WEBVTT - Would You Rather Know How Or When You’ll Die? 💀 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.080 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast. 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:09.640 I am so so glad me to extended episode because 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:13.960 I've aways got more to say, so much pity, appy yappity, a. 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:18.320 Breadth of conversation that is mostly untapped in everyday life. 0:00:18.360 --> 0:00:20.560 I'd say, flex, so, what a pleasure it is to 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:24.720 share the microphones with you? Two share our seed, a 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:30.240 collective seed. Stop it. Stop looking at me. 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:33.839 I was frowning that time. You like, not that good? 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:34.720 Do it frown again? 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:39.360 I bo. People always think they have botox, and I'm like, 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:42.839 because when I frown, it's just very like it's all 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:45.560 in the front of my eyebrows. But didn't have frontlines 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:47.839 to save me. I try going up, not. 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:49.639 There one hundred percent you've had botox? 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:52.080 Why would I have? People thought I had my brows 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:54.120 laminader so I got them laminated and I was like, okay, 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:59.240 see what you mean, Well you really got them, but 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:01.880 no frown lines. People still can guess my age correctly. 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:03.560 What is that about? So general? 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:03.920 Laura? 0:01:04.040 --> 0:01:04.680 It is what it is? 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:05.960 What are we talking about today? 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:10.559 Death? Would you rather know when or how you die? 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:14.000 We did do a bit of a how do you 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:18.640 say pole around the studio and the majority said when 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:22.840 so we didn't have an overwhelming yes or no. We're 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:24.240 split right down the middle. 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:25.760 It's an awful question. Flex. 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:31.200 Yeah, if you apply any kind of like morality to it, 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:33.240 if you make it real, yeah, if you make it real, 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:36.880 if you make it just a vibe a thought, it's 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:39.080 actually quite fun. I think it says a lot about 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:41.400 a person and not much at all, which the best 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:45.520 conversation topics do that. Yeah, anyway, we're gonna have the 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:50.360 best time as always. Let's go flex and firs now flex. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:52.640 See. I have been reading a book called Something Blue. 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:54.440 It's by Alex Sarkis. 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:55.680 Oh you mentioned that the other day. 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:59.120 Yes, yes, yes, she is a baddie from the area, 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:02.720 I would say, and I've somehow found a way to 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:03.560 make that sounds so. 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:05.680 Yeahs are you reading from a script? She told you 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:08.239 to say that trying to be cool? 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:13.040 And in it she talks about how I don't know 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.480 if she was saying this or if her character was 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:18.000 like joking, but she's like, yeah, how Americans think that 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:21.880 in Australia we all ride kangaroos. Yes, and we see 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:25.200 this all the time, people being like, yeah, ask Americans 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:28.280 if they think we ride around on kangaroos or that's 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:31.400 what that's what Americans think. It's been Simpsons episodes, et cetera. 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:35.560 But I want to ask an American, have you ever 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:39.480 in your life thought that we ride kangaroos? Of course 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:42.800 you haven't. It's so ridiculous, Like, don't you find it 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:47.400 funny that we perpetuate this stereotype that doesn't actually serve anyone, 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.960 like it doesn't. It's not helpful for us to think 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:51.399 that we ride around on karugar. 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:52.840 Do you think Australian started that. 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:55.880 I don't know if we started, but we definitely perpetuated 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:59.480 despite all being city folk. It's always the city folk 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.520 that have come here saying, yeah, Americans think we write 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:05.959 on kangaroos. Americans don't think that you're projecting. You're projecting 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:06.799 what you think. 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:08.760 Oh that's what you think is happening. 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:11.760 Yeah, which I find really interesting and it makes me think, 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:15.440 I'm sure there's other things that we do perpetuating things 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:18.240 about ourselves that don't actually ring true, and it's just 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:22.080 like a lazy thing to do. Give an example perpetuating 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:25.160 I'm a perfectionist. 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:26.960 You think you perpetuate that. 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:28.760 No, that's a bad example. 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:30.880 I just checking I wasn't shutting it down. 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:35.080 I was just checking sing no, maybe, okay, good one 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.920 to be the Karen, always perpetuating the fact I'm a Karen? 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:41.280 Am I actually know? I just like the sound of it, 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.120 similar to the kangaroos. 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:46.560 And processing in quite quietly, silently. But I got that, 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:49.400 you know what I mean? Yeah, I'm trying to think 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:52.440 of some examples. What is the benefit of you saying 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:55.000 you're a Karen if you don't think you actually are? Well? 0:03:55.040 --> 0:03:56.960 I think people just do it for something to talk 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:58.520 about it. It's like when you say, how are you? 0:03:58.640 --> 0:03:58.880 Yeah? 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:02.200 Good. I feel like certain things we perpetuate about ourselves 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:05.760 because it's actually easier to just not actually explain the 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:06.560 other way around. 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:08.040 Okay, yep, do you know what I mean? Do you 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:11.280 have any other examples for you, you. 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:13.160 Know, oh, being like people think, oh, you're quirky. So 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:15.120 I could turn around and say, I'm not quirky. Actually 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:18.400 hate that term, but I just go here and just 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:21.320 perpetuate it by doing other things that could be considered quirky. 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:24.240 But you are quirky. You just don't like the term, 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:27.160 I don't think, so let's quickly google that. Okay, I'm 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:29.280 just gonna google the definition of quirky, just so we 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:34.360 are speaking about the same thing. Define quirky straight into Google. 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:40.840 We've got having or characterized by peculiar or unexpected traits 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.600 or aspects. No, that's you. 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:46.880 Let me think of something that you do that's perpetuating 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:48.239 something that's not actually true. 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:53.560 Yeah, because similar words to quirky are eccentric, idiosyncratic, unconventional. 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:54.640 You are quirky. 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:57.360 I didn't want this to be about neflex. I wanted 0:04:57.400 --> 0:04:58.360 to illuminate something. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:03.159 You don't think you're quirky or you just don't like 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:08.520 the connotation of the word quirky is annoying by your 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:11.920 perceptual definition both both. Because this is me tapping the 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:16.360 screen hopefull, you see it clearer because in this instance, 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:19.840 the way you look match with the way you dress, 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:25.839 matched with your humor, matched with your aspirations, matched with 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:29.360 your karenness, the combination that is quirky. 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:31.599 The Karen's throwing a bit of a nut in the mix, 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:34.040 a bit of a nut in the nut frame mix. 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:34.920 All that's confusing. 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:36.400 I have don I think if you're listening to this, 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:38.200 what about myself? 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:40.640 But what does it matter? Well, what's the point we're 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:41.039 getting to. 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:44.440 I just think it's interesting to know, like what think 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.760 about things that you just perpetuate that don't actually serve 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.600 you anymore, because I'm sure like five years ago, I 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:52.680 would have been like, yes, Jim is an enormous part 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:56.080 of my personality, but is it really But yeah. 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:57.120 Yeah, you're a gym rat. 0:05:57.360 --> 0:06:01.320 Yeah. Wow, that's just a small example. 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:03.120 That's a nice little something to share. 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:06.200 Thank you for that, my pleasure, doll flex and fruits. 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:08.560 Earlier this week we talked about how in New Zealand 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:12.480 you can't name your child Lucifer, sex fruit or anal. 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:16.520 The week beforehand, we spoke about how you can't name 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:22.200 your child Linda or Sandra in Saudi Arabia. Today I'm 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:25.120 letting you know that you can't name your child Natella. 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.320 In France, someone tried to name their child this and 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:32.600 it was denied and instead the government suggested they call 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:36.400 their child Ella. Which is nice to come back with suggestions, 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:39.560 because we all know the worst thing that happens to 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:42.160 be during a brainstorm is when someone hates your ideas 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:45.120 and suggests no other ideas. So this was you know, 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:47.720 ten points to the French government just for this only 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:49.920 everything else with beefin. 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:57.080 Nut ella is like if Cinderella busted a nut nutella, 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:05.479 it's been on a childhood classic. Say Nottella, Someone's got 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:08.360 to pay that. That's what I'd go back with the 0:07:08.400 --> 0:07:11.960 French government and say, no, no, non, this was intentional. 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:14.120 No Tella, you multilingual babe. 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:18.560 Why should it that a brand can therefore like trump 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:19.400 a child's name. 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:21.840 I'm not sure. 0:07:22.600 --> 0:07:23.000 I don't know. 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:27.000 This is flex and frooms on CADA. I told you 0:07:27.080 --> 0:07:30.200 that I have been spending my morning commute or my 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:35.440 morning getting ready listening to nothing, no podcast, no music, 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:39.920 no stimulus, because I'm trying to at least train my 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:44.280 brain to get used to not having I don't know, 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:48.200 just noise, Like what am I thinking when there's nothing else? 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:53.800 Adding to the fodder turns out just dilemmas, just question. 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:54.920 A lot of content for CADA. 0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:58.600 Yeah, it works out well. Actually, I'll just look into 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.640 just a vacant space the room and think, I feel 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:05.160 like that's what philosophers do or did, And somebody did 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:08.880 say that podcasters are twenty twenty philosophers. 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:10.720 I don't know who you said that. 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:16.480 But you asked a couple of weeks ago, would we 0:08:16.640 --> 0:08:21.480 rather be happy or special? I said happy? You said special. 0:08:21.920 --> 0:08:24.320 You disagreed with my answer. Yep, you would preferred that, 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:26.880 I too said special, but I didn't. Today I'm going 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:30.200 to ask you, would you rather know when you die? 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:35.120 Or how you die? And why do I have to 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:40.840 know either? That's not the question. Okay, these contrarians get 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:46.040 them out of the studio. So would you rather define? 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:48.920 Would you rather? That's you? 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:49.600 Most of the time? 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:53.600 No, I do like definition, So probably if. 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:58.800 I have to pick one, Yeah, what depends how I die, 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:02.240 I'd I think I'd want to know when, because how 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.720 how I'm going to die terrifies me. I don't actually 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.360 terrify I die or not. I just I'm scared of 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:09.400 how it's going to happen. 0:09:10.440 --> 0:09:10.800 WHOA. 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:13.320 But it's like anything that you try for the first time, 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:17.720 it's terrifying. It's like jumping over the precipice and falling 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:19.480 into a crack. I don't want to know how I'm 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:21.280 going to die, because if I die in a car crash, 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:23.240 I'm going to think every time I leave and get 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:24.640 in a car, I'm going to die. Whereas if I 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:26.960 know when it is, then I can probably make the 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:30.360 most it probably would improve my quality of life because 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:33.720 I'd be more intentional to confirm. You would rather know 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:37.719 when you die, not how you die. Yes, because you're 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:41.320 under the impression knowing when you die means what I 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.760 will be able to take my life not more seriously, 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:48.960 but just appreciate it more because I know how many 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:52.120 days I have. It's like knowing how many days you 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.199 have in your school holidays. If you just fancy free 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:56.560 running around not actually knowing, then you're going to like 0:09:56.960 --> 0:10:00.760 get to last day and be like, damn all that time, 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.080 But I actually don't have much time. Does that make sense? 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:05.160 That reminds me of when I worked in PR and 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:08.240 I was trying to go from full time to part 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:11.880 time to toy with the idea of quitting to become 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:15.520 a DJ. And so I convinced myself that with the 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.200 one extra day I had, I would do so many things. Oh, 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:21.040 it's gonna be fantastic. I'll work on my hobbies, I'll 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:24.760 go to the post office, whatever, whatever, whatever. I did 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:27.600 nothing with that extra day, not anything greater than I 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:30.280 would have done if I was working full time, but 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.240 for the longest time, even while being part time and 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:36.600 not doing the thing that was my internal narrative. I'm 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:39.280 using my time so much better. This is exactly what 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:42.439 I had planned. Every day is so purposeful. 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:45.480 Liar, Well, that's kind of nice. I'd prefer that lie 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:49.160 than thinking that, oh I should be not using it, 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:53.559 like getting yourself all frothed up? What would you prefer? 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:57.600 I think I'd rather know how I die, because I 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:59.559 don't want to die, and to the when, I think 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:04.480 would make the idea of death a bit more realistic 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:08.760 to me, a bit more like finite finite, a bit 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:11.880 more certain. And I'd rather just have this illusion that 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:15.280 I'm not going anywhere at all, just like reincarnate. Sometimes 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:17.240 I'll be your pet, you know, I'll be a bird, 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:19.880 I'll be a building. I'm not going anywhere. 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:22.440 You're grain of sand if I've got anything to do 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:22.640 with it. 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:26.920 But with the hell, I'd be like, ugh, you dummy, 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:29.480 you die from high cholesterol, your bloody idiot. 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:33.160 Would you make any changes? 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:38.600 No? No, you don't play god when you have this information, 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:44.280 you just vibe because realistically, if today you told me 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:48.959 that I die drowning, I don't really like swimming that 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:51.560 much anyway, So at the very least I'm like don't 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:54.840 need to change my lifestyle that much to avoid potentially 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:58.520 drowning from swimming. Next thing, you know, someone water boards me. 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:03.040 Didn't see that on coming. But that's okay. But what 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:05.240 was I going to do differently? And if you said, oh, 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:10.479 you're not dying from cancer, well okay, it's a possibility 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:14.680 now anyway. But the when they say yes is sixty 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.160 second birthday. I want know that information. 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:19.320 I do, but I can really make the most. 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.280 But what do you mean make the most? Create as much. 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.480 As possible, then live on through the seed? 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:26.880 When have you made the most recently? What does that 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:27.600 look like for you? 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:29.880 Doing what I want? When I want? 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.959 When have you done that last weekend? 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:39.559 Would you do hung out with my mom? Yep? Nah, 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:42.000 I don't actually know. I never know what I want. 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:45.120 That's life. That's the end of that. 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:48.000 No, I want to what do you mean make the most? 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:49.160 I'm so fascinated. 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:51.040 Okay, if I if I knew that I was going 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:53.240 to die when I'm sixty two, ye, I think I'd 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:56.120 feel good because I know that there's a certain amount 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:57.880 of time. Like I don't want to be I don't 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:01.280 necessarily I don't want to jinx myself live on until 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:06.000 I'm incapacitated and my mind is like tearing up into pieces. 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:09.280 Would you rather have a deteriorating body or mind? 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:14.120 Body for sure, Well, deteriorating mind. You are nothing but 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:14.760 your mind. 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:17.640 Oh you believe that? Yeah? Hectic? 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:22.080 But as you were, as I was, I just I 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:24.839 just would hate the idea of living life knowing that 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:26.160 I'm going to die a certain way. I think it 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.679 would make me what's it called when you can't leave 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:33.160 your house aaphobic? Agoraphobic? It would be giving a four agoraphobic? 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:37.320 Giving you for are I just be watching euphoria. 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:40.960 The reason why I'm asking this hypothetical question is because 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:46.040 I think despite the when or where, people's sense of 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:50.920 like default or normal always corrects itself. So what feels 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.079 like this really wild thing I find out I die 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:56.800 when I'm sixty two is super spooky until three weeks 0:13:56.880 --> 0:13:59.960 later you're so comfortable with the idea that it's normal. 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:03.920 For example, like at one point you would have been 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:06.319 fifteen being like, oh my goodness, one day I'm gonna 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:09.679 be twenty seven, gonna be so old, it's gonna be 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:13.880 so embarrassing. Now you're twenty seven, you're like it's fine. Yeah, 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:17.680 I just age some days. Yeah, it's fun. Yeah, But realistically, 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.160 for how foreign it was of a concept when you 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:22.120 were younger, you just have time to sit with it. 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:25.280 You're like, oh, you know that happened when your parents like, 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:26.960 you know, you're not gonna be friends with your school 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:30.400 friends whoever. You're like, no way, mom, We're gonna be 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:33.000 best friends forever. And now you're like, I don't know 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:37.320 those people. Yeah. So I think the same concept with 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:40.200 the idea. I think the idea of death is spookier 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:46.160 than actually dying. You don't think like, I'm in my 0:14:46.240 --> 0:14:48.640 had like all the possibilities and then what's gonna shut 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:50.920 down first? And am I gonna feel it? And am 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.120 I gonna be regretful? Well, I'll be sad, will be content, 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:54.920 and then you'll just die. 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:59.000 Well yeah, so it doesn't really matter if your hat sad, happy, content. 0:14:58.840 --> 0:14:59.600 Well it matters. 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:01.360 Well not, it doesn't because you're gonna die. 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:04.080 I think it matters, but it's not important. 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:05.880 Okay, I don't get that. 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:10.840 That's okay. Not everything's to be understood. What is to 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:15.240 be understood cannot be explained. As I said, life is 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:18.480 a circle, and I do like that one, because I 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:21.760 really believe that is it the ora boris what the 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:25.520 snake that eats its own tail? Oh okay, you're a 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:27.000 whole loss for you don't even know it though. 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:30.280 Or a boris I'm a bit or a boris right now, 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:36.040 or a bored of this speaking on behalf of myself 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:40.000 and my people. All right, that's your thought, doll, get 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:42.680 back to you next time. Yeah, I appreciate you taking 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:44.800 yourself on this journey with me. Is very hot and sexy. 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:47.000 This is flex and frooms on. 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:50.040 A friend of a friend of mine is going through 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:51.400 something very specific. 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:53.120 And when you say friend of a friend, are we 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:55.640 talking in a circle? Out of circle? 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:56.360 Out of circle? 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:57.240 Yeah? 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:59.720 It's like a friend of someone who I would call 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:02.480 a friend. So not exactly an acquaintance, definitely not a 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:02.960 close friend. 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:04.120 Yeah, ok, I like that. 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:08.360 But they've put this on Reddit, and then my friend 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:11.240 has sent me the link saying, hey, this is this 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:12.840 is I won't say your name. 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:13.680 And how does your friend know? 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:15.240 They're just internet sloths? 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:20.800 Wow, nothing is sacred. Everything is up for discussion. Okay, 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:24.000 So and you'll let you know what I'll do on 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:27.720 a national show. I got to put it out of it. 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:30.760 Okay, so this is what he wrote. Did my best 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:33.880 friend plan this pregnancy? She told me she was on 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.640 birth control and now she's pregnant after we slept together 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:39.200 for a few days. She and I have been best 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:42.920 friends for two years now, so two years is nothing. 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:45.520 I mean fast friendships, strong connections. 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:48.560 I get red flags from that. We're close and we 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:52.040 tell each other everything. Basically, she had never asked me 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.160 out on a date or anything until we found out 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:56.280 that she was pregnant. She and I have had this 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:59.120 tension between us before, and we both like each other, 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.200 but never really didn't thing about it or mentioned it. 0:17:01.760 --> 0:17:04.000 Long story short, she and I ended up traveling together 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:06.280 and we ended up sharing a hotel to save costs. 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:09.000 You looked straight into this dog the. 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:14.840 Old share a hotel room to save costs. Full pregnant pipeline. 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:18.760 She came on to me and we had sex all 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:21.359 during the trip. I had suggested we use condoms for 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:24.520 the first time. Sure he did, but she told me 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:26.320 she was on birth control and that we would be 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:26.920 pulling out. 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:31.200 So it's fine. Can I quickly pause for a caveat 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:35.040 the way we americanize our speech? What is a birth control. 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:35.639 It's the pill. 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.880 Yeah, well he's on Radity's trying to, like, I understand 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:42.680 getting with the common people. I don't want to get 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:44.919 too descriptive, but I tried pulling away from her, at 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:46.960 least not definition side her, but she would leg lock 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:51.480 me enough. A few weeks later, she told me that 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:54.120 she was pregnant. The baby is one hundred percent mine, 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:55.800 since I'm the only one she's been with it all. 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:58.600 After I found out about the pregnancy, she asked if 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:01.120 we could raise the baby together as a and see 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:04.679 if things would work out. I agreed because I have 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:06.439 feelings for her and care about her, and now I 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:08.639 have a baby on the way. I was just thinking 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:11.399 about it and thought that maybe this was planned or 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:14.280 do guys think that it is just an accident and 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:15.840 that she's a one of the very few to get 0:18:15.840 --> 0:18:21.080 pregnant despite being on birth control. Thanks it's giving a 0:18:21.200 --> 0:18:27.399 three syllable word entrapment. However, it kind of feels like 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:29.920 so he didn't use a condom, so I think he's 0:18:29.920 --> 0:18:33.359 semi asking for it. He's like an asking for its situation. 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:38.560 But if you are having sex without a condom, you're 0:18:38.600 --> 0:18:41.520 ready resk you take it. 0:18:41.560 --> 0:18:44.320 Is yeah, yeah, I'm sorry. Yeah, it's a bit rich 0:18:44.400 --> 0:18:48.199 on his end, being like, well, she said that she 0:18:48.480 --> 0:18:53.040 was on birth control and I trusted her. Do you 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:55.840 really know her? Then? Is that your bestie? Now you 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:57.840 got a co parent? Look at this, The whole thing 0:18:57.880 --> 0:19:01.240 is just messed up. I feel like people, the things 0:19:01.240 --> 0:19:06.000 that we are fearful of in life don't match up 0:19:06.280 --> 0:19:08.280 to the things that we should actually be afraid of. 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:11.239 Because how are we not scared that every time we 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:13.680 we're gonna have babies? I know, I am, you're scared 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:15.640 of that. Yeah, I don't want to raise a kid 0:19:17.200 --> 0:19:21.720 ill at least surely you know what I mean. Like 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:25.160 you have a nice little night out and then suddenly 0:19:25.160 --> 0:19:26.880 you've got the clap and you're like, oh, okay, that's 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:29.159 not what I planned for. But here we are. And 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:31.919 even in this instance, right like I would say, for 0:19:31.960 --> 0:19:34.520 the both of them, let's not use the phrase you're 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:36.919 asking for it. But I feel as though when you 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:40.440 do things and you don't take all the necessary precautions 0:19:40.440 --> 0:19:43.879 that we've been taught since we were literal children, why 0:19:43.920 --> 0:19:46.679 do you think you're the exception to the rule. Like, 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:50.240 even if the person you're sleeping with us on birth control. 0:19:51.000 --> 0:19:54.119 You're only doing half the recipe. It's like, Oh, I 0:19:54.240 --> 0:19:57.680 tried to make a cake, and you know, she bought 0:19:57.720 --> 0:19:59.880 the eggs and I know I was meant to bring 0:20:00.000 --> 0:20:02.720 the vanilla essence, but I didn't, and now the cake 0:20:02.760 --> 0:20:06.880 doesn't taste good. Okay, what do you want us to do? 0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:08.600 You knew what you were meant to do, you didn't 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:08.840 do it. 0:20:09.600 --> 0:20:12.960 Yeah, I guess so. Oh yeah, you use the packet 0:20:12.960 --> 0:20:15.200 mix and you mixed in water and then you expecting 0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:16.880 it to not make a cake, but it made a cake. 0:20:17.840 --> 0:20:24.159