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Speaker 1: Christ Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell show podcast.

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Speaker 1: Patsey had an extraordinary meeting yesterday with the school on zoom.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's that time. So Audrey's grade five and they're

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Speaker 2: broaching the subject of sex education this year, which I

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Speaker 2: think is brilliant that they introduced it in primary school.

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Speaker 3: Did your girls have a similar sort of yeah?

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Speaker 1: And do you know what? It changes everything, especially as

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Speaker 1: a father to daughters, and there's'll be the same for

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Speaker 1: Chris as well. They it changes because up until that moment,

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Speaker 1: you're just some magic unicorn and then when they know

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Speaker 1: what you did. I remember when we had to speak

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Speaker 1: to Ruby, our eldest daughter, so she'd be the first

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Speaker 1: one to have that up the chat with us and Sam,

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Speaker 1: my wife went to say to say, hey, you know

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Speaker 1: your dad and I want to have a chat with

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Speaker 1: you about sort of the birds and bees something that

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Speaker 1: she sort of went okay, didn't quite know what was

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Speaker 1: that different? Well, okay, well, why can't we just do

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Speaker 1: it now? What's it got to do with dad? To spoiler? Wait,

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Speaker 1: do you get a load of what dad did?

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Speaker 3: Chris was sitting in on this hour long session and

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Speaker 3: I'd look over an hour for an hour, Well, just

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Speaker 3: how to talk about it with your kids?

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Speaker 2: What is the best approach to, you know, making it

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Speaker 2: as less awkward as possible. But he was like breaking

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Speaker 2: out in the sweat and also in denial.

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Speaker 1: Of like was it arousing him going tend to get

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Speaker 1: that out of the slide back, Chris, stop that where

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Speaker 1: they get those photos, they use it so much more

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Speaker 1: high depth than we had.

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Speaker 2: But just I think that realization, like the realization that

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Speaker 2: his little.

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Speaker 3: Girl is growing up and that there's going to.

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Speaker 2: Be interesting in you know, in boys or girls or

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Speaker 2: whatever he takes advance.

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Speaker 3: It's just happening, you know. So it was good though

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Speaker 3: it was informative, but when he got.

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Speaker 1: To school and actually giving are actually doing it the

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Speaker 1: right way because so many of us it's a humbled

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Speaker 1: half conversation from your parents. I remember a friend of mine,

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Speaker 1: good friend of mine, but this was the eighties. His

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Speaker 1: dad was a local vicar. And here's dad just shoved

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Speaker 1: a book under or put it on his bed, and

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Speaker 1: he'd stapled together any of the pages had new depots.

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Speaker 2: Already.

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Speaker 1: There's a strange, so much sort of aw with it

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be about our bodies and which is we're all

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Speaker 1: here because of that beautiful act union.

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Speaker 4: I remember the awkward questionnaire they sent home with us

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Speaker 4: at school to ask our parents, and we had to

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Speaker 4: return it the next day. What do you mean like

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Speaker 4: a Q and a yeah, So have questions like when

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Speaker 4: did you start to notice changes in your body? When

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Speaker 4: did you notice hair.

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Speaker 1: Changes in your body? Suddenly you're thirteen again, you're giggling

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Speaker 1: at the back of the class.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but you know that you have to go home

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Speaker 4: and ask mom and dad. So sitting at the kid honestly,

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Speaker 4: at the kitchen table before dinner and going so, when

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Speaker 4: did you notice hair in new places? Hang with interparents,

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Speaker 4: had interview your mum and dad.

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Speaker 1: A younger kid wants to talk to their pars about

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Speaker 1: let them do it at a press conference? So perhapsly

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Speaker 1: when how are they going to be doing it? How

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Speaker 1: do people do it? Now? We had to buy a book.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I've got lots of books. But you know

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Speaker 2: we had we had the lady talk, right. I sort

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Speaker 2: of broached that subject late last year.

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Speaker 1: So when you when you work because we were sort

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Speaker 1: of similar age, perhaps were you was it the same

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Speaker 1: thing as it was in my school? Right in the eighties?

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Speaker 1: Where the boys were siphoned off into the gym. You

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Speaker 1: guys love this, nothing bad happening here in the gym

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Speaker 1: because we're dudes, right. And then suddenly the old overhead

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Speaker 1: projector comes out. There's a picture of basically a six

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Speaker 1: foot and everyone's laughing, and I remember the teacher going,

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Speaker 1: anyone laughing and we're turning the pictures off.

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Speaker 2: No, we had one lesson with our science teacher, mister Smith.

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Speaker 1: He had a logical one of those meter sticks banging

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Speaker 1: just to go to the rest of it, as if

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Speaker 1: we're invading somewhere. I'm here the north.

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Speaker 2: All was involved was a banana and something else.

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Speaker 1: And they're not still going with the banana.

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Speaker 2: No, No, And it's boysing with girls, which I think

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Speaker 2: is brilliant because it's important that both sides understand what's

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Speaker 2: going on.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's great.

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Speaker 4: And so when how long till you have to have

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Speaker 4: the chat with Well, it's as well.

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Speaker 3: It's a progressive thing, Jack. They say to do little bit.

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Speaker 1: Start with the breast and then move downstairs. That's enough

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Speaker 1: for this month. When we move on to the plumb

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Speaker 1: next month.

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