Speaker 1: Big breath. Thank you.
Speaker 2: Also, I do want to say thank you for taking
Speaker 2: a video in my vulnerable state.
Speaker 1: Can't tell if you're annoyed by that.
Speaker 2: I might hand down my pants and I was snoring
Speaker 2: on your couch, so will you tell me.
Speaker 1: I thought it was a very cute little video. Yes,
Speaker 1: you were snoring. Your hand like it wasn't in the
Speaker 1: front of your pants, it was down the side. It
Speaker 1: was very endearing. People loved it because my cock's on
Speaker 1: my hip. Welcome back to two doting dads. I am
Speaker 1: Maddie Jay and I'm Ash and this is a podcast
Speaker 1: all about parenting. It is the good, it is a bad.
Speaker 1: So that's my line and relatable. Yes, that's miss And
Speaker 1: if you've come for advice, not from us, sorry to
Speaker 1: tell you not to day, but if you've come to
Speaker 1: listen to two idiots, well welcome, Welcome a boar ash
Speaker 1: before we get into this. Yeah, fantastic episode.
Speaker 2: It's going to be a fair I can feel it.
Speaker 1: We do for a good one. We're both well.
Speaker 2: I am very tired all the time, so I feel
Speaker 2: like it's going to be good.
Speaker 1: How many hours did you get last night? The last
Speaker 1: night was good? How many to find hours. That's too much.
Speaker 2: You know I needed it from the previous night, which
Speaker 2: we will talk about.
Speaker 1: We'll get into that very shortly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know I needed it, but I'm still tired.
Speaker 1: Ash. Yes, I have something very special for you, a gift,
Speaker 1: if you will, Matthew, you are the only gift I need.
Speaker 1: That's very sweet. Thank you. Do you remember we had
Speaker 1: a segment a few weeks ago it was apparenting hacker fucked.
Speaker 1: Oh what is it? Tron? I don't know why? It
Speaker 1: says Tron. This is the disposable potty, the magic hat?
Speaker 1: Am I going to poop? Yes on this podcast? Absolutely
Speaker 1: give me a look. Don't don't withhold it from me.
Speaker 2: That's so many years in that all the way three pack.
Speaker 1: It is, Tron. It's more than that three pay reusable.
Speaker 1: Can I open it?
Speaker 3: I thought you'd never asked, Oh where's this from?
Speaker 1: Just one for me thinks this is all the way
Speaker 1: from the UK. Okay, so we're just currently unwrapping. So
Speaker 1: this is for those of you wondering. We I found
Speaker 1: this onliners on social media. It was a portable potty.
Speaker 1: Imagine a cardboard magician's hat that you would bring with you.
Speaker 1: Have it stored in the car, and if your child
Speaker 1: needs to do a number two and you're in the car,
Speaker 1: you can then pop this like the floor of the
Speaker 1: back of the car. Did you say hat they quite
Speaker 1: old design? Yeah? Wa wa wa wa wa wait wait,
Speaker 1: let's let's let's try it on the floor. Maybe ash's
Speaker 1: currently opening up the disposable potty, very quick to set up.
Speaker 1: I might just add it's got a little absorbent people done, mate,
Speaker 1: plastic lining with a little pattern side. Take pants off,
Speaker 1: Take pans off. It's going to cost you more than that. Man,
Speaker 1: are your pants off and we line it up? Fuck
Speaker 1: you sat on the end. He didn't sit in a flush.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's built for adults. I'm still going
Speaker 1: to go. Just do it in the bush. Was it
Speaker 1: worth spending forty dollars to get that delivered all the
Speaker 1: way from what he do? How much was it, Jess?
Speaker 1: Eighty eighty bucks? Eighty dollars that's coming out of your
Speaker 1: pay Holy yeah, Okay, I thought I would give it
Speaker 1: a second chance. I think, look for the environment. Just
Speaker 1: do it in a bush. Yeah, I agree, I agree, Okay,
Speaker 1: didn't bury I think of that seven two dollars about
Speaker 1: sixty two of that was for postage to get an
Speaker 1: express shipped over here. That's crazy and it does say
Speaker 1: one to six year olds. Yeah, we're obviously too heavy,
Speaker 1: but like like dig a hole, Dig a hole, please,
Speaker 1: who's got time to dig a hole on the side
Speaker 1: of the road with a toddler? Not me, it's not
Speaker 1: any parent.
Speaker 2: Just bend him over, like my mate, Mike, his kid.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Mike. Handsome Mike. That's what I called him,
Speaker 1: handsome Mic hot chippies.
Speaker 2: We're at the skatepark and then a kid needs to
Speaker 2: do a bush pooh.
Speaker 1: I was going on to watch.
Speaker 2: Of course, and concerning mate, the shot out like a cannon.
Speaker 2: It made a noise like a straight to the bush
Speaker 2: quick wife. I want to get that checked out. He's
Speaker 2: the anal PSI on that boy. He's going to give
Speaker 2: me impressive of prolapse.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Probably.
Speaker 2: You don't want of those audi assholes times. He's an adult.
Speaker 1: Goodness, speaking of oudy assholes, how are you? Thank you?
Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm very good. I'm You're just mate, Like
Speaker 1: I said, holding down the fort and I just want
Speaker 1: to I just want to say ash. I mean this
Speaker 1: with every fiber in my body. You were doing an
Speaker 1: amazing job right now.
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you. I am battling on. I'm soldiering on.
Speaker 2: Just for context, my wife is very sick. She's some
Speaker 2: would call a bedridden. And look she's trying to like
Speaker 2: get on with it and not act like she's not sick,
Speaker 2: but like trying to think that she needs to be
Speaker 2: the hero to keep the house going, which is true.
Speaker 1: This family only needs one hero and that hero is Ashwear.
Speaker 1: It's me at the moment.
Speaker 2: So she is at home, hopefully she's not working, and
Speaker 2: hopefully because I can't watch her all the time, I
Speaker 2: was like her when I left, just watch you look
Speaker 2: after her?
Speaker 1: Get some rest? Would you like shut the curtains. I
Speaker 1: can't watch you can't watch her all the time. How
Speaker 1: do you? How do you look? After April?
Speaker 2: Just watching her in the corner of the room has
Speaker 2: pinned out, as are you rest? I just I know
Speaker 2: that she wouldn't be in bed with the you know,
Speaker 2: trying to get some round.
Speaker 1: I know she'd be sending emails right now.
Speaker 2: She would be she'd be yeah, she'd be sending emails, DMS.
Speaker 2: She'd be doing washing, and she'd be absolutely battling because
Speaker 2: you know, women soldier on us men. No, I'm straight
Speaker 2: to sleep. Sorry, I'm just a carrier and now I'm
Speaker 2: carrying on to you. But yeah, that's very tired. We
Speaker 2: did have and we were lucky enough the other night
Speaker 2: to be invited to Manly see Eagles Awards night.
Speaker 1: I don't know how we got there, but we did.
Speaker 1: They love you over there. It was It was very nigh.
Speaker 1: It was a beautiful effect.
Speaker 2: The food was amazing and like I said, I never
Speaker 2: really eat the event and more of a drinker.
Speaker 1: But you said, and I quote, that's the first function
Speaker 1: I've ever been to where I've eaten something for sure.
Speaker 2: One time I was at a wedding and I ate
Speaker 2: a whole bowl of potatoes and that's.
Speaker 1: The only other part.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it was a lovely affair, lots of really
Speaker 2: nice people for dreams.
Speaker 1: But also I feel like it's the first time you've
Speaker 1: been invited to something as prestigious as that you do.
Speaker 1: I feel like you would take a bullet for mainly
Speaker 1: the NRL team for those wondering. And you went to
Speaker 1: that event and you had a couple of cheeky beers
Speaker 1: and you were home at a very reasonable hour which
Speaker 1: is unlike you.
Speaker 2: You were like, it's concerning to you because of how
Speaker 2: much fuel you probably have left in the tank, And
Speaker 2: honestly I was. I was fatigued then, so like I
Speaker 2: was like happy to get home before midnight.
Speaker 1: I do want to let the listeners know about something
Speaker 1: in particular that was a standout for me at the event. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: there is one manly player who was very well known.
Speaker 1: He's now retired, one of the most famous manly players.
Speaker 1: His name is Steve Menzies. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, And
Speaker 1: that one player happens to be the only player that
Speaker 1: you've had to run in with yeah a while ago. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And you were like, God, I wonder if I'm going
Speaker 1: to see Steve Menzi.
Speaker 2: We saw him in the lobby and I was like,
Speaker 2: let's avoid Steve.
Speaker 1: Can you just inform the listeners why you and Steve
Speaker 1: Menzies may not like each other?
Speaker 2: First of all, we said let's avoid Steve Menzi's. Then
Speaker 2: we got shown to our table and guess who was
Speaker 2: sitting next to saying on the same table and you
Speaker 2: took a bullet straight up.
Speaker 1: And sat right next to my messaged manly and said,
Speaker 1: can we can we request to see need to write
Speaker 1: manly people together again.
Speaker 2: So we were sat right next to him, and he
Speaker 2: didn't at first.
Speaker 1: We were it was fine.
Speaker 2: It was you know, he's a lovely guy, and I
Speaker 2: just want to just set this up. He is one
Speaker 2: of the greatest players to ever be produced.
Speaker 1: He is.
Speaker 2: He is a lovely man and a beautiful wife, and
Speaker 2: wife is to see that everyone of.
Speaker 1: The man in the organization. If you're listening, you're very lovely.
Speaker 2: Anyway, I went on to say to Steve, you don't
Speaker 2: remember me? Do And it was a few years ago.
Speaker 1: And you said that I think we'd had four awards,
Speaker 1: we had the entrees, and it was lovely. There was
Speaker 1: no tension at the table, and I thought, hey, maybe
Speaker 1: maybe you won't bring it up because there's no need
Speaker 1: to because everyone's having a great time. Everyone's been polite.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm going to bring it up. And you're like, Steve,
Speaker 1: you do you remember me. I did leave a part out.
Speaker 2: Of the story to him that I recalled that I'll
Speaker 2: say here, but I did say, Steve, do you remember me?
Speaker 2: And he was He was kind of like, and look,
Speaker 2: I'm older, I have way more tattoos.
Speaker 1: Now. Some would say my crow's feet are way more
Speaker 1: obvious now. I was just a child, and Steve would
Speaker 1: also meet a lot of people everywhere he goes people
Speaker 1: he did ask him for a photo.
Speaker 2: We won this competition through a friend of mine. It
Speaker 2: was four of us who would get to be go
Speaker 2: and watch a Sunday afternoon game down at Brook Valley,
Speaker 2: the Fortress as we call it, and to sit in
Speaker 2: the back of a ute and watch the game. So
Speaker 2: we're a bit higher on the hill. Free beers, free food,
Speaker 2: the whole bit. But also Steve Menzies picks you up,
Speaker 2: take you there personally, which is.
Speaker 1: A lovely touch, lovely gesture. He's picked us up.
Speaker 2: I was already pierced when he picked me up. And
Speaker 2: he picked me up and he had his kids in
Speaker 2: the car, and you know what, I'm my grandkids. I
Speaker 2: don't hold my tongue whatsoever. So I'm like fucking tag
Speaker 2: lashing around the place.
Speaker 1: Also gonna to say that's on Steve. Yeah, that's his
Speaker 1: fault for reading the kids. Obviously forgot that he had
Speaker 1: the kids that afternoon. And yeah, and then his wife's like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm off to see the girls. He's like, but I'm
Speaker 1: picking up these boys, and he's said, we'll bring the kids,
Speaker 1: and he's like, what's the worst could happen? Yeahsh is
Speaker 1: the worst that could happen, exactly right.
Speaker 2: And it was a forty degree day and we flogged
Speaker 2: Parah and he was like, I do remember the game.
Speaker 2: I remember the game. And we had photos and stuff,
Speaker 2: which were nice photos. He was like, fuck, I really
Speaker 2: want to find the photo. But the thing that at
Speaker 2: the time, which really annoyed Steve was and look he
Speaker 2: gets pulled left, right and center when he goes. Everyone
Speaker 2: wants a photo with Steve Men because he's a cult hero.
Speaker 2: But I wanted to be the point of different. So
Speaker 2: I actually, and I didn't tell you this through the
Speaker 2: whole day, called him my closer personal friend Steve Man.
Speaker 2: That's how I referred to him the whole day. So
Speaker 2: he had that I spewed up a couple of times
Speaker 2: during the day because it was very hot.
Speaker 1: Can I ask you mentioned free food? Did you have
Speaker 1: any food? And I did.
Speaker 2: I did take it for myself, just be up in
Speaker 2: the bathroom.
Speaker 1: Just so that everybody knows.
Speaker 2: It was one time in Steve's car, But what really
Speaker 2: happened was where I said to him, we had it.
Speaker 2: Do you remember we had a stoush because this is
Speaker 2: how it wasn't how the afternoon ended, but we had
Speaker 2: a stoush of sorts and we went to the league's
Speaker 2: club afterwards, all of us because it was to finish
Speaker 2: the day. You go to this function, which I didn't
Speaker 2: get into the function because of this situation. I everyone
Speaker 2: that day who stopped Steve. He was given autographs out.
Speaker 2: He's a lovely guy. Like I said, he was just
Speaker 2: had enough of me. And then at this lease, I've
Speaker 2: got to sign in. He signed me in with sm
Speaker 2: only and I was like, oh, so everyone else gets
Speaker 2: a signature and I just get the initials. And we
Speaker 2: had a bit of a stoush in that moment. And
Speaker 2: then I'd pay, stumbled out and gone home because I
Speaker 2: was just cool.
Speaker 1: Co involment, cot involvement and cook.
Speaker 2: And then a little while later he actually because he's
Speaker 2: he works in nine to five. Now he's a broke,
Speaker 2: he's a algage broken. And he actually used to get
Speaker 2: on sometimes we get on the bus that I was
Speaker 2: on in the morning, and I remember one time it
Speaker 2: was a big bendy bus and I was at the front.
Speaker 2: There's no other seats he walked on. And this was
Speaker 2: close to the time this all happened not long after,
Speaker 2: and he got on the bus and I was my
Speaker 2: seat and nose you're on next to me. Only the
Speaker 2: bus was full. He took one look at it and
Speaker 2: got off the bus.
Speaker 1: No joke, And.
Speaker 2: I'm talking about this might be ten years ago now.
Speaker 1: Maybe he just realized if he got his wallet, it
Speaker 1: doesn't end there.
Speaker 2: My friend, Okay, I used to go to the league's
Speaker 2: club gym, and I remember there was the what do
Speaker 2: they call this press machine, chest press, just say chest
Speaker 2: press machine that faced the door, so when you're walking in,
Speaker 2: you just lock eyes with that person. I was on
Speaker 2: that machine.
Speaker 1: Steve walks into the leg's club gym, seize me, We
Speaker 1: lock eyes. He turns around and he walked out. That's twice.
Speaker 1: That was ten years ago. Again. Could have forgotten his wallet,
Speaker 1: could have.
Speaker 2: Could have been and he's gone on coincidence.
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know, but I mean, who could stay
Speaker 1: angry at that face?
Speaker 2: No one, no one care, not even Steve men not
Speaker 2: even Steve Men's was forgotten about it, obviously, and then
Speaker 2: he knew.
Speaker 1: I reckon, he knew you're like you like, Steve, do
Speaker 1: you remember this face? And he was like ooh, And
Speaker 1: then his wife was like, that's that guy who you
Speaker 1: always said you fucking want to avoid it and he's.
Speaker 2: Sitting next to you at the Manly Awards. But thankfully,
Speaker 2: look water over the bridge. We had a lot of
Speaker 2: fun with Steve's So thank you, Steve Man, and you
Speaker 2: are forgiven.
Speaker 1: One of the biggest rivalries in Manly has now been resolved.
Speaker 1: People can sleep at night knowing that Ashwicks no longer
Speaker 1: has any enemies where he's born. It was my only enemy,
Speaker 1: I think. I don't know. There could be more. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you are an enemy of Ashwicks, please write in
Speaker 1: and tell us what happened.
Speaker 2: To be Actually there is an enemy with someone I
Speaker 2: had a stout or someone on a golf course.
Speaker 1: Anyway, but it was a good night and you went
Speaker 1: home at a very reasonable hour with steak in your belly.
Speaker 1: Yeah that was nice as well as a.
Speaker 2: Few beers, only a few very well behaved and I
Speaker 2: could have I could have easily, but look I didn't.
Speaker 1: I went home. I was playing the role of April,
Speaker 1: where you were like one more drink and I was like,
Speaker 1: do you think that's a wise idea. I did.
Speaker 2: God, April, I did have a set of keys. So
Speaker 2: get home, new house, still working out. The King's must
Speaker 2: be nice. It's a rental, so it just relates a
Speaker 2: bit rich. And I get home and the screen door
Speaker 2: is locked, and I don't have a key for the
Speaker 2: screen door.
Speaker 1: Great, I don't want to wake everyone up. How did
Speaker 1: you go getting down that driveway?
Speaker 2: After a few beers, I slid a few times and
Speaker 2: then I thought, I'm going to get in the house
Speaker 2: and the back door doesn't lock, and it's but it's
Speaker 2: up on like a two story back andy. So there's
Speaker 2: me eleven thirty at nights, scowling the side of the.
Speaker 1: Brand new suit, brand new MJ Baales suit.
Speaker 2: Anyway, I sneak in, I go have a shower, come
Speaker 2: out of the shower, and Macey's crying.
Speaker 1: Here we go.
Speaker 2: It's midnight at this point, and I'm like, got her
Speaker 2: back to sleep, okay, I go off to bed, and
Speaker 2: then of course she starts to cough, and she coughed
Speaker 2: for two hours before she went back to sleep.
Speaker 1: And then, yeah, how do you get back to sleep?
Speaker 2: Just lay with her, I said, lay with her and
Speaker 2: let a cough into my mouth nice pretty much because
Speaker 2: she doesn't understand. She's like, ah, I don't. And I
Speaker 2: could just feel the breath on my face every time
Speaker 2: for two hours and then yeh got three hours sleep
Speaker 2: and came here yesterday and fell asleep on the couch.
Speaker 1: And here we are and here we are and I'm tired.
Speaker 2: So yeah, how are you?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: How was the weekend? Actually, I'm we're going to let
Speaker 2: that one slide.
Speaker 1: The weekend was good, thanks mate. The weekend was good.
Speaker 1: Was down in Aladullah, because it must be nice. We
Speaker 1: have purchased a house down going must be We are
Speaker 1: currently two months in to a Renno. That is just
Speaker 1: getting bigger and more complicated. How did the terminite situation go?
Speaker 1: What's the deal with that? Look, it's it's actually, it's
Speaker 1: all right. Termites have resolved themselves. Well they've been killed.
Speaker 2: They're like they found us.
Speaker 1: We love the South Coast. I will just got married
Speaker 1: down there, and we go down there for like, if
Speaker 1: we go away somewhere, no disrespect to up North Northern Beaches,
Speaker 1: Central Coast, lovely players up there. We normally go down south.
Speaker 1: We look south, you're on south side of Sydney.
Speaker 2: Well it makes more sense, like why would you go
Speaker 2: like we would go north. The problem is just going
Speaker 2: north when you already live north. If you want to
Speaker 2: go further north, you've got to go south to go north.
Speaker 1: In Sydney. It's weird. It's a fucking nightmare. But we
Speaker 1: had a little sniff, as you do sometimes, you know,
Speaker 1: you just like go to real estate dot com put
Speaker 1: in a different suburb and you're like, see what's around.
Speaker 1: We saw this place, like fuck, that is epic, and
Speaker 1: we're going down anyway. So we thought we'll just go
Speaker 1: to the open house because it just so happens at
Speaker 1: the open home was the same time as we were
Speaker 1: down there. This is months ago, and Laura was like,
Speaker 1: this place is fucking magic. Imagine like eventually we get
Speaker 1: to move down here to the coast with the kids,
Speaker 1: won't that be amazing? And I was like, eh, the
Speaker 1: place had been there for three years. Homeowner Lovely Vail.
Speaker 1: She's passed away, so the house was just like she
Speaker 1: wasn't in the house too. It was no I was
Speaker 1: I was going to say, like when are we're going
Speaker 1: to try and guess where she died. She passed away
Speaker 1: in the nursing home, rest in peace. But the house
Speaker 1: is everything we peel back is there's just more and
Speaker 1: more damage, like everything that we'll hope in to say, like.
Speaker 2: A poorly washed force kin.
Speaker 1: Everything. Sorry, but yeah, and then that includes you know
Speaker 1: as well, we pulled off from jip Rock and then
Speaker 1: they are fu termitess like, oh my god. So it's
Speaker 1: it's it's been a lot bigger than we anticipated. And
Speaker 1: also a couple of arguments here.
Speaker 2: In the ash I can imagine.
Speaker 1: We The biggest argument we've had so far was over
Speaker 1: a French cream white, which is an off white for
Speaker 1: those wondering, versus a white wool white. You've worked ash
Speaker 1: in in construction before. I feel like you've got a
Speaker 1: great eye for detail. Should I get into character now? Please? Oh,
Speaker 1: I say, Laura, that was a lovely spot of shaving paint.
Speaker 2: Can I please see the colors that you wish for
Speaker 2: me to have an opinion?
Speaker 1: Not okay, this is this is a white wave white wave, yep,
Speaker 1: this is tormentor Oh.
Speaker 2: It's a huge difference. There's a massive difference.
Speaker 1: In those two. Yeah, are you fucking high? No?
Speaker 2: I wish you got to think that's very bright white.
Speaker 2: That's a dull white. It's a bit more of a
Speaker 2: tan white. Wow, got the others? You want to run
Speaker 2: by me?
Speaker 1: Give me, give me? You and Laura should be running
Speaker 1: this house.
Speaker 2: I sat down with her and went through the tile stuff.
Speaker 1: Did you really? Yeah? So fleeting with my wife your
Speaker 1: own home.
Speaker 2: But we both were wearing clothes. It's all good, Thank you,
Speaker 2: thank you the heavens.
Speaker 1: So yeah, currently kindly discussing all the details of including
Speaker 1: the paint colors, which ash on top of everything else.
Speaker 1: When it's ten o'clock at night and you want to
Speaker 1: go to bed and you got to go through and
Speaker 1: you gotta p out colors of things. I don't I
Speaker 1: don't care. My words were. My words were, I don't
Speaker 1: care enough about these colors to have an argument with you.
Speaker 1: And then that was responded with, so you don't care
Speaker 1: about this house? Oh yeah, yeah, it's one extreme to
Speaker 1: the other. And I was like, yeah, but anything I
Speaker 1: pick you're not going to like, so let's just go
Speaker 1: with what you like. And then that's how the argument
Speaker 1: I'm fold here.
Speaker 2: And it's like, if you're not interested in something that
Speaker 2: there might be slightly interested in, you've insulted them and
Speaker 2: everything about it so like, for example, if April's like
Speaker 2: watching a TV show, I'm like, this TV show is garbage,
Speaker 2: and it's literal garbage.
Speaker 1: She'd be like, oh, what do you just hate me?
Speaker 1: Do you? You didn't make the TV show?
Speaker 2: She takes offense like she's the producing director or something.
Speaker 1: But Laura said, look, there's there's one little part of
Speaker 1: the house that you can have whatever you want. I
Speaker 1: don't care, like whatever you want to have in there.
Speaker 1: The basement. It was a little bit through the on
Speaker 1: sweet She's like, whatever tiles you want, go nuts, And
Speaker 1: I was like, I was like, cool, i want like stripes,
Speaker 1: green and white stripes.
Speaker 2: I'm just thinking that once Orne goes in there and
Speaker 2: it's a cinema room.
Speaker 1: Just a toilet and a big screen, like perfect. And
Speaker 1: so Laura's got great eye for design, you have to
Speaker 1: say that though. She's very very talented and beautiful and funny.
Speaker 1: And she was like, whatever you want, babe, you can
Speaker 1: eat that bathroom. It's your project. It's yours trap, bro okay.
Speaker 1: And so then I was like, great, lock it in
Speaker 1: green and green and white stripe. Let's go green white stripe.
Speaker 1: That's lovely. Thank you, thank you anyway, so I'm about
Speaker 1: to place the order and Laura is like, are you
Speaker 1: are you sure you definitely want the green and white
Speaker 1: stripe And I was like, yeah, work, what work? What's
Speaker 1: not to love? It's it's great, it's punchy, it's yeah,
Speaker 1: it's why it's Chris beachy. And she was like okay.
Speaker 2: But also, this wouldn't have been the first time that
Speaker 2: she's heard.
Speaker 1: About this idea. No, no, no, she's had exactly. It was
Speaker 1: like one of the first I locked in.
Speaker 2: Don't don't stop me when I'm about to lock it in,
Speaker 2: stop me when I suggest it.
Speaker 1: And so then Laura's like, okay, look, if you're happy
Speaker 1: with it, we'll lock it in. I was like great.
Speaker 1: And then she went to work. This morning she called
Speaker 1: me and I'm like, hey, where are you And she goes, well,
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just at the tile shop. Oh god.
Speaker 1: And I was like okay, and she's like, I just
Speaker 1: want to send you something. Greenish shripe are no longer
Speaker 1: happening at She was like, and I did send you
Speaker 1: something and tell me if you like it. And it
Speaker 1: does look better. It does look much better, I have
Speaker 1: to say it. It looks a lot better. He's like,
Speaker 1: it looks a lot better. Yeah, that's what that's what
Speaker 1: you told me to say. I just want to say
Speaker 1: that Laura's decision making has been second to none, and
Speaker 1: I can't wait to see the finished product. She's just
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: Laura blink twice, Matt blink twice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so we're getting their mate, we get Actually, I
Speaker 1: need your help. I do need your help with something,
Speaker 1: okay right now? No, no, no, not right now, not
Speaker 1: the second because I know you have to go back
Speaker 1: to your sick family. I do, and know it's a
Speaker 1: big ass because I didn't help you move your house.
Speaker 2: Oh no, absolutely not, no, absolutely. I just need help
Speaker 2: with some of the gardening down there.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So are you offering me a weekend away like
Speaker 1: you me it's your weekend? Yeah. No, kids, hard labor,
Speaker 1: hard labor. All we need to do is just rip
Speaker 1: out a heap of plants. It'll be fun. Just an idea.
Speaker 1: I know what's a long way to drive, and I
Speaker 1: know that where will we say? Well, books are where? Nice?
Speaker 2: Would you say it would be romantic?
Speaker 1: Absolutely?
Speaker 2: I mean I mean you had me, and you had me.
Speaker 1: Okay, in a few weeks time. I just need to
Speaker 1: come down, because you know I'm not that manly Ash. You, however,
Speaker 1: you're so masculine, so strong, and you know you know
Speaker 1: your way around a set of tuls, Thanks God. So
Speaker 1: that's why I need you there.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, all right, I'll do it because if
Speaker 2: I don't do it, you'll end up with Falcon.
Speaker 1: For those of you who don't know, my good friend,
Speaker 1: Falcon is a lovely young man. He would take a
Speaker 1: bullet for you. He would take a bullet for me.
Speaker 1: Not the best in the garden knocking my hands on.
Speaker 2: No, he's more like, throw your party sort of guy. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: well list do that list of that Ash.
Speaker 1: I know it's almost lunchtime, so I don't want to
Speaker 1: make you even hungrier than what you are right now.
Speaker 1: But you know, when you're near a subway and your
Speaker 1: nose is just a little bit tickled by the smell
Speaker 1: of warm bread, I'm like a dog. I can sniff
Speaker 1: my way to a store.
Speaker 2: I could actually go for a subway, now, I bet.
Speaker 1: You could, big guy. You know who gets to take
Speaker 1: full advantage of the subway treatment. Ash?
Speaker 4: You know who have a guess trades as tradies whom
Speaker 4: must be nice Ashes someone who's just entered the trading
Speaker 4: world for the first time recently with the renaults down South.
Speaker 1: There's an important date coming up that only US trades
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Speaker 2: That is National Trade's Day this Friday, the twentieth September.
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Speaker 2: I want to just quickly talk about something very quickly
Speaker 2: which has come across my desk that I cannot go
Speaker 2: on without just asking you, like, what your thoughts are
Speaker 2: on this please. So friends of mine have a three
Speaker 2: year old daughter, and you've got daughters.
Speaker 1: I've got a daughter and around that age. My daughters
Speaker 1: are also three, one of the and you know, you.
Speaker 2: Just swimming, you can get your kids like Oscar you
Speaker 2: did rugby. And so their daughter took up dancing.
Speaker 1: I loved that. I've thought about getting mole in the
Speaker 1: dance and you know, and just just three, just keep
Speaker 1: that in mind, just three, three years three, innocent. My
Speaker 1: friends of this child have received an email from the
Speaker 1: from the dance school about this particular child. I just
Speaker 1: want to know what your thoughts are on the email.
Speaker 2: Or read it out offering her a scholarship so to
Speaker 2: whom it may concern, which is the parents, of course,
Speaker 2: I hope this will hang on a second.
Speaker 1: Sorry, just before you continue, that was just me saying.
Speaker 2: It's only directed to that to the parents. Very informal. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to
Speaker 2: reach out to discuss Ziggy's behavior in our Tiny Tots class.
Speaker 2: Tiny Tots, come on now. We value presence in our
Speaker 2: program and are committed to ensuring that every child has
Speaker 2: a positive and productive learning environment. However, we've noticed that
Speaker 2: she has been struggling to stay engaged during lessons, which
Speaker 2: has led to some disruptions in class. While we understand
Speaker 2: that this age group can be challenging, it's important for
Speaker 2: the benefit of all students that everyone is able to
Speaker 2: follow instructions and participate appropriately.
Speaker 1: She's fucking three, bro, Yes we continue, Let's go on.
Speaker 2: Sorry, but I'm with you next paragraph. Unfortunately, the current
Speaker 2: situation is affecting the overall learning environment not only but
Speaker 2: also for the other students in the class. We feel
Speaker 2: that she may not be fully benefiting from the lessons
Speaker 2: at this time. It might be helpful to consider taking
Speaker 2: a short break from the classes until she is more
Speaker 2: comfortable following the instructor of the lessons.
Speaker 1: Let me know what you think. I can credit your
Speaker 1: account that they no there is for when she is
Speaker 1: to return. Please feel free to reach out if you'd
Speaker 1: like to discuss any further where anything we can help
Speaker 1: to support. We're here to help and want to ensure
Speaker 1: the best outcome for everyone involved. So that's been written
Speaker 1: by a lawyer. Bro This also nice touch. The email
Speaker 1: finds you well to her makes sense.
Speaker 2: It's a three year old getting booted out of a
Speaker 2: dance class.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're not learning like backflips and pirouettes, like, they're
Speaker 1: probably just there going like that's what level of dance
Speaker 1: are they learning?
Speaker 2: What is this Dallas cow Dallas cheerleaders or whatever it is.
Speaker 1: It's like you just didn't make.
Speaker 2: The cut, sweetheart, get out, get out?
Speaker 1: She's three?
Speaker 2: What do they do twel that is, Look, she's not
Speaker 2: twirling fast enough.
Speaker 1: Just losing. That's absurd, it's absurd, And like what three
Speaker 1: year old has an attention span that's like longer than
Speaker 1: thirty seconds? Like their kids, dude, the kids just put
Speaker 1: the music on and let them run around and have fun. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so essentially they're not welcome back. Wow, can I ask?
Speaker 1: I do have to ask, because you know there's some
Speaker 1: kids can be very naughty, like you know she is
Speaker 1: she in there like wielding a crowbar, and she's.
Speaker 2: No, she is such a sweet little girl. She's the
Speaker 2: sort of little girl who will come up to me
Speaker 2: and go, oh, cuddle, just give me a cuddle straight up.
Speaker 2: Maybe I'm in sort of some sort of emotional tumol,
Speaker 2: I don't know, but she'll still come up and say,
Speaker 2: you know, she's a sweet.
Speaker 1: You're you're quite the tormental. So maybe she she like
Speaker 1: knows her own she's like, what, no, that she so?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 1: What do they say back where it's still pending? But
Speaker 1: obviously you just they're not.
Speaker 2: They're actually and this is the sad part about it,
Speaker 2: they're too too embarrassed to go back.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you wouldn't go back. You couldn't. That's fucked.
Speaker 1: That's no good.
Speaker 2: I know, like we were as as parents of young kids.
Speaker 2: Our kids aren't going to be behaved all the time.
Speaker 2: They're gonna be doing silly. And it's hard enough to
Speaker 2: even say to another parent that your kids accidentally hurt them. Look,
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry, like or.
Speaker 1: Like is she on a scholarship? Can we just know
Speaker 1: so paying? They're paying paying? Dude. There have been so
Speaker 1: many times like every second swimming lesson my kid is
Speaker 1: like screaming bloody merd because she doesn't want to get
Speaker 1: in the water with a teacher I'm paying dude.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my response to that would be, suck it up
Speaker 2: and do your job better. How about that? How about
Speaker 2: you keep them engaged? How about that one? Or maybe
Speaker 2: hire someone that can or maybe I'm moving to a
Speaker 2: dance school that know what they're doing.
Speaker 1: I think that's very ridiculous, and I'm sorry to the
Speaker 1: parents out there that are currently dealing with the situation.
Speaker 1: If you or if.
Speaker 2: You are dealing with a similar situation, is this I
Speaker 2: don't know. Look, this is the first time I've encountered this.
Speaker 2: I'm still pretty new.
Speaker 1: If anyone was to get kicked out of a lesson,
Speaker 1: I feel like it might be yourself. Ash, did you
Speaker 1: ever get removed from classes?
Speaker 2: Removed from classes on a daily basis?
Speaker 1: From what age? Since the daughter very early on? Oh
Speaker 1: when mom is your teacher said that you very early on?
Speaker 1: It was very early on. I was very disruptive in class,
Speaker 1: But from what age? But I think, like, I think.
Speaker 2: Look, this is where I'm going to throw an opinion
Speaker 2: on what this class should have done. Go on, they
Speaker 2: should have said, hey, there's some problems, she's disruptive or
Speaker 2: like she's not engaged. Instead of going we feel you
Speaker 2: should take a break, they're like, hey, is there anything
Speaker 2: that like we can.
Speaker 1: Help or is maybe you should come.
Speaker 2: Sit in in the classes a little bit more, offer something.
Speaker 1: Don't just be like you're fucking out.
Speaker 2: Three year old, get the fuck out of here, Like literally,
Speaker 2: that's what's happened.
Speaker 1: Although we shouldn't pass judgment without having to sit through
Speaker 1: a whole lesson with this said child.
Speaker 2: Very true, but three year old, I think in general,
Speaker 2: three year old, don't think that's fair. I love a
Speaker 2: passionate I will get an update on the situation, please please,
Speaker 2: I actually hang one, I need to yell right here.
Speaker 1: You're raising voice and it's not needed.
Speaker 2: Two days ago I had to help them out and
Speaker 2: babysit this child for a little while, in between one
Speaker 2: finishing work and the other starting work.
Speaker 1: Fucking this guy because mother Theresa over here, ladies and
Speaker 1: gentlemen in Halo looking after his We not only his kids,
Speaker 1: left my sick family to them. That's literal. April's like, ash,
Speaker 1: where's that where's the neurofin in that bottle of water? Yeah?
Speaker 2: And absolute delight with me. Both kids were so I
Speaker 2: don't see, I don't I.
Speaker 1: Don't buy it. Was this whole story just an opportunity
Speaker 1: for you to talk about the fact that you're No.
Speaker 1: I agree with you. I think it's I agree with you. Hey, Ash,
Speaker 1: it's time for parenting hack or that. Oh yes, I
Speaker 1: think I have a great parenting hack that you will love,
Speaker 1: that everyone will love. Parents'll be the all around the world.
Speaker 1: We'll get on board with this parenting hack. Late on
Speaker 1: me big Does anyone else eat dinner at four twenty
Speaker 1: five pm? Because your kids ask for a snack and
Speaker 1: if they had a snack, they wouldn't eat dinner. So
Speaker 1: you just have dinner. Yes, I do it, But then
Speaker 1: they don't eat that and you do the old classic.
Speaker 1: Well you couldn't have been that hungry. Then I think,
Speaker 1: great hack.
Speaker 2: That's bang on, thank you, because also then you can
Speaker 2: bring the whole night forward and they're in bed by
Speaker 2: like five.
Speaker 1: Because I don't know the concept of time. I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's just my kids. But if they look
Speaker 1: at a rice thin, a rice cracker, just look at it,
Speaker 1: have a slither, do they're not eating anything for two days?
Speaker 1: I know? I know, Ma, She hasn't eaten anything in days,
Speaker 1: and I'm over it, and like she is happy and healthy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's just yeah, caveat that might sound terrible anyway, she's
Speaker 1: locked in a cage, so she should be fun. I've
Speaker 1: got one for you it believe it or not.
Speaker 2: It's just look it. It's pretty silly, this one. I
Speaker 2: just thought I was never no, never, okay, so.
Speaker 1: Just scroll he's scrolling. I don't scroll my history. It's amazing.
Speaker 1: That's very good.
Speaker 2: When Oscar was a baby, he used to love a
Speaker 2: butt tap, like when he was like one one and
Speaker 2: a half, when he was like, how you see the child?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, So to the fact where when we stopped doing it,
Speaker 2: we were like, no, I'm not sitting in here for
Speaker 2: twenty minutes, patnyr butt, I'm getting Carple Tunnel on my rear.
Speaker 1: Can you not? Bro Just going through Ash's phone. But
Speaker 1: for those wondering, it's it's it's one of those mulletfish,
Speaker 1: like the robotic mulletfish that like in between inappropriate content
Speaker 1: of future ideas. Someone's roped with rope attached this fish
Speaker 1: to the child, a newborn child, and it's just like
Speaker 1: but very good, very good, so oscar.
Speaker 2: When we started to withhold the butt pack because of
Speaker 2: my wrist started to hurt a lot, and because of that,
Speaker 2: he used to I used to catch him on the
Speaker 2: monitor going like, there is himself.
Speaker 1: The same. I know he's just like and then he
Speaker 1: crimes off to sleep. Just give the man what he wants.
Speaker 1: Is it time for tell me loud? Tell me little live?
Speaker 1: Lauren says. This week the power went out at home,
Speaker 1: which meant the kids couldn't watch TV. Once the power
Speaker 1: came back on, I told them only normal TV works
Speaker 1: from now on, and they can only watch ABC Kids.
Speaker 1: None of the other streaming services are working anymore. It's
Speaker 1: said a lot of arguments. Yeah, okay, good.
Speaker 2: Can I just comment on it quickly before you add
Speaker 2: you absolutely? I agree smart, because when they have no
Speaker 2: other options, they'll just suck it up and get on
Speaker 2: with it.
Speaker 1: Love that go very good? But also like how I
Speaker 1: wricked my pants? Oh no, sorry, I think that was
Speaker 1: me before give me your pants? Isn't it wild though
Speaker 1: that in this day and age, punishment is just watching
Speaker 1: ABC Kids, Like that's theirs to.
Speaker 2: Be hard labor back in the day.
Speaker 1: Get back to sewing. Okay, what I think Lauren should
Speaker 1: have done is she should have said. That is Santa
Speaker 1: Claus turning off the power when you're misbehaving and he's
Speaker 1: always watching. So if you don't want to get the
Speaker 1: TV turned off, behave better and apologize the sounder right now.
Speaker 2: And I think what you're alluding to, Matthew, it is
Speaker 2: the most wonderful time of the year where you can
Speaker 2: lie through every one of your teeth to your children
Speaker 2: about what Santa.
Speaker 1: You don't want any presents for Christmas in control of.
Speaker 1: And it's remarkable how many things Santa is in control of.
Speaker 1: Parents need to shift right now and start like moving
Speaker 1: all their lives to be Christmas factor now. Act yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just just a word of warning. Act now, and
Speaker 1: then after Christmas you can always say he'll come back.
Speaker 2: He'll come back for it. You know what, you know
Speaker 2: what Santa gave you, He'll come.
Speaker 1: Back for the Christmas is fun on Christmas Day for kids,
Speaker 1: but we now know as parents that it's really just
Speaker 1: six months of pure fucking anxiety for kids and so
Speaker 1: much fun for you. Do you want anything for Christmas?
Speaker 1: You want to be the one kid on Christmas Day?
Speaker 1: Because nothing Your call, your call to me. I'm just
Speaker 1: getting child with flashbacks. It is.
Speaker 2: It's great and it's so fun for us because honestly,
Speaker 2: I'll use it. I will use doubt that for anything.
Speaker 1: Questions.
Speaker 2: Yes, I have a really quick question for you, please,
Speaker 2: very quick one very recent.
Speaker 1: I'm talking this week.
Speaker 2: Over fresh Oscar Overnight has become afraid of the family dog.
Speaker 2: And my question is because you have quite a big dog.
Speaker 2: It's not a full dog, but it's a big dog.
Speaker 2: What I mean by full dog is only three legs,
Speaker 2: so it's only three quarters of a dog, but it's big.
Speaker 2: Have the girls ever they ever just got scared? Like
Speaker 2: he is petrified, Like won't go near the dog. The
Speaker 2: dog just know us up. It's confused, like.
Speaker 1: Did the dog do something? No, just woke up one day.
Speaker 1: Did he watch something? I don't know. You can't explain it,
Speaker 1: like it wasn't like we spoke about the other day
Speaker 1: at the football the dogs police dog's attacking people, like
Speaker 1: Oscar hasn't some I watched something showing dogs being violent.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's witnessed an attack in public. I think he
Speaker 1: would tell me something. Have you asked him why he's afraid?
Speaker 1: Because I mean, yeah, he won't give me an answer.
Speaker 1: Won't because it was after a night that he wasn't
Speaker 1: at home. He stayed at Papa's house, and Hubert, does
Speaker 1: Papa have a dog? He was saying.
Speaker 2: The only things he could mutter to me about it were,
Speaker 2: it's because she hasn't seen me in a while.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, what, it's a bit strange. The kids.
Speaker 1: The kids sometimes disliked the cat. The cat does this
Speaker 1: thing where he doesn't cats suck, not Raspberry. I love you.
Speaker 1: I think she's speaking English. She will sit on the
Speaker 1: stools and she crouches below and she swipes. She's a swiper.
Speaker 1: And sometimes the kids and it's more just them being startled.
Speaker 1: They're not actually getting like scratched and not bleeding. But
Speaker 1: I was attacked by Raspberry, and then from that moment
Speaker 1: on for the rest of the night that I wanted
Speaker 1: anything to do with Raspberry. But my sister, okay, my
Speaker 1: sister who also hates Raspberry, also hates Raspberry. She became
Speaker 1: petrified of dogs. Oh, just like just as an adult
Speaker 1: or a child. I as a child, she used to
Speaker 1: love dogs. I wasn't there. This is going back now
Speaker 1: thirty odd years. Who are old, but apparently when she
Speaker 1: was a young child. There was a dog. Not sure
Speaker 1: if it was just excited and jumping up to be like, hey,
Speaker 1: what's up. But the dog had like broken free from
Speaker 1: the owner, had run up and had jumped on my sister. Again,
Speaker 1: was it a police dog. Cannot be sure if it
Speaker 1: was like a and I wouldn't say she didn't like
Speaker 1: it attack. She wasn't like bitten, but it was it
Speaker 1: was a scene. It was a scene. Yeah, yeah, of course.
Speaker 1: And from that moment on, I remember like walking to
Speaker 1: school with my sister and if we saw any type
Speaker 1: of dog, regardless of the bread I'm not just talking
Speaker 1: about like the scary dogs, like a Golden Retriever, right,
Speaker 1: who's scared of a Golden Retriever? My sister she would
Speaker 1: be like.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, fear is a strange thing, isn't that.
Speaker 1: Maybe he was maybe like he had an interaction with
Speaker 1: the dog. The dog's tiny. No, not with that dog
Speaker 1: any other dog.
Speaker 2: Need to get to the bottom of this, need to
Speaker 2: get but also it's hard to be like, I'm like, bro,
Speaker 2: there's this been your dog your whole life.
Speaker 1: That's why I don't think it was that dog was
Speaker 1: another dog just saying, okay, not that I'm going to
Speaker 1: take anyone has any suggestions of what it might be,
Speaker 1: It'll just be the same thing. There's been a bunch
Speaker 1: of people right in and go now simply must have
Speaker 1: happened with another dog. No shit, I want more psychology
Speaker 1: than that, do they? Instead of paying for professional help? Listeners?
Speaker 2: Please way more, way more experience.
Speaker 1: What do you got for me? I have a question
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Speaker 1: Jesse says, asks Even we know mum guild is a thing,
Speaker 1: but what about dad guilt? When do you feel at most?
Speaker 1: Very good question? Do you get guilt? Ash? Are you
Speaker 1: capable of feeling guilt?
Speaker 2: Surprisingly enough? Yes, I am apparently to.
Speaker 1: Me apparently know what Steve Menzie is. No, I did
Speaker 1: avoid you for a long time. Yeah, but do you
Speaker 1: get parent guild? Yeah? When do you get it?
Speaker 2: I get it when I feel like I've reacted to
Speaker 2: something I've just knee jerk reacted.
Speaker 1: So, for example, this whole scared thing Oscar scared, I got.
Speaker 2: I got angry about it because I was frustrated to
Speaker 2: not because I didn't know why. But then after after
Speaker 2: the reaction, and you know, I think time has gone
Speaker 2: by the react. My reaction was wrong and I felt
Speaker 2: guilty about that, and I did speak to Oscar, but
Speaker 2: I said, look, sorry, it's you shouldn't get in trouble
Speaker 2: for feeling fear.
Speaker 1: Yes, because as irrational as it may be.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like I needed to be more patient in
Speaker 2: that situation and try and understand why instead of just kneed.
Speaker 1: She's been a fucking dog for five years, bro.
Speaker 2: Which is wrong. And I did feel guilty about that.
Speaker 2: Had the chat with Oscar, we mended with mended, mended,
Speaker 2: and I have acknowledged that it's okay to be scared,
Speaker 2: it's okay to feel fear.
Speaker 1: I want to say, that's a great approach to the situation.
Speaker 1: Very mature of you.
Speaker 2: I'm growing. I'm scared of that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel it. I feel it, I reckon I
Speaker 1: feel it now more than ever. I think why. I
Speaker 1: think when so my kids five and three, it's a
Speaker 1: great age and it's a great time of parenting because
Speaker 1: the kids can be a bit more autonomous. Yeah, they
Speaker 1: can kind of play with themselves a little bit more.
Speaker 1: They don't require Laura and myself to watching over them
Speaker 1: every second, and especially right now, because you know, we're
Speaker 1: trying to juggle work amongst this bloody house and I
Speaker 1: we're really really stretched and any spare time has been
Speaker 1: put into other things that aren't the kids. And it's
Speaker 1: a little bit of a case of we're in the
Speaker 1: routine of picking the kids up from daycare and kind
Speaker 1: of just trying to get to that finish line that's
Speaker 1: seven o'clock bedtime, you know, get them home, get them fed,
Speaker 1: get them bars, put them into bed, not really having
Speaker 1: quality time.
Speaker 2: And also you take you sort of take any inconvenience
Speaker 2: in that to bring things forward.
Speaker 1: Right, So that's it. I'm starting the bath, yeah, do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And it's like it's just
Speaker 1: to get you through and then once it's like, oh
Speaker 1: they're in bed, Oh fuck, I do it as well.
Speaker 1: You know what you know we did the other night,
Speaker 1: which just was a stupid thing to do. It's sweet,
Speaker 1: but stupid. Is then going through and looking at photos
Speaker 1: of when they were younger. Yeah, and then you just
Speaker 1: what I think fuels the guilt more than anything is
Speaker 1: when you start to realize how much they've grown up
Speaker 1: and how quickly time is going, and you're like, I'm
Speaker 1: not fucking loving every second of parenting. I'm a shit parent.
Speaker 2: And you're like, ah, you've also got a like And
Speaker 2: for any parent with young kid out there that feels guilt,
Speaker 2: whether it's on a small scale or a large scale,
Speaker 2: I think you're allowed to give yourself an opportunity to
Speaker 2: like feel that way so that you can go, all right, well,
Speaker 2: how do I change that behavior or like, it's also
Speaker 2: okay to feel guilty.
Speaker 1: You can't.
Speaker 2: You shouldn't have to be made to feel like you're
Speaker 2: doing a bad thing for feeling guilty, because if you
Speaker 2: feel guilty, then you realize that, Okay, well there's better
Speaker 2: ways that I could do that, and then next time
Speaker 2: you could do it.
Speaker 1: That makes sense, it does in a way, But yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm feeling it more now than ever before.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And like I'm saying, like they you sort of
Speaker 2: go into that.
Speaker 1: Auto pilot because the quality time, the quality time with
Speaker 1: the three and five year old is a lot more
Speaker 1: like I find it a lot richer if you will
Speaker 1: then with like a like a one year old, because
Speaker 1: you get to interact more, you get to play games,
Speaker 1: you get to like you know.
Speaker 2: Even if you're playing the games incorrectly. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: like Ann next four Mass Just like.
Speaker 1: So I just don't feel like I'm getting that quality term,
Speaker 1: especially on the weekends as well, because weekends we're just
Speaker 1: focus on other things. So yeah, dads get it, dads
Speaker 1: get it good all the time.
Speaker 2: But I think, like I said to, I think you're
Speaker 2: allowed to feel guilty. You don't feel like it's a
Speaker 2: bad thing because it could be turned into a good thing.
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