WEBVTT - MINI: Sex Ed

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<v Speaker 1>Christ Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell show podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Patsey had an extraordinary meeting yesterday with the school on zoom.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's that time. So Audrey's grade five and they're

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<v Speaker 2>broaching the subject of sex education this year, which I

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<v Speaker 2>think is brilliant that they introduced it in primary school.

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<v Speaker 3>Did your girls have a similar sort of yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And do you know what? It changes everything, especially as

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<v Speaker 1>a father to daughters, and there's'll be the same for

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<v Speaker 1>Chris as well. They it changes because up until that moment,

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<v Speaker 1>you're just some magic unicorn and then when they know

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<v Speaker 1>what you did. I remember when we had to speak

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<v Speaker 1>to Ruby, our eldest daughter, so she'd be the first

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<v Speaker 1>one to have that up the chat with us and Sam,

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<v Speaker 1>my wife went to say to say, hey, you know

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<v Speaker 1>your dad and I want to have a chat with

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<v Speaker 1>you about sort of the birds and bees something that

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<v Speaker 1>she sort of went okay, didn't quite know what was

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<v Speaker 1>that different? Well, okay, well, why can't we just do

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<v Speaker 1>it now? What's it got to do with dad? To spoiler? Wait,

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<v Speaker 1>do you get a load of what dad did?

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<v Speaker 3>Chris was sitting in on this hour long session and

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<v Speaker 3>I'd look over an hour for an hour, Well, just

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<v Speaker 3>how to talk about it with your kids?

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<v Speaker 2>What is the best approach to, you know, making it

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<v Speaker 2>as less awkward as possible. But he was like breaking

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<v Speaker 2>out in the sweat and also in denial.

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<v Speaker 1>Of like was it arousing him going tend to get

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<v Speaker 1>that out of the slide back, Chris, stop that where

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<v Speaker 1>they get those photos, they use it so much more

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<v Speaker 1>high depth than we had.

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<v Speaker 2>But just I think that realization, like the realization that

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<v Speaker 2>his little.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl is growing up and that there's going to.

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<v Speaker 2>Be interesting in you know, in boys or girls or

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<v Speaker 2>whatever he takes advance.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just happening, you know. So it was good though

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<v Speaker 3>it was informative, but when he got.

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<v Speaker 1>To school and actually giving are actually doing it the

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<v Speaker 1>right way because so many of us it's a humbled

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<v Speaker 1>half conversation from your parents. I remember a friend of mine,

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<v Speaker 1>good friend of mine, but this was the eighties. His

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<v Speaker 1>dad was a local vicar. And here's dad just shoved

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<v Speaker 1>a book under or put it on his bed, and

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<v Speaker 1>he'd stapled together any of the pages had new depots.

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<v Speaker 2>Already.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a strange, so much sort of aw with it

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be about our bodies and which is we're all

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<v Speaker 1>here because of that beautiful act union.

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<v Speaker 4>I remember the awkward questionnaire they sent home with us

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<v Speaker 4>at school to ask our parents, and we had to

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<v Speaker 4>return it the next day. What do you mean like

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<v Speaker 4>a Q and a yeah, So have questions like when

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<v Speaker 4>did you start to notice changes in your body? When

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<v Speaker 4>did you notice hair.

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<v Speaker 1>Changes in your body? Suddenly you're thirteen again, you're giggling

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<v Speaker 1>at the back of the class.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but you know that you have to go home

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<v Speaker 4>and ask mom and dad. So sitting at the kid honestly,

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<v Speaker 4>at the kitchen table before dinner and going so, when

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<v Speaker 4>did you notice hair in new places? Hang with interparents,

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<v Speaker 4>had interview your mum and dad.

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<v Speaker 1>A younger kid wants to talk to their pars about

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<v Speaker 1>let them do it at a press conference? So perhapsly

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<v Speaker 1>when how are they going to be doing it? How

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<v Speaker 1>do people do it? Now? We had to buy a book.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I've got lots of books. But you know

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<v Speaker 2>we had we had the lady talk, right. I sort

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<v Speaker 2>of broached that subject late last year.

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<v Speaker 1>So when you when you work because we were sort

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<v Speaker 1>of similar age, perhaps were you was it the same

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<v Speaker 1>thing as it was in my school? Right in the eighties?

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<v Speaker 1>Where the boys were siphoned off into the gym. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys love this, nothing bad happening here in the gym

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<v Speaker 1>because we're dudes, right. And then suddenly the old overhead

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<v Speaker 1>projector comes out. There's a picture of basically a six

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<v Speaker 1>foot and everyone's laughing, and I remember the teacher going,

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<v Speaker 1>anyone laughing and we're turning the pictures off.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we had one lesson with our science teacher, mister Smith.

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<v Speaker 1>He had a logical one of those meter sticks banging

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<v Speaker 1>just to go to the rest of it, as if

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<v Speaker 1>we're invading somewhere. I'm here the north.

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<v Speaker 2>All was involved was a banana and something else.

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<v Speaker 1>And they're not still going with the banana.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, And it's boysing with girls, which I think

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<v Speaker 2>is brilliant because it's important that both sides understand what's

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<v Speaker 2>going on.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think it's great.

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<v Speaker 4>And so when how long till you have to have

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<v Speaker 4>the chat with Well, it's as well.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a progressive thing, Jack. They say to do little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Start with the breast and then move downstairs. That's enough

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<v Speaker 1>for this month. When we move on to the plumb

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<v Speaker 1>next month.

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