Speaker 1: Laura, come on in.
Speaker 2: Hello everyone, Thursday. I'm everybody.
Speaker 3: Hey guys, why don't you tell everyone what you two
Speaker 3: were just doing?
Speaker 2: Oh, Mitch.
Speaker 4: Every time we get in here, Mitch makes me go
Speaker 4: and take photos of his new outfit.
Speaker 1: Was so.
Speaker 2: And today Laura looks out. This is what Laura' saying.
Speaker 4: She looks out, she sees us pressed up against this
Speaker 4: window in the sunlight like lizards. Because Mitch is like,
Speaker 4: my eyes look better in the sun. So I had
Speaker 4: to try and get him in the summer.
Speaker 1: So you need to save me.
Speaker 3: Here, I'm sitting here in the studio by myself. We're
Speaker 3: literally about to go live, and I look over wondering
Speaker 3: where is the team And there's a tiny slither of
Speaker 3: good lighting in this office, like it's just over there
Speaker 3: to the left and there the two of them are
Speaker 3: taking photos of each other.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, I didn't get one photo of me. I
Speaker 1: am like an open Britney Hockey's camera. Britney goes to me,
Speaker 1: she does the puppy face, She goes, please good today,
Speaker 1: travel four all we and I was like, we're about
Speaker 1: to go on a take a photo. Do you know
Speaker 1: what presses me up against the glass? Like I'm an
Speaker 1: orangutang and an enclosure. You know those are rangutangs.
Speaker 2: That's something you do today.
Speaker 4: The thing is with the three of us is that
Speaker 4: no one will ever know what the truth is.
Speaker 3: It's actually a pretty compulsion why I would say, how
Speaker 3: that we look at all of our Instagram pictures and
Speaker 3: then you'll be able to figure out who is now.
Speaker 2: Neither of post from today be a waste of that outfit.
Speaker 2: God damn it. Okay, well the photos you took a
Speaker 2: terrible misshure. There you go, finally the truth.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show everyone, Happy Thursday afternoon.
Speaker 2: Hey, we've got a killer ask gun cut.
Speaker 4: I shouldn't say killer, but we do an ask gun
Speaker 4: cut where you guys calling with your questions. And today
Speaker 4: we have a real pickle coming up around the sex
Speaker 4: of a baby. We're going to get straight to it
Speaker 4: after the break.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's on the way. Pick up right, Australia. Welcome
Speaker 1: to Thursday. It's Thursday, which means we have to do
Speaker 1: this everybody.
Speaker 4: Pat. Ask gun Cut is something we do on our
Speaker 4: podcast Life Uncut podcast every single Thursday.
Speaker 2: It's my favorite segment.
Speaker 4: You guys call up with your deepest darkest birding questions,
Speaker 4: your biggest conundrums, and we do our best to help
Speaker 4: you out.
Speaker 2: Today we have Phoebe.
Speaker 4: On the phone, and Phoebe hasn't asked gun cut that
Speaker 4: we have never actually covered before.
Speaker 2: It's very different, and it's about the sex of your baby. Hi, Phoebe.
Speaker 5: Hi, guys, how are you?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 2: Phoebe? What's been happening?
Speaker 5: So I am halfway through my pregnancy and I have
Speaker 5: just found out that I'm having a baby boy, and
Speaker 5: you know, you just so so excited in that sort
Speaker 5: of stage. But I cried and I continued to cry
Speaker 5: for about twenty four hours. I guess I just had
Speaker 5: this fear and dread that I wouldn't be able to
Speaker 5: bond with my baby. And it's a hard topic to
Speaker 5: talk about because it brings up, you know, fear of judgment,
Speaker 5: and I don't want to be canceled. But these feelings
Speaker 5: are real, They're huge, and you know, I'm a little
Speaker 5: bit disappointed, and I just know I want to be
Speaker 5: able to be excited about my baby. And I don't
Speaker 5: think that I'm the only person to go through this,
Speaker 5: So guys, how do I deal with it?
Speaker 2: Gender disappointment Phoebe.
Speaker 3: It's so hard because it's on one hand, there's so
Speaker 3: many women who have issues with fertility, and then they're
Speaker 3: worried about or they have to think about, you know,
Speaker 3: wanting to get pregnant and how difficult that is for
Speaker 3: some people. And so I guess that's why when you
Speaker 3: talk about things like gender disappointment, it seems and feels
Speaker 3: like it's it almost feels selfish to be able to
Speaker 3: verbalize it. But then even if you don't verbalize it,
Speaker 3: it's still something that so many women experience when they
Speaker 3: find out the gender of their babies. If they've had it,
Speaker 3: you know, maybe they've had a vision or a thought
Speaker 3: on what kind of mum they were going to be.
Speaker 3: And I say this because when Lola was born, and
Speaker 3: I'm even want to be careful with this, I don't
Speaker 3: want anyone to kind of think that I had gender disappointment.
Speaker 3: But I expected when my when my second baby was born,
Speaker 3: that I was going to feel the same way I
Speaker 3: did when Marley, my first one, was born, which was
Speaker 3: like I was just so happy and so excited, and
Speaker 3: I remember when they they kind of pulled her out
Speaker 3: and they're like, it's a girl, and I didn't have
Speaker 3: those feelings. I felt just really surprised, Like I just
Speaker 3: had this moment where I was like, oh, that's not
Speaker 3: what I was expecting. And then I felt really sad
Speaker 3: that my feelings were anything other than just being completely grateful.
Speaker 3: But I think it's something that so many people experience,
Speaker 3: and then it's just a matter of time. Like you,
Speaker 3: you know, you get to meet this little baby and
Speaker 3: the gender just kind of falls away.
Speaker 2: You don't really care about it. It's everyone experienced.
Speaker 1: Just you, febs or is it your partner as well?
Speaker 1: Is it something you're sharing together or do you feel
Speaker 1: you're going through this alone.
Speaker 5: No, he's so excited to have a boy, but he's
Speaker 5: been so supportive. You know, he wanted a girl, so
Speaker 5: because he knew that I wanted a girl. Yeah, but yeah,
Speaker 5: he's obviously really excited for a little boy. And yeah,
Speaker 5: I feel like it's a you know, you have to
Speaker 5: grieve a lot of this imaginary life that you come
Speaker 5: up with, you know, having a little little girl to
Speaker 5: deal with and that sort of thing. So yeah, I
Speaker 5: feel like it's almost grieving that imaginary loss.
Speaker 3: Yeah, of course, and also grieving like the version of
Speaker 3: motherhood that you thought you.
Speaker 2: Were going to have.
Speaker 3: Have you have you felt any difference since finding out,
Speaker 3: because I think sometimes it can be like a real
Speaker 3: initial shock, and then after a couple of days you're like, oh,
Speaker 3: this is not as big a deal as what I
Speaker 3: first thought it is, or are you still feeling that
Speaker 3: that level of like, oh, no, I'm really sad about this.
Speaker 5: No, I am planning to feel a bit better. And
Speaker 5: I guess some of the things that have helped me
Speaker 5: are talking to other boy mums and you know, it's
Speaker 5: funny to refer to the baby of he and him,
Speaker 5: And the best part, I suppose is is just being
Speaker 5: able to shop for little boy outfits, I suppose, which
Speaker 5: is probably the biggest thing that's helped. And yeah, so
Speaker 5: I am funny to feel more positive, and I know
Speaker 5: how lucky I am that you know, our journey was
Speaker 5: so easy, but still the feelings were or are there? Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think once it comes out and you hold him
Speaker 4: and you see that he's healthy, you were just going
Speaker 4: to love every sect.
Speaker 2: Congratulations.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah.
Speaker 2: The gender support.
Speaker 3: It's a real thing, and I think it's something so
Speaker 3: many mums experience, and every single person who experiences it
Speaker 3: is scared to talk about it because it feels so
Speaker 3: insensitive to do so, and I get it.
Speaker 1: Hey, if you've got a question, you on our help
Speaker 1: with DMS on the pick Up on Instagram and will help.
Speaker 2: You out on the show.
Speaker 3: Well, speaking about kids, something happened to me the other
Speaker 3: night which really made me question the things that I
Speaker 3: have been teaching my children.
Speaker 2: That's next time the Pickup.
Speaker 3: One of the cutest things about having kids is how
Speaker 3: they sometimes muddle up their words, like they'll say something
Speaker 3: which is not quite the right use of the word.
Speaker 3: But it's like their own little language that they speak,
Speaker 3: and so it's very cute and learning.
Speaker 2: They're learning, they're.
Speaker 3: Still trying to put the pieces of the puzzle of
Speaker 3: the world together. But also, I mean, I'm sure you
Speaker 3: guys can think about it if you cast your minds
Speaker 3: back to when you were a kid.
Speaker 2: Maybe not a long ago for me though, yeah it
Speaker 2: is yesterday. My frontal cortex just developed, thank you so much.
Speaker 3: No, But there's like so many concepts or things that
Speaker 3: you know as a kid, you think it's you know,
Speaker 3: you think it might be.
Speaker 2: For example, here's one for me.
Speaker 3: I used to think that planets were all an equi
Speaker 3: distance away from the Earth. I used to think, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I used to think that they were like stuck on
Speaker 3: a plastic wi.
Speaker 2: Equidistance and an equal distance equidistance a welcome to the
Speaker 2: frontal lobe continuing to develop.
Speaker 3: So I used to think that planets were of an
Speaker 3: equal distance from Earth.
Speaker 2: They were all different sizes.
Speaker 3: There was no such things perspective, but all the planets
Speaker 3: were just like closely, you know, spat it around Earth.
Speaker 2: It's not very exciting, but that's what I used to think. Anyway.
Speaker 1: You know, I used to think that the word compulsory
Speaker 1: meant that you had a choice. So I'm not joking.
Speaker 1: So when all the teachers are like maths is compulsory,
Speaker 1: I'm like, amazing, I'll do double drama. And then when
Speaker 1: I had to do math, I you said this was compulsory,
Speaker 1: and they're like it is. I'm like, well, then why
Speaker 1: am I here? And like it wasn't until year ten.
Speaker 1: They're like, you're an idiot.
Speaker 3: But when I say kid, I more met like in
Speaker 3: primary school. I wasn't really meeting like a sixteen year old.
Speaker 3: But anyway, you know, our.
Speaker 2: Employers still like me just compulsory feeding. I've got another one.
Speaker 1: My parents once. My parents once used to make a
Speaker 1: joke that my sister used to have little cars, used
Speaker 1: to play with toy cars, and my parents like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's got a little car fetish. So I thought, as
Speaker 1: a joke, like parents do in the house. But then
Speaker 1: I went to school and kept saying that. I kept
Speaker 1: having everyone's like, oh, you want to go to the
Speaker 1: canteen and get a sausage roll. I'm like, I've got
Speaker 1: a fetish for sausage roll.
Speaker 2: She just used the word all. Yes, I thought that
Speaker 2: fettish just meant really like just that you really like it.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, look my daughter, Lola, she is three years old,
Speaker 3: so she can be forgiven for this. But she muddled
Speaker 3: up a word which I thought was so so sweet
Speaker 3: but also very hilarious. So her sister has a diary.
Speaker 3: She's five years old. It's not a real diary, but
Speaker 3: it's just a fluffy thing that she draws in, you know,
Speaker 3: from time to time. Sure, and so Lola had taken
Speaker 3: her diary and she was writing at it. Emali was
Speaker 3: getting really upset and I was like, Lola, please stop
Speaker 3: writing your sister's diary.
Speaker 2: Give it back to her.
Speaker 3: And I said it a couple of times, and anyway,
Speaker 3: eventually she clocked on and she heard what I said,
Speaker 3: and she looked at me with a face of utter disgust,
Speaker 3: utter disgust. And I was like, honey, please give that
Speaker 3: diary back to Marley.
Speaker 2: And she goes suck and I was like what, and
Speaker 2: she grows I did not, And I was like, what
Speaker 2: do you mean? You did not choose? I did not
Speaker 2: draw in her diarrhea?
Speaker 3: So Lola was convinced that I thought she was drawing
Speaker 3: in her sister's diarrhea. And then, very very sweetly, Marley,
Speaker 3: who's five years old, tried to explain to her the
Speaker 3: differences between a diary and diarrhea.
Speaker 2: So obviously you recorded it.
Speaker 6: It's not really called diarrhea. Because she doesn't mean that
Speaker 6: I'm drawing in my diarrhea. She means, am I drawing
Speaker 6: in my diary? Because there's a book called diary? I
Speaker 6: mean diary like and as or something. But it's not
Speaker 6: really cool a diary, So she doesn't mean did you.
Speaker 2: Have het diarrhea?
Speaker 6: Diaria is something.
Speaker 2: That like ouish too. You didn't draw that, did you? Well,
Speaker 2: what did you think it was?
Speaker 6: Jiah?
Speaker 2: That's true that you can hear at the end of
Speaker 2: it finally clicked. She's embarrassed.
Speaker 3: She was so embarrassed she almost started to cry because
Speaker 3: we all laughed really hard, and.
Speaker 2: She was like, you guys, how confused she had been.
Speaker 1: I think it's year two when I was a kid,
Speaker 1: where they used to go all right, time to play
Speaker 1: out your diary.
Speaker 2: Everyone. Paula was going to get her hand under a chair,
Speaker 2: and you know, it's like.
Speaker 4: The one word. As an adult, I still can't spell diarrhea. No, no,
Speaker 4: I reckon, anyone can spell diarrhea.
Speaker 2: I also coorse.
Speaker 3: She can.
Speaker 4: You've got to say Champagne in your head. You've got
Speaker 4: to say champage. You spell it out. Champagne and diahria.
Speaker 2: That's how I do chuaa. I'm not joking.
Speaker 1: If you're in Queensland, you'll be well across the poodemic,
Speaker 1: the pooh pandemic, poodemic the country.
Speaker 2: This is fantastic.
Speaker 1: We think this is great here at the show. If
Speaker 1: you missed it, The Queensland Health Department this week is
Speaker 1: being praised. It's also been criticized for tackling the taboo
Speaker 1: topic of pooing at work by using a viral meme format.
Speaker 1: So that what they posted official Queensland Health Instagram and
Speaker 1: TikTok a photo of two dolphins jumping over each other
Speaker 1: with a rainbow in the background with this music. This
Speaker 1: music was playing. This is Zara Las and this is symphony,
Speaker 1: and it says it's okay to puet work.
Speaker 2: It is okay to put work everyone.
Speaker 3: I you know what, there's many things that I'll throw
Speaker 3: my name behind, many causes that I like to advocate for,
Speaker 3: and this is one that I deeply care about. For
Speaker 3: everyone who feels insecure or it doesn't want to do
Speaker 3: it because they're scared, or maybe you have pooh paranoia,
Speaker 3: which is a real thing.
Speaker 2: Is that the charity just spiled it. When you're on
Speaker 2: Dancing with the Stars, did you support pooing at work?
Speaker 2: Astray some people.
Speaker 3: I understand that some people are frightened. I get it
Speaker 3: can be a little bit confronting the first time, but
Speaker 3: once you really lean in, it's great.
Speaker 2: Lean in on the toilet. Is that a tactic? Lean
Speaker 2: into the toilet?
Speaker 1: The Japanese, you know how on the Japanese toilets, they
Speaker 1: they do not sit or squad on the toilets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, at some places they have the sign on the
Speaker 3: back of the door. It shows you how to correctly
Speaker 3: use a toilet. Yeah, don't stand on the toilet, which
Speaker 3: I was doing. So let me just tell you what
Speaker 3: the post says.
Speaker 1: Queensland Health Department said Consistently ignoring your need to pooh
Speaker 1: can lead to stool, getting stuck in your column, hemorrhoids
Speaker 1: and other serious issues. It's better to get it out
Speaker 1: than in. If you find it extremely difficult to poo
Speaker 1: around other people, you might have a condition called parco prisis.
Speaker 2: Which is a pooh paranoia.
Speaker 1: Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 2: Do I want everyone to know this?
Speaker 3: If you just take fifteen minutes out of your out
Speaker 3: of your day so they you know, some people go
Speaker 3: on a smoke opra being paid by Big Pooh or
Speaker 3: something to do the maths everyone, It's really important. Fifteen
Speaker 3: minutes a day. Some people go downstairs, they have a
Speaker 3: little smoke. They might do a seven minute smoke in
Speaker 3: the morning. Seven minutes smoking the afternoon terrible for your health.
Speaker 3: If you do fifteen minutes, that is sweet. I'm going
Speaker 3: to do the math.
Speaker 2: I did it wrong. Hold on, why are you.
Speaker 3: So invested in this? You're doing the math because you'll
Speaker 3: save by pooing at work. Yes, O, very great, that's
Speaker 3: seventy five minutes a week. Seventy five minutes. That's an
Speaker 3: hour and fifteen minutes.
Speaker 4: So we go.
Speaker 1: Let's base it off the average Australian salary, which is
Speaker 1: seventy five thousand Australian dollars.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's the math, so, oh god, this is applicated.
Speaker 1: No, it's not thirty eight hours a week.
Speaker 2: I've done the math here, so many is it?
Speaker 1: That's three dollars and seventeen cents per session or six
Speaker 1: dollars and thirty four cents per day.
Speaker 3: Guys, you could spend sixty hours, sixty hours of your
Speaker 3: year doing a pooh at work and get paid for it.
Speaker 2: That's increased. This is a genius act.
Speaker 1: Thirty one Australian dollars per week you could save by
Speaker 1: pooing at work. That's how much you'd make by pooing
Speaker 1: in the office.
Speaker 2: Just say you get paid forty dollars an hour.
Speaker 3: That's two three hundred and ninety two dollars for pooing
Speaker 3: at work.
Speaker 2: I think we have cracked the absolute cod.
Speaker 1: We sound like those washed up couples on Dannel's direct
Speaker 1: on Channel seven trying to sell a mop.
Speaker 2: You will also get a free set of Stage Night.
Speaker 2: Hey will also send you the drag and cream included
Speaker 2: with your poo at work if you.
Speaker 1: Want it for your under eyebags.
Speaker 2: I mean this though, I mean I think it's a
Speaker 2: very funny campaign. We can all laugh.
Speaker 3: But some people are so scared to do this. Some
Speaker 3: people are like, no, I'll wait, I'll go before work,
Speaker 3: I'll go after work. Won't do it in a public place.
Speaker 2: I don't get it.
Speaker 1: Because we're on air, right, so we only have if
Speaker 1: we really need to go. During the show. We have
Speaker 1: a couple of ads and some songs, so we maximum
Speaker 1: have five, six, seven minutes. So I'm my body's trained
Speaker 1: to just squeeze one out and run back in.
Speaker 2: We are classy people, or can I say this whatever
Speaker 2: you want?
Speaker 1: We at two fifty this afternoon before the show. She went,
Speaker 1: I'm going to run and do a pool and then
Speaker 1: she took ages and came back and she said, one
Speaker 1: of the girls from sales was doing a makeup in
Speaker 1: the sink, so you were too afraid to let it pop?
Speaker 3: Yes, because there is an etiquette everyone we all know,
Speaker 3: like which store do you choose.
Speaker 2: How do you you know, how do you get the
Speaker 2: acoustics right?
Speaker 3: Because as much as it might be something that I
Speaker 3: need to do, I don't need everybody else in the
Speaker 3: bathroom to experience it.
Speaker 2: Also, it doesn't you don't have to.
Speaker 1: Worry everyone poohs. It's what the Queensland Health Department said.
Speaker 1: Everyone poos, do not worry. It's very normal.
Speaker 3: Also, consistently ignoring your need to pooh can lead to
Speaker 3: the stool getting stuck in your colon, hemorrhoids, or other
Speaker 3: serious health conditions, So it's better to let it out
Speaker 3: than hold it in.
Speaker 2: This message was brought to you by the Queens, No
Speaker 2: brought by Laburn. That's embarrassing, mate.
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