WEBVTT - LOVE AIN'T ENOUGH PEOPLE 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:22.280 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Live Uncut. 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:26.360 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and this, guys, is our 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:30.400 last episode. We're breaking up. Don't be dramatic. It's over. 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:32.880 We're having a break, even though we don't believe in breaks. Really, 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:34.960 we have done an episode on it. Look it was 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:38.280 a good run. But you know, sometimes people drift apart. 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:40.600 All good things must come to an end temporarily. 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:43.120 Yes, Look, we're having We're having a couple of weeks 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:47.160 off because I'm having a baby. But also I'm pretty 0:00:47.200 --> 0:00:49.040 sure by the time this episode comes out, I'm going 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:50.080 to have had a baby. 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:52.400 Okay, so we're recording right now. What day the week 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:52.640 is it? 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:56.000 Today is Saturday, So it's nine pm on a Saturday. 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:57.440 Actual night. The US have a life. 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:00.000 Brick came over at six point thirty and we were 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:03.200 going to start recording this episode and we didn't quite 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:04.480 get there until now. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:05.840 It's a story of my life. We sat down and 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:07.479 we had a yarm, we got some takeaway. We actually 0:01:07.480 --> 0:01:08.759 had a really great night, and then we're like, oh 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:10.960 my god, we have to record the podcast. Fucking work 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:14.680 to do. No, it's really exciting. It is our last 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.319 episode for a couple of weeks. We are taking a short, 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:21.000 little intermission while Laura has a baby, which I think 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:23.520 you guys hopefully expect. There's no way Laura can pump 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:25.080 a baby out and then get back on the pod. 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:27.120 I'm going to go away for a little bit. Laura's 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.440 going to have some really nice bonding time with her family, 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:31.280 and apparently I'm not a part of that, so I 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:31.920 had to get out. 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:34.160 It's only a couple of weeks, and we will keep 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:36.160 you guys updated if you want to jump on Instagram 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:36.560 as well. 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:38.039 Life Uncut Podcast. 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:40.800 Look, we're thinking three weeks, maybe four weeks max, but 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:42.479 we're just going to feel it out over the next 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:43.000 couple of. 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:45.679 I'm actually pushing for four weeks purely because I know 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:48.040 Laura's a workaholic and I think she needs that little 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:50.120 bit of time. But let's just see what happens, and 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:55.440 Brinnie wants a holiday. Let's I'm just being altruistic or realistic, well, 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:56.920 a bit of a bit of baby really, all of 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:59.320 the abot. The other reason this is an exciting episode, guys, 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:00.880 is I just I feel like it's been a little 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:04.120 while since it's just Laura and myself in here having 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:07.320 a chat. This is like old school og life on cut. 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:09.480 We've had a lot of back to back interviews lately, which, 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:12.240 mind you, we actually really love. I have been loving 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:14.560 talking to new people and learning new things and getting 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:17.120 new perspectives on things, and also just having someone else 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:18.760 to talk to you other than Laura, even though I 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:20.760 love her. But it's really nice to get back to 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:22.840 basics and get back to where we begun. 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:25.640 So what we're going to be talking about in today's episode, 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.840 give you a little teaser just to wet your appetite 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:29.800 and keep your hanging on. We're talking about something that 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:32.120 I've actually been really excited to do this episode for 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:35.920 quite a long time. And the conversation is around is 0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:37.720 love enough in a relationship? 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:39.240 Is it enough? And we're going to. 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.239 Unpack that, but not yet, so hold on to your nickers, 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:45.440 ladies and gentlemen. Firstly, Okay, before we get into the episode, 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:47.600 I want to give a couple of recommendations because I 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.720 have been spending a lot of time on the couch 0:02:50.000 --> 0:02:51.760 and a lot of time in front of the TV 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:52.639 in the past week. 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:56.080 So you've been binge watching some shows. Yes, what you've 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:57.280 been watching, So I have. 0:02:57.280 --> 0:03:02.600 To for anybody who is die hard true crime documentary. 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:05.359 If that's up your alley and that's getting you really excited, 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:07.920 then I want to recommend on Netflix there's a series 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:11.520 called The Nightstalker and it's all about an LA based 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:13.920 serial killer from like the early nineteen eighties. 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.480 It's so good. I feel like I would love that. 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:18.800 I am a true crime junkie. I don't know if 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:20.840 we actually speak about that a lot on the podcast. Well, 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:23.480 this isn't a true crime podcast, okay, So something about 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:25.480 me that you guys might not know, I'm going to 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.720 share it with you. I am a true crime junkie, 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:30.840 like through and through. I have listened to I reckon 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:35.920 eight hundred episodes plus of true crime, every podcast out there, 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:38.200 all the top podcasts. I'm obsessed with it. I used 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:40.400 to want to be a detective, that I wanted to 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:42.520 be a criminal psychologist, and I want to do anything 0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:44.640 within true crime. I just loved it. So I think 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:46.720 I'm gonna love this show. I like that insight into you. 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:48.640 I didn't know. Yeah, thanks, I thought that you were 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:51.080 all just about relationship podcasts. If we did that, how 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:52.720 well do you know Brittany because which I had to 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:54.160 do for you a few weeks back. We had to 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:56.200 do it, Brittany, how well do you know Laura tests 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:57.760 which she sprung on me. I didn't even have time 0:03:57.760 --> 0:03:59.520 to research it, and I actually still did really well. 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:01.320 I won. If you had to do that on me, 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:03.560 I don't reckon you'd win. I would win. I know 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:06.119 your middle name. It's Mayo. Okay, everyone knows. 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:09.560 Now, there you go anyway. Okay, So Night's Talker. Night 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.240 Stalker is my number one recommendation. 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.240 It is very full on, not for the faint hearted, 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.799 and it'll make you pretty squeamish. But it's about this 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:21.920 very prolific serial killer that was rocking around La. And 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.320 the thing that makes this series really unique is, like 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:27.120 anyone who's into serial killer documentaries, you would know that 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:30.120 usually they can profile them, like usually there's a type, 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:34.000 and it might be that the serial killer goes after prostitutes, 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:35.880 or they go after women of a certain age, or 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:39.280 they go after men of a certain you know whatever, ethnicity, 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:43.360 but there is the pattern. There was no pattern to this. 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:46.120 This guy was breaking into houses and killing old people, 0:04:46.240 --> 0:04:48.760 young people. There is so much going on in this 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:53.080 it's definitely pretty dark and yeah, massive trigger warning to 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.200 anybody who doesn't like true crime stuff. But for those 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:58.839 of you who do, that's my number one recommendation. My 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:01.880 number two, which I've just binge watched five episodes in 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:05.880 the last day, is the undoing on Binge with Nicole 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.039 Kidman and Hugh Grant. I have not even heard of that. 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:10.720 Oh that's a weird combination. Neither of them. 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:13.719 As actors do I particularly like normally? Is that that's going 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:15.359 to be someone's going to come back and hate me 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:16.880 for that. Don't slide into the dms. 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:20.520 Definitely controversial. I think they're both brilliant in their own way. 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:22.400 But I do love I have a crush on Hugh 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:24.240 Grant because he's always in like notting Hill and those 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:26.520 romantic comedies and when you're you're a young teenager, he 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:29.120 was like the heart throb. He had the accent, he 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:30.880 dressed well, he was just goals. 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.360 I think notting Hill is probably the one exception, maybe 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:35.719 because he was always that cliche heart throat that I 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:38.599 was like, Nah, I see through this clever rouge and 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:40.720 it is about a kind of who done it murder mystery. 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:42.440 I mean, I'm only up to episode five so I'm 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:45.000 not sure yet, but I feel like he's this really 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:49.440 suave narcissist. But I don't know whether he is capable 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:51.479 of committing murder or maybe Nicole Kimmen did it. 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:53.720 I really don't know. I actually want to watch both 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:55.920 of them. They're right up my alley perfect. So I'm 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:59.120 going to bring in my own recommendations. My recommendations are now, guys, 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.800 these are not hot tape. But I was just slow 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:04.360 to the party. The Queen's Gambit, Oh, it's so good. 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:06.560 It was. I finally got there. You know, when you 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:09.320 hear about something, you've seen it everywhere. Everyone who's anyone 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:11.120 is talking about it, and I was like, I'll get 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:12.640 to it one day. I was like, it can't be 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:14.840 that good. It's about a game of chess. Finally got 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:18.200 to it, and I am obsessed. It's insane. I don't 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:21.520 know how they have made a show that is literally 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:23.920 it doesn't have a lot of dialogue. It's about chess. 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:25.880 I'm on the edge of my seat the whole time, 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:28.440 and nothing's even happening in it except like they're making 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:31.159 these chess moves. And I was like, this is brilliant cinematography. 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:32.960 Brilliant acting, brilliant writing. 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:35.120 The thing with Queen's Gambit, though, that I felt like 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:38.000 Marley robbed about, is that when I started watching it, 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.720 I thought it must have been based loosely around a 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:42.600 true story, Like I thought there must have been some 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.760 sort of reality to it. And then obviously I got 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:48.200 on Google it's completely fictional, and I was like, oh, 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:49.120 I feel robbed. 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:50.799 I feel like this should have been a true story. 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.880 I want some poor orphan girl to become a chess 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:56.760 icon and that I was like hoping that that was 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:58.520 going to be the outcome, but it definitely wasn't. 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:00.800 Anyway, Okay, the other one's not a hot take either. 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:04.520 You're gonna be like, it's really great. I watched it 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:11.280 back in nineteen ninety five. It's Titanic, No, but it's Bridgitton. 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:14.200 Have you watched Bridgeton? I haven't started. But do you 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:17.000 know what in the Facebook group, there've hundreds of people 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.560 who have been like, you need to get on it. 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:20.960 Okay, So this is my problem with Bridgeton. I do 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.000 have a problem. I'm not obsessed with it, but I 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:26.160 can't stop watching it. It's got just the right amount 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:29.160 that you're like, I need to know what happens next, 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.160 but you don't go to bed thinking about it. It's 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:34.040 the innocence. She doesn't know how a baby's made, she 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:36.320 doesn't know what sex is, she doesn't know what masturbation is, 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:39.040 and it's very sexual. She ends up learning about masturbation 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:41.600 and she does things like that. So there's this sexual 0:07:41.680 --> 0:07:44.800 tension that is constantly building. The other thing is the 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:49.200 main character. The man is hot as fuck, like so 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:51.040 he's like a hot tmili. He's so spicy if you 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.640 guys haven't seen him, he's a dream boat. So this 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:55.800 is definitely a series that you don't watch with your dad. 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:58.640 Don't watch it with your boyfriends either, unless you fast 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:01.560 forward to the sex. But they will hate the show 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:02.760 like it is not a man's show. 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:04.800 Okay, so on last episode, you guys know that I 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:06.840 missed out in the ask gun cut, still feeling dirty 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:09.080 about It's still sad that, like Britain, Matt had so 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:09.680 much fun with it. 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:11.800 Actually had so much fun, and not that it was 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:13.640 like without you, but we did have a great time. 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:15.760 I was on the bed, I was watching that sounded 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:19.200 really weird. I talked about how weird my hands were. 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:21.800 I was in the bedroom watching the two of you record, 0:08:21.920 --> 0:08:24.480 and it took every inch of my self control to 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:26.440 not jump onto one of the microphones. But what I 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.720 was gonna say is that in that last episode ask Guncut, 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:33.520 you guys talked about jackhammering as a conversation, like why 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:37.319 is it that men feel like it's okay to go 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:39.840 straight to Poundtown and not do any of the warm up? 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:41.880 And like is that a normal thing? Does it feel good? 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:44.480 So somebody actually messaged about Bridgeton and they were like, 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:46.720 have you not noticed that he just goes to Poundtown? 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:49.400 Oh? Yeah, he does nothing for her. He's just a jackhammer. 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:50.680 He's quite a selfish lover. 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:54.160 Well, he's perpetuating the stereotypes and I'm not here for it. 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:56.600 But I wonder if I mean, I wonder if back 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:59.320 then they knew about that stuff and they experimented like that. 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:02.600 I don't know, but he definitely, I think the most 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:07.760 he does. I think like he fingered it once. Speaking 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:11.240 of being fingered, I just I'm handing this to you 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:13.240 on a platt. This is a great segue speaking of 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:14.240 being fingered, guys. 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:19.319 I had a really great experience yesterday for anybody who 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:22.439 is pregnant or who has had a baby. If you're pregnant, 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.160 you're probably and you know, not a full term. You 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:26.280 may not have got there yet, but it's coming. I 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:28.880 went saw my obstetrition yesterday and I got a stretch 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:30.880 and sweep. Now, a stretch and. 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:32.600 Sweep I like to call it the sweep and finger 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:35.720 yesta is what it feels like. So a stretch and 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:39.600 sweep is where your obstitution or a midwife will put 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:44.280 their fingers up inside you and try and stretch the 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:47.840 membranes of your uterus and they sweep their fingers. Basically, 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:51.840 they're sweeping their fingers over the sack that holds the baby. 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:54.800 And what that does is like it it creates this hormone, 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:56.920 and the hormone release is to help to try and 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:58.960 put you into labor. Like there is science behind it, 0:09:59.040 --> 0:09:59.760 there is, But. 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.480 It is like getting the most aggressive fingering of your 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:03.280 entire life. 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:04.920 It is just fancy word for fingering. 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:07.720 And I have been fingered twice now by a man 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:09.319 who I've only met several times. 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:13.160 I paid him nine thousand dollars to do it. You 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:15.520 are living, girl, You are living. That was like did 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:17.640 he make eye contact with you? And he did this. 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:19.880 This is fine, let's go go into those details. No. 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:22.080 But I think this is really interesting because for someone 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:24.480 that hasn't had a child, or if you don't know 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:26.199 about that, or you're not close with anyone that has 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:28.320 had a baby, like I'm not close to a lot 0:10:28.360 --> 0:10:29.840 of people that have had kids. I work in the 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:31.680 medical industry, and I still didn't know you had to 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:33.240 go and get fingered before you get better. 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:35.680 You don't have to look, it's an elective thing. Basically, 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:37.840 if you want to try and induce labor, it's because 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:40.800 I'm booked in for an induction. So to try and 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.679 get things going and not have to go down the 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:44.960 route of having a medical induction, which is when they'll 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:47.520 hook you up to hormones, they can try a stretching suite, 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:48.600 which works for some women. 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.880 I think it works for like one in seven women 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.600 or something. So seen as though, this is the last 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:56.559 time we will all be hearing from you before you 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:58.960 have another child, which is really exciting. I feel like 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:00.800 you and I have sort of just like swept it 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:02.640 under the table, you're having a baby, like it's always 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:04.400 like it's not happening. No, I feel like we talk 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.600 about it on every single thing. We don't think about 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:08.240 what it means. Like we talk about it, but I 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:10.240 don't think that in a week when I come back 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:13.200 from vac there's going to be like an infant here. 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:15.840 Yeah, there's gonna be another human in that pile of 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:17.840 washing right there. I'm gonna put it in the drawer. 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:20.120 We still don't have anything organized, We still don't have 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:22.600 a name, We still haven't bought it any clothes. This 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:25.520 is how middle child or like second child syndrome starts. 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:27.600 Marley had everything set up, and I've had so many 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:30.199 people messed with me on Instagram being like, hey, sure 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:33.360 us a picture of the nursery, and I was like, nursery. 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:35.520 Right, mate, just sleeping under the podcast desk leaves in 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.640 the bedroom, ridiculous summertime. All the kid needs is a 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:41.679 nappy and a boob, Like it's fine, no, But because 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:43.360 it is the last time that we will be speaking 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:45.240 to you, do you get nervous about Like do you 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.840 get anxious thinking about what your body is about to do? 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:51.440 Thanks reminding me about, Hey, that's what I'm here for. Okay, 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:52.080 we're going there. 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:56.720 I feel less nervous about birth this time round than 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:58.720 what I think I did last time. Last time, I 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:00.679 was nervous, but I did know what I was in for, 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:02.640 so I kind of didn't dwell on it too much. 0:12:03.040 --> 0:12:05.920 And this time, I know what I'm in for, and 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:07.679 I know that I'm gonna have an epidural. I'm not 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:09.839 even going to try and tell myself, oh, we'll try 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:11.800 and do it natural. Like I went down that train 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:14.720 of thought last time with Mali, and I am not 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:15.640 strong enough. 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.800 People, so I have. Literally I'm like, I don't worry. 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:20.800 I've shaved my back. No, I haven't, really, I don't 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:22.720 need to, but I'm feeling very hairy at the moment. Guys. 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.160 I'm like, my back is prepped. Stick that needle in. 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:27.400 I've already got an alcohol swab, I've wiped it all down. 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:29.840 Just get the epidural in me. So go back up 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:35.000 into the room we are, so, I think, because I 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:39.320 know that I have the pain medication to lean back into. Literally, 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:41.560 I feel less anxious about it. Do you know what 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:43.120 the one thing, the one thing that I think I'm 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:45.720 the most fearful of, it's not about having a baby, 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:48.400 it's not about giving birth. The thing that I'm most 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:50.880 fearful of is going from having one kid to two 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:54.440 kids and my patience levels. My biggest fear is that 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:58.320 I won't be able to tap into this unlimited wealth 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:00.560 and source of patience that every one kind of. 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:02.520 You know, you find this new patience when. 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:04.320 You become a mum, And I'm like, well, maybe I 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:06.680 won't find it, and maybe I will be impatient with 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:09.360 my two children because it's a lot to manage and 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:11.400 a lot to juggle, and so like sometimes when Marley 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:14.400 has like a full temper tantrum, a meltdown, I'm like, 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:17.280 how the fuck am I gonna do this with a 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:21.000 second one. I feel like everyone has this feeling, though, 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:22.920 and you just do it because you don't have a choice. 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:24.560 And there are gonna be times where you have no 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:26.520 patience and you probably will have to just walk away 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:27.040 and take. 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:29.760 Five minutes time out. But that's fine. Everyone does that. 0:13:29.960 --> 0:13:31.280 God my mom used to lock us off in a 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:35.160 laundry for hours. She had four under six. I was like, ma, way, 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:39.240 she's like Mom's gone home, Mom is not here, she's unsubscribed, filding, 0:13:39.720 --> 0:13:42.240 Mommy's canceled. And not that I think I'm an impatient 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:45.760 person by any means, but I definitely was very independent 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.560 before having Maley, and then I found this source of 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.640 patience when I had her that I didn't know I had. 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:54.400 Sometimes she really really tests that as a toddler to 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.920 the limits where I'm like, I love you, but I 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:58.920 do not like you right now, And then I think, 0:13:58.920 --> 0:14:01.040 how am I going to do that plus also have 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:03.760 a newborn, plus have little sleep? Like that is my 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:06.040 biggest fear at the moment, and I think, I'm sure 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:07.680 there's gonna be loads of mums out there who have 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:10.320 experienced the same thing and worry about the same thing. 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:13.720 But that makes me way more anxious than the birth. Well, 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:16.319 because that's forever the birth. The birth has an end 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:19.320 like birth the two kids grind in Tensen, you you know, 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:21.240 that's a that's a beginnings you've got there. 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:23.080 I just want to say a massive, massive thank you 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:26.120 to everybody who has sent really wonderful and supportive messages 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:26.920 over the last couple. 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:27.560 Of weeks and months. 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.320 And I love this community that we're building, and I 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:32.960 love how amazingly supportive you've all been, so like, I'm 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:34.920 really really grateful for that as well. Thank you for your 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:35.640 patience with me. 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:39.840 Let's talk about me. It's definitely time. I want to 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:42.720 tell you, and I can't believe they said that, Oh, 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:44.880 we haven't had that segment for a little while, bring 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:46.760 it back. We haven't, but I'm bringing it back, and 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:48.520 I'm bringing it back with a personal one. So this 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:50.800 happened to me this week and I was in hysterics. 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:53.760 I was dead. Rip me. It's the last thing you 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:56.120 ever want to hear. But it was so innocent that 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:58.720 you can't help but love it. I've been seeing this guy. 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:01.040 We all know. We all know Britney's got a boyfriend. 0:15:01.120 --> 0:15:03.440 I've just been seeing this guy and I was laying 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:05.360 on the lounge and I had little deadim shorts on. 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:07.840 Wait are we calling him your boyfriend now? Is that? 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:08.040 Like? 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:13.160 Are we allowed to say that? I feel weird about 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:15.200 what do I do with my head? Hasn't come out 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:17.720 of my math a long time. I feel like, essentially 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:19.320 we're almost there. 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:23.040 Okay, it's my boyfriend, my friend. 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.320 So I'm laying on the lounge on my back, chilling 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:29.440 out little deadim shorts on single top. It's summer. He 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:31.200 comes and stands over the top of me and he's 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:33.360 just talking to me. We're just having a conversation, you know, 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.960 like I was reading a book. He's so lovely, and 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:39.440 he's like tickling my leg and then with the most 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:43.840 concerned look on his face, he says, babe, what's that? 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:48.320 And I was like what huh. He's like that that scar? 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:50.520 What happened to you? And I was like where? And 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:52.120 he's like there and he pointed to the inside my 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:54.520 leg and I was like, I was like sorry, and 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:56.880 he's like, what happened? Did something bad happen to you? 0:15:57.000 --> 0:16:01.480 And I looked down and I was like, you mean 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:06.720 this stretch mark? I was like, you're like, puberty happened 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:09.240 to me? Pal. I was like, that's a stretch mark. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:12.120 He's like, oh, it doesn't look like it. I was like, no, 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:14.360 you see how there's heaps of other ones next to it. 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:16.760 They're allso stretch marks. He's like, I thought it was 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:19.400 a scar. I was like, it is a scar. It's not. 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:22.160 No one has stabbed me in the leg. I was like, also, 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:24.640 this is cute, but this is the last thing that 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:26.520 any woman wants to hear is you come and point 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:28.520 out her stretch marks on her body. He's like, I'm 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:29.000 so sorry. 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:31.320 Stretch marks are great. I actually think stretch marks are 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:34.160 so underrated. I think stretch marks look sexy. I'm like, 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:35.280 not against them at all. 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:36.920 I just thought it was the most There was so 0:16:37.040 --> 0:16:39.840 much innocence in it, and he was so concerned about 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:41.800 this everythic thing that happened to me, like I gotta 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:45.880 stabbed myself on like some tree in some accident. But 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:49.200 it reminded me, and I said this story. I think 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:51.120 when the podcast started a year. 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:53.240 Ago, let's hope that we've got a few more listeners, 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:55.080 but people don't remember it. 0:16:55.080 --> 0:16:57.120