WEBVTT - Why You Should Post Once Per Day 📱 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:06.080 The Flex and Rooms daily podcast Tay Freaks currently eating 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:08.600 a mandarin that a woman called Cat brought into the office. 0:00:08.640 --> 0:00:12.559 It's from her family's mandarin tree. This thing is both 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:15.680 the juiciest and the most sour thing I've ever tried, 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:18.720 and es little sour will worm lollies FLEXI, yeah, it's 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:19.040 like that. 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:21.600 But fruit, I'm such a fruit stand. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:26.159 Every time I eat fruit, I have this really, I 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:27.960 feel like it's like a spiritual moment for me where 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:31.319 I don't experience gratitude as often as I do than 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:33.640 when I'm eating fruit. I'm like, how number one of 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:40.440 the colors. I'm just obsessed with the flavor and the 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:42.760 fact that, like, I'm eating these grapes at the moment. 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:47.279 And someone on the internet told me that these are 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:52.319 genetically modified grapes, so they're built for purpose per ones. No, no, no, 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:54.080 So these I don't know what they're called. I think 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:55.920 they're called sweeties or something. But they're more of an 0:00:55.920 --> 0:00:58.720 oval shape and they don't have seeds, and they're really 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:03.200 really juicy and sour. But they're genetically modified because they're 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:05.160 off seasons. Well that's why they're also so expensive, I 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:06.000 meaning robot grapes. 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:07.720 Right now. But even that, I'm like. 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:10.720 What a gift to the world. I think you like 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:14.759 them because they are expensive? No, because I like oranges. 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:16.920 Did you eat fruit growing up? Yeah? 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:20.720 What type oranges? Apples? But I think I used to 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:22.080 think I really liked apples. 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:22.360 I don't. 0:01:22.400 --> 0:01:25.480 Actually they're too hit and miss me so oranges, apples, 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:29.320 strawberries and passion fruit and nectarines. 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:32.840 Oh no, maybe they're plums. Actually, you have. 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:34.920 More sour profile all the ones. You're saying it got 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:38.520 a bitter Yeah, bitter, actually just sour. My favorite is 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:40.679 bananas that have the one every time, every single morning. 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:45.160 Regardless of banana and blueberries, they don't really hit the 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:46.640 spot though, very hit and miss. 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:49.160 They need to, they need to genetically modify those. 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:52.640 But yeah, I think fruit is the best, the best, best, best, 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:54.720 best thing that the world could offer us in terms 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.880 of like natural stuff. That and then dragons, because I 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:00.880 refuse believe that dragons aren't real. How can dinosaurs be 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:04.919 real and dragons aren't real? That doesn't make any sense. 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:09.400 It's just kind of like reminds me of how people are, 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:12.600 like I believe in super supernatural things. I'm like, isn't 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:16.320 the world crazy? Enough as is the dinosaurs crazy enough 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:18.480 as is? Yeah, what happened at an extra layer? I 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:19.440 just use your imagination. 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:20.799 Do you believe in the Locknest Monster? 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:24.640 Yeah? Probably, I think I'm from there. Oh your community, 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:27.400 my big poppies. Mum was Scottish. I don't know how 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:28.080 nice she was. 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:29.440 What's that gonna do it anything? 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:34.680 Leave her out of it. The Scottish people are quaking anyway, 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:36.440 This is not at all at the segment. 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:42.880 What tonight's segment is about podcast I know to segments 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:43.639 and breaks. 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:44.480 Like these people know what's happening. 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:47.839 Bring them in on the industry lingo as I learned 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:50.240 on myself. I'm gonna talk about be Real as you 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:52.960 know everyone, I'm obsessed with be Real on my story 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.040 there that day, I gave her how to how to download. 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:56.000 Very helpful. 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:58.000 I hope there was a bit of an uptick I 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:00.960 reckon there was for season conversion. But we're gonna give 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:03.320 our personal opinions on be Real as Flexi says. We 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:05.360 could go on and on and on about this topic, 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:07.079 but we had to get out most things. 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:07.480 Anyway. 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:09.840 I don't know about you do a whole episode on 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:13.240 Citrus for it. Oh yeah, facts let's do it anyway, 0:03:13.440 --> 0:03:20.160 Let's get to it. Listen to this jump Scared Flex 0:03:20.400 --> 0:03:23.560 and Froods. We were speaking about be Real yesterday on 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:23.960 the show. 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:26.640 It's about to be our new TikTok. The thoughts I 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:31.080 have about it come through abundantly and often. We both 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:33.960 have different takes on be Real. Just for a bit 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:37.120 of clarity, I downloaded be Real. I reckon early adopter. 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:39.720 I was an early adopter, not like a sixteen year 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:41.400 old adopter like I wasn't that early, but I was 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:43.520 definitely one of the first, I would say, in our 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:45.000 generation to make the. 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:46.600 Leap person our generation. 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:50.720 As soon as Elon Musk could posted about it, you 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:52.000 were on it. He posted about it. 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:54.119 Yeah, that's the time. I thought. That's how he found 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:54.600 out about it. 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:56.640 Nah, I can't remember how I found out about it. 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:59.080 Elon Musk posted a screenshot of the app Store trying 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.320 to plug his own app, and then it was a 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:04.440 chart of the top apps in the same section, and 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:05.080 be Real was. 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:06.280 The number two or something. 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.839 Oh, that's so it was like that residual clout. Well, so, yeah, 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:12.760 we're talking about it the other day and your feelings 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:16.880 about it, my feelings towards be Real majority positive. I 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:19.240 downloaded it all that time ago and stopped using it, 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:21.640 mainly because my friends weren't on it, and I had 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.640 early on accepted a lot of randoms. So what I 0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:26.280 did I got be Real put on the story. Why 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:28.120 didn't I make clear that I'm an early adopter. Yeah, 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.080 I wanted to brag, of course, so I put it 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:32.240 up me being too hot, cool out doing a be 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:36.760 Real accepted a whole bunch of people started to become 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:41.000 a bit not very fun. Yeah, anyway, So then I 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:44.600 came back two weeks ago, deleted everyone except for the 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:47.200 people that I know personally and have started posting, and 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:51.080 I haven't missed a single day. And I think it's 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:53.440 the antithesis of what you're saying, Like, I think it 0:04:53.520 --> 0:04:56.839 really is off the cuff and it's fun and it's exciting. 0:04:57.680 --> 0:04:59.520 The reason why I love it is quite a while ago, 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:01.080 I was in a great chat with girls that I 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.200 used to work with, and we do this thing where 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:05.320 at a random time a day, we'd say selfie. Now 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.560 we all work at different places and we'd all have 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:09.080 to do a selfie of whatever we're doing. 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:10.719 That's fun, and it worked so. 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:12.840 Well because we knew everything about each other. We knew 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:15.039 every little dirty thing we'd ever done. So that was no, 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:17.280 that was a bit of a that was a bit 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:20.000 of a rug rat at work in my early days, 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:23.680 running around farting, jumping on things, being silly anyway, So 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:26.359 the way that I've curated my be Real means that 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:28.520 I don't have to pretend that I'm ever doing anything 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:32.760 fun or exciting. It's purely just like a group chat 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:35.160 that you don't actually have to put any effort into. 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:38.000 You just open your phone, click something, look what everyone 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:39.640 else is doing, and then leave that app. Like, I'm 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:41.080 not addicted to be Real. 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:41.720 Not yet. 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:44.720 It was the year was twenty twelve. We said, what 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:49.800 is this photo sharre? Now you know, look and for context. 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:52.360 I don't have a problem with be Real the app, 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:54.599 but I have a problem with the conversation around the 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:57.159 app and how people frame it as we should do 0:05:57.200 --> 0:06:00.920 this map, this mass exodus away from TikTok and oh 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.120 I'm not sam leave that No no, But that's what 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:05.279 I'm saying, as in, like, my issue is not with 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:07.599 be Real the app, but the fact that the conversation 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.440 around it is how like be Real is the antithesis 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:11.760 to Instagram and TikTok. 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:12.680 It's the savior. 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:15.600 It's everything that that platform isn't in the best way possible. 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:19.039 It's honest, and it's authentic, and it's off the cuff 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:22.880 and it's natural, just as those platforms once were before 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.680 the whole world started using them and before they got monetized. 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:27.680 Okay, how many people do you have on your be Real? 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:30.000 Let's actually check, because I did make the similar mistake 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:34.039 to you by letting Rando's in, which is no shade. 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:35.760 I just don't care what I have. 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:37.560 I want to if I want to see what randos 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:39.600 are doing, I want to see them living like real, 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:41.720 exciting lives. I don't want to see the back of 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:43.560 a Rando's iMac, I'm not interested. 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:46.640 While we're on this topic, my friend Louis Henson, who's 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:49.280 a comedian and a writer and stuff, he messaged me 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:50.960 other day sang, what is be Real? I said, get it? 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:51.320 I get it? 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:54.000 I said, but only add people that you know. Meanwhile, 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:55.880 puts it on his story he's got like a thousand 0:06:55.920 --> 0:06:57.080 fat friends now and be real? 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:58.400 How do you find the friends? 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.960 You go to the arrow on the left, press the 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:04.320 friend button up on the left. Okay, yep, and then 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:08.839 you'll see suggestions friends or requests. Requests, so suggestions like 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:11.280 people in your contacts, which can be quite triggering. 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:14.440 Rogue ones in there. 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:18.040 And then yeah, we've got friends and requests. It just 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:20.520 says fifty plus friends. Doesn't say the number. 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:24.760 Oh damn. You might have to go and do some purging, 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:25.400 some cleansing. 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:26.040 It's all good. 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:28.280 But so far I've been enjoying it. Like the social 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:30.480 element to it, and I like that you do minimal 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:32.840 effort and it's a good way to stay tuned to 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:34.280 what my friends are doing all around the world. 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.400 Yeah, like I said, I'll be down for the ride. 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:39.440 I want to see how it evolves. I think my 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:42.800 main concern is I don't think people realize that what 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:45.160 they hate about social media is them. 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.480 You are the problem. You are the problem. 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:51.120 So until you change and your habits change, you're gonna 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:52.920 infect every app you go and visit. 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:56.760 Heavy flex and frooms. So FLEXI, I have a little 0:07:56.760 --> 0:07:58.800 bit of a dilemma for you. It's been sent in 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:02.240 by somebody who's an Internet national student. Okay, so go off, 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:06.240 Queen my lenard sis and this is what she says. 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:07.520 We need to give her a little bit of advice 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:09.040 because she's coming to us with their dilemma. 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:09.600 I love it. 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:11.560 So I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:13.480 at the end of this month, he'll be leaving the 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:15.480 country for two months to go back to his home 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:17.720 country and then come back here. They're hot, going on 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:20.640 a holiday. Yeah, I believe he's the term. I depend 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:22.520 on him a lot, and for the past six months 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:24.760 we were staying at the sharehouse and we both have 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:27.080 our own private rooms so we can have our privacy. 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:30.800 I love that more separate bedrooms for couples. 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:34.839 We're both international students. I don't have a family here 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:37.360 and he's my only friend. I'm an interrept and it 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:40.480 takes time for me to trust people. He will be 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:43.440 staying right now with his relatives before his flight, so 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:46.240 she's alone already. It's just hitting me now how I've 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:47.800 been relying on him, and I don't know how to 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:50.440 handle this loneliness I'm feeling right now. I know two 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.200 months is a short time, but I'm not sure how 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.720 I'm going to handle myself being alone. Does anyone have 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:58.679 advice for me on how to handle this emotion that's sad. 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:02.480 It's sad because it's such a small amount of time 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:03.840 and she's really worried about. 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:07.200 It even before we get to that point, Like I was, like, 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:08.680 I thought the two months was gonna be like. 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:10.600 OHI are you gonna cove like keep yourself busy or whatever. 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:13.320 But it seems that this person has set their life 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:17.320 up around this idea of having this one person be 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:21.720 your support system, your friend, your partner, your entertainment, your 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:25.360 safe space. And now they're leaving period not just for 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:29.760 one week's two weeks, one week's one weeks, one week, 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:34.720 two weeks, three weeks, eight weeks might already gone now, 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:36.160 and then you're gonna have to figure out how you 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:38.560 do life. It's too many things to unravel at once. 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:40.880 I want to know what your answer is for this one, 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:44.000 because I feel like I'm not equipped for this. I'm 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:46.679 a big like I like my own space. I don't 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:49.719 want to be hanging out too much, and like I 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:52.240 would love to do long distance that can kind of girl. 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:54.559 I believe the term is avoidant. 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:55.920 Yeah. 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:57.960 I think she's doing the right thing by reaching out 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:01.160 and asking people what to do. Yeah, I this is 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:04.360 my mo for when I'm struggling. I ask questions. I 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.560 think it's the only way to I think if you're 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:09.080 asking questions, it's an enormous step in the right direction 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.760 of making yourself happier for the worst things. Denying it. 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:15.000 She could deny that she's lonely, play ruinescape, perhaps some 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:18.680 sims on origin depends what your poison is. Yeah, yeah, 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:21.400 but she's actively taking steps. I think she should use 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:25.000 this time like, be kind in yourself. Don't tell yourself sure, oh, 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:26.560 I've got to go out and make a million friends. 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:29.280 Just sit and think, Yeah, damn, I don't really like 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:32.080 this feeling. So maybe when my boyfriend comes back, we 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:33.760 can go and do things as a couple and meet 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:36.360 new people. That's probably a nice step to give yourself 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:39.720 the comfort blanket. Obviously he's been a comfort blanket in 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:42.840 and of himself. So use him now to leverage off 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:43.840 and meet some new friends. 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:48.600 Use as a jump off for use him, be opportunistic. Yeah, 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.280 I mean that's a good point. But what about you 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:55.520 know two months that we're creeping into the holidays, So 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:57.920 what do you think if there was one thing she 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:01.160 could do to make him feel better about her circumstance 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:02.000 right now? 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:04.160 What could be helpful. 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:07.280 Eat ice cream. Yeah, that's what I do. 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:10.640 Yeah, I would say get active in the comments. Oh, 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:13.640 just in the comments of social media posts. I feel 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:16.320 like that can give the illusion of some kind of 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:20.800 friendship or relationship, getting notifications, you know, being active in 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:23.199 some kind of environment with other people. I think that's 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:27.600 like a little microdose of connection and community. 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.840 Well you certainly on the right track on Reddit. Yeah, 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:32.680 asking questions and whatnot. 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:35.280 I feel like that'll work out really really well, and 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:38.160 especially do it in an environment where you're really entertained. 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:42.240 So if I was feeling similarly, I would definitely join 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:46.800 like a podcast, Facebook group or a discord server or 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:50.360 a twitch stream. Get the human connection of the content creator, 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:52.600 but also all the people who are there for a 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:55.160 like minded reason and just get involved. 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:57.560 I've definitely done that before and it's been helpful. Yeah, 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:01.280 be very educational at times. Two Birds on Stone used 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:04.520 to just like, pretend like you're in life university for 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:04.920 two weeks. 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:08.720 Two Yeah, be a student, do a social experiment. See 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:11.000 what like, Yeah, try something new. 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:15.439 I personally wouldn't do it. 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:18.640 But she could enjoy this is flex and frooms on 0:12:19.240 --> 0:12:24.000 a couple of weeks ago. I was interviewed by Mark Boris, who, 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:26.600 for those of you who don't know, the host of 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.480 Celebrity Apprentice Australia and The Apprentice Australia and like this 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:35.560 huge businessman person. And the consensus of the interview overwhelmingly positive. 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:39.720 Everyone loves it. But there have been a few rogue comments. 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:43.959 People saying, oh, this is so odd, what a weird crossover, Like. 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:47.160 He's a businessman, and like you do this? 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:53.079 Mescuse miss Scussie, me scusie, who is saying this? 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:54.560 I've had this conversation today. 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:56.920 What I find to be really odd is that, like 0:12:57.400 --> 0:12:59.880 I feel like young people, especially we do a lot 0:12:59.880 --> 0:13:03.000 of work around changing the perceptions of what things should 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:05.520 look like, you know, like this is like not all 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:09.839 women look like this, not all workplaces should look like this, 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:12.319 not all professional people should look like this. But in 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.520 practice and like, you're telling on yourself, babe, you're telling 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:18.760 on yourself. Because to some people who had this kind 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:22.360 of perception, it was phrases almost like a it is 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:24.559 so cool that you could be in a space like. 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:26.320 That, like why would he want to talk to you? 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:27.240 Interesting? 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:30.319 Mabe, who do you think? Like what do you think 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:34.480 the business landscape looks like once the old people die me, 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:36.600 people just like me. 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:39.920 I'm your boss, babe, IM figning your check. 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:44.520 Yeah. Fully, people do not realize what you do. It 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.520 comes to a shock to many people that you run businesses, 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:51.120 that you do all this stuff outside of big on 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:52.240 the internet, which is so. 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:54.800 Odd because when how where am I meant to start 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:58.480 flexing that? Clearly there's like a it's like if it's communication, 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.760 if I am too blame the fact that people don't 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:04.280 know that I'm poppin' on the entrepreneurship side. What is 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:07.120 a solution? Obviously, I've taken a step a page of 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:10.800 your book. I joined LinkedIn. Yep, congrat very excited, change 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:12.920 the game. I actually did have a LinkedIn once deleted it. 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:15.000 I said, I'm an entrepreneur. I don't need this. Turns 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:19.000 out I do. I'm still curating my feed accepting connections. 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:22.600 But I think that's step one. It needs to be clear. 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:25.920 Do you know what is the most embarrassing thing to 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:27.440 have to say, check my credentials? 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:28.000 Yeah? 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:30.160 I want of having credentials, so I don't need to 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:31.120 remind you to check them. 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:33.080 How is it like meeting him? What's his vibe? 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:36.960 Like, it's fantastic, so charming, so engaging. A few people 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:40.040 are under the impression that, you know, maybe like is 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:42.360 he like some boomer who was like talking at you? 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:44.400 Not too And I was like, no, not even a 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:44.880 little bit. 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:49.120 I listened to it. You spoke three quarters of the time. Yeah, 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:51.480 because you were a guest, and I heard you even 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:52.040 discuss that. 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:56.800 Yeah, we were talking about this, this idea of because 0:14:56.880 --> 0:15:00.000 he was saying off air that he had had experiences 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:01.960 where people like, oh, you know, let the guests speak 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:04.280 type of thing, you know, like we're here to hear 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:04.680 the guests. 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:05.920 So I think it goes either way. 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:10.080 I was very impressed by how understood I felt, Yeah, 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.880 by someone who would be perceived to be like the 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:16.160 complete contrast to who I am and what I do. 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:17.560 It's fantastic. 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:21.120 I wonder if the kind of stuff you do requires 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.160 kind of some research and some googling because it's so 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:27.400 far away from like a usual business model or a 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:30.400 usual like way up into business. Whereas if someone was 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:33.040 doing like a clothing label, maybe then they would kind 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:35.640 of make them they would misconstrue what you're doing. I'm 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:38.000 talking in terms of Mark Boris. Yeah, it's because it's 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:39.880 so far out, he would have either had to look 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:41.960 at you from a long you know, watch you for 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:44.920 a long time, or do proper googling Google's word done. 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.800 You could tell really Google were hat that's okay, you 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:50.360 get it? Like this wasn't like a so tell me 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:52.760 what you do? And then I'm like, okay, so which 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:54.560 bit did you research? I fill in the blank? You 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:56.680 know he got it. I listened really validating. 0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:58.280 I listened to it on the way here, and I 0:15:58.280 --> 0:15:59.960 thought it was really cool how you actually explained your 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.320 way up. I think often we're asked these questions of 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:04.680 how did you start? And I've heard your story before, 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:06.800 but I hadn't heard it in that amount of detail. 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:09.200 And I feel like he facilitated a space where that 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:11.600 amount of detail was appreciated. And as a listener, I 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.360 definitely did. I got a better understanding of how your 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:16.760 brain works, where you came from, how the skills that 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:18.920 you have now were informed by decisions that you made 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:19.600 when you were younger. 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:20.640 Hotty behavior. 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:23.120 Yeah, it was a really great and I'm really halfway 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:24.880 in spoiler alert. 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:26.760 I mean, you know me now, so you've got the 0:16:26.800 --> 0:16:30.320 spoiler alert. But it's amazing that you're on Banshee. Yeah yeah, 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:32.760 that comes through. Yeah facts, I hope does anyway, So 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:35.080 shout out to that interview. You really enjoyed it. This 0:16:35.160 --> 0:16:39.600 begins phase one of me creating a whole brand transition. 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:42.120 I need no one to know that I was once 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:47.800 a DJ award winning influencer, TV presenter. Just know that 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:51.680 the income streams are diversified and I am, above all things, 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:53.280 a great business woman. 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:55.640 We're pivoting, pivoting always. 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:59.360 This is flex and frooms on Kita. Here's the thing. 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:04.560 I try to take a lot of success advice too, seriously, 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:06.560 considering a lot of what we do has not been 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:11.760 done before, you know, making money off being yourself, exploiting 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:15.800 your vessel for commercial gain, rare, rare, unique or whatever. 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:18.520 But I did come across this video that struck a 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:20.840 chord with me because I think it's broad enough that 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:24.840 it can actually be appealing to the average person. 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:26.280 It's not just this hyper specific. 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:28.040 Let's just play the tape. 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:31.120 If it doesn't ship, it doesn't count. Tomorrow morning, we're thirty. 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:32.760 There's going to be a post on my blog. Not 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:35.040 because it's the best post I ever wrote, but because 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.639 it's tomorrow morning. Because I decided twenty years ago to 0:17:37.640 --> 0:17:40.600 write a post every day, and I haven't revisited that decision. 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.560 I made that decision once, and seven thousand blog posts later, 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:46.280 I don't have to have a meeting with myself about 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:48.159 whether this is good enough to publish. I just have 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:51.200 to say, is this the best available post I've got. 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:53.440 If it is, I publish it. And it turns out 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:55.560 the ones that I slave over the hardest, that I 0:17:55.600 --> 0:17:58.320