Speaker 1: Laura.
Speaker 2: Come on, it's Tuesday Harbor.
Speaker 3: Hello, miss and Laura. I have a question that I
Speaker 3: want to start today's show with. I feel like I
Speaker 3: should know the answer. It's a bit of a moral conundrum. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but if you're in your house and you could look
Speaker 3: out the window and you can look into somebody else's
Speaker 3: house and watch them walking around in their undeath or nude,
Speaker 3: you know that they probably will never know you're looking
Speaker 3: at them.
Speaker 4: Would you still.
Speaker 2: Look or would you walk away?
Speaker 5: I mean you look for long enough to clock that
Speaker 5: they're doing it right, because it depends on I mean,
Speaker 5: what are they doing. They're just walking around like full
Speaker 5: Bondie and they just don't realize that the blinds are
Speaker 5: open or did they leave the blinds open?
Speaker 4: And they kind of don't care.
Speaker 2: Bit A B B.
Speaker 6: Well, I think it's okay, but like everyone does it.
Speaker 6: It's a part of culture, like to see your neighbor nude,
Speaker 6: but you don't and you're not gonna stand there leering
Speaker 6: in the doorway. It's not a pleasurable. It's like a
Speaker 6: happy accident.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and then you call your partner and you're like, ah,
Speaker 5: the neighbor's nude, and you get them to come.
Speaker 2: And look as well, and then you talk about it
Speaker 2: on the radio.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I thought my house was really private, and I
Speaker 3: have just realized because I walk around the neck all
Speaker 3: the time, and last night I was in pretty much
Speaker 3: I was in nude underwear.
Speaker 4: I looked pretty nude.
Speaker 3: And I also do this thing where I sometimes for
Speaker 3: comfort hold my breast like I just hold my booth.
Speaker 4: Every woman does that, right.
Speaker 5: Yeah, they just protect one where is his going in
Speaker 5: case well root falls down.
Speaker 3: I was just having a nice moment outside in the
Speaker 3: cool where I thought it was private, holding my breast
Speaker 3: bit in my unders and I looked up into this
Speaker 3: like eighth story apartment that was through the trees, and
Speaker 3: I saw a man on.
Speaker 4: The balcony watching me. And he was watching me the
Speaker 4: whole time.
Speaker 6: The way that you say, you make it sound a
Speaker 6: man watching me. He's on his balcony eating dinner.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he just me there was a creep staring at me.
Speaker 3: I didn't say anything other than that, but I've just
Speaker 3: had this moment of realization where I was like, how
Speaker 3: often has this happened without me?
Speaker 4: But also how did you know who was watching you
Speaker 4: the whole time?
Speaker 3: We caught we made eye contact. It was the funniest moment,
Speaker 3: you know when you make that eye contact and you're like,
Speaker 3: oh shit. But I tried to play it cool, like
Speaker 3: I wasn't shocked steam home.
Speaker 5: No, no, I look. I mean I think if my
Speaker 5: neighbor was naked and I clocked it, I would look.
Speaker 5: But I don't think I would stand there looking a
Speaker 5: period of time. My neighbor isn't her nineties.
Speaker 2: Well, listen. Over the weekend I had a similarly. It
Speaker 2: wasn't awkward. It was a confronting experience. You guys know,
Speaker 2: I'm seeing someone. I've been seeing him for the last
Speaker 2: couple of months, very happy. At the six month mark,
Speaker 2: I have.
Speaker 6: Noticed what could possibly be the biggest red flag I've
Speaker 6: ever experienced while dating.
Speaker 2: And I think I'm into deep.
Speaker 4: I mean, you've experienced some real red flags. So I'd
Speaker 4: love to know what this.
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Speaker 5: We were just talking and you said that you're now
Speaker 5: six months deep in your new relationship and that you
Speaker 5: have just come across a red flag that is so
Speaker 5: red flaggy. You don't know whether you've ever come across
Speaker 5: one so bad before.
Speaker 6: Not to be honest, I didn't think it was that
Speaker 6: bad until I told you guys just as three friends,
Speaker 6: and then you think it's the worst thing.
Speaker 4: I don't think it's the worst thing in the world.
Speaker 4: I relationships it.
Speaker 5: I just think it's hard to overcome. I'm just not
Speaker 5: sure where you fit. Literally, I don't know how you
Speaker 5: fit in.
Speaker 6: Okay, sure, the guy that I'm seeing, who is beautiful
Speaker 6: and the kind of soul in the world's so sweeten.
Speaker 2: We haven't said the l words, So calm down. What
Speaker 2: are you saying blue? Because it's two men.
Speaker 4: No, don't you dare go down that path.
Speaker 2: Don't you want to wrangle with me? I'm a catfish baby,
Speaker 2: all right?
Speaker 4: Come bring listen.
Speaker 6: So what happened was I he's been saying at my
Speaker 6: house because I just it's just how it's happened. He's
Speaker 6: been staying at my house when he stays over. I
Speaker 6: live with my parents, yes, but it's an interim thing.
Speaker 6: It's just while I'm yes.
Speaker 4: So when you say your house's he comes to your parents' house.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I got my own life. It's like a grety face,
Speaker 2: a king Koala mattress.
Speaker 4: It's lots of room for the two.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's like an osweet private we can to and
Speaker 6: from the bathroom nude. He goes, it's just he's moving away.
Speaker 6: He's he's going away for it six weeks. Yeah, it's
Speaker 6: very sad. He said, why don't you come and stay
Speaker 6: at my house for a last hurrah? And I go, oh,
Speaker 6: that's quite nice. I've not been to your house.
Speaker 5: Which you also know that the relationship's progressing because he's
Speaker 5: not invited you back to his house yet.
Speaker 4: So this is like one would think this is a
Speaker 4: green flag.
Speaker 2: Correct, I've not been to his house. He lives with
Speaker 2: his parents as well, and he's like, Mum and dad
Speaker 2: have catered. They've got pancakes in the morning, because pancakes's
Speaker 2: my favorite food. Yeah, He's like, don't worry, we've got
Speaker 2: almond milk because I know how particularly you are with
Speaker 2: your arm and milk. Like he's so thoughtful, it's beautiful. Yeah,
Speaker 2: this sounds great.
Speaker 6: He's going to go away on the Sunday. I'm not
Speaker 6: going to see him for six weeks. Let's have one
Speaker 6: final hurrah. So I pack a little overnight bag. I'll
Speaker 6: get to his house. He's there, is welcome, and he
Speaker 6: doesn't tell me a thing. We just walked to his bedroom.
Speaker 2: I put my bag down, I open his bedroom door,
Speaker 2: and he's got a single bed.
Speaker 5: You are not a little boy, And I mean this
Speaker 5: is in like in a hot No, I don't mean
Speaker 5: as in like width, but I mean like you are
Speaker 5: a tall guy, like six foot three, one hundred and
Speaker 5: fifteen kilos.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and how big is your friend he is.
Speaker 2: It's smaller than me. Yeah, he's small.
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter how big you are. A single bed
Speaker 3: is for a child. Adults do not have single beds.
Speaker 5: My two little daughters, four and a half and two,
Speaker 5: they share a single bed. They sleep top and tail,
Speaker 5: and they only just both fit into a single bed.
Speaker 2: So I laughed.
Speaker 6: I thought, hilarious, Like is there a trend? Leldes to
Speaker 6: pull out? And he said, what's the problem, And I go, no, No,
Speaker 6: this is a single bed because it's a king single
Speaker 6: that all that adds is extra length, right, gives you
Speaker 6: a little bit more with.
Speaker 2: So we did. We stayed the night and I slept
Speaker 2: in the king single bed, and I lost him. Halfway
Speaker 2: through the night. I woke up like where is he?
Speaker 6: And he'd fallen in between the crack between the wall
Speaker 6: and the bed.
Speaker 4: Do you know I actually broke up with someone?
Speaker 2: This makes me you did it?
Speaker 3: I same thing six months deep into the relationship because
Speaker 3: it was long distance, and I finally came down. Also,
Speaker 3: he was at his parents' house. I came into his
Speaker 3: house and there was a single bed and he had
Speaker 3: a he had like a farting problem. He fared so much.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, so.
Speaker 3: When we got into the single bed and he dutched
Speaker 3: ovened in there, there was nowhere to go.
Speaker 4: Like I'm done.
Speaker 3: I'm done, done, you stinky single boy. And not to
Speaker 3: storytop this, but I've been in a similar situation. I
Speaker 3: moved in with the boyfriend, so we were doing long distance.
Speaker 5: I moved away to be with him, and I got
Speaker 5: there and i'd not been to his new house that
Speaker 5: he'd moved into several months beforehand, and he just had
Speaker 5: a mattress on the floor. With no sheets, so double
Speaker 5: though it was a double but it was just discarded
Speaker 5: on the ground. That's okay, It all sparrowed out of control.
Speaker 2: These are the issues.
Speaker 6: It's when you find a red flag deep into something
Speaker 6: when everything's going good and you go, this is a
Speaker 6: great relationship, and then it hits you.
Speaker 4: Then you realize, yeah, like this is terrible.
Speaker 2: It's like laid in life red flags thirteen one six five.
Speaker 6: But I love to know did you stay with your
Speaker 6: partner when a red flag read its head?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: What was Maybe you've been married for ten years and
Speaker 2: you realize a red flag?
Speaker 3: Right, I mean I've just I've just had two actually
Speaker 3: realizations in the past week with my partner Ben.
Speaker 2: Really, what's happening? Wait, I'll tell let's get some calls.
Speaker 2: Tell us pret because it might make me feel better.
Speaker 6: Also, my neck is really saw from the single bed
Speaker 6: I slept on overnightes So we're gonna have to go
Speaker 6: to on the front. She crushed with some denker, but
Speaker 6: it didn't crush him. Okay, all right, let's go to
Speaker 6: a break thirteen one of six. I've red flags late
Speaker 6: in the relationship of the pick up.
Speaker 3: Oh, but you were just telling us a story about
Speaker 3: you know, when you get too deep in a relationship
Speaker 3: and you realize that there's a bit of a red flag,
Speaker 3: bit of an ick because you've just had a discovery
Speaker 3: with your partner.
Speaker 6: Yeah, the guy that will partner. Yeah, yeah, the guy
Speaker 6: that I'm with and have been for six months. I
Speaker 6: stayed at his house for the first time and he
Speaker 6: has a single bed which you can't fit. And we're adults.
Speaker 4: So it got me.
Speaker 3: Thinking, my partner, Ben, I've been with four I can't
Speaker 3: do the math right now, well fourteen fifteen months, right,
Speaker 3: we're long distance, but we've just spent a couple of
Speaker 3: months together, and I have discovered two things in the
Speaker 3: past couple of weeks that have red flagged me a
Speaker 3: little bit, not red flagged as much as icked.
Speaker 6: Well, because you haven't spent like you haven't lived with
Speaker 6: him really for an extended period of time.
Speaker 3: This has nothing to do with living together. This is
Speaker 3: something he did in his childhood. So Ben is six
Speaker 3: foot five hundred kilos. He's a big boy. He plays
Speaker 3: professional football, so he's this big, sexy much a big
Speaker 3: sporty guy, big sporty guy, which you know, sexy.
Speaker 5: He told me that in thank you for establishing that twice,
Speaker 5: and he just recently told me that all through his schooling.
Speaker 4: He said, I was actually quite creative for musical and
Speaker 4: I was like, hot, you're a drummer or you're a
Speaker 4: lead guitarist.
Speaker 2: Yes, he saxophone's even quite sexy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because he's got the tarts. Anyway, he was like
Speaker 3: the lead what's it called xylophone? He played the xylophone.
Speaker 4: That's fine.
Speaker 2: Can I show you what a xylophone?
Speaker 1: Dude?
Speaker 4: I know what it is. My four year old has
Speaker 4: a xylophone.
Speaker 5: But I don't think we need to poo poo kids
Speaker 5: who were like, like, he's cute and creative.
Speaker 4: And then he got into sports. I don't think it
Speaker 4: was just a little kid. I think he played.
Speaker 2: And then I asked him for the details.
Speaker 3: Yes, I laughed at him, and he got really serious
Speaker 3: and he said, Brittany, don't be ridiculous. It was a
Speaker 3: double decker xylophone, like it was a really serious. He
Speaker 3: got really serious, and I was like, Layers, yes, you
Speaker 3: for this, but I can't have that image in my
Speaker 3: head when we go to bed.
Speaker 5: No, I disagree. I think it's cute to date someone
Speaker 5: who's like into slightly dorky things because the people who
Speaker 5: have this like big masculine front and then when you
Speaker 5: actually get to know them, you're like, oh, you're a
Speaker 5: bit of a dog, and that's adorable.
Speaker 2: Maddie Jays any lading life of red flags or your
Speaker 2: husband made.
Speaker 4: No look, but Matt's great.
Speaker 5: The only thing that he he's become obsessed with, which
Speaker 5: I think is a red flag, is he has bought
Speaker 5: what's called and I don't know if anyone's heard of this,
Speaker 5: it's called the buger Salt. It's a it's okay, a
Speaker 5: buger sault, a big it's a big gun that you
Speaker 5: put salt into and he spends a good hour and
Speaker 5: a half of every day chasing house flies around the
Speaker 5: house shooting them with this gun.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Now, let me tell you, it's like, you know, like
Speaker 5: a wild amount of investment that he's putting into this,
Speaker 5: the bugger Sault.
Speaker 4: There's nothing hard about abut.
Speaker 2: Season food with it, because that sounds really fun.
Speaker 4: It would probably blow your sausage off as blind.
Speaker 6: Whoam court now, I know what you mean. Courtney's called
Speaker 6: I'm thirteen one of sixty five. Did you find out
Speaker 6: a red flag?
Speaker 2: Really late? In the relationship.
Speaker 7: So basically I was dating the Sky for like we
Speaker 7: were like three months in or something, and I went
Speaker 7: to go pick him up from his house and it
Speaker 7: was a total mess. There was food everywhere, There was
Speaker 7: like Uber eats bags, It was clothed all over the floor,
Speaker 7: like cups, mugs that were actually flies, And I was
Speaker 7: just like what it was night and day between what
Speaker 7: I had seen the last couple of times I had
Speaker 7: gone to pick him up. He is messy, but there's.
Speaker 4: A difference with messy and dirty. He sounds dirty.
Speaker 5: He sounds like he needs the bug assault his house.
Speaker 5: He does should go over and start shooting all the flies.
Speaker 2: Three months is definitely not into de break up with him.
Speaker 5: There's a level though, right, there's a level of messiness
Speaker 5: that you can handle. But if you're bringing someone back
Speaker 5: for the first time and that's the level of messiness,
Speaker 5: it's like he probably tried to clean.
Speaker 4: That's his best behavior.
Speaker 2: Ash High, What did you find out late in the relationship?
Speaker 8: So I'm actually married, like locked in and we got married,
Speaker 8: But one thing he does that I was crazy and
Speaker 8: it's gross. He doesn't watch his socks till I'd say,
Speaker 8: like a good three to four uses because he thinks
Speaker 8: it's like you have to use to wash them.
Speaker 4: Disgusting, because it's.
Speaker 2: No, no, he's he's my rule.
Speaker 6: I can get one run out of a pair of socks,
Speaker 6: or I can get three work days.
Speaker 4: You know that's a lot. That's revolting.
Speaker 3: Because you recently came and stayed with my boyfriend and
Speaker 3: I in Scotland and he told me last night the
Speaker 3: couch still stinks of your stench from your feet you
Speaker 3: put your and he's it makes us sick from your
Speaker 3: stench on his couch.
Speaker 5: Also, if you're going to just like out at the
Speaker 5: moment that you're kind of your red flag is that
Speaker 5: you never wash your socks.
Speaker 4: That's worse than sleeping in a single bed.
Speaker 2: We're made for each other. We're both riddle with red flags.
Speaker 3: Hey, speaking of living at home, I went home on
Speaker 3: the weekend to Port mcquariy at my parents' house. Let
Speaker 3: me tell you, I never thought I would be a
Speaker 3: mid thirties, mid to low thirties, mid to low mid
Speaker 3: to like thirties year old woman being scolded by her parents,
Speaker 3: But that is what happened this weekend.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to find out I reckon.
Speaker 4: I know why, m I guess why?
Speaker 2: No tell us next after this, I'm the pickup.
Speaker 3: So I went home to Port mcquarie, to my hometown
Speaker 3: on the weekend, Mitchell Laura, I had to do some.
Speaker 4: Error and see the family pick up my dog. It
Speaker 4: was a whole thing.
Speaker 3: But I haven't been back to my parents' house for
Speaker 3: a little while, and this one thing happened that sort
Speaker 3: of stopped me in my tracks and made me reconsider
Speaker 3: everything I know about life.
Speaker 2: Wow deep big. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So it's just me and my mom and my dad
Speaker 3: and everyone's pottering around the house, and I was going
Speaker 3: for a shower, so I opened the linen press, get
Speaker 3: a towel and the towels. Mind you, my mum is
Speaker 3: the most organized person we've ever seen. Everything is color coordinated,
Speaker 3: there's a different level. They're folded immaculately.
Speaker 2: That's classic. My mom's the same waves yours would the
Speaker 2: same as well.
Speaker 4: My mom just shoves things in a couple of hopes
Speaker 4: for the best. Lawa's mom not so much.
Speaker 3: So I go a towel, going to the shower, put
Speaker 3: my towel down in there, going about my business.
Speaker 4: Obviously, I'm Starker is having a great time washing all the.
Speaker 3: Bits, and then the door slides open with such aggression
Speaker 3: that I'm so shocked. And I turn around naked in
Speaker 3: the shower and I look, my mom is standing their
Speaker 3: hand on her hips.
Speaker 5: You think that it's gone past the days when mum's
Speaker 5: just like barging on you in the shower.
Speaker 6: You're like, mom, and she made you.
Speaker 3: You know, I don't care about her looking at me naked,
Speaker 3: could not care less. She didn't care either. She was
Speaker 3: just looking me straight in the eye. And I was like, yes, Mom,
Speaker 3: And she's like, I heard you go to the linen
Speaker 3: breast and I was like, yeah, being a tower, I'm
Speaker 3: having a shower on a towel. She goes, what towel
Speaker 3: did you get? She goes to where I've hung them
Speaker 3: up and she's just like oh, and I said what
Speaker 3: she said, this is the good towel. She's like, you
Speaker 3: can't use these, and I was like, excuse me, dare you?
Speaker 3: She took the towel from me, went out, folded her
Speaker 3: back up, put it in the cupboard, and got me
Speaker 3: this like scabby old towel.
Speaker 4: You know, the towels that have been sun dried and
Speaker 4: they're all crunchy and holes in them.
Speaker 3: So I was so shocked and also soaking wet, so
Speaker 3: I got out use the scabby towel. Then I came
Speaker 3: out to address the situation, and I was like, Mum,
Speaker 3: what's the problem. She goes, that's the good towel. You
Speaker 3: don't use that, And I said, I'm sorry. Is Beyonce coming?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 4: Who are you saving the good towel for?
Speaker 3: She's like, well, I can't be sure, but I know
Speaker 3: that this isn't the moment, and I'm like, what your
Speaker 3: We had a full on brawl about who can use
Speaker 3: what towels.
Speaker 5: She's got them ready just in case You're like, Mum,
Speaker 5: I am kind of a celebrity.
Speaker 3: Okay, let me use what I need to do to
Speaker 3: prove myself. So then fast forward to that evening. I'm
Speaker 3: going to get a cup of tea. And now she's
Speaker 3: got these really beautiful, thin, fine tea cuts, the good mugs,
Speaker 3: the good mugs. So I'm using one of these this
Speaker 3: good china. She has a goal of me again, takes
Speaker 3: it from my hand, empties it, put it back, gives
Speaker 3: me another cup because you're not allowed to use the
Speaker 3: quote unquote.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, what am I allowed use? When are people?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 4: Are your parents doing this? O?
Speaker 2: Kate?
Speaker 4: Hello?
Speaker 2: What's what's your good thing in your house?
Speaker 1: Hi? Yeah, I've got some beautiful wine glasses that my
Speaker 1: daughter gave me for Christmas one year. And I used
Speaker 1: to be very relaxed. You've got good things, you should
Speaker 1: use them. But unfortunately one evening I was sitting on
Speaker 1: the lounge and the cat sprang up behind me, jumped
Speaker 1: on the coffee table, knocked it off and shattered one
Speaker 1: of them. Yeah, so now now I've got the rule.
Speaker 1: They only come out at Christmas time.
Speaker 3: But you see, it means you never get to use
Speaker 3: the good style And isn't Christmas more likely when you're
Speaker 3: going to have a spill or an accident, Like, shouldn't
Speaker 3: you be just bringing them out with you and the.
Speaker 4: Lover or husband whoever? Do you know?
Speaker 3: No, I don't want to make any assumptions there, But
Speaker 3: shouldn't you be using it for that kind of stuff?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 1: But you know, if it gets trashed in the process
Speaker 1: of being enjoyed, I don't mind so much. But if
Speaker 1: it's just me home alone with a cat, not so much.
Speaker 6: It's grim I'm alone with the cat all right, Monica, Hi,
Speaker 6: what's your good thing?
Speaker 3: I reckon it's totally the opposite.
Speaker 7: Use them.
Speaker 4: I'm with you, Monica.
Speaker 5: I think use the good stuff because you know what,
Speaker 5: like what happens, like you could end up breaking it
Speaker 5: with the cat and then it just all goes to waste.
Speaker 8: Exactly, not use it because you might lose it.
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 6: Can I just say those two different calls, they both
Speaker 6: sound like one keeps good things and one doesn't.
Speaker 2: Monica's like, yeah, you know what. I'm driving the car
Speaker 2: as I call you, girls, and my hand are off
Speaker 2: the steering wheel.
Speaker 4: There's a wine glasses just smashed.
Speaker 2: And the other call goes you so I've got good
Speaker 2: things I leave at home with my cat. Come on,
Speaker 2: there's two very different kinds of people. That's why we
Speaker 2: want here at the pick up.
Speaker 4: We ran a diverse align with Monica.
Speaker 2: She's my people.
Speaker 6: I'm a Monica got all right, let's go. If you
Speaker 6: missed any of the show podcast, it's on iHeartRadio. I
Speaker 6: now sleep in a single bed. So if you want
Speaker 6: to know why you're.
Speaker 4: So cute and cozy, it's cute.
Speaker 2: I'm sore. My neck is sow.
Speaker 3: It's really like regressing back into the day, isn't it
Speaker 3: It is a child?
Speaker 4: What is the bed sheet like under threads? Anyway, guys,
Speaker 4: you can catch up.
Speaker 5: You can catch up on the whole thing on our podcast,
Speaker 5: The Peak Up see tomorrow, Say you guys,