WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Circumcision...to snip or not to snip? 0:00:19.239 --> 0:00:22.720 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:25.760 And this is our quick, sharp, down and dirty episode 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:27.640 where we answer your burning questions. 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:30.680 This is ask gun cut. I nailed it, Brittany. 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:34.320 I'm Brittany and I'm Laura. 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:36.520 We've had to do that intro a couple of times. 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:38.400 Look, this is our very first ask gun cut back 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:40.519 after a break and we're a little bit dusty, but 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:43.320 I cannot tell you how many questions we have received 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:44.600 over the last couple of weeks. 0:00:44.920 --> 0:00:46.559 It is wildly insane. 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:49.600 But we've picked out three for you today because we 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:51.280 need to keep this episode short and shut. 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:54.040 I also love the excuse of like, sorry, guys, we 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:55.240 had a break. We had one week. 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.000 Yeah, we had a week. My brain doesn't work anymore. 0:00:58.000 --> 0:00:58.639 But here we are. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:02.120 Before we get into it, we just want to say 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:05.240 we had such an amazing response from our episode this 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.360 week with David the Medium You guys, so many of 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:09.039 you wrote in to let us know how you felt 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:10.760 about the episode, and I just want to say we 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:11.600 really love that. 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:13.319 We love getting the feedback. 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:15.920 On what you're loving and what makes you tick, because 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:17.880 that's the content we want to give you. So we 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:20.000 weren't sure how that episode was going to go. We 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:22.160 knew that we loved recording it. We had so much 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:24.840 fun and it was something really different for us, but 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:26.680 we weren't sure how it would land with you guys 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:28.560 because it is different to what we usually do. So 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:30.600 we love getting your feedback and so many of you 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:32.400 have said it was one of your favorite episodes, which 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:33.440 is mind blowing totally. 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:34.920 I was a bit worried, like I was like, maybe 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:36.679 this is a bit self indulgent to sit down and 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:38.760 do a psychic reading and then expect anybody else will 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:39.120 follow it. 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:42.080 Interesting. I was like, are we there already? Are we 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:43.280 that into ourselves? 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:45.680 But yeah, look, I cannot tell you the amount of 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:48.440 people who sent us pictures being like, holy shit, I 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:51.080 have goosebumps, and then sent us photos of their goosebumps. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:52.760 I have a lot of photos of legs and arms 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:54.520 in my box at the moment, which. 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:56.880 I really appreciate. So we're really glad that you guys 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:57.360 enjoyed it. 0:01:58.000 --> 0:02:00.560 One girl wrote in actually yesterday, which I thought this 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:01.280 was really funny. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:02.680 She's like, what the fuck does this mean? 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:05.960 I was on a coastal walk yesterday as she walked 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:06.440 past me. 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:08.000 I didn't know this. She just messaged me. 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:09.760 As she walked past me, she was like, I walk 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:11.720 past you, and I was like, how weird. I'm listening 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.280 to Britney's podcast and she just walked past me. And 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:15.920 then as she got to the other side of me 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:19.720 the pod, something happened and her podcast stopped playing. And 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:23.280 she looked down and from where it had stopped playing, 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:25.600 guess what the timer. 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:26.560 Was eleven eleven. 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:28.440 Yeah, it was like one, one one. But then she 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.840 was like what, well she screenshot it. She's like, this 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:32.040 is you're here. 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:35.600 I'm listening to your podcast on angel numbers when the 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:39.200 podcast stops on one, one one, and I got goosebumps. 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:41.359 Now I'm such a sucker for goosebumps, but this is 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:42.640 gonna blow your mind even more. 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:43.840 And I told you this. 0:02:44.560 --> 0:02:48.760 I finished editing that episode and had uploaded it, and 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.079 the exact time was when I was like, cool, I'm done, 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:52.919 I'm going to bed, and I looked at my clock 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:55.840 was eleven eleven and I was like, okay, Papa, I 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:56.520 get I get it. 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:00.639 Oh, look at my arms. But I'm skeptic. 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:02.919 Everybody not anymore. You're not well. 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:05.720 Anyway, we did also kind of preview and give you 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:07.640 guys a little taste in the last episode. But I 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:10.280 just wanted to remind you as well. We have just 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:13.840 done such an incredible interview with a woman named India Oxenburg. 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:16.320 The reason why I'm reminding you of this is because 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.560 she is the star of a docu series which is 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:22.000 on stan at the moment named Seduced and Seduced is 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:25.760 all about this cult which happened in the United States 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.760 called Nixium, led by a guy named Keith Rinieri. It 0:03:28.880 --> 0:03:32.880 is such a fucking good documentary. I really really really 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:35.839 recommend you guys watching it. I think it's four episodes, 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:38.840 but it follows this really really harrowing but also quite 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:41.640 empowering story around a sex cult in the United States. 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:44.040 And the thing that's so interesting about it is that 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.440 there's a lot of celebrities who are involved in this cult. 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:49.280 There are a lot of high powered people who weren't 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:51.840 necessarily involved in the whole sex cult part of it, 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:56.040 but they were definitely heavily involved and also misled in 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:59.600 the self help part of this cult, which was active 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:02.200 until twenty nineteen, so it's really really recent. It's still 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:04.360 going through the courts at the moment, and we got 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:06.960 to sit down with India, who was hugely affected by 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:10.080 this cult, and she tells her story and honestly, it 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:12.000 is one of the most mind blowing interviews that we've 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:14.840 ever done. But I really just hope that some of 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:17.000 you guys find the time, if you haven't already watched 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.000 the documentary, to go and watch it so that you 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:21.479 have all the background information and you can really sink 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.279 your teeth into that episode, because it's going to be 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:23.960 fucking great. 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:25.040 I think the fact that. 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:27.880 It's only a four part docuseries as well, it means 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:29.800 it's really accessible and it's easy for you to sit 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:31.240 down and watch. You could watch it in a day 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:32.880 if you wanted to, And I think you'll enjoy the 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:34.720 interview more and you'll get more out of it if 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:37.280 you do. But for me, I don't know if I've 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:39.440 ever spoken about this or I don't think we have. 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:44.039 But I am a true crime fiend. Like I am 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:46.240 obsessed with true crime. It's all I've watched growing up. 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:47.720 I'm talking from a little kid, and. 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:49.719 Then here you are with a Relationship and Love podcast. 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:52.080 I know I'm a sick I'm sick for it. 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:53.640 I used to watch it as a child, and all 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:55.080 I ever wanted to do when I grow up was 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:58.159 be a criminal psychologist. Like I was so interested in 0:04:58.200 --> 0:04:59.920 getting into the minds of these people until I look 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:01.800 that there were like literally four jobs in the world 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:03.800 for criminal psychologists, Like there's no work in it, So 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:06.400 obviously it went down a health path. But I'm obsessed 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.720 with that kind of stuff. So when I watched this documentary, 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:11.159 I was so pulled in when Laura said she'd managed 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:12.920 to make contact with India and that she was keen 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:15.719 to come on the podcast because India hasn't done any 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:19.279 other Australian podcasts, which we were really excited about because 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:23.479 watching one of these series and being so enthralled and 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:26.960 then getting the opportunity to actually sit down with someone 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:30.000 that lived this experience for seven years for me was 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:32.400 like almost like a bucket list to actually speak to 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:33.520 someone that went through it. 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:37.520 And she's such a wonderful, empowering and like normal woman. 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:38.919 I think that that's the thing, Like you think of 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:40.960 something like a sex cult or a cult at all, 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:43.480 and you think, how could someone ever get themselves tied 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:45.800 up in that They must be such a crazy person. 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:48.400 But she's so normal, she's so wonderful to speak to, 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:49.320 she's so warm. 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:50.320 Yeah. 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:52.560 So that's my little plug again. If you guys haven't 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:55.400 seen it, it's on stand. It's called Seduced and it's 0:05:55.440 --> 0:06:00.000 all about the cult Nexium. Anyway, let's talk about this episode. 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:02.640 So we've picked out three questions for you guys. Thank 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:04.960 you to everybody who's been writing questions. Like I said, 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:07.719 we've received so many. We've picked out three really different 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:10.000 ones today just to kind of kick back into twenty 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:10.480 twenty one. 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:13.400 I have one that I found really interesting. 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:14.760 Help. 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:17.120 I love when I actually read the whole thing word 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:17.479 for it. 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:19.760 I love it when you usually started with like, hey guys. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:22.720 Love your podcast. Help. 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:24.960 I recently met this guy at the gym and we've 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:27.400 been having light conversation each time I see him there. 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:28.960 I was super attracted to him. 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.640 Until I realized there is an eleven year age gap 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:34.560 between us. I'm twenty two and he's thirty two or 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:37.000 thirty three. I've been through some major events in my 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:39.240 life and I'm over the games that younger guys tend 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:42.920 to play, so I am looking for someone more mature. However, Ever, 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:44.680 since I've found out this guy's age. 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:45.680 I kind of feel. 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:48.359 Strange and like something's wrong. I don't know whether to 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:50.720 give it a chance and accept his request for a date, 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:53.200 or just put the fire out before it even starts. 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:54.080 PS. 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:57.200 I have tried everything to find his social media to 0:06:57.200 --> 0:06:58.839 see if I can get a bit more info on 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:00.919 him and what he's about, but I think he's just 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:03.200 one of those guys who doesn't use it. AKA, I 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:04.560 just can't find anything. 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:06.159 Well. I will never be in the FBI. 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.840 Okay, So I have mixed feelings about age gaps, and 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:11.480 I actually think we should do a whole episode on 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:14.000 age gaps. I think it's a really interesting conversation. 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:14.800 Because I think it's interesting too. 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:16.800 There's a lot to unpack, and I don't think we're 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:18.960 going to get it all done in an ask on card. 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:21.640 I think I think it's silly to dismiss and say, oh, 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:24.400 age doesn't matter at all, because there are circumstances where 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:27.480 age does matter. There's circumstances where someone who's in their 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:30.640 thirties wants different things to someone in their twenties, and 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:34.600 there's you know, different life experiences. There's also different situations 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.720 where like maybe someone in their thirties has kids, maybe 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:39.040 they have more baggage, maybe they have you know, a 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:41.480 whole past that then someone in their twenties has to 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:43.560 take on. So there's there can be a lot more 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:46.480 responsibility that goes hand in hand with dating someone who 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:50.040 is substantially older. That said, there also can be no 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:52.280 difference because I know a fucking shit ton of thirty 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:54.520 year olds who act like they're twenty and who are 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:58.160 in exactly the same headspace and life space as what 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:00.280 a twenty year old is. So I do you think 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:02.240 it's a very dependent case to case. But what this 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:03.960 sounds like to me is that this person has just 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.800 caught the ick and that they don't normally go for 0:08:06.840 --> 0:08:08.880 a guy who's ten or eleven years older than them, 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:12.800 and so that makes them feel a bit like, oh, 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:15.960 well I liked him, but I don't anymore because of age. 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:19.080 I agree with you, he's an agist. Yeah, you're an agist. No, 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:22.560 I agree with you on everything you said, Laura, But 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:24.920 I'm not against age gaps whatsoever. 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:29.200 Britain loves dating twenty two year old boys. It's all 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:30.560 about sugarmumbu. 0:08:30.760 --> 0:08:32.120 Wait to throw me out of the bus. 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:34.880 No, I do remember meet Raffle. I'm pretty sure he 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:35.960 was like fifteen years younger. 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:38.080 Than Britainly well, I picked him up from school, so no, 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:41.960 I'm throwing myself onto the bus. 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:44.880 He was not twenty two, but it was a significantly younger. 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:47.160 Yeah, it was close if. 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:47.719 You round it up. 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:51.960 No, I don't think I genuinely do not think there 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:53.880 is a problem with age apps either way, with a 0:08:53.920 --> 0:08:56.360 woman dating someone older or with a woman dating someone younger. 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:58.760 If the people are compatible and if you're on the 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:00.720 same path, if you have the same banter, if you 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:02.920 have the same morals, if you want the same things, 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:05.920 if you don't ultimately notice that there's an age difference, 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:07.760 I don't see why there's a problem. 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:09.079 The problems come. 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.520 When you're on different wavelengths and you're wanting different things. 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:14.360 If the woman is older and she wants kids and 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.520 the guy's younger, then like that's going to cause problems. 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:18.280 But in this I mean, and it doesn't have to 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:20.400 necessarily be the female being older wanting kids. Like, there's 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:22.600 plenty of situations where the men are older and they 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:24.480 want kids and they want to settle down, and they're 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:26.760 dating twenty year olds who are not ready for. 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:28.160 That yet in their lives exactly. 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:30.800 And I think in this situation, my advice to you 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:32.400 would be, how did. 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.720 You feel before you knew his age? 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:37.160 Because it sounds like you had a crush on him, 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.240 and it sounds like you're really enjoying seeing him at 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:40.760 the gym and you're enjoying your banter and. 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:42.440 You're enjoying getting to know him. 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:45.560 If the problem, the only problem has come, is that 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.840 there is an age difference, I personally would still recommend 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:51.240 that you go on the date because he could very 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:54.199 well be an amazing human that isn't ready to settle 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.680 down yet, and he could be a you don't know, 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:59.160 he's not a soulmate. You could go on the date 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:01.840 also and you could be like WHOA, Like we're on 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:04.640 different paths. I'm so glad I did this because now 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:06.960 I know. But that's what dating is as well. I 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:08.640 don't think you need to put so much pressure on 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:10.720 it now. And I think this is also what women 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:13.480 and men due to an extent, probably more women if 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:16.000 I'm being honest and I'm not sexist, but as what 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:18.920 we do, we tend to overthink things instead of just 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:21.200 letting it play out and seeing what happens. I think 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:24.360 there is zero harm in this situation. You had those 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:27.160 feelings before you knew his age. Go on a date 0:10:27.200 --> 0:10:29.560 with him. Just make it like a casual date. Go 0:10:29.600 --> 0:10:31.000 to lunch, or go to the beach. 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:33.480 Or just specially and go on a walking date. 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:34.600 Do some exercise. 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:36.600 I mean, you're both gym junkies, so why don't you 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:39.000 go on a high for sure? Why not just be like, 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:41.440 you know what, fuck it, let's let's go and have 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:45.480 some fun. And worst case scenario, like, and this is 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:47.760 how I make all my decisions. I say to myself, Brittany, 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:50.000 what is the worst thing that could happen? 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:51.080 Go on your date? 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:53.000 Worst case scenario, you don't hit it off, you don't 0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:54.439 feel it, you're on different ways of lengths, and you 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:56.920 just go back to like being friends totally. 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.920 What's the oldest guy you've dated, or what's the youngest? 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:01.839 What's the biggest age guy? 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:07.840 Okay, so in all honesty, my youngest to oldest. The 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:10.280 oldest is probably forty that I've dated. 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:17.080 So five years older, six years old. Stop putting my age. 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:16.840 Seven years older. 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:19.240 No, when I dated someone's forty, I was thirty, so 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:22.520 it was ten years and the youngest I've dated would 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:26.960 probably be seven years younger than me. And I've dated 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.199 someone seven years younger that I did not notice a thing. 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:31.440 And I've dated someone seven years younger that I was like, 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:35.360 you're a small man, child boy, and like yeah, and 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:36.440 I can never see you again. 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:37.840 It's different life experiences. 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:40.080 It's like completely up to how that person was brought up, 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:41.960 where they are in their life, what they've experienced, and 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.720 what they want. So I'm a big advocate. Actually, something 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:46.920 else is really interesting, A really good example. 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:48.560 We all know me can Gel. She's like, has the 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:51.680 hottest husband in the world. Yeah, sure, he is much younger. 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:54.319 He's correct me if I'm wrong. He was an AFL 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:55.600 player something in the sports. 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:59.360 But if anybody watched Survivor, I was salivating over this man. 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:01.280 And then I met him in real life at the 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:02.960 gym one day and I was like, Meg and Gil 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:04.040 really did score. 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:05.000 So yeah. 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:09.400 Megan Gail is forty four and her fiance they're not married, 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:10.240 Sean Hampson. 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:11.760 They've been together nine years and. 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:12.439 They have kids together. 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:15.920 Okay, they started dating when he was only like twenty 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:19.720 three and she was late thirties. Even I remember being like, 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:22.280 whoa that is huge. She got a lot of heat 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.040 for it. There were under a lot of scrutiny. Everyone 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:27.360 was like, this is never gonna last. An older woman 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:30.199 can't date a younger man, like they want different things. 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:31.320 To prove them all wrong. 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:33.760 They've been together nine years and they have two kids, 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:36.960 they're engaged, they're very seemingly happy and in love. So 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:40.240 I think that's a prime example of when age doesn't matter. 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:42.360 And imagine being in that situation in a public eye 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:43.160 as well well. 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:45.000 And they have a full on twelve year age gap, 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:46.280 Like that's a big age. 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:47.679 Gap, especially, you know what. 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:49.400 And I think that this is the thing that's an issue, 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.840 is like we have a real problem with women dating 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:54.520 younger men, Like we seem to think that that's weird, 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:57.000 but we think it's less weird for an older guy 0:12:57.080 --> 0:12:58.959 to date a younger woman. Like we are very very 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:01.480 sexist a society when it comes to that. And I know, 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:03.360 I like to tease you, Brittany, but like, fucking live 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:04.199 your best life. 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:05.440 But that's the thing too. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:08.160 And I never used to ever date anyone younger than me. 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:11.800 When it started, I met someone out that was younger 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:12.960 and I didn't know he was younger. 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:14.560 I just met him. He asked me out, and. 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:18.000 I was like, yeah, great, you're very attractive. We had 0:13:18.040 --> 0:13:20.400 great child, let's go out, and we went out on 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.200 two days before the age even came up, because the 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:26.280 conversation was so free flowing that it was irrelevant. Then 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:28.080 the age came up, and as soon as he said 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:30.000 his age, I got the same feeling as this girl. 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:33.160 I was like whoa, Like. 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.839 Why can't this can't be a thing because you're so 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:37.560 much younger than me, And he was sort of like, well, why, 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:39.760 Like why can't it be a thing if you wasn't 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:42.440 didn't bother the last two days? And that was really 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:44.080 I mean, we obviously didn't work out, we only went 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:46.880 on a few days. We're still friends, mind you, but 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:49.200 that was really a turning point for me where I 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:52.560 was like, it actually doesn't matter if the chemistry is 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:55.160 there and the love is there and the affection is 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:58.360 there and everything else is there, it's irrelevant to me. 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:01.000 Well, I mean, it is a societal construct, Like I mean, 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:03.160 it's something that we put a lot of pressure and 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:05.800 energy into. But that's also because, like we've said in 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:07.360 many other podcasts, we put a lot of pressure and 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.760 energy onto timelines and onto things matching up by certain ages. 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:12.480 So then when you when you date someone who is 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.480 a significantly different age to you, there's an expectation that 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:18.360 they're on a different timeline and that's where the mismatch happens. 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:20.880 But like I said earlier, you know, I always had 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.000 the mentality that I needed to date up. So I've 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:26.600 always dated older guys always. You know, I think the 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:30.040 biggest age gap I've ever had was twelve years. And look, 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:32.520 we were in very different stages of our lives. He 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:35.320 had a kid, he owned a house, and to be 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:38.080 perfectly honest, I wasn't ready for those responsibilities, Like I 0:14:38.120 --> 0:14:40.320 wasn't ready to match up to someone who was that 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:42.280 much older than me. But I had it in my 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:45.160 head that guys my own age weren't on my maturity level, 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:47.880 which is completely untrue. You know, that was my own 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:49.680 thing that I was projecting. Like, Matt is a year 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:52.240 younger than me, and so I feel like I'm a Cougarnew, 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:54.240 but he's the youngest Matt. 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.400 A year does not make you a cu totally. But 0:14:56.560 --> 0:14:58.280 Mad he someone who's like in night years. 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:00.520 But Matt is literally the youngest guy I've ever dated. 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:03.200 I've never dated somebody younger than me, and for me, 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:05.480 that was a big mental adjustment because I've always dated 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:06.640 up by so many years. 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:08.600 But don't you think that comes with age as well. 0:15:08.640 --> 0:15:11.040 I feel like the older you get as a woman 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:14.360 and a man, the less age matters. I think, when 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:18.680 you are twenty year old girl, woman, you're not going 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.280 to date someone younger because they're just far too immature. 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:23.600 But all of a sudden, when you're thirty dating someone 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.760 that's twenty five, they're five years older than when you 0:15:26.840 --> 0:15:29.160 were twenty. You know, like it's like the older you get, 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:30.760 the less age matters. 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:32.840 So yeah, look, I mean I think we could summarize this. 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:36.760 I think like they went down a chap, big old 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:39.320 rodeo on this one. But look, I agree with Britt. 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:41.560 I think if there's chemistry there and you want to 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:44.000 explore it, go for it. If it's fully giving you 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:46.480 the ick, you don't have to force yourself into going 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:48.840 on a date with anyone. But I don't see a 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:50.000 ten year age de gap. 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:50.760 As a big deal. 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:52.320 It's only as big a deal as you make it 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:56.760 out to be. But like you're potentially overthinking things before 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:58.520 you've even been on a date with someone who you 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:00.800 have some great chemistry with, and you might miss out 0:16:00.840 --> 0:16:01.240 on something. 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:03.000 So give it a shot. Go give it a well, 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:04.400 all right, Question number two. 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:06.760 I am going to read this because this is something 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.120 that we are discussing mad night at the moment. So 0:16:09.160 --> 0:16:11.240 my husband and I live in Australia, but we're originally 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:14.160 from the United States. I'm twenty weeks pregnant and we're 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:16.040 not going to find out the gender. We had a 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.440 minor panic this week because we started to think about 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:21.800 circumcision and realized we don't know what we're going to 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:24.240 do if we have a baby boy. In the US, 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:27.520 getting your baby boy circumcised is pretty standard. My hobby 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.240 is circumcised, and so are all of our male friends. 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:32.800 But there seems to be a lot of research that 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.960 shows it's actually not as medically beneficial as previously believed, 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:38.880 so we're starting to question it. On one hand, it 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:40.800 would be great for the bub to match his daddy, 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:43.120 but should we give him that choice versus make the 0:16:43.200 --> 0:16:43.920 choice for him? 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:45.840 What do we do this. 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:49.320 Is to circumcise or to leave it uncircumcised. This is 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:54.560 actually really interesting, Like a little and eater. What they 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:57.200 looks like anteaters when they're not circumcised, do they when 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.040 they have like long hanging four guys? 0:16:59.120 --> 0:16:59.640 Imagine this. 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:03.280 Think of a penis that's not been circumcised with a long, 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:05.760 floppy foreskin part, and then think of an air eater. 0:17:06.280 --> 0:17:06.880 Do you know what? Yeah? 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:09.359 Do you know? I think of that cartoon? Off is 0:17:09.440 --> 0:17:10.960 your sense of mystery where. 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:13.520 You've got that? Okay? 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:18.000 I look, I'm having these exact conversations with Matt at 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:21.760 the moment, and the reason why is, like me personally, 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:25.680 from a sexual preference, I prefer someone who's circumcised. Matt 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:29.440 is circumcised me. From a mum perspective, do I want 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.880 my kid to be circumcised? I think it's completely unnecessary. 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:35.800 I don't want to subject my child to the pain 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:39.280 of circumcision. I also think that there can be some 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:42.680 medical complications that can come from circumcision if there's an infection, 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:45.480 and I don't think it's necessary in the same way 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:48.240 that we used to think it's necessary back in the days. 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:52.960 It's definitely a very culturally driven medical procedure. It's something 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:55.560 that has a lot of religious connotations to it as well, 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.680 and I think if it's just from an esthetic point 0:17:58.680 --> 0:18:00.680 of view. I'm not going to pierce my little girl's 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:02.960 is until she can choose to do that. I'm not 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:05.240 going to cut my kid's foreskin off until he can 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:07.880 choose to do that either. But it's a very very 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:10.080 personal decision, and it's one that Matt and I don't 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:14.280 necessarily see ey'd eye on because Matt being circumcised, he 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:17.520 thinks that our sons should be circumcised. He would like 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:19.960 his son to be able to one look the same. 0:18:20.000 --> 0:18:22.880 But also, you know, Matt being circumcised sees the benefits 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:23.320 of it too. 0:18:23.520 --> 0:18:23.720 Yeah. 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:25.680 Look, the United States, he is one of the top 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.640 countries in the world for circumcision that's actually known. So 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.400 you're writing saying that, like, maybe when he grows up 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:35.399 he will be a minority not being circumcised. But I 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:37.400 don't think that that is going to put anyone off. 0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:40.640 I've never dated someone and been like, oh, they're circumcised 0:18:40.720 --> 0:18:41.639 or the not circumcised. 0:18:41.680 --> 0:18:44.280 That's a deal breaker either way, it doesn't matter. 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:47.840 I think that from all the research now, it's not 0:18:48.160 --> 0:18:50.280 really necessary like it used to be. There are some 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:54.400 certain conditions, like when the foreskin is too tight, for example, 0:18:54.400 --> 0:18:55.440 and it can't be pulled back. 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:57.119 It can be really painful. 0:18:56.760 --> 0:18:58.600 And that is actually a thing, and that's where they 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:01.239 will literally have to do it. So I think in 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:04.200 cases like that, it's okay. There are certain countries which 0:19:04.320 --> 0:19:09.159 like they highly recommend boys and men even get adult circumcisions, 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:12.840 which is like countries like Africa because it helps to 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:16.199 reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections. So there are 0:19:16.280 --> 0:19:18.760 a whole bunch of medical reasons where it's like fine, 0:19:18.960 --> 0:19:22.840 go nuts. Other than that, there's just no real reason 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:26.080 besides these few medical issues to circumcise a child now, 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:28.680 except for purely esthetic reasons. 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:29.840 I think something to think. 0:19:29.720 --> 0:19:32.679 About too is and like, obviously everyone's going to be different. 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:33.879 But I did speak to a number of people that 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:37.880 we have researched it. But it is widely known that 0:19:38.359 --> 0:19:42.720 sex is more sensitive when you have a foreskin. It's 0:19:42.760 --> 0:19:45.919 just one of those things. It's more it's supposedly more pleasurable. 0:19:45.960 --> 0:19:48.800 They get more sensation in it than when they're not circumcised. 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:51.280 That is not taking away from saying that people that 0:19:51.280 --> 0:19:53.720 are circumcised don't have good sex, because they do. It's 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:58.280 just that science says it's slightly more sensitive and pleasurable 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:00.560 with your full skin, So there are p and cons 0:20:00.600 --> 0:20:02.520 for both. But it's also if you were going to 0:20:02.560 --> 0:20:05.119 be making it a decision, you need to probably have 0:20:05.240 --> 0:20:08.120 all the evidence, write down a list of pros and cons, 0:20:08.160 --> 0:20:09.480 and make the decision on your own. 0:20:09.800 --> 0:20:10.600 Well, I feel like. 0:20:10.600 --> 0:20:13.280 More so for parents making the decision, it's an aesthetic thing. 0:20:13.280 --> 0:20:15.080 I don't think parents are making the decision based on 0:20:15.160 --> 0:20:19.520 like the kid's sexual satisfack. Think you remember like five 0:20:19.600 --> 0:20:21.520 day old kid being like, is he gonna have great 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:23.800 sex when he's eighteen? Like, I don't know they should, 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:27.440 but I think, like, you know, it's a very culturally 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:30.560 driven exercise, you know, and we have been brought up 0:20:30.680 --> 0:20:33.560 for in and like. Up until recently, eighty percent of 0:20:33.800 --> 0:20:37.320 boys in the United States and in Australia were circumcised. 0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:40.600 It's definitely losing popularity. But one of the big reasons 0:20:40.600 --> 0:20:43.920 why we used to circumcise kids is for hygiene reasons, 0:20:43.960 --> 0:20:46.760 because there was like this concern about infection, there was 0:20:46.800 --> 0:20:49.159 a concern about cleanliness. 0:20:49.560 --> 0:20:51.880 We live in a clean fucking country. 0:20:52.040 --> 0:20:54.239 Teach your child to clean their penis like that is 0:20:54.280 --> 0:20:56.800 like that is where I sit on the scale of things, 0:20:56.840 --> 0:20:59.439 and I have definitely this is why I say I 0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:02.040 prefer guys who are circumcised than guys who aren't. I 0:21:02.160 --> 0:21:05.040 have in my I'm gonna I'm gonna say, look, not 0:21:05.119 --> 0:21:07.119 in my adult life, because they I think from like 0:21:07.200 --> 0:21:10.560 twenty five, guys kind of get it. But from eighteen 0:21:10.640 --> 0:21:13.639 to twenty five, the amount of uncircumcised boys that I 0:21:13.760 --> 0:21:16.080 was with that didn't know how to wash their penis 0:21:16.119 --> 0:21:21.280 properly is what has emotionally scarred me from an uncircumcised man, 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:25.200 What do you mean just a smelly penis? Like they 0:21:25.240 --> 0:21:27.560 didn't know that they needed to pull their foreskin back 0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:29.960 to wash their penis properly. They just stand in the 0:21:29.960 --> 0:21:31.920 shower and let the water run over the whole thing, 0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:34.679 and so like that is the concept behind like the 0:21:34.760 --> 0:21:37.920 need for having cleanliness. Also, look, I mean something that 0:21:37.960 --> 0:21:39.720 I found really interesting. I did a quick research on 0:21:39.760 --> 0:21:42.160 this when I was talking to Matt about it. I mean, 0:21:42.240 --> 0:21:44.200 this is not a secret because Matt's actually talked about 0:21:44.200 --> 0:21:45.800 on his own podcast. So I'm going to say it 0:21:45.800 --> 0:21:47.479 on this but he'll probably fucking kill me for it. 0:21:47.880 --> 0:21:49.720 You're gonna put it out to an imagery audience. 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:54.720 Matt got circumcised, not as a baby, so he was 0:21:54.720 --> 0:21:58.200 circumcised when he was in school because of some medical reasons. 0:21:58.680 --> 0:22:01.680 And the reason and why he wants to circumcise our 0:22:01.760 --> 0:22:04.199 child if we have one, is because he doesn't want 0:22:04.240 --> 0:22:06.560 a kid to go through what he went through being 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:09.600 someone who is older and being circumcised and being able 0:22:09.640 --> 0:22:12.680 to remember one the pain and to the experience. He said, 0:22:12.680 --> 0:22:15.560 it was incredibly, incredibly painful to go through as someone 0:22:15.600 --> 0:22:19.240 who was in primary school. Whereas as a baby. Obviously 0:22:19.240 --> 0:22:21.359 it's painful for the parents to see your child in pain, 0:22:21.440 --> 0:22:23.160 but the baby doesn't remember it, so they. 0:22:23.080 --> 0:22:24.919 Will be in pain, but they don't remember it. 0:22:24.960 --> 0:22:26.760 They don't remember, and so there is some pros and 0:22:26.800 --> 0:22:28.320 cons to that. You know, you have to take that 0:22:28.400 --> 0:22:30.520 trauma yourself because you're going to see your baby being 0:22:30.520 --> 0:22:34.320 really hurt by something that is completely elective. But maybe 0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:37.520 you're saving them from the small percentage that there's someone down. 0:22:37.359 --> 0:22:39.359 The track who needs to have a circumcision. 0:22:39.480 --> 0:22:42.320 Right, And like Britz said, there's reasons why adults have 0:22:42.400 --> 0:22:44.840 to have them. Maybe it's because their four skins too long, 0:22:45.000 --> 0:22:47.320 Maybe it's because they're four skins too tight. There's all 0:22:47.320 --> 0:22:50.000 different reasons that are associated with that. So obviously that's 0:22:50.040 --> 0:22:51.720 why Matt is kind of keen to do that for 0:22:51.800 --> 0:22:54.520 our child. But I think that this is really interesting 0:22:54.800 --> 0:22:57.640 because of the dropping rates of circumcision, and also because 0:22:57.680 --> 0:22:59.520 it's the controversial nature of it, Like you know, you're 0:22:59.840 --> 0:23:03.080 ential taking away that choice from someone to elect to 0:23:03.119 --> 0:23:07.200 do that themselves. Iceland is actually moving to potentially bear 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:09.920 elective circumcision, and the reason. 0:23:09.720 --> 0:23:12.080 For that is that you are exactly what I just said. 0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:16.160 It should be a person's right to self determination as 0:23:16.160 --> 0:23:17.919 to whether they want to be circumcised or not, so 0:23:18.000 --> 0:23:20.600 doing that as a child if it's not necessary, they're 0:23:20.600 --> 0:23:22.960 actually looking to ban it. This has obviously had huge 0:23:23.000 --> 0:23:26.320 implications for Jewish and Muslim communities in Iceland because it 0:23:26.440 --> 0:23:30.000 is a religious and cultural expectation. It's also a really 0:23:30.040 --> 0:23:33.800 important part of their ceremony. So I mean, like we said, 0:23:34.080 --> 0:23:37.640 there's huge cultural implications. But if it's purely for esthetic reasons, 0:23:37.960 --> 0:23:40.560 then I do think that there is some consideration that 0:23:40.600 --> 0:23:43.600 needs to go into it, because in Australia, fewer and 0:23:43.680 --> 0:23:47.000 fewer people are actually being circumcised, and so long as 0:23:47.000 --> 0:23:49.920 we teach our children to wash their penises, pull back 0:23:49.960 --> 0:23:50.639 that foreskin. 0:23:50.840 --> 0:23:53.479 Give it a good old wash down. We're gonna be fine. 0:23:53.640 --> 0:23:56.439 Teach them some hygienes like wash your hands, wash your penis. 0:23:56.520 --> 0:23:59.080 I mean, have you ever been with a guy and thought, hmm, 0:23:59.640 --> 0:24:01.760 I wish you were circumcised? Or does it make zero 0:24:01.840 --> 0:24:03.080 fucking difference to you? 0:24:03.119 --> 0:24:07.919 In all honesty, it doesn't make that much of a difference, totally, Like, 0:24:08.080 --> 0:24:10.480 I don't think I don't think he's gonna grow up 0:24:10.480 --> 0:24:11.719 and be like, damn, I wish you did this. 0:24:12.000 --> 0:24:13.320 The only life that they have. 0:24:13.560 --> 0:24:15.320 The only time it makes a difference is if there's 0:24:15.320 --> 0:24:16.680 more cheese in there than there is in your hand 0:24:16.720 --> 0:24:17.760 cheese crison't, which. 0:24:17.640 --> 0:24:19.600 Is what Lauria has had for breakfast. 0:24:20.040 --> 0:24:21.960 God, I just got so scarred from my like eighteen 0:24:22.000 --> 0:24:23.960 year old boyfriend who just did not wash his penis. 0:24:23.960 --> 0:24:26.720 Probably like I'm still like, I'm thirty five almost, guys, 0:24:26.760 --> 0:24:29.080 and I still live with that. You still can't get 0:24:29.200 --> 0:24:33.120 back my headhop Okay, question number three, I don't think 0:24:33.119 --> 0:24:35.200 we answered anything completely. 0:24:35.680 --> 0:24:38.000 I think it's more just about about putting the pros 0:24:38.000 --> 0:24:39.639 and cons in and make you obviously have to make 0:24:39.680 --> 0:24:42.080 a decision on your own, but you really need to 0:24:42.080 --> 0:24:43.879 think about how necessary something is. 0:24:44.240 --> 0:24:46.119 Well, yeah, and I think you know, you and your 0:24:46.160 --> 0:24:48.560 partner have to be fully in agreeance for this. 0:24:48.760 --> 0:24:51.760 Because the thing is too Like if you don't, it's 0:24:51.800 --> 0:24:55.320 the circum penis. So if you don't circumcise them, they 0:24:55.400 --> 0:24:59.199 have the option of circumcising himself as an adult. Like 0:24:59.280 --> 0:25:01.639 I mean, we all, well, think of the plastic surgery, 0:25:01.680 --> 0:25:03.480 think of the operations people have, Like it's just another 0:25:03.520 --> 0:25:06.000 thing to add to the list. If you do circumcise them, 0:25:06.000 --> 0:25:08.240 they can't go and reattach a foreskin in twenty years. 0:25:08.320 --> 0:25:09.200 Like it's not a thing. 0:25:09.280 --> 0:25:12.040 Totally, but like you know what, it's so interesting, isn't it, 0:25:12.040 --> 0:25:14.560 Because like, like women elect to have breast implants later 0:25:14.600 --> 0:25:16.320 on in life. We don't see a girl who's twelve 0:25:16.400 --> 0:25:18.160 years old ago, Oh her boobs are going to be small. 0:25:18.200 --> 0:25:20.040 We should probably put some breast implants in there, do 0:25:20.080 --> 0:25:22.280 you know what I mean? Like, for some reason, it's 0:25:22.320 --> 0:25:24.800 just so culturally acceptable to cut off the foreskin of 0:25:24.840 --> 0:25:27.359 a man like that, because it's been happening since the 0:25:27.359 --> 0:25:29.959 beginning of time, Like it's been happening since Jesus. 0:25:30.320 --> 0:25:33.679 Jesus was circumcised, was he? Yeah, who's Jewish? 0:25:34.320 --> 0:25:37.360 I don't really know about Jesus, but she. 0:25:37.320 --> 0:25:38.520 Still celebrates Christmas. 0:25:38.680 --> 0:25:41.880 Jesus was circumcised, something that's been considered the norm for 0:25:41.920 --> 0:25:44.200 so very long. And I think that you know, it's 0:25:44.240 --> 0:25:47.280 okay to question things that we do just because we've 0:25:47.320 --> 0:25:48.160 always done them. 0:25:48.200 --> 0:25:50.399 But think about it. Your kid can always circumcize themself. Well, 0:25:50.440 --> 0:25:52.679 it can't circumcize himself, but he can always go and 0:25:52.720 --> 0:25:52.920 get it. 0:25:53.000 --> 0:25:56.320 Touch you don't try this at home, okay? Question number three? 0:25:58.440 --> 0:26:00.800 Long story short, Me and my boyfriend broke up a 0:26:00.800 --> 0:26:03.560 couple of months ago. Lots of shit went on, but anyway, 0:26:04.080 --> 0:26:06.760 I slept with a guy a few times and I'm 0:26:06.800 --> 0:26:09.600 already hooked. I don't want to, but I know I 0:26:09.640 --> 0:26:12.399 already have feelings. How the hell do you stop this 0:26:12.480 --> 0:26:15.080 from happening? I swear I'm gonna hurt myself so much 0:26:15.160 --> 0:26:17.480 if this keeps going because it's so easy for me 0:26:17.520 --> 0:26:18.560 to catch these feelings. 0:26:18.800 --> 0:26:20.880 Why am I catching feelings so easily? 0:26:21.160 --> 0:26:22.040 Oh? 0:26:22.119 --> 0:26:24.160 I mean, we've all been there, right, We've all had 0:26:24.160 --> 0:26:26.280 the rebound and caught feelings instantaneously. 0:26:26.480 --> 0:26:29.360 Not me emotionally, avoid I definitely have. 0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:32.119 I think I think you need to be you need 0:26:32.160 --> 0:26:35.480 to have self awareness, and like, obviously you do. Obviously 0:26:35.520 --> 0:26:39.360 you know that you're prone to having strong feelings, maybe prematurely, 0:26:39.840 --> 0:26:41.399 and so not only do you need to have some 0:26:41.400 --> 0:26:43.960 self awareness, but you have to have some self preservation 0:26:44.600 --> 0:26:47.639 and stop yourself like, have some self control. There's a 0:26:47.680 --> 0:26:49.719 lot of self self self stuff in here, but it 0:26:49.720 --> 0:26:52.359 comes down to you, like you're if you're having sex 0:26:52.400 --> 0:26:54.399 with someone, If you know that being intimate with someone 0:26:54.480 --> 0:26:57.840 is when you start to catch the feels, then maybe 0:26:57.920 --> 0:27:00.200 slow things down a bit and give your sign give 0:27:00.200 --> 0:27:03.280 yourself time to heal between the breakup and when you're 0:27:03.280 --> 0:27:07.040 actually ready to start dating someone else. Otherwise there is 0:27:07.080 --> 0:27:10.800 the potential that you just want to be loved, and 0:27:10.840 --> 0:27:13.280 you want to be in love so bad that you 0:27:13.400 --> 0:27:15.800 end up transferring those feelings to the next person that 0:27:15.840 --> 0:27:18.040 comes along, even if they're not the right person, and 0:27:18.080 --> 0:27:19.840 even if they're not good for you. 0:27:19.960 --> 0:27:21.800 Look, my feelings on this are. 0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:27.480 I have friends that I guess we've we've referred to 0:27:27.560 --> 0:27:29.480 it in the past law as like monkey branching, and 0:27:29.520 --> 0:27:31.760 I'm not saying that's what you're doing, but he yah, 0:27:31.840 --> 0:27:32.920 Laura's thinking. 0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:36.600 Friends, I feel personally victimized. On the other side, of 0:27:36.640 --> 0:27:37.000 the couch. 0:27:39.080 --> 0:27:40.880 I have a friend, Laura, No. 0:27:40.960 --> 0:27:42.679 But I think the thing that you have to be 0:27:42.720 --> 0:27:45.919 really careful within this is I do think it's some 0:27:45.960 --> 0:27:48.600 self reflection needs to happen, because I think that when 0:27:48.640 --> 0:27:51.400 people develop these feelings really quickly, it usually comes from 0:27:51.440 --> 0:27:54.480 a place of a level of insecurity, a level of 0:27:54.520 --> 0:27:57.400 being a little bit scared, possibly to be on your own, 0:27:57.480 --> 0:27:58.680 which I want you. 0:27:58.680 --> 0:28:00.600 To know is so common. 0:28:00.800 --> 0:28:02.560 So many women don't want to be on their own. 0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:05.679 They feel unloved, they feel like they can't be in 0:28:05.680 --> 0:28:08.160 their own company, they feel like they'll be forever alone. 0:28:08.560 --> 0:28:11.159 They feel like they can't get stuff done because they need. 0:28:11.000 --> 0:28:11.840 A man to help them. 0:28:11.880 --> 0:28:13.800 And I think that that's a really dangerous place to be. 0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:16.800 So I think if you every time you're with someone 0:28:16.840 --> 0:28:20.280 and sleep with someone, you're forming these really deep feelings, 0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:23.159 I think you need to look at what the reason 0:28:23.240 --> 0:28:25.320 could be. Is it just that you were really really 0:28:25.920 --> 0:28:29.400 wanting a relationship. If that is the case, like Laura said, 0:28:29.440 --> 0:28:32.480 just slow it down a bit, don't jump in head first, 0:28:32.600 --> 0:28:33.760 don't spend every single day. 0:28:33.800 --> 0:28:35.440 Or the jiana first, don't have sex with them. 0:28:35.920 --> 0:28:38.959 Yeah, maybe don't sleep with them straight away, and just 0:28:39.160 --> 0:28:41.040 try and spend some time on your own and really 0:28:41.040 --> 0:28:43.719 think about if you actually like this person or if 0:28:43.760 --> 0:28:46.440 you like the company, and the feeling of being wanted 0:28:46.520 --> 0:28:49.880 and the feeling of not being alone, because there's a 0:28:49.920 --> 0:28:53.000 really big difference, and it's really important to differentiate the 0:28:53.040 --> 0:28:56.400 two about being lonely and being alone, Like you need 0:28:56.440 --> 0:28:58.600 to realize if you were just lonely and that's why 0:28:58.640 --> 0:28:59.640 you're wanting these people. 0:29:00.120 --> 0:29:03.440 My big thing was and I like now retro with 0:29:03.520 --> 0:29:06.720 like the beauty of hindsight and retrospect. I can recognize 0:29:06.720 --> 0:29:07.400 it in myself. 0:29:07.760 --> 0:29:10.680 But I would fall in love. 0:29:10.440 --> 0:29:14.200 With people like I would become obsessed with people, not 0:29:14.240 --> 0:29:16.920 even because I genuinely was obsessed with them or in 0:29:16.920 --> 0:29:19.120 love with them, or even really liked them or even 0:29:19.360 --> 0:29:22.080 honestly thought that I was compatible with them, But I 0:29:22.320 --> 0:29:26.440 liked someone who liked me like I wanted to be loved. 0:29:26.560 --> 0:29:28.960 And so when somebody showed me that they were giving 0:29:28.960 --> 0:29:31.280 me attention or affection, or even sometimes when they weren't 0:29:31.280 --> 0:29:32.960 showing me that much attention or affection, they were just 0:29:32.960 --> 0:29:35.120 spending their time with me, I was like, Oh, maybe 0:29:35.160 --> 0:29:37.600 I like them because they like me, And I think 0:29:37.600 --> 0:29:39.520 that that's a really big one, especially if you're used 0:29:39.560 --> 0:29:41.720 to being with someone and you're used to having the 0:29:41.720 --> 0:29:44.080 company of a partner. To find yourself being alone all 0:29:44.120 --> 0:29:46.520 of a sudden is it can feel a bit shit. 0:29:46.560 --> 0:29:47.960 And it does take a little bit of time to 0:29:48.360 --> 0:29:50.959 have that self confidence of being alone and enjoying your 0:29:50.960 --> 0:29:54.000 own personal space in your own time, and not being 0:29:54.160 --> 0:29:57.760 alone and lonely, being alone and being really happy in 0:29:58.480 --> 0:30:01.720 yourself and on your own I really really think that 0:30:01.760 --> 0:30:04.000 the number one thing that happens in the situation and 0:30:04.040 --> 0:30:05.840 the one thing that you need to really try and 0:30:06.200 --> 0:30:08.840 exercise is some self control and some. 0:30:08.920 --> 0:30:12.320 Self like I know, and I know that sounds patronizing. 0:30:12.360 --> 0:30:14.680 I don't mean it like that that you don't have 0:30:14.720 --> 0:30:17.960 self control, but you recognize these traits in yourself. You're like, 0:30:18.000 --> 0:30:20.120 holy shit, I'm already falling in love with this guy. 0:30:20.160 --> 0:30:21.680 It's only been a month since I broke up with 0:30:21.720 --> 0:30:24.760 my ex boyfriend. And look, there are some circumstances where 0:30:24.800 --> 0:30:26.800 this is totally fine, and there are some people who 0:30:27.160 --> 0:30:29.520 find the love of their life very quickly after, you know, 0:30:29.560 --> 0:30:31.880 falling out of love with somebody else. But you need 0:30:31.920 --> 0:30:34.400 to kind of reflect on why did you break up 0:30:34.400 --> 0:30:37.320 with your ex boyfriend. Why did that relationship end? Are 0:30:37.360 --> 0:30:40.240 you genuinely ready to get into another relationship or you're 0:30:40.280 --> 0:30:43.600 just doing it because you're lonely. And if you're saying, ah, fuck, 0:30:43.680 --> 0:30:46.080 like I know, I know, I'm getting myself in deep, 0:30:46.560 --> 0:30:48.240 then you're the one who has all the resources to 0:30:48.240 --> 0:30:51.080 stop yourself. Like you are not a victy. You are 0:30:51.080 --> 0:30:54.240 not a victim. You're not like being taken for a ride. 0:30:54.560 --> 0:30:57.440 You are taking yourself for a ride in this and 0:30:57.480 --> 0:31:00.480 you have every single opportunity now to go cool. Let's 0:31:00.480 --> 0:31:02.360 put the brakes on a little bit, because I don't 0:31:02.400 --> 0:31:03.760 want to just throw my heart into. 0:31:03.640 --> 0:31:04.720 The ring to be hurt again. 0:31:05.040 --> 0:31:08.640 For me, I'm really lucky actually that I got to 0:31:08.680 --> 0:31:10.720 a place where I'm so happy on my own. And 0:31:10.760 --> 0:31:11.880 obviously I've been on my own. 0:31:11.760 --> 0:31:16.000 For so long that I know now when I get 0:31:16.040 --> 0:31:17.640 feelings for someone, when it's real, because it. 0:31:17.640 --> 0:31:19.640 Happens so infrequently. 0:31:20.080 --> 0:31:23.000 I'm so honest and open with myself when I'm dating someone, 0:31:23.040 --> 0:31:24.800 and like Laura, you'll know, I'll be like, oh, there's 0:31:24.840 --> 0:31:26.640 nothing there, but like we had a lot of fun. 0:31:26.960 --> 0:31:29.400 Oh and there's times where BRIT's like there's nothing there, 0:31:29.400 --> 0:31:30.640 and I'm like you need to give it a chance. 0:31:30.640 --> 0:31:32.560 And she's like, no, I'm all about Like She's like, 0:31:32.600 --> 0:31:33.840 I know what I want and i know what I'm 0:31:33.840 --> 0:31:35.360 looking for, and I'm not going to waste time on 0:31:35.400 --> 0:31:38.800 someone otherwise. Whereas like me back in the day, when 0:31:38.840 --> 0:31:42.160 I was trying to fill my loneliness with someone, I 0:31:42.640 --> 0:31:45.000 would like, I would date a guy. Look, I mean 0:31:45.040 --> 0:31:46.720 not every single guy. Obviously, there were times where I 0:31:46.800 --> 0:31:48.760 was like, there's nothing there, but if there was like 0:31:48.800 --> 0:31:51.200 an inkling of something, I would be like, oh, I 0:31:51.240 --> 0:31:52.160 need to explore this. 0:31:52.600 --> 0:31:54.120 I think you can just take things slowly. 0:31:54.320 --> 0:31:56.040 Well, so now that when I meet someone and I 0:31:56.080 --> 0:31:59.600 feel something, I'm like, wow, like this could actually be something, 0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:02.880 because I know in myself I don't catch feelings easily 0:32:02.920 --> 0:32:05.720 because I'm okay on being on my own. And for me, 0:32:05.880 --> 0:32:07.800 this is my number one piece of advice that I 0:32:07.840 --> 0:32:11.800 will give any woman in their life. Be okay on 0:32:11.840 --> 0:32:13.720 your own at one point in your life, because then 0:32:13.760 --> 0:32:15.440 everything else in your life becomes easier. 0:32:15.440 --> 0:32:16.040 I promise you. 0:32:16.120 --> 0:32:19.080 It seems silly, but it's so important for it for 0:32:19.200 --> 0:32:20.479 every aspect of your life. 0:32:20.560 --> 0:32:21.560 I totally agree. 0:32:21.840 --> 0:32:24.640 And I also think like have the self awareness, like 0:32:24.720 --> 0:32:27.000 do you fall in love so easily. I think that's 0:32:27.040 --> 0:32:28.680 something to be aware of as well, Like, if you 0:32:29.080 --> 0:32:31.080 break up with this guy or if you stop seeing him, 0:32:31.440 --> 0:32:33.240 do you think that you're likely going to meet somebody 0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:35.440 else in a month's time and have these same strong feelings? 0:32:35.480 --> 0:32:37.640 Like are you someone who falls in love super super 0:32:37.720 --> 0:32:41.280 quick and things progress very quickly or are you someone 0:32:41.320 --> 0:32:44.280 who's normally more considered Because you know, there are times 0:32:44.320 --> 0:32:46.520 where you will meet someone shortly after breaking up with 0:32:46.520 --> 0:32:48.360 someone else and it just works and they are the 0:32:48.440 --> 0:32:50.080 right person and it is meant to be. We're not 0:32:50.080 --> 0:32:53.360 saying that that doesn't happen, but if it always happens 0:32:53.400 --> 0:32:56.120 to you, if you're always in a relationship because you 0:32:56.240 --> 0:32:58.440 always find somebody within a couple of weeks of breaking 0:32:58.520 --> 0:33:00.760 up with somebody else, and you always feel like, oh 0:33:00.760 --> 0:33:03.200 my god, now this one's the one, then that's when 0:33:03.200 --> 0:33:05.880 you need to really start reassessing. Because I guarantee you 0:33:05.880 --> 0:33:07.840 you're not supposed to fall in love twelve times in 0:33:07.880 --> 0:33:08.200 a year. 0:33:08.320 --> 0:33:09.920 No one has one hundred ones. 0:33:10.160 --> 0:33:11.200 No, you just don't. 0:33:11.240 --> 0:33:13.520 And it does mean that maybe you have a type, 0:33:13.600 --> 0:33:16.880 or maybe you are in some patent behavior that you 0:33:16.880 --> 0:33:17.680 need to reassess. 0:33:18.480 --> 0:33:20.040 But I would really question if you're. 0:33:19.880 --> 0:33:22.760 Falling in love or you're, like, you know, being blown 0:33:22.800 --> 0:33:26.000 away by someone every other time you go on a date, 0:33:26.320 --> 0:33:27.600 reassess that something else. 0:33:27.640 --> 0:33:29.520 Not every guy is that fucking amazing, trust me? 0:33:30.080 --> 0:33:32.040 Or if they are, where the hell are I'll give 0:33:32.040 --> 0:33:34.040 you them mayandres to go on a reality TV show 0:33:34.040 --> 0:33:40.040 to find one twice. And something else to remember is 0:33:40.080 --> 0:33:42.320 and we've spoken about it a lot, is like love 0:33:42.360 --> 0:33:45.640 bombing and chemistry and last don't confuse all of them. 0:33:45.720 --> 0:33:48.120 It's so easy in those first few weeks when you're 0:33:48.160 --> 0:33:51.760 with someone. Sex is great, you're making out, you're getting. 0:33:51.520 --> 0:33:53.560 The butterflies, you're having all those feelings. 0:33:54.000 --> 0:33:56.440 It's really easy to confuse that with like this is 0:33:56.440 --> 0:33:58.280 a love I've been looking for, when it's not. You've 0:33:58.280 --> 0:34:01.040 got good chemistry and you're having sex, and there's a 0:34:01.080 --> 0:34:03.880 lot more that goes into like actually falling in love. 0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:07.080 Obviously, I'm gonna leave you guys with a spoiler. 0:34:07.160 --> 0:34:08.920 Wait, I'm gonna say one more thing before you say that, 0:34:08.960 --> 0:34:11.200 And it's like something that we advocate from this podcast 0:34:11.719 --> 0:34:14.759 so much, and that is that chemistry. Great chemistry is 0:34:14.800 --> 0:34:18.520 not an indication of a great relationship. Uh, keep your 0:34:18.560 --> 0:34:21.280 eyes open and look for those red flags. 0:34:21.280 --> 0:34:21.600 People. 0:34:21.640 --> 0:34:22.560 If your eyes open, your. 0:34:22.520 --> 0:34:25.040 Legs closed, and looks I. 0:34:24.960 --> 0:34:26.920 Mean whatever, you're allowed to have your legs open, you 0:34:27.040 --> 0:34:28.640 leave your best life girl for We're not here to 0:34:28.640 --> 0:34:30.680 tell you what to do, but we're just here to 0:34:30.719 --> 0:34:31.520 give you some guidance. 0:34:31.520 --> 0:34:33.160 And if you know that sex makes you fall in 0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:35.560 love too quickly, then maybe maybe think about it. 0:34:35.719 --> 0:34:40.600 I'm gonna leave you as the spoiler. I am catching feelings. 0:34:41.000 --> 0:34:42.319 Brittany is in love. 0:34:42.520 --> 0:34:43.319 No I'm not. 0:34:43.560 --> 0:34:45.920 She's like red in the face now and she'll be like, I've. 0:34:45.760 --> 0:34:46.560 Got goose bumps. 0:34:46.920 --> 0:34:48.440 She's Brittany. 0:34:48.880 --> 0:34:50.680 It make me sound like such a knob. 0:34:50.719 --> 0:34:52.680 Brittany has been spending a lot of time with the boy. 0:34:53.120 --> 0:34:54.239 I'm gonna just put that out there. 0:34:54.400 --> 0:34:57.080 Yeah, but that's not love, but I'm not. Yeah, but 0:34:57.120 --> 0:34:58.759 for me, it's the more my time I've ever spent 0:34:58.760 --> 0:34:59.960 with anyone of my existence. 0:35:00.080 --> 0:35:02.560 I've never known Brittany to spend so much time with 0:35:02.600 --> 0:35:03.800 another person that it's weird. 0:35:03.840 --> 0:35:06.959 Does it look weird for you when you see us together? Yeah? Weird? 0:35:07.080 --> 0:35:09.040 Okay, So for all the guys that Brittany's dated over 0:35:09.040 --> 0:35:11.000 the past year and a half, I have not met 0:35:11.000 --> 0:35:13.720 any of them, like, never met them. I hear about 0:35:13.719 --> 0:35:15.480 them and then I'm like, well, they all sound like 0:35:15.480 --> 0:35:16.799 fuck with so I don't want to meet them. Then 0:35:16.800 --> 0:35:20.360 I'm really judgmental, but like, I've met this one. He 0:35:20.440 --> 0:35:21.640 seems great, so. 0:35:22.280 --> 0:35:24.759 And I feel weird we've been with him in front 0:35:24.800 --> 0:35:27.120 of you. I feel like I'm doing something wrong, Yeah, 0:35:27.160 --> 0:35:27.600 because you. 0:35:27.560 --> 0:35:29.800 Know that I'm judging the whole time. I'm like trying 0:35:29.800 --> 0:35:31.960 to dissect and pick out what's going on. So for 0:35:32.000 --> 0:35:34.560 everybody who's been following along or trying to dissect Brittany's 0:35:34.560 --> 0:35:36.920 love life on the Facebook group, which is life on 0:35:36.960 --> 0:35:41.120 cut podcast, you're very good FBI detectives. There is something 0:35:41.200 --> 0:35:43.640 going on. There's something brewing. We don't know what it 0:35:43.719 --> 0:35:45.640 is just yet. It's still early days. And I'm like, 0:35:45.719 --> 0:35:48.200 I'm not prematurely shared that with you because we've got 0:35:48.239 --> 0:35:49.439 no fucking filter. 0:35:49.400 --> 0:35:53.440 In case you Hopefully he doesn't listen. I said he's 0:35:53.440 --> 0:35:55.080 not allow listen. I banded him. 0:35:55.160 --> 0:35:57.080 You guys spend too much time together anyway, at the moment, 0:35:57.360 --> 0:35:59.360 I'd have to grow hard in the bathroom to live by. 0:36:01.080 --> 0:36:01.560 What are you doing? 0:36:01.600 --> 0:36:03.920 They That sounds like my laugh coming from the bathroom. 0:36:04.520 --> 0:36:06.640 Also, the main reason I said don't listen is I 0:36:06.640 --> 0:36:08.040 wasn't ready for him to hear my laugh. 0:36:10.000 --> 0:36:12.120 You can't contain that. You gotta let that thing be free. 0:36:12.200 --> 0:36:13.640 No, I did. It has come out. 0:36:13.719 --> 0:36:13.799 No. 0:36:13.880 --> 0:36:15.680 But not only does Britney have to contain her laugh. 0:36:15.719 --> 0:36:18.480 The other day I came over here and he was leaving, 0:36:18.840 --> 0:36:21.640 and he left the house and she was like, thank fuck, 0:36:21.800 --> 0:36:23.560 I've been needing to do a poop for like the 0:36:23.640 --> 0:36:24.920 last forty minute. 0:36:24.920 --> 0:36:26.719 Okay, now great, what if he does listen? Now he's 0:36:26.719 --> 0:36:27.319 gonna hear that. 0:36:27.440 --> 0:36:29.160 And then I had to listen to her do a poop. 0:36:29.200 --> 0:36:33.440 So there's no there's no secrecy between us, guys. 0:36:33.640 --> 0:36:35.120 Okay, let me just say. It's not like I live 0:36:35.160 --> 0:36:38.840 in a mansion, so I don't have five toilets to 0:36:38.840 --> 0:36:41.319 go choose from. And mind you, I have to listen 0:36:41.360 --> 0:36:43.480 to your nervous poop before every podcast that we do. 0:36:43.680 --> 0:36:45.399 I don't do them anymore. I'm not so nervous about 0:36:45.400 --> 0:36:46.200 the podcast anymore. 0:36:46.360 --> 0:36:48.800 I used to every single time we'd do an episode, guys, 0:36:49.000 --> 0:36:50.720 I'd have to go, this is too much information. 0:36:50.760 --> 0:36:53.560 But like I said, why would we keep anything secret? 0:36:53.920 --> 0:36:55.319 I used to have to go and do a wing 0:36:55.400 --> 0:36:57.920 in a poo before every single episode record, because I 0:36:57.960 --> 0:36:59.239 used to get so nervous doing them. 0:36:59.280 --> 0:37:00.360 Okay, can I just say no? 0:37:00.640 --> 0:37:03.560 Not only that, she would arrive to the studio or 0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:05.400 the house wherever recording and she would go and do 0:37:05.440 --> 0:37:07.920 her pooh and we then she would come. She would 0:37:07.960 --> 0:37:10.640 sit down, she would have the headphones on, We're about 0:37:10.680 --> 0:37:12.920 to press record, and she would be like, I just 0:37:12.920 --> 0:37:14.279 think I need to do one more nervous one. And 0:37:14.480 --> 0:37:16.480 I was like, babe, like how many nervous ones are 0:37:16.480 --> 0:37:18.160 in there? Like have you clogged up for the week? 0:37:18.400 --> 0:37:19.720 So she'd have to go on to another one. 0:37:19.880 --> 0:37:22.120 I was like that guy off Georgia Love's season on 0:37:22.160 --> 0:37:24.600 The Bachelorette, which he had the crazy eyes. 0:37:24.640 --> 0:37:25.640 I think his name was Tim. 0:37:25.960 --> 0:37:27.279 I don't remember. I didn't watch it. 0:37:27.400 --> 0:37:29.840 He kept talking about nervous poohs on the actual I 0:37:29.840 --> 0:37:32.480 don't know if anybody remembers this, but he was from Woollongong. 0:37:32.719 --> 0:37:34.759 I'm also from Wollongong. Maybe I'm related to him. 0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:38.680 Told me five people it's like Tasmania. 0:37:38.840 --> 0:37:41.200 He kept talking about doing a nervous pooh because he 0:37:41.280 --> 0:37:42.480 was so scared about. 0:37:42.239 --> 0:37:42.879 Being on the show. 0:37:43.040 --> 0:37:44.840 That was literally me, but I never spoke about it 0:37:44.920 --> 0:37:47.120 until now, So there you go, sharing my secrecy. 0:37:47.160 --> 0:37:49.399 Nervous poos are actually a thing, though, Like everyone listening 0:37:49.480 --> 0:37:50.719 has done nervous poo in their life. 0:37:50.800 --> 0:37:52.520 Yeah, I just don't do them as much as you. 0:37:52.560 --> 0:37:54.319 Maybe I don't get as nervous as you. Maybe I 0:37:54.440 --> 0:37:56.720 just don't care as much as you everyone does nervous poos. 0:37:56.760 --> 0:37:58.680 You definitely do more nervus poos than anyone but met 0:37:58.680 --> 0:38:00.440 my existence, even like professional athletes. 0:38:04.520 --> 0:38:06.560 All right, on that note, guys, we hope you've enjoyed 0:38:06.560 --> 0:38:08.879 another episode of Life on Cut. If you have any 0:38:08.960 --> 0:38:11.160 questions for us for next week's episode, you can always 0:38:11.239 --> 0:38:14.040 jump on the Facebook group Life on Cut podcast, or 0:38:14.320 --> 0:38:16.280 it's always great if you slide into our dms. Actually 0:38:16.280 --> 0:38:19.000 that's probably the easiest way. Send it to us on Instagram, 0:38:19.040 --> 0:38:22.000 which is also Life on Cut podcast. But it's one 0:38:22.000 --> 0:38:23.759 request is that when you send us a question, put 0:38:23.800 --> 0:38:25.239 ask on Cut at the top, and if you're sending 0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:28.759 us an accidentally unfiltered story, right accidentally unfiltered at the top, 0:38:28.840 --> 0:38:30.840 so that when we can see the little preview of 0:38:30.840 --> 0:38:33.320 the message and makes it really easy for us to determine. 0:38:32.880 --> 0:38:35.239 What is what just some housekeeping for us. 0:38:35.320 --> 0:38:37.440 Oh so I'm really frothing at the moment. All the 0:38:37.480 --> 0:38:40.560 men that are messaging us that they're listening. You're coming 0:38:40.560 --> 0:38:41.880 out more and more every time we mention it. 0:38:41.920 --> 0:38:43.440 Can you keep doing it? Because I love it. 0:38:43.480 --> 0:38:45.560 I love to see the men that are listening. Who 0:38:45.600 --> 0:38:47.480 you are, like, what you're about, what your age is. 0:38:47.480 --> 0:38:49.600 And why you're listening. Just for my own curiosity. 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