last 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:25.200 one turned out to. 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.080 Be gay at the very end of the night. That 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:27.760 was the big twist. 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.720 That was the twist, and they wanted to see how 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:32.680 much experience taking each group had, and it turned out 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:35.840 that the ones who the character was gay at the 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:38.520 very end, they only just found out they related to 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:41.720 the most because they were like, Oh, he's more like me, 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:46.760 and it's funny. They actually attributed more feminine traits to 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:48.560 the men that they knew was gay from the start 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:52.640 and all these pre preconceived ideas about him, whereas if 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:54.920 the character turned out to be gay later on, they 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:57.600 thought it was more masculine because they related to him. 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.680 I feel that also side note, you know, my theory 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:03.280 is about fiction. I think that because you know, when 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:05.960 people want to be better people, they go to nonfiction 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:09.440 self development or whatever. I think the easiest way to 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:12.680 be a more well rounded person is to read fiction, 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.800 because you have to step outside your reality so much 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:19.440 even comprehend what's happening, let alone step further out to 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:22.599 resonate with the characters, resonate with the storyline. Do you 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:24.840 want to be a nicer person, read a book about 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:29.600 witches or something I extremely agree, flex and frooms. 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:32.320 Here on flecks and frooms, we ask the hard questions 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:34.680 that no one else is ready to ask. 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:38.360 Every single day, relentless, thankless, it never stops. 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:42.800 And today's question is, of course, which are you? There's 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:43.800 two types of people. 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:44.080 In the world. 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:48.760 What are some types like tomato tomato, sure, tomato sauce 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:52.080 and the fridge, tomato sauce in the cupboards, tomato sauce 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:54.880 and burgers, or no tomatoo. 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:58.200 Or controversially, water at room temple, ice cold. We know 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:03.000 what's better for digestion, but socially there's a preferred one. True. 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:05.360 Well, today's is a simple one. It's one that all 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:08.880 humans and aliens around the globe can relate to, and 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:12.919 that is whether you are a fart or a burper. 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.560 I'm gonna kick it off with what I am. Great, 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:19.560 thank you for disclosing. I'm not even gonna make you guess. Okay, great, 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.840 I'm not here to play games. I'm here to go 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:26.119 all in for farting. I cannot believe when I say 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:29.120 are you a burper or a farter that anyone would 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:31.080 ever choose burping belching? 0:05:31.320 --> 0:05:33.719 Is this what would one prefer or what one does 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:35.240 more often? Both? 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:39.560 So I'm a natural born fart and I want to 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:42.280 keep it that way. So I am both fart by 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:43.880 nature and fart by nurture. 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:48.320 Oh amazing. However, burping, I don't know you're a burper. 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:52.120 What do you think you're a burper? Really? Yeah, up 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:55.200 the gullet, up the gullet. Well, I'm happy to disclose 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:58.719 that I'm in fact a farer. Now you have seen 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:02.320 me on occasion try to get out of burp. But 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:05.800 I don't have the reflexes. My guzzler isn't built for that. 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:08.159 I really have to push stuff out if I was 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:10.600 a burp, but I wouldn't be as flemy. True, this 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:14.800 stuff is stays clogged. Nothing's coming in, nothing's going out. 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:17.640 Well, I'm gona know because we have spent some time together. 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:19.800 Now we have gone to the toilet at the same time. 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:23.000 Was that you and the cubicle before? Yeah? You giggled, 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:24.600 and I thought because you knew I was in there, 0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:27.360 so I giggled with I didn't know why were you 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:28.680 giggling if you didn't know who was in there? 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:31.120 I was giggling because I went in and there was 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:33.640 no toilet paper, and you didn't say anything. 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:35.640 So I did a little way, then got up and 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:38.800 waddled to the next toilet. There was no toilet paper. 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:40.520 What was I to do? And then came back to 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:43.520 the original toilet. Nah? Nah? So when when did the 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:44.440 flush occur? Oh? 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:48.520 No flush it was it was a millimeter of we Anyway, 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:52.479 I digress, as you would say, I'm all for farting. 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:57.360 I want to circle back. How do you soil a 0:06:57.400 --> 0:07:02.120 public toilet and then not rush? As I say? This 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:04.160 was like you wake up at three am? Or let 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.480 me just quickly let one loose. Don't want to wake 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:08.599 up the roomies, go back to bed, let me not. 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:13.560 People say I'm mean. I just say I'm observant. Do 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:17.000 you know how I felt waddling with my skirt. I 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:21.480 don't mean to beerate you in your time of need. However, 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:25.800 you walked into a bathroom with one cubicle in use, 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.360 presumably that cubicle had toilet paper. You went into yours 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:32.920 the far right, it's there's three. Did a little little 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.960 tinkle apparently it's not twinkled tinkle. Did a little tinkle 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:41.240 maybe while we're talking twenty mills, thirty mini. It was 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:46.080 a drop thirty mills. Then used your pelvic floor to 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:49.560 hold in the rest, zip it up, went to another cubicle. 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:52.840 And at no point did you think just to ask 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:55.320 the person in the cubicle for toilet paper. 0:07:56.400 --> 0:08:00.000 Look earlier in the week, you shamed me, You pissed 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:02.480 shamed me. I did because I wee like a horse 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:04.160 and I'd do it again, And so I didn't want 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:06.800 to be outing myself as a person who's next to 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:08.040 you in a cubicle saying can I have. 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.680 Some toilet paper? It's a bit of urination shame. It 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:15.040 was urination day. This is flex and frooms on Cada. 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:18.440 What I did on Saturday last week was go out 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:21.600 for a midday drink, which is such a pleasure. I 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:22.920 thought I was just gonna go out for lunch with 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.440 a friend, end up having an espresso martini. 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:28.840 How is that? It was delicious? Until it wasn't. 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:32.120 Oh, we're sitting at like quite a fancy restaurant. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:36.200 Not name dropping. It rhymes with sart booner. 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:40.280 Doesn't ring a bell, but continue anyway, We're sitting like 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:44.880 on this bench seat that overlooks patrons sitting in front 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:45.680 of us El Fresco. 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:48.360 Okay, yeah, we're sitting. I'm with my friend. 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:52.600 Pauline, an extremely expressive human being. She was feeling flustered 0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:56.120 that day, so she's using her hands. I'm halfway through 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:57.200 my espresso martini. 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:00.920 She goes, what app and it falls? She wax it 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:04.600 out of your hand accidentally as she's gesticulating. 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:07.560 Yeah, it falls. There's two people sitting in front of us, 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:09.320 two tables. Both people. 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.120 No, that's really bad. 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:14.240 So I freak out immediately, like, oh my god, what 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:16.800 have we done? I look down. They are barely hit. 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:19.280 The man can't even see a stain, maybe like a 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:23.040 few stains on the pant, but colored pants, Chinos, So 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:23.800 we deserved it. 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:27.320 I like a China I'm sorry, I have to jump in. 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:32.000 I love that navy Chino boat shoe. 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.960 Look so sorry if that is the last thing I 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:36.880 would have expected. 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:38.079 Anyway. 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:39.880 The woman in front of us, I'm going to say 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:44.040 she was sixty five seventy. She's wearing a like crisp 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.560 white linen shirt. I actually clocked her when she walked in, 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:47.640 so I was like, oh my god. 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:48.400 That's a fancy lady. 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.520 She turns around, It goes, I'm from out of town. 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:53.240 This is the only shirt that i have, like, not 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.000 even talking to us, but she's a person in front 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:59.520 of her, and it just made me think, Hun, it's 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:03.120 bad for me. I've lost my drink is barely hits you, 0:10:03.840 --> 0:10:06.200 and you're complaining to me as if we did it 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:09.960 on purpose. For the rest of the afternoon, I just 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:11.839 wanted to hit something else across the table. 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:14.720 Do you know what's the worst thing about that? The 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:20.000 fact that you did it by accident pose? Because when 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:24.560 you are a victim of something that someone's done by accident, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:28.240 who are we to blame? I hate not having someone 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:30.600 to blame. This is what that was. And so all 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:34.880 that animosity, intension just doesn't you don't get to like process, 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:36.480 It just get stuck with you. 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:39.319 And I could feel that from her, I could feel 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:40.199 her looking at us. 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:43.679 It's an ugly feeling, isn't it. It's gross And I 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:45.360 get it. We all make mistakes. 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:47.319 Would you rather be the person that's spilt it or 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:49.160 the person that was spilt upon spilt? 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:55.839 Of course? Take no, I'd do it on purpose. I 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.960 remember one time though. No incriminate myself, no, come on, 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:03.160 go on, I was thinking about a situation like this, 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:06.640 in particular, when you're at a gig and you choose 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:09.120 to be in standing five rows from the front, it's 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:12.720 gonna be touchy feely, You're gonna be rubbing up against people. 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:14.320 It's gonna be a lot, and there are a few 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:17.679 things you need to do to ensure that etiquette wise, 0:11:17.960 --> 0:11:20.800 you're taking to consideration those around you. There was a 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.959 girl in front of me shut her hair out. It 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:27.520 was like forty five inches of like luscious curly hair, 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:32.080 but it was big, and she was very, you know, expressive, 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:34.680 and she was moving around, but she was expressive in 0:11:34.679 --> 0:11:36.200 the way that she was pretending she was the only 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:39.640 person in that space hitting people with her arms, with 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:43.800 her hair whatever. So I was behind her and she 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:46.240 was like jumping and dancing back and forth, and like 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.080 I got it, but I was like, with the hair, 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:51.360 I couldn't do it anyway. So I was complaining about 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:53.920 her to my friend next to me, and as I 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:57.280 was complaining, my chewing gum dropped out of my mouth 0:11:57.320 --> 0:12:01.120 into her hair. I said, wow, wow, wow, wow wow wow. 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:06.720 Some state did it on purpose? Did I? I don't know. 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:10.520 It's so long ago when I retell the story. My 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:14.520 friend's like you did it on purpose. I could have, 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:17.840 but I feel like it was an accident. Either way, 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:20.160 I'm glad it was me that did it to her 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:22.200 instead of her doing it to me. I want to 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:27.959 find her and apologize on you. This is flex and frooms. 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:35.760 Am I the asshole? Short answer? Absolutely? Yeah, often more 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:38.439 often than not. But lucky for me, it's not about 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:42.240 me or you. It's about this person who's texted us 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:46.800 with this very complicated situation. If I had to summarize it, 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:51.240 I won't, but I will read out the text we 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:54.160 got from them, and then we'll go into who is 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:59.480 the asshole and who should be groveling with apologies? Listen 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.360 to this. Am I the asshole for making a joke 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:04.880 about my brother's affair at his wedding? 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:05.280 Oh? 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:10.400 Dear off the top? Probably not? Not an asshole? Yeah? 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:15.440 Probably not. I know you've been contrary this. Yeah, okay. 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:17.800 When I was in elementary school, I was a type 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:21.559 of kid who got disrupts class often on their report card, 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:25.320 so I never focused much on school. You two, Yeah, yeah, sir. 0:13:27.679 --> 0:13:30.360 My district had this system where they would pair high 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:32.960 schoolers with younger kids to help them with their schoolwork. 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:35.280 My mom made me do that after I kept getting 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:38.480 in trouble. So my tutor was a freshman Abby. She 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:40.440 would come to our house after school to help me 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:43.839 with my homework or something I barely remember. My brother 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:46.360 John was the same age as Abbie, so they would 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:48.920 talk to each other and ended up dating. She stopped 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:51.240 tutoring me officially after like a month, but since she 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:53.319 was at our house lot, I also talked to Abby 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:56.960 a lot. We were close as well. Makes sense. Fast 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:59.600 forward ten years. Abby and John got married and had 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.440 a kid together. Five years later, John tells me that 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:05.240 he's getting a divorce because he's met someone new. It 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.719 sucked because I liked John and abbe together a lot, 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:10.440 but whatever. Then he tells me he had an affair 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:14.800 with his new girlfriend. Also sucks, and I told him 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:19.760 he shouldn't have hurt Abby like that, but also whatever, aloof. 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:22.440 I also asked Abby how she was doing, and she 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:25.440 told me she wasn't doing well, but she didn't want 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:27.680 her to be the reason I have a bad relationship 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:32.440 with my brother, a philanthropist. However, two months before the wedding, 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:35.000 Abby calls me and tells me that my brother's girlfriend 0:14:35.200 --> 0:14:38.720 has been harassing her non stop. She showed me the text, 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:41.800 and his girlfriend was saying some pretty disturbing things, but 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:44.720 how she's so much better than Abby, taunting Abby for 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:47.600 having to share custody of her kid now, etc. Just 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:49.680 making fun of her and bullying her. This is graphic. 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:51.840 I told my brother about this and he said he 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:54.720 would ask his girlfriend about it. A month later, I 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:56.520 asked him if he ever brought it up, and he 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:58.920 said he did but saw nothing wrong with the text, 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:01.680 which pissed me off because I confirmed that he saw 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:03.920 the same text I saw, and they were red hot. 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:07.680 Abby apologized for involving me in the whole thing in 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.000 the first place and encouraged me to still go to 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:12.240 the wedding, where my brother asked me to make a speech. 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:15.000 The speech went well until I made a joke. The 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:17.280 gist of the joke was me turning to his new 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:20.280 wife and telling her that if she's learned anything from this, 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:22.640 she should know that my brother will never let his 0:15:22.680 --> 0:15:25.520 wife stop him from finding the love of his life. 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:30.920 Ha ha ha. This got my brother and his wife 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:34.080 really mad, and they kicked me out shortly after, and 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:36.760 my brother has been calling texting me none stop yelling 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:39.800 at me too long, didn't read I made a joke 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.200 about my brother's affair. Am I the asshole? 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:44.720 I think the man that made the joke is not 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:47.800 an asshole whatsoever. I think he is a comic genius, 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:50.240 a clown who graduated clown school. 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:51.800 Yeah, he's a cloud for sure. 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:55.200 He's got a red nose on. I think it's brilliant. 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:58.000 It sounds like he's got wonderful comic timing. It sounds 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:01.120 like they deserved it, And I think everyone of the 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:04.600 wedding would have known that the bride and the groom 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:09.400 were doing something untoward, and so I believe that everybody 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:11.280 would get in another joke. It kind of like breaks 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:12.680 the ice, and. 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:14.160 If you did it, you should be able to joke 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:16.360 about it. Also, is that other kind of jokes that 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:19.200 siblings make it weddings, so they don't they have to 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:21.760 kind of be a bit red hot in a way. 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:25.080 I think red hot about like say, oh, the groom 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:29.600 like Poody's pants in Guatemala, not like, oh, you fudged 0:16:29.680 --> 0:16:30.280 someone else. 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.960 That's all set. It's a very funny way to address 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:37.160 a situation that probably is the elephant in the room. 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:41.080 I think there is something to say about decorum. You know, 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:43.520 there's a time and a place for a joke like that, 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:48.320 perhaps not on the mic, perhaps, But if that's the case, 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:51.440 we would take our own advice. Yeah, we don't. I 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:54.440 think that the brother is not the asshole. I think 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:58.600 that the John and Abby definitely aren't the assholes. But 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:02.600 his timing and he needs to understand why his brother 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:05.720 is upset. It makes everybody look really messy and there's 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:11.320 no recovering. Oh, I reckon couple shots, there's some fun dance. No, 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:14.160 I think it gets worse from there, because what if 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:16.399 there are some people at the wedding who don't understand 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:18.119 the context are kind of like, oh I thought there 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:19.840 was a gap, and true, I thought it was you. 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:23.560 It was fine, all that stuff, No, never asking questions. 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:24.600 Now there are murmurs. 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:28.960 So no one is an asshole in this one. No, 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:31.520 just unfortunate circumstances. 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:34.160 Yeah, I think. I think bad house training. I think 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:37.760 poor manners. Is it asshole behavior? If they weren't siblings, 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:41.360 I'd say yes. If it was like a best friend situation, 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:44.440 I'd be like, mmmmm, you should be on better behavior. Siblings, 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:49.679 especially a younger sibling to an older sibling. I get it. Jokesters, jokeses, clowns. 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:53.959 It's all fun and games. And I have a theory 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:58.560 that the guy who's posting has a crush on his 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:01.920 brother's ex wife. It's per he was like, she tutored 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:05.199 me so and then they became friends, and then they 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:07.919 got married, and then we can't be friends because they 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:11.119 got divorced. Disitter. That's how I felt. You're listening to 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:16.080 flex and Frooms on Kada. I like fairy tales quite 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:19.359 a bit, but not in the Hansen and Gretel. Is 0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:22.080 that the brand or the thing? I don't know, not 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:25.000 in like a Pinocchio kind of way, in like an 0:18:25.040 --> 0:18:29.600 old wives tale superstition. I like hearing things from different 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:31.240 cultures me like, oh woll, like I would have never 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:34.520 thought of that, for example, not stepping on a crack, 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:38.199 breaking mum's back, et cetera, et cetera. So I was 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:43.080 on the clock app a couple of weeks ago, and 0:18:43.160 --> 0:18:45.119 initially when I saw this video, I thought it was 0:18:45.160 --> 0:18:48.080 a bit like a Reddit hoax, thing like is this real? 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:51.360 Is this not? But essentially, what do you call those 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:56.639 people who work at wildlife rainforests, caretakers. What do you 0:18:56.680 --> 0:19:00.920 call those people? Rangers? Rangers? What are they called park rangers? 0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:07.560 More words? Search and rescue? Oh okay, very different anyway, 0:19:07.600 --> 0:19:09.119 So I came across this video. Initially I thought it 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:11.840 was like a Reddit hoax. Apparently it's very real. There 0:19:12.000 --> 0:19:14.800 is a old wives tale that if you walk into 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:19.040 a forest or a heavily treed area and you see 0:19:19.080 --> 0:19:22.919 a set of stairs that lead to presumably nowhere, you 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:26.240 should run in the other direction. I was, okay, this 0:19:26.280 --> 0:19:29.480 feels very niche. I feel like it's what people tell 0:19:29.800 --> 0:19:32.800 young kids that don't go running very far. But there 0:19:32.840 --> 0:19:37.560 is such a high density of random stairs that lead 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:43.600 to nowhere in so many wildlife parks bushlands across the world. 0:19:44.119 --> 0:19:47.560 So much so that search and rescue teams are often 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:51.520 told that when they are looking for someone who's gone missing, 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:54.359 whether it be a kid or someone who's like straight 0:19:54.359 --> 0:19:56.600 off the beaten track, that if you get to a 0:19:56.640 --> 0:19:59.320 destination and it requires you to take a set of stairs, 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:02.920 leave them. It's done. One guy recalled a story where 0:20:02.960 --> 0:20:06.520 he was in fire fighting training and his supervisor had said, 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:08.600 if you ever go up a set of stairs again, 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:11.359 you will be fired. Do not do it. It's in 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:14.639 their handbooks. It's whatever. And so yes, I'm seeing your 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:18.359 face bewildered. What is the issue with the stairs. Well, 0:20:18.600 --> 0:20:22.119 number one, people think that it's like stairway to a 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:25.000 scary place. It doesn't exist. It's an optical illusion, it's 0:20:25.040 --> 0:20:29.400 another dimension whatever. Two. People do not know how those 0:20:29.440 --> 0:20:33.639 stairs got there. Are they like concrete stairs, concrete stairs, 0:20:33.760 --> 0:20:36.400 wire steps just in the middle of nowhere, And it's 0:20:36.440 --> 0:20:39.080 just like a like that, like a y. They just 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:42.080 like some are like sixty meters high, like ten meters. 0:20:42.080 --> 0:20:44.800