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Speaker 1: Jonesy and Amanda in the morning. I find it if

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Speaker 1: I just put Wendy Matthews the day you went away on,

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Speaker 1: that puts you into the bloods. Look, it's all very raw,

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Speaker 1: isn't it. And yesterday I was referencing an article that

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Speaker 1: Mere Friedman wrote about being the mother of sons and

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Speaker 1: how it's the longest breakup of your life and how

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Speaker 1: exquisitely painful it is to watch them grow away from you.

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Speaker 1: That was so eloquent what you said. There are many

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Speaker 1: crazy things about being a parent, and one that definitely

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Speaker 1: wasn't in the brochure is the way you don't actually

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Speaker 1: parent one person one child. Your parents very differently have

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Speaker 1: a newborn, a baby, a toddler, a preschool schooler, a

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Speaker 1: primary age kid, a preteen, an adolessad, a full blown teen,

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Speaker 1: a young adult, and then an adult.

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Speaker 2: And they all answer to the same name, and they

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Speaker 2: all call you mom, and you never notice the inflection

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Speaker 2: point where one morphs into the next.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I was beloved. I just wanted to say,

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Speaker 1: isn't this a great piece of riety you? Oh? But

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Speaker 1: me as words and me balling. It just touched a

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Speaker 1: nerve we had about a thousand Facebook messages and messages

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Speaker 1: from all over the place. Yesterday from Michelle, I love

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Speaker 1: listening to you too. I'm scared to listen on the

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Speaker 1: bus because I keep blubbering, uh Annett Wallace says. And

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Speaker 1: now my own son's about to have his own child,

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Speaker 1: another level of emotion. This really women just understood this

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Speaker 1: so implicitly. Beth has written thanks for sharing people who

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Speaker 1: write things like this to help us almost spiritually hold

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Speaker 1: our hand as we try to get through the path

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Speaker 1: of parenthood with our beautiful children intact, emotionally and physically.

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Speaker 1: What about this one from Dannielle. I was listening to

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Speaker 1: you on the way to work and I couldn't stop

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Speaker 1: sobbing tears of unconditional love and heartbreak. I miss my

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Speaker 1: precious ginger curled baby, the toddler, the young child. I

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Speaker 1: know I'm increasingly not the sun around which his world revolves.

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Speaker 1: Although my I strung, my strong, willed, beautiful, opinionated, social

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Speaker 1: media obsessed teen is near and still wants his cuddles

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Speaker 1: every day. I miss him. Isn't that the thing that

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Speaker 1: you miss who they've been because you don't see them?

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Speaker 1: And this one came from Helen yesterday. She said, I

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Speaker 1: have two boys twenty nine twenty seven. They still live

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Speaker 1: at home, and everything he said hit home in a

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Speaker 1: big way. My oldest boy is telling me I need

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Speaker 1: to cut the cord, and he's not my little boy today.

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Speaker 1: He's having an operation. He asked me not to take

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Speaker 1: him or pick him up. He wanted his dad. He explained,

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Speaker 1: I'd make him feel a bit anxious and dad would

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Speaker 1: be relaxed. While trying to keep my emotions relaxed. I

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Speaker 1: swallowed hard and said, sure, I understand, while inside my

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Speaker 1: heart was breaking. So as I was listening to you

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Speaker 1: and crying my eyes out, his dad was taking him

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Speaker 1: to hospital after the operation. He was in recovery and

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Speaker 1: I received a call from the hospital to say he

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Speaker 1: was good. My heart burst because even though he didn't

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Speaker 1: want me there, he gave them my number to call.

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Speaker 1: He sent me a message to say I'm a bit

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Speaker 1: sore and I love you, And she said the words

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Speaker 1: you've read through your tears are so true. And to

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Speaker 1: be honest, I've spent the day thinking back to when

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Speaker 1: my little boys became men and thinking you I've missed it.

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Speaker 2: Where are you going again? I know that's sad, so that.

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Speaker 1: Thanks to Mia for writing that article that just we're

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Speaker 1: all in this together. The exquisite pain of loving your

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Speaker 1: adult son.

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Speaker 2: Very well said.

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Speaker 1: Now, can we get back to talking about butt pots

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Speaker 1: and they Pandas joins the and Amanda, good morning, an

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Speaker 1: tell you