Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Lack Uncut.
Speaker 2: I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and Happy pump Day. It's Wednesday.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I've just applot. I didn't sleep last
Speaker 2: Night's Tuesday, isn't it.
Speaker 1: We record this on a Friday, and every single week
Speaker 1: this episode drops in a Tuesday.
Speaker 2: And Brittany's an idiot if you just say something with confidence.
Speaker 2: I just convinced myself it was Wednesday.
Speaker 1: You didn't convince me, So I don't think that that
Speaker 1: theory necessarily.
Speaker 2: Fla talk about life uncut. Happy Tuesday, guys, we are
Speaker 2: so happy to be here in the studio. We could
Speaker 2: just record another intro where you don't I quite liked
Speaker 2: it day. Hey guys, Happy Tuesday? And yeah, how was
Speaker 2: your week? Being Brittany? I just hit some life goals
Speaker 2: this week. I often talk about how I love my magnums.
Speaker 1: Then anyone listened to our very first episode of this year,
Speaker 1: which was twenty twenty Big twenty twenty Energy, where Britain
Speaker 1: made the twenty twenty resolution that she was going to
Speaker 1: cut out some sugar.
Speaker 2: But I'm just going to tell you you didn't do that.
Speaker 2: Guess what happened. Magnum invited me on a super yot.
Speaker 2: It was like I kicked all my life goals. I
Speaker 2: was like, this is incredible.
Speaker 1: There's saxophone, sunset and Magnums, like a Magnum doesn't even
Speaker 1: sponsor this podcast?
Speaker 2: Just sponsored?
Speaker 1: Are you doing this so that you're hoping that you
Speaker 1: might get some free Magnums out of this?
Speaker 2: I just reckon, I reckon, they'll get on board. I reckon,
Speaker 2: They've got to get on board. I'm gonna straight up
Speaker 2: super fan. But no, I did go on the It
Speaker 2: was a beautiful sunset. It was very romantic on the harbor,
Speaker 2: and I just forget. Sometimes sometimes you get stuck in life,
Speaker 2: in your bubble in the same area of I mean,
Speaker 2: I'm going to say Bondai and Sydney disgusting.
Speaker 1: Being stuck in Bondi. It's just it's hideous. No one
Speaker 1: wants to get stuck there with all the beautiful people
Speaker 1: and the tanning and the sun and the ocean.
Speaker 2: That's fucking all seven dollar coffee. Awful.
Speaker 1: Poor Brittany had to go on a super yacht to
Speaker 1: get away from it.
Speaker 2: I think any city that you're in you go to work,
Speaker 2: you get really busy, and then when you get this
Speaker 2: little bit of time off, you don't want to venture
Speaker 2: far away because you're like, I don't have a lot
Speaker 2: of downtime. I'm just gonna walk down my usual gonna
Speaker 2: go to my local. And it was really nice to
Speaker 2: actually make the effort and get out and see some
Speaker 2: of Sydney. So it was just nice, and it was
Speaker 2: difficult that you had to do it on a super
Speaker 2: yocht as well, whilst eating Magnum's.
Speaker 1: Yeah I'm so far latable right now.
Speaker 2: Look, I'm not trying to rub it in anyone's face,
Speaker 2: but I just want to talk about my highlight. And
Speaker 2: I got to eat Magnums on a boat and I
Speaker 2: was great. But let's talk about your week, Laura.
Speaker 1: Oh that's not my week was, if anyone follows on Instagram,
Speaker 1: I had a pretty sad week. My grandfather passed away
Speaker 1: and we had his funeral yesterday, which was pretty hard.
Speaker 1: But then I also lost my wallet in the morning,
Speaker 1: which was also pretty sure.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, please tell them how you lost your wallet.
Speaker 2: You didn't just lose it.
Speaker 1: I had gone to go and get a coffee in
Speaker 1: the morning, and I was pretty flustered and Molly was
Speaker 1: being a bit of a punish. To make her quiet,
Speaker 1: I gave her my wallet to play with. At some
Speaker 1: point whilst walking home, Marley decided, I don't want this
Speaker 1: toy anymore. So I'm in a turf it out of
Speaker 1: the prem so I lost my credit cards, my ID
Speaker 1: and everything. And then driving down to the funeral, which
Speaker 1: was in Woollongong, I had no ID and I had
Speaker 1: no credit cards because Matt had gone down in a
Speaker 1: different car. And I got three quarters the way down
Speaker 1: there and then my petrol act came on.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I was like, you didn't have any
Speaker 2: money to pay for it? Cars Marley three wallet down
Speaker 2: the train.
Speaker 1: I just, honestly, it was. It's been a really, really
Speaker 1: tough week. But do you know what, I'm incredibly lucky
Speaker 1: that I've got to spend this thirty four years with
Speaker 1: an amazing man. So I am very grateful for the
Speaker 1: happy times that we had.
Speaker 2: I'm really sorry to hear it, as you already know.
Speaker 2: We don't need to talk about that here.
Speaker 1: But Brick came into the podcast studio today with a
Speaker 1: big bunch of flowers and she didn't have any paper,
Speaker 1: so she wrote me a note on a parking fine,
Speaker 1: and I thought she was giving me her parking fun
Speaker 1: and it was good. It said sometimes life is shit,
Speaker 1: which I think really matched the situation with the fact
Speaker 1: that it was on a parkast.
Speaker 2: Short poem by Brittany that was funny that life delivers
Speaker 2: things like it just doesn't come in ones, It just
Speaker 2: bombard you. Do you feel like like this week you
Speaker 2: have just had a multitude of really shit things?
Speaker 1: But do you know what I think more so it's
Speaker 1: when something big in your life happens. Then what happens
Speaker 1: is that other things that you would normally be able
Speaker 1: to cope with, and things that would be annoying but
Speaker 1: they wouldn't be quite so upsetting. Then those small things happen,
Speaker 1: but they're compounded by the fact that you're already.
Speaker 2: Sad and they're highlighted, aren't they.
Speaker 1: And so you just everything then surmount, so you really
Speaker 1: start to notice all the other small things. But no,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm yeah, I our We've had our sadness and
Speaker 1: we had our tears yesterday, and I'm sure there'll be
Speaker 1: plenty of times where I feel like that again, because
Speaker 1: it seems like it just comes in waves. But guys,
Speaker 1: we're going to talk about self love in this episode,
Speaker 1: and that's, you know, something that's uplifting and positive to
Speaker 1: talk about. It's something that is definitely a bit more uplifting.
Speaker 1: You have been sending in your Accidentally Unfiltered and I
Speaker 1: freaking live.
Speaker 2: For these now.
Speaker 1: At the start, I was like, I wasn't sure if
Speaker 1: this was going to become a proper segment of this podcast.
Speaker 2: Oh I was. I was like, this is brilliant.
Speaker 1: So when Britt decided that we were going to bring
Speaker 1: on Accidentally Unfiltered, which is basically just your most embarrassing stories,
Speaker 1: I wasn't really sure if this segment had legs. Holy dick,
Speaker 1: this segment has legs, and I love it so much.
Speaker 1: One of you listeners has sent in this story, but
Speaker 1: the fact that she has sent this from what she
Speaker 1: describes as a burner account because she was too embarrassed
Speaker 1: to send it from her own account, So she'snyous.
Speaker 3: Account, like a spy, like she's CIA, or like a troll,
Speaker 3: like she created a fake account so that she could
Speaker 3: send me this story because it's just so great.
Speaker 2: So that we can't ever trace it.
Speaker 1: So here it goes. When I was at Uni, I
Speaker 1: was in the library in a silent study area. I
Speaker 1: had a soal vagina.
Speaker 2: I decide, and I decided.
Speaker 1: To consult a website called virtual MD. I don't think
Speaker 1: it exists anymore, Salaly, do you remember this virtual MD?
Speaker 2: I never used it, but I know about it.
Speaker 1: So it was like Virtual MD was basically where if
Speaker 1: you had something wrong with you, like a virtual medical doctor.
Speaker 1: You had something wrong with you, you could type in your
Speaker 1: symptoms and it would tell you what was wrong with you.
Speaker 2: So, okay, I'll get back to the story.
Speaker 1: Basically, this is where you would enter your symptoms and
Speaker 1: then a video clip of an actual doctor would play,
Speaker 1: after which you would reply, and another clip would play,
Speaker 1: and so on.
Speaker 2: It had subtitles.
Speaker 1: So I typed in the symptoms and suddenly the doctor
Speaker 1: appeared on screen and boomed. You were telling me that
Speaker 1: you have an itchy vagina.
Speaker 2: Let me see if I can help you with that. Today,
Speaker 2: everyone in the library turned to look at me.
Speaker 1: I tried to pretend that someone had pranked me, but
Speaker 1: I don't think my acting is particularly very convincing. So
Speaker 1: after a few minutes I left. I never returned to
Speaker 1: the university library ever again.
Speaker 2: When I moved to Alaska, I freaking love this.
Speaker 1: Please, if you have an accidentally unfiltered story for next week,
Speaker 1: send them on through because we live for your embarrassing stories.
Speaker 2: Also, it makes us feel so much more human. I
Speaker 2: love that that happened. But you know, there's that joke
Speaker 2: that people send you a video. When you open it,
Speaker 2: it's like a pawn thing that plays out loud. Have
Speaker 2: you had someone ever done that to you? My friend
Speaker 2: used to it to me all the time. I was like, dude,
Speaker 2: stop it, like it looks like it's gonna be a butterfly,
Speaker 2: and then you press into it as a porn thing
Speaker 2: and it's like, eh, wherever you are, you've opened it
Speaker 2: and everyone looks at you. But I'm really enjoyed your
Speaker 2: your vocals said.
Speaker 1: If you try and do an orgasm noise, because I
Speaker 1: haven't heard one of those for a while, go again.
Speaker 2: No, I'm not doing it. Use your imagination. But I'm
Speaker 2: going to add another accidentally unfiltered on just a quick one.
Speaker 2: This woman wrote in and I'm between fifteen sixty and
Speaker 2: I just did something that's really funny. So she's like,
Speaker 2: my daughter had her boyfriend over and I of course
Speaker 2: wanted to know about him. So as they were in
Speaker 2: their room. I went on to Facebook to try and
Speaker 2: find him, but I accidentally friend requested him. Five seconds later,
Speaker 2: my comes out of the room and says, Mom, did.
Speaker 3: You just friend request Cameron? And I said, no, dear,
Speaker 3: I wouldn't do that. She holds her phonem She's like, Mom,
Speaker 3: I can see it. You friend requested camer And she's like,
Speaker 3: I couldn't even say it with someone else.
Speaker 2: I have five friends total, so it's really obviously me.
Speaker 2: Do you know this?
Speaker 1: Actually this actually happened to me. So I had just
Speaker 1: started seeing this is years ago. I had just started
Speaker 1: seeing this guy. He was an English guy and we
Speaker 1: had just like we met on Tinder and we had
Speaker 1: been on two days, two days, and his mom requested
Speaker 1: to be my friend. She still lives in England, mind you.
Speaker 1: So our next day I was like, Hey, just wanted
Speaker 1: to flag this with you.
Speaker 2: Your mom requested to be my friend on.
Speaker 1: Facebook, and the poor thing he was so embarrassed because
Speaker 1: obviously he'd been talking about me to his mom.
Speaker 2: She had done that by accident, but she was stuck. Anyway.
Speaker 2: I kind of feel all people in the internet what
Speaker 2: to day. My mom and dad used to when we
Speaker 2: got Facebook, they used to not understand. Like they used
Speaker 2: to write to me comments. They didn't know it was
Speaker 2: a comment, so we don't know it was public, so
Speaker 2: that it was like the range me a message. So
Speaker 2: my dad would be like, hey, pos and Princess, I
Speaker 2: hope you had a good day. Was just thinking about you.
Speaker 2: Are you coming over for dinner? What should we have?
Speaker 2: I've still got some leftover chicken. Take us some toilet
Speaker 2: paper on your way home, sweetie. Everybody doesn't need to
Speaker 2: know what we're doing.
Speaker 1: Not to like one up your parent and terrible parenting
Speaker 1: technology stories, but this is gold. So years ago, someone
Speaker 1: had posted on Facebook an rip funeral notice about one
Speaker 1: of our relatives, and my mum wrote.
Speaker 2: Below, loll l o l because she thought I have
Speaker 2: lots of love, bless her soul. I actually thought that's
Speaker 2: what it was to loll. She wouldn't have known, because
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people think it's lots of love, right, No,
Speaker 2: maybe it is in like Norway, No one thinks that
Speaker 2: I do. People who don't know how to use the internet.
Speaker 2: How are you seventy? You know you know what I'm
Speaker 2: like with the interweb? Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's just not let's just stop there, all right, guys,
Speaker 1: Let's get into this.
Speaker 2: Guys. We're going to jump straight on in now to
Speaker 2: the big Meata segment, and that is self love. We
Speaker 2: talk about it a lot. It's a bit a bit
Speaker 2: of a hot fat at the moment, and it gets
Speaker 2: tossed around a lot. You know, you have to love
Speaker 2: yourself more, if only you loved yourself more. I mean,
Speaker 2: you can't love another person until you love yourself. And
Speaker 2: we actually had a very specific question. Somebody wrote in saying,
Speaker 2: I've recently broken up with my partner and all the
Speaker 2: advice I'm getting is to love myself. But I don't
Speaker 2: know what that means. And I don't know how people
Speaker 2: say love yourself? But what is that? How do I
Speaker 2: get there? So, Laura, we thought we would sort of
Speaker 2: break this down today.
Speaker 1: Just one thing I want to say before we get
Speaker 1: into this. Maybe I'm really jumping ahead on this, but
Speaker 1: I really hate that saying that nobody's going to love
Speaker 1: you unless you love yourself. It puts so much pressure
Speaker 1: on someone who may be feeling down about themselves and
Speaker 1: may not love themselves at that point in time, to
Speaker 1: tell them that nobody is going to love you because
Speaker 1: you don't love yourself. I don't think that that's correct
Speaker 1: because I know that I have been in a relationship
Speaker 1: with somebody who suffered with depression and there were times
Speaker 1: where he didn't love himself and I still loved him,
Speaker 1: And I think that it's very dismissive. It's very dismissive,
Speaker 1: but it's also it's a very reckless way of trying
Speaker 1: to encourage someone to be more positive about loving themselves
Speaker 1: and to be more self accepting. So I just kind
Speaker 1: of wanted to like blanket that statement.
Speaker 2: But I mean, I will often say, and I'm a
Speaker 2: believer of this too, like this is going going against
Speaker 2: the grain a bit of what you just said. But
Speaker 2: I will often say, you can't really be happy with
Speaker 2: someone else if you're not happy in yourself or on
Speaker 2: your own. And I'll say that all the time, and
Speaker 2: I mean that, But it doesn't mean you can't go
Speaker 2: and be with somebody. When I say that, I mean, Okay,
Speaker 2: sure you might be able to go and have a
Speaker 2: relationship with someone, but unless you're actually have healed yourself
Speaker 2: and gotten yourself to a good place, you're going to
Speaker 2: take that in your new relationship. So when I say, like,
Speaker 2: you can't be happy with someone else unless you're happy
Speaker 2: on your own, I do I do genuinely sort of
Speaker 2: mean that, because I mean, you're going to take in
Speaker 2: a whole lot of negativity and a whole lot of doubt.
Speaker 2: But of course people are still going to love you
Speaker 2: when you're broken. Of course people love you when you're
Speaker 2: down and out. I just don't think you're going into
Speaker 2: it at a successful level.
Speaker 1: I think that sometimes we can be very black and
Speaker 1: white with the terms that we use, and I think
Speaker 1: that sometimes self love at the moment and the way
Speaker 1: that we discuss it, especially on social media and especially
Speaker 1: sort of like this hype around it is it's very
Speaker 1: superficial in that, you know, it's very much based on
Speaker 1: the aesthetics. I think we often talk about self love
Speaker 1: and we talk about, you know, accepting your cellul ade
Speaker 1: or accepting that gap in your teeth, or accepting your
Speaker 1: flat chest.
Speaker 2: There's all these things.
Speaker 1: That we associate self love to, and we seem to
Speaker 1: really associate it to what you physically look like. And
Speaker 1: I think that self love is it transcends far more
Speaker 1: than just accepting your physical attributes. It translates to accepting
Speaker 1: your past, accepting your personality, accepting the mistakes that you've made,
Speaker 1: and being kind and really being compassionate to yourself. So
Speaker 1: when I think of self love, I think that just
Speaker 1: this very like trivial and surface conversation around love yourself.
Speaker 1: It don't think it really goes deep enough into what
Speaker 1: it is. And that's kind of what I was excited
Speaker 1: to talk to you about today. And this understanding of
Speaker 1: not using the terminology self love, but using the terminology
Speaker 1: more of self compassion is what I attribute it to,
Speaker 1: and that's what gets me excited about the topic.
Speaker 2: When I think of self love for myself, I think
Speaker 2: self acceptance. I like the term acceptance and self forgiveness.
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people hold on to some things,
Speaker 2: whether they know it or not. You might have done
Speaker 2: something in the past or something that just doesn't sit
Speaker 2: right with your years on and you don't even know
Speaker 2: you're holding onto it. I think you can take that
Speaker 2: with you all through life, and it's really important. You
Speaker 2: need to figure it out and bring it to the
Speaker 2: surface and deal with it, because if it's just sitting
Speaker 2: in the pits of your belly, you know that sick
Speaker 2: feeling when you think, do you have a moment in
Speaker 2: your life? You don't have to say what it is, Laura,
Speaker 2: But when you think back, and if you're listening to anyone,
Speaker 2: when you think back to a moment might be something
Speaker 2: you've done, might be a conversation you had with someone.
Speaker 2: Do you ever look back and just be like, Oh,
Speaker 2: it makes me sick thinking about it. I can't believe
Speaker 2: that happened. I can't be but I did that, Like,
Speaker 2: do you have a moment?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Absolutely.
Speaker 1: I mean I've definitely spoken on this podcast before about
Speaker 1: how I was a total asshole in some past relationships
Speaker 1: and it took me a really long time to get
Speaker 1: to a point where I felt worthy of having a
Speaker 1: good relationship because I carried a lot of guilt. And
Speaker 1: what it made me realize is, yes, I may have
Speaker 1: behaved badly, and I may have cheated, and I may
Speaker 1: have not been the person that I wanted to be
Speaker 1: in those relationships, but it's made me much better at
Speaker 1: my relationship now, and I know that I have taken
Speaker 1: those mistakes and instead of continuously beating myself up about
Speaker 1: it and feeling bad and feeling like I'm not good enough,
Speaker 1: I know that I'm never gonna make those mistakes again
Speaker 1: because I don't want to be that person. So I
Speaker 1: think that with self love comes this real self acceptance.
Speaker 1: Some people may wake up and really feel like I
Speaker 1: love myself, and that's great, and if you have that
Speaker 1: sort of like pivotal turning moment in your life, that's
Speaker 1: an incredible thing. But I also think for some people
Speaker 1: is it's a process. It's not an event. It's the
Speaker 1: journey towards it. You know, there might be times in
Speaker 1: your life where you feel really great and really positive,
Speaker 1: and then there may be other times in your life
Speaker 1: where something happens and it just knocks the absolute wind.
Speaker 2: Out of you. I definitely do not think you just
Speaker 2: wake up with it one day and say I love
Speaker 2: myself now. I mean, if you are the one percent
Speaker 2: they can do that, that's absolutely brilliant. But I think
Speaker 2: it's a process. It takes time. It's physical attributes, it
Speaker 2: has mental characteristics, it has spiritual trays. There's a whole
Speaker 2: holistic approach to self love. Then there are so many
Speaker 2: layers and maybe you work on one of those layers
Speaker 2: at a time, whether that's for you. You start mentally
Speaker 2: and we'll go through some things. But I think to
Speaker 2: start with, you need to be mindful of your feelings.
Speaker 2: How are you feeling? How are things making you feel?
Speaker 2: The people you hang around, your job, your day to day.
Speaker 2: So I think that is a really big thing to
Speaker 2: start with. You wake up and are you hating yourself
Speaker 2: because you don't want to go to work that day
Speaker 2: because you hate your job? Are you hating on your
Speaker 2: because your partner is just making you feel one foot
Speaker 2: tall all the time? You know? I think it's about
Speaker 2: peeling back the layers and starting at the basics and
Speaker 2: just asking yourself. Now you can all ask yourself, Okay,
Speaker 2: how do I feel today? How do I feel right
Speaker 2: now in this moment? How do I feel going into
Speaker 2: the day? Am I excited? Am I looking forward to it?
Speaker 2: Is there something I'm dreading? If there is, why you're
Speaker 2: dreading it? To begin with, just being in touch and
Speaker 2: like hyper aware of your feelings.
Speaker 1: I think as well, not just in regards to the
Speaker 1: way you're feeling, because I think feelings shift and we
Speaker 1: don't always control the way we feel, like sometimes hormonally
Speaker 1: we don't have control over things. But what you do
Speaker 1: have control over are your thoughts and thoughts can proceed feelings.
Speaker 1: So if you're feeling sad and you're feeling anxious, so
Speaker 1: you're feeling a certain thing, I kind of tend to
Speaker 1: want to lean into. Instead of trying to control the
Speaker 1: way you feel, try and control the dialogue that you're
Speaker 1: having internally, that internal dialogue that says I'm not good enough,
Speaker 1: or I'm not pretty enough, or are not skinny enough.
Speaker 1: And you have to really be aware of that critical
Speaker 1: thought that you have and trying to change that dialogue.
Speaker 1: And so anytime you catch yourself having that perfectionist talk
Speaker 1: where you're saying that you're not enough, stop stop bullying
Speaker 1: yourself and stop being mean to yourself. And you have
Speaker 1: to switch that around, and you're like, you know what,
Speaker 1: my skin is great, my hair is great, I am
Speaker 1: skinny enough, I am funny enough, I am confident enough,
Speaker 1: And you are your thoughts. Whatever it is that you're
Speaker 1: focusing on, and whatever it is that you're thinking to
Speaker 1: yourself constantly, that's the world that you're creating for yourself.
Speaker 1: If you think you're not good enough, then you are
Speaker 1: not going to be good enough because you're constantly going
Speaker 1: to doubt yourself. You're not going to take opportunities or
Speaker 1: chances as they're presented to you. So you're creating that
Speaker 1: environment for yourself. So I'm totally with you. I think
Speaker 1: feelings are important, but I think thoughts are the first
Speaker 1: part of that. I think really taking control of your
Speaker 1: thoughts and taking ownership for that is so important to
Speaker 1: getting to a place where you can actually start to
Speaker 1: like no, I do love. You can trick yourself into it.
Speaker 1: If you tell yourself enough, it becomes real.
Speaker 2: A lot of this stems from comparison in the world. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like llelujah, and you know, I love to say it.
Speaker 2: I've said it before. Comparison is the thief of joy totally.
Speaker 1: We've talked about comparison and especially with comparison with social
Speaker 1: media so much, but I think it's one of those
Speaker 1: things that you can't talk about enough in this day
Speaker 1: and age.
Speaker 2: And it's so hard because it's in our face everywhere,
Speaker 2: whether it's on a billboard, whether it's on the bus
Speaker 2: literally the side of the bus, whether it is reality.
Speaker 1: TV stars yea you, I'm constantly comparing myself to you.
Speaker 4: Please so tan so pretty fake fake, But that's just it, right,
Speaker 4: It's fake, And like we have this comparison constantly where
Speaker 4: we see people on Instagram and they're so beautiful and
Speaker 4: they're so perfect.
Speaker 1: And their lives are so fun and they're on bloody
Speaker 1: super yachts with magnum and it just makes you feel
Speaker 1: like what you have is not good enough.
Speaker 2: I Laura, if you guys follow me on social media, Laura,
Speaker 2: do you follow me? Sometimes you would know that I
Speaker 2: have recently, I've never really shared my work life on
Speaker 2: social media because I always just thought like no one
Speaker 2: was interested in that. I thought you wanted to see
Speaker 2: the super gool and you were a highlight reel. Well
Speaker 2: like what in my mind, I'm like, why would anyone
Speaker 2: want to see me at work? Like? How boring? But
Speaker 2: I decided just after I got a lot of people saying,
Speaker 2: you know, how great your life is, how nice it
Speaker 2: is to have everything handed to you. It made me mad,
Speaker 2: and I said, Then I thought to myself, hang on,
Speaker 2: I can't be mad because I haven't told anyone that
Speaker 2: I do work, and how does anyone know that? But
Speaker 2: I do have multiple jobs, and my sister and I
Speaker 2: we've always worked together in a hospital, and any of
Speaker 2: your shift workers, you know, you know what that's like
Speaker 2: you do a ten hour shift, you're on call all night,
Speaker 2: you back up to another ten hour shift the next day,
Speaker 2: and I've done that for years. I don't do the
Speaker 2: on call anymore because I have too many other jobs
Speaker 2: and I actually need that sleep in between. But I
Speaker 2: still work my ass off. But I didn't want people
Speaker 2: looking at me thinking like comparing themselves. I didn't them
Speaker 2: thinking like, oh, she's she's so lucky, she's got it all. Guys,
Speaker 2: Laura and I both work like a boss. Like Laura,
Speaker 2: I don't even know when you sleep. You don't do
Speaker 2: what is sleep? But what are you talking about?
Speaker 1: Who am I uncee?
Speaker 2: It's the comparison thing. And I hope you guys know
Speaker 2: that every single person you, I guess are looking up
Speaker 2: to on social media, their life is not going to
Speaker 2: be what they present it to you.
Speaker 1: I'll give you one hot secret, guys. I went to
Speaker 1: the Melbourne Cup races, and do you know what it
Speaker 1: made me realize? When the horse racing sucks, you copped
Speaker 1: a bit.
Speaker 2: You can get it, guys, I get it.
Speaker 1: But what I did realize as well, from a more
Speaker 1: human perspective and a bit of people watching, is that
Speaker 1: I saw in real life, all the people that I
Speaker 1: follow on social media and all the people who I
Speaker 1: have over the years thought oh my god, she's so beautiful.
Speaker 1: Why don't I look like that? And they don't look
Speaker 1: like that. Yes, everyone is still beautiful and everyone is
Speaker 1: still stunning, but everyone is less shiny in real life.
Speaker 1: Now that I meet and see people who I have
Speaker 1: followed and who I found inspirational aspirational purely from a
Speaker 1: physical sense, not because their lives are necessarily inspirational aspiration.
Speaker 1: They're just like on a superficial level, totally on a
Speaker 1: totally superficial level. When I've seen these people in real life,
Speaker 1: I've been like, Oh, that almost made me feel better
Speaker 1: about myself, which is terrible because once again I'm comparing myself.
Speaker 2: It's a realization that's not what it's seems, you know.
Speaker 1: And I know that we're becoming more woke to this.
Speaker 1: I know that we're starting to realize it, but I
Speaker 1: don't think people realize it to the full extent, because
Speaker 1: you know, you're never, like, for the majority of people,
Speaker 1: you're never going to see the people that you follow
Speaker 1: on Instagram in real life. Some people are getting better
Speaker 1: with sharing all aspects and all facets via stories. But
Speaker 1: there are still a lot of people out there who
Speaker 1: share a very curated, very like face tuned, very photoshop,
Speaker 1: very filtered version of their life. And I think you
Speaker 1: would be surprised if you've met some of these people
Speaker 1: in real life.
Speaker 2: And like you said, they're all beautiful, but you're like
Speaker 2: some of them I didn't recognize just less shiny. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I was like wow.
Speaker 1: I was like, that's that's what you look like without
Speaker 1: Valencia over your face.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, how do you even say this? Let's
Speaker 2: just say it. Every single woman has cellula, every single
Speaker 2: woman has stretch marks. I have them.
Speaker 1: I have a massive pimple on my butt right now
Speaker 1: as well. I'm not going to make anyone else feel good.
Speaker 2: One I didn't know. We'll go on there feel good.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I do want to talk about
Speaker 1: in this? And this is pretty like, this is pretty out.
Speaker 2: There for me.
Speaker 1: I haven't spoken about this stuff before in regards to
Speaker 1: accepting oneself. When I finished the show, like when we
Speaker 1: came off The Bachelor, there was a period there where
Speaker 1: I was so insecure because I would open up Instagram
Speaker 1: and someone would have messaged, you know, she looks like
Speaker 1: a prawn. That this was a comment for example, or
Speaker 1: you know, is that person even talking about great body,
Speaker 1: but throw away the head for anyone who doesn't know
Speaker 1: she looks like a prawn, or she has no lips anyway.
Speaker 1: But like the majority of them were about my face
Speaker 1: and how I wasn't pretty enough. And never in my life,
Speaker 1: not that I was ever egotistical or self absorbed, but
Speaker 1: never in my life had I looked at myself in
Speaker 1: the mirror and not liked what I saw. I always
Speaker 1: looked at myself in the mirror and thought, Okay, we
Speaker 1: can work with this, this is totally doable. But there
Speaker 1: was about a year after the show finished where I
Speaker 1: looked at myself in the mirror and I didn't think
Speaker 1: I was good enough.
Speaker 2: I didn't think I was good enough for Matt. I
Speaker 2: didn't think I.
Speaker 1: Was pretty enough to be in the privileged situation that
Speaker 1: I was in. I didn't think I was pretty enough
Speaker 1: to have been the last person standing on the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: I just didn't think I was good enough at all.
Speaker 1: And I went and I got feelers in my lips
Speaker 1: and I got feelers in my cheeks, and I was
Speaker 1: trying to I'm actually gonna get upset. I was trying
Speaker 1: to be something that I wasn't and trying to change
Speaker 1: yourself to make other people happy is never going to
Speaker 1: make you happy. If you find yourself going down that
Speaker 1: train of thought or thinking that you need to have
Speaker 1: bigger lips because other people have that, or you need
Speaker 1: to change something about yourself because it's going to make
Speaker 1: you prettier or better or happier, I think that's when
Speaker 1: you really need to stop and stop trying to change
Speaker 1: how you physically look, and really try and change the
Speaker 1: way you're thinking about yourself. You are so unique in
Speaker 1: everything that makes you you, and that is absolutely enough,
Speaker 1: no matter what somebody says to you.
Speaker 2: Well, there's only one year, isn't there in the whole world,
Speaker 2: there's one new interesting So before I went on the Bachelor,
Speaker 2: I was booked in for a console to get my
Speaker 2: boobs done. I didn't know I know, so I'd booked in.
Speaker 2: This was literally like literally just before I got on
Speaker 2: the Bachelor. Then I got the call for the Bachelor.
Speaker 2: So I canceled that because I was the console. Because
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm going on the Bachelor, So I
Speaker 2: canceled that. When on the show, and I am so
Speaker 2: glad that worked out the way it did, because when
Speaker 2: I came out the other side, I realized that I
Speaker 2: was doing I don't think at that time I was
Speaker 2: doing that necessarily for me. I think I think I
Speaker 2: was surface level being like, yeah, I'm totally doing this
Speaker 2: for me, like I've got small boobs, you know, it'll
Speaker 2: make me feel better. But I think there's a lot
Speaker 2: there was a lot of it that was about I've
Speaker 2: been single a long time. Maybe if I had bigger boobs,
Speaker 2: better boobs, guys I like me more like. There was
Speaker 2: definitely an aspect of that if I'm I wouldn't have
Speaker 2: admitted that at the time, But you know, I've gone
Speaker 2: through a lot since then, and I've changed a lot,
Speaker 2: and I've reflected a lot, and I think that there
Speaker 2: was a big part of me that was maybe thinking
Speaker 2: that it would attract a penguin. Penguin's like boobs. Everyone
Speaker 2: likes its science, but I love my like now, I
Speaker 2: love my boobs. Yeah they're small. And it's what you
Speaker 2: just said. Comes with age, like you said, and you
Speaker 2: just get to a point where you get more comfortable
Speaker 2: and for example, like you just said, all these by
Speaker 2: the way, those people that trolled you what fucking idiots.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: That's a whole other conversation really, just like we can
Speaker 1: have another conversation about internet trolling. But just to add
Speaker 1: to that last what I was saying before, I don't
Speaker 1: have any filler in my face now, like that stuff
Speaker 1: has dissolved over the years and it's all gone, and
Speaker 1: I look like I used to look, I think anyway,
Speaker 1: And maybe some people would never have even noticed they've
Speaker 1: done it in the first place, and some people did.
Speaker 1: But I now, being at my lowest and also come
Speaker 1: out of that, like, I know that that does not
Speaker 1: make me happy, and that's why I feel like I
Speaker 1: can tell you that changing things about yourself is not
Speaker 1: going to make you happy. Happiness has to come from
Speaker 1: the way you feel about yourself and has to come
Speaker 1: from this contentment. And the most important relationship that you
Speaker 1: have is the relationship that you have with yourself, because
Speaker 1: regardless of whether you're in a relationship now, regardless of
Speaker 1: whether you find a boyfriend in a year's time, six
Speaker 1: years time, whatever, you are going to spend a lot
Speaker 1: of time alone in your life, and you need to
Speaker 1: be okay with who you are when there's nobody else around.
Speaker 2: Like we did touch on it before. If you have
Speaker 2: a really crooked nose and it makes you so unhappy
Speaker 2: and self conscious, sure go get fixed. As long as
Speaker 2: you're know it's for you, not anyone else. So like
Speaker 2: it's super important to know that it's your body and
Speaker 2: it's your life. You can do whatever the hell you
Speaker 2: want with it as long as it's for you. It's
Speaker 2: funny because Ali from the Bachelorette Ali, she's actually been
Speaker 2: really vocal and open about she had very very large breasts,
Speaker 2: and she was really open. She had a breast reduction
Speaker 2: a few months ago, and she said she got those
Speaker 2: because he basically for her boyfriend to make him happy,
Speaker 2: because he wanted her to have bigger boobs. And she
Speaker 2: is open saying, as big as regret of my life
Speaker 2: because I didn't do it for me like I did
Speaker 2: it for him, and then they broke up and she's
Speaker 2: left with his breasts. She wasn't happy with Emma.
Speaker 1: We're not shaming plastic surgery, We're not shaming cousemetic injections,
Speaker 1: We're not shaming any of that stuff. If you want
Speaker 1: to do that for yourself and that makes you happy
Speaker 1: for you, then that is totally fine. But if you're
Speaker 1: doing it because you feel like you have to because
Speaker 1: you don't feel good enough, that is where the problem is.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I do think it's important that we talk
Speaker 2: a little bit more about some steps you can take
Speaker 2: if you're not quite at that level of self love
Speaker 2: yet and you still have some work to do, and
Speaker 2: you know you have work to do, but you don't
Speaker 2: know how to get there. So we're going to discuss
Speaker 2: a few things. I think one of them first and foremost.
Speaker 2: This is a personal opinion, and I don't talk about
Speaker 2: this a lot, but I have been the lowest of lows.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: I've had some really tough things in my life, and
Speaker 2: I have been there and I've had to pull myself
Speaker 2: up off the ground and walk up the steps and
Speaker 2: get back on to the top of that mountain. And
Speaker 2: the number one thing that helped me was exercise. I
Speaker 2: just fell into this routine and I realized that every day,
Speaker 2: whether it was just a walk, a run, boxing, whatever,
Speaker 2: I was moving every day, and I felt ten times
Speaker 2: better after it. I wouldn't want to get out of bed,
Speaker 2: but once I made myself get up, the day improved.
Speaker 1: The hardest thing with exercise is if you haven't done
Speaker 1: it and it's not part of your it's not part
Speaker 1: of your routine, and you're so far off the bandwagon,
Speaker 1: just starting can seem so incredibly overwhelming.
Speaker 2: But you don't have to look at it as though like.
Speaker 1: I'm getting back into exercise. Just go for a walk,
Speaker 1: Just do something small every day that's going to start
Speaker 1: to like progressively get you back on track and back
Speaker 1: into shape. Because I definitely think exercise is one of
Speaker 1: the best things for getting your brain happy again.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, there are actual chemical reactions that happen
Speaker 2: in your body.
Speaker 1: It's the endorphins. That's the good stuff.
Speaker 2: And eventually we've spoken about this in the first episode
Speaker 2: back this year, actually, and that is just about getting
Speaker 2: yourself into a routine. So after maybe three weeks, I
Speaker 2: think a lot of science says three weeks, and then
Speaker 2: you start to get into a habit, You form a habit,
Speaker 2: and with that you'll start to want to eat better.
Speaker 2: And I think nutrition comes into self love because you holistically,
Speaker 2: you want to feel good on the outside and the inside,
Speaker 2: and that comes from good food. If you're laying in
Speaker 2: bed binge eating, I mean we've always man, I was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I think eating really well, exercising, just starting to look
Speaker 2: after yourself from the inside out.
Speaker 1: There's a bloody brilliant place to start from a very
Speaker 1: superficial level. When you feel like you look good, you
Speaker 1: feel good about yourself. So I mean, you can't it's
Speaker 1: all fine and danny to be like you just need
Speaker 1: to love yourself exactly the way you are. But there
Speaker 1: are steps that you can take that are like very
Speaker 1: very healthy and very productive, such as exercise. They can
Speaker 1: get you on the right track to feeling that way
Speaker 1: about yourself inwards and outwards. I think another really important
Speaker 1: one is boundaries, and I think another really important aspect
Speaker 1: of that is saying no if you're doing something that
Speaker 1: doesn't make you happy, if you're being around people who
Speaker 1: don't add value to your life or make you feel
Speaker 1: good about yourself, they bring you down. If you have
Speaker 1: toxic friendships, if you have frenemies, you feel like shit,
Speaker 1: just can''t just ghost them?
Speaker 2: Just bloody cotton down, can it?
Speaker 1: I just cannot stress this enough. I think this also
Speaker 1: comes with age, and it comes with you get to
Speaker 1: a point where in your life you just you're not
Speaker 1: You're not going to put focus and time and energy
Speaker 1: into people who don't make you happy and don't make
Speaker 1: you feel good and don't give back to the quality
Speaker 1: of the relationship that you put in. Now, I think
Speaker 1: that this is such an important aspect of self love,
Speaker 1: of self care, of self respect. You need to remove
Speaker 1: people and things that are not not treating you the
Speaker 1: way that you deserve to be treated.
Speaker 2: I'm really good at not having people in my life
Speaker 2: that are not good for me, Like somebody that a
Speaker 2: toxic friend. I'm really good at leaving that behind. I
Speaker 2: don't cause a scene or anything, but I just don't
Speaker 2: encourage the friendship and I let it fade. What I'm
Speaker 2: not really good at, and I'm really really trying to
Speaker 2: work hard at it, is saying no.
Speaker 1: But self love doesn't have to be this like rah
Speaker 1: rah rah, like I'm going out.
Speaker 2: I'm living.
Speaker 1: I'm living my life to the MAXX. Self love can
Speaker 1: be sitting at home watching Netflix, eating a bowl of
Speaker 1: ice cream, just taking care of yourself, doing nothing. You know,
Speaker 1: I thought that was what self love is. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm debating. Just loads of masturbating guys nail that. No,
Speaker 1: but self love is if you need to take time
Speaker 1: out from all your friendship circles, from all the noise
Speaker 1: and the stimulus and other people. Sometimes self love is
Speaker 1: taking a couple of days to yourself just to really
Speaker 1: reconnect and get your thoughts in order and get your
Speaker 1: life in order. Sometimes, when you're caught in the craziness
Speaker 1: of life and the busyness, you haven't really stopped and
Speaker 1: taken time to go, oh, how do I think and
Speaker 1: feel about these situations? Why am I so stressed out
Speaker 1: or anxious? Or why is there so much noise? Giving
Speaker 1: yourself quiet space and saying no is a huge part
Speaker 1: of what self love is.
Speaker 2: And it takes a lot of power and courage to
Speaker 2: say no to people sometimes, especially when you love them.
Speaker 2: But if if you physically and mentally know that you
Speaker 2: can't deliver, that's totally okay, and a real friend will understand.
Speaker 2: I've put a little point in here that I want
Speaker 2: to talk about, and that is trying new things. One
Speaker 2: of them that I tried is meditation. What do you
Speaker 2: think about that? I don't know how I feel about meditation.
Speaker 2: I'm not so woke that I can get on the
Speaker 2: meditation train. I think that's a common misconception. I don't
Speaker 2: think you have to be woke. I'm not all meditation.
Speaker 2: People say I went and did a month. I spent
Speaker 2: a month with a monk and I learn to meditate
Speaker 2: and came. I have never done yoga, I've never done
Speaker 2: meditation before. I had never done anything. I made a
Speaker 2: decision to go and try something new to help me
Speaker 2: from the inside out. I met this monk. He was
Speaker 2: really funny. He had a shiny head. So I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna I'm.
Speaker 1: Gonna do this with you're You're really an easy sell,
Speaker 1: aren't you.
Speaker 2: Oh the bendist arm ever called Bendy arm Brittany. So
Speaker 2: I did this month with his monk. He taught me
Speaker 2: to meditate. He taught me literally how to feel good,
Speaker 2: be a better person, and love myself. And it was
Speaker 2: I didn't go in searching for him. I stumbled across him,
Speaker 2: but it changed my life. I often still meditate now,
Speaker 2: and I don't You don't have to go and sit
Speaker 2: at the beach cross legs, you know, hands out with
Speaker 2: the little signs.
Speaker 1: She's trying to do point a finger touching thumb like
Speaker 1: a little Lena mistake.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not meditator. Yeah, that's not it. I do
Speaker 2: it in my room. I often do it before I
Speaker 2: go to sleep or first thing when I wake up.
Speaker 2: And it really did set the tone for the rest
Speaker 2: of my life. And I know that sounds crazy, but
Speaker 2: it changed the way I think. It changed the way
Speaker 2: situations and people and things affect me. Like nothing gets
Speaker 2: to me as much as that you do. It's like
Speaker 2: water off a duck's back. And I definitely attribute it
Speaker 2: to this guy. And this time we.
Speaker 1: Like we talked about at the beginning of this podcast,
Speaker 1: talking about like training your thoughts, Like I mean, maybe
Speaker 1: that is what meditation is in a very crude sense
Speaker 1: without putting a label on it. If you're retraining yourself
Speaker 1: to think a certain way and stopping yourself from having
Speaker 1: negative thought patterns, maybe that is a type of meditation
Speaker 1: as well.
Speaker 2: It is one hundred percent. There are so many levels.
Speaker 1: So I have this one and I want to do
Speaker 1: this for you guys, because this was when I was
Speaker 1: in a really, really dark place. This really really helped
Speaker 1: me when I was talking about earlier about retraining your
Speaker 1: thoughts and like really trying to recent to yourself and
Speaker 1: when you find yourself thinking negative things. This exercise actually
Speaker 1: changed my life. I was going through a terrible, terrible breakup,
Speaker 1: and I was sitting at my desk at work and
Speaker 1: I was bawling my eyes out into my keyboard and
Speaker 1: my boss came up and he said, I have a
Speaker 1: I have an audiotape I want you to listen to.
Speaker 2: Now, this is way before podcasts. I have a cassette.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have, and my Walkman, it wasn't that ridiculous,
Speaker 1: Actually maybe it was a cassette was anyway, So I
Speaker 1: went to the boardroom and I sat in the boardroom
Speaker 1: and he gave me a Tony Robins take to listen to.
Speaker 1: I know that Tony Robins can be a bit polarizing,
Speaker 1: like some people love him, some people hate him. But
Speaker 1: this exercise genuinely changed my life. So I can't take
Speaker 1: credit for this. This is a Tony Robins exercise, but
Speaker 1: I'm going to do it with you guys now. So
Speaker 1: if you can only really do this if you're in
Speaker 1: a in a confined room, or like you're in your
Speaker 1: house or yeah, you're in your office space. I feel
Speaker 1: like doing it on a walk is probably a bit difficult.
Speaker 1: So if you're doing it on a walk, then skip
Speaker 1: past this and come back to it. That's my that's
Speaker 1: my advice, Britt. I'm gonna do it with you.
Speaker 2: Oh great, Okay, what do I do?
Speaker 1: Okay, So, on the count of three, I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: you to close your eyes right, and when I tell
Speaker 1: you to open your eyes, don't.
Speaker 2: Draw a penis on my face? Please? Is that where
Speaker 2: this is going? Am I being punked? No? Okay? Close.
Speaker 1: So, guys, if you're listening to this, close your eyes,
Speaker 1: close your eyes, and on the count of three, listen
Speaker 1: to my soothing voice. On the count of three, you're
Speaker 1: gonna open your eyes and you're gonna look around the
Speaker 1: room that you're in, and you're gonna look for everything
Speaker 1: that you can find in your room that is brown.
Speaker 1: You're gonna look for really specific details, and you're gonna
Speaker 1: get get really specific with this.
Speaker 2: Guys.
Speaker 1: I want you to look at all the little things
Speaker 1: that are in your room and in your surrounding space.
Speaker 2: They're brown.
Speaker 1: So one, two, three, open your eyes and look around
Speaker 1: for brown, brown, brown, brown, brown, brown, brown, brown.
Speaker 2: Shut your eyes. Okay, got it? Now, shut your eyes, guys,
Speaker 2: shut your goddamn eyes. I've got heaps of things.
Speaker 1: Stop freaking, peaking, freaky peeky. I'm gonna win this so hard.
Speaker 1: Shut your eyes now, with your eyes closed. I want
Speaker 1: you to tell me everything that you saw in the
Speaker 1: room that is green.
Speaker 2: Oh I knew there was a twist.
Speaker 1: Can I open my eyes? No, you have to try
Speaker 1: and tell me something. You got to keep your eyes
Speaker 1: closed and tell me something that you saw that there's
Speaker 1: nothing in this.
Speaker 2: Room that's green. We have the most neutral room the world.
Speaker 1: Okay, open your eyes. Turn around behind you where you
Speaker 1: were just looking all like two huge green bags. There's
Speaker 1: two green wool Worth bags on the ground. There's the
Speaker 1: flowers that are on the ground that are green that
Speaker 1: our actual hour recording Mike has like two little green spikes.
Speaker 1: They keep going up and down when we're talking. You're
Speaker 1: going with this. There's green on my Mount Franklin bottle
Speaker 1: right there. So I'm hoping and assuming that if you
Speaker 1: guys have just done this exercise, you had a pretty
Speaker 1: similar outcome and that you can't recall anything that you've
Speaker 1: seen that's green. Basically, this exercise is supposed to try
Speaker 1: and show you that your brain only has the capacity
Speaker 1: to focus on what you give power to. So if
Speaker 1: you're focusing on all the shit in your life and
Speaker 1: you're thinking that everything's shit and you're seeing shit everywhere,
Speaker 1: then all you're going to see is brown. But if
Speaker 1: you start to try and rework your brain, every time
Speaker 1: you're thinking about the brown, every time you're thinking about
Speaker 1: the shit, every time you're thinking you're not pretty enough,
Speaker 1: you're not good enough, you're not funny enough. You need
Speaker 1: to stop yourself and try and remember all the good
Speaker 1: things in your life and all the things that make
Speaker 1: you happy, the relationships that you have that give you
Speaker 1: like so much joy and so much love, The things
Speaker 1: about yourself that are actually great, like the fact that
Speaker 1: you're so funny, or you're you're you know, you can
Speaker 1: be really objective in situations, or you're a great friend.
Speaker 1: There are so many amazing things happening in your life.
Speaker 1: But because as people we only have the ability to
Speaker 1: focus on specific things at a time, don't give power
Speaker 1: towards shit.
Speaker 2: Try and look for the green. That's very interesting because
Speaker 2: I actually didn't notice anything green, and I bought you
Speaker 2: those flowers and then run from me. Tony Robbins, guys,
Speaker 2: get that in your gas. I really think that that
Speaker 2: was very insightful and I think a lot of people
Speaker 2: learned something I definitely did. So thanks for bringing out
Speaker 2: to the table. You're welcome, Brittany, thank you, thank you
Speaker 2: so much. Please come again next week. Okay, well, I
Speaker 2: think that's a salad rap on that. Did you just
Speaker 2: say salad rap? Yeah? Like it's like it's a rap,
Speaker 2: Like that's a rap, like a rap party, but like
Speaker 2: a salad rap party. To leave now.
Speaker 1: We also wanted to really approach this self love topic
Speaker 1: and not do it from a superficial rah rah rah
Speaker 1: love yourself perspective. I really hope that we touch on
Speaker 1: a few things that maybe bring a different perspective on
Speaker 1: what we think self love is and how there are
Speaker 1: the challenges there are, how there are different challenges associated
Speaker 1: with loving yourself. But guys, in just as a rap
Speaker 1: on this one, and not even as a salad rap,
Speaker 1: just as a rap, just a plain old rap. I
Speaker 1: don't think self love and I know britt doesn't. I'm
Speaker 1: going to speak for both of us right now. Can
Speaker 1: you Self love is not it's not an event, it's
Speaker 1: not a destination. You're not going to get there and
Speaker 1: then that's it, and you're going to stay there. It
Speaker 1: is a dynamic journey. It changes as you age, as
Speaker 1: you reach different milestones in your life, as your relationship changes.
Speaker 1: But it's all about trying to get to a point
Speaker 1: where you're really content and happy in the person that
Speaker 1: you are exactly as you are.
Speaker 2: Oh do I say something now? No, We're done it.
Speaker 1: So, guys, we never ever finished an episode with Aunt
Speaker 1: doing a suck and sweet and our second sweet is
Speaker 1: our high lights and our low lights of the whole week.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna go first because I think that everyone
Speaker 1: knows what my suck is. This week has been one big, great,
Speaker 1: big suck. But my sweet, My sweet for the week
Speaker 1: is my nana. My my nana is she's eighty nine
Speaker 1: and she's been married to my grandfather for sixty five years.
Speaker 1: And she was so incredibly strong and she's such an
Speaker 1: incredible woman and I'm so proud to be her granddaughter
Speaker 1: and I'm so proud of her.
Speaker 2: And I know she's never gonna listen to this poodcast.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna send it to her, bless you, but I'm
Speaker 2: so proud of her. That's what she's proud of you too,
Speaker 2: I know. Okay, let's let's take one big breath in.
Speaker 3: Do you know what?
Speaker 2: Actually, no, you can let it out. I also cry.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna cry and look okay, but you are
Speaker 2: shut up. But we can turn that into laughy tears.
Speaker 2: It's good to feel, guys, feel sit in the shut up.
Speaker 2: What's your suck? So trying to make me cry? Look?
Speaker 1: My suck's probably you do that again without groaning into
Speaker 1: the microphone.
Speaker 2: That was my thought. I was doing it ed, shearing
Speaker 2: and thinking out loud, I'll get it. Fuck fell sure
Speaker 2: that one. My suck is Okay, my suck and sweet
Speaker 2: I actually do this a lot. They're almost like go
Speaker 2: hand in hand. Okay, my sweet is the fact that
Speaker 2: I'm going to Barley for do you suck? But it
Speaker 2: won't make sense. Okay. My suck is that I haven't
Speaker 2: booked anything in Bali except I've booked my flight to
Speaker 2: Balley and I've booked a driver, but I haven't booked
Speaker 2: anything else and I don't know.
Speaker 1: Yolo, Oh my god, so fret my spirit, live your
Speaker 1: best life.
Speaker 2: No, it's not that I just haven't had time. It's
Speaker 2: not been it's not about being a free spirit. My
Speaker 2: driver's like I just booked him today and he's like,
Speaker 2: where am I taking you? And I was like, uh,
Speaker 2: to be continued, I don't know, and just let me
Speaker 2: sitting that for the next four hours. But my sweet
Speaker 2: is I am going to Bally tomorrow. So I'm going
Speaker 2: to go home tonight and quickly find somewhere to stay
Speaker 2: and then I'll be off.
Speaker 1: So, guys, because Brittany has a terrible work ethic and
Speaker 1: it's not going to be here next week and is
Speaker 1: going to Bali, we are not going to be bringing
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Speaker 2: But Laura has said you can message the question directly
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Speaker 1: to our podcast. We absolutely we are so privileged and
Speaker 1: so like blown over by every single person who has
Speaker 1: been leaving reviews lately. Wow, you guys are the best
Speaker 1: blown away or blown over? Blown away, I'm blown away,
Speaker 1: but I got toppled over by the compliments. I wasn't
Speaker 1: quite blown away by them, but I was just blown over.
Speaker 2: No, we're blown in all directions from all your compliments, the.
Speaker 1: Fact that you have taken so much time and care
Speaker 1: and so much consideration to give us your feedback and
Speaker 1: to tell us what you love about the podcast, and
Speaker 1: you know how you do love the ridiculous stories and
Speaker 1: Britney's awful volcanoes.
Speaker 2: It my laugh actually makes an appearance a lot in
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Speaker 1: But guys, we absolutely love creating this podcast for you.
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Speaker 1: I've been talking about doing a Facebook page. Actually, guys,
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Speaker 2: And guys, well even better than that. Actually, Laura, I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna one up you. I've actually made the page.
Speaker 2: We just haven't told anyone. So if you are interested,
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Speaker 2: Oh don't even get me started.
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