WEBVTT - 🔬Evidence Suggests Australian Men 👨‍🦲️ Kinda... Suck 🤢 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:04.440 Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:05.960 and Frooms catch up podcast. 0:00:08.560 --> 0:00:12.200 Oh Sweety Pies today will be full of nonsense, but 0:00:12.440 --> 0:00:15.320 you'll enjoy it anyway. We've had a listener DM that's 0:00:15.320 --> 0:00:17.960 talking about how Australian men suck. This is a direct 0:00:18.079 --> 0:00:21.000 quote do not us was on us, but I might 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:22.439 have said it in my time. I wouldn't say it 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:24.640 in my time, I promised miss you already enjoy the potty. 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:27.720 You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kita. 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:32.880 Do you reckon that restaurants and pubs should be child free? 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:33.120 Yep. 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:38.199 It's very interesting that we start this conversation with just 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:40.400 a simple question because you might not notice about me, 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:41.560 but I like children a lot. 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:45.720 I like babies a lot. I like toddlers so much. Children. 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:47.840 When you get to a back like the seven six 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:53.720 to six to eighteen, bool don't really do it for me. 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:57.360 But between zero even in the womb, from in the 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.400 womb to about six, I'm obsessed with them. They're the 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:06.240 most smart, creative, inquisitive, cerebral people to ever exist. The 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:08.440 amount I can learn from having a conversation with a kid. 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:12.040 And also I recognize that I'm a bad person around kid. 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:15.399 I'm asking for consent. I'm assessing if they're comfortable, I'm 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:18.280 being mindful of like the words I'm using, if they understand, like, 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:21.720 it's just fantastic. And I still don't want kids in 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:26.000 pubs and restaurants. I still don't want them around. I 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:28.679 really feel like it's not just kids and adults. I 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:33.200 feel like certain lifestyle like life milestones or the age 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:35.120 group you were in, should be separate. I don't even 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:36.720 think eighteen and thirty five year old. 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:38.360 Should be in the same venue. It's weird. 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:42.119 You disagree for me, Nah, I agree, it's weird. 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:43.200 It's not great. 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:46.440 We had a listener, dear must off the back of 0:01:46.480 --> 0:01:49.680 our discussion about Splendor. We both went and we both 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:53.840 mused and marveled. I noticed the child population was hefty. 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:56.240 I know, I don't have the stats, but I would 0:01:56.280 --> 0:02:00.440 say about fifty between thirty and fifty percent of the 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:02.080 attendees were under the age of sixteen. 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:06.240 No, babe, that's a gross overestimation. I'd say ten percent. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:09.960 And even ten is too many. Either way, it was 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.720 too many kids for me to be noticing kids constantly. Yeah, 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.360 it wasn't one or two artists vip babies. 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:16.560 In the back. We did have a bit of a ticker. 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:19.839 Yeah, there were kids. I would look left, kids look right, 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:23.000 kids look left, kids look right. Anyway, So Sally dmd 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:25.959 us on flex and rooms ig and asked us to 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:29.120 read this article from the Guardian. Leading quote is I 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:32.399 don't come here to enjoy other people's children. So we've 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.480 got Martin, who's the owner of the Whippet in a 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:38.760 boutique child free restaurant in York, and he says, being 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:41.720 in the industry thirty odd years and also out shopping 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:45.240 out in public places, how parents view the responsibility of 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:47.959 children and how that has changed is quite mind blowing. 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:51.200 It feels as though the kids are now the responsibility 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:53.240 of everybody all the time. 0:02:54.160 --> 0:02:55.080 Boyd continues. 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.359 None of the demands were particularly outrageous at his child 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:01.720 free place. But the sheer volt apple juice with water 0:03:01.800 --> 0:03:05.040 in it, baby chinos. Heat this up and not too much. 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:08.360 Remove the mushrooms, the onion, the salt, the pepper. Then 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:11.280 there was the glaring at people who swear, vape or 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:13.720 give any other indication that they are an adult in 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:16.720 a pub. And this is also interesting because last week 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:18.600 we talked to a listener who was at a Lizo 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:21.280 concept and he said that because it was an all 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:23.560 ages concert. When he was in the mush, there were 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:27.040 other parents policing what other attendees could or could not 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:30.640 do in proximity to their kids. And this is this 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.600 is a chill gig, this is an all ages mush. 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:36.800 It's not crazy. And yet it's like, if you don't 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:40.880 want someone vaping near your kid, move your kid. Facts like, 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:42.040 are we not. 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:42.400 At a gig? 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:45.760 They're using their child as collateral to be parents. So ray, 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:47.720 sorry to say it, but you are the real problem. 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:51.000 When I say kids and adults shouldn't share the same spaces, 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:53.800 I feel as though it sucks for the adults I 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:55.920 have to be with the kids. They call them parents, 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.400 you know, like it's not fair that they be ostracized 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:01.160 from certain spaces because they have a kid. That's not 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:04.840 fair and that's prejudicing the wrong reason. But it would 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:09.440 make sense that venues be better equipped to handle children. 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.320 And we understand, I mean a lot of restaurants understand 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.240 their core demographics, a lot of pubs understand their core demographics. 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:17.960 Why don't you create a system where it's not a 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:20.840 blight on attendees to have children here. 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:24.000 Exactly, a little crash, a little play area. 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:25.880 Our celles do that kind of thing pretty well. 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:26.360 Yeah. 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:27.640 McDonald's has the play. 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.960 Area I had. Maybe do they still have them? 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:30.280 Yeah? 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:32.720 I think we're just living in the inner city bybe Oh, 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:33.440 we'll see. 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:35.320 Do kids not live in the inner city? 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:36.120 Hopefully not? 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:39.320 Hello, love one. 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:40.280 We had a. 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:42.960 Listener DM and this is not what I said. But 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:44.640 she wants to know you Australian men suck. 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:47.760 We'll see this is okay through me wants to. 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:49.400 Get ahead of the narrative if she doesn't want to 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:53.600 cannibalize any of her future eligible options. So she needs 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:56.599 you to know that she's not the one who's inferring 0:04:56.600 --> 0:05:00.479 that Australian men suck. Because I love she wants to 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:04.000 be on the right side of history. However, I love 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:06.080 all men, not all men. 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:08.159 I love all of them. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:10.880 Yeah, but we did get a DM from Eve. 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:12.719 If you want a DM, if it's flex and frooms 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:15.080 on Instagram voice mem I preferred. But if you're more 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:16.880 of a text based specialist, then do that. 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:21.000 She writes, Okay, flex and Frooms. I'm a longtime listener, 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:23.760 first time messenger. I absolutely love you guys. I'm from 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:26.240 the UK and moved to Australia last year. Oh oh, 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:29.279 sent most of my time in Melbourne hoping to casually 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:30.480 bump into one of you someday. 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.400 I was wondering what your thoughts are on Australian men. 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:35.600 This is a very terse topic. 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:38.080 Myself and a couple of brit friends have found it 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.960 so difficult to date due to perhaps a cultural difference 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:42.480 in how men behave over here. 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:44.680 For example, me and a friend had. 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:46.960 The same experience of going back to a guy's house 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:50.520 then them implying or expecting us to leave after seven 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:53.120 and Ozzie girls who's spoken to say that's normal for 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:54.880 them and what they want? 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:55.680 Question mark? 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:56.360 Question mark. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:59.760 The men give off such a nonchalant energy, oh my god, 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:04.680 triggered no sense of interest or excitement. Just to clarify, 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.560 I don't want to generalize, Thank you, queen. There are 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:09.480 good guys out there, of course, and British guys are 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:12.560 certainly not all angels. All right, love, have you had 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:15.640 experiences with non Aussies and all right, love. 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.360 My culture. Have you had. 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:23.680 Experiences with some Aussies or non Aussies and have you 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:25.039 seen a comparison. 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.120 It's not often I would like to default to a 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:30.200 man when asked a broad question to me. But I 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:34.000 would love to have a census of this directed at 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:38.599 Australian man to see what to see what the issue is, 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:42.520 or to see what the contradiction is, because. 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:45.720 Surely if you're a straight man, you're interested in a woman. 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:53.720 Like like, no, I'm trying to say his, let her talk, 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:54.839 let her cook? 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:56.880 Why may he not acted interesting? 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:59.280 Can I say a few things? 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:03.880 And I I hate to paint everyone with a broad brushstroke. 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:05.440 Yet here we are, But yet. 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:10.080 Here we are this nonchalant energy that people are rightfully 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:13.440 so claiming to have experienced with Australian men. I would say, 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:16.600 Australians very nonchalant. 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:17.080 And at what cost? 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:18.560 And at what costs? 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:22.760 And I think often what Australians are struggling with is 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:25.400 you're getting a taste of your own medicine and you 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:26.040 don't like it. 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:31.120 I don't really have experience with non Australian men, having 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:32.720 grown up and living in Australia. 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:35.000 However, we have a special guest in the studio. 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:36.880 That's true, me saying Australia is not multicultural. 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:42.080 She's like I don't have an experience, but yes we 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:44.360 do have someone who has dated in the wild. 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:48.000 Yes, Sophie, So we welcome to the studio Kyoto team. 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:48.280 Hi. 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:51.160 Sophie does our social media In case you're wondering, what 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:55.160 is this third sometimes fourth voice that pops oh yeah, often. 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:56.240 Laughing in the background. 0:07:56.840 --> 0:07:58.720 Yes, no, Hi, I've just moved from New Zealand and 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:02.280 experience I sing a little bit of this Australian dating culture. 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:03.280 Tell us everything, you know. 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:04.320 When I saw the. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.280 DM that came into the page about how Australian men 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.880 and nonchalant, I could not agree more. 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:14.200 They stuck? Can you put it politely? 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:16.200 I feel like I don't want to get stuck on 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:18.200 the term nonchalant because we might not all have the 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:19.080 same meaning of it. 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:21.800 But so if you had to pull that out, turn one. 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:25.200 Word into forty five et agreat, what is the nonchalance 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:25.920 you're experiencing? 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:29.040 So I think with Australian men there just doesn't seem to. 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:30.200 Be the care factor. 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:32.520 And I don't know if this is because of the 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.559 dating world in general, how there's just so many options. 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.760 But I feel like you come to Australia, maybe you 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.640 meet a guy, maybe it's on a dating app. Maybe 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:42.280 it's out you go for a little drink and then 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:44.839 there's just not They're like, you know what, i want 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:46.600 to put in the effort here. I'm going to try 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:48.680 a little bit harder. I want to I want to 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:51.160 do the chase a little bit. They sit back and 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:55.000 they go, yeah, it's fun, Like, see, maybe should we 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:58.079 maybe do that? No, tell me what we're doing, want 0:08:58.240 --> 0:09:00.880 me like put in the f There was this guy 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:05.079 I was talking to on a hinge. Yeah, no, okay, 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.400 multiple roastings could occur, but we'll go with this one 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:10.160 exchanged one or two messages. I replied to a message 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:13.920 and he just goes cool, thumbs up, but hush, and 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:16.120 he goes, well, I'm not here for a bloody pen pal. 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:18.960 That's rowing. 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:22.559 I am scarred. I'm not trying anymore. 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:29.560 He said, listen, less talkie, more touchy. 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:31.760 So okay. 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:34.280 And is it different in New Zealand. 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:39.280 I would say New Zealand is relatively similar to Australia. 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:41.920 New Zealand there's almost more this lad culture, which I 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:43.560 do see a little bit in New Zealand where all 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:44.920 the lads sort of stick together. 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:46.880 If a couple of the lads. 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:48.280 In the group have girlfriends, then they all will have 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.959 girlfriends at the same time. If one of the lads 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:53.000 is like single and then a couple others become single, 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:54.000 they're all single. 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:55.400 They stick to each other. 0:09:55.440 --> 0:10:00.839 It's almost like, honestly, oh, solidarity, yes, go anywhere else 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:02.200 in the world. Do you go up to Europe like 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:05.120 you were saying, or in America and there's so much 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:07.000 more forward in a bar that will come up to 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:08.280 you and be like, hey, can I buy your drink? 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:11.800 Neither once in Australia has anyone. Maybe this is just 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:13.800 me ask me if I want a drink in a bar. 0:10:14.000 --> 0:10:17.920 The only time everyone's saying, don't tress. 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.800 You're gonna say, the only time a drink's been bought 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:24.559 for me when I was underage. 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:28.880 It's not really are worried experience. 0:10:29.600 --> 0:10:33.800 I've experienced what you've experienced. But in my earlier stages 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:36.960 of dating. I think it changed when I got older 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:40.120 because I was just far less. I mean, we all 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.440 have we have different energies in the room. I just 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:46.320 feel like generally people already perceive me to be hard work, 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:50.720 so nobody who's going to be nonchalant really is going 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.320 to try and if they do, I'm like, it's not 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:55.080 it was never going to be u king. It was 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:56.880 never going to be you. So I think there's also 0:10:56.960 --> 0:10:59.640 that I feel like part of the Australian and biproxy 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:03.520 and musical and charm is being really agreeable, really approachable, 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:07.120 a good time, casual, down for a laugh, and I'm 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:10.240 not giving off that energy in the same way I 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:12.240 can be all of those things. So I think I'm 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:15.160 being approached with a different energy. Let's like you're out 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:18.400 in like an Australian bar or whatever, you know exactly 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.640 what I'm talking about, where people are peacocking in this 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:21.280 very like. 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:23.440 I'm one of the girls. I'm one of the lines. 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:25.480 I'm just so casual and lay back and I'm like, 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.480 let's do a Sean and whatever and don't talk to 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.640 anyone at any time and no topic is too lost 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:36.760 bar for me, it's Australian cool girl pandemic and Australian 0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:39.360 cool boy pandemic. And if we don't know what that 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:43.160 looks like, imagine being at a year five prom or 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.679 formal and all the guys are to the left and 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:47.600 all the girls are to the right, and when they 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:51.880 eventually join forces pretend to be each other. They all 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:54.880 kind of devolve into this like one archetype of person 0:11:55.000 --> 0:12:00.600 outside after nine pm, I love music, I love I 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.199 love drinks, and then before you know it, it's two 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:07.280 am and you start getting desperate, getting against. 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:11.880 The issue with issue. Bye. You You're desperate and directionless. 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:15.559 You have never in your life since very sure. 0:12:16.120 --> 0:12:18.120 In that closing statement. 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.600 Flex and frims on Kidis. 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:26.480 In case you thought the Internet has matured out of 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:31.080 death hoaxes, you would be wrong. There's a has been 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:35.160 some would say internet sensation. Lil Tay popped off around 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:38.079 twenty seventeen and twenty eighteen. Her whole shtick was being 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:42.600 a really rich, rude baller twelve year old would come 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:46.120 on the internet, swear, throw money around, wear big jewelry, 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:49.720 just a hard watch because you kind of like, don't 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.000 say that word, babe, don't say that word, and we'll 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:53.160 just start fighting the internet. 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:54.760 That was the whole brand. 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:56.800 So she kind of like cash me outside girl. 0:12:56.640 --> 0:13:01.000 Yes, baby antagonist, that's exactly it. And so she disappeared 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:04.480 around twenty eighteen, went into obscurity. That's just kind of 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:06.920 how it goes, and nobody ever thought about her because 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:08.720 it was a blip in the radar of the Internet 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:12.880 until she skyrocketed back to fame in about August twenty 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:17.280 twenty three, when she was pronounced dead via Instagram. Yep, 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:20.640 everyone's like, oh, that's so sad, like Lil Tait has died. 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:22.839 Haven't heard anything about her for a little while. 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:24.080 Strange. 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:28.840 Immediately, people were skeptical because her kind of stick was 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:32.040 a bit like troll ish. She was a troll on 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:33.920 the Internet. People were kind of like, oh, this is 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:36.840 just a ploy to garner some clicks and some interest 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.960 for her big comeback. We get what's happening here, And 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.680 so they noticed that the date in which they said 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:46.120 she was born and died doesn't add up to her 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:49.520 current age, so it was two years off, which was strange. 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:52.360 Her family, like her brother and her parents hadn't come 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:54.800 out and said anything to confirm whether or not she 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:58.120 was dead. And then law enforcement was contacted and they said, 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:00.120 we don't have anything on file for this person and 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:04.400 being dead, so we don't know what's happening here. Anyway, 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:07.240 the internet' sluse of the world went so far as 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:11.120 to get meta as in mister Facebook involved to figure 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.959 out if this minor had really died or not, or 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:15.880 if this was just like fake news. One oh one, 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:19.440 so Meta came out and said this otherwise dormant account 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:23.880 had been hacked by someone was an inside job from 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:27.960 her parents. People say, because they'd already they'd always been 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.720 quite money hungry and were, you know, kind of like 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:34.960 show parents from the side, pandering to the crowd potentially. 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:38.200 But I say this all to say, it's been confirmed, 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.960 Lil Tay is not dead, and we're thankful and grateful 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.080 for that. But the bit that gets me is that 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:47.520 this suspicious, critical, nosy way of the Internet is finally 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:51.440 paying off for good. It confuses me how people saw 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:54.280 this announcement of a death and immediately said no, something's 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:58.560 off and they were right, hunch, because had the internet 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:00.920 not have done the work of detail, how would she 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:03.040 have indicated herself. How would she have proven into the 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:05.320 world that she was not She didn't have access to 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:07.520 her account, what she was going to make a new one? 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:09.000 So where is she? Have we heard from it? 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:12.160 She's online? Okay, she doesn't want to be online anymore. 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:14.080 So it was part of the whole thing where she's like, 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:15.800 she wasn't going to come on and defend herself. She 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:18.360 didn't want to be exposed to people, so the Internet did. 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:18.840 The work for her. 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:19.880 How fantastic. 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:21.520 So this is a good news story to begin with. 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:22.400 Thank you, lil. 0:15:22.480 --> 0:15:23.000 You're welcome. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:24.120 Will take. 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:30.040 I have said in my time, be careful who you 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:33.360 date for fear of increasing their stock. I didn't know. 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:37.560 It wasn't clear that I was speaking very plainly. I 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:40.800 didn't hear the riddle in my tone what I mean 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:44.080 by that? Everyone. And this is a cautionary tale, coming 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:46.640 from someone who has quite positive dating experiences. 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:48.280 I've seen many an. 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:56.720 Eligible bachelor bachelorette go down for not heeding this morning. Well, 0:15:56.920 --> 0:16:00.840 we are all reflections of the people we keep closest 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:05.760 to us, good, bad, neutral, and everything in between. And 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:08.720 the more time you spend with someone, the more your 0:16:08.840 --> 0:16:12.680 characteristics merge, or at least the perception of your characteristics. 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:15.560 Everyone thinks I'm funnier because rooms is a comedian. 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:17.200 I don't want everyone things about me because I'm with you. 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:20.360 They think you're a businesswoman than you think. 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:23.880 Shugga shugga. 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:27.560 But you know, like I can imagine people who maybe 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:31.600 didn't like my personality now find me far more appealing 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:34.200 because they like you a lot, or vice versa, right, Like, oh, 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.360 what do they have in common? They must get along 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.560 really well. I want to know more about vice or versa. 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:40.320 It just happens in small ways. But where it happens 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:43.720 a lot, and I notice myself catching myself is when 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:47.960 I see a couple and I observe one to be 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:54.120 of higher stock, higher quality, higher pedigree, higher caliber than 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:59.080 their partner, I start to like apply positive characteristics to 0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:01.120 the partner based on what I know about the person 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:01.640 I see. 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:01.960 To be better. 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:05.960 Right, So let's say I have a best friend and 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:09.760 he's dating a bum. The more time these two day, 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:13.800 I start to question my original perception. Oh well, maybe 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:17.080 like he's actually quite nice, Maybe they're well suited, maybe this, 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:20.480 maybe that, whatever it might be. The reason why I'm 0:17:20.520 --> 0:17:23.159 warning you is because a lot of people don't recognize 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:27.639 the exchange when they're dating, the mental exchange, the physical exchange, 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:32.560 the financial transaction, the emotional transaction, the spiritual transaction. And 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:35.639 if you're not aware of that transaction happening, it's because 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:36.359 you're being robbed. 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:39.960 Okay, wow, it's because you're being. 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:43.840 Robbed if you can't figure out what is the transaction 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:46.200 between you and the person you're dating. And I'm not 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:48.200 saying it has to be higher level. It might be 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:50.600 with Frum and I. We get along really well, we 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:53.560 work together really well. It's beneficial for us to share 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:55.520 our stories to get to know each other better because 0:17:55.520 --> 0:17:57.560 it makes us better friends, better co host. There's a 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:00.720 transaction happening. If you can't tell the transaction is you're 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:04.560 being rubbed, babe. They are siphoning from you your energy, 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:10.240 your clout, your empathy, your patience, your humor, your attractiveness. 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.160 All of that is being siphoned. 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:14.960 So is the example of that. Like, let's say you're 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:17.399 dating someone who is like not showing up for you 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:19.560 in the way that you want, but you're just with 0:18:19.600 --> 0:18:20.680 them because you want company. 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:24.120 Yeah, Or for example, you might be in a relationship 0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:27.080 with someone where you're kind of like, gosh, like you 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.399 know what, they're just like not the best, Like I 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:31.000 can't really rely on them. 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:33.720 But gosh they're hot. Oh gosh, they're hot. 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:36.000 But then you have to think to yourself, if they're 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:38.440 not showing up for you and you can't rely on them, 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.280 are you reliable? Is that what they're siphoning from you? 0:18:41.520 --> 0:18:44.800 Are you consistent. Have you opened up their social network 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:47.119 and given them seventeen new friends they didn't have before? 0:18:47.320 --> 0:18:48.480 Are you always paying for dinner? 0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:50.199 Oh? There it is. 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:50.960 Yeah. 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:53.200 So I'm not saying be tit for tat. 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:57.000 I'm just saying, be aware of the transaction so you 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.520 can be grateful for what is happening, so you can 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:00.560 truly appreciate. 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:02.119