Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Live Uncut.
Speaker 2: I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and this, guys, is our
Speaker 2: last episode. We're breaking up. Don't be dramatic. It's over.
Speaker 2: We're having a break, even though we don't believe in breaks. Really,
Speaker 2: we have done an episode on it. Look it was
Speaker 2: a good run. But you know, sometimes people drift apart.
Speaker 2: All good things must come to an end temporarily.
Speaker 1: Yes, Look, we're having We're having a couple of weeks
Speaker 1: off because I'm having a baby. But also I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure by the time this episode comes out, I'm going
Speaker 1: to have had a baby.
Speaker 2: Okay, so we're recording right now. What day the week
Speaker 2: is it?
Speaker 1: Today is Saturday, So it's nine pm on a Saturday.
Speaker 2: Actual night. The US have a life.
Speaker 1: Brick came over at six point thirty and we were
Speaker 1: going to start recording this episode and we didn't quite
Speaker 1: get there until now.
Speaker 2: It's a story of my life. We sat down and
Speaker 2: we had a yarm, we got some takeaway. We actually
Speaker 2: had a really great night, and then we're like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, we have to record the podcast. Fucking work
Speaker 2: to do. No, it's really exciting. It is our last
Speaker 2: episode for a couple of weeks. We are taking a short,
Speaker 2: little intermission while Laura has a baby, which I think
Speaker 2: you guys hopefully expect. There's no way Laura can pump
Speaker 2: a baby out and then get back on the pod.
Speaker 2: I'm going to go away for a little bit. Laura's
Speaker 2: going to have some really nice bonding time with her family,
Speaker 2: and apparently I'm not a part of that, so I
Speaker 2: had to get out.
Speaker 1: It's only a couple of weeks, and we will keep
Speaker 1: you guys updated if you want to jump on Instagram
Speaker 1: as well.
Speaker 2: Life Uncut Podcast.
Speaker 1: Look, we're thinking three weeks, maybe four weeks max, but
Speaker 1: we're just going to feel it out over the next
Speaker 1: couple of.
Speaker 2: I'm actually pushing for four weeks purely because I know
Speaker 2: Laura's a workaholic and I think she needs that little
Speaker 2: bit of time. But let's just see what happens, and
Speaker 2: Brinnie wants a holiday. Let's I'm just being altruistic or realistic, well,
Speaker 2: a bit of a bit of baby really, all of
Speaker 2: the abot. The other reason this is an exciting episode, guys,
Speaker 2: is I just I feel like it's been a little
Speaker 2: while since it's just Laura and myself in here having
Speaker 2: a chat. This is like old school og life on cut.
Speaker 2: We've had a lot of back to back interviews lately, which,
Speaker 2: mind you, we actually really love. I have been loving
Speaker 2: talking to new people and learning new things and getting
Speaker 2: new perspectives on things, and also just having someone else
Speaker 2: to talk to you other than Laura, even though I
Speaker 2: love her. But it's really nice to get back to
Speaker 2: basics and get back to where we begun.
Speaker 1: So what we're going to be talking about in today's episode,
Speaker 1: give you a little teaser just to wet your appetite
Speaker 1: and keep your hanging on. We're talking about something that
Speaker 1: I've actually been really excited to do this episode for
Speaker 1: quite a long time. And the conversation is around is
Speaker 1: love enough in a relationship?
Speaker 2: Is it enough? And we're going to.
Speaker 1: Unpack that, but not yet, so hold on to your nickers,
Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen. Firstly, Okay, before we get into the episode,
Speaker 1: I want to give a couple of recommendations because I
Speaker 1: have been spending a lot of time on the couch
Speaker 1: and a lot of time in front of the TV
Speaker 1: in the past week.
Speaker 2: So you've been binge watching some shows. Yes, what you've
Speaker 2: been watching, So I have.
Speaker 1: To for anybody who is die hard true crime documentary.
Speaker 1: If that's up your alley and that's getting you really excited,
Speaker 1: then I want to recommend on Netflix there's a series
Speaker 1: called The Nightstalker and it's all about an LA based
Speaker 1: serial killer from like the early nineteen eighties.
Speaker 2: It's so good. I feel like I would love that.
Speaker 2: I am a true crime junkie. I don't know if
Speaker 2: we actually speak about that a lot on the podcast. Well,
Speaker 2: this isn't a true crime podcast, okay, So something about
Speaker 2: me that you guys might not know, I'm going to
Speaker 2: share it with you. I am a true crime junkie,
Speaker 2: like through and through. I have listened to I reckon
Speaker 2: eight hundred episodes plus of true crime, every podcast out there,
Speaker 2: all the top podcasts. I'm obsessed with it. I used
Speaker 2: to want to be a detective, that I wanted to
Speaker 2: be a criminal psychologist, and I want to do anything
Speaker 2: within true crime. I just loved it. So I think
Speaker 2: I'm gonna love this show. I like that insight into you.
Speaker 2: I didn't know. Yeah, thanks, I thought that you were
Speaker 2: all just about relationship podcasts. If we did that, how
Speaker 2: well do you know Brittany because which I had to
Speaker 2: do for you a few weeks back. We had to
Speaker 2: do it, Brittany, how well do you know Laura tests
Speaker 2: which she sprung on me. I didn't even have time
Speaker 2: to research it, and I actually still did really well.
Speaker 2: I won. If you had to do that on me,
Speaker 2: I don't reckon you'd win. I would win. I know
Speaker 2: your middle name. It's Mayo. Okay, everyone knows.
Speaker 1: Now, there you go anyway. Okay, So Night's Talker. Night
Speaker 1: Stalker is my number one recommendation.
Speaker 2: It is very full on, not for the faint hearted,
Speaker 2: and it'll make you pretty squeamish. But it's about this
Speaker 2: very prolific serial killer that was rocking around La. And
Speaker 2: the thing that makes this series really unique is, like
Speaker 2: anyone who's into serial killer documentaries, you would know that
Speaker 2: usually they can profile them, like usually there's a type,
Speaker 2: and it might be that the serial killer goes after prostitutes,
Speaker 2: or they go after women of a certain age, or
Speaker 2: they go after men of a certain you know whatever, ethnicity,
Speaker 2: but there is the pattern. There was no pattern to this.
Speaker 2: This guy was breaking into houses and killing old people,
Speaker 2: young people. There is so much going on in this
Speaker 2: it's definitely pretty dark and yeah, massive trigger warning to
Speaker 2: anybody who doesn't like true crime stuff. But for those
Speaker 2: of you who do, that's my number one recommendation. My
Speaker 2: number two, which I've just binge watched five episodes in
Speaker 2: the last day, is the undoing on Binge with Nicole
Speaker 2: Kidman and Hugh Grant. I have not even heard of that.
Speaker 2: Oh that's a weird combination. Neither of them.
Speaker 1: As actors do I particularly like normally? Is that that's going
Speaker 1: to be someone's going to come back and hate me
Speaker 1: for that. Don't slide into the dms.
Speaker 2: Definitely controversial. I think they're both brilliant in their own way.
Speaker 2: But I do love I have a crush on Hugh
Speaker 2: Grant because he's always in like notting Hill and those
Speaker 2: romantic comedies and when you're you're a young teenager, he
Speaker 2: was like the heart throb. He had the accent, he
Speaker 2: dressed well, he was just goals.
Speaker 1: I think notting Hill is probably the one exception, maybe
Speaker 1: because he was always that cliche heart throat that I
Speaker 1: was like, Nah, I see through this clever rouge and
Speaker 1: it is about a kind of who done it murder mystery.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm only up to episode five so I'm
Speaker 1: not sure yet, but I feel like he's this really
Speaker 1: suave narcissist. But I don't know whether he is capable
Speaker 1: of committing murder or maybe Nicole Kimmen did it.
Speaker 2: I really don't know. I actually want to watch both
Speaker 2: of them. They're right up my alley perfect. So I'm
Speaker 2: going to bring in my own recommendations. My recommendations are now, guys,
Speaker 2: these are not hot tape. But I was just slow
Speaker 2: to the party. The Queen's Gambit, Oh, it's so good.
Speaker 2: It was. I finally got there. You know, when you
Speaker 2: hear about something, you've seen it everywhere. Everyone who's anyone
Speaker 2: is talking about it, and I was like, I'll get
Speaker 2: to it one day. I was like, it can't be
Speaker 2: that good. It's about a game of chess. Finally got
Speaker 2: to it, and I am obsessed. It's insane. I don't
Speaker 2: know how they have made a show that is literally
Speaker 2: it doesn't have a lot of dialogue. It's about chess.
Speaker 2: I'm on the edge of my seat the whole time,
Speaker 2: and nothing's even happening in it except like they're making
Speaker 2: these chess moves. And I was like, this is brilliant cinematography.
Speaker 2: Brilliant acting, brilliant writing.
Speaker 1: The thing with Queen's Gambit, though, that I felt like
Speaker 1: Marley robbed about, is that when I started watching it,
Speaker 1: I thought it must have been based loosely around a
Speaker 1: true story, Like I thought there must have been some
Speaker 1: sort of reality to it. And then obviously I got
Speaker 1: on Google it's completely fictional, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I feel robbed.
Speaker 2: I feel like this should have been a true story.
Speaker 1: I want some poor orphan girl to become a chess
Speaker 1: icon and that I was like hoping that that was
Speaker 1: going to be the outcome, but it definitely wasn't.
Speaker 2: Anyway, Okay, the other one's not a hot take either.
Speaker 1: You're gonna be like, it's really great. I watched it
Speaker 1: back in nineteen ninety five. It's Titanic, No, but it's Bridgitton.
Speaker 1: Have you watched Bridgeton? I haven't started. But do you
Speaker 1: know what in the Facebook group, there've hundreds of people
Speaker 1: who have been like, you need to get on it.
Speaker 2: Okay, So this is my problem with Bridgeton. I do
Speaker 2: have a problem. I'm not obsessed with it, but I
Speaker 2: can't stop watching it. It's got just the right amount
Speaker 2: that you're like, I need to know what happens next,
Speaker 2: but you don't go to bed thinking about it. It's
Speaker 2: the innocence. She doesn't know how a baby's made, she
Speaker 2: doesn't know what sex is, she doesn't know what masturbation is,
Speaker 2: and it's very sexual. She ends up learning about masturbation
Speaker 2: and she does things like that. So there's this sexual
Speaker 2: tension that is constantly building. The other thing is the
Speaker 2: main character. The man is hot as fuck, like so
Speaker 2: he's like a hot tmili. He's so spicy if you
Speaker 2: guys haven't seen him, he's a dream boat. So this
Speaker 2: is definitely a series that you don't watch with your dad.
Speaker 2: Don't watch it with your boyfriends either, unless you fast
Speaker 2: forward to the sex. But they will hate the show
Speaker 2: like it is not a man's show.
Speaker 1: Okay, so on last episode, you guys know that I
Speaker 1: missed out in the ask gun cut, still feeling dirty
Speaker 1: about It's still sad that, like Britain, Matt had so
Speaker 1: much fun with it.
Speaker 2: Actually had so much fun, and not that it was
Speaker 2: like without you, but we did have a great time.
Speaker 2: I was on the bed, I was watching that sounded
Speaker 2: really weird. I talked about how weird my hands were.
Speaker 1: I was in the bedroom watching the two of you record,
Speaker 1: and it took every inch of my self control to
Speaker 1: not jump onto one of the microphones. But what I
Speaker 1: was gonna say is that in that last episode ask Guncut,
Speaker 1: you guys talked about jackhammering as a conversation, like why
Speaker 1: is it that men feel like it's okay to go
Speaker 1: straight to Poundtown and not do any of the warm up?
Speaker 2: And like is that a normal thing? Does it feel good?
Speaker 1: So somebody actually messaged about Bridgeton and they were like,
Speaker 1: have you not noticed that he just goes to Poundtown?
Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, he does nothing for her. He's just a jackhammer.
Speaker 2: He's quite a selfish lover.
Speaker 1: Well, he's perpetuating the stereotypes and I'm not here for it.
Speaker 2: But I wonder if I mean, I wonder if back
Speaker 2: then they knew about that stuff and they experimented like that.
Speaker 2: I don't know, but he definitely, I think the most
Speaker 2: he does. I think like he fingered it once. Speaking
Speaker 2: of being fingered, I just I'm handing this to you
Speaker 2: on a platt. This is a great segue speaking of
Speaker 2: being fingered, guys.
Speaker 1: I had a really great experience yesterday for anybody who
Speaker 1: is pregnant or who has had a baby. If you're pregnant,
Speaker 1: you're probably and you know, not a full term. You
Speaker 1: may not have got there yet, but it's coming. I
Speaker 1: went saw my obstetrition yesterday and I got a stretch
Speaker 1: and sweep. Now, a stretch and.
Speaker 2: Sweep I like to call it the sweep and finger
Speaker 2: yesta is what it feels like. So a stretch and
Speaker 2: sweep is where your obstitution or a midwife will put
Speaker 2: their fingers up inside you and try and stretch the
Speaker 2: membranes of your uterus and they sweep their fingers. Basically,
Speaker 2: they're sweeping their fingers over the sack that holds the baby.
Speaker 2: And what that does is like it it creates this hormone,
Speaker 2: and the hormone release is to help to try and
Speaker 2: put you into labor. Like there is science behind it,
Speaker 2: there is, But.
Speaker 1: It is like getting the most aggressive fingering of your
Speaker 1: entire life.
Speaker 2: It is just fancy word for fingering.
Speaker 1: And I have been fingered twice now by a man
Speaker 1: who I've only met several times.
Speaker 2: I paid him nine thousand dollars to do it. You
Speaker 2: are living, girl, You are living. That was like did
Speaker 2: he make eye contact with you? And he did this.
Speaker 2: This is fine, let's go go into those details. No.
Speaker 2: But I think this is really interesting because for someone
Speaker 2: that hasn't had a child, or if you don't know
Speaker 2: about that, or you're not close with anyone that has
Speaker 2: had a baby, like I'm not close to a lot
Speaker 2: of people that have had kids. I work in the
Speaker 2: medical industry, and I still didn't know you had to
Speaker 2: go and get fingered before you get better.
Speaker 1: You don't have to look, it's an elective thing. Basically,
Speaker 1: if you want to try and induce labor, it's because
Speaker 1: I'm booked in for an induction. So to try and
Speaker 1: get things going and not have to go down the
Speaker 1: route of having a medical induction, which is when they'll
Speaker 1: hook you up to hormones, they can try a stretching suite,
Speaker 1: which works for some women.
Speaker 2: I think it works for like one in seven women
Speaker 2: or something. So seen as though, this is the last
Speaker 2: time we will all be hearing from you before you
Speaker 2: have another child, which is really exciting. I feel like
Speaker 2: you and I have sort of just like swept it
Speaker 2: under the table, you're having a baby, like it's always
Speaker 2: like it's not happening. No, I feel like we talk
Speaker 2: about it on every single thing. We don't think about
Speaker 2: what it means. Like we talk about it, but I
Speaker 2: don't think that in a week when I come back
Speaker 2: from vac there's going to be like an infant here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's gonna be another human in that pile of
Speaker 1: washing right there. I'm gonna put it in the drawer.
Speaker 1: We still don't have anything organized, We still don't have
Speaker 1: a name, We still haven't bought it any clothes. This
Speaker 1: is how middle child or like second child syndrome starts.
Speaker 1: Marley had everything set up, and I've had so many
Speaker 1: people messed with me on Instagram being like, hey, sure
Speaker 1: us a picture of the nursery, and I was like, nursery.
Speaker 2: Right, mate, just sleeping under the podcast desk leaves in
Speaker 2: the bedroom, ridiculous summertime. All the kid needs is a
Speaker 2: nappy and a boob, Like it's fine, no, But because
Speaker 2: it is the last time that we will be speaking
Speaker 2: to you, do you get nervous about Like do you
Speaker 2: get anxious thinking about what your body is about to do?
Speaker 2: Thanks reminding me about, Hey, that's what I'm here for. Okay,
Speaker 2: we're going there.
Speaker 1: I feel less nervous about birth this time round than
Speaker 1: what I think I did last time. Last time, I
Speaker 1: was nervous, but I did know what I was in for,
Speaker 1: so I kind of didn't dwell on it too much.
Speaker 1: And this time, I know what I'm in for, and
Speaker 1: I know that I'm gonna have an epidural. I'm not
Speaker 1: even going to try and tell myself, oh, we'll try
Speaker 1: and do it natural. Like I went down that train
Speaker 1: of thought last time with Mali, and I am not
Speaker 1: strong enough.
Speaker 2: People, so I have. Literally I'm like, I don't worry.
Speaker 2: I've shaved my back. No, I haven't, really, I don't
Speaker 2: need to, but I'm feeling very hairy at the moment. Guys.
Speaker 1: I'm like, my back is prepped. Stick that needle in.
Speaker 1: I've already got an alcohol swab, I've wiped it all down.
Speaker 1: Just get the epidural in me. So go back up
Speaker 1: into the room we are, so, I think, because I
Speaker 1: know that I have the pain medication to lean back into. Literally,
Speaker 1: I feel less anxious about it. Do you know what
Speaker 1: the one thing, the one thing that I think I'm
Speaker 1: the most fearful of, it's not about having a baby,
Speaker 1: it's not about giving birth. The thing that I'm most
Speaker 1: fearful of is going from having one kid to two
Speaker 1: kids and my patience levels. My biggest fear is that
Speaker 1: I won't be able to tap into this unlimited wealth
Speaker 1: and source of patience that every one kind of.
Speaker 2: You know, you find this new patience when.
Speaker 1: You become a mum, And I'm like, well, maybe I
Speaker 1: won't find it, and maybe I will be impatient with
Speaker 1: my two children because it's a lot to manage and
Speaker 1: a lot to juggle, and so like sometimes when Marley
Speaker 1: has like a full temper tantrum, a meltdown, I'm like,
Speaker 1: how the fuck am I gonna do this with a
Speaker 1: second one. I feel like everyone has this feeling, though,
Speaker 1: and you just do it because you don't have a choice.
Speaker 1: And there are gonna be times where you have no
Speaker 1: patience and you probably will have to just walk away
Speaker 1: and take.
Speaker 2: Five minutes time out. But that's fine. Everyone does that.
Speaker 2: God my mom used to lock us off in a
Speaker 2: laundry for hours. She had four under six. I was like, ma, way,
Speaker 2: she's like Mom's gone home, Mom is not here, she's unsubscribed, filding,
Speaker 2: Mommy's canceled. And not that I think I'm an impatient
Speaker 2: person by any means, but I definitely was very independent
Speaker 2: before having Maley, and then I found this source of
Speaker 2: patience when I had her that I didn't know I had.
Speaker 2: Sometimes she really really tests that as a toddler to
Speaker 2: the limits where I'm like, I love you, but I
Speaker 2: do not like you right now, And then I think,
Speaker 2: how am I going to do that plus also have
Speaker 2: a newborn, plus have little sleep? Like that is my
Speaker 2: biggest fear at the moment, and I think, I'm sure
Speaker 2: there's gonna be loads of mums out there who have
Speaker 2: experienced the same thing and worry about the same thing.
Speaker 2: But that makes me way more anxious than the birth. Well,
Speaker 2: because that's forever the birth. The birth has an end
Speaker 2: like birth the two kids grind in Tensen, you you know,
Speaker 2: that's a that's a beginnings you've got there.
Speaker 1: I just want to say a massive, massive thank you
Speaker 1: to everybody who has sent really wonderful and supportive messages
Speaker 1: over the last couple.
Speaker 2: Of weeks and months.
Speaker 1: And I love this community that we're building, and I
Speaker 1: love how amazingly supportive you've all been, so like, I'm
Speaker 1: really really grateful for that as well. Thank you for your
Speaker 1: patience with me.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about me. It's definitely time. I want to
Speaker 2: tell you, and I can't believe they said that, Oh,
Speaker 2: we haven't had that segment for a little while, bring
Speaker 2: it back. We haven't, but I'm bringing it back, and
Speaker 2: I'm bringing it back with a personal one. So this
Speaker 2: happened to me this week and I was in hysterics.
Speaker 2: I was dead. Rip me. It's the last thing you
Speaker 2: ever want to hear. But it was so innocent that
Speaker 2: you can't help but love it. I've been seeing this guy.
Speaker 2: We all know. We all know Britney's got a boyfriend.
Speaker 2: I've just been seeing this guy and I was laying
Speaker 2: on the lounge and I had little deadim shorts on.
Speaker 2: Wait are we calling him your boyfriend now? Is that?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Are we allowed to say that? I feel weird about
Speaker 2: what do I do with my head? Hasn't come out
Speaker 2: of my math a long time. I feel like, essentially
Speaker 2: we're almost there.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's my boyfriend, my friend.
Speaker 2: So I'm laying on the lounge on my back, chilling
Speaker 2: out little deadim shorts on single top. It's summer. He
Speaker 2: comes and stands over the top of me and he's
Speaker 2: just talking to me. We're just having a conversation, you know,
Speaker 2: like I was reading a book. He's so lovely, and
Speaker 2: he's like tickling my leg and then with the most
Speaker 2: concerned look on his face, he says, babe, what's that?
Speaker 2: And I was like what huh. He's like that that scar?
Speaker 2: What happened to you? And I was like where? And
Speaker 2: he's like there and he pointed to the inside my
Speaker 2: leg and I was like, I was like sorry, and
Speaker 2: he's like, what happened? Did something bad happen to you?
Speaker 2: And I looked down and I was like, you mean
Speaker 2: this stretch mark? I was like, you're like, puberty happened
Speaker 2: to me? Pal. I was like, that's a stretch mark.
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, it doesn't look like it. I was like, no,
Speaker 2: you see how there's heaps of other ones next to it.
Speaker 2: They're allso stretch marks. He's like, I thought it was
Speaker 2: a scar. I was like, it is a scar. It's not.
Speaker 2: No one has stabbed me in the leg. I was like, also,
Speaker 2: this is cute, but this is the last thing that
Speaker 2: any woman wants to hear is you come and point
Speaker 2: out her stretch marks on her body. He's like, I'm
Speaker 2: so sorry.
Speaker 1: Stretch marks are great. I actually think stretch marks are
Speaker 1: so underrated. I think stretch marks look sexy. I'm like,
Speaker 1: not against them at all.
Speaker 2: I just thought it was the most There was so
Speaker 2: much innocence in it, and he was so concerned about
Speaker 2: this everythic thing that happened to me, like I gotta
Speaker 2: stabbed myself on like some tree in some accident. But
Speaker 2: it reminded me, and I said this story. I think
Speaker 2: when the podcast started a year.
Speaker 1: Ago, let's hope that we've got a few more listeners,
Speaker 1: but people don't remember it.
Speaker 2: It reminded me of my first boyfriend, who I was
Speaker 2: with for eight years, and he also so much love
Speaker 2: and affection, so pure, so ignorant.
Speaker 1: Innocent, ignorant, so innocent, not innocent, just ignorant.
Speaker 2: I was in his shower one day and he was
Speaker 2: in the bathroom and brushing his teeth or whatever, and
Speaker 2: he was looking at me, and I was like, you know,
Speaker 2: I feeling all sexy because I was like, oh, he's
Speaker 2: looking at me naked, you know, like maybe he's going
Speaker 2: to come over and like I want to have some
Speaker 2: sexy type. Then he goes that thing on your leg
Speaker 2: and I looked down. I was like yeah, and he goes,
Speaker 2: is that what they call hail damage.
Speaker 1: About cellult Yeah, he didn't know what, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I looked down and he was so like he was
Speaker 1: genuinely asking.
Speaker 2: I looked back up at him and I was like, yes, love,
Speaker 2: that that is what they call hell. It's not okay.
Speaker 2: I have educated you. And he's like, oh, he didn't care.
Speaker 2: He's like cool. He was with him for like two years.
Speaker 2: He just was like I think he'd heard the term used,
Speaker 2: and I think he was looking at me trying to
Speaker 2: process and put it together if that's what it meant.
Speaker 2: And I couldn't even be mad because he's like, oh cool,
Speaker 2: got on with his day, like it wasn't offensive. But
Speaker 2: it's just that as women, we don't want these pointed out.
Speaker 2: But the other thing is everyone has stretch marks, everyone
Speaker 2: has cellu light, every single I don't know a woman
Speaker 2: that doesn't have these things. So you know what he
Speaker 2: said straight up. I was in hysterics. I rolled off
Speaker 2: the lounge and he goes, oh fuck, He's like, you're
Speaker 2: gonna tell this one podcast.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know, buddy, and as soon
Speaker 1: as your name's released, everyone's gonna know it with you,
Speaker 1: Like absolutely, I've already put it in the notes in
Speaker 1: my phone.
Speaker 2: All Right, guys, that's enough from us.
Speaker 1: Let's get into our favorite part of the episode, which
Speaker 1: is accidentally unfiltered. Now I have one which I actually
Speaker 1: freaking love, so I'm gonna go first.
Speaker 2: Is that. Okay, can't hear me? This is your last
Speaker 2: app control take the reins. Baby.
Speaker 1: It was the night of my boyfriend's brother's eighteenth birthday party.
Speaker 1: I had just finished my last UNI exam for the year,
Speaker 1: so I was ready to partey. I had a great
Speaker 1: night and I drank way too much. I slept over
Speaker 1: at my boyfriend's house, and in the middle of the
Speaker 1: night I really needed to WII, so I got up,
Speaker 1: I weed, and then I started making my way back
Speaker 1: to my boyfriend's bedroom. However, my half drunken, half asleep state,
Speaker 1: I turned the wrong way down the hallway and I
Speaker 1: walked into another room, thinking I was back in the bedroom.
Speaker 2: Success.
Speaker 1: I found my way back to the bed in the
Speaker 1: pitch black. I was just about to hop in when
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, the bedside lamp turned on just
Speaker 1: to reveal me standing right over the top of his
Speaker 1: dad completely but as naked.
Speaker 2: I was like, you was not there? So good I screamed,
Speaker 2: and I tried to cover myself.
Speaker 1: His dad walked me back to the right room while
Speaker 1: I heard his mum uncontrollably laughing the whole way.
Speaker 2: No, why did the dad has caught her bag? I know,
Speaker 2: it's just like even more mortifying, right, Like, I mean,
Speaker 2: are they in Bridgington and living in a castle. I
Speaker 2: think she could find her way.
Speaker 1: Back down the corridor one room, not if she was
Speaker 1: so fucking drunk.
Speaker 2: A month later, they brought me pajamas for Christmas. Oh
Speaker 2: my god, rip. At least they have a sense of humor.
Speaker 2: They bought a pajam unless that was like not a
Speaker 2: sense of humor, and they're like where these.
Speaker 1: No, I think of the mum sitting in the bedroom
Speaker 1: pissing herself like ly aggress But how freaking good the
Speaker 1: amount of stories that we get in where people have
Speaker 1: like accidentally peede in a drawer or something when they've
Speaker 1: been drunk, and like they haven't really made it onto
Speaker 1: the accidental on field. It's because I feel like everybody
Speaker 1: has one of those stories, but they're like, oh, like
Speaker 1: my friend got up in the middle of nin and
Speaker 1: pissed in my underwear drawer.
Speaker 2: I have never hand on heart, and I'm proud of this.
Speaker 2: I have never been so drunk that I have like
Speaker 2: not known where the toilet is, or wet the bed,
Speaker 2: or wet my pants were done anything. I have never
Speaker 2: wet the bed, but I've definitely been in bed with
Speaker 2: someone who wet the bed. Yeah, I know. A guy
Speaker 2: got up once and went to the toilet and like,
Speaker 2: if you can't see me, you guys know now that
Speaker 2: I use big hand gestures. If you watched our stories
Speaker 2: in inverted Commas went to the toilet, he just like
Speaker 2: stood up out of bed and started weaning on the
Speaker 2: ground next to the bed. I could hear it on
Speaker 2: the carpet, you know, when water hits carpet. I was like, bro,
Speaker 2: what are you doing. So I woke up this one
Speaker 2: morning and I only just started seeing this guy and
Speaker 2: he had been really lit at this party, and I
Speaker 2: was a bit kind of off him just because of
Speaker 2: how he was behaving this party. But I was down
Speaker 2: in Wollongong at the time.
Speaker 1: I was being in Sydney, so I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna stay the night and I'll figured it out afterwards.
Speaker 2: Anyway, I woke up in the morning and I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I'm so clammy.
Speaker 1: You know when you get night sweats and you're really wet.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, like this, doun I get
Speaker 1: off me. I'm so oh yuck. And then I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's so this doesn't this doesn't feel like night sweats.
Speaker 2: And he had pissed the bed so bad.
Speaker 1: It had soaked into the feather douner and had crept
Speaker 1: up and I was covered in urine.
Speaker 2: It was in my hair.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I remember waking up at like five in the
Speaker 1: morning and I woke him up and I was like,
Speaker 1: I think you've the bed and then he started to cry.
Speaker 2: I was just about to say, how embarrassing. Then he
Speaker 2: pissed the bed, but it's actually more embarrassing. Then he
Speaker 2: started crying. Why did he cry? How old were you?
Speaker 2: We were twenty six And he cried because he wet
Speaker 2: the bed.
Speaker 1: He was really embarrassed. He was really embarrassed. That's why
Speaker 1: I tried to deny it. And I was like, you
Speaker 1: cannot deny this. I'm covered in your you Ryan, you
Speaker 1: were laying in a wet patch. Anyway, there's an accidentally
Speaker 1: unfiltered story blast.
Speaker 2: In the past. I'm okay, well I have one. This
Speaker 2: one I just think is funny, as in a senator's cute.
Speaker 2: My partner and I live on a small, quiet, dead
Speaker 2: end street. One day, I was doing a U turn
Speaker 2: at the end of our street so that I could
Speaker 2: grab the parking spot just in front of our house.
Speaker 2: As I turned, I saw my partner turning into our
Speaker 2: street too. I thought, how great, he's come home early,
Speaker 2: king for a little surprise afternoon to light. I rolled
Speaker 2: my window down, I leaned out as far as I could,
Speaker 2: and as I approached, I made quite a suggestive gesture,
Speaker 2: you know, the one where your index and your middle
Speaker 2: finger you put them to the mouth in a V
Speaker 2: formation and you flick your tongue out really aggressively between,
Speaker 2: like I want you to go downstairs. Well, as I
Speaker 2: got closer, I realized it was in fact not my
Speaker 2: partner home early, but it was the tradesman in exactly
Speaker 2: the same use that was working next door to my house.
Speaker 2: He thought I was signaling to him to come and
Speaker 2: go down on me. Not. I jumped back in the car,
Speaker 2: wound my window up, and drove straight to the next date.
Speaker 1: I actually loved it, because usually it would be like
Speaker 1: a Sico trady who would be doing some sort of
Speaker 1: awful gesture or wolf whistle or something.
Speaker 2: He probably thought it was his lucky day. He was
Speaker 2: like a role reversal. She was like you has sexually
Speaker 2: harassing him on the street.
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Speaker 2: Nailed it all right, guys.
Speaker 1: I am actually so looking forward to this conversation around
Speaker 1: it is love enough in a relationship. And the reason
Speaker 1: why this kind of came up as a conversation was
Speaker 1: because we received and ask on Cut recently. The question
Speaker 1: was from somebody who had been with their partner first
Speaker 1: seven months and they were desperately in love. However, they
Speaker 1: had started to have conversations about the few and what
Speaker 1: they wanted, and their partner had made it extremely clear
Speaker 1: that they are not interested in having children, when this
Speaker 1: was something that the person who had written in desperately
Speaker 1: wants in their life. And I didn't want to answer
Speaker 1: it on Ask on cut because I feel like it's
Speaker 1: such a freaking good question that it deserved its own episode.
Speaker 1: And I think that, you know, a lot of people
Speaker 1: have been in a situation where they really thought that
Speaker 1: love could conquer everything, and they really thought that because
Speaker 1: they love their partner, it had to be them at
Speaker 1: the end, that they were going to be together forever.
Speaker 1: It takes a long time to get over when sometimes
Speaker 1: your relationships break down and you have to break up
Speaker 1: with someone who's still in love with Britain, I both
Speaker 1: agree that love is not enough.
Speaker 2: But it's funny because I used to think it was,
Speaker 2: and I think a lot of society do. And that's
Speaker 2: because we grew up watching these fairy tales and we
Speaker 2: idealize and we romanticize love to be the bill and
Speaker 2: end all, and we are told to believe that it's
Speaker 2: all you need if you love someone so much, as
Speaker 2: all you need. And I think there is a truth
Speaker 2: to that in terms of you need love in the relationship,
Speaker 2: but it's definitely not all there is. There are a
Speaker 2: lot of relationships and I have been in them where
Speaker 2: there is so much love. Again, in inverted commas, it's
Speaker 2: so much love, but they're so toxic and they're disastrous,
Speaker 2: And I think that just proves that that is not
Speaker 2: the only ingredient you need to happy, healthy, successful relationship.
Speaker 2: But I really do think when you look back to
Speaker 2: your childhood, everything we're told as young women, or everything
Speaker 2: we watch growing up is all about getting your happy
Speaker 2: ending and overcoming all these big hurdles to get to
Speaker 2: the end because you love them. So there's nothing that's
Speaker 2: going to stop you from that.
Speaker 1: Oh, absolutely, every single Hollywood rom com blockbuster, like let's
Speaker 1: look at the fucking Notebook for example, love is enough
Speaker 1: to conquer everything, and no matter what adversity, that person
Speaker 1: will change for you. If they love you enough, they
Speaker 1: will become the person that's worthy of your love. But
Speaker 1: we know, and I think it's something that you kind
Speaker 1: of gauge as you get older as well, because when
Speaker 1: you said it's something that you used to believe, I
Speaker 1: was the same. Like I had relationships younger, relationships where
Speaker 1: I was so desperately in love that I thought there's
Speaker 1: no way that it can't be this person at the end,
Speaker 1: like it has to be them. So I'm going to
Speaker 1: put up with whatever bad behavior because our love will
Speaker 1: overcome this.
Speaker 2: I think of how many times you have had a
Speaker 2: conversation with your friends or your sister or a loved
Speaker 2: one and you're complaining about if you're having a fight
Speaker 2: with your partner or he did this, she did this,
Speaker 2: they did this, they did that, They're horrible, they're not
Speaker 2: right for me. And then at the end you say,
Speaker 2: but I love them, or your friend says leave him,
Speaker 2: and you're like, but I love them this one sentence,
Speaker 2: but I love them. We think that just because we're
Speaker 2: in love with someone and we have this overwhelming feeling
Speaker 2: that we need to make everything else work. But it's
Speaker 2: not until you get to this point in life, I think,
Speaker 2: where you go through enough and you get your life lessons,
Speaker 2: you learn what you need to learn, you do your
Speaker 2: research like we have. And the more that I started
Speaker 2: to look into it when you, Laura were like, let's
Speaker 2: do this topic based on this question. Once I really
Speaker 2: delved into it, I don't think love is all you need.
Speaker 2: Love is definitely a main ingredient, but there's a lot
Speaker 2: more that goes in there to make that cake.
Speaker 1: Well, it comes down to this idea of unconditional love,
Speaker 1: I think, and you know, unconditional love is completely unrealistic
Speaker 1: when it comes to a relationship. I mean, if you
Speaker 1: want unconditional love, get yourself a dog. Of course, there's
Speaker 1: conditions on love. There are conditions on the way that
Speaker 1: we want to be treated. There's conditions on our self respect,
Speaker 1: there's conditions on our dignity. We have to have those
Speaker 1: conditions in place because they're boundaries on what is acceptable
Speaker 1: and how we are allowing ourselves to be treated in
Speaker 1: a relationship. To think that you can love someone in
Speaker 1: a romantic relationship completely unconditionally is such a Hollywood movie
Speaker 1: idea and it's so completely unrealistic and it's so completely
Speaker 1: unhealthy and toxic. So when we kind of talked about
Speaker 1: doing this episode, we started doing our research and it
Speaker 1: came across this really freaking amazing article by a guy
Speaker 1: named Mark Manson. And you guys probably have heard who
Speaker 1: Mac Manson is because he wrote the book The Subtle
Speaker 1: Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
Speaker 2: He's great, right, New York Times bestsellers.
Speaker 1: It's the one with the orange cover. We all know
Speaker 1: we've all probably half read it. This article is all
Speaker 1: around love is not Enough. But I'm going to read
Speaker 1: for you the first paragraph of this because I read
Speaker 1: this and I was so perfectly encapsulated my opinion around
Speaker 1: why love is not enough and why we need to
Speaker 1: stop romanticizing and prioritizing it as the be all and
Speaker 1: end all of a relationship.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he nailed it.
Speaker 1: So In nineteen sixty seven, John Lennon wrote a song
Speaker 1: called All You Need Is Love. He also beat both
Speaker 1: of his wives, He abandoned one of his children, He
Speaker 1: verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with a homophobic and
Speaker 1: anti Semitic slur, and once had a camera crew film
Speaker 1: him lying naked in his bed for an entire day.
Speaker 1: Thirty years later, Trent Resna from Nine Inch Nails wrote
Speaker 1: a song that was called Love is Not Enough. Resna,
Speaker 1: despite being famous for his shocking stage performances and his
Speaker 1: grotesque and disturbing videos, got cleaned from all the drugs
Speaker 1: and alcohol. He married one woman, and he had two
Speaker 1: children with her. He then canceled entire albums and tours
Speaker 1: so that he could stay home and be a good
Speaker 1: husband and a good father to his family. One of
Speaker 1: these two men had a clear and realistic understanding of
Speaker 1: what love is. One of them did not. One of
Speaker 1: these men idealize love as the solution to all of
Speaker 1: his problems.
Speaker 2: One of them did not. One of these men was
Speaker 2: probably a narcissistic asshole. One of them was not.
Speaker 1: And I read that, and I thought to myself, so true,
Speaker 1: because when you start to think that love is all
Speaker 1: you need, it means that there's no other responsibilities. All
Speaker 1: the other things that we need to hold ourselves accountable
Speaker 1: for in a relationship go out the window, because it
Speaker 1: doesn't really matter if you're a bit shitty to your
Speaker 1: partner or your partner's a bit shitty to you, because
Speaker 1: they can tell you how much they love you at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, and you're going to forgive
Speaker 1: them because you love them so freaking much.
Speaker 2: Well, I think what happens is when you sort of
Speaker 2: walk around like this, romanticizing love and with your head
Speaker 2: into clouds, you forget and you neglect the fundamentals to
Speaker 2: a relationship, the things that you absolutely one hundred percent
Speaker 2: need to have a relationship, which is like honesty, trust, respect, commitment, humility.
Speaker 2: All these are basic fundamentals to a relationship. They are
Speaker 2: the building blocks we need, They are the cement, they
Speaker 2: are the bottom layer. But if you really one hundred
Speaker 2: percent believe that love is all you need, you're just
Speaker 2: going to throw those out the window. You ignore them,
Speaker 2: and that's when you find yourself in quite a toxic relationship.
Speaker 1: You have no accountabilities, do you? And I think that
Speaker 1: the really important thing to take home from that is
Speaker 1: this idea that love doesn't solve relationship problems. You can
Speaker 1: love someone so much, but if they continuously cheat on you,
Speaker 1: that is not going to fix that. You can love
Speaker 1: someone so much, but if they don't want to have
Speaker 1: children and you do, then you're going to sacrifice something
Speaker 1: that you want in your life for this love.
Speaker 2: And is that going to make you happy?
Speaker 1: When you are in your late thirties late forties, there
Speaker 1: are so many other factors that you have to think about,
Speaker 1: and it is probably the hardest thing in the world
Speaker 1: to break up with someone who you are still in
Speaker 1: love with, But sometimes you have to make those steps
Speaker 1: in order to make space in your life so that
Speaker 1: you can be with someone who not only you have
Speaker 1: that mutual love for, but there's mutual respect and you're
Speaker 1: on the same journey, you want the same things, and
Speaker 1: therefore will be happy together.
Speaker 2: What I think is really important to remember, and this
Speaker 2: does really hit home when you stop and think about it,
Speaker 2: is that love does not equal happiness. Love does not
Speaker 2: equal happiness. I thought back to my relationships when I
Speaker 2: read this, and I was like, wow, it's so accurate.
Speaker 2: I was in a relationship for years where I was
Speaker 2: hopelessly in love. I was obsessed. I thought the world
Speaker 2: of him. I wanted to spend my life with him,
Speaker 2: but I was so unhappy. I loved him, I wanted
Speaker 2: to be with him. I would do everything for him,
Speaker 2: and I was I reckon six out of the seven
Speaker 2: days of the week. I was unhappy. It was toxic,
Speaker 2: it was horrible. He was cheating, he didn't have any
Speaker 2: respect for me. He didn't treat me well at all.
Speaker 2: But still I was like I remember saying to my sister,
Speaker 2: but I love him. Then I was in a relationship
Speaker 2: for eight years with somebody that was so beautiful, and
Speaker 2: I was so in love with him for a long
Speaker 2: time too. He did not one thing wrong. He treated
Speaker 2: me so well, but I and I was happy, But
Speaker 2: I feel out of love and I think the point
Speaker 2: here is that they don't always go hand in hand,
Speaker 2: and that's something really important to remember if you're in
Speaker 2: a relationship right now where you're thinking you're unhappy and
Speaker 2: you're thinking, I don't like where this is going. Our
Speaker 2: values don't align fundamentally, we're not on the same page,
Speaker 2: but I love him. You need to reassess why you're
Speaker 2: with him and what you want from the future and
Speaker 2: near the things that we are going to break down.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I could not agree with what you just said more.
Speaker 1: I think, you know. I look back on my relationship
Speaker 1: that I've spoken about a couple of times in this podcast,
Speaker 1: actually a couple of my past relationships, and I was
Speaker 1: so in love, you know, like when I think about
Speaker 1: how much I could love someone, like, my capacity to
Speaker 1: love couldn't have been any bigger, Especially with my toxic
Speaker 1: ex that i'd been with for two years, which was
Speaker 1: a relationship before Matt. I was obsessed with him. But
Speaker 1: I was so miserable in that relationship because he just
Speaker 1: never showed up, He was never accountable, he treated me badly,
Speaker 1: he wasn't reliable. It was always about him, and it
Speaker 1: was always about his problems, and he always had an
Speaker 1: excuse for his behavior.
Speaker 2: The thing is too It's like, I remember breaking up
Speaker 2: with my partner the a ear one where I said,
Speaker 2: we're really happy and we're in love and things like that,
Speaker 2: but we wanted different things long term. Our paths were
Speaker 2: not aligned anymore. And you just hit the nail on
Speaker 2: the head before Laura, when you were like, it is
Speaker 2: so hard to break up with someone when you still
Speaker 2: have those feelings for them, but you know that you're
Speaker 2: not going down the same path. You know your journeys
Speaker 2: are not aligned anymore. That is so brutal, and it's
Speaker 2: like so heart wrenching because in the moment, you're making
Speaker 2: a decision based on the future, knowing that you're not
Speaker 2: aligned forever. But in that moment, in that day, it's fine.
Speaker 2: You're still having fun, you're still happy. But you can't
Speaker 2: live like that when you know something as big as
Speaker 2: one of you wants kids and one of you doesn't,
Speaker 2: one of you wants to live overseas one of you doesn't.
Speaker 2: These are all things that fundamentally you need to be
Speaker 2: on the same page with or somebody has to make
Speaker 2: a really, really big sacrifice, and even that comes with
Speaker 2: its own problems. Because there's always going to be this
Speaker 2: like slight level of resentment. Am why giving up something
Speaker 2: that I really really really wanted.
Speaker 1: I think one of the big things with that as
Speaker 1: well is like it's age related, right, Like it's okay
Speaker 1: if you're eighteen, nineteen twenty to be with someone whose
Speaker 1: life goals doesn't match up with yours, you know, or
Speaker 1: even if you're twenty five and you're dating someone and
Speaker 1: you're like, yeah, look, we're having fun, we're having great time.
Speaker 1: Who knows what the future holds, So fine, if you're
Speaker 1: in your thirties, if you're in your late thirties, if
Speaker 1: you're in your forties and you have very specific things
Speaker 1: that you want to achieve in your life, if you
Speaker 1: have career goals, if you have family goals, you can't
Speaker 1: then date and waste your time with someone who isn't aligned.
Speaker 1: I think, like, regardless of feelings, regardless of chemistry, and
Speaker 1: like we've talked about chemistry loads on the podcast and
Speaker 1: how much that shit lies to you, but regardless of
Speaker 1: all of those things, if somebody is not aligned in
Speaker 1: what they want in their future, or they're also not
Speaker 1: aligned on like their morals, I think is another really
Speaker 1: big one. You can sweep that shit under the carpet
Speaker 1: for the first six months. Maybe you can sweep it
Speaker 1: under the carpet for the first year, but that is
Speaker 1: going to rear its head and it's going to become
Speaker 1: something that you have to deal with. And I think
Speaker 1: often we expect or hope that someone will change their mind.
Speaker 1: You know, I can only imagine how many women and
Speaker 1: men have stayed in relationships where they're like, I want this,
Speaker 1: and I hope that because we love each other enough,
Speaker 1: they will meet me at the table to do this.
Speaker 1: You know, we will get engaged one day, we will
Speaker 1: get married, we will have children, and the other person
Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily want those things like I know for myself,
Speaker 1: I say, in a relationship with someone for six years
Speaker 1: who I was convinced we were going to spend our
Speaker 1: lives together, and even at the six year mark, he
Speaker 1: was still saying to me, I don't know if I
Speaker 1: can see myself marrying you. And I was blinded by
Speaker 1: how much I loved him that I was like, well,
Speaker 1: he will, we will get married. We've been to them
Speaker 1: for six years, of course we will.
Speaker 2: It's crazy to hear that after six years that they
Speaker 2: can still not see a future with you, Like, dude,
Speaker 2: what are you doing? Man?
Speaker 1: But that was it right, and that was my mentality.
Speaker 1: My mentality was like, well, we've been together for this long,
Speaker 1: of course you can. You don't mean what you're saying. Hey,
Speaker 1: guess what, We're not together. We didn't end up together.
Speaker 1: He never proposed, we never got married. He kept telling
Speaker 1: me what he wanted in his life, and I kept
Speaker 1: hoping to change him. I know that it can feel
Speaker 1: like you're never gonna love another person as much as
Speaker 1: you love that person, you fucking can like you can't.
Speaker 2: But the other thing to remember is when you say,
Speaker 2: but I love them, and especially in the early years,
Speaker 2: when you fall in love, it actually your body actually
Speaker 2: releases these euphoric hormones that are oxytocin and dopamine. You
Speaker 2: get these feelings that are actually insane. They take over
Speaker 2: your body. The thing is, if that is all you
Speaker 2: have and there's none of the fundamentals that we spoke
Speaker 2: about before, and there's no actual happiness, If it's just
Speaker 2: that love, those hormones scientifically decrease over time. When they
Speaker 2: have decreased, what have you got left If you don't
Speaker 2: have any of the other fundamentals.
Speaker 1: One of the things I was reading that came up
Speaker 1: is this idea of doing a friend test. So the
Speaker 1: behavior of your partner. If your best friend was in
Speaker 1: the way that they behave towards you, if your friend
Speaker 1: treated you that way, would you still be friends with them?
Speaker 2: Is that a question? What have they done? Tell me
Speaker 2: what they've done?
Speaker 1: Okay, So what I thought that means is like, if
Speaker 1: your partner is treating you like shit, if they're not
Speaker 1: showing up, if you are not aligned in morals, if
Speaker 1: you're not aligned in values, but you know overwhelming, you're like,
Speaker 1: I put up with that stuff because I love them
Speaker 1: so much. I love love, love, love love. If your
Speaker 1: friend was behaving in that way towards you, would you
Speaker 1: still actively choose to be friends with them, or would
Speaker 1: you say this is not something I want in my life.
Speaker 2: Well, you'd at a minimum you backing off, wouldn't you.
Speaker 2: It's like we spoke about toxic friendships a few weeks
Speaker 2: ago on the podcast. You would be backing off, you'd
Speaker 2: be putting up your boundaries, you'd be taking some space.
Speaker 2: But you don't do that in the relationship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And the thing is is why do we set
Speaker 1: a different standard for our loved ones than what we
Speaker 1: do for our friendships. Don't settle for a feeling that
Speaker 1: you have for someone, You also have to settle for
Speaker 1: actions as well, and that needs to back those feelings up.
Speaker 2: Okay, so let's just look at some reasons that you
Speaker 2: should take into considerations, some things that might not be
Speaker 2: aligned if you are a bit up in arms about
Speaker 2: your relationship and if you can see yourself the other
Speaker 2: long term, we're just gonna go through some things to
Speaker 2: I guess, sit down and think about yourself, maybe have
Speaker 2: the conversation with your partner, and just assess your relationship.
Speaker 2: So number one is like it's I think it's really
Speaker 2: obvious you want different things. You both see different things
Speaker 2: in your future. We said it before. Maybe one of
Speaker 2: you wants children, one of you doesn't. That to me
Speaker 2: is actually a pretty big deal breaker. I know my
Speaker 2: brother personally, he was in a relationship. We loved her,
Speaker 2: that she loved him. She was adamant from the day
Speaker 2: they met. I don't want kids. He did the old.
Speaker 2: It was like a role reversal as well. He did
Speaker 2: the old. I'm sure you'll change your mind, like you
Speaker 2: will become more maternal as you get older, things like that.
Speaker 2: A few years went past, and she was like still adamant,
Speaker 2: like this is not gonna happen. That was the only
Speaker 2: thing wrong in their relationship, but it was enough for
Speaker 2: him to say, I don't think I can do this
Speaker 2: because I know one hundred percent I want kids in
Speaker 2: my life. And she was like, cool, I don't. And
Speaker 2: I mean that obviously starts cracks in other ways because
Speaker 2: it builds the tension, but essentially that was the only
Speaker 2: real thing that was wrong in their relationship and ended
Speaker 2: their relationship. He's moved on and had two kids with
Speaker 2: someone else and he's so happy. But if something as
Speaker 2: big as that is not aligned, it's a deal breaker.
Speaker 1: And you know what, we get this question so much
Speaker 1: on ask On Carton. That was kind of why I
Speaker 1: wanted to bring this into a main episode because we
Speaker 1: get that exact type of question of like, my partner
Speaker 1: doesn't want this, but I do. And I hate the
Speaker 1: tough love. I hate that sometimes our answers to things
Speaker 1: is like, well, then you guys shouldn't be together. But
Speaker 1: the reality is is like if you're so poorly mismatched,
Speaker 1: but the only thing that you're matched on is this
Speaker 1: idea that you love each other. I think we need
Speaker 1: to get real and stop romanticizing and fantasizing about what
Speaker 1: a relationship could be. Yes, there is a potential that
Speaker 1: they may change their mind and they may bend because
Speaker 1: they want to be with you, But there's also the
Speaker 1: potential that they won't and you'll be the one that
Speaker 1: has to bend for them. And you know, are you
Speaker 1: willing to make that sacrifice? And if you're not willing
Speaker 1: to make that sacrifice, then that's your answer about whether
Speaker 1: the relationship is viable or not one I.
Speaker 2: Think like it seemed really obvious when I read it,
Speaker 2: but I think this happens more often than not, especially
Speaker 2: as we get older. I think we settle and get
Speaker 2: stuck in relationships a little bit. But it's if your
Speaker 2: partner isn't happy. Unfortunately, happiness isn't always contagious just because
Speaker 2: you are insanely happy in love and we all know
Speaker 2: that because we've all been on the end of unrequited
Speaker 2: love and it sucks. But just because you are really
Speaker 2: happy doesn't mean your partner is. And if you can't
Speaker 2: meet halfway and make each other happy, it's not gonna work.
Speaker 2: Like there's not science behind this. It's not I'm not
Speaker 2: blowing your minds. You've got to both be on the
Speaker 2: same page. The next one I want to talk about
Speaker 2: is I think this is also really obvious. I think
Speaker 2: a lot of these are obvious, but we just don't
Speaker 2: ever take the time to sit down and ano the maut.
Speaker 2: And that's that your values conflict. This could be something
Speaker 2: like and I think this is probably the biggest thing
Speaker 2: is religion. If you are very prominent in your religious
Speaker 2: beliefs in your church, with your congregation, and your partner
Speaker 2: has come in and they are polar opposite. That is
Speaker 2: for a really short period of time. That is fine
Speaker 2: for lust, That is fine for one night stands. That
Speaker 2: is fine for dating for a few weeks, But that's
Speaker 2: not going to match long term unless one of you
Speaker 2: is willing to make some sort of sacrifices. Even if
Speaker 2: you can meet halfway in just dating as just the
Speaker 2: two of you in a couple, when you have kids,
Speaker 2: it just brings in a whole new kettle of fish.
Speaker 2: There's something else to think about. I remember dating somebody
Speaker 2: that was really really religious, and I personally am more spiritual,
Speaker 2: and I believe something's out there, but I'm not sure what.
Speaker 2: I'm still finding my way. He was adamant that our
Speaker 2: children would be raised Muslim and I was the opposite.
Speaker 2: I was like, well, I don't want to raise my
Speaker 2: children Muslim because I don't believe in that. And that
Speaker 2: was like that started the biggest end or fight. It
Speaker 2: started to get really heated because He's like, there's absolutely
Speaker 2: no way I'm meeting you halfway on this, like this
Speaker 2: is how I've been brought up forever, and this is
Speaker 2: what I've been doing. I like, yeah, but I haven't
Speaker 2: been brought up like that, and I don't want to
Speaker 2: do that. And I just thought to myself, there's no
Speaker 2: way we're ever going to get to a place where
Speaker 2: we're going to agree on how our kids are going
Speaker 2: to be raised and we can't move forward. It's such
Speaker 2: an interesting one. I actually think that deserves its whole
Speaker 2: episode to itself. Navigating so much to talk about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and navigating like being in interracial relationships or inter
Speaker 1: cultural relationships. There's people that do it successfully, but there
Speaker 1: has to be some give and take, and there has
Speaker 1: to be some sacrifices. We will absolutely do a call
Speaker 1: out for couples who are navigating that and navigating it successfully,
Speaker 1: and it's important.
Speaker 2: I do want to know. It's important to note that
Speaker 2: you can one have those relationships successfully. I have friends,
Speaker 2: my sisters in one like, you absolutely can, but you
Speaker 2: just need to know that they'll have to be sacrificed
Speaker 2: from one of you. That's all it is. Actually, no,
Speaker 2: there has to be sacrificed from both of you. Like
Speaker 2: that's the thing.
Speaker 1: It can't be one person's way or the highway and
Speaker 1: one person is constantly giving, giving, giving, there has to
Speaker 1: be well unless it's, like you know, it can't be
Speaker 1: just that one person's giving, giving, giving, unless it's because
Speaker 1: that person has genuinely come on board and genuinely accepted
Speaker 1: that religion or that culture. Like that's a very different thing.
Speaker 1: But if you're completely mismatched in your views and your ideologies.
Speaker 1: The other really big one, which I think I'm seeing
Speaker 1: more and more now, especially with everything that's come to
Speaker 1: the forefront in the last couple of years, is people
Speaker 1: who are mismatched on their beliefs, like around racism, their
Speaker 1: beliefs around politics. That conversation is becoming way more prevalent,
Speaker 1: and I think back in the day, we could kind
Speaker 1: of disassociate, we could kind of go, oh, yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: I love this person, but sometimes their political views irk
Speaker 1: me a little bit. Think the more and more that
Speaker 1: we're becoming responsible and realizing how much we need to
Speaker 1: be conscious and active with our political views, our partners
Speaker 1: views and beliefs need to reflect that. And there's more
Speaker 1: people who are saying I can't be in a relationship
Speaker 1: with someone.
Speaker 2: Who is bigoted, or who is racist, or who casually
Speaker 2: thinks that these things are okay. It's funny you say that,
Speaker 2: because this year, especially with everything that was happening with
Speaker 2: American politics, everything that was happening with Black Lives Movement,
Speaker 2: I cannot tell you how many messages we got from women.
Speaker 2: And I'm only saying women because we actually didn't get
Speaker 2: any from the men, but so many messages from women
Speaker 2: asking us, saying and wanting us to talk about and
Speaker 2: give advice on. And I just think it's really hard
Speaker 2: to navigate but saying I don't know what to do.
Speaker 2: I love my partner, We've been together a long time,
Speaker 2: but he's started to say some things about the Black
Speaker 2: Lives Movement, or he has started to say some things
Speaker 2: about Donald Trump that I can't get on board with
Speaker 2: and I can't have a conversation with him because he
Speaker 2: won't meet me halfway and he won't budge, and he
Speaker 2: won't listen to anything I say. It's his way of
Speaker 2: the highway. We got so many messages like that, and
Speaker 2: I think, like you said, Laura, you can be with
Speaker 2: someone for a really long time, but now that this
Speaker 2: conversation is so prevalent, you can't avoid the conversations with
Speaker 2: your partners anymore. And I think people are learning a
Speaker 2: lot more about their partners. And I just can't believe
Speaker 2: how many people brought that up, saying I don't think
Speaker 2: I can be with this person anymore. And that's because
Speaker 2: you finally sat down and had the conversation where you
Speaker 2: realize something you really heavily believe in is not aligned
Speaker 2: with your partners, and that can really cause cracks. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: And also like it's one of these things that you
Speaker 1: think about You're like, well, I love you, but is
Speaker 1: this a deal breaker? Like is this how I want
Speaker 1: to live my life? And these the values that I
Speaker 1: want to uphold my life too, And also if we
Speaker 1: do choose to bring children into the world, as these
Speaker 1: are these the sort of values that I want to
Speaker 1: impart on another generation. I do want to say one
Speaker 1: thing to this, and this is going to sound completely unromantic,
Speaker 1: and I there's parts of me that hate saying this
Speaker 1: because you know, I love Matt so much and I
Speaker 1: can't ever imagine my life not with him, you know.
Speaker 1: I'm at that point of my relationship where I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't think I would ever be able to replace
Speaker 1: him if it wasn't my life, Yeah, except with any
Speaker 1: but like a part from that. But the truth is
Speaker 1: love is not scarce, Like it is not something that
Speaker 1: if you break up with someone, you're never going to
Speaker 1: find again your ears, Matt, I know, and it kills
Speaker 1: me to say this, but like I see this because
Speaker 1: I see my mom right, you know, And this is
Speaker 1: something I have never shared before. But like my mom's
Speaker 1: been married three times, right her second marriage. I know
Speaker 1: for a fact that my mom loved my stepdad, probably
Speaker 1: more than she's ever loved anyone, especially at the time,
Speaker 1: you know, like she fought so hard for that relationship
Speaker 1: to work.
Speaker 2: My stepdad was an incredibly.
Speaker 1: Heroin addict, and there was no amount of my mum
Speaker 1: loving him that was going to make him change. He
Speaker 1: didn't change, and that relationship didn't work out, and he
Speaker 1: left her with a three month old baby, which is
Speaker 1: my little brother, and my mum raised three kids on
Speaker 1: her own, you know, And I think it makes me
Speaker 1: almost annoyed this this concept of like, but if you
Speaker 1: love someone so much, they'll do better for you. People
Speaker 1: are fucking selfish, and people choose their own lives, and
Speaker 1: you know, he chose his, and so that's this is
Speaker 1: kind of one of the big reasons why when we
Speaker 1: talked about this topic, I was like, I've seen it,
Speaker 1: I've lived it, and you know what, my mom she
Speaker 1: has moved on. She has an incredible husband now who
Speaker 1: she loves more than anything, and she doesn't just have love,
Speaker 1: she has respect, she has support, she has kindness, she
Speaker 1: has all of the other things that she needs, and
Speaker 1: she's the happiest that she's ever been in her life
Speaker 1: because she's got all the fundamentals to go with the love,
Speaker 1: which is our main point totally. But when we're in it,
Speaker 1: we convince ourself that we're never going to find it again,
Speaker 1: and that's why we stay because there's this fear of, well,
Speaker 1: I'm never going to find someone who I love as
Speaker 1: much as I love this person. So I'm gonna put
Speaker 1: up with all the things that they're doing to me
Speaker 1: because I don't want to be alone or I don't
Speaker 1: want to miss out on this incredibly intense feeling of
Speaker 1: loving someone. But I think you know, love is not
Speaker 1: special in that way and it's not unique, like we
Speaker 1: are manufactured to love again and to feel those experiences again.
Speaker 2: Can I tasket something funny?
Speaker 1: I just poured my fucking heart out to you, and
Speaker 1: I was like, Hey, I had a really traumatic childhood
Speaker 1: and You're like, can I tell you something lols?
Speaker 2: No, because I didn't know if you want me to
Speaker 2: focus too much on that. I was like, no, I mean, like,
Speaker 2: I totally agree with everything you say, and that what
Speaker 2: you just said about your Stepdaud and your mom is
Speaker 2: a prime example that she loved him fiercely and he
Speaker 2: was never going to meet her halfway. He was never
Speaker 2: gonna like it wasn't in his vicinity or in his
Speaker 2: ability or capability to love her back and give her
Speaker 2: what she needed. And it's a prime example of why
Speaker 2: it's not gonna work out. It's so fun you can
Speaker 2: tell me something funny now, I'll take something funny. No,
Speaker 2: it just made me think, like when you were just saying.
Speaker 2: One thing you said triggered me my first I have
Speaker 2: a boyfriend, like you know, when you're like fourteen, literally
Speaker 2: like fourteen, I think we'd kiss. We're together for your
Speaker 2: whole year. We used to write other love letters after
Speaker 2: school every day because you know, we didn't have phones
Speaker 2: and shit. Then, yes, we're old people, but we used
Speaker 2: to literally spend the day one of us write a
Speaker 2: letter to each other and at the end of the
Speaker 2: day would walk each other home, would give each other
Speaker 2: a letter. They would read it that night, they would
Speaker 2: write back. It was beautiful. It was cute love, innocent love.
Speaker 2: He broke up with me after a bit over a year,
Speaker 2: and I remember being I was hysterical. I would I
Speaker 2: lost myself in my room. I couldn't eat and I
Speaker 2: could not still crying to the point and I look
Speaker 2: back now and my mom must have thought it was
Speaker 2: the funniest thing ever. But she was great. She walked
Speaker 2: into my room, she was like trying to be supported.
Speaker 2: She's like, what's wrong? And you broke up with me?
Speaker 2: You know how you can't talk, can't talk? You know
Speaker 2: when you can't talk right. Everyone knows that young kid
Speaker 2: doesn't love me anyway. I was like, he broke up
Speaker 2: with me, blah blah, and Mom. I remember Mom saying,
Speaker 2: you will find someone else, Like I mean, she's talking
Speaker 2: to a fourteen year old daughter. Of course she's gonna
Speaker 2: be like bless herself. She's like, you will find someone else,
Speaker 2: you will love someone else. And I was like, I
Speaker 2: remember looking at her. I was disgusted that she would
Speaker 2: tell me I would love someone else. And I was like,
Speaker 2: I will never find someone that will love me like
Speaker 2: he did, and I will never love someone like I
Speaker 2: loved him. I was fourteen. I look back now and
Speaker 2: I'm like, what was I thinking? But you wholeheartedly get
Speaker 2: stuck in these situations where you genuinely believe there's no
Speaker 2: other love out there for you and you have to
Speaker 2: make this one relationship work because you know who else
Speaker 2: is going to love me.
Speaker 1: But I don't think that that changes from being fourteen
Speaker 1: or twenty six or thirty three or whatever.
Speaker 2: I know I've gone way and I don't cry like
Speaker 2: that ever. Really shitty breakup feels like that, you know.
Speaker 2: And I think back when I was twenty five, when
Speaker 2: I broke up with this guy who had been with
Speaker 2: for six years. Eventually and it was over over, And
Speaker 2: I remember calling my mum as well and being so
Speaker 2: hysterical and like not being he look free, and my
Speaker 2: mum used herself as an example, and she was like,
Speaker 2: I promise you you will because look at me. And
Speaker 2: that's I guess that's always stuck with me, you know.
Speaker 2: And like that's not to say that breakups are not hard,
Speaker 2: And that's not to say that every single breakup I've
Speaker 2: had where I've been completely in love with the person
Speaker 2: and then been blindsided by the breakup, was it still
Speaker 2: equal is hard, But I guess there's been this little
Speaker 2: part of me that's gone. I am strong enough to
Speaker 2: get over this, Like I am strong enough and I
Speaker 2: know that I'm worthy of meeting someone who respects me
Speaker 2: as well as loves me. I just wanted to add
Speaker 2: this one thing, which is from the article that I
Speaker 2: read for you guys at the very beginning, and it
Speaker 2: kind of like reaffirms this whole idea about love not
Speaker 2: being as scarce and as rare as we make it
Speaker 2: out to be. And what it says is you can
Speaker 2: fall in love when you're young, and you can fall
Speaker 2: in love when you're old. Love is not necessarily unique,
Speaker 2: but your self respect is, and so is your dignity,
Speaker 2: so is your ability to trust. There can potentially be
Speaker 2: many loves throughout your life, but once you lose your
Speaker 2: self respect, your dignity, or your ability to trust, they
Speaker 2: are very hard things to get back, Microp this one
Speaker 2: is one like I have done this in a relationship.
Speaker 2: I know a lot of people have done this, Laura,
Speaker 2: I know you have done this. And as long distance
Speaker 2: long distance is great, short term long distance is something
Speaker 2: you really really need to consider. Long term is something that,
Speaker 2: of course it can work. Of course you can have
Speaker 2: a successful long distance relationship, but I don't think I
Speaker 2: think it takes two very very special, particular people to
Speaker 2: do it successfully long long term.
Speaker 1: And I also think that with long term relationships you
Speaker 1: need to have an end goal, Like it can't be
Speaker 1: n you can't just be in this ambiguous purgatory for
Speaker 1: like several years. We're just hoping that one day your
Speaker 1: lives will align. I think that that's what makes long
Speaker 1: distance really really difficult. But having like the next time
Speaker 1: that you're going to see each other, the next time
Speaker 1: you're going to be together, the next time that you're
Speaker 1: actually going to live together and be in the same
Speaker 1: country or place or whatever. You have to be working
Speaker 1: towards a common goal and that's what makes long distance achievable.
Speaker 1: But it's the not knowing and then that kind of
Speaker 1: leads into lack of trust that makes people feel super insecure.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think we've just come up with another
Speaker 1: podcast topic, which is long distance relationships.
Speaker 2: We'll be meaning to talk about that for a long time. Actually,
Speaker 2: we will get to it. We've got so many to
Speaker 2: get to.
Speaker 1: But also it was a hard one, especially over COVID,
Speaker 1: because you know, a lot of people were forced into
Speaker 1: long distance relationships, and we didn't want to come into
Speaker 1: it being or doom and gloom because this year has
Speaker 1: been and last years been a very unique year where
Speaker 1: long distance has been something that's been challenging for a
Speaker 1: lot of people, but it's been absolutely necessary for a
Speaker 1: lot of people.
Speaker 2: The last thing I want to say before we sort
Speaker 2: of wrap this up is sacrifices. I think you need
Speaker 2: to think of your relationship right now. Are you both
Speaker 2: committed to a relationship, are you both meet each other halfway?
Speaker 2: You both making sacrifices for each other? Because sacrifices are
Speaker 2: inevitable in a relationship. There is always one hundred percent
Speaker 2: going to be someone that has to give something up
Speaker 2: at some time or has to do something they don't
Speaker 2: want to do to please their partner at some time.
Speaker 2: But it's super important that is reciprocated. If it is
Speaker 2: one sided the whole relationship, and you constantly are finding
Speaker 2: yourself the one that has to give up your dreams,
Speaker 2: change your journey, change your path, do something for them,
Speaker 2: and they're not giving you anything back. That's another really
Speaker 2: really big red flag that maybe this relationship isn't the
Speaker 2: right thing for you. So, in conclusion, guys, love ain't enough.
Speaker 1: Love is not freaking enough, and like we need to
Speaker 1: stop kidding ourselves and stop romanticize it and stop trying
Speaker 1: to convince ourselves that we can put up with something
Speaker 1: that's not good enough for us or subpar, because oh
Speaker 1: my god, we're so in love. You deserve better, You
Speaker 1: deserve all the other things that go with a relationship,
Speaker 1: and only you can hold that standard for yourself.
Speaker 2: And guys, we love love. You know that that's our tagline,
Speaker 2: Like we right love love. We're not right in love, off,
Speaker 2: we just know that love has blood doesn't come on
Speaker 2: its own. You have to have a little side salad
Speaker 2: with your love. You can't order it by itself. Okay, guys,
Speaker 2: you know that we don't end an episode ever without
Speaker 2: our sucking. Our suite, our highlights and our low lights
Speaker 2: are the best and the worst part of our week.
Speaker 2: You want me to go first, or do you want
Speaker 2: to go first? You can go first? Great love that Okay,
Speaker 2: my suck and my suck. Actually, my suck happened last night.
Speaker 2: I had a really boring weekend, guys. I didn't really
Speaker 2: do much. I've had this migraine for like ten days,
Speaker 2: so I've been a bit moping around in all my
Speaker 2: spare time. I had heaps of work to get through
Speaker 2: for Life Uncut that I had ignored for a few days.
Speaker 2: So I was like, Okay, I'm just gonna use my
Speaker 2: Friday night to sit at home and just smack shrew
Speaker 2: some emals. I got really really hungry, and it was raining,
Speaker 2: so I was and because I'm about to go away
Speaker 2: on vacation when Laura has a baby, I'm gonna go away.
Speaker 2: I haven't bought any food. You know, when you're like
Speaker 2: trying to wean out your cupboards and stuff when you
Speaker 2: know you're going away, so there's no food in your house. Yeah,
Speaker 2: So this is what my suck is. I was darving.
Speaker 2: I was like, great, I'm gonna order Uber Eats. I
Speaker 2: went on Ubeats. There was not one delivery driver anywhere
Speaker 2: in Vicinity that would deliver because it was raining. So
Speaker 2: I went on delivery. I want every single food app
Speaker 2: to deliver me food and there wasn't one. It was
Speaker 2: pouring with rain. I had a migraine and I was working.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not going out to get food.
Speaker 2: Let me see what I've got in my cupboard. I
Speaker 2: had half a piece of like Semistale bread, but I
Speaker 2: toasted it so delicious. You know when you toasted those,
Speaker 2: so it goes like it's fucking perfect. It's like it's
Speaker 2: another three days in it. It was like uni days.
Speaker 2: You know. It's like a best before, it's a guide.
Speaker 2: It works for everything except for like meat. And then
Speaker 2: I had a cup of tea and that was it,
Speaker 2: and that was my suck. My suck was literally as
Speaker 2: bad as the fact that I had to go to
Speaker 2: bed hungry because I couldn't be bothered to go out
Speaker 2: and buy myself.
Speaker 1: That is actually really mis rule though, Like I mean,
Speaker 1: it's not the worst of the sucks that we could
Speaker 1: have brought to the table, but it's a bit miserable.
Speaker 2: No, But it's like I mean, I guess the other
Speaker 2: suck in conjunction with that is the fact that I
Speaker 2: have had this migraine. I'm a migroine suffer. Oh look,
Speaker 2: I've got that little thing in my ear. Put in
Speaker 2: my ear, it's supposed to help with migraines. When you
Speaker 2: feel that your headache is coming on, You're supposed to
Speaker 2: squeeze it really tight. And I had a lot of
Speaker 2: questions about it some my Instagram. Actually I will do
Speaker 2: an update on the Instagram. I'm just letting you know.
Speaker 2: Now I'm squeeze it now. It's really painful, basically what
Speaker 2: BRIT's talking about, because she didn't really explain that she
Speaker 2: has like an acupuncture thing put in her ear. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So it's an accupature pressure point and it's like a
Speaker 1: little metal ball that you can kind of do the
Speaker 1: acupuncture to yourself, isn't it pretty much?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So I've like I've always had headaches my whole life.
Speaker 2: I've suffered them but they never stay around this long.
Speaker 2: This has been well, this will be day eleven, now
Speaker 2: eleven days, and every couple of days it gets really
Speaker 2: bad where you get anyone that's migraine suffer knows you're
Speaker 2: in bed, you're nauseous, the pain is excruciating. So every
Speaker 2: couple of days it does that, and then it just
Speaker 2: goes back to like a throbbing headache. So you can
Speaker 2: manage life with it, for sure when it's just the
Speaker 2: throb but not when it's the migraine. So I'm going
Speaker 2: to trial this accupuncture thing. Follow me on Instagram if
Speaker 2: you want to know more. I'll update in a couple
Speaker 2: of days. My suite is that, lad, You just put
Speaker 2: an Instagram pitch in there? Following me on Instagram?
Speaker 1: Mean, actually it's pretty underscore, hardly just fallowing in Instagram.
Speaker 2: I actually do mean like that, but whatever see on
Speaker 2: my page. My sweet is the fact that and this
Speaker 2: is not anything against you, guys, there's nothing against Laura.
Speaker 2: But the fact that Laura is having a baby in
Speaker 2: like three days time means that we are going on
Speaker 2: break and I get a few weeks off. I Am
Speaker 2: going to go away for a few weeks and I'm
Speaker 2: just really looking forward to getting life back on track
Speaker 2: a little bit. I'm actually going to miss you guys terribly.
Speaker 2: And I'm not just saying that, but we actually love
Speaker 2: doing this record. We love bringing this every week. But
Speaker 2: I feel like it'll be really nice. I was about
Speaker 2: to say it's gonna be nice for us to rejuvenate.
Speaker 2: You're not gonna be a rejuvenating but I hope I'm
Speaker 2: going to be. I love that.
Speaker 1: Yes, look I'm so. I'm actually like, there's a part
Speaker 1: of me that's looking forward to having the weeks off,
Speaker 1: but I'm also like a little bit sad because I
Speaker 1: love doing this. I also like, I'm gonna miss you guys.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna miss like my weekly little download now community.
Speaker 1: And I mean, obviously we'll still be on Instagram, will
Speaker 1: still be on Facebook, but it won't be the same
Speaker 1: without having our weekly episode. And someone actually wrote me
Speaker 1: a message the other day and they were like, is
Speaker 1: it rational that I feel really angry and betrayed that
Speaker 1: you and Brittany you're having three weeks off? And I
Speaker 1: was like, yes, yes, that's totally fine. I totally accept that.
Speaker 1: I also love us, love us, okay, and be there
Speaker 1: I will let you know when we're coming back, like,
Speaker 1: be there.
Speaker 2: It's a short break. It's a short break. It's like nothing.
Speaker 2: It's like nothing's changed at all, So there'll be a
Speaker 2: whole new human in the world. Don't go anywhere else. Yeah,
Speaker 2: don't don't leave us for another podcast.
Speaker 1: Okay, So my suck is and I think that every
Speaker 1: single person who's ever had a baby.
Speaker 2: Will relate to this. Every single weird.
Speaker 1: Ache or pain or like pressure or more gas, every
Speaker 1: thing that's just not quite normal in my body. I'm like,
Speaker 1: is this labor? Is this labor?
Speaker 2: Am I own labor? Now? Baby coming? My water broker?
Speaker 2: Am I waiting myself? Literally?
Speaker 1: I sneezed in bed the other day and I was like,
Speaker 1: well I just pissed me myself, but did my water
Speaker 1: break as well? Like which one is it? So that
Speaker 1: is like, it's weird not knowing. I know that that's
Speaker 1: a stupid thing to say, and I know that when
Speaker 1: labor actually starts, trust me or all about it.
Speaker 2: But I well, you're anxious, You're waiting for it to
Speaker 2: happen now, like you don't know, it could be any day.
Speaker 2: So I think that's that's normal to get a feeling
Speaker 2: and be like, oh is it time? Well, and it's
Speaker 2: kind of like waiting for Christmas.
Speaker 1: Like it's kind of like waiting for Christmas, except imagine
Speaker 1: if Christmas kept moving like the goalpost they were like,
Speaker 1: Christmas is coming, but we can't tell you.
Speaker 2: When it's like me waiting for a boyfriend. It's exactly
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 1: Okay, And my sweet for the week is My sweet
Speaker 1: for the week is that we at work so at
Speaker 1: Tony May. We did a massive campaign for our new
Speaker 1: collection which is coming out, and I finally got all
Speaker 1: the images for that back, which I'm so excited about,
Speaker 1: Like we haven't sane. I'm so proud. It's always like
Speaker 1: really nerve wracking putting together a new collection, putting together
Speaker 1: the designs and then putting together the whole photo shoot
Speaker 1: and everything else. And when kind of sit back and
Speaker 1: all that's been done and you can actually look at
Speaker 1: a collection as a whole and see it all come together,
Speaker 1: I'm always really really critical of myself, and I think
Speaker 1: that's like very much a creative thing where you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's not it's not very good. I don't know if
Speaker 1: anyone's gonna buy this. And when I saw the images today.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I'm so happy. It was so
Speaker 2: amazing and it's actually it's actually insane. I'm not just
Speaker 2: saying this. It's definitely your best collection yet. It was beautiful.
Speaker 2: I put my order in. Don't forget it. It doesn't
Speaker 2: come out until March, so look it's not for ages,
Speaker 2: but mine comes out earlier. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll cook
Speaker 2: you up.
Speaker 1: But just being able to see it all come together,
Speaker 1: and like, I feel really proud that we kind of
Speaker 1: got to the finish line before the baby's juice.
Speaker 2: So that's that's a big thing. You really pushing the
Speaker 2: boundaries there, just like a couple of days before birth.
Speaker 2: Thriving chaos guys. But yeah, so that is it.
Speaker 1: From us, guys, and you know that the next time
Speaker 1: we see you, I promise there'll be no more pregnancy chat.
Speaker 1: There will only be birthing stories and.
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