WEBVTT - SO I DATED A SOCIOPATH - Walk down memory lane 2 - episode 3 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:25.360 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:30.120 I'm Brittany and I am also flying solo today. We 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:34.360 have gone on Christmas slash New Year's holidays, but you 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:35.520 cannot keep us away. 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:36.839 We have missed you terribly. 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.280 So we thought to finish off the year, we would 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:43.519 go back and revisit some of our favorite episodes, some 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:46.680 of the ones that we think maybe you new listeners 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:51.080 haven't listened to yet, or maybe there's an episode that 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:53.040 we reference a lot that you have no idea what 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:56.200 we're talking about, so that is what we're going to do. 0:00:56.360 --> 0:01:00.720 I find it hilarious when I listen back two episodes 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:03.240 from the beginning, from when we were little babies, when 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:05.160 we had no idea what we were doing. Laura and 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:07.840 I would like stumble into the studio. We didn't know 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:09.959 what any of the buttons were. We were googling. We 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:14.039 literally used to sit in the studio and YouTube how 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:16.640 to podcast. Then we would take pictures of the podcast 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:18.240 machine and we were like trying to compare it to 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:21.440 online manuals. It was actually so funny. I look back 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:23.800 and I laugh hard. But the episode that I have 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:26.440 picked today to revisit is one that we get a 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:30.160 lot of questions about, one that we reference a lot, 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:34.039 and I guess it's a really big part of my 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:37.039 life and who I am. It makes me who I am, 0:01:37.480 --> 0:01:42.240 and it really has carved the path for getting me 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:45.240 to this point of my life, and it's very important 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:46.600 to me. And it was a really big deal for 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:48.600 me to open up and speak about it when we did. 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:51.400 I'm really proud of the fact that I was open 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:53.760 enough and strong enough to talk about it. And I 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:56.240 know how many people it helped at the time, because 0:01:56.440 --> 0:01:59.200 I had hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people right 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:02.520 to me saying thank you so much for openly talking 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:05.320 about it, because I didn't realize, you know, I was 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.440 in this relationship, or I thought I was the only 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:10.320 one that was in this relationship. And you've made me 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:13.359 realize that, you know, it's not embarrassing when these things 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:15.560 happened to you, and it's not a reflection on you. 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:19.119 And that was really important for me to know that 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.160 the content that we're putting out there and the fact 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:24.800 that we are bearing a part of our soul is 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.680 helping other people. It's literally why Laura and I do it. 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:30.639 We have had some really hard conversations in the last 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:33.360 year and a half on the podcast, and the reason 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:35.840 we do do it is knowing that we help others. 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.960 So the episode that we're revisiting now, it is way 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:44.000 back when from season one. It was our third ever 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:48.040 episode and it's called so I Dated a Sociopath, So 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:53.440 it revisits my story and a very tumultuous few years 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:56.360 of literally me dating a sociopath. I dated someone with 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:59.040 a double life. If you guys are. 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:00.480 OG listeners, you'll know that. 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:03.800 If you're new listeners, you'll probably hear that we reference 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.960 this episode a lot because it definitely has set a 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:09.959 standard for you know, why I am like I am, 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:13.040 maybe why I have been single for the last what 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.600 eight years or something nine years? I don't know now 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.680 it feels like forever, but it did, you know, it 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:22.680 definitely set me on a path where I had to 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:25.760 rethink a lot of things. And you can listen to 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.840 the episode now. Obviously, I feel like if I did 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:31.720 it again now, if I re told the episode, I 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:33.280 think I would do it differently, and I think I 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:36.200 would probably go into more detail and probably be more 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:39.400 open about it. But it's already done and it's already 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:39.920 out there. 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:41.040 But that. 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:47.720 Horrible, tumultuous, two years, toxic, two years of my life. 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:51.320 I have no regrets, and I think this is something 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:53.680 that I really want to drive home and I want 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.840 people to know that. You know, a lot of people 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:57.360 say to me, I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm 0:03:57.360 --> 0:03:59.720 sorry you had to go through this situation, But in 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:03.320 a word, I'm not sorry, because nothing else would have 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:05.280 happened that has happened. 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:06.240 I would not be here. 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:07.720 I would not be here I am. I would not 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:10.120 have had the experiences that I have had. 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:10.839 Because of that. 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:14.200 I sold my house, I sold everything I owned, and 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:16.159 I went on this three year around the world trip, 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:19.240 like literally with my sister. We had the most amazing 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:22.920 three years. I definitely would not have done that if 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:25.719 it wasn't for this relationship. I went on The Bachelor, 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:28.920 which again put me on another trajectory and carved out 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:31.200 my life in a whole different way. That led me 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:35.080 to Laura and to the podcast and to other opportunities. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:38.200 And I really do think it's like a knock on effect. 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.000 I don't think any of that would have happened if 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:45.640 this one event didn't happen to me. So that's something 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.120 that I like to carry through life. I like to 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:50.800 look at life in a very particular way, and I 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:53.480 try not to regret things if I don't have to. 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:57.400 I try and look favorably on experiences, on bad experiences, 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:01.000 and take something positive from that. And I think that's 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.200 really important. If you can look at any bad situation 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.640 and transform it in your mind and make something positive 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:09.159 out of it, learn something from it, grow from it. 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:12.120 I think that is an amazing characteristic to have and 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:15.599 it will literally change the rest of your life. So, guys, 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:19.800 enough rambling from me. We really miss you. Guys. We 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:22.600 are so excited to come back in twenty twenty one, 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:25.360 which crazily enough is in a couple of days, which 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:28.880 still blows my mind. Big thank you to everyone that 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:32.039 has been listening from the beginning. To all your new listeners, 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:36.560 welcome to life. I'm cut, we absolutely love you. Twenty 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:39.000 twenty one is going to bring so many good things. 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:39.320 For all of us. 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.360 I feel it in my bones, and we have some 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:46.440 really exciting things lined up. So guys, strap in, enjoy 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:48.760 the episode. If you want to re listen to again, 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:50.640 I hope you take something from it. If you want 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:52.520 to share it if you learn anything from it, we 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.080 love that as well, and we will be seeing you 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:56.559 very very soon. 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:11.120 He's out. 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:17.479 Hey, guys, and welcome to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:20.040 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:22.560 And today we have a real doozy of an episode 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:25.200 for you. I think it's fair to say that most 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:29.120 people have experienced some sort of toxic relationship in their life, 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:32.360 whether it be with a family member, with a coworker, 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:37.160 or in their own personal relationships. Today, someone very close 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:39.440 to me is going to be sharing their experience with 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:43.039 the toxic relationship. And that person is so close to me, 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:46.760 she is close enough that I can smell her. Please, 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:49.000 don't do you want me to work pretty early in 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:50.280 the morning. Have you showered yet? 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:51.640 I actually haven't known. 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:55.200 No, No, it's okay. It's five point thirty in the 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:57.640 morning right now. And this is the only time we 0:06:57.720 --> 0:07:01.040 had to get this podcast done so on a hustle. Guys, 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:03.880 britt is going to be sharing with us a pretty 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:08.200 huge dating story and how she's dealt with this toxic 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:11.760 relationship in her life and how it's shaped her. And 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.960 I'm really really proud of her for sharing this, and 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.520 I'm actually really excited for her to share this with 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:20.440 all of you. Not because it is an exciting story. 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:23.760 It is actually really quite a traumatic story. But I 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:25.160 think that there are a lot of points from this 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:26.920 that are going to relate to a lot of people 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:31.239 who may find themselves in similar situations or find themselves 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:34.680 in other toxic relationships. But before we get into the 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:39.120 thick of it, britt I know you watched The Bachelor. 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:42.280 Of course, I I'm only human. 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:45.680 Give me your low down. What do you reckon? Right? 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:49.080 Well, we did speak about it last week. I openly 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:49.920 love Matt. 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:53.000 You love him? Yeah, I think Matt agnew. Just so 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:57.040 you know, if you didn't pick anyone, Brittany loves you the. 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:58.560 End, I thought you were clarified. 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:00.920 I'm going to send him in a cinema text. I'm 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:02.840 going to slide into his DMS and let him know 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:06.280 I have a sneaky suspicion the man is very in love, 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:08.640 which I'm stoked for because that's what the show's about. 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:11.120 Don't say you're stoked, it's a lie. She's actually heartbroken. 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:13.360 But you know what, we're still pretty excited about the 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:14.120 show itself. 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:16.160 So yeah, I did watch it. Did you watch it. 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:19.200 Yes, okay, So we were away for the week and 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:22.640 I made my sister book an airbnb that had TV 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:25.320 free to air. I was there. We couldn't go out 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:27.440 for dinner because I was watching The Bachelor. 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:28.640 It's a dedication, isn't it? 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:29.920 Very much? So? 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:33.280 So, what did you think of the first lot of girls, 0:08:33.320 --> 0:08:35.280 because obviously it was they came in two lots over 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:38.800 two nights. What was your initial just go your initial overthought? 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:41.360 I love them, I love them all. No, I think 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.439 that it's been cast so well. We said this in 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:46.600 the last episode, but this season seems to really have 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:49.760 characters and I like that. I like that there is 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:52.520 the villain. But she kind of came in as the 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:57.559 crazy bride and yeah, I get a real cure vibe 0:08:57.559 --> 0:08:57.880 from her. 0:08:58.040 --> 0:08:59.640 Do you know what I love? I love that she 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:01.840 brought her best friend in as the bridesmaid. But I'm 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:04.400 pretty sure Matt got confused and thought it was a contestant. 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:07.680 Did anyone else hear her call her friend a bitch face? Though? 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:10.600 Did you see that best friend goals? I'm like, oh, 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:12.800 that is I don't know how you're gonna feel being 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:15.800 the best friend watching that back. Speaking of toxic relationships. 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:18.079 Don't let your friend call your bitch face. It's not nice. 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:19.720 Yeah, remove yourself from that immediately. 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.480 So okay, if you had to pick your top girls, 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:25.080 who are they off the bat? 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:28.840 Okay? So I think eleanor So she was the girl 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:30.080 from Mauritius. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:31.520 Yeah, she's French. 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:33.880 Yeah, she looks beautiful. 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:36.960 Oh you mean cream that one? 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:37.480 I like her? 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.640 Oh Cream? No, I liked her. 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.880 She seemed super normal. She was beautiful. I think Ellie. 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:46.119 She won me over with the marshmallow campfire. 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:49.040 Elle everyone everyone over. She's the dream. 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:52.160 She was just so sweet. I think we'll see her 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:52.559 in the end. 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:56.479 I'm worried that I'm gonna get Nikki Gogan. She's amazing, 0:09:56.760 --> 0:10:00.880 she'll be potentially, Yeah, we have to prepare our hearts 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:03.800 for that. Or maybe she's the girl, Maybe she's she 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:07.040 won't be. You know who I love. I love the 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:09.840 girl from Rio. I just think her narrating of this 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:12.280 season so far, with the Kelly hair. I want to 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:13.679 be best friends with her and I want her to 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:15.280 narrate my life so funny. 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:18.040 Yeah, she's a cutie. She's got really glowy skin. 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:21.960 Yeah, now Britt's creeping on her hos well, do you 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:23.680 know what else I like about this season? I like 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:27.480 that they've brought in the intruders, and they've brought them 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:30.240 in at the very beginning, because normally there's this sense 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:33.120 that an intruder can't win the show because the intruders 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:36.120 haven't had enough time with the bachelor. Yeah, I mean, 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:38.400 I do think it's been from the few of the 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.880 girls dropped their comments, and just how we know filming 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:42.360 is I think it's been about a week. It was 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:44.320 only night two, but I reckon the girls had about 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:46.200 a week in there before the intruders came in, But 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:49.280 that's nothing. Only in a week, only one person's probably 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:51.439 had a single date so far, so most people are 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:53.120 pretty much on an even playing field. 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:53.720 Yeah. 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:56.839 I really like that instead of bringing the intruders in 0:10:57.160 --> 0:11:00.520 three quarters the way through, which they normally do, just 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:02.440 to try and spice things up for the viewer. There's 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:04.680 no way that an intruder's gonna win if they've only 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:07.320 got two weeks to spend with the guy, of course. Yeah, 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:09.560 So bringing them in at the beginning it means that 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:12.880 we still have that injection of new girls. 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:14.160 Do you know what I think is funny? 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:15.200 Though? One of them could win. 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:18.120 Yeah, And I love how it's old girls first new girls. 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:20.400 And I love how the old girls are like, we're 0:11:20.440 --> 0:11:22.200 the old girls. You can't come in here. And I 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:23.679 was like, babes, it's been one episode. 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.880 It's been one but you know what, they've been in 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:28.920 there for a week, so they already start to feel 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:31.240 like they've got their click and they've got their groove 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:33.280 of what's happening in the house. So I can kind 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:35.880 of understand that we never had intruders on our season 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:39.480 at all. No. None. I don't know why. I don't 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.439 know whether it was a call from production or where 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:43.880 the Matt had said that he didn't want intruders, but 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:44.920 we never ever had any. 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.640 Sometimes I feel like they get halfway and they're like, oh, 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:48.880 we need to spice this up. 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:52.040 What did you think of the date with sigand the 0:11:52.120 --> 0:11:53.079 first single date. 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:54.560 Yeah, to be honest, I was a bit on the 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:58.560 fence about it because I thought it was super over 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.440 the top, as in, like what they were doing was 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.600 over the top. Well, I don't know, I just didn't 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:06.839 feel like I saw enough of them actually talking. Oh 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:09.719 my god, thank you, so I actually met think you 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:11.760 I'm made a comment on Instagram. I was sort of 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:14.880 doing some Instagram stories, mainly of me eating looking distressed. 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.880 I said, did I just blink and miss the whole 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:19.920 chat because I didn't see anything. 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:22.560 So I was actually looking at the social media pages 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:26.520 for the date from the bachelor's instagram and everyone was saying, 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:29.000 this is the most romantic date I've ever seen. Their 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:31.840 perfect together. I honestly don't think I heard them say 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:35.560 one sentence other than other than the one bit where 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:38.680 Segun said, this is so beautiful, I'm speechless, and I 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:40.360 was like, girl, you've been speechless. 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:40.320 This whole day. 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:41.560 You hadn't said one word. 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:44.320 And also the orchestra, I didn't even hear them play, 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:45.640 but they looked great in the background. 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:48.640 I just didn't see them have any actual chemistry. Yeah, 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:52.360 in the helicopter, they didn't actually have any conversation at all. 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:55.760 They were just enjoying the view. And I think she 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:59.120 did open up a little bit towards the end about 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:02.880 how she'd been first seven years, which is how we 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:05.200 ended up getting into our conversation for today. 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:06.720 But that was the only thing. 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:08.760 But that was the only thing, and I don't know 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:11.760 if that was enough to be able to say that 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:13.040 they had this real chemistry. 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:14.760 I'm glad you said that, because I thought I must 0:13:14.800 --> 0:13:16.559 have just had a micro sleep and missed the whole thing. 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:17.880 But no, not just me. 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:21.280 It didn't have a micro sleep. I honestly I wasn't 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:24.920 sold on that first single date, to be honest, nor 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:25.240 was I. 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.640 Also, where did they get changed in the bush? That's 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.199 my point behind of it. Wind and where did the 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:33.120 dress come from? Matt? I'm sorry when they say Matt 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:34.600 set that up. You did not put that dresser. 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.520 Oh, come, we allt don't. Don't ruin the smoke and mirrors. 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:42.960 The Bachelor organizes all the dates, actually, do you know what? 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:45.439 I can say this and attest to this. The Bachelor 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.520 has a very very big say on every single date. 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.679 I know that there's this like rumor out there that 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:53.680 all the dates are done by production. The Bachelor actually 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.920 gets to dictate very much the plan of the date. 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.839 Yes, and just I'm just taking it. 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:03.120 She's hateful because she thinks Matt's in love and it's 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:05.440 not with Britt. I can give you that spoiler Matt 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:06.880 and Britt do not end up together. 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:07.800 Spoiler. 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:13.160 So okay, So we got talking after the Bachelor and 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:16.200 if you've listened to our first episode, you would know 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:18.240 that Britt touched on the fact that she has been 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:22.200 single for seven years, which for some people might sound crazy, 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:25.680 because Britt, you have everything going for you, why are 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:28.160 you single? And I know that that's really an offensive 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:29.040 thing to be asked. 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:33.040 No, it's not offensive, it's just that it wears you 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:35.040 down sometimes when a lot of people ask you over 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:36.680 and over and over again for seven really. 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:41.080 But often there's a reason. Maybe you've chosen that, maybe 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:43.560 you haven't met the right guy yet, but you have 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:46.200 quite a good reason up until this point as to 0:14:46.240 --> 0:14:49.280 why you carved out some time for yourself. 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.200 Correct, Laura, thanks for asking. 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:56.160 I am asking, and I really, I mean, I really 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:58.840 want to approach this sensitively for you, So I really 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:01.760 kind of want to give you the microphone a little 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.480 bit and lead into this conversation however you feel most 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:06.120 comfortable as well. 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:09.840 I am. To be honest, I'm pretty open and comfortable 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.840 talking about this now, but I never have really voiced 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:15.600 it on a national platform before I got to the 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:17.240 point where I started to talk a lot about it 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:19.840 with my friends, and I did mention it to Nick 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:23.600 on The Bachelor, but we didn't go quite into depth 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.920 because I had said I just wanted to skim the 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.160 surface with it and I didn't want to be airing 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:29.920 my dirty laundry on national television. 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:32.960 Did you take a little while to sort of process 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:34.800 the fact that your whole life was going to be 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:37.920 in the public, I one hundred percent did. Okay, Yeah, 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:39.600 and I definitely was not going on there for a 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:41.720 well is me and this is my story, Otherwise I 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:43.080 would have told it. Yeah. 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:44.920 So I do have an interesting story and I want 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:47.720 to help people that might be in this situation because 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:49.800 I do think it's going to be a lot more common. 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:54.560 And essentially that is well, to put it simply, I 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:55.600 dated a sociopath. 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:59.800 Yeah, so there it is. That is the end. Thank 0:15:59.840 --> 0:16:03.480 you listening to our podcasts. And look, I don't think 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:07.040 that it's fair to throw around the term sociopath really 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:11.280 nearly because we don't have any sort of degrees, we 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:14.000 don't have qualifications in this. But I think once you 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.040 listen to this story that Britt is going to share, 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:21.160 it's pretty hard to say that this person or individual 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:25.880 who made these decisions doesn't display sociopathic tendencies. 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:28.680 Yeah, and clinically I know that this person is. Now. 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:32.680 I mean, people use sociopath and psychopath interchangeably, but they 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:37.600 are different. Also, there's this big common misconception that both 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:42.240 are these violent, horrible murderers that we see on TV 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:44.200 thanks to people like shows like Criminal Minds. 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:45.600 Of course, but I think that there are a lot 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:48.880 of people who are very high functioning and who have 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:53.320 amazing jobs, and they can maintain some solid relationships, but 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:57.160 they dip into being very narcissistic or they display those 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.960 tendencies without necessarily having to be full blown. 0:17:00.600 --> 0:17:04.919 Yeah, so there's a narcissistic personality disorder that sort of 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:09.320 goes hand in hand with a sociopath. Yes, usually they 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:14.679 share very similar characteristics, character traits. And I think we're 0:17:14.720 --> 0:17:17.320 gonna call him Luke. Okay, his name was not Luke. 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:23.399 And this whole episode is not about trying to trying 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:26.199 to make a victim out of a certain person, So 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:27.879 you want to keep him anonymous. 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:32.720 This isn't about calling somebody out about awareness. It's It's 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:35.760 not a revenge podcast by any means. Definitely not. 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:38.400 So let's start the story. 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:41.240 This is the reason I've been single basically for seven years. 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:46.240 I met Luke at work and Luke is he was 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:51.600 the most beautiful charismatic. He could sell water to fish. 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:54.119 The guy could he could do anything he wanted. He 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:56.520 could convince you of anything, and you would. He had 0:17:56.520 --> 0:17:58.520 this air of confidence where he would walk down the 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:01.479 corridor and whether you were attracted to him or not, 0:18:01.520 --> 0:18:02.240 you looked at him. 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:05.480 Do you know those people? Yes, just an a real energy, just. 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:07.919 The way they carry themselves, and a little bit egotistical 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:08.680 that came out later. 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:11.840 But so sometimes that's attractive in someone as well, you know, 0:18:11.960 --> 0:18:15.120 having like a little bit of arrogance, especially if they're 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:18.560 in a powerful job, that can be really attractive. I 0:18:18.600 --> 0:18:21.879 know I have sort of been drawn towards that in 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:22.719 a person before. 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:25.439 Yeah, it's just that maybe if they sit at about 0:18:25.480 --> 0:18:29.320 seventy to eighty percent of arrogance, yeah, not about one 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:32.320 hundred and fifty seven, which is what Luke was sitting at. Anyway, 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:34.399 So this is quite a long story, so I'm just 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:37.480 gonna try and give you the main points. He approached 0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:42.720 me and basically told me I was beautiful, taught me 0:18:42.720 --> 0:18:46.679 everything I wanted to hear. We started dating immediately, and 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:50.320 within about three and a half four weeks he was 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:54.520 telling me he loved me, which is very fast in hindsight, 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:57.600 but of course I was just smitten, so I said 0:18:57.600 --> 0:18:59.720 I loved him back. And it was intense. It was 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:02.880 the most intense relationship. I cannot even describe it. There 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:08.920 were probably seventy to eighty messages a day, usually from him. 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:12.280 I would respond, obviously, but and they were via so 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:16.359